What happens when your partner hasn't just cheated once, but multiple times? If you're dealing with serial infidelities, I know you're asking yourself some really painful questions: "What's wrong with me?" "Why do they keep cheating on me?" "Was any part of our relationship even real?" And here's the thing - after decades of working with thousands of couples, I have some answers that might surprise you. In this episode, you'll discover: Why multiple infidelities are never about you, the betrayed...
Sep 01, 2025•13 min•Ep. 247
Have you ever noticed how your partner can turn you into a defensive teenager faster than anyone else on the planet? Hi everybody, this is Todd Creager. Picture this: You're a successful adult who handles boardroom meetings, manages a household, and navigates life's challenges with confidence. But then your spouse gives you some feedback, and suddenly you're feeling like a scared 6-year-old who's about to get in trouble. If that sounds familiar, this episode will change everything for you. As I ...
Aug 25, 2025•16 min•Ep. 246
Todd's sharing a conversation that could completely change how you think about betrayal and recovery. He recently interviewed Lora Cheadle, a betrayal recovery coach and attorney who discovered her husband's 15-year affair. What drew him to Lora is that she speaks from a deeper place about infidelity—challenging the rigid ideas that keep people stuck rather than helping them heal. Here's what we explore together: Why betrayal uncovers hidden truths about how we've been "performing" in life inste...
Aug 18, 2025•36 min•Ep. 245
In this episode, Todd Creager shares insights you probably won't find in most relationship books or articles - discoveries he's made from three decades of working with couples about how childhood attachment patterns can directly impact sexual desire in adults. This isn't typical relationship advice. These are real patterns Todd has observed in his practice that help explain why some people struggle with sexual desire, especially after commitment. In this episode, you'll learn: Why men with overl...
Aug 04, 2025•13 min•Ep. 244
Have you ever wondered why some people turn to addictions while others don't? In this eye-opening episode, I dive deep into the fascinating connection between our attachment styles and addictive behaviors. Drawing from my years of experience as a therapist, I explain how the way we were nurtured as children impacts our emotional regulation and potentially our relationship with addictive substances and behaviors. In this episode, you'll discover: - The crucial link between your early childhood ex...
Jul 28, 2025•16 min•Ep. 243
Have you noticed that kissing has taken a backseat in your relationship? As a relationship expert who's helped countless couples rekindle their passion, I've discovered that many couples who once shared passionate kisses now rarely lock lips – some haven't kissed in months or even years. In this episode, I dive deep into the science and emotion behind kissing, sharing why this intimate act is crucial for maintaining a vibrant, connected relationship. What you'll discover in this episode: - The f...
Jul 21, 2025•7 min•Ep. 242
In this episode, Infidelity expert Todd Creager explores the crucial connection between attachment styles and infidelity - a topic he's helped thousands of couples navigate throughout my career. Drawing from his extensive experience as a relationship expert, Todd helps you understand how your early attachment patterns might be influencing your current relationship dynamics and potentially contributing to infidelity. In this episode, you'll discover: • The three main attachment styles (secure, an...
Jul 14, 2025•13 min•Ep. 241
In today's episode, I'm discussingsomething I see constantly in my therapy practice - attachment styles and how they profoundly impact our intimate relationships. As this topic becomes increasingly mainstream, I want to help you understand what your attachment style means for your relationships and, most importantly, how you can develop healthier patterns. In this episode, you'll discover: The four main attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized) and how they develop from our...
Jul 07, 2025•13 min•Ep. 240
In this episode Therapist and relationship expert Todd Creager is diving deep into something he's observed over decades of working with couples - the devastating hidden costs of not addressing broken communication patterns in your relationship. Having worked with countless couples, he's seen how unresolved communication issues can slowly erode what was once a sacred connection, leading couples to simply "settle" for a shell of what their relationship could be. In this episode, you'll discover: •...
Jun 23, 2025•13 min•Ep. 239
Have you ever wondered why you and your partner keep having the same arguments over and over, despite how much you love each other? In this powerful episode, I dive deep into why love alone isn't enough to break free from repetitive conflict patterns and what you can do to create lasting change in your relationship. Here's what you'll discover: • The surprising reason why we get stuck in survival mode during arguments, and how our childhood experiences shape our current relationship patterns • A...
Jun 16, 2025•13 min•Ep. 238
In this powerful episode of the Let's Talk About Love, Sex and Infidelity podcast, I'm going to share why those moments when you freeze up, explode, or feel emotionally flooded aren't signs that you're broken – they're actually your nervous system trying to protect you. Through my years of experience as a therapist, I've seen countless individuals and couples transform their relationships once they understand what's really happening in their body during these challenging moments. In this episode...
Jun 12, 2025•16 min•Ep. 235
Ever wonder why talking about relationship problems sometimes makes things worse? In this episode, Todd Creager therapist and relationship expert shares why "just talking about it" isn't always the solution – and what you can do instead. He's seen countless couples struggle with communication, only to end up more frustrated than when they started. But there's hope, and he's here to show you a better way. In this episode, you'll discover: - The crucial difference between "venting" and "sharing," ...
Jun 09, 2025•13 min•Ep. 237
In this episode, Therapist and relationship expert Todd Creager dives deep into what our parents (and society) never taught us about healthy love. Just like we take golf lessons to improve our swing or attend medical school to become doctors, shouldn't we learn how to create and maintain healthy relationships? Drawing from my 40+ years of experience as a relationship expert, I share why most of us weren't taught the essential skills for lasting love and what we can do about it. Key takeaways fro...
Jun 02, 2025•14 min•Ep. 236
Have you ever wished you could stop an argument with your partner before it spirals out of control? In this episode, I share powerful insights on how to hit the pause button on conflicts before they even begin. Drawing from my 40 years of experience as a relationship therapist, I'll show you how to transform potentially explosive situations into opportunities for deeper connection. In this episode, you'll discover: • Why your brain tricks you into overreacting during arguments and the simple bre...
May 26, 2025•15 min•Ep. 234
Ever wonder why your partner seems to be listening but isn't really hearing you? In this eye-opening episode, I reveal the fascinating neurochemical reason behind why your partner tunes out during conversations or gets defensive when you're trying to communicate. As someone who's worked with countless couples (and experienced this in my own marriage!), I'll explain why it's not just about "not caring" - it's actually about what's happening in your partner's brain. In this episode, you'll discove...
May 19, 2025•12 min•Ep. 233
In this episode, I'm diving deep into the intimate connection between communication and sexual satisfaction. As a sex therapist, I've seen how great communication can transform couples' sex lives - and it's not just about talking! I'll show you how both verbal and non-verbal communication can create the intensity and connection needed for an extraordinary intimate relationship. What you'll discover in this episode: - Why being "right" is killing your sex life, and how to shift from debate mode t...
May 12, 2025•6 min•Ep. 232
In this episode, I'm diving into something that's absolutely crucial for keeping your relationship vibrant and alive - playfulness! While we're naturally playful during courtship, many couples lose that spark once they settle into the routine of committed life. But here's the thing - playfulness isn't about expensive vacations or grand gestures; it's about using your imagination to create magical moments in everyday life. In this episode, you'll discover: - Why maintaining playfulness is vital f...
May 05, 2025•5 min•Ep. 231
In this podcast episode, I'm going to guide you through the essential process of creating a safe space to heal from trauma. As someone who has worked with thousands of trauma survivors, I know firsthand how challenging yet crucial it is to establish both internal and external safety for genuine healing to begin. In this episode, you'll discover: • Simple yet powerful techniques to create internal safety, including specific breathing exercises and self-compassion practices that you can start usin...
Apr 28, 2025•19 min•Ep. 230
In this episode, I share how love can be the most potent healing force for trauma. Drawing from my decades of experience as a relationship expert and therapist, I share deep insights about how paying attention with care - which is my definition of love - can transform trauma healing, whether it's in therapy, relationships, or self-love. Tune in and you'll discover: - Why having someone who loves and truly sees you during traumatic experiences can prevent PTSD, and how you can be that person for ...
Apr 21, 2025•15 min•Ep. 229
In this episode of The Let's Talk About Love & Sex and Infidelity Podcast, I'm diving deep into the three most common ways partners lose trust in their relationships. As a relationship expert who has worked with thousands of couples, I've seen how these trust-breaking behaviors can damage even the strongest bonds - but I've also witnessed remarkable healing when partners are willing to do the work. What you'll discover in this episode: • Why "little lies" aren't so little - Learn how even sm...
Apr 14, 2025•16 min•Ep. 227
Hi everyone! In today's special episode, I'm diving deep into how EMDR therapy can help heal the profound trauma of infidelity. As someone who's worked with thousands of couples dealing with infidelity, I'm excited to share how this powerful therapeutic approach can transform both the betrayed and betraying partners. I'm also joined by my colleague Mary Eason, an expert EMDR therapist, to discuss the crucial work of EMDR Trauma Recovery Assistance Programs in helping communities heal from trauma...
Mar 19, 2025•46 min•Ep. 228
Hi! I'm Todd Creager, and in this powerful episode, I dive deep into the seven signs of unhealed relationship trauma. Drawing from my years of experience helping couples heal and transform their relationships, I'll guide you through these crucial indicators that might be affecting your ability to form and maintain healthy connections. In this episode, you'll discover: - How to identify if fear of intimacy, emotional numbness, or overreacting to small triggers are impacting your relationships - R...
Mar 03, 2025•15 min•Ep. 226
Hi everyone, I'm Todd Creager, and in this powerful episode, I dive deep into the four types of trauma that can significantly impact our ability to form and maintain healthy relationships. Drawing from my years of experience working with couples, I'll help you understand how abandonment, rejection, betrayal, and humiliation traumas shape our current relationships and what we can do to begin healing. In this episode, you'll discover: - How to identify the signs of these four traumas in your relat...
Feb 24, 2025•19 min•Ep. 225
In today's deeply personal episode, I dive into the complex connection between childhood trauma and intimacy struggles. As both a couples therapist and trauma specialist, I've seen firsthand how our early experiences shape our ability to form deep, meaningful connections. I share my own journey of overcoming defensive patterns in my marriage and explain how childhood experiences influence our capacity for true intimacy. In this episode, you'll discover: • Why seemingly small childhood experience...
Feb 03, 2025•14 min•Ep. 224
In this powerful episode, I dive deep into how couples can experience post-traumatic growth after infidelity - yes, you read that right! While infidelity often leads to PTSD, I've witnessed countless couples in my practice who've not only healed but emerged stronger through this challenging journey. I'll share my expertise on how to transform trauma into an opportunity for profound relationship growth and renewal. Key takeaways from this episode: Discover the 5 essential questions that help dete...
Jan 27, 2025•21 min•Ep. 223
Hi everyone, Todd Creager here. In today's powerful episode, I dive deep into one of the most challenging aspects of healing after infidelity: managing triggers as a couple. Drawing from my years of experience working with couples, I answer the five most crucial questions about triggers that both betrayed and betraying partners frequently ask. In this episode, you'll discover: - Why triggers aren't necessarily a problem, but rather opportunities to develop emotional muscle and deepen your connec...
Jan 20, 2025•15 min•Ep. 222
Hi everyone, this is Todd Creager. In today's episode, I dive deep into answering your most pressing questions about rebuilding emotional connection after infidelity. Having worked with countless couples navigating the aftermath of betrayal, I know how challenging this journey can be. I'll share practical insights on developing emotional muscle, mastering attunement, and embracing vulnerability to help heal your relationship. In this episode, you'll discover: How to develop real emotional muscle...
Jan 13, 2025•20 min•Ep. 221
Hi there! I'm Todd Creager, and in this powerful episode of Let’s Talk About Love, Sex and Infidelity Podcast, I address one of the most challenging aspects of healing from infidelity - how to take responsibility without drowning in shame. If you're someone who has betrayed your partner and is working to rebuild trust and heal your relationship, this episode is especially for you. I dive deep into answering the five most common questions I receive from people who have been unfaithful and are gen...
Jan 06, 2025•20 min•Ep. 220
In today's powerful episode of Let's Talk about Love, Sex and Infidelity, Expert Todd Creager is diving deep into the heart-wrenching experience of healing after infidelity. If you've ever felt lost, hurt, and overwhelmed after discovering your partner's betrayal, this episode is your lifeline. I'll be answering the top five questions I hear from clients struggling to navigate the complex emotional landscape of healing after betrayal. This isn't just another podcast - it's a compassionate guide ...
Dec 30, 2024•19 min•Ep. 219
In today's special episode of the Let's Talk About Love Sex and Infidelity Podcast, I am sharing a special episode. I want to talk about something really important - celebrating yourself, especially during the holidays when things might not feel so festive. Let's be real: the holidays aren't always magical for everyone. Maybe you've experienced tough family memories, recent heartbreaks, or just feel disconnected from the usual cheer. This episode is for you. Why you absolutely need to listen: - ...
Dec 23, 2024•11 min
