In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. discusses Decluttering, fashion & the mind. Resources: rian's TikTok ( thatadult ) anatta in Buddhism The Power of Style: How Fashion Shapes Your Identity by Subham Behera Biography of Sociologist George Herbert MeadA Pioneer of Symbolic Interaction Theory by Ashley Crossman Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure by J.R. Yussuf is being published by North Atlan...
Jan 08, 2024•22 min•Season 3Ep. 9
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. discusses How to Handle Being Accepted. Resources: Internal Family Systems Therapy via Psychology Today The Fear of Acceptance: Are We Afraid of Being Rejected or Accepted? by John Amodeo PhD What Is Symbolic Interactionism? by Ashley Crossman Toxic Positivity: The Dark Side of Positive Vibes by Samara Quintero, LMFT, CHT and Jamie Long, PsyD Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Comba...
Jan 08, 2024•50 min•Season 3Ep. 10
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. discusses Taraji P Henson, showbiz, and toxic positivity. Resources: Toxic Positivity: The Dark Side of Positive Vibes by Samara Quintero, LMFT, CHT and Jamie Long, PsyD What Is Toxic Positivity—and Why Are Experts Saying It's Dangerous Right Now? by Claire Gillespie ‘Toxic Positivity’ Is Real — and It’s a Big Problem During the Pandemic by Simone Marie Time to ditch ‘toxic positivity,’ experts say: ‘It’s okay not to be okay’ by Allyson...
Dec 25, 2023•40 min•Season 3Ep. 8
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. Unpacks Black Boyhood (& Stan culture) w/ Mel (@torontoparadise). Trigger Warning: mention of intimate partner violence from 11:40-13:40. Content Warning: Black male queerness is referenced as a potential saboteur for the enjoyment or authenticity of a film on Black boyhood from 58:32-59:15. Resources: Male Survivors dot org Male Survivors of Abuse by Women Can Heal Without Misogyny by Araya Baker, M.Phil.Ed. Black Boys Are Not Safe b...
Dec 23, 2023•1 hr 15 min•Season 3Ep. 7
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. discusses The Human Bill of Rights . Rehabilitation or (Retiring) from the “Empath” identity and timeline . How to Set Healthy Boundaries: 10 Examples + PDF Worksheets . Digital Minimalism Whilst Black Why You Always Get Taken for Granted (And How to Quit) Personal Development School | Healing Your Insecure Attachment Style Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure by J.R. Yussuf...
Dec 11, 2023•25 min•Season 3Ep. 6
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. discusses combating the winter blues aka S.A.D. (seasonal affective disorder) with Rob of the howdo_uwantit podcast. 14 Ways to Ease Seasonal Depression by Beth W. Orenstein and Michelle Pugle Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure by J.R. Yussuf is being published by North Atlantic Books and distributed by Penguin Random House in Spring 2024, is no...
Dec 04, 2023•1 hr 27 min•Season 3Ep. 5
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. goes over 10 Green Flags That It's (Probably) Safe To Be Vulnerable by Heidi Priebe. 8 Relationship Green Flags You Should Definitely Pay Attention To by Amanda Chatel Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure by J.R. Yussuf is being published by North Atlantic Books and distributed by Penguin Random House in Spring 2024, is now available for pre-order here....
Nov 27, 2023•41 min•Season 3Ep. 4
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. discusses effective ways of coping with rejection with DJ Dimple . 4 Strategies to Cope With Rejection by Sharon Martin, DSW, LCSW Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure by J.R. Yussuf is being published by North Atlantic Books and distributed by Penguin Random House in Spring 2024, is now available for pre-order here. Subscribe for exclusive content he...
Nov 20, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Season 3Ep. 3
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. discuses using PTO for mental health days more often, especially around major holidays. Dear Bi Men: A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure by J.R. Yussuf is being published by North Atlantic Books and distributed by Penguin Random House in Spring 2024, is now available for pre-order here. Subscribe for exclusive content here. Light reading: The Unspoken Complexi...
Nov 13, 2023•50 min•Season 3Ep. 2
In the season 3 premiere of the Let's Heal Already podcast, J.R. discuses updates to the podcast as well as his recent journey first questioning, then deconstructing "identity." Subscribe for exclusive content here. Murray's Theory of Psychogenic Needs Bisexual Men Speak: A Black Perspective on Breaking Down Binaries, Navigating Power and Consent, and Finding Liberation by J.R. Yussuf is being published by North Atlantic Books and distributed by Penguin Random House in Spring 2024. ...
Nov 06, 2023•31 min•Season 3Ep. 1
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already Podcast, J.R. goes over Signs of Emotional Safety w/ Patrice Bryan. Follow Patrice on Instagram & Facebook here: @PatPontificates 4 Pillars of Authentic Leadership: How Vulnerability helps to create psychological safety The Loneliness Epidemic Persists: A Post-Pandemic Look at the State of Loneliness among U.S. Adults Subscribe for exclusive content here. Bisexual Men Speak: A Black Perspective on Breaking Down Binaries, Navigating Power and...
Jun 12, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Season 2Ep. 15
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already Podcast, J.R. shares his thoughts on being the bigger person . Subscribe for exclusive content here. Bisexual Men Speak: A Black Perspective on Breaking Down Binaries, Navigating Power and Consent, and Finding Liberation by J.R. Yussuf is being published by North Atlantic Books and distributed by Penguin Random House in Spring 2024. Light reading: The Unspoken Complexity of “Self-Care” Is It Time to Leave Your Therapist? The conditioni...
Jun 05, 2023•10 min•Season 2Ep. 14
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already Podcast, J.R. discusses how he's Feeling about his book deal & asking for needs in relationships. Subscribe for exclusive content here. Bisexual Men Speak: A Black Perspective on Breaking Down Binaries, Navigating Power and Consent, and Finding Liberation by J.R. Yussuf is being published by North Atlantic Books and distributed by Penguin Random House in Spring 2024. Light reading: The Unspoken Complexity of “Self-Care” Is It Time to Leave ...
May 29, 2023•24 min•Season 2Ep. 13
This episode is about feeling sad because of white supremacy | Patriarchal Violence. Click here for a working definition of patriarchal violence rooted in Black feminisms and created by the Abolishing Patriarchal Violence Innovation Lab. Let's Talk Bruh Podcast | Yolo Akili, Founder of BEAM, is Living in Alignment . Subscribe for exclusive content here. Bisexual Men Speak: A Black Perspective on Breaking Down Binaries, Navigating Power and Consent, and Finding Liberation by J.R. Yussuf ...
May 15, 2023•8 min•Season 2Ep. 11
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already Podcast, J.R. gives examples of how to apologize in a way that's meaningful. Subscribe for exclusive content here. Bisexual Men Speak: A Black Perspective on Breaking Down Binaries, Navigating Power and Consent, and Finding Liberation by J.R. Yussuf is being published by North Atlantic Books and distributed by Penguin Random House in Spring 2024. Light reading: The Unspoken Complexity of “Self-Care” Is It Time to Leave Your Therapist?...
May 15, 2023•3 min•Season 2Ep. 12
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already Podcast, J.R. discusses learning his mental, emotional, and political limits and doing what he can to avoid burnout. Self-Care for Change Agents and Activists | The Homecoming Podcast with Dr. Thema Subscribe for exclusive content here. Bisexual Men Speak: A Black Perspective on Breaking Down Binaries, Navigating Power and Consent, and Finding Liberation by J.R. Yussuf is being published by North Atlantic Books and distributed by Penguin Ran...
May 08, 2023•12 min•Season 2Ep. 10
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already Podcast, J.R. discusses the Pros & Cons of Going To Therapy & speaks about alternatives like healing justice which seeks to address many of the systemic issues western models often ignore. Subscribe for exclusive content here. What Is Healing Justice? https://nonprofitquarterly.org/what-is-healing-justice/ Thread about filing a complaint against a therapist: https://twitter.com/JRYussuf/status/1609679166902861824?t=HEMVopf2ztoN0_VFI8tL7w...
May 01, 2023•24 min•Season 2Ep. 9
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast J.R. has Lizzy Lesbiana, The People's Lesbian, on as a guest to talk about Lesbian Visibility Day, her podcast, The People's Lesbian, and being a Black lesbian from New York. Subscribe for exclusive content here. The People's Lesbian Podcast: https://www.audible.com/pd/The-Peoples-Lesbian-Podcast/B08K56TFZW Summary of The People's Lesbian Podcast: Hold on to your rainbows and join me Lizzy Lesbiana for a weekly dose of LGBTQ+ news, educa...
Apr 24, 2023•30 min•Season 2Ep. 8
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already Podcast J.R. responds to the viral essay, Is Therapy-Speak Making Us Selfish? Subscribe for exclusive content here. The Unspoken Complexity of “Self-Care:" https://medium.com/@deanna/the-unspoken-complexity-of-self-care-8c9f30233467 The conditioning that fuels the mental health epidemic for Black men, and how to stop it: http://blackyouthproject.com/the-conditioning-that-fuels-the-mental-health-epidemic-for-black-men-and-how-to-stop-it/ Is It Ti...
Apr 17, 2023•37 min•Season 2Ep. 7
This episode of the Let's Heal Already Podcast is titled, Low-key Signs of Sexual Shame, building on a previous episode (Signs You Have Sexual Shame & Am I a Simp?). Subscribe for exclusive content here. 6 Signs You Might Have Sexual Shame—and How To Overcome It by Morgan Mandriota: https://www.wellandgood.com/sexual-shame-signs/ Pros vs Cons of Growing Up Christian (& Bisexual): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iLVNnHr_Fa4&t=152s What Men Who Use Sex Toys Know That You Don’t...
Apr 10, 2023•21 min•Season 2Ep. 6
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast J.R. talks disability and bisexuality in the LGBTQ+ Community with Chara (they/them/xe/xim – The Black Bisexual). Subscribe for exclusive content here. Chara (they/them/xe/xim – The Black Bisexual) www.instagram.com/theblackbisexual www.twitter.com/theblaquebi Bisexuality and Disability: https://biresource.org/bi-info/bisexuality-and-disability/ J.R. created the Twitter hashtag #BisexualMenSpeak for bisexual+ men & masculine identifi...
Apr 03, 2023•53 min•Season 2Ep. 5
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast J.R. answers the question, Is It Worth It To Make a 5 Year Plan Right Now ? Subscribe for exclusive content here. How To Make an Achievable Five-Year Plan: https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/how-to-make-a-5-year-plan/ Healing Justice Is How We Can Sustain Black Lives: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/healing-justice_b_5899e8ade4b0c1284f282ffe B.E.A.M. (Black Emotional And Mental Health): https://www.beam.community A wo...
Mar 27, 2023•7 min•Season 2Ep. 4
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast J.R. talks to Rachel Siden about Working on the Bisexuality+ & Christianity Pamphlet for the BRC & #BiVisibilityDay. Subscribe for exclusive content here. Bisexuality+ and Christianity pamphlet: https://biresource.org/bi-info/bisexuality-and-christianity/ Learn more about Religious Trauma Syndrome, a form of PTSD here: https://journeyfree.org/ J.R. created the Twitter hashtag #BisexualMenSpeak for bisexual+ men & masculine id...
Mar 20, 2023•48 min•Season 2Ep. 3
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast J.R. talks about Social Anxiety & Being Black Living with Mental Illness. Subscribe for exclusive content here. A Punishing Look: Skin Tone and Afrocentric Features in the Halls of Justice: https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/full/10.1086/686941?mobileUi=0& The darker your skin the more likely you’ll end up in an American jail: https://www.google.com/amp/s/qz.com/1724590/colorism-influences-probability-of-going-to-jail-new-stud...
Mar 13, 2023•8 min•Season 2Ep. 2
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast J.R. talks about Toxic Age Gaps & Power Imbalances in Relationships Power & Consent. Subscribe for exclusive content here. Drake Has No Business Texting Teenage Girls: https://www.wearyourvoicemag.com/drake-is-a-creep/ A working definition of patriarchal violence rooted in Black feminisms and created by the Abolishing Patriarchal Violence Innovation Lab.: https://issuu.com/blackfeministfuture/docs/understanding_patriarchal_violen...
Mar 06, 2023•19 min•Season 2Ep. 1
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast J.R. answers the question, Do I Have A Savior Complex? How To Heal Broken Bird Syndrome. Subscribe for exclusive content here. Do You Have Broken Bird Syndrome? Be Empathetic with Boundaries: https://www.lovepanky.com/my-life/better-life/broken-bird-syndrome Benevolent Patriarchy and The Good Girl: https://www.bethanywebster.com/blog/benevolent-patriarchy-illusion/ Get out of Your Own Way — How to Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind for Suc...
Feb 27, 2023•12 min•Season 1Ep. 14
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast J.R. answers the question, What does misogyny cost? Let's discuss. Subscribe for exclusive content here. J.R's approach to tackling this problem derives from Integrated Attachment Theory created by Thais Gibson. The conditioning that fuels the mental health epidemic for Black men, and how to stop it: http://blackyouthproject.com/the-conditioning-that-fuels-the-mental-health-epidemic-for-black-men-and-how-to-stop-it/ J.R. created the Twit...
Feb 20, 2023•10 min•Season 1Ep. 13
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already Podcast, Black Bisexual & Pansexual Men Discuss Ending misogyny, Patriarchal Women & Ashy Black Twitter Subscribe for exclusive content here. The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks: https://www.ebay.com/itm/363343613495?chn=ps&norover=1&mkevt=1&mkrid=711-117182-37290-0&mkcid=2&itemid=363343613495&targetid=1263104805526&device=m&mktype=&googleloc=9004372&poi=&campaignid=148...
Feb 13, 2023•1 hr 38 min•Season 1Ep. 12
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast J.R. discuses something they don't tell you before beginning a self love & healing journey + notes on being "good enough." Subscribe for exclusive content here. Why You Always Get Taken for Granted (And How to Quit): https://allisonfallon.com/taken-for-granted/ Rehabilitation or (Retiring) from the “Empath” identity and timeline: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Prfr9bZZtFE&t=2s J.R. created the Twitter hashtag #BisexualMenSpeak f...
Feb 06, 2023•6 min•Season 1Ep. 12
In this episode of the Let's Heal Already podcast J.R. discuses how morality is weaponized against minorities and why he no longer cares about being perceived as a good person. Subscribe for exclusive content here. Won't abolishing the police create chaos and crime?: https://www.mpd150.com/wp-content/themes/mpd150/assets/faq_zine.pdf Religious Trauma Syndrome by Marlene Winell: https://journeyfree.org/rts/ Why You Always Get Taken for Granted (And How to Quit): https://allisonfallon.com...
Jan 30, 2023•9 min•Season 1Ep. 11
