Why you should never lie to your suppliers and a groom splits their trousers!

Hello. You're gonna hate me for saying this, but I'm really tired.

oh, me too.

You're like, oh, whatever. What is a full night's sleep? I've had a weird day. It's been a weird one. I worked, I was freelancing today as an event manager, but a week. I always think it's a weird, it's a been a weird day. It's a weird one, you know?

It's kind of like different to your usual

Yeah.

atmosphere, I guess, isn't it? It's a bit, you

Yeah. And I'm very much used to being like, oh, hi, like everyone's happy, and like, oh, you're having a great time. Like, you know, and obviously you have, you can't be like that.

a bit. Yeah.

Yeah. It's like raining in and you can't Yeah. I'm so used to just going over to people and being like, oh, how's your day go? Like, you know, do you know what I mean? And it,

probably

have to really,

is it?

no, it's really not.

well.

it's been a weird one. I'm very tired. I dunno why. Literally, I went into work and somebody said to me like, you look really tired. And you know when someone says it and you're like, yeah, now I feel really tired.

People say that to me and they, and I'm like, look, just tell me I look like shit. It's

Yeah, thanks.

newborn

Yeah,

I, I, I don't know what I look like. I know

but what's my excuse? I have no excuse.

you know.

I will say, I will say, sorry, I'm in my gym attire tonight,

Sorry, I've

been working it, I'm working it hard in the gym at the minute, you know, I've gotta get, it's, it's literally

fair,

Thank you very much. Thank you very much. Two months till the Hindu. Two months, All Go, go, go. It's all go

other way. I just kept eating. I like went on like a protest, like a, like a fat protest. was like, you know, I'm getting married, I'm gonna eat everything. I stop running, stop exercising, stop working

Why not? I mean, I'm, I will just put it out there. I always have been an exerciser and I've always looked after my health and stuff. Yeah, but I'm just going that little bit more, but yeah. Anyway, just to save me boring you all. Should we get started?

Let's do it.

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word.

Woo. How are you?

Yeah, I'm good.

Apart from tiredness with babies, I mean, right. We say this, but I met Hailey and Little Lily yesterday, right? And people say, oh, this baby life is difficult. She slept the whole three hours. I was with them. I was like, Hailey, whatcha talking about? This is a, this is easy. I forgot she was even there, if I'm honest. No, I'm joking. I'm sure a lot of people are screaming at me right now. Like.

you know what I have to, sometimes I'll be like walking around, I'm like, oh my God. I got baby in there

You'll forget her.

around the house. I'm like, oh my God, there's a baby in the front room.

Oh,

Who

what is that noise you like? Start chatting like, Richard, what are you

gosh.

doing up there? What is that noise? Oh, it's the baby. Oh, whoops. But how, how have you been? How you, because obviously you've had, you know, you're a solo parent in this week, but Richard's back to work.

Yeah, it's been all right. We're making our, we're making our own little routine together now, so.

Nice.

I like to get her out and about every day we go somewhere and do something. We go for lots of walks and things like

Yeah,

I wanted to be, well, I basically wanted her to fit in with like our lives. I didn't

yeah,

oh, can't come and do that because of nap time or

yeah. Sorry.

You know what I mean? Like, oh

Yeah, definitely.

to these things. But I just, I really wanted to kind of like get her out and about a lot and, and

Yeah.

her with me like I normally would.

Yeah. Which she loved yesterday.

And she's like,

Loving Life.

quite confident little

Yeah.

I hope. And, and it gives me the confidence to kind of like, you know, keep going out and stuff. And

a hundred percent.

weddings coming up, there might be a few where I have to

Yeah. Bring, bring her on that. Well, I did see, which I thought was really cute, that you took her to your wedding venue.

I

Very nice.

a little carrier. Yes. We

Oh.

little like front pack thing, like a harness, I dunno what you call it. Baby carrier I think is what you call it. But anyway,

Oh, fair play.

and

play.

her there for a, for a walk. So yeah, we went up to Stonehouse. It was really lovely. It was a nice day actually. It's been rubbish. Don't talk about the

Oh,

it's been so

it is bad, but I, no, but I just keep saying it's fine 'cause it's getting it out the way. So May is a lovely dry month,

only for

you know,

Yes,

have the best spring weather ever.

dry. The grass is gonna go so brown, or it's so dry and

I mean, don't, I don't want it brown, but

That's what it was like for my wedding though. It was, it'd been that whole August had

yes, it had, it was so hot. Yeah.

out the front, they've got a, a so house. They've got like a really nice entrance and they have like a,

Yeah.

of grass like lawn with a statue and everything and it'd all gone brown and literally it like rained for like two days, like just before the wedding. It just allowed it to go a little bit greener. I was like, can

Yeah, I remember that. It was warm, wasn't it? Yeah, it was warm On your wedding day. Yeah,

yeah, we were

I think that was the year that I had a wedding in the August when there was a fire because the,

Oh

in, it was a field wedding and the next field set on fire. 'cause it was so hot. Yeah.

Yeah, I

it was so dry and you had to be so careful. Like I had an, I remember I had another wedding that year. And obviously all like fires and everything were banned so people had like booked fire pits and stuff, so it was a real shame 'cause they couldn't use them. And then there was this like videographer just rocking around smoking facts and putting 'em out on the grass. I was like

Who's this guy?

absolutely not, not somebody I booked, I was just managing the day.

put that disclaimer out

put Ella, I was like, whatcha doing a, do not smoke around the air, some B

No.

like, are you, you gonna set us all on fire? Yeah, that was crazy.

Oh,

So any, anything to report wedding wise? I mean, it's quiet, it's wedding se, it's not wedding season is it? You've got a baby.

Yeah, it's not, I mean, there's, there's not a lot of like wedding flowers

There's not a lot of stories to tell right now.

anyway. But I have I have been just organizing, like freelance help and things like that for weddings

Yeah. Nice.

weddings.

Getting prepped.

And replying to email. I've had a few inquiries for people wanting flowers, doing for like all sorts of, obviously I've, other than wedding flowers, I do like funeral flowers, birthdays, and other like mother's day's coming up and it's

Oh yeah, of course.

because I know it sounds really bad, but I normally, mother's Day is like my, out of everything, it's probably my busiest

Yeah, yeah.

and I'm not obviously doing any advertising or doing it this

No, yeah. It's still, it's quite soon, isn't it? Yeah. Yeah. Fair.

'cause I don't really wanna car off to be looked after at this age

Yeah, of course. And you wanna, it's your first Mother's day. You wanna be able to enjoy it and not be stressing about flowers.

Although I don't get flowers. Everyone's like, I don't buy you flowers 'cause I know you weren't with 'em. It's like, that's such a poor excuse. Like I

Yeah.

I

A hundred percent. 'cause you like flowers. Yeah. You are a florist. You love flowers. Yeah.

But

enough.

so yeah, just just being a mom at the moment, which is, I've become one of them. People are like, full-time mommy on

Full-time. Mom.

know what I mean? Like,

Hashtag

full-time, mom.

Yeah. Fair.

but. it's all gonna kick off though in April because I'm really busy in April and May,

Yeah.

so I'll

Nice.

regretting it and then wishing I was back here doing just Moming. Moming,

Momming life.

how's your week? How are you?

Yeah, I'm good. Well, my season's kicked off well and truly. I.

you are busy this week.

Yeah, it's weird. It's like, I mean, I love it, but yeah, we, we are straight back into it. We finished on in December and then we started again this week. So my first wedding of the year, to be fair, I was freelancing, so it wasn't too bad, but it was a really nice day. The couple was. So lovely. So I'd met them in January to do like their final meeting. And then they actually was really, so consider it was February, they had a barbecue for their wedding which was interesting.

Okay.

I've got a wedding coming up this weekend. Right. I'm doing on the day management and when I did their final meeting, they were telling me like how they were gonna do food service. So they've got 160 people and they were gonna do it table by table up 'cause they're having like a pizza van, salad, buffet, that kind of vibe. I was like, right. Okay, that's fine. By the time I go over to a table and say, right guys, can you go up and get your food?

No, thank you.

We're we are doing a direct to the table, so he's gonna put lovely salads on the tables. We're gonna run pizzas out to the tables. Lovely, lovely. I may, I feel like I mentioned this last week, if I did, apologies,

last week, but it's okay because I think people really need to understand

realize.

you're gonna send people up table by table, it's not okay.

There you go. I've mentioned it twice. It's that important. And it proved it last weekend because it, it was fine because there was only I think there was about six or six or seven tables.

interesting

fine.

worked with that amount of people

Yeah, it was lovely. It was great. And do you know what, it just, I love it because obviously I've got barbecue for my wedding

Yes.

people love it. Like people were loving life, like they were loading up their plates, like, oh

idea.

yeah.

love a barbecue. I'm a big

I can't wait now. Looking forward to it.

like for my family is like, as soon as it's like summer, we have like barbecue for dinner. Or when I lived at

Oh yeah. Love a barbecue dinner. Yes.

night and it would be

So good. So good.

So big fan, big fan of it here.

But one thing I also wanted to talk about

Oh.

is when you are looking for your photographer, just.

Oh.

Look at the reviews, speak to them a little bit about doing weddings. Like how many weddings have they done? So,

God.

I mean,

Oh

they were lovely people, don't get me wrong. But what you need to remember is your photographer is. They're not just to take photos, but to also manage that element. Okay? So when you wanna get a group shot together, if you have a coordinator at your venue who's not hands on, which happens, it depends what ven, it's not actually the venue coordinator's job to do that. If you hired a private coordinator like myself, fine. If you end up with someone like myself at your venue.

Oh

should have said, guys, that's too many, but that he obviously hadn't advised him of that. Yeah. Like, but they wouldn't know that as a couple, so he should have told them. So I'm like, okay, we've got an hour and a half till they sit down. You probably should really get started on these 'cause it's gonna take a while.

Yeah.

like it was about to start raining, but I felt I had to manage that. So I had to be like, okay, cool. Who have you got, you know, in this group shot, who do you need for this group? And I was like, Tim, should I start going to get some of these people? And he was like, oh. Yeah. Yeah, if you could, if you could. Then I go over to where he's decided to do the group shots and the caterers put their gazebo up, ready to do the barbecue. And I was like, is that gazebo in your shot?

giving me that anxiety. I'm joking that

Yeah. And I was like, and B, have you asked them? And he was like, no. Like, can you speak to them? And I was like, absolutely not.

what

No. So I just got, I just got the gazebo moved. I was like, look, give me two minutes. I get this moved, but honestly I just think it's so important. And I know sometimes people look at the price of photographers and they're like, oh God, it's so expensive. But this is the proof in the pudding. I mean, I dunno how much the guy charges, but how, why you would spend more money on a professional photographer.

thing is, what you have to remember is you might be spending a lot of money, but they, these are the photos that you're gonna look back on forever. You know, hopefully you'll be married forever,

And hopefully they won't have ABO in them.

Exactly. You know, there's only so much Photoshop can do. Yeah.

Well, I don't feel like this guy would've done that,

No, he wasn't a Photoshop train.

only because I walked over and I was like, hang on, hang on.

Oh

The angle you're taking that photo at

At

is that gonna say better?

Yeah.

Yeah. Oh God.

You see. It's

But there you go. There you go. Hey, at least we noticed it. We spotted it. But yeah, so, and then for my wedding, things are progressing.

Oh.

I had my engagement shoot the other day.

you?

Yeah, we had a little, well, we just went to our venue actually, which was like quite cute afterwards because she said normally the photographer that we've booked says, you know, we can go wherever, you can go to like a woods or anything. But actually she posted on her Instagram afterwards that she'd done an engagement shoot at the couple's venue.

Yeah,

Us as a couple.

was us. That's who

The couple

to.

was me. And she said it actually works really well because it gave her time to like suss out the venue. I was telling her where everything was happening. So because obviously I'm not gonna be there on the morning, I'm gonna be getting ready. So it was like. It gave her like ample time to be able to look around and be like, okay, so on the day we can do this on this spot. And, and it was just really good. And it actually gave us a really good idea of like how long the couple shots are gonna take.

Richard, oh God.

That was

Richard

so, that's such a nice picture though.

like, oh my God. But

That,

not, we

no,

anything.

it was something underneath.

I

Yeah.

but it wasn't

So sometimes, you know, when you put a jumper on and you hear a and, but it doesn't actually do anything. You're like, oh, okay. See? Yeah. That was really nice. Oh, the guy who split his trousers. Oh, why? Who split the trousers at your wedding?

No one. I dunno. I was saying imagine if Richard has split his trousers and

Have I ever told you that story about the guy who split his chart?

Please tell

Oh.

pray.

So this couple really, really good looking couple as well, that just arrived and he went to climb out the car and I kid you not from front to back, they completely ripped, like complete like you could see all his pants.

Oh

There's actually a video of me on Instagram, right. So we got him to take his trousers off. Car, but stay in the car. The bride is like crying of laughter, like she's just laughing. I took the trousers and I, there's a video on my Instagram of me just sitting on this bench at the venue and just stitching his trousers up. Yes.

I didn't realize

Poor guy.

I just thought you were

He was,

and I didn't realize you were

no,

someone's back

I kid you not front to back. Front to back. Literally when I took them off, they were split. They were nearly split in half. It was so bad. But yeah.

What a story.

a story to tell. Lovely.

so funny.

so that's, that's my week. I'm really struggling at the minute though, to find some nice wedding jewelry. And I had honestly, right, so I my friends bought me some beautiful earrings for Christmas and my mum bought me the max matching necklace, but when the necklace came, it was just a little bit like we just, yeah. So we sent, we sent that back. Sorry, mom.

So

No, it wasn't her fault. It wasn't her fault I had picked it. But you know, when it just comes and like, yeah, it's my fault. Like the, the little embellishment that was on it was really small. It looked a lot bigger in the picture. So anyway, so I found this stuff a really nice one online yesterday, all to it. And it came and. You know what? The, the company had gone to town really nice in a beautiful box, a ribbon on it. I opened it up.

that's,

all out.

yeah.

I get the necklace out and it's got a, and the, the chain has got like tangles. It's got like a knot in it. So I sat there for ages trying to get this bloody knot out. I thought, I can't, oh, oh, I can't do this. So I emailed them and just said, look, really like the necklace, but sent a picture. I was like, look, it's got, it's got tangled in the post, whatever. It's got a knot in it. So they replied. They were like, oh, we're really, really sorry.

everywhere.

Yes. Right. But you can't, if that was me and that was my brand. Right. Not being funny, but I got something picked up from London the other day. So it, it was only something light, which this would be, it's a tiny little necklace, cost me one pound 50, like to get every, to go and collect it and bring it to my house. Right.

Yeah.

they should just, they should have just said, we're really sorry. We're gonna pick it up. And we've, we've already sent another one out to you.

Yeah,

Do you know what I mean?

that would be good customer service. Not spraying the tissue with perfume

Yeah. You know, save on your perfume, use your money to do, you know what? And if they wanted to claim it back from whoever they used to deliver it, Royal Mail, whatever, fine. 'cause it's not their fault at the end of the day. But I was just like, hang on. So I've gotta try and get a cocktail stick and shove it, which I did try and do, but honestly,

you

yeah, I tried to, but I just couldn't. It is so tight. The knot.

when that happens. Ah, you can never undo them.

No.

like so bad, but

So, yeah, have struggling with the old jewelry. I'm not gonna lie. Not gonna lie.

I was trying to think where I got mine from.

Yes. Where did you get yours from?

hmm. I can't remember.

I cannot remember.

tell you where I went, I went to F Hines

Oh, okay.

bit of like

Yeah,

wouldn't normally do you know what I mean? They're kind

yeah,

you wouldn't normally think of an F Hines anymore. Where, where would you find one? But there's one in Bletchley

Bit like Warren James.

Yeah, splashing it out. I I went there just, I got myself like a little

Okay.

arians, but, and, and it was really reasonably priced as well, and the woman was really helpful.

And did you wear a bracelet?

No, I didn't,

Oh no. We talked about this, didn't we? Yeah.

really, I don't really wear bracelets anyway though. But if you, I dunno. Do you normally wear bracelets?

Yeah, I wear, well, I haven't got my, I had, I always wear a Tiffany bracelet, but I broke it at our wedding last year, obviously. But I always wear a watch as well, so I feel like I'd feel bare

Yeah.

I didn't have one on, and I did try a Beau, Pandora's just bought out a really nice range, to be fair. Not really Nora.

fan of Thomas sbo, so I love Thomas

Oh yeah. I didn't even think of them.

they're a little bit

Hmm.

different. They do some

Yeah.

but I feel like a lot of this stuff's very

Yeah.

samey,

mainstream. Yeah.

Thomas Sbo does some really nice pieces. Pieces

Well, the, the place I got my neck the earrings from, which are beautiful, but the necklace was a little bit understated, was a place called Lillian Ru. But the problem is with these websites are that they're all online. So to return this necklace that was like 60 pounds cost me seven pound 50. To return it 'cause you have to do it. Royal Mail tracked. 'cause they're like, well if it doesn't get to us and you can't track it then and it gets lost and you lost your money, you're like, oh, great.

I was thinking of I got jewelry from was Etsy. I went on Etsy and

Yes. Well this is where I got the other one from. That's got the knot in it.

Oh,

Yeah. I've got return. It's just a chore. I just wanna go in somewhere I go. Yeah. Lovely. Love that. Tried it on.

go to

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah. I'll have a little look. I'll have a little look.

Have a little browse. Oh

Anyway I never think this happened this week

Oh, yes, yes.

and more, right? So guys, this is strife in the wedding strife. We love the word strife, don't we? Strife.

a

This is got, this is, wait,

rife? We made up a word strife.

I'm gonna say strive. This is gone. This has circulated the wedding industry, right? If you are in the wedding industry.

yeah.

Yeah. Like where if you are in the wedding industry, you aren't seeing this, are you under a fricking rock? Everybody is kicking off ble right and center. There was basically it, what was it, an article? I didn't really see it because it got taken down before I saw it. It was a blog post

blog

from a big UK blog essentially. Who stated do we name? I felt like we probably shouldn't name.

Maybe not. Well, I dunno, because everyone else was like

Everyone's freaking said it. It's bribe book. It's bribe book.

it's a It's a wedding.

yeah. Whose suppliers pay to be on?

Yeah.

Directory. So directory and they have a blog and they put out this article to say that do not say when you go into your hair and makeup eyes, they, they, they really target the hair and makeup. That's what made me laugh 'cause you could say it about any supplier they did. They basically said, don't say that you're having a wedding 'cause you'll get it cheaper.

They literally, they did. It was like, it was like, it like top 10 tips on how to save money

Was it? I don't know.

it was like, how to say, money on Wedding Beauty was the, was the article on their

Oh, okay.

six of their tips was, don't use the m or W words. And considering they are a marriage and wedding directory, why would

and considering hair and makeup artists pay them

there?

to be on their blog

Yeah.

do you know what just really frustrates me is this is something that circulates the wedding industry all the time. Like we are constantly fighting a battle to say it. Doesn't matter whether you are doing a wedding or a party. Like I've just taken a book in from a couple for a party, I've done a wake for today. It doesn't matter what I'm doing, my rate. Is the same,

Yeah.

feel like we're constantly in this battle as the wedding industry. And yes, there probably are suppliers out there who are assholes and do probably charge more if it's a wedding or whatever, but the decent people that have good testimonials and do this as their profession and are experience and knowledgeable will not charge you more because it's a wedding. Unless there's like a valid reason. So I was speaking to like a hair and makeup artist who said, yeah, look, I do charge more.

More money, yeah, exactly. That's, that's the thing. Unless there's a valid reason, like you say with the bride, the bride, it takes longer.

Yeah,

you get like touchups and everything.

get your trial

yeah.

as well.

included in that too. But also with weddings, anything like that. If you are supplier and you're working in that industry, generally you are, you know, you're qualified, you've paid

Yeah.

you have more knowledge, you are, you know, you're sort of specialist in your field.

Yeah, a hundred percent. Yeah.

someone's wedding because, or party. 'cause it's like a big special occasion.

Yeah.

and you perhaps you may charge more than someone else that just is just doing like retail. For me, like for, for florist, if

Yeah.

you know, if wedding floristry is, is, is. It's not niche, but it's like a you need, you need to be qualified to do it. You

To, yeah,

and you are

yeah,

the experience as well. Like

yeah,

somebody for your wedding and you, why would you want some, anyone off the street just to do your wedding

yeah. Exactly.

It's just, you know, I'm sorry, but you wouldn't, so that's why you perhaps pay a bit more for someone

Yeah,

just does retail to someone that may specialize in wedding fas 'cause it's a specialist.

because Yeah, but at the same time, regardless of if somebody came to you for a party for a cent, right, so say they had 10 tables, the centerpiece would be the same price, wouldn't it?

Yeah.

Regardless if it was an event or the wedding. It's the same with me with planning like a party. If you come to me and you want me to plan your party, yes, it's gonna cost less, but not because it's a party, because A, it's gonna be a lot less time. So for example, yeah, I'm planning

do with wedding or party or whatever. Yeah,

Exactly. I'm planning a party at the moment with, with a, with a really nice couple. So there, there it's two, it's in two months time. Whereas when I plan a wedding, it could be anything from, you know, the, the average is kind of six months to 18 months and also. Yeah, and it's a lot bigger thing. So for this party, it's only 30 people, so it's less time. It's, you know, they, they don't need me as long on the day, it's less of my time. It's, it's all these kind of things that.

You

and it's just so frustrating. I think it's just frustrating because we are, like I say, we're always fighting this as suppliers to say to people, we don't charge more because it's a wedding. It's and, and I see comments all the time on Facebook groups. Oh, as soon as you say wedding, the price goes up. No, it fucking doesn't.

No, it don't. what planet are you living on? Ugh.

Yeah,

It's so true though. It's constant. Like, I've had like comments at me, like from family and friends, like, oh, I

yeah.

more on it. 'cause it's a way,

Oh, is a wedding.

I don't

No.

and also you don't realize the work that's involved. I charge what I charge, whether it's a wedding or a party. But like you say, if there's less, if there's less to do, then obviously I'm not gonna

Yeah,

You know, it's,

and you are right as well. Yeah, and what you were saying earlier is right as well, because what you're essentially saying is, is that, say for example, you are a florist on a high street doing retail, you probably are gonna charge less than somebody that is just niche weddings because you can only do certain amount of weddings a week, and you can only, realistically, we only get wedding work for six months of the year.

yeah. That's

Because you have, if you don't make profit, like how do you, like we have to pay our mortgage. Like I pay myself a wage so I can pay my mortgage and things like that. At the end of the day, this is my job. This is my serious job. And if you are booking a supplier, I saw a supplier the other day just going off on a tangent that wrote on a Facebook comment. Somebody was looking for you know, like the bridesmaid hangers and the. Robes and all that. She was like, contact me.

Yeah,

Exactly. Exactly. This is our job. This is what we are passionate about. This is what we live to do and we have to do it well. 'cause otherwise, if we start getting bad reviews or people don't book us, we ain't paying our mortgage.

That's it. And that's what, what annoys me is I think a lot of people might view like, especially what I do, I'll get it all the time. And it's so annoying. Oh, it must be so lovely being a florist. When I retire, I wanna be a florist.

Yeah.

a nice hobby. I'm like, it's literally brat backbreaking work. It's hard work. And it's also my career.

Yeah, exactly. Yeah. It's your career and you love it, and you're passionate about it. Yeah. Yeah.

I, that annoys me. But

was very frustrating.

Yeah.

was

lot of

a frustrating thing. And I think what's really frustrating is as a platform in general, it's like the they've now just bought out another blog that's like, and this is what really frustrates me, and I've spoke about this before in the podcast, is people's realistic expectations of how much things cost. And they've just bought out an article about how much marquee weddings cost and it is on, and, and things like this make me realize why people come to me and they're like.

That's a load of rubbish. That's a load of shit. Excuses the pun.

What I mean absolutely ridiculous. Let's face it, if you're having a marquee wedding, the cheapest toilets I can get

Yeah.

A one plus one, which essentially means one women's cubicle and one men's cubicle, and a one al right. So they will only do up to about 50 people. 480 pounds and that's as a my wedding supplier rate. Okay. A hundred pounds. They sue having a marquee wedding. A hundred, 150 people.

hole

Your toilets are gonna be a grand, a se. Most of my couples, the toilets are a thousand pound, like being really realistic. So when you go into an article and you go, oh, great, we can afford a wedding. Our toilets are only gonna cost a hundred pounds. And then when you start to realize how can they be put in that kind of article, how are they allowed to do that?

Yeah, and also how are they backing up their information

Exactly who the hell is right in that?

Yeah, exactly. I think it's just a load of roll rubbish. But it's click bait, isn't it? If people

Yeah, you're right.

they have

You're right.

they think, oh yeah, this is great. And they've obviously earned money for the clicks that they get on it. It's just. A lot of

Yeah. It's bad, isn't it?

like obviously with us on the podcast, is that we are being like honest and transparent

It's so true.

it's, it's the other thing about like, when they say about mentioning wedding and don't mention wedding, don't mention marriage to your supplier and why would you wanna lie? Like why

Why do you wanna lie? Yeah, I actually saw,

like,

I actually saw a few hair and makeup artists, but they obviously everybody was livid, like, and a lot of people were really upset about it as well. Which is understandable.

hadn't they? They'd used, they'd used

Yes.

on a directory as part of that, like on the

Slaying them, basically. Oh my God. But a lot, I was saying like if I turned up on a, on a thinking, it was a apart for a, also for a start, if you said like, oh yes, my 30th birthday, and then it's, you're not gonna be getting your hair and makeup artist there at seven in the morning, aren't you? Like, come on.

like no one mentioned that this is a wedding, you

Yeah, everyone be quiet, hide the dress. But I saw a few of them say if I turned up at the wedding and it was actually a wedding and they've told me it's a party I'd leave and I do not blame them in the slightest.

then you, the couple would be in bridge for contract. Surely,

Yeah,

if they've signed one, which they probably wouldn't, if they've signed one, they've lied. Well then they'd be well within their right

yeah,

like if they haven't, then they leave. Well, they're, that's their tough shit in it.

exactly.

The end of the day. You should never lie like that anyway. It's not right to do that

Not, is it?

you, if you, if I turned up and someone had said it was a party, it was a wedding or something, like, you don't realize the extra pressure as well.

Yeah.

Like you'd

Yeah. That's what a lot of people were saying.

that sort

Yeah.

you know, there's a

It is just a whole different cat of fish. Exactly. It really is. It really is.

So

So, yeah. Well, well, we'll put that, we'll put them to write. This is why I love the podcast. So like you say, we can, we can put the truth out there.

exactly.

Did you also see this week the story about the woman who bought her, I think it was on vintage she'd bought her dress. She bought her wedding dress and every or somebody had delivered it. It's actually quite sad 'cause they'd delivered it. They'd put it on her doorstep as delivery drivers do. Which fine. I mean, it really annoys me when they don't do that and they're like, you need to go and pick it out from the post office.

post office

Ugh.

literally the post office never open

Yeah, what the, what the hell? I don't even know where the post office is.

Yeah, exactly. What?

And they'd, somebody had unfortunately stolen it from her doorstep. And then I think that, although obviously she got it refunded and stuff, this, it was a particular dress that she'd seen, loved, tried on, but couldn't afford, managed to get it on vintage. So obviously she's probably, it's unrealistic to say that she's ever gonna find it again in her size on vintage.

Yeah. Yeah, sure.

Sad, isn't it? Bless her. But then also it was a bit like, you know, because it's been so hot in the press, it's like, is someone gonna rip open it and be like, oh, screw that. Like what am I gonna do with the wedding dress? Actually, I think I see a, no, I didn't. That was a different storyline. I thought I saw a follow up where it was found where she was like, where it was found in a bush or something, but I think it was something else. But

just don't know

yeah. How sad.

someone's parcels. But if you opened it and it was someone's

Yeah.

like wouldn't you just like

Sure. Well, that's, that's what she wrote in the article, that she's kind of hoping that they'd think, oh God, you know what, actually, and also they are quite hard to sell wedding dresses secondhand. So actually, hopefully they'd be like, well, we can't sell it, or we can't get any money from it, and just return it to the doorstep. But yeah,

It is really

very sad.

I do think it's good that people are like getting secondhand wedding dresses

Yeah.

things, especially vintage. Vintage is

Becoming bigger. Yeah. There's actually a they're called, let me just get up. It's called like ps I wanna say it's called,

oh,

let me just.

specifically for weddings

Yeah, it's purely for wedding dresses. Yeah. And they do you can get rental. You could do rental. Oh, PS bridal rental, it's called. They're really nice girls. They actually did a shoot at the venue I'm getting married at recently. They, it's everything secondhand or, and you, or you could, and you can rent it or you can buy it. And I just think, what a great idea, because you only use it once.

Yeah, exactly. Like I got married, obviously my dress is now stored on top of the wardrobe and I mean, I mean?

You are like, what am I ever gonna do with it? Go. Do you know what, I think this with bridesmaid dresses as well, and actually I've got a couple for sale at the minute on vintage where I've been a bridesmaid. I cannot shift them because obviously it's really hard because actually as somebody who's planning a wedding. You obviously want all your bridesmaids to be in the same color or a similar style. Yeah. So selling them is hard.

never gonna wear 'em, are you?

No.

You probably, I wouldn't even wear 'em out because I'd be like, I, I,

Well no. It's like a full on, yeah. Wedding dress. Yeah. Bryce May's dress. Yeah. Weirdo.

me. I'm just in my wedding

It's. I feel like that we need another, they almost need to do bride may dresses or another business needs to start up this all like secondhand bride may and maybe even they get the colors together. So it's like, oh, these are all one color, these are the sizes, the, do you know what I mean?

something.

Yeah, yeah. Because you are gonna want, obviously somebody's not gonna come on Finit and buy a, or they potentially will, but I haven't had any interest. But if anybody is looking for.

yeah. What's your vintage tag?

I don't even know, is that a thing?

I dunno. So with my wedding dress, like, so we are not having Lily Christen because we're not religious,

Fair.

I thought it'd be nice to try and have it made into the dress for some

Yeah.

for her.

Oh,

the

yes.

like my wedding dress and have it made into something a prom

Yes. While I've seen

in it

there's a woman on TikTok that turns your wedding dress into teddy bears and blankets.

that's cute. Yeah.

I'll see if I can find her later and send it to you.

idea. I'm just well up for this. Like reusing, like,

Yes.

styling, you know,

Hundred percent.

style. It's good, it's good for the environment, but it's also I think you can do something really nice and sentimental with it. Like I

Yeah, a hundred percent

dress and

definitely.

even like give it I mean, could you give your wedding dress to a friend? But I, I dunno if you would. 'cause

No, that's weird.

same

Exactly.

that you wore

No.

something. Borough

We should definitely go into that. Yeah. Similar photos.

one, Anna?

Do you wanna borrow my, I could borrow your dress. I'll take mine back.

it. That's

We should go into that. We'll go into that another week, shall we? About things that you can do that buy, that are secondhand places to buy them from. Yeah, let's do that.

People should know that

Should we go on to the listeners' questions?

So what have we got this week

Do you wanna do the first one, all listeners?

Someone has asked, should we do place cards?

Yes. Yes and yes. I saw this and was like, yes.

otherwise, how does anyone know where they're

no.

Are you you not?

I'm not, so I was actually all controversial. That was very, is it hypocritical of me? Yeah, no, so, right. This is my point. So I am only having, let me just put it out there first. I'm only having 45 people to our, I say I, we are only having 45 people. He keeps saying to me as well, oh, I hear you talking about your wedding on the podcast. Ha. Oops, sorry.

oh, sorry.

I, we are only having 45 people and we're having a barbecue and we're having it so the barbecue gets lit at five o'clock and it, and it, you know, it will go until everybody's in. So there's no specific, we're not having everybody announced to sit down and then we are being announced in. We're not doing that. It's just the Barbie's lit. You can sit in the room, you can sit outside on the grass. You can sit on one of the outside tables, sit where you want, eat. Eat when you want.

Yeah.

If you've got a hundred, 150 people, you need a lot of different various food station points. So four different types of street food or four different stations serving barbecue food. Do you know what I mean? Like so, because otherwise you've got a queue of 150 people is ridiculous. Whereas for mine, it's only gonna be 45 people max. It's,

Yeah.

and people aren't gonna cue.

amount of

Exactly. So that's what I would say. But if you're doing, if you're doing the norm, which majority, 99% of people not necessarily do a sit down meal, but have guests announce to sit down at their place settings, and then they're announced in as bride and groom and they all groom and groom or bride and bride and they sit on their top table. You do then need a place card because,

Yeah. Like

yeah.

they're sitting. I think

Yeah.

or like to be told where they are. I think, I do think that people like that and also

Yeah.

to kind of control where certain people are sitting. So if

Well, yeah, it's very true

you know,

family and Sure.

together or you

Yeah.

I mean? You wanna put certain people on the same table, just think that you can kind of manage that bit better and if that's something that you need to do. So I do think

Yeah.

are

Also massively needed if you're having a three course sit down meal and is plated and being served. 'cause the caterers need to know where your dietaries are.

Yeah,

So what I always ask for is, so place cards and then a plan of where each guest is, sit in if they've got any allergies. So when we go to the table, you know. Haley for example, is gluten-free? We'd, we'd look at the name cards. Yeah. Haley, there you go. Oh, you're gluten-free. Here you go. And there's not,

glue.

hate it when you have to have that conversation of being like, oh yeah, you're good. Or I hate, one of my biggest pet hates is, is when a vegetarian gets meat put in front of them. Like I absolutely hate it.

Yeah.

they have to go, I'm sorry, but I'm vegetarian. I just hate that. No.

I'm actually vegetarian.

Sorry, like, yeah, well they're having to inhale the beef. So yeah, they are very important for like, for catering and stuff, there's a very big difference between formal, in informal seating. We should go into it more in depth another time. But a lot of couples go to me, oh, we're having a really informal day. And then they start going into it and I'm like, hang on, this isn't informal at all. If you're having a load of picnic benches.

it's not gonna work. Plan out. You

No.

like there, there needs to be space for people to like spread out

And to do that. Yeah. Or if you want exact and, and you don't want empty chairs, you need to do place cards. But yeah, let, we'll go into that in more in depth another time.

actually

Yeah.

topic.

Oh, now it's play a time that you can't have, you can do without place cards. Sorry, just hopping back in is you can do, like, for example, say you've got a table of 10, do a table plan with who's sitting on that table and then let 'em sit where they want on the table. You could do that.

just sit

Yeah.

Yeah.

Bay iss annoying for the caterers. You do then need to expect us to go over and go like, Hailey,

the veggie?

hay, hay,

free?

hay Hailey, the gluten free. But if you haven't got many veg, if you haven't got many, like at my wedding, I've got two, like two diet requirements. So, so it's fine.

That's

So yeah.

though. That

Yeah. Next up. We are going to be having our final meeting with our venue. Was wondering if anyone had any advice or tips on what questions to ask, what to prepare or what will be asked. Thank you in advance.

Hmm.

Yeah, I can, I can answer this 'cause this is what I did for 10 years. Venue coordination.

I am. I am

Do you know what, this is very true though, because when I worked in venue, I'd always send an email like. This is all the information like we're booking in your final meeting. This is the kind of information I'm gonna ask you.

Yeah.

But as a planner, now obviously the venue contacts me and I always get the generic email to book the, the men the final meeting, or if it's like an on the day management, the couple will say to me, oh, you know, this is when our final meeting is blah, blah, blah, blah. And the amount of times we do turn up and like they haven't even briefed. Obviously I know what I need, but. That they wouldn't have briefed. I, I had it recently and my couple were like, I'm so glad you were there.

of information they need at that

Ti

Yeah,

dietaries, your,

yeah.

You like you say your timings, your logistics, your, yeah. There's all sorts.

and

Yeah.

little details as well. I found that they,

Yeah.

from me

Is that? Yeah, like what do you wanna be called on the day? Because some people are funny about, they don't wanna be called Mr. And Mrs. Smith because they don't want their dad or mom to know that they're changing their name. 'cause they can be like family politics, you know, who's sitting on the top table, any family politic, all these kind of things. There is a lot. So yes. Sorry just to answer that. So yes, take your final number. I'd say as a minimum, take your final numbers.

Dietary

take. Your dietary requirements. Take it. At this point, you might not have a, you probably won't have a table plan at your final meeting. Ask them when they ask, but ask them when they'll need your table plan.

it. Yeah. You about sort

timings.

ceremony's there, they're gonna wanna know Yeah. Timings, but also like music

Yeah. Well, yeah. It depends if they're controlling it.

Yeah, I

you Yeah. You'll wanna know

PA

your art. Yeah.

that's a

You wanna know what connections. So if they've got a speaker system, which you probably would've asked that before the final meeting.

think a plug

Yeah. How do I bring it? And also, are they gonna control the music or do you need to assign someone to control your music is always very important. Work weather plan. Yeah. Yeah, timings. Who all your important roles on the day? So who your bridesmaids are, who your groomsmen are, who your bride who your bridesmaid did I say bridesmaids? Who, who is the bride? Who your parents are? If you've got parents that are passed away or whatever, you probably wanna let them know.

Yeah, that's true because you go

where did you meet yours?

So I, I went up into the little room on the left.

Yes, you did.

the house? Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

basically.

a lovely room. Yeah.

asked me lots of questions that

yeah, quite.

the answer to.

Quite a few things there. Maybe I should write a blog on this.

That's a good one.

Yeah.

actually I could have done with that information. I mean, to be fair, I had, obviously you came with us to our last meeting anyway,

Yes, I did.

I'd sort of done a

I was there with the info.

and Yeah. And I, I was like, I came prepared.

She came prepared.

with all my

She had her wedding plan.

Yeah,

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that's a

We've done a late one tonight. I'm, I'm, I'm sleepy.

I'm

We're both like, oh,

Oh, I need,

oh, you gotta eat dinner.

Chili Con. I

Oh, nice.

in the

We did, we did. I I've already had my dinner. I had stir fry. It was very nice.

Love

The air fryer. I'm a new air fryer person. I'm driving everyone crazy like this is the best thing ever. Why did I not buy one?

There was a Channel

Yeah,

on air fryers the other

what? I need to watch it.

I mean,

of my best friends, she's had hers for like three years, like before anyone even knew the air fryers were a thing and she's like, oh my God,

my mother-in-law has had an air fryer for years. Ge, genuinely,

even know there was a thing.

has had an air fryer for about 10 years. She was way

What have you seen that you can make Cream egg croons in them?

What? Oh my God. Send me that recipe. I love a C cream egg. I've got

Oh,

cupboard

for me to, oh, I,

time I go down my, hello?

you've gotta have that for dessert, surely.

Oh yeah.

Oh

yeah.

Oh yeah. So fricking expensive though. For one tiny little thing, like it is so small.

it is

Sorry, we're we're

smaller.

about food again. We're talking about food again. But yes, they have got smaller.

Yeah, I have, well.

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