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Yummy. How How are you? How've

I'm good. I'm not bad. If you can hear I'm a bit nasally. I've got a bit of a cold. So the germs have been rife in my household over the last like, month. I'm not gonna lie. I

We had a We had a nasal intro there.

Yeah, was like, um, hello.

Well, It's

So, yeah, I'm a little, uh, a little nasal, but no, I'm good. uh, yeah, trying to, trying to avoid the germs, but it's kind of, I can't, Yeah, Lily's, Lily's got ill, and then I've got ill, we're just getting ill. We're all getting ill.

She we met up at the weekend, didn't we? And I think it's, like, the first time I've ever heard Lily cry.

she was not happy.

weren't loving life, was she? Bless her. Yeah.

was getting, getting ill, so she was grumpy, and she just wanted to be picked up all the time, which is And then, then I tried to heat up some food for her, and it all, it all went so wrong, didn't

Hayley basically thought, oh, she wants some food. So Hayley being, like, the mother earth she is, like, makes her own food, which I think is, like, so cool. And what is it you've, what, how, what is it you do? Do you put it in an ice cream cube tray or

Yeah, so you freeze them in ice cube trays like your little portions And then so you just pop them out and then like defrost them in the microwave when they're ready for for a meal or whatever

lovely. But the, the Costa woman would not do

she wouldn't let me use the microwave

She's like, so, well, one woman's, the, the annoying thing was, I get it, health and safety is a lot of work and catering sometimes, you know, get it, right? But it was the fact that one woman said, yeah, that's fine. I'll do it for you now. And then the other woman was like, no! Like, she was about to kill

shouted from across

like, and then the whole, like, of Costa Coffee, like, all turned, like, Whoa,

and I was like

going on? So yeah, that was, so we eventually got it to defrost in a, in a cup of hot water.

yeah

And then Lily didn't want

Yeah. Turned her nose

nah.

It's grim.

after I just watched you two

yeah, You're fools. Couple of fools. No. Bless her. Oh, but yeah. So she's still a bit poorly, but she's on the mend now, I think. Um, But yeah, just doing uh, figuring out what I need to do on my website. Update

website is a, is a go go. We've just been talking about this before, before the

To

Hayley's getting stressed, I'm like, you need to change this, you need to change that!

stressful. I'm like, I don't know if I can deal with that on a Monday, but no,

Isn't it just long as well? I did what did I do last week? I was updating my portfolio because obviously Donald went into this year, so I want to update my portfolio with stuff I've done. And like, especially when I don't think you do things that often, I'm like, how do I do this again? And then I'm trying to do like one little thing. That's it. Like, The photos, like, I've got three photos side by side, but this one photo was always a centimeter longer than the other two. And I'm like, but why?

Yeah, don't blame me. I hate things like that. I'm not gonna lie. I'm not very technology. It's not my friend. Don't

they just don't make it easy Do they? It's so you go and pay someone to do it for you and then

Absolutely. Yeah. that's why. They're clever like that. Buggers. Yeah, so it's been, it's been a weird week, really, to be honest, with bits and pieces. I've just been updating a few quotes for a couple of. Um, Clients for next year for their weddings. So, I'm sending them off deposits being paid and all that sort of stuff. Tis

Call that jazz. Yeah,

But yeah, yeah, it's been not been too bad. What about you? How's your week

I mean, I've been It's, it's, again.

It's a bit of a lull at the moment, isn't there?

Yeah, it's a weird week, unless you want to hear about my consultations, my site visits, my quotes. It's all just the same boring stuff at the minute. I feel a bit like office claustrophobia already, and I've only, like, been off events for about two weeks.

Oh no. Yeah.

having the weekends off, but I'm very much getting that, like, Friday afternoon, like, It's the weekend! Woohoo! Woohoo! And then Sunday, like, It's Monday where it's like, oh, I'm back in the office and like this week I actually have like five full office days and I'm like, oh, I just, I'm just not used to it. I just, and there's so much that can be done. Like we're just talking about website updates, all the boring stuff, you know, but I just can't face it at the minute. Yeah. Yeah. He

I know. I just, I'm not a big fan of the office work. I'm not going to lie. It has to be done. But it's, it's when you're like a practical, person and you want to like, and you're creative, I think I feel like when I'm sat in the office, just feel like I'm just wasting away, but obviously it's, it is an integral part of the business is, is, you know, making sure your money's coming

it is.

off your invoices. So. Boring, but essential.

is. The thing with my lull at the minute is, I've got like, my planning clients for next year are all like, new. So it's like, I'm either waiting for them, for their like, initial calls. Because there's not a lot I can really do until I've had, like, an in depth call with them, like, to kick start

what they want.

Or it's that, like, I'm waiting on them to do things before I do more things for them, so you don't want to, like, bombard

and don't wanna like, not harass, but you know what I mean.

Yeah, but they're all a bit like, well, my wedding's not till next summer, so, like, they're taking their time. So I feel like I'm at that kind of lull, where it's like, but I like it when I've got, like, I'm in depth planning, like, because my job is obviously, like, very office based. As a planner, but I like it when I'm working on people's weddings, because at the minute I feel like I have a lot of time to spend on the business, which I need to be doing, but I just don't want to do it.

I know it's, I feel like as well, when you're like, if you're like me, I'm, I'm quite money motivated. I love what I do, but I'm like a money motivated person. So I feel like when you're sitting here in like technical, technically what you're doing isn't earning you money sort of thing, because you're kind of like doing updates on your website or whatever. It's not really bringing you an income kind of

but it will if people see your website.

Well, yeah, eventually it will, but like,

got to remember, isn't it? I

yeah, like obviously everything you do like productive stuff towards your business Is good, but it's like yeah, I just feel like I'm not seeing the money coming.

yeah, yeah.

like So it's so it's hard to motivate myself as what I'm saying It's so whereas if you've got a job to go to it's like yes I'm gonna get out but at this time and get there and whatever and

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. And the weather's not helping. I completely missed the whole one hour thing. I'm not gonna lie. Like, I just woke up the next day and

Yeah, same to be

yeah, because everything just changed. Remember back in the day when you used to like, go around and

change all your yeah

Oh, I

phone does it for you now, so you don't even have to like even my watch and

same, yeah. That confroze me a little bit though, because I'm like, has it definitely changed?

I'm not gonna lie to Google has what's the time?

There you go! See? See?

Just in case I was being like

The only thing I had to change was Mitzi Moo's cat feed. So she

of those ones that feeds it like feeds?

Yeah, automatic.

that's clever That Just look at me, I'm like,

down. Because otherwise, she, she's like, there's no lay ins, because She is meowing at you in the face until you feed her. So that's the kind of thing we have to do around here. I did today do not wedding related, but a Christmas party blog. So if anyone's listening and their boss hasn't planned their Christmas party yet, send it over to them. It's got tips on how to make a good Christmas party, some ideas in there, things you can do.

send that to Richard's work, because they've stopped doing the party now. They're just giving everyone a voucher. How boring is that?

Well, this is kind of what kick started it in my brain, because I do do corporate events as well, but I don't really massively advertise that I do corporate, so I need to get a bit better at that. So I thought, well, I'll do some blogs. And Martin's company is American, and they're doing a Christmas party for the Americans, but not for the British people, even though they have an office.

Oh no!

in the UK. So I was a bit like, well, yeah, surely you gotta like, you know, make everyone happy. Yeah, like Richard's work, you can't do that. I

dare you!

mean, give him the 50 voucher and do

And a, and

is what I say in the blog, right, is I don't think you necessarily need to do like, not everyone just wants to go out and get drunk and do a party. Like, you can do like, some sort of team building exercise or like, there's so many things that you

Yeah, last um, I went to a, an office in Milton Keynes and they did all the reef making. That was their Christmas party

There you

a little buffet and snacks and stuff and they loved it. Said it. was really, Said it was really good.

So my question is, when is our Christmas pie?

Oh my God. Yeah. Wanna I come and make a wreath?

yeah, let's get you read Christmas party. so

be the two of us

literally us too. If any listeners want to come.

Yeah. Let us know.

Come along. Nice. Yeah, so that's, that's been my week in a nutshell. I forgot about the clocks going back. I'm on boring admin days. I am going to Wales this weekend though, so I'm very excited for

Oh, that'll be nice. Yeah.

yeah, little trip away. Little, little trip. And November, we're in November in a couple of days

I can't believe it. Where's that time going?

got a lot going on in November.

Yeah, November's busy for me with like reef stuff and Christmas prep and

When do they kick off? When do the reefs start ing?

of November. But I think my first one at the moment's on the 20th of November, so,

Nice. I used to like it when you did the autumn ones.

So I do, I I would still do them, but I guess so much it is so close to, like, when Christmas starts, I don't, I don't wanna like be doing them too close together. But I, I, personally love to do an aut one, like me and my sister-in-law have made one together before. And,

I think you should do them like, end of August, September starts, you know like when people, like the kids are about to go back to school, everyone's like banging on on social media about, I can't wait for pumpkin

yeah.

pumpkin spice lattes,

they're disgusting.

when everyone's like dying to get into autumn, you could do them then.

on it then.

Yeah, because it's still, like, a good, I mean, when do you make your Christmas wreath, like, end of November, start of December? So that's a good, like, gap between

That's not too bad. I can't remember when, because you came to one, didn't you? And

it was October, so that is quite close. Yeah, because I tell you why I know it was close, because my neighbor was like, Oh, it's a couple of weeks too early for Christmas wreaths, and I was like, it's not a Christmas wreath, it's an autumn

autumnal!

Yeah, but I feel like it was getting towards Christmas to the point where people would think it was a Christmas

Ah, okay. Yeah.

I think if you went more like August September time, you know, when people are sick of summer, they're like, I just want to get to the blankets and the jumpers.

I like cosy season, I'm not gonna lie.

Yeah, I don't

I could just hide myself in a jumper, I love it. I'm like, goodbye.

I'm split. I'm very split. There's pros and

do

I don't have a favourite.

the English heat. It's too

No, I don't like, summer's like my least favourite month, but I like, I like spring and, Yeah!

birthday's in December, isn't it? I

It is, yeah. It's coming up, it's coming around quick.

I

it's actually only like, 8, isn't it like 8 weeks or something till Christmas?

probably. Sounds about right, yeah.

Yeah,

That'll go so quick as

I only know because I had my hair done and I was trying to work out when I'd next have it done before

Oh, yeah, everyone's trying to get their hair appointments in. Oh

oh, say that again.

Everyone's trying to get their hair appointments in before Christmas is mad Like I remember when I used to say at the moment I go to my hairdresser's like in a salon But it's kind of she's like gone self employed So she's got like rents a chair in this really nice like barn salon where she used to be in like a barn Like a busy, busier, sat on a high street job sort of thing. And it was a nightmare trying to like, get an appointment. Because everyone's like,

is. You have to do it in advance. That's why I was looking. It's crazy. Do you, hey, do you still drive really far for your hair appointment?

No, so she's actually moved now. I used to go to St. Neots, which is about

Exactly, yeah.

And now I go to Akeley, so it's not far, it's like 20 minutes.

Oh, it's not

that,

Yeah, mine's like over half an hour. It's long.

Yeah. but I would travel, because she's amazing, so

Yeah. Oh, interesting. But yeah, no, that's my week. Not very interesting, But I'll tell you something interesting I did see, and it was this article in the It's like, if you type in like, wedding in the news right now, like, it's all over. This guy basically got caught. I think it was Risa. I think it was like Like, like last, not last weekend, just gone weekend before. Basically got everyone was like reporting the speed and Lamborghini around Manchester.

And his. wedding

Yeah.

Oh my gosh.

police thought they were really funny because the title of it was like, we didn't have any confetti to shower him with. So we showered him with six points instead. I thought

so bad.

cringe, but I'm like,

Cringe!

need more like story behind the story. was

was he speeding? Had he rented a car

This is what I think, and had the company maybe not told him that you don't get insurance, or he was supposed to insure it, like, I don't know, but normally in these packages, it's like, you get all your insurance included, but had they not, like, I need to know, like, the full story.

he borrow it off of a friend or something just so he could turn up to his wedding and he just saw? But what if you're doing that and you're driving without insurance, why the hell would you then go and speed?

Yeah. Also, what, what mate lets you borrow his Lamborghini and not have you insured on it?

it's just stupid.

surely you would say, yeah, that I'll drive you in it.

Yeah. Yeah,

take you to your wedding in the

this story's got a lot of holes.

It's got a lot of holes, but I do get it because a lot of people do. It's actually quite popular. I remember Martin throwing this around like, Oh, I want to turn up to the wedding in a really nice car.

well Richard did. He got a, he borrowed one from work, his work. He got like a brand new

go.

M5 BMW, whatever that is, but it was a nice car.

I mean, I'm just not interested in cars. Also, I made the valid point to Martin is that you're gonna be turning up before all the guests. So what's the point?

It's different if you turn up in one, but then no one sees you anyway, do they? I

Exactly. Did I ever tell you that story about the groom that turned up in the motorbike? With the motorbike. It was like, he did like dirt track bike kind of stuff. So basically I had to get all the guests lined up like we were doing a confetti shot or something. So he was already there but we got all the guests lined up. He then went off. Got on his bike and then he like rode around and like drove down the, the like tunnel of people. It was really cool, actually.

Oh wow,

And then all the guests went in and sat down. It was

that's pretty cool.

It was a logistical nightmare,

I bet it was I can imagine

out waiting to go and I'm like, Wait, wait, wait, cause somebody's not

someone's not here.

and then someone went to the toilet and But yeah, once we did it, it was actually really cool.

That's really cool, I like

Yeah. But yeah, so this groom on his wedding day got six points. That's, shitter, isn't

That is, yeah, he's lucky he didn't get, like, arrested to be honest. Wonder how fast he was going.

Yeah, I don't know if he was going that fast. Do you get arrested for speeding? I don't think you do, do

Well, the no insurance and stuff is pretty, I don't know. Could have been. That would have been even worse, wouldn't it? Jesus.

do some more digging, see if I can get any more info to bring back to you. But I only saw it today. So yeah, but speaking of the press, we've put together some hot off the press, trending in the press stories, haven't we?

Things we've seen online that have captured our attention,

This week.

and we thought we'd bring it to the masses, tell you all about it

So I'm You start you start one of

I'll start. So,

got more than me

oh yeah, so what I saw that I thought was really cute is basically this they, They painted their own plates before the ceremony, so like, before their wedding day, and it was the plates that they ate their Christmas dinner. Not Christmas dinner, sorry.

got Christmas on the brain

god. It was the plates they then ate their wedding breakfast on, so. I thought that was really nice, they like personalised them so I guess like you can go to like pottery places can't you and then you decorate like a plate and you can paint it so they'd like personalise them all with their names and things like that and like I guess you could put like your colour scheme and stuff on there but I just thought that was such a nice little

Yeah, so you sent you sent this to me. I thought it was really cool I feel like it's such like, you know Like we're when we're in the day and age of like we want to personalize our wedding and do these nice things And whatever I actually thought this was a nice Low cost, easy thing to do.

Yeah, I think so. And also I feel like it's a really nice, like you could do it, I dunno, a couple of weeks before your wedding

Yeah. Even a

two go and just have a really nice time and chill out. Like a date night. Yeah. Oh

Cause my my friend actually used to have a pottery business and she used to do these plates and I actually went to one of her classes where you did, where you do them and she used to also do at home kits. So we once did mugs during lockdown. She like would deliver a little kit to your door. And then we sat there one night, like, painting these mugs, and we've still got them. We've got them in our van, actually.

Yeah. It's a nice idea. I think

I thought it was quite cool. I like

it's a non tacky way to personalize stuff as well.

Yeah. I, I dunno if if I would say it's not tacky. It's a little,

Oh, you

if it is a little bit, but if that's what you like. Oh, oh. You know, like the painted plate on the day

I feel like it's your plate in your place

not, aesthetically pleasing, is it? I I would say it's a little bit tack, but

I feel like if it's just yours and your other half's, um, plate,

don't get all the guests doing

you can get all your lovely photos of your tablescapes separately. So only your, yours two plates are like that, but you guys know it. I feel like that's fine. Plus no one's going to see it once the food's on there.

Well, that's the other thing I was going to say, is from a catering point of view, now I'm getting really logistically in depth, is you don't actually have the plate on the table, so you could use it as like a charger almost, and then put your dinner plate on, but otherwise you're gonna have to have them out the back, and then yeah, your gravy's gonna go on it.

Oh, okay. Yeah.

a, and as a caterer, I'd be quite nervous. I'd be a little bit nervous about that because

washing it and it all comes off.

Yeah, someone's going to either drop that plate or put it for the industrial dishwasher and

It's a bit uh, the person, I've always found personalized knives for cutting the cake, cake, cake knives.

Cake knife.

Personalized cake knives a bit of a fad, a bit stupid. Like who gives a shit, you know?

one's, and you're not going to keep it and use it again, really. It's going to be chucked in the drawer.

um, actually I did a wedding last couple of months ago and they had personalized axes.

What?

Must have been like an inside joke, but they had axes on their table,

do with them?

I don't know, but maybe he'd done axe throwing or something. I don't really know. I should have asked. It was a bit, I was a bit like, oh, there's a, there's some axes.

just on the table?

bride and groom had

Unless they cut their cake with it.

Well, yeah, that's what I was just, that's what I was thinking. Maybe they cut their cake with an axe.

be dumb, I've never seen that

I've seen a sword. I've seen a

Yeah, sword is, yeah, that's

That's quite that's quite common but. Yeah. never

an axe. You should have asked them. I want to know

Imagine! HWAA!

Email them. Email them later and ask them what did you use that axe for? Maybe they did do some axe throwing. Maybe they put up a picture of each other and was like, let's get out the pre wedded anger, start the weddin afresh, throw an axe at each other's head. Like, not their actual heads, like the picture.

the pictures, jokes.

Yeah, so, right, so I feel like we should give them a little, are we, are we saying a yay or a nay to that? Like, I'm, I'm gonna go yay. I think that's quite a nice little thing to do, a little touch.

I thought it was a nice idea,

gonna go we like.

especially also if you've got a, like, say if you've got young kids and they're at your wedding, like, you could do one for them as well. Like, I

Oh, now you're taking it too

you could do it. Gosh, you could do it for your, your mum, your

No, No, I'm leaving it at just the couple. None of this put it in your invitation that you've got to go to a pottery studio and get a plate made for you, otherwise you ain't getting your dinner. Just the couple, I'm happy with that.

about glass charms? Uh,

Right, just move on, move on, move on.

dear. Anyway, yeah, so we're saying yes.

We'll say yes to that, we'll say

Cool. On the, on the subject of wedding cake, I saw this couple, and they had a piñata, rather than cutting their cake, or doing a cake cutting, ceremonious thing or whatever, they had a piñata of a cake, and they both smashing it on the dance floor, and then it just spilled out sweets everywhere for all the guests to just come and grab.

So I've seen these because I did a wedding last month that he was Mexican and they had an after party and they wanted, they did, they, we kind of brought the Mexican vibe in, in, in like touches. In the day, but then they were like in the evening, let's go all out tacky Mexican and have the pinata.

I really like that. I actually

actually quite like that.

cool. I was like, you know what? I am. I

Especially if you've got like a cool, you know, like a venue that's like a courtyard kind of vibe or you know Where you've got like a balcony around the top and you can like hang it down really low from like really up high And then everyone's like all gathered around like

I just feel like that'd be

pinata The only thing that happens at that Wedding that I did last month was, one of the piñatas, we got two, but because the couple went back to the hotel before going to the after party, the guests had already smashed them. So I feel like you need to get it set up just before you're gonna do it. Like, don't have it set up all evening because they're gonna get

people just attack.

What, and then there's the idea that you just, the, the, like, the sweets and stuff. I don't, I don't know about that bit. Like,

What, sweets?

don't know about the sweets, but they're gonna have to be in like, packets, aren't they? Because then what, you can have like, loose haribo on the floor.

yeah, no, you know, I mean like individually wrapped sweets. You know, like a little miniature pack of

Yeah, but I don't, I'm not a fan of them.

what, you'd have whatever you wanted though.

Yeah, I suppose. You could have like, your lindor.

Oh. Yeah, but they'd get

They're in a wrap. But yeah, that's the thing, and everyone's then standing on

now, now you ask a good question, what would you

So what would you actually, what about like, mini cake wrapped sample?

are they? Yeah,

that would get

it's too much too. I should try

Because you, are you saying that it's an alternative two way wedding cake? So it needs to be something sweet. Is that what you're saying? Instead of having cake?

I just think because it's a cake shape. It was cake shaped pinata So I guess they did it as like a instead of doing a wedding cake like they're not bothered about cake I just thought it was a nice twist on the so you could have anything in there. But what would you have instead?

I dunno, but I'm not a fan of them little miniature They just remind me of Trick or Treatin The little Haribo pack. You know, and the sweets are really small.

yeah. You're like, what is this all I get?

heh. I want a full

One mouthful and it's done.

Ha ha ha I don't know. I'm gonna have to I'll have to ponder

Oh, just a classic love hearts. Everyone loves those at a wedding. They can all be personalized. You know you get the personalized love hearts. I'm not a fan. but I'm just trying to

you could just do it. I think if you're doing it alongside your cake It don't really matter but if you don't but I feel like you want something good in there like listeners

you are gonna like whack it, like seriously, like pumble, this pinata.

Yeah, so you can't

Then you? don't want cake in it or chocolate. 'cause it will just get smushed. Surely

Yeah But I feel like it's got to be something because I feel like that would be quite cool to see at a wedding and then if They smash it open and I'm getting a 5p bag of haribo Well, I'm gonna be disappointed. Like, something good needs to be coming out of that. So, listeners, if you've been to a wedding where there's a piñata, or you've seen anything on TikTok or seen anything cool, let us know, because I want, I want something good coming out of this. What about drinks tokens?

Oh, that's a good idea.

get a free drink at the bar. People would fight over yeah, but again, that's crap. I want something good coming

Yeah.

Everyone would be fighting for those drink tokens, wouldn't they? Imagine that, that would be fun.

Yeah, that's a good idea. That's, that's for the adults.

they'd smash. I want some sort of like luxury chocolate, something good like cake,

Lindo cake sample.

What about, like, cake pops? They're quite hardcore. You know, they're chunky. Like, they've got a good old crack on the chocolate.

they do. I don't know.

I feel like a drinks

cake. Yeah, that's a good idea there. I like the idea of the drinks token. Good, good shout

We've sussed it.

just given you all a good idea.

So I'm going to come in with one that I actually don't like. This is a nay for me. So I'm, sorry, going back. I'm going yay

Yeah, I agree. I liked

quite, I'm liking it. I'm like, again, quite a low cost thing.

Yeah, it'd be cheaper than a wedding cake anyway.

well, Yeah. that's true. Also going back to that, unless you're doing a drinks token, cause then you go have a bar tab at the end we, the ones that we bought, you can literally buy them from this pinata website and then you just fill them yourselves with whatever you want to fill them with. So yeah, if anyone's wondering how it works, that's how it works. Yeah, so. I'm bringing to you a post that I saw this week and it was a couple who had a temporary tattoo station at their wedding.

I have seen this a few times. Yeah, I Have No, I haven't. Yeah, and I just, I don't like it, to be honest with

No, it just screams five year old birthday

Yeah, and I've seen one where they're doing actual tattoos.

Oh, okay.

where people are like, have a, like, we'll pay for everyone to have a little tattoo at a wedding.

I think I have seen that.

But the temporary I

the real ones, don't know if it's too far. I don't know if I

I feel like it's way too expensive and why,

Really expensive. And, but I, the henna, all for a henna station. Love it.

Oh yeah,

Love a henna, but a temporary one where you get like literally the video is them like they're cut So basically they've just got this little state. It's basically a small table which says Tattoo station and then you go over and there's a bowl with like, you know when you cut them when you're kids

Oh no.

cut them out and then you put them on your skin and then you put

water Oh

it and then peel it off And then they're like personalized like with the

taken me. and also, I hate them. They take so long to get off.

yeah, they're

I, I hate them. I got 'em. I got loads of 'em stuck on me at my head. Do pictures of Richard's face, do you remember? Face Swap on the Snapchat.

No.

Where you could like, not swap your face, but you'd like, merge. I'm pretty sure, so it was basically me, but Richard's face on

What?! The hell? What, and they made these into tattoos that your hen

And we did this one picture, and it's so funny. Richard looks so funny. He actually looks like a woman. He looks like, it looks like

What? I

It's so good, like where it swapped the face. And we have laughed about it for years. And my friend had it made into a temporary tattoo for my hen do. Stuck them all over me. So, which was hilarious, but for Hendy, funny, but I was covered in them, like, it took me days to get them off. I was scrubbing away, using a nail brush on my skin like, so I just, yeah, I was just gored. So,

yeah, I'm not a fan of the wedding.

wedding. it's a bit, lowers the tone a

It actually offended my eyes a

it?

were very mixed. Some people were like, we're literally like, that is literally a kid's, what you'd have at a kid's birthday party. And some people were like, tagging people like, oh my god, this is a really good idea, you could have this at your wedding. And I'm just like, sorry, but how far have we gone now?

they needed to do was get a bloody party bag. A party bag would probably

a bit of cake

tasteful or something. So alright, basically what we need is a piñata, party bags and temporary tattoos. We've basically got a kids party going on. Not

just, I forgot about party bags.

freaking loved a party bag. They were always filled with shit. I was always

Yeah, but when you're a kid you don't care.

I was a bit of a snob though. I was like,

Or which year was your party bag

I was like, ugh, look at this cake, it's crap. Dry.

remember going to that many kids parties. Like, my nieces and nephews and stuff now, like, when they were little, and, you know, when you listen to, like, other podcasts who have got kids, like, their kids are always at

applies.

I can't remember being at that many parties.

Also, from what I've heard, there's like a massive thing where people just feel like they've got to spend loads of money on their kids parties. And like, it's just getting more and more expensive. I was like, why?

that.

I'm not, what do you have to give, why do you though? Sorry, but who?

And there's like this whole comparison thing I've heard, like, about the party bags. So like, parents are like, ooh, my party bags are so much better than them.

I'll be like, good for you, if you spent all your money, good for you, my kids get to come and enjoy your party bag, and they come to mine and I'm like, fuck all.

I'd do a 90s theme and do everything. I'd do like 90s music, 90s outfits, and then the party bags, a 90s vibe. And the buffet, like,

Oh my god,

rolls. Like, well, that's the

hedgehog with the cheese and pineapple hedgehog.

Yes! And you can just be like, well, that's the theme. You could do this for a no. I was about to say you could do this for a wedding. No, I'm just totally taking that

I'd be up for it to be fair.

Nine E's for as long as you can theme it as Nine E's, you can get away with doing all the cheap, tacky crap.

true. true.

Okay, so we're going no on the temporary tattoos. Please, no.

it's a no.

If anybody here is planning a temporary tattoo station at their wedding, please just cut that out of the plan.

Don't do it.

It's usually temporary tattoos that you've already bought at the Hendoo and yeah.

Leave it at that.

Yeah, leave her that, leave her that.

That's funny.

Any more?

Yeah, so I actually saw this one which I was quite a fan of I suppose because it was flower related. Basically, it was like a confetti station. So, it was a, like a, they called it a flower shower corner. And they had baskets of different, so like, eucalyptus leaves, dried, like rose petals, loads and loads of stuff. stuff. And then people like guests would come over with their cone and like pick a few bits of everything and then they'll wait for the confetti throw.

my thought.

You need a lot, either

really unsure here. I feel like, again, it's like a nice idea if you want to do something different but why are we feeling so much pressure to do something different? And then the other side of me is like, logistically, Because what I always encourage people to do is just have someone stood at the door as everybody leaves the ceremony with a big basket and people take a handful. And that is what majority of my couples do because it's just easier.

Yeah,

And if people aren't that arsed and then, and then I just feel like it would be my job on the day to go around and be like guys, have you been to the confetti station? You need to get your confetti. And then do you do that before the ceremony? And then, like, people have got to sit there then with a confetti cone in their hands. And if you've got kids, they will have already thrown it in the air.

That's true. That's true. I, yeah,

no. I'm going

like it would, it's a nice idea, but it, it probably wouldn't be very good when you actually did it in real life, if you see what I mean. Like,

I can also imagine, you'll tell me if I'm wrong here, but I can imagine that's not very cost effective either. I can't imagine it's gonna be, like, a low cost thing to do, like, by the time you've had the, what is it you called it, the flower shower

flower shower corner

oh, Jesus,

And also,

for a tenner from Ikea

well that's it. you've also got to buy like, a few florists have got to break everything up for you and put it into baskets so, I

I am loving, I had a a wedding this year, actually, where the, one of the neighbors had a rosebush and, like, basically, Pulled all their roses off this bush, put them all in a big basket for them, and was like, Oh, I've just done it as a little gift. They weren't going to the wedding or anything, but they were like, we've just done it as a little gift, like, we've popped it the basket in the church because they would get married at the local

Yeah, oh that's nice,

and I kid you not, it smelled incredible.

god, garden roses are my favourite. They're so lush.

I'm like, gee, make, make some of your own. If you've got a nice rose bush,

oh that's really

Or your parents have or something. You could dry it out, or they, they were just fresh, you just picked them on the morning of the wedding. But you could even dry them out, like, how long does it take to dry them out?

Well, not very long to be honest, but I mean, you need to make sure you do it without them going mouldy and stuff, to be fair. It's not as easy as like,

it not? Is there a process to it to stop them going mouldy? Like, how do you get that proper, like, dried leave effect?

maybe we should make it our mission then. Next spring, we'll grow some roses, we'll try and dry them out, and we will report back.

Yeah, I'd love to be able to do it properly because I get so many like, like sometimes I get leftovers and things like that for a wedding, so it'd be nice to be able to dry some and like make them into confetti. That'd be like really good environmentally and also like, Yeah, it'd be nice.

Nice! Should we go on to the listeners questions and messages?

Yes.

Fab, do you want to go first? Oh,

So I've got one here. So, hello ladies. Congrats to all the beautiful brides who got married this weekend, myself included. I had an incredible day and honestly at first it didn't even faze me, but the photographer I booked just no showed. Well, if it didn't phase you, you're a better woman than me, because I would have been, I would have been absolutely Fuming. yeah. I hired her from 11am to 7pm, but by 11. 30 I hadn't heard a word. I tried calling and texting with no response.

would say like, the main, the big point here that she hasn't even mentioned is the fact that regardless if nobody noticed or if it didn't bother you or refunds, whatever, you're never, or that you've, you know, booked a specific garden, you're never gonna get that day back.

yeah, exactly. It's bad, isn't it? That's terrible.

would I'd be genuinely really

Yeah, I would

never gonna, like,

The whole point of a photographer is to capture the day, so you've got those memories. Like, I just, yeah, absolutely terrible.

would, I mean, this is just me, I would have found out where she lives and driven there

Yeah. Ha ha ha! Oh

in terms of advice, like, I would just put that all into an email. Like, but like as an attachment and then I would go down the route of going to citizens advice, getting a template to say that you'll take a small claims court or something and just say you expect the money back within. I just, all I'm going to say is by the way, listeners don't let this freak you out because I've worked for the industry for 15 years. I've never, ever, ever heard of

No. this. is horrendous. This is really bad. I just feel like, this photographer can't be I just, I've never heard of it. You know, they're like a small, like a really like, just doing it occasionally, hobbyist. I just think it's awful. It's terrible. It's like the,

even if it's a scam, right, they, they, they would have changed their number or blocked

yeah.

And if it's just that,

And the fact that they were posting on their Instagram that they're meant to be at someone's wedding, it's like Awful.

do you reckon she's just completely forgot?

Maybe. Also, 7 14 days for a refund is really bad because you don't need that long, you just send it by

She obviously ain't got the

Yeah, so something dodgy.

out what's happened here, because if you forgot, surely if this bride's ringing her at half eleven, surely you wouldn't just make the

like you need

mind, like, oh, I'm

toI'm just not gonna go. You would, you would get there as soon as you could if you'd forgotten. Especially a photographer, like you just gotta pack up all your like, you know, your cameras and stuff. It's not like you need to set anything up specifically. You could just like, rock up with your stuff and just do what you could, couldn't you?

I'd be interesting to see where she's put, Oh, you know, she tried to get out an excuse. Like, was it,

Yeah.

emergency life or death situation, someone been in an accident. But in that scenario, again, like you've got big networks in the industry. You would just go on. I, in that situation, I would be straight on a Facebook group. Like guys, I cannot get to this wedding. Is anyone local that can just go. And just crack

do it.

me and just please speak to the bride and say this X has happened to me, you know, like if you're in hospital or something, if a family member or something is in hospital again, but at the end of the day, I just think, I don't know. It's really hard. I wouldn't know until I've been in that

No, and I just I just feel like if you really felt like you couldn't be there I feel like when I had my wedding the photographer had it in a contract that she would know it's somebody else on standby

in my contract that I would replace. I'd make sure somebody, I could never just fully let somebody down on their day. Never. I could, I could say I would send somebody else,

Oh, yeah. Yeah, like

not have a photographer at

awful. It's that's Honestly, it's

don't even know what else to say in terms of, yeah, compensation and stuff

Well, how are they gonna compensate you for the fact that you can't get your day back and

Yeah, You can't.

It's horrendous. I would, I would

give them all the bad

Yeah, I was gonna say I would leave some seriously bad reviews.

and just be writing on all the Facebook groups to be like, if you've booked this person, like,

don't use

unless it is a legit reason.

I feel like even if you have a legit reason, that you would put other things in place to,

Yeah, or at least

someone else, or let them know what's going on, you would just ignore them and not show up.

don't even, I'm literally baffled. I don't, all, the only advice I can give you is to, yeah, bad reviews, threaten with small claims court. If you also don't get that, I actually feel a bit like, is she actually going to get a refund? I would do the small claims court

I would just go straight in with a really like, yeah, stern email, just, As

if you need any advice, speak to Hailey because she makes, she writes some

per my previous email.

Yeah, what the hell? sorry about that. I'm so sorry to hear that. Like I say,

you. At least she says it hasn't affected their day. They still had a lovely day. That's,

yeah, I'm glad about that because I would be

yeah, yeah.

cause that was one of the biggest things I was excited, sorry to the listener if you, if you're now like, oh no, actually, but yeah, I, I, yeah, that would really upset me because that was one of the biggest things I would be excited for. Yeah, okay next up.

I feel like sometimes it is normal for a wedding supplier not to have a contract. if you're like using a small business, but I, I feel like if they're not gonna have a contract, because at the end of the day it protects them as much as it protects the kids. the customer. I mean, when I first started, I didn't have a contract for a good year, to be fair. And I I got a lot of work. I feel like you should have one, but I feel like we just, it depends.

I don't think necessarily like, yeah, like a signed, printed off, signed the contract contract situation, but I think you would have to have at least an invoice with terms and conditions written on

Oh, okay. Yes. So I always had that. Yeah, Yeah.

your terms, but if you're not getting any of that and it's literally like, Oh, here's my bank details. Send me some money. Like I, I would feel a bit uneasy

yeah, no, that's fair.

Something.

still was something that would protect me and also the customer because I

because actually, let's put it in perspective, the listener before that wrote in,

Wow, yeah,

of thing you need in your contract, like, what happens if they're sick? Like, like, especially if hair and makeup, like, what, like, would they just let you down on the day? Like, what do they do? Like, we, me and Hayley have just said, like, like, I've just said in my contract, it's that I would send somebody else if, in case of sickness.

if you're ill or something, yeah, exactly,

Yeah,

you need, you really need that, yeah,

if you cancel, like when, when's your final payment due? Like I'd say some sort of terms and conditions, even if it's just on their website, that they've got a terms and conditions link. And then it's like, once you've paid your deposit and then maybe make sure you've got in an email to confirm that they have confirmed the booking. And, you know, cause I don't think, thinking back, I don't think I signed a contract for my, for my book.

think, I think it was the same for mine as well, I don't remember.

But I feel like there needs to be some sort of like professional process.

Yes. Yeah.

a lot of hair and makeup artists I work with, it's like you click a link, so you click this to confirm and it's then booked kind of thing. I know their terms and conditions are all linked

Yeah, that's true. Yeah. It's all like, I don't know. I was thinking more like a written out contract, but like you say, you don't really need necessarily need that, but you need some kind of wording there at some point.

I mean, it's quite rare now that people do a contract where you print it off and sign it because who the hell has a printer

Yeah. You should do it all online, isn't it?

Yeah, so a lot of people use platforms, photographers especially, where they have all like their questionnaire, their details on it, so you literally just click on that, do like, type in your name and it's done, it's signed. But yeah, I, I would feel a bit wary about that if I'm honest.

Yeah. I would.

But maybe just have the conversation to say, look, it's making me feel a little bit uneasy. Not at ease that you don't

Yeah. Cause I could do one for them. They could do one. They could put one together. Yeah. Like what are your,

yeah, those cost money, don't it? I suppose, which is maybe why she's not got one, but she might say, Oh, but I've got these terms and conditions and I can put in an email that as per the terms and conditions, your deposit covers that.

Yeah.

what I would say. Paying a deposit is basically like signing a.

Well, yeah, that's it. Yeah, exactly. I'm sure it would all stand up if something happened like you needed to take him to Not that you'd want to, but you know what I mean?

yeah, yeah,

Take him to court or something.

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