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Yeah, so my week, I got married.
Yeah! Ha ha
don't know what happened yet, so I can't tell you.
I'm from the past.
I am currently still Miss Rose.
Oh,
yeah. It's exciting, isn't it?
exciting. It's
I'm still, still feel a little bit str Although, actually, the last podcast record's made me feel a bit calmer. So, there you go. It helped. How has your week been? Hahaha! How nice!
so Richard actually took some time off. So we've been we've been spending some time together with
Mm hmm.
We've,
Nice.
we've been going to some national trust places. So we actually good idea for people for like a Christmas present, get some on a national trust membership.
say, do you have one of them? My mum's got one of them. Yeah.
mum and dad bought it for me and Richard for Christmas, so
Nice.
we could take her for lots of walks and things. Because actually the amount of money you save is so much worth, it's so worth it, like
Yeah.
places is like 30 quid.
Oh yeah, they're insane. And my mum always says about it, but I'm like, I don't really go to them enough. But yeah, if you do, then yeah, definitely.
that came in the post so like basically we're just going through it and like working our way I mean, there's there's like thousands of places all over the
Yeah.
It's it's nice like with we've we've gone out. We've been to Henley on Thames
Nice. Aw,
So
out and about. Oh.
yeah, we've been getting around so It's been really good getting around
And the weather's been a bit better, hasn't it? Yesterday was terrible, but the couple of days before that was nice.
yeah, we
Yeah.
But it actually got me thinking. So, obviously, and you will know, going to lots of different wedding venues,
Yeah.
you end up going to some really nice places.
Stunt, yeah.
saying to me that I should do, like, a diary and,
Yes.
write in there the places I've been and, like, Put it all in a diary so I can look
Yeah.
come when I'm old and grey.
always say this, like, we actually bought a book for the van, because obviously, like, for example, we went to Italy, we were in Italy for a month, and we were just, like, in different places, like, every couple of days, and if you asked me, like, where those places were, I wouldn't have a clue, and he's like, we should really keep note, but you just forget, don't ya? I don't know. Yeah.
if someone asked me where you went I couldn't remember but yeah, at the time I was like, Wow, these places are amazing.
exactly, yeah. And you know when people say to you like, Oh, I'm going here, have you got any, like, recommendations? You're like, Oh yeah, I've been there, but no, I can't remember where.
can't remember.
Yeah.
me thinking, what is the Your favorite or the most amazing place that you've done a wedding.
Ooh.
or is it too hard to answer that question?
It's a really hard one. And also, it's like, well, what kind of vibe? Like, because we do, like, stately homes, we do markets, so I love doing, like, I love going. A lot of what we do is, like, at home weddings. So whether it's parents land or their land that we go to, and some of the houses we go to are just stunning. In, like, tiny little villages, and you're just like, oh, so nice.
But I would also have to put your venue up there, Stowe House, I just think it's beautiful, oh it's just stunning, so historical, it's like on our doorsteps really.
it? When you're going up the
Yeah.
Wow
And actually, Northamptonshire is probably one of the best places for like stately homes, like there's some stunning stately homes. I know Stowe House is Buckinghamshire, but Northamptonshire has just got so many lovely stately homes. But yeah, we've done some like beautiful places like Oxford and Cambridge especially like the main churches in Oxford and Cambridge are just absolutely beautiful. Oh, Bodleian Libraries has got to be up there for me, in Oxford. So I'd say like
I've
Yeah, oh, it's beautiful. You need to go. Honestly, it's so nice. And also Harry Potter, bits of Harry Potter from the restricted section were filmed there. So, I like, I like that. I'm a big, big, big HP fan, me. So,
so's Richard, big time.
Yeah, but then we've done like weddings on the Thames with like at home like in gardens, which is beautiful So I suppose it depends on like the scenery and what kind of vibe you want because I also love Like a really luxury hotel and I love walking into them
Yeah,
the beautiful ballrooms. Yeah, just love I love places like that
Lovely.
I don't have like one particular I would say is at the top Yeah
to think myself, in case you ask me back,
Yeah, what's your answer?
I've done
You just threw yourself under the bus there, didn't ya? And you're like, oh, cut this!
need about ten hours to wrap my
She's like, I'm gonna pick my own. Well, actually, my venue is very, like, historical as well. So I just, I feel like I love anything with history that's, like, historical building. Anything that's, like, owned by, like, historic houses, historic palaces. Beautiful.
your thing. Yeah. Amazing. Yeah.
let's give us yours. She's gonna say her own wedding venue.
honestly, I actually, I'm the same. Every place I go to, I'm like, wow, this is
Yeah.
And then I think, oh, this is my favorite. But then another one comes along, but yeah, obviously I would say Stowe's like up there cause I got
Yeah. And I think it is.
but it is
They all Yeah.
saloon, the main hall, it's got this incredible domed ceiling and
Oh, it's insane. Marbled
it's
Hall. Oh. Beautiful.
you
It does. And going out the back, on the what do they call it again? The back? The side? The portico. That's it. That, oh, the views are insane. So good. Yeah, I do love it there. But then I think you have like different pros and cons of different venues. Like I love going to Cal Marshall in Northamptonshire because you get complete exclusive hire. So when you go there you get to use it the day before and on the day and it's just you there, which I love like that.
So it feels like your house for the day almost. So I like that kind of vibe as well. Whereas, you know, somewhere Alex do is, oh, okay. Yeah, no, I haven't been there. It's that like a barn kind of vibe.
like a Yeah, it's it's got like a main house as well Which is
Oh, okay.
and then
Yeah.
they've it's just the way they've maintained all the grounds and everything I feel like if the place really maintains the area
Yeah.
it
Makes a difference.
grand house
Yeah.
like just maintain the place Honestly, I know it sounds like such a Simple thing that should be done, but you'd be
Mm.
that not everyone does it.
No.
So yeah, that can just make all the difference
Yeah, I love that. Nice. Okay, cool. So we're going into my final month of wedding prep. So we did our final meeting with our venue yesterday ready for the wedding. which was really good.
And I think it was good for my other half as well, like to sit down and go through it because, you know, You know, it's different when you go in front of other people, to me, rambling on, he's probably just like, zones out, but yeah, so that was good, but I think one of my biggest things at the minute, that I just, it's hard to kind of relinquish control on, like, well, you can't control it, is the weather, so we're looking at, we've got a wet weather plan, But now it's like, is that just the
wet weather plan or is it like the cold weather plan? Because a lot of our day is outside and I think I'd kind of made a joke at the honey, at the honeymoon, at the hen do, saying you know, make you know, make sure you bring your beer coats in the evening because it's outside. And everyone was like, well, Oh, we're going to be really cold. And then I was like, Oh, then I thought about it. Then I mentioned it again, them to them like, Oh, I'm a bit worried about it now.
And they're like, Oh no, it'd be fine. Like, you know. So I don't know whether to just say to people, like You know, and what, and what temperature do you do? It's really funny because obviously I do outside Yeah, it's so hard because I'm probably overthinking it because I do outside Weddings like a lot, right? And, and marquee weddings, and I am trying to think back to like What was the temperature like at a wedding that I've done at Endermere in a marquee? Did I have to put a coat on?
Did I, because you know, sometimes you do a marquee wedding and you like, in the evening, if you know you're working, you'll take like a hot water bottle and a thick coat and stuff because you're cold. But then normally the guests are fine because they're like jumping around and dancing and drinking.
it and
So yeah, I'm a bit, but I can't remember, I don't know what the temperature was. Like, I can't remember. And it's just yeah, so things like that. And it all boils down to the week before. It's like, the week of the wedding will make that decision.
wait. That
Yeah.
stressful. And I think that
It is.
when you get married in
Yeah, it does. Well, even abroad though. Even abroad.
you just with
You just don't know.
you can't control it. Like you say, it's
No.
thing that is completely out of your hands. So
Yeah, I mean, look at, like, what was happening in Dubai at the minute, like, insane. And, and, like we, when we went to Italy, actually, when before, we were chatting to this couple, and they were saying, the day before, the weather was horrific. It was, like, our first day there, and the weather was horrific. And we was, we were chatting to this couple, and they were like, Oh, yeah, we're actually here.
For a wedding, and unfortunately, the day that we were chatting to them, it was stunning weather, really hot. And they were like, their wedding was yesterday, and I was like, no.
no. Yeah,
the day of their wedding was awful weather, but then the next day was lovely. So you just don't know, and I think at the minute, it's just like, putting the plan in the place.
Or anything like that?
so that was, that was a part of the discussion yesterday, was we could look into blankets, but then I also don't want people to sit in there in a blanket. You know? And we do, don't get me wrong, there is an inside area with a fire. This is the thing, right? So the inside, there's a lovely fireplace. So that'll be going. Yes, we're going to expect the nans and the mums to be in there. Fine.
will be out getting
Yeah, but I don't want other people, what about if then other people go in there? Yeah, what about if other people are like, I'm staying out there, I'm going to go in here where the fire is. But we have got a fire pit outside.
I don't think you have to worry, honestly. I think people absolutely love the novelty of it,
Yeah.
honest
And that's the thing, is I want to keep outside because I love like, there's going to be all the lights out there and it's just going to be cool.
yeah, don't forget that people follow what the bride and groom do on the
Well, yeah, true, and I'll be out there.
time, everyone's going to be outside with you, so don't worry about it.
I'll just put my coat
want to
on.
with granny in the fire, that's up to them, but we'll
I'll put my sleeping bag coat on. You know, the one to the floor. The thick one.
Nah,
around in that. Yeah, no. I probably am overthinking it, but Yeah, and, you know, blankets is just like another thing to buy, and another thing that I'm never gonna use again.
it's just a
And, and like I say, I don't want people just sitting around wrapped in a blanket, like,
No.
like if I could just send an email around saying to people, like, the outdoor, it is outside, well just spread the word, like, just bring a jacket. Yeah, yeah, I've got everyone's email addresses, we'll just spread the word, you know.
Spread the word.
of our guests are probably in a group chat with on WhatsApp. I can just say, guys, the out, the evening is outside, make sure you bring a coat, so. Yeah, I've actually got a really nice like pale pink fluffy coat that would be like a bit more of a formal coat I could wear something like that.
Yeah.
Yeah, screw it. As long as I'm out dancing, who cares? I
half jackets sometimes winter brides wear? You know,
know, yeah.
I hate
no, no, no, I'm not a,
reminds me of being like 12 years old and my nan would be like, wear a
Ha! Oh, dear. Dear, oh, dear. I also
my god.
got to pick up my dresses this week, which is so exciting. I also saw this little thing, I think it was on Instagram, and got my seamstress to do it, but she made me a scrunchie out of the off cut.
Oh yeah, that's
so I think someone sent it to me on Instagram. So, yeah, she did that, which was really nice. And actually, when we were there, she was a bit like, she's just amazing. Lisa Lyons, she's called. You know, you used Lisa. Yeah.
my
She's ba Harpenden she's in, on the high street at Harpenden. She's got a lovely little room that you go into. And yeah, she was like, Oh, I actually need to take a little bit more off your hip. And she just did it there and then, like, it's just so good.
Snip, snip, snip.
And she added these little straps to it for me that I wanted. And they were just like, even nicer than what I had in my head. They were just like, so much nicer. And yeah, just like, nice to have them back. And they fit really well.
That is so exciting. I remember picking my dress up and it was just. the best feeling, like,
Yeah,
like, It's happening! It
yeah, I need to mine is still in the car. I need to get them.
Oh my god!
I just kind of left them there. Yeah, I just left them there, you know. They're laid down, like, in the bags. They're probably best there because I'm living in a house renovation. So,
so that's just reminding me actually, so I did a wedding a few years ago now, at a hotel in Dunstable, I can't remember what it's called, but it's on the way out, it's quite a nice place And the bride had had her dress hanging up, because obviously she was getting ready there the night before.
Yeah.
And I stayed and hung around and had a coffee, like, down in the restaurant until she was ready to go, so I could get some photos of her getting into,
Nice. Yeah.
got, like, one of those old London buses.
Nice, love.
Love that. So there she is. We're taking photos. She looks amazing. Wow, her dress is incredible. And I'm not joking, this spider, this massive, massive tarantula like spider, like a big house spider, ran out from under her, in her dress. It had been in her dress.
And that's like, black on white.
It had been
like,
ran
you can really see it. Ah.
bullshitting, this is on God's honest truth, right? This spider ran across the road. Actually, it was so big it got run over you could see it in the road. I literally was looking,
I
took a photo of it and sent it to Richard like,
feel like I need to see this photo. Like, what the hell? What, it literally ran across the road.
road, it was that big. I could still see it dead in the
Did she panic?
Yeah, everyone was screaming, especially
Oh my.
I was like, so
Yeah, me too. I'd freak out. And then I'd feel weird. I'd be like, is there more on me? I need to get the dress off. Get the dress off me! I'd be naked in the street.
ripped it off of me and
Yeah.
ruin my whole wedding. I'm like that. I hate them that much. I would do that. So I probably jumped into the oncoming traffic to get away from it to be fair.
God.
so it just reminded me because I remember hanging my dress up at my mom and dad's before I obviously, I didn't want to bring it home. Before my wedding
Yeah.
and and I was just panicking that because our house is quite old and It's prone to house fires. I just kept thinking of this
You're like, no, don't want it in. Yeah.
I
not keep your dress in your house as well or something? I don't really know. There's some
just took
sort of,
Yeah, I didn't want I didn't have anywhere at home to hang it without Richard
Yeah.
I didn't want to get creased So I hung it hung it and mum and dad's literally from they've got like a big Spotlight bar in the spare room. So I literally hung it
Hung it from there.
the ceiling the whole
Nice.
it
that. Yeah, mine are just in the suit carriers. And they said just leave it in there until the day before. But yeah. Yeah, so that's and then one thing I want to little highlight is, uh, just be prepared the month before. I know it's really annoying that it's a month before and they should probably be having these conversations beforehand, but family dramas will pick up.
Oh,
thing I've learned. And do you know what I would say is being, as, having, being a bride is really important. I would say it's really helped me even more as a wedding planner like to realise stresses that and actually you know, you know, wedding planners, as a wedding planner, we say we take the stress away but actually there's a lot of stress that you can't control. There's a lot of stress that you can't handle.
and
Yeah, that we have no control over. Yeah. And, and actually you can't take that away from somebody and it's easy for people to say, Oh, don't worry about that. You shouldn't worry about that. And, you know, you've got to do, and we say this a lot on the podcast, you've got to do what you want to do and, you know, and, and maybe I'll, you know, discuss it a little bit more in depth after the wedding. But I think what I've done is really stayed true to what I believe in and what I want to do.
And what Martin wants to do. And yeah, it has, it's probably caused issues and not issues that we really want to be dealing with four weeks before the wedding. But, it kind of is what it is and I think the only thing I'd say is you've just got to stay true to yourself, really. And don't be too, because I could have easily, you know the situation. I could have easily fell into a realm of just doing what other people wanted me to do, couldn't I? Yeah.
exactly. And I think, like, if you're going to go into marriage together as well, like just for both of you, I feel like you've got to stay strong to what you believe
Yeah.
I, and I, and I just, Like, why should you change who you are for some other traditions
else's opinion and, yeah. Yeah.
because it's your life, it's your day,
Yeah.
and yeah, it's just a shame, obviously, that people can't do the same for you, you know, as
Exactly, yeah.
put their opinions to one side
Yeah, just remember it's your day, yeah, yeah. But yeah, so I feel like it's just a little, you know, and I hear it a lot from my couples, it's always like the last week, the last few weeks, and it's just like, yeah, just be prepared for these things, is all, is all I would say is, but at the same time, just try and not let it overshadow, which, again, I know is easier said than done, because people keep saying it to me, and you're like, yeah yeah,
don't. I mean, it's I feel like if, if someone's can't put their own opinions aside just for one day, then then it's not worth them even being there as far as I'm
yeah, yeah,
not about anyone else apart from you.
yeah.
that's it.
And if you're listening and you're going to a wedding, then remember that.
Yeah,
Or even if you're a couple and you're going to someone else's wedding, and, you know, like, I think it is just so important to remember that. And, yeah. Yeah. So, going back to weather, anyway.
Oh, the weather.
We're talking about a different, completely different turn now. So we wanted to go through some summer wedding tips today. So what I'm, right, so I feel like as a UK wedding planner, we talk a lot about wet weather plans all the time. And like I've just said to you, I'm, you know, worried about it for mine. But you also need to think on the flip, is if it's a really, really hot day, what are you going to do? How are you going to manage that?
When it gets hot here in the UK, it doesn't just get hot. It gets absolutely boiling hot.
So bad.
humid and
yeah, it can literally
It's close. It's really
It's close, really close, Maggie. Yeah, and we've done, you know, we had marquee weddings last year where it was literally like, so, so hot. And guest struggle, I've had experiences in the past where like, guests have passed out because of the heat. You know, heat ruins, you know. Well, we'll go through it anyway. Let's go through go through a bit of a list. So first up, I always think it's like water. Water.
Yeah.
Right, so, I always say, if it's gonna be really, really hot, is have, like, a water station. Have, like, a few different kilner jars, like, three or four kilner jars. Put, like, you know do, like, plain water, yeah, a water with like lemons and limes, a water with some berries in it, you know, that kind of thing. Maybe a bit of elderflower cordial in one, and have glasses available and just let people just help themselves to water.
Because I always think when it's really hot, the worst thing is when you have to go to the caterer and be like, oh, can I get some water, please? Like, you want to be able to help yourself. And if you're not that fussy, Just have a load of plastic cups out, if we're or like, you can get like, you know, like the bamboo cups, you know? If you're not that bothered, if you don't need it to be glasses, because again, glasses have to be washed, and you have to make sure they're replenished.
If you can just stick a load of, like, disposable cups out, great. Yeah.
I think that's a good point. Actually making sure it's like, I didn't really think about that. Obviously with water, obviously if you, when you're in a venue, especially a marquee wedding and you've got to the bar or to the caterer and actually ask her, it's not like
Yeah
as such.
No You want it to be at your disposal, 100%.
so that's a good point.
Yeah, you can get fans, little like hand fans, but again like people, you know, or maybe say to people to bring stuff like that, you can get the cool electronic ones now, don't you? But I always have one for the bride and groom, or bride and bridegroom and groom to use on the day if it's like really, really hot just to kind of, we follow them around with a fan, like. I don't know, we need this for you.
celebrities.
it, yeah, it's just about keeping people cool. If you've got a marquee, and you've got a clear span roof, and it's gonna be hot, do not have a clear span roof. We did a marquee wedding last year, and it was really, really, really hot. And all of the bit of the marquee that had the drape, like the ivory draping, Absolutely fine. Then we had the end bit open over the bar. It was so when you literally stepped into that bit, it was like a complete change in temperature. It was so hot.
It's basically like being in a, in a greenhouse.
but you don't realize with marquees how hot they get inside. I
Yeah.
with the teepees and stretch tents are quite nice because they have like the open sides, don't they? I
Yes, they do. Yeah. Airflow.
the,
Yeah, you can,
for a bit of airflow, but oh my gosh, like I did a wedding in August in a marquee and it was honestly, it Absolutely beautiful weather. It was amazing,
yeah.
was so hot, like, I remember
Oh
like, and I've had it before where candles on the table are melting
yeah. That's nuts, isn't it?
like, so
yeah. Don't even think about, I never, oh. Yeah, but I always think, like, put them out for deco, but I actually don't like candles until the evening, because, in a summer wedding, because I think, what's the point? Because you can't get, you don't get that vibe anywhere. No, so what's the point? You might as well just have them as decoration.
candles and it is hot Don't put them out till later
Yeah, because the wax will just melt. Yeah cake. Make sure you get in your cake, like, delivered. I mean, the cake person will advise, but as close to the time as possible. You can say put it in a fridge, but putting a cake in the fridge can dry it out. But yeah, just keep it as in a cooler location as possible. And I would probably avoid the buttercream
I
gonna,
say
yeah.
these semi naked cakes and
Oh,
amazing. They're not good in the heat they
no. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
obviously everyone wants these like buttercream semi naked cakes, but actually you can't go wrong with like a semi naked cakes. Covered it called fondant icing because it actually protects the cake from that
I would even go as far to say though, right, sorry cake makers, but let's be realistic, yeah? No one actually really cares what the cake looks like. They might go up, Auntie Jan might go up and take a couple of photos. I would wait until the evening. I'd keep it out in the cool cellar or something like that. Or get the cake maker to deliver it later. And I would put it out half an hour before your cake cutting, which is normally the evening at like 8pm.
So actually it'll be the temperature would have dipped Cause this is what you need to remember about the UK Is that yes it can be really really hot in the day But it does drop quite a lot at night Which is what I'm worried about for mine
God. Yeah. Well, yeah
yeah So actually get it out Half an hour before, maybe make a thing of it Guys, the cake, you know, get the DJ to announce The cake is now out If you wanna go and take any photos Then go into cake cutting So it's only out for like half an hour Cause actually, does it need to be out all day?
no,
I don't think so.
no, that's a good point actually It doesn't does it because no
No.
want to come and see it like you say until the cake cutting that's when everyone takes Photos has a
exactly. I just don't, I just, I'm a little bit like, isn't, you know, like, you're out, you're normally outside or whatever for your drink reception or in a different area, then you go in for your sit down meal, which is where the cake normally is, people don't necessarily go up to it and look at it, like, until later on. So yeah, that's, I would definitely say.
Because that is always one of the issues, the heat, and then, yeah, just like with food, hot food, maybe really like, look at what you're having. Because if you've got like, hot starter, hot desserts are just not the one.
No
And maybe if it's like, well your caterer let it, let you change it, if it's going to be, I mean, to be honest, if you're having a summer wedding, I'd try and avoid hot starters, hot desserts. Yeah, yeah,
melt.
so maybe you need to reconvene with your caterer, and
Decide
You know, put, put in a plan in place. Cause yeah, if you're having like a ball of ice cream
Yeah, it's
the top of something
away.
sorbet or something, yeah. By the time it gets to the table, it's going to be melted. Yeah. Yeah. So flowers wise, what are you saying for your flowers?
So, I mean, obviously sometimes arrangements and things are made or a lot of the time they can be made in oasis or we make them in moss and things like that in different containers. the best way of keeping flowers as fresh as possible is to have them in fresh water. Obviously if you know your wedding is at the height of summer, I would perhaps avoid having anything That's fresh in like a hanging installation,
Right. Yeah.
going to be in fresh pipettes of water and things like that. What people need to remember is when you are having to add extra things in like that, obviously you're going to have to pay more
Yeah.
that they're, whereas perhaps what you could do. There's an alternative is if you're having an installation that's hanging. So like a hanging hoop or an archway or something like that, it's suspended. You could sort of mix artificial flowers in with fresh foliage. So you
Yeah.
tell the difference really. It's going to be hanging at a height. Obviously nothing is going to wilt cause it's artificial foliage. It depends on what foliage you use, but obviously discuss with your florist and they'll give you some suggestions, but certain foliages are pretty hardy and they would be fine out of water,
Yeah.
the heat. With your bouquets and things, whenever you're not holding them or using them, make sure you've got like a vase of water nearby, so like bridesmaids and bride, you can like pop your, like, bouquets in them.
Yeah.
so, a lot of the time, I find the brides tend to put a vase by the cake, if they're having the cake on
Yeah. They do. Yeah. Yeah.
like,
Or windowsills or something. Yeah.
on the bar, sometimes you get like all these, like,
Yeah.
bouquets, like, you get all these, like, empty spaces that, like, you
You can add them to. Yeah.
to decorate.
Yeah.
where so like I've had a bride who's had about four or five bridesmaids. She's used their bouquets as the centerpieces
yeah.
tables, and then I've just done five more of the same as their bouquets.
Yeah.
like, done a centerpiece and a bouquet.
Yeah.
a good way of just making sure that everything is going to be going into fresh water. I mean, obviously sometimes you can't avoid the sun. And
Mm.
do like meadows down the aisle, like full arches and stuff. Again, this wedding I had in August, it was absolutely full sun. On them during their ceremony time and the flowers are going to be out in that full sun
Yeah.
they are going to get a bit
They're gonna get, yeah.
but
Eh.
know if you are working on that you would just have to replace if things
Yeah.
again you have to allow for that in your quote and
Exactly, yeah. Definitely.
but if you can Flowers put in the shade, but obviously you can't really dictate that
No. Yeah.
flowers to be on on display sort of thing, and the other thing is obviously just choosing flowers that are less likely to wilt so a big one a very popular flower is a hydrangea, and they are absolutely beautiful, but they are an absolute shit to work with.
Oh.
as soon as they're out of
Don't have them in the summer. Yeah.
like, if that oasis starts to dry, they just wilt. They're really, and
Bad times. Thanks.
wilts, there's nothing that looks worse. They
no. Yeah, they do, don't they?
They're
think you just got a The key things is making sure everyone's hydrated and that you've got shaded areas and also like for example I always say when you go for like your venue viewing is make sure that you ask them like where the sun is exposed to at that time of day at that time of year they'll probably know because if you're having like an outdoor ceremony and then the sun's shining on everybody because that's where I've had people pass out before where they're sitting for a ceremony and it's
too hot yeah and do you need like bottles of water maybe during the ceremony because it's going to be so hot like Things like that. Just keep people hydrated and make sure they've got cover. Like, for me, I cannot be out in the sun. Like, I've got, I'm so pale. Like, I like, I would just really struggle in the sun, even with sun cream on. So just make sure you've got areas for people to go to.
find shelter, like, out of
Yeah.
it is. That actually, that word just reminded me. The wedding, that wedding in August, it was so hot, honestly. But they had bottles of water. They were giving out
Yeah.
everywhere, like, I think they've
Yeah. Keep them hydrated.
bought like packs and packs
Yeah.
obviously a more sustainable thing would be to have like anything that's recyclable, but you know, I mean, needs must, if you need to go get water.
Yeah. Exactly. Yeah.
good. So yeah.
Should we go to the business questions?
Yes. Ew.
I was gonna bring this up but I thought I not, I won't because I saw it as a question. So they've asked, what to do for sweat patches? Having a wedding abroad and concerned my other half's sweat will show through his shirt. And I was really like, just talking about the heat, yeah. So I would advise anyway, as standard for a groom, to have like a spare shirt.
So they can get changed because they probably are going to get a bit hot and stuff throughout the day, like, you know, got jacket on, sweating, so yeah, I would say definitely the same for that.
Yeah,
like, you're abroad, where I don't have a copy, probably I may maybe have a few. Also, poor guy's gotta wear his the, is he, if he's wearing a jacket. Yeah, if you're going abroad, I'd maybe try and style it so it's maybe like, I don't know, maybe you would want,
waistcoat or something
yeah, maybe just jacket for the ceremony and then take the jacket off. I mean, she actually hasn't, I thought she had mentioned a jacket, but she hasn't. But yeah, maybe then just take it off
My
and then
Gave me a good tip
okay.
and it just happens to be relevant here. Tumble dryer sheets, to
Wha?
to stop sweat.
Nah. What?
sweat patches,
What, and you just leave him there?
yeah, like under, you know, like if you're wearing a dress or something like this
Yeah.
of Tucker tumble dryer sheet there and then I mean, I've maybe taken out before you whatever, but just to start with, like, you're
Yeah.
cheeky
Fair play.
but
Great. I suppose you've got to have a sleeve so it's hidden.
Yeah, my cousin got married in March. Well, it's come out five years ago, I think.
Yeah.
And I'm, I'm, when I get like anxious, I tend to be a bit sweaty.
Fair. Yeah.
it wasn't particularly hot, but it, but I was anxious. So
Yeah.
oh, I'm sweaty. We were wearing like powder blue bridesmaids dresses. I was really, really panicking about sweat patches. I, as we, we had to walk from her room, like all the way out to an orangery. So it's quite a long walk. So I stuck these like napkins that I found in the bar under my, under my armpits, like under my dress,
Love that. Just in case.
But I took them out and they'd left all black underneath my
They were black napkins! Oh, Hayley!
left black.
At least use the white ones. Yeah, because it's basically dye. It's just dye, like ink.
off before we went down the aisle, but it was like touch and go. I'm not joking. It was so bad. I
Oh no.
armpits. I was like, how embarrassing.
I bet you panicked.
Then I was sweating. You know what I mean? Cause
So it just didn't help, basically. It's caused you issues.
and I'm like not using a black napkin.
do not use a black napkin.
No, don't do that.
Do the next one?
Yeah, so what should you do if some of your guests arrive late to the ceremony?
Interesting. So I always actually ask my couple this, like, how long they want to potentially, like, delay by. If, like, anybody is like, if you're having a civil ceremony, you ain't got no, you ain't got no choice. You're going. Because the registrar will make you go. And then,
they're
yeah. I normally just sneak guests in, like, at a time that makes sense, so maybe, like, during the signing of the book, or at a time that it's not, like, silent, basically, maybe when people are clapping, you just
Sorry.
whip them in. But yeah, I would say if it's not, and you're not having a civil ceremony, and maybe they're a little bit, put a time on it, but I wouldn't delay by much more than ten minutes, but again, like, if your coordinator can you know, If, if a family member rings another family member or a friend or something to say, we're going to be late, like how long are you going to be late by? Because if it's like half an hour, then absolutely not, you know.
yeah.
I ain't delaying by that much. I think it's important as well to like fight, to think about, okay, so who's traveling? How, how long by? And actually me and my other half are talking about this because where his family come traveling from, there's like a big festival going on that weekend, so it's like, traffic could be bad, and it's like, well, they just need to pre pla put it in their travel plan, I suppose.
Yeah, leave a lot earlier than they think,
I would be, only point I'd be fuming if somebody walked in was when I was about to walk down the aisle because that would just throw me. So I feel like if they turn up after the brides turned up, your coordinator should just get them to like stand outside the gate in the car park or something.
Yeah, because you, well, if you can slip them in without them seeing the bride, but I, if people will walk, I've had this before, the brides literally stood at the entrance of the church and a guest is like suddenly a, appears and, like, slips past and is like, Oh, hello! Then trying to hug her and you're like, No! Like, just get in! Or just, or, like, if I'd have spotted them, I'd have made them
before
just wait. Yeah, literally when she's about to walk down the aisle. If you're at a ceremony, maybe it's an outdoor ceremony, where you can bring them into a different way, and she hasn't gone in yet, then great. If you're literally waiting there, my rule of thumb always is, if they arrive, they're gonna have to wait until the bride's got down the aisle, until, you know,
Yeah, I completely
moment, because I wouldn't care if somebody walked into the ceremony late that you know,
If it's
and it had already started, like, you know, and it's not going to be a distraction, not at the point where you're like literally saying your vows, but yeah, that's what I would say. Do you agree? Was anyone late to yours? Don't think so. You probably wouldn't even notice, I suppose.
I don't know. I know that one of my friends was nearly late, but she made it in time. Bless
one a couple of months ago and literally it was like the best man's other half was running late and literally I'm standing there like okay, the groom needs to go in because the it was actually worked out the front The bride was coming through the back at the the venue and the guests were coming through the front So it's fine, but she was literally waiting outside. It was December It's freezing cold and he's like we just need to hold off.
We need to hold off the best man I kept saying I was like We really need you to go in now. Really need you to go in. They're literally going to be here. He's on the phone to her and she's like, lost. Didn't know where she was going and I'm like, where are you going?
Thankfully she made it and they just all like, pegged it in but I was itching at the point where I was going to be like, we are going because the bride is freezing cold waiting outside and we're waiting for your other half because she's late. Yeah,
not the center of
she's not the star of the show.
not the star! Go
So yeah, that's what I would say is just don't worry about it. Don't overthink it but make sure you've got a plan in place for your coordinators that Well,
Another reason that you should have a coordinator. A planner at your
Very true. And I think, like I say, it depends on your venue. If you're at a venue where the bride's gonna be, where the guests aren't arriving, fine, they can slip in. But if they Yeah, if it's not, then they need to wait in the car.
Yeah. Sway
I also think, like, if I was that late to a wedding, like, say I was invited to a ceremony at 1 o'clock, and it was like 5 past 1, I would just stay in the car. Until the drink reception.
would,
I wouldn't even attempt it.
be like, oh yeah, I was at the back. Didn't see
Yeah, did you not see me?
Did you not see me? I was waving the whole side.
Things happen though, don't they? Like, traffic and stuff happens. It is what it is. But, yeah, I think just use your frickin common sense.
exactly. I feel like common sense is lax these days, that days though, to be fair.
and yeah, very true. And I think you just need to make a decision as a couple, if it's somebody important, like a parent or something that's running late. I mean, they shouldn't be, but,
no.
you'd like to make sure that they're early.
days.
You never know. But yeah, I would say that you just need to make a decision on how long you want to stall by.
Yeah. Good
Maybe that the bride's late anyway and then you're all good.
Yeah. Not a
Keep, get your bridesmaids and your best men, your groomsmen to be in touch with each other and, you know, saying, oh yeah, well actually we're running late so it doesn't matter or whatever.
Yeah. Yeah.
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