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enough.

of a house of new windows today, which is nice.

is that?

I know. Yeah. So that's exciting. That's exciting. But yeah,

times, adult problems.

it's all good,

That's what it

literally. How's your week been anyway? Have you had any new windows put in?

new windows this

No. No.

no. But just been been preparing for the wedding I've got on Sunday.

Yes.

yeah, just been busy, busy getting

is it a Sunday wedding?

wedding. Yeah, I was, you know, I was talking to I was talking to my friend about this. It's like it's not usual a Sunday wedding these days. I, I do a lot of, like, midweek and Saturdays, but,

Yeah.

But Sunday, I very rarely do a Sunday wedding.

Is it Jewish?

No.

Ah.

No,

I say this, but I had a Sunday when it did. I'm like, oh, that's weird. But mine was a bank holiday, so I always think it's a Saturday.

it.

Basic. It's essentially Saturday. Yeah.

is. That's

Same thing. Yeah.

But yeah, no just a Yeah, it's not a jewish wedding. No, just a civil ceremony. And yes it's a venue called bass mead manor barns

Yeah. Nice. Nice venue.

lovely. So just very rustic and the centerpieces are all i've got these like really so my log slides Is so I don't I hate the tacky looking crap

Yes.

Mine are massive. They must be like 35cm

Nice.

the nice

Yeah.

ones, like proper

The actual, like, where they've cut a tree down and cut it. Yeah. Yeah. No.

So she's got those for centerpieces,

Nice.

those, obviously the

Just, just, just the logs.

and then the container on top which we're putting loads of florals in. So, and all the

Nice. Stunning. Oof. Nice.

Of white so, but the dusty rose colors I went for like they just all look really good. So I was like really like thank god because sometimes

you always worry about that, don't you? That the, how the flowers are gonna come. Yeah.

I'm not I don't want to blow my own trumpet, but I'm good at colour, I'm good at colour, like, matching and

Yeah, you are. Huh.

I've always, there's one thing I've always been quite good at,

Yeah.

and there's not many things, but that's

Yeah,

Yeah,

April and you were really worried about the blue matching and the flowers And I'm like, honestly, I wouldn't even notice like looking at them, but you do. Yeah No,

what they're

exactly, yeah

kind of work with what I've got, but

Yeah I'm

pleased

saying what kind of, when you say containers, what are they gone for? Like big clear?

No,

Oh

low,

nice

low centerpieces. Yeah. So like we've got, it's like a wooden wooden

I like that.

rustic. And then the flowers a lot be spilling out. It's like very rustic and a

that's really cool. Cause, do you know what? I'm coming round a bit more to, the wedding I did recently had like, you know like the low bowls,

Yeah.

like,

like the footed bowls.

Yeah, because I, yeah, I just, I just think bud vases, unless you flood the table with them, which then takes up loads of room,

a

they just some,

pathetic.

not too much, like, you can't put many flowers in them, can you? So then I sometimes feel like it's not enough flower. Yeah.

I agree.

Oh, so I'm, oh, that's going to be really nice. Oh, I look forward to seeing the pictures.

churn

Nice.

a

Very rustic.

so

Not my vibe at all, but it sounds nice.

yeah, in keeping with the venue I think. So, and they're,

Yeah.

they're into, I think I said last week, they're having like little cartridges on their button holes. So they're like really

Yes.

they're into like shooting and

Yeah.

farmery

Cool

sounds like, haha, farmery.

And it makes sense then, doesn't it? And I think it's that, if that's your vibe, I'm always like, do not bring any wood near to my weddings

No log

But if that's what Yeah, if that's like what you want and then great. And that, that would look and are they like the wooden long tables? They have no cloth.

No, they're having rounds. They are

Oh, okay.

so,

Fair.

are having that, but but yeah.

Okay, okay.

I think I said before, they've got 14 tables plus a

Yeah.

So there's quite a

Oh, it looks lovely. I mean, your flowers always look insane anyway, but

this one on Instagram because the colours are nice, so.

I like it when they have, like, the rustic y, wooden vibe, but then they go, like, really wild on their flowers, and, like, don't have a set colour scheme. You know, when there's, like, sunflowers, and then bright pink flowers, and then, like, cornflowers that are blue, and I love that kind of vibe. And it's like,

of

yeah!

Yeah.

that's quite cool. Oh, that's nice. I see a wedding actually the other day on Instagram and they had the wooden rustic tables. I know these guys aren't, but it's that rustic y kind of vibe. And they had bud vases down the center, but they were literally like, There was bud vases down the whole length of the table and they were almost like connected. There was that many, there was loads. But all the bud vases were like a different colour.

a bit

and it was so nice. And I'm also loving this whole trend of, I don't know if you've seen this, but where you start at like one end of the table to the other and all the flowers, all the vases are like, it's almost like ombre. So you go from like, Pink to orange to yellow to green to blue to purple. I, I really want to do a wedding like that and the wedding I'm doing is

wall before, it was

Have you?

massive, so imagine, you know what, obviously flower walls are huge.

Back in the, how many,

wall,

five years ago? 2018?

fresh. Yeah, it was all fresh though, and it was ombre pink,

Nice.

off like pale and went to dark, but

See, I think that the flower wall vibe, I feel like it was ruined a little bit, because actually, like you say, if it's fresh, it's stunning and would be really nice, but I feel like they got ruined and they got a bad reputation because of all the faux ones. Do you think?

and

I feel like if that didn't happen, they'd still be about.

they're so, they, know someone who does flower, a flower wall that's actually, she'd handmade it herself. So

Oh, okay.

have been put in by her and they, they are faux flowers, but they look, they're like good quality and

They look real. Yeah.

However, these ones that just pop up and

Oh, hideous. So

just

bad.

so, and

So

overused as well. But I mean, the amount of money it costs to do a fresh flower, flower

Well yeah, true. What about like a foliage wall? They look immense. You know sometimes you go to like restaurants and they've got, got them.

neon sign on them or

Yes!

a bit of that. Yeah. Yeah.

diverse there, guys. But yeah, the ombre tables. I actually tried to convince my couple for September to do that, but they went with something else and they had a different idea, but I was like, damn it, I will get one! I do wanna, I do really wanna do an ombre table.

that

all for so if anybody wants to do one of these weddings let me know

up.

I'll just style it for you. Yeah, literally

How

well, so you've Yeah, good, good. We Sorry, literally, in our notes. Literally, I've written So I've got a wedding I had a wedding on Saturday. All it says is

on

Literally

What

the hell? So we did I was actually freelancing so I, yeah, I was

hell.

and they were having a great time. They're having a lovely, had a lovely drink reception, sat down for the meal and there was a few people that looked a little bit worse for wear. So this was only like four o'clock or something, half four, and we'd already had many weather stressors, but I'll go on to that. And literally this guy just walks. Into the kitchen. So this is like, must be the end of the main course because the speeches were before the meals. I had to get the wait, wait and staff fed.

is

It was disgusting. But funny because she had to deal with it. But also, an uncle had already been sick. During the drinks reception. Well, basically when the bridesmaids come and said I've had to put our really our uncle's been really sick He's drank too much. This was another uncle. I think they were together Yeah, and she was like i've just put him in one of the rooms like, oh which room knowing the venue?

people? Why would

She went

Get outside in

know!

Come

Literally, she had put this man, he was slumped over the sofa and she put a bucket next to him and he was literally just being sick in this bucket in this historical room that's got like, furniture in it from God knows the 1800s or something anyway, so she evacuated him nice and quickly but,

I bet.

yeah so it was all fun and games but this was the one that I was telling you about again that wanted their wedding breakfast outside.

Oh yeah.

Now I'm gonna have the same rant on the podcast as I had to the venue

Oh, please do.

They were probably like really So they're really keen on trying to do this outdoor wedding breakfast vibe now. I think it looks lovely, but we aren't in Italy and we I think it's great, you know, you can do a drinks reception outside, a lovely ceremony outside, but we are the UK, you cannot make calls on weather two days before, one day before, because it changes up until an hour before.

yeah.

told us all day, for the last couple of days, it's going to be lovely and dry, got to the drinks reception, It starts raining, but we've already set up outside for a table for 60 people. There's no way you can move that inside. Now, thankfully, we were really lucky and you could see that there was blue skies in the distance. And we were like, it's okay, it'll be fine. And you know, the bride had started panicking, what are we going to do? But I said, it'll be fine. And it was fine.

That'd

like, He would be screwed. But it wasn't even just the, the rain. And I've mentioned this last time as well, and this proves my point is it's the wind. So the, it was so wi it wasn't even that windy, but even with the slightest bit of wind there was, which we get in the uk, it was blowing over. They had like VAEs in the center of the tables, like fairly big ones with flowers in, and they kept knocking over and all the water was going over the tablecloths.

oh,

So half the.

serious, oh,

yeah. Nightmare. Half the cloths were wet before they sat down. The napkins were flying everywhere, so we had to put the butter side plates on top of the napkin, which just looks terrible. We must have spent an extra hour of time just picking things up off the floor. They had nice menus, which were then, some of them were like bent, or got like bits of mud on them and stuff, where they'd just flown away. And I just, I just don't think in the UK that all the That that should be a thing.

I

you know, it's yeah.

like you say, in Italy, somewhere like that, it's generally dry and hot.

Yeah

know, some, you know, it tends to be, but here in the UK it's so unpredictable and that is the thing. It's

Yeah

oh, it's saying it's sunny. It can just turn on a sixpence.

Literally it just fluctuates. Yeah

say, it's not even just the fact of rain. It's like wind

Yeah

also, when it's hot here, Like it's so hot.

Yeah

want to be sitting like this

No, same

30 degree

Mm hmm

to have been sat out

No

a meal in that like it's

Literally

need some cover some

it. Yeah you do

here in the uk. It's not

You need some sort of, and I said to them like, great, if you can do it outside, you know, they've got like lines of trees and it looks beautiful, but you need some sort of cover over that. So even if you can get like the, you know, like the canvassy material between the trees or something. But we cannot go bare back in the UK because it just doesn't, like you say in Italy, if you wake up and it's sunny, it's, it's 90% likely it's gonna stay sunny all day. You just don't know. In the uk.

get

they just haven't got a Scooby Doo, have they? So, yeah,

Bloody

was my That was my week. We did a we've got our lovely wedding coming up in September at Kenny p Ken Kensington Palace. So we did our final meeting with the couple and we did, which I love by the way, the venue stipulate that all that. So all your su supply key suppliers have to be recommended from the venue. So you can only use people that they recommend and they, part of their contract for being recommended by the venue is you have to go in for a final meeting. So are all met.

Yeah.

like, the florist, the caterer, the production team, like, we all met together,

That's

and we all sat there.

Like,

was

in

so good to just iron stuff out, and brilliant for me, because they're not asking each other questions. They're not emailing me, and then I've got to email them and ask the question, like, it was so good. Yeah, it was just it really helped and that we're all just chatting out ideas and what about this? What about this timing? And you know, we could change things and we're all there. So we all make the choice. It's not like, Oh, the caterer says, let's change this time.

good,

Loved it. So yeah, that was my week. That was my week. So

Sounds good though. Busy, another busy one for you.

Literally, yeah. Some I thought it would be cool as well to have a little chat about some things that I've loved on the old socials this week.

yes.

Some things that I've seen. This was literally like a two day ago thing that I saw and I quickly whipped it in. I saw this little video, can't remember whose profile it was on, but this girl, or this bride, had her nan as her bridesmaid.

Oh, I

And it is the cutest thing I've ever seen.

enough,

and find it.

my nan wasn't my bridesmaid, well that's not what I'm going into here, but My I did a wedding last year, literally a year ago, two days ago, weirdly. And she had her nan as like, Not like flower girls, but they had baskets of petals and they went down the aisle and they threw, well I guess like a flower girl, but

Nice.

It's really sweet.

I love that. Yeah, it was really cool. And the video's, like, really, like, nice. Now, I just think, like, I mean, I don't have any grandparents left, but imagine, like, if you're really close to your nan, like, how immense those For her, what a lovely opportunity. And also, one day when, you know, you're probably gonna outlive your grandparents,

Yeah.

always gonna have those memories. And the videos were all little clips that her content creator had got done. Positive pro for the content creator here. You know what I mean? And it was like, you know, they were getting ready in the morning, she's cheers, and we've, so she got all her best mates and then her Nan. And her Nan in her bridesmaid dress, and her Nan's like helping her with her,

Love

her, like, you know, like, puff her veil out, and it was just a really nice sentimental video, I loved it. So, yeah, I liked that.

That's

Then our good friend Rebecca Cole, who's the singer, we like her, don't we?

Beautiful

She did a little video, which I thought was really, really good. So shout out to Rebecca Cole. So she had the idea, basically what she was saying is when you walk down the aisle, so she'll sing us, obviously she's a live musician, so she'll sing during your ceremony. So when you're walking down the aisle, you don't actually hear majority of the song because your bridesmaids are walking down.

Yeah.

you walk down and then the song. finishes. So she had the idea of, because she said she has a lot of brides that come to her and say, oh it's such a shame because I didn't get to like, hear my song of you walking down the aisle. And also, there's no point in her just chucking it into like, the reception drinks, because A, you're probably not going to hear it, and B, it's just not a special moment as walking down the aisle is.

sweet.

like a moment together and then go in as Mr. and be announced as Mr. and Mrs. And I thought, what a fabulous idea.

such a lovely idea. Like you say, you don't get to appreciate this song a lot, because it's a

No.

choose because it's sentimental. Well, I

Yeah, exactly.

a song I like, like it meant something to me. So I feel

Yeah, same.

nice idea. Oh, I love

I thought that was really nice and I thought what a good little like moment to put it into, you know? So yeah, loving that idea.

idea.

And then moving on to, I sent this Haley the other day, so we've all seen, you've probably all seen the viral video.

the

The viral video, so it's been on TikTok but it's been all in the press from Madeline White, was it Madeline? Mad? Madeline,

Yeah, I think so, Madeleine,

why?

Yeah.

How is it that she captions it? It's something like the things people hated me doing for my wedding or something.

hate, people, things people hate about my wedding or something like that, or.

Yeah,

But I

so

loved the way she went in because she's obviously having a destination wedding.

yes She's having a destination wedding. That was the first thing. She said that it pissed people off

I love the way she says, oh, it's sort of like, basically, it gets rid of fair weather guests.

Yes

She was like, oh, they get the people that are saying, oh, you're selfish for having it abroad or whatever. And then she was like, but that's the point. I don't want you

That's why i'm having it abroad, yeah

that's funny. That's so

I liked that, that she wanted to trim it down. And also, what I loved, but I don't think, I think there's this whole perception of destination wedding, of people being selfish and stuff. Now, I do half agree with that, but only if the couple get annoyed if you don't come. Now, I think that what she did was very good, because she said, I don't care if you can't come.

It's not a problem.

But I think you need to be prepared for that, because I've seen it, and I think even if it's like your best mate or whatever, if they've got, like, their own lives going on, they're things that they're saving for, you know, like, we're all going through, like, cos he lives, you know?

And it's a big, it is a big ask to get, if you're inviting someone out for it, they've got to pay, like we spoke about last week, they're going to have to

Yeah.

own flights and everything. And it's not just going to be the one day. You're going to fly

No. Yeah. Yeah,

So, if you've got like commitments and, you know, You know, have children and they might not want kids there as well That's another thing you just don't

that's a yeah, good point.

get the child care or you know with

Yeah,

It's a bit different to just go in. I don't know an hour up the road or something

yeah, yeah, yeah. Like, imagine, like, imagine for my wedding, like, you came to my wedding for the full day. If I'd have had that abroad, there's no way you'd have probably been out, because you wouldn't have known.

yeah,

Yeah, like you, you, It had like a three month, four month old baby, and I know a couple of our other friends 100 percent wouldn't have been able to come because they just have babies. But you also, you know when you book it, and you've got pregnant people,

Yeah

just, it's very TBC, isn't it? Because like, one of my friends had her baby really early, like, you just don't know what the situation's gonna be. Like, if there's gonna be any medical issues, like, so,

a question mark, I think.

Yeah, so imagine having to like, book flights and stuff. You just wouldn't be able to. Whereas if you're having a wedding in the UK, it doesn't really matter because they, yeah, TBC will let us know six weeks before or whatever. But yeah, when it's abroad, you, they need to know to book their flights.

it, exactly.

Yeah, so I do, yeah, I do think that that was good what she said. And I do think if you're having a destination wedding, you cannot get angry with people. Even if it's like your best friend, you can't get angry if they can't come.

to that. Yeah, I think it's,

Yeah, so the next thing one of the things that she said which I really loved as well was Nobody cares about our wedding as much as we care about our wedding now I think this is the best statement I've ever heard

I know, but

so true

It's so true because I literally, right, the other day, me and Richard got like a, we still got a playlist on our Spotify from like our wedding,

nice

songs that we had.

Yeah Yeah,

but when I was planning my wedding, I was like, it's the most important day. It's the most, like, it was like the best day. The biggest thing going on in my life and all that it's all I thought about and cared about Whereas now i'm in a completely different Situation i'm a bit like god That's so cringe and like i've just got a different and I feel like when you are planning your wedding You are so like involved in it.

You are

that's

it's like you're immersed in it.

like i'll get if

Yeah

some stupid stuff like when

Yeah Yeah

You literally are so like also like one track mind. It's sort of

Yeah, of course.

Yeah

about, but yeah, I think, I think couples need to start realizing that, that

Yeah.

people aren't going to be as invested in, you know, people will be excited for you and stuff, but I think if everybody realized that, it would save a lot of ag, because I see this a lot, where people are moaning like, oh, I've been trying to speak to people and they're just not interested, and it is annoying when people aren't interested at all, but I think,

like,

that is mean. Yeah.

Especially when it's people you expect to be, like,

Yeah, yeah, but they're never going to be as interested as you are. Yeah, I loved that.

own closest family will

No.

trust me.

But the next thing that she put was inviting parents friends. She said absolutely no. Loved that.

Yeah, I also agree with that because I don't like she doesn't she say something like they've had their wedding. They've had their time.

But yeah, exactly, because it's not your parents wedding, but I see that a lot when the parents act like it is basically their wedding.

this wedding i'm doing it this weekend. That's what

Oh yeah, I think you actually mentioned this last week, because you were saying that, and we actually kind of half touched on this last week, but I think like you said then, you kind of get it when the parents are paying, but if they're not, and I think she does touch on this in the TikTok video, but they're paying for it themselves, so parents should not be expecting to.

invite their mates

But even then, if they're paying, I still don't think parents should expect to do that, especially if you've got a set amount of guests.

to pay, right? Out of

Yeah,

of, you know what I mean? Like, you're, if you're offering to pay, then, I feel like, you're

a gift

Yeah, so, why

come with any ties

yeah, exactly.

Yeah, yeah, exactly. No, I love that and next up was no speeches other than the dad's which she was like We're not having any speeches. We're not having any speeches and then she was like, oh, but we are gonna have father the bride father The groom so was a bit like well, if you don't grab any speeches don't have any speeches. Yeah Yeah, yeah, so that was a bit like

yeah,

Yeah

a bit like, no, don't do, don't do any, if you don't, if you don't want them,

Yeah,

have the

if you're being like, eh, speeches, what,

like,

point? Also, the father of the groom never does a speech, so yeah, don't know. The dress code, she was like black tie. She wanted black tie dress code, and apparently quite a few people have been like, why are you doing black tie? I actually love a black tie wedding,

do, I was

common abroad.

at the moment, it's like,

Yeah, but It's very common in like, European countries because you have your wedding later because obviously it's hot. So you get married at like, four or five o'clock. Yeah, and then your dinner is the evening. So you would, that is quite traditional to have black tie. Not so traditional in the UK, but like you say, it is coming back around again.

She mentioned obviously like people, she didn't, she went to avoid people messaging like what should I wear, what should I wear, what's the dress

yeah, yeah, so she said,

there is a

yeah, having a dress code. Yeah, I quite like that.

around about what they should wear. And

Yeah, not having to worry about it. Yeah, which is good.

I did agree with, but at the same time I do think like, surely people know what to wear to a wedding. Come on.

Well, yeah, because this was going to be the next thing that I bring up. Like, she basically said that she's going to a friend's wedding this year and she's probably going to do the same thing where they've actually put illustrations or like, you know, photos of ideas of what you should wear to their wedding. Now I, and she was like, I'm sorry, but I think that's a brilliant idea. It's given me a really good idea of yep, I'll get that dress.

Yeah, fuck off.

Literally, literally what I thought. I was like,

That's

No, so she's literally gonna have on her website like, Like a dress code section and then like some images of, this is things she could

far. Too

But what about if everyone then turns up in like the same thing? No, not for me. I don't think I'd attend.

you say just wedding attire You don't

Yeah.

like come on people aren't that thick surely Well,

Literally.

to show them what to wear. Like you

Yeah.

Tell

like, maybe, like, maybe build on the black tie, because I think for women that can be different. It's easy for a man. But, you know, like, maybe like, you know, floor length dresses, or, you know, if you want a certain colour scheme, like, fine.

all people might turn up in like a cocktail dress or then they might wear a ball gown I was like, sorry, who's coming to your

I know. Yeah, well.

What? That made me laugh.

Who is doing that? And also,

break,

cares

I

they do?

you know

Like, literally,

of

they do come in a full ball gown,

for effort, as far as

yeah, great, yeah, lovely. Yeah, and I feel like in the UK, I don't know about, I mean, was she, she was from the UK, weren't she?

she was from the UK, but she had an accent. I think she was, I don't know where her accent was

No, I don't.

abroad, that

but I do feel like, is Summer abroad? I do feel like nowadays you go on websites, like you go on ASOS and there is a whole section where it's like wedding guest outfits. And they're like, I always feel vibes for wedding guest dress is like, I wouldn't go any shorter than like a midi, like a knee length dress.

No,

Midi dress. Or I think like, Yeah, or like tailored trousers, nice top, you know, but I think like a midi dress, very like floral patterns are nice, or like a block colour. I think you can't go wrong, like why are people struggling so much with what to wear to a wedding?

No, it is a bit sad, isn't it? I just, I mean, come on, like, just get a dress. I, when I was looking for, to be fair, I struggled to find something for your wedding, but that's only because I

ya?

know what to wear that suited me anymore.

For yourself? Yeah.

online and, like, typed in, like, wedding dress, like,

Yeah, then found. Yeah. Yeah.

like, a whole category, and it, and it's all, like, Just, you know, I don't know. I

Yeah, so that's actually a

that hard

No,

thing.

actually a very valid point, right, that you've raised there. So is the stress because you don't know what the couple would expect you to wear, or is the stress just because you can't find something that suits you? Because actually mine would probably be more B than it would be A, because I would, I don't think I've ever been to a wedding where I sat there and thought, oh my god, what would the couple want me to wear?

like, oh, oh, I don't think they'll like my outfit because it's not appropriate or something.

Yeah, and actually, if I received illustrations or a really strict dress code, I probably would be then worrying like, is this okay?

be like,

Yeah.

be worried about like, should I be wearing this color? Is it going to be the same as the

Yeah.

Like, is it going to go to town like that? But

Well, they'd probably tell you if they're that strict. They'd be like, Please wear shades of coral. LAUGHS In a panatone colour. Hashtag. LAUGHS Hex colour. LAUGHS Give you the hex code for the colour that your dress should be.

Jesus.

Yeah, and that was pretty much all of it. So I thought she had some very good points, but I think some, yeah, I weren't sure about. To start with, I thought, this is really good. She's really, like, putting some real points out there. And then I thought, nah,

Ah, you've gone too far. You've

gone too far, love.

people can't avoid me.

She actually sounded at the start un bridezilla y when she was like, Look, if people can't afford to come, don't come and don't care. And then at the end turned bridezilla when she's saying that she's going to put illustrations of the dress you need to wear. Yeah, literally. Yeah. No. Not for me. Not for me.

Yeah.

I always debate, I don't know if I, I think it would depend who the wedding was for. I've never been to a destination wedding. Oh no, I have! I have! I was a bridesmaid in Portugal. But we turned Oops, forgot about that. That was about five years ago now. Literally, to September, five years ago.

get married all the way in like mexico and places like that don't they and I feel like if you're Yeah, it's quite far. I feel like if you're doing that it's probably like you probably just have your close family wouldn't you like rather than inviting everybody because that's Yeah

a short, like, you know, like a city break

Yeah

not too bad.

Not too far. Yeah

a couple of hours flight, I think, yeah, is a lot. But, yeah. Cool, should we go on to the listeners questions and messages? Ha

I've got a question here. How do you get a groom who is physically and psychologically adverse to photographs of himself to be okay with a full day of photos?

I liked

I mean, I mean, do you know what I actually kind of feel bad for the groom here is obviously this is like going deeper than just I don't want to have some my photos taken like They say You know, they're physically and psychologically adverse. That's like, to me, sounds like it's a bigger problem than that. So I feel like that's kind of like, he should maybe be getting some help with that, actually.

joking. Or she's

I don't know. Yeah, I don't think you could. I don't think you could just be like, you need to just put it, like, put this to bed for the day.

I do think what might help is definitely getting the right photographer. Maybe get a more fly on the wall photographer. You don't need to do posed

Yeah, like Candid.

was very much like that. And she would literally just be like, right, walk along. And then you would walk in a line and get some lovely photos. I don't do that. Think you know you can literally act like a photographer is not there So I would go

Yeah.

really really relaxed And I would just say make sure you pick a photographer that the groom gets on really well with so make sure you do a few consultations with different people the groom is there involved

Yeah, yeah.

you know you're having a chat with them and that he says Yeah, do you know what? I really like that person. I really clicked with them. You know, make sure you pick someone that would probably suit his personality. And then once that's happened, you've explained, I feel like it, it will be fine. Just don't plan any staged posed photos and

Yeah, that's a good idea. You've got so many options these days for like photographers with different styles and I feel like that's definitely one that's become really popular. So I don't think it'd be a problem to find one. Sure.

You'll be fine I think people need to get out of this headspace nowadays that you have to do these like Posts and I think the thing is the issue is is that everything on instagram makes everything people put up the nice photos of the couple Which are posed and staged But wedding photos don't need to be like that anymore, and a

No, no.

you know? So,

Yeah, I agree.

along the street, you will

And then get a, yeah, stunning pictures.

oh, you know, whisper something in her ear, and then it'll make her

Yeah.

you know?

Give you a bit of, bit of help.

you know? Or you could just literally, like, me and Martin were just having a chat, like we

Yeah.

and

Some of our favourite, yeah exactly, some of our favourite pictures are of me and Richard just, just chilling. Just, you know, like eating our food or having a laugh together or looking at something. Yeah.

said just run towards the house

Oh, they're so good. Yeah, they're really cool. Yeah, I love that.

And next up we've got when did you ask your bridesmaids to try on slash order bridesmaids dresses? Now this is one of my biggest rants about the wedding industry. It's

Oh,

dresses. It's a nightmare. Fine.

yeah, it is hard. It is hard. There's no way you can just go and they can try them on.

No,

But I feel like timescale, six months before?

I would just say start ordering some as soon as

As soon as you can.

careful because, well again, I wouldn't put that pressure on my bridesmaids. I said to my bridesmaids, this is the colour that you each need to get. Go off but get whatever you want and then I

Yeah.

right? I tried to give

Yeah.

But I was that but you know It's but give them give them a price if you need to give them a budget and then they can go off and find it Whatever website the thing you need to be careful with is a lot of these websites because there's a lot of shops that don't do Them anymore and because they don't want to carry all the different sizes all the different colors and is they charge a restocking fee so say you Pie, five dresses, and it costs you 500.

It's a lot of money, yeah.

places do the try on offer where you pay 10 per dress to try it on. But again, if you want to try five dresses on and you've got five bridesmaids, that's a lot of money. I would just encourage them to just be really pi only pick like two, try them on

Yeah, just a couple.

you a percentage back though. So like my bridesmaids, their dresses were like 120. But if you then So they tried two on each, which cost 20, but then they gave you 10 percent off the dress, so it basically covered But like, what some of my bridesmaids, one of them got a dress straight away, and a couple of them didn't get them until much nearer the time because they wanted to lose weight. And I just think that's up to them, leave it to them. But just explain that the process is quite difficult.