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and let's get you. Woo. How are you doing? How's your week been?

Been so I'm getting to the point now where I'm, I'm really sort of winding down.

Yeah, maternity leave. If that's a thing. Byebye, are you gonna like announce it on your Instagram? Like is there a date when you're like, right, this is it. I'm writing on my Instagram and my email, my out of office. Like I'm out, I'm, I'm out.

Do you know what I.

the day she's in labor, I know exactly where she's like, that'll be the day she's in labor. If I, if you see an Instagram post saying she's now on maternity leave, she's in labor Guys, can you just hold off because I need to just post this post. Has someone got a signal in it? What's the wifi?

My pa Oh, it's bad, isn't it?

Oh dear.

been thinking about this because I'm not sure. I sort of spoke about it in the last episode, so like I don't wanna panic people by being like, I'm going on maternity and I'm doing your wedding in April.

Yeah.

But the same time, obviously people have to understand it isn't just me. Like physically doing the work, obviously there's like a little team of like, well, freelancers and things that would work for me. So. I may not be there, but I am there

yeah, of course. You just got other people on, on, on site.

I'm not gonna be doing anything for A few months, but like

Mm-Hmm?

and things, but I did want to take the first four weeks of nothing. I just wanna

Yeah.

a

A hundred percent.

and obviously Richard's taking four weeks off, so we'll have that time Oh, nice. Is he Yeah,

that's so cute.

Yeah, so he gets four weeks, well, he gets two weeks paternity with work. And then he is taking two weeks holiday, but two

Nice.

nothing

It's not, it isn't at all. Is it like, it's like they're almost saying like, most people take two weeks as holiday, don't they? They're almost basically saying like,

Yeah.

only need enough time that you would a holiday to see your newborn child.

your first child into the world.

Yeah.

you got this stranger in your home, you know,

Hello?

I, hello stranger. been cooking you for nine months, technically 10 but yeah, it's, it's mad. Really? Like across the world, like the different paternity, maternity

Yeah.

I mean, I go on about it, I won't, but it's, it's,

you a little bit freaked out, like not freaked out, but are you like wondering what the baby's gonna look like?

Yeah.

that would be the thing that freaked me out of it.

I have started thinking about it. Yeah, definitely. Like the last couple of weeks. Just sort of like what they're gonna Yeah. Look like. Like what color hair

Yeah,

Will they have hair

might. Yeah,

a good

they might be Ginger

Yeah,

and Be Crazy Lab Me,

I love, I was talking to my friend about this last night actually. Like ginger hair is such a, it's lovely. It's

Oh, I love it. I do. You know what I, I, I mean, I'll be honest, my hair is obviously not natural. It's not obvious. People always think it is natural.

think it looks

I should. I should have been a redhead.

yeah,

I've, my, my brows and my eyelashes are are ginger. My, like my freckle. I've got freckles, which is obviously very common in ginger people.

you, as well

Yeah. Very fair skinned. I burn in the sun, ginger hair runs in my family, so I should have been ginger, but I'm like a mousey brown. But it really bugs me that I'm not napsi ginger. 'cause it costs me a lot of money to be ginger

Yeah. So well maybe, you know, I'll give birth to a natural gender and they can not have to pay.

exactly. Oh, it's all exciting.

just, just

exciting.

kind of this week's kind of been Yeah. Winding things down. I'm in two minds about whether I post it on, I will, I'm not sure probably, to be honest, I

Maybe just a little story,

I

a little story post.

like that.

Are you,

know

are you like pre-planning some like social media posts for four weeks? Like, you know, like scheduling some, yeah. Nice.

So I've been going through the, not the, I'll say the archives. It sounds like I'm digging

The archive

from the depths.

No, but you have to in January, like there's no weddings happening.

so true. Yeah, so I was gonna do like a couple of posts a week for like. Five, probably five weeks just to cover.

Yeah. Nice.

then people can obviously leave inquiries and things like that,

Exactly. Yeah.

in the meantime. But yeah. How's.

Exciting. Yeah. Good, good. Just carrying on the preps for my own wedding, do you know what one thing that you like? There's a lot and. You know, I, I think it's, it's so, it's so weird 'cause I say these things and it's like, well, you're our wedding planner so you should kind of know this and I do know this, but when you are actually living it yourself, it's a whole different cat of fish. But the amount of appointments you have to book in.

as well. Amazing.

Yeah, but she's like, like over an hour from my house

Yeah.

and there was a part of me that was like, maybe I should just use someone local, but I know Lisa so well. I know she'll do an amazing job

really good at

I can trust her. Yeah. And I was just like, do you know what I'm, I'm just gonna bite the bullet and do it. But yeah, so I've booked them in. And then also I really wanted my. I don't have the easiest hair to work with. It's quite, it's very fine.

Yeah.

It does, it has a mind of its own bit like me. It's really nots really easy and I wanted to have my hairdresser style my hair on the wedding date because she understands my hair, she knows my hair. I also want to have hair extensions put in for it as well. So I wanted her to do my hair. So I've got a safe, separate hair and makeup person. So that's Two different appointments. I also then have my hair and makeup for my elopement, who's based in Wales. 'cause that's where I'm eloping to.

Oh.

I know. So that's five. I'm then having hair extensions put in, which I have to have put in a mid-March because I need them in for my trials.

they, yeah, of course

So I've then put in, and then I've got, I have two further appointments to then move them up. So one just before my Hindu, so that covers my whales wedding and then one just before the actual wedding day.

the big

So I feel like there's a lot of appointments going on.

Yeah, that

There's

what have you got time to, you know, wipe your ass.

It just like, it's really, and obviously I, I do all the bookings for my couples for trials and things like that, so I kind of do all the backend. So it. Kind of one of the conversations we always have is when works best time wise for them. I know where they live, so I know, you know, if they, for example, they live in London, they need to go to Oxford or whatever for their trial, I know it works for them. So I kind of do all the backend of the planning of the appointments.

much

then I, I'm meeting you.

Yeah.

you know, we're coming to meet you. the photographer wants to do an engagement shoe and we've gotta go into our food tasting and there's just a lot going on. I'm not gonna lie. And I'm a little bit like, how am I gonna fit this all in? But it'll be fine. And I just, I've been saying to myself,

honestly. You'll

I just need to not Put pressure on myself to book loads like, 'cause I'm one of these people that's like, yeah, I'm gonna go and see this person. I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna go for this weekend away. And yeah, we'll do this, that and the other. And I'm just like,

Yes, yes

sorry guys. I'm very busy.

yeah.

I'll see you at the wedding so if you want me to come and see you and your baby. Sorry, I'm having my hair and makeup

Yes, sir. I'm actually I'm busy doing stuff for my wedding, so no,

Sorry,

about that.

but I did when I was away get all of my wedding wine, which I'm very happy about, so That's good. So it's all bought, it's all in the garage, so got all the wine for the day. So that's something ticked off the list. So

that.

yeah.

God, someone robs your house. They're just gonna get.

Yeah. Yeah. Don't, don't, don't go in the garage. this is a problem. This is sort of four months early and I'm like, it's gonna disappear.

No

No One thing I have been seeing this week that I wanted to talk about obviously so exciting. A lot of people are in newly engaged. It's a, it's engagement season. It's a new year. Loads of people got engaged in the festive season. What I'm seeing is a lot of excitement, which is a lovely, I love to see it, but also a lot of people who are maybe feeling a little bit overwhelmed, a little bit anxious.

Yeah.

And obviously it's a completely new thing, so they're not sure what to do. So they're turn into things such as Facebook groups, right? TikTok, et cetera. They're commenting on there to say, you know, I'm newly engaged. I'm getting married, and I'm talking, they're saying We wanna get married in 25, 26, maybe even 2024. But they're asking for people's advice. They're asking, you know, when should I start? When did you start booking your suppliers? When should I start looking at venues?

to get it out.

Is suppliers commenting, saying to people or even just other couples, other like, you know, people that have been married or that are getting married, like, then it's coming up. Oh, you need to start booking now. You need, you better start booking. You need to book now. I even

Well,

someone, a photographer writing capital letters now with exclamation marks and said, if you want the best photographers, you need to get them booked up. I'm booked till 2026.

are the best. You know, obviously you just, you know, I've booked till 2026 because I'm,

Yeah, so I'm the best. I'm sorry, but it's absolute rubbish, right. And, and, and a prime example is for example, we spoke on the last episode, you were saying you're still doing consultations for this year.

yeah

I did a wedding last year. They booked me in May and we did the wedding in September. When they booked me in May, they had nothing. I booked everything for them and I can tell you now that they had the best caterer, they had the best photographer for them.

Yeah.

You know, because I mean that's, you know, you, you, they had amazing suppliers. They had an amazing day and I'm still putting in inquiries for this year and I'm talking like some top suppliers in the country and they still have availability. Right.

Yeah, it sounded

I'm just really,

saying that

it's really winding me up that you are putting that pressure on a cop. 'cause that person who's sitting on the other end of that phone and is getting those comments is now panicking thinking.

there for advice because they're

Yeah.

and they want a bit of support, and

Exactly.

got that from actual wedding supplies. They're gonna take that as gospel, and that is not right because they'll probably end up now spending more money because they're

Yeah,

someone in a quickly and not have a

yeah, yeah.

yes, that's so, that's so annoying from,

It's just,

a

yeah,

of view. It's just

I know. And I think my tip is like, at the end of the day, guys, if a supplier is saying it to, for example, if a photographer's saying it to you, it's because they just wanna get, they wanna get a booking.

probably actually dead till 2026, but

They haven't got any bookings for 2024. It's just like, but in an even past couples, like look, if you're the kind of person that got engaged and booked all of your suppliers two years in advance, like, great, good for you. But that's not how everybody works. And I just feel like we just gotta be a bit kind. It's rubbish people, I'm sorry, but it's like, for example, photographers. There are hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of photographers out there. Look, yes.

Yeah.

Yeah, but don't be panicking that they're all gonna be booked up. 'cause I'm telling you now. This market is, we always say the white industry, it's a saturated market. There's a lot of people

Yeah.

and, and which is fine because at the end of the day we're not all the same. You know, there's plenty of work for everybody, but don't be panicking

no.

'cause I can guarantee you. Now if you needed a photographer for two weeks time and you put on a Facebook group, is there any photographers available? There'll be photographers available. And I, and, and I've had situations in the past where, you know, suppliers have had situations that they need to pull out

Yeah.

we've put in replacements quickly.

Quick The couple even sort of knowing about it

exactly. Yeah.

sorted.

Literally. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah.

so yeah, I just wanted to have a little round about that because it's really winding me up. People who newly engage,

actually,

you need to chill and, and enjoy it. Not be, I would just say just be careful where you're put in. Your questions, you know,

thing.

write into the podcast. Let's get you web [email protected]. Do not be writing on these Facebook forums 'cause that's the kind of response you're gonna get and is Crap.

It's all panicking, like trying to panic people and false.

Scaremongering.

that's the word.

Yeah.

yeah, it's a load of rubbish. I

Shitty sales tactics. Old school sales

because they want the, they want the, the couples to bit them. It's, that's, that's what it is. But it is,

Scarcity. The law of scarcity. But yeah, so I had to have that little rant. Yeah.

okay.

But yeah, talking about hair and makeup obviously, like was saying, I've, I've got, got all my trials booked in.

Yeah.

another question that we have had in a few times is about hair and makeup, and a little bit about like who pays for what. You know, what, what did you do? How did you go about your hair and makeup situation?

So I did pay for, so obviously myself and my bridal party to

Mm-Hmm.

makeup done. I just decided that because I'd asked them to be my bridesmaids, I didn't want them to have to feel that they had to foot a bill for something like that. And

Yeah.

want everybody to feel. Like they all look the same, they all feel as involved, and I didn't want anyone being left out. So yeah, we, we budgeted for that. I also paid for my mum, to have her hair and makeup done as well. So

Yeah.

a nice treat

Nice.

on the day.

Yeah.

also, so I went to one supplier for her and makeup.

Yeah.

so it's obviously sometimes you can get a separate makeup

Yeah,

like you, obviously you are having,

yeah,

But but yeah, we went to one. And then obviously, depending on the amount of people, they bring a pair of hands. Freelancers or I guess

yeah.

extra people assistance.

Yeah.

Yeah. And I had, I think I had a couple of trials leading up to it.

Did you? I had a couple

I

Mm-Hmm.

So I think I had, I changed my mind on how

of course

Yeah.

she changed her mind.

I'm a little bit fussy, not nothing, nothing in reflection to the person that did

Yeah.

and makeup. It was just that I was just, I had an

She, you, you, yeah.

it changed.

Mm-Hmm.

Yeah, they were really accommodating with me and all of us and they turned up,

Yeah. That's good.

and the day, so we all

Yeah.

our slot was.

Yeah.

it was started, I mean, we got one married at one. I think we had hair and makeup started from at half six. And

Yeah. Something people don't realize, isn't it how early you have to start. Yeah.

it's like hair and makeup for one person's like at least 45 minutes

Yeah. So they say, yeah, they like to give 45 minutes Yeah. Per person. So for hair and their makeup.

yeah.

yeah, that's a lot of time. Yeah, it's, I completely agree with you. I think if you've asked, and I was actually having this conversation with somebody today. If you've, I feel like if you've asked somebody to be part of your bridal party, you I think you need to take this into consideration when you, before you ask people to be bridesmaids. Don't just like be all excited, like, oh, you don't need to be my bridesmaid. Like it's gonna cost you for their hair and makeup, but also their dress.

Yeah.

buy something that you'll wear again, you know? But I think it's when people are dictating, you know, you need to buy this dress. And I see this a lot on forums as well, where the actually the bridesmaid's written in and said. My, my friends expect me to, to pay for this dress and, and pay for, you know, the Hindu and then all these different things and it all adds up.

Yeah, absolutely. I agree. I just felt like, I just didn't think it should be down to them to pay for something that I wanted to.

Yeah.

if we are being honest, have control over,

Yeah.

as in I wanted the dresses to be a certain color and

Yeah.

but then I was like, here's the website picker style. But then I, obviously we paid for the dresses, but

Yeah,

are gonna tell people what color and style, then I feel like you should then be paying for that because they might not be able to afford that

a hundred percent, and I think the dress is definitely key to be paid for. 'cause let's face it, regardless of, of what, what they, it's a bridesmaid. No one's gonna rock out in the street in a bridesmaid dress, you know? So

like

you're not gonna use it again, are you?

sell it on or something, but

you should definitely be paying for that. And then hair and makeup. I see. You know, and some of my bridesmaid said to me, well, I, I did give them the option. I said, do you want your makeup D done? Because some people, to be honest, would rather do it themselves. Some people are funny about it, and it does not bother me. So again, I think. It would not bother me if my bridesmaids all said like, I'll just do my own hair and makeup. I'm fine with that.

Okay.

And I thought I'd probably spend that on them, on gifts, on shit tat that they're never gonna use again.

a good

I thought, do you know what? I'm just gonna book and pay for their hair and makeup. I want 'em to have a lovely experience in the morning. I'll get sold some matching pajamas and we're just gonna chill and have our hair and makeup done. It's gonna be a really nice experience. And actually, if I was a, you know, I've been a bridesmaid a few times. I would rather that than somebody give me a gift.

Me too. I think it also hair and makeup done for people, having somebody come and do that for you. I think if you are trying to fit to like a timeframe, I think it lets, it allows you to be more in a schedule. So if like I was

Oh, that's a good point.

I

Yeah.

bit concerned about making sure everybody was gonna be ready on time because there was a lot

Haley's bridesmaids she thought you were gonna be running late. No, but I see it all the time.

Yeah.

you know, A lot of the time it's the bridesmaids that make the bride late on the day because they're like missing. And you know, and if we're, if the brides asked to do like a first look with their dad, obviously we need to get them out the room. We need to get their stuff out.

That's

amount of times they've got their stuff everywhere, they've gotta move it back to their hotel room and get in the car that if they're having cars as well. You know, if you're not

It's

you're somewhere that you're getting ready somewhere different. Yeah. You're like, come on, let's move. Let's move because we need to get you out the room before we can then get the bride the dad in to do like the first little mom and dad to do the first look. So yeah. Sometimes

just, I just

it's a very valid point.

having that schedule in place for me was like so good because I

Yeah.

I had like, you need to be there this time. You need to be there at time

Yeah. So basically what you're saying is, is if the hair and makeup artist, 'cause, because you could say to your bridesmaids, right, make sure you've got your hair and makeup done by x time. But actually they're probably gonna be more laxed on it than if a hair and makeup artist says to them, right, you're in the chair.

exactly.

Fair.

also I feel like with the hair and makeup if you are a bridesmaid and the hair lady says, or man says to you, make sure your hair's dry. Make sure your hair is dry on the morning. because that is an issue.

Yeah. That is definitely a si

bone

a silly

wash

situation.

before, but make sure it's dry. Like

Yeah.

that they'd sort of ask you to do. Just, just

Do it. Did you send a little message round to them and say like, girls, you need to do this.

stayed together the night before, so I made sure

Yeah,

I was drying my cousin's hair

brilliant.

drying it. I.

I would just be like, look guys, before you get to the venue, just make sure that you know, like

Yeah.

gonna be washing their hair the night before? Just wash it, like before you get to the venue kind of thing, I suppose. If you want it freshly washed,

all of these little things though, that if like their hair and makeup, if they ask you to do, I think, yeah, pass

yeah, just make sure you do them.

it's just, just, yeah, extra. These little things they do help

Yeah,

keep, keep

I'm also.

on time.

Yeah. I'm also gonna, so I've booked like a lodge the night before, so we've got like a three bedroom, four bedroom, one. Yeah. So my bridesmaids have got six bridesmaids, so they're sharing like three rooms and then I'm having my own room, and because I'm then staying in there the night at the wedding, I'm gonna literally be like, nothing's happening in that room. I'm literally gonna sleep in there, make the bed, get up, and then leave the room because

mess

don't, the amount of mess you end up in the room. So I'm gonna be like, look. Hair and makeup artist obviously has got all their hair and makeup stuff, but if you are doing like use new deodorant or whatever, do that in your bedroom and then at least we can just close the door. 'cause the amount of times, you know, you have the photographer comes in to do bri, like bridal prep photos and there's just crap everywhere.

stuff everywhere. You don't realize how much stuff that's there. I, I actually had like a separate logistics plan for my, for my getting my bridesmaid stuff back out of the rooms to their,

Yeah.

wherever they needed to be, so that those rooms were left empty. And I, I mean, I genuinely did. I had like write i'd written pages of

Yeah,

It sounds

Here's your Bible,

It

There is a full PDF download booklet here for you to make sure that you get out the room.

also enjoy your day

But also, do you know what though? I am quite lucky because one of my best friends has her own cleaning business, so she's like

godsend.

it with that. She's, you know, tidying up and sorting things out. She's, and actually. All of my bridesmaids are more likely to be looking after. Like, I'm just one of those typical people. Like say we're going on a day out. It's always me that's like running, oh, I forgot this, I forgot that. And they're like, oh, for God's sake, like waiting for me.

no.

So I feel like on the day they're gonna be like, stand there all organized, like bags in the already packed, like in the corner, like all already in their rooms. And, and it'll be me that they're trying to sort out

See it's the other way around for me. 'cause I left my, they left my bag, didn't they? Do you remember

Yes.

of stuff? They

Yeah,

bag together for me, but then they all left it. I was like,

they left it, they, they were thinking about their own bags.

worry about me. I'll be like to

Don't worry about me. You know, don't worry if my mascara is dripping down my face as long as yours is. Okay. I think it's such a big, that's a big thing for Bridesmaids though, isn't it?

It's not

not, it's not about you. Like keep, keep a smile on your face. Get yourself down that aisle, but could just worry about

the bride.

Yeah, that's what, that's your job is to be supportive. That is a hundred percent your job.

Yeah. You choose them because you want them there to support you on the day. That's,

Yeah.

main reason. And then, you know, all the other stuff just comes part and parcel of a wedding sort of thing.

Yeah.

important at the end of the

Yeah. But I do love the whole, my hair and makeup experience. I think it's fun. I'm really looking forward to that part of the day. And I always say as well to people, like, your memories for your my wedding day. Don't start from like the minute you walk down there. Oh, they start from the morning, you wake up. And I think they're so important.

Yeah,

Yeah.

having breakfast and getting ready, like opening like some champagne and like, yeah, like getting your hair and makeup done. Like it's not something you obviously do often. It's like a

Yeah.

so,

Yeah.

nice to just chill out and get someone else to like make you look good.

Just another thing I will mention though, that I have seen many a time

no.

pop beer. Feel free to pop a little bottle of Prosecco,

no.

it's, please do not go crap. Honestly, the amount of times I've seen bridesmaids drunk. Yeah.

Oh, really?

Yeah. Because you think if you are waking up earlier, like 7:00 AM and you're like, oh, bucks fizz for breakfast. Yeah. And then you're drink it if you're not getting married to look two,

Yeah.

you know, there's a lot of

long day.

Prosecco ends up getting

Oh.

consumed though, you know? Yeah. Again, just think about the bride

nose

cream. Yeah. Just calm it down. Calm it down.

I agree. I think yeah, keep the alcohol to a minimum if you can, but

Keep to a minimum. People, wait until they've got married.

Yeah, then toast. So I think like you say about hair and makeup, obviously making yourself feel good and things like that. I just wanted to really speak today about body image.

Mm-Hmm.

I've, especially this time of year regardless of weddings, but just I feel like January hits and then you getting like Weight Watchers adverts, slimming World, like it's coming up on Facebook ads, like there, it's every on the.

it's endless, isn't it?

like, you know, new Year, new me, I'm going to the gym and there's such a pressure. But I feel like when you are getting married, there is

Mm-Hmm.

unspoken, like pressure that you just feel, especially as a woman, you

Massively.

weight to fit into a dress.

Yeah.

that the way you look's not good enough like with your figure or whatever. And I just, I just found it especially. Speaking from experience from when I got married,

Mm-Hmm.

I found it really overwhelming and

Yeah.

actually I thought I was gonna be like, yeah, I'm gonna drop loads of weight. I actually just went the other way because I thought, oh my God. I'm marrying this person because they, they love me for how

Yeah, a hundred percent

why would I turn up? I mean, I remember Richard saying to me, he found it really weird that people go get married and on the wedding day they turn around and they're like, obviously they're bride or groom to bees. Like literally looks like a different person. Like they've got

Different person. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You're like, well,

different makeup. They look completely

Yeah. Different makeup, different hair, like all these Yeah. Like people that have like their hair up when they would never wear their hair up and Yeah.

like that

A hundred percent.

altering the way you look to

Yeah.

please the standards of the, of society. That's what it is

Yeah.

I feel like people think it's like you get married and then you are meant to go on this diet and lose those weight and I just think

Yeah.

wrong. I think if anything, we should

It's so true.

embracing the way we look

Yeah.

and ourselves up and just feeling great in the skin that we are in. 'cause like

A hundred percent.

marrying you

Yeah.

it's not even to do with how you look

Mm-Hmm.

If it is a shallow.

Yeah, it's, no, but it's so true because I was actually really shocked when I went dress shopping it was kind of, it was a real weird, it wasn't like they were being obviously, like, mean about it. But look, I'm a size eight to 10, do you know what I mean? I'm, I'm petite, right? So I'm in the dress shop and. A couple of times it, it's, it's kind of almost mentioned like, are you gonna lose weight?

planning

This is fine. Don't I just, and it, and it's so true and there is that pressure, and I'm very comfortable in my skin and, you know, I naturally like work out, eat quite healthily. That's just my lifestyle. That's just what I enjoy and how I, how I wanna live. But even I have felt that pressure of like, right, I've got four months to my wedding. I wanna lose this much weight. I wanna make sure that I'm, do you know what, this is how I'm gonna look.

Yeah.

be absolutely happy in my skin. So I'm like, so why would I not go on to, you know, on my wedding day? And I think Fair enough, yeah, if like in everyday life you are maybe not happy with your weight and you wanna like lose some weight or be a bit healthier, like great. But why am I worrying about doing that for one day when actually today I'm happy to leave my house. So why am I not happy to leave my house and go to the wedding the way I am?

exactly. And I think it's also like, I know you can go and pick a dress and then it's like, oh yeah, you know, you seamstress or you, you'll get a seamstress to do the alterations. You know, when you lose weight, it's like you're just assuming that then

Yeah, literally like they'll say to you like, oh, you know, we'll leave it until X time in case you lose weight

Yeah.

you're a bit like, what? And even like, I think people, even when they're with you, like looking at dresses like they think it's okay to say things like, it's like a society norm to be like, oh, well you can't gain any weight if you buy that dress. Or in that kind of style of dress, you know? Oof. You know?

too much on. It's like, well, no, actually

Yeah.

I'll just get it made bigger, so fucking stick it

Yeah,

you know?

it's so funny it, I was literally having this conversation as well today, all these conversations I've had today where we were saying about people that buy a dress and, and my friend who I was talking to had said her friend had bought a dress that was actually two small, she tried it on their stop and they were like, oh, it's too small.

Yeah.

but they were like, it's fine 'cause I'm gonna get into it. And bridesmaids that do that as well.

the weight.

Yeah,

not

no, you are better to go a bigger size and get it all. You can get an alteration done, you know, two weeks before the wedding. Like if you really need to, but you cannot have a wet dress made bigger or you've gotta go and find another dress last minute. That's stressful. Really stressful. You're better to have made it smaller.

it's unhealthy. It's an unhealthy way of being

Yeah.

Mentally. It's unhealthy. It's not good. And, and I think it's the same with like having your hair and makeup done. I mean, I. I was saying, you know, I was sort of laughing saying I was fussy, but a lot of it was my sort of my own issues of like my,

Yeah.

my appearance. Just, and I, I mean, I remember on the day, I mean, my hair and makeup lady was amazing. Like she was really, really patient with me, but I was

Hmm.

on the wedding day, like crying, like,

You did get upset, didn't you? Yeah.

and I look

Yeah,

piece of shit. You know,

yeah.

so ridiculous. But

Yeah.

it's, it's just the way that I've, to be honest, like I've grown up around. People saying comments about weight. And I've always been a little bit like I've taken it to heart

So it's put a bit on your mind. Yeah.

massive pressure on a wedding

Yeah.

you should look your absolute best

Absolute best.

you always

Do you know what? You might not eat

you know,

It's so true, isn't it? I think it's as well the thought that you're gonna get those photos

Yeah.

you know, you do, you, you think, you know, they're gonna be up on my wall or whatever, so you wanna look?

so you're gonna be looking

Yeah.

if that's the mind frame you are in, if you are not in that. If I could give any advice to people, it would be, rather than investing in a diet, invest in some therapy or some, you know, wellbeing classes, that that you can do to build up your confidence. There's so many books out there, so many Instagram accounts. I started following into my really body positive Instagram accounts around the time that

Yeah.

got engaged. And I knew I was gonna be getting married because I just know what I'm like. So I'd set

Yeah,

up. So that I wouldn't feel that way,

yeah. That's so good.

There's

Yeah.

outside

Yeah.

when you go to these places, not saying they're all the same, but a lot of the time you go to a bridal shop, you do get these comments. You've gotta like

Mm-Hmm.

yourself if you can

Yeah.

be

And like we said, not, not even necessarily in a mean way, but in a way of like,

at

oh, why are you gonna be losing weight? Like, just so they get the size right. But

can

even that question can trigger Yeah, a hundred percent. No, you're so right. It is, and you know what, and I, and I always say to, to particularly brides, I'm gonna say brides I get it more probably from brides, but gr grooms as well, I'm sure feel it as well. And I said the same I said to you on your wedding day is you can think. And, and I know that you're gonna tell me that this is true because it worked for you.

it just sinks.

You changed as soon as you had that dress on and you looked in the mirror. It's like your whole mindset changed. And I say this to people all the time 'cause they're like, oh, you know, I'm really worried about the photos. I feel anxious. Like I don't want a camera in my face. I'm like, trust me. On the day you'll feel completely different. And they always do.

Absolutely.

Mm.

No, totally vouch for that. You do, it just, it all melts away. It's like it never mattered. You just, it's, it's weird. It's a weird

Yeah.

it is true.

So true. So true. Well, that was deep, wasn't it?

deep. But

Deep.

yourself.

Woo-hoo. Love yourself. I'm gonna go and eat loads of donuts.

And with that, I'm just gonna sit into a Carle.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Should we do the listeners' questions and messages?

Yeah, let's do it.

Fab. Number one, should I have a weekday or a weekend wedding? Pros and cons for both. Ooh.

Interesting. Yeah, so I guess it, to me, again, it depends like some people get married on a weekday. If it's like, if say they're a teacher and it's a half term, obviously cheap. Well, say this, it might be changing, but generally it's cheaper, isn't it, to get married on a weekday than it is on

Yes. Maybe your venue. I think the only thing you'd probably get cheaper is your venue. I don't think you'd get any other supplier cheaper because. I think it's, it's difficult because, and we spoke about this before, but for example, like for me or for like a photographer, we generally take, say that person who takes one wedding a week, regardless if it's as a Tuesday or Saturday,

Yeah,

it's the same price basically. So yeah, you do have to look at, at that. I would definitely say you've gotta do your research because yeah, if you've got suppliers that are willing to do it cheaper 'cause it's midweek, then yeah, that's a pro. But I don't always think that's necess

No.

necessarily true anymore.

for venues, like you say, isn't it? Yeah. Like

Yeah, because.

a budget for like a peak season or a peak day

Yeah, because

and

Saturday is a peak, you know, and they can do a wedding on a Tuesday and Saturday, you know, or some can, some can't. I would say as well, like you say, I think it depends on like who your guests are. So for example, we, our weddings are actually on a Sunday, which is funny because I always said years ago when I was started in the wedding industry that I loved Sunday weddings because they always seem more relaxed.

Yeah,

But the reason we're doing it on a Sunday is 'cause it's bank holiday weekend, so it technically is a Saturday. But all our, because all our guests are traveling, they're coming up on a Saturday wedding Sunday, go home Monday. So they haven't necessarily, but we say this, they haven't necessarily got time, take time off work. But there's quite a few of my guests that have, because I think we've gotta remember nowadays is not everybody works Monday to Friday.

that's true. true. And not everybody gets bank holidays off either. Do they necessarily,

No. So actually I think you've gotta really look at your guests because like you say, if all your guests are teachers and a lot of your friends and stuff working in that industry, then you, they probably can do a, a midweek

Yeah,

in a half term.

Yeah.

Because actually, like if you invited me to a wedding on a Saturday, that'd be very difficult for me

Yeah.

to come to a Saturday wedding.

Yeah. that's the thing. I think you got a, yeah, like look at your guest list, look at who's coming, what works

Yeah,

your family. Because I do find, like, when I've attended, be honest, for me, like a weekday wedding it's, is, is quite hard because a work all week and so does my behalf. So we've had to take

yeah,

off. So

yeah. But then I do see that as a pro as well, because I do think during a weekday if people really love you. Like they won't care about taking a day off a holiday.

Yeah.

So you will only get people who actually like, you know, these distant aunties and uncles that you feel like you have to invite. They're not gonna take the deaf west. They'll just say, I sorry, I can't 'cause of 'cause of work. Lovely. 'cause you haven't gotta pay for them to come

That's true. That's one

That is definitely a pro.

list.

Yeah. Honestly, like you, you get so much annual leave when you're employed, like taken one day, but then at the same time, you know. Is there a con? People having to take time off work, but then like we say, you could do a Saturday wedding and people would have to take time off work anyway. So I think it just,

Depends, isn't it? Yeah.

it does very much depend. Yeah. Depends on your guest. Look at your guest list. Really whittle down. Yeah. What's gonna work for everybody.

money as well.

Yeah. But also don't worry too much about other people because this one day, and if they can't take one day off to come to your wedding, then

they should be there anyway.

Exactly. Cool. So question two So we actually spoke on the podcast and somebody messaged in because we were talking about legalities of weddings. So I was saying about how a lot of people get married. At a registry office, say for example, if they're having a destination wedding. So they'll get married at the registry office and then they'll have a celebrant on the day. And they asked us about the, the legalities of getting married in Vegas.

Okay. Yeah. That's interesting.

Yeah. Now I don't want to comment too much on this 'cause I only do UK weddings. I don't do destination wedding, so I'm not a hundred percent sure. But now with Vegas, i, I have done a bit of research on it because I have a friend who wants to get married in Vegas and I had somebody before talk to me that they, they basically, I was planning their wedding in the UK and they were thinking about El open to Vegas for the legalities, then having their day in the uk. So I believe in Vegas.

It needs to be

Yeah,

to normal

exactly. And the other thing is, I think you might need to check is if it's America, whether you need to get some sort of marriage license. And the issue is, so I had for a couple before, for example, that wanted to get married in Mexico. They can legally get married in Mexico. But to do so, you had to do medical exams,

Oh,

so you had to send blood and things like that. And that was, so you have to go to your doctors and to do that, it was like 250 pound each or something. It was like, it wasn't cheap.

it? Yeah.

So I think it's more, not even necessarily that you can't, you can do it, there's a way around it, but it's a, it can be a bit of a nightmare. There's a lot of paperwork and stuff involved, and B, it might cost you more money.

you more.

So I just advised to give you a local registry officer, call and check. But I do believe that you can go and get married. I think Vegas, because Vegas, Scotland is the same. I believe that if you, because they are those kind of elopement, they're trying to almost,

Well they've got like

basically attract.

for it,

Yeah,

It's

elope to Vegas, don't you? So I think they basically make it very easy for you to legally be married.

family did that. They went

Oh, okay. Yeah

in Vegas and then they came back and had like a reception here.

yeah

so yeah, and I'm pretty sure it was like you say, it was like legal.

It was legal. And do you remember if they had to do any paperwork or anything?

I actually don't know.

I don't think you do for Vegas.

they had witnesses 'cause my nan and granddad went and

You have to have

dad.

witnesses.

they

Yeah.

had like, it was like a proper. was a proper wedding. I'm sure they did.

Yeah, you have to,

Married

you have to have witnesses, but they can again in Vegas, because I think it's the same with Reta Green,

Yeah.

a lot of the places will supply you witnesses because

Yeah,

doesn't matter who they're, you don't need to know your witnesses. My witnesses, when I get married in Wales as our photographers,

yeah.

you, you don't need to know them, so I think they'll just supply them.

Yeah. And like you say,

But yeah.

like it's a market, isn't it? So they're gonna want

But like I say, I might be completely wrong on what I'm saying 'cause I don't do destination wedding. I only do UK weddings, so I could tell you all day about the UK laws, but yeah. Yeah.

exciting

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Yeah,

I saw this the other day

a.

someone was talking about how their friend had or had invited them to a destination wedding. So they'd done the save the dates, hadn't sent out the full invites. Well, in that time, her, this girl and all our friends had booked a villa, you know, decide planned all their days around the wedding. Then when the actual wedding invite come out, the, the couple had Had booked like pre-booked activities and was like, we're doing this on this day, this and this day, this on this day.

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Yeah.

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