It's a haunted house but... WEDDING EDITION!!

Hey! So if you hear any noises in the background, just to let you know we've got work coming in the house. I mean, I'm not in my office. Do you know what? It's quite a nice idea like, oh, record podcast on the sofa, but

every week.

Is it? Are you on your sofa? I actually didn't know that. I didn't realise.

It's the

Ah.

can really do it because I don't I don't have an office anymore because there's a nursery.

Well, yeah, that's very true. You did, you used to go in the nursery though, but Yeah, but now when we, she, we're recording when she naps, see what you're doing. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But it's actually quite a bit of a logistical nightmare, isn't it? Setting up on. Yeah. And also I just, I don't feel that comfy. I'm like, Oh, trying to get

Oh.

Right. You know? Oh

I have to put loads behind my back because I'm such an old fogey now that, oh, it just hurts my back to, to

This is a thing. Yeah. And I'm trying to like not touch the mic because as we know, if you touch anything. Honestly, this tech equipment is so temperamental, things just, like, unplug

Speaking of tech, and,

of tech, shall we get into it and then we'll yeah,

do it.

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Hayley.

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let's get you wet! Woo!

I feel like we've got real good at that now. You

We are.

in sync.

Do you know what though? I still have to read it

Me

off a script. I reckon I probably could if I was like, Yeah, same. Yeah, I felt like if I had to, I would, but, yeah. Anyway, yes, as Hayley mentioned, we have had to change the live podcast date. It was supposed to be as of today we're recording, to, it was supposed to be today, so, it would have been last night. As you're at the time of listening but yeah, it's basically tech issue Not really tech issues. Is it we just struggled to

trying to get everything

it out.

in the time frame.

Yeah, we didn't give ourselves enough time basically Yeah

but it's just, it's more than just me and Hannah, we have to get other people involved to do certain things

exactly

And,

couldn't get the people that we needed to commit to that date. I think

and not everyone else is.

Yeah, literally, yeah, it is getting people to be able to do it, and yeah, it's not always it. And also, I don't know if it's just this time of year, but there was so many people messaging us saying, I'd love to come, but like, they just couldn't do the date. I think it's like fire, like bonfire night, week, I think.

it?

Yeah. So what we've decided to do is move it to January. Reason being is not a lot goes on in January. It's a bit of a boring month

tour turns one in January. How

Oh,

dare

sorry other than lily's birthday. And and you're gonna we're gonna have loads of newly engaged people. So we're hoping that they can come along as well So we just thought you know what? We're gonna move it to after christmas. Everyone just seems to be really busy now up till christmas

Like, I've seen so many

Yeah,

on the telly in the last

oh god. I know it's too soon. It's too soon so we thought yeah, you know what? That's what we're gonna do and then it means that it get we can get like supplies and stuff tied down a bit easier

Yeah, exactly. It'd just

And then we've been having

organise and people to plan their journey

yeah,

things like that. That's what I

so the new date is going to be the 29th of january so yeah, we're looking forward to it

can make it.

buy your tickets. We'll put the link in the show notes for you And yeah,

Come along. Come

but other than that i've been in wales You

you've been on

I'm just back. Yeah, I'm fresh. I'm freshly back from Wales. One of our favourite places. We love going to Wales. So exciting. But, you know, we went to this really cool place. We actually it was for our friend's 40th birthday. Which I couldn't really say last week. And actually, last week, I was a bit like, oh, I'm going to Wales. But I didn't really say about it, because I know he doesn't listen to the podcast, but you just never know.

Just in case.

he maybe does. He's a secret squirrel and listens to it. But yeah, we all went out for a surprise for his 40th birthday, which was really nice. And do you know what? It stayed dry the whole time we were there. We went Friday, came back last night, which was Tuesday. And yeah, it was so, so nice. We spent a couple of days with them, and then we went off for a couple of days on our own. So, we went in our van, and honestly, we went to this place, the coolest place ever.

god, amazing

So I've literally just been chilling in the hot tub for the last couple of days, which is nice, while Martin worked. I know.

for ages because you're not allowed to go in and when you're pregnant I feel like I was Pregnant forever and

Oh yeah.

haven't been in one either. So

Yeah, fair. Love a, love a hot tub. It was a really hot hot tub.

Oh,

sounds ridiculous, but you know when they're like,

lobster

Yeah, literally, I was like sweating, like, yeah, it was really, really hot, but no, that was really, really nice. Yeah, but how, how has your week been anyway? Me babbling on about Wales.

No, my week's been alright, to be honest. I

Good.

day yesterday. I had my windows cleaned for the first time

Oh,

here.

what?

lived here for about four years. So,

Hayley. Fair play.

honestly, I feel like a new woman. I feel like

Did he try to double? He was like, he's up bad.

any more? I

Oh god.

Some of my homemade millionaire shortbread, though, so.

Oh,

Yeah, he was

Where's

with

mine? I need some of that. I've seen some of that in my life.

It's

Look at you

good.

Millionaire's Shortbread,

am Little

Mother Earth.

love it.

She's like making Lily's food, making Millionaire's Shortbread,

Just a homebody these days.

Yeah, you're gonna be showing me up.

I mean, I'm, I'm still yet to master bake and I'm just sort of dipping my toe in at the moment.

Okay, okay.

something different every week, so. Yeah,

Nice. I

so myself, it was, it was very nice.

love Millionaire's

It's

Shortbread.

it's sickly though, you can only have like a small bit otherwise you're like, but. Although I

Nah, I bet, I bet I could. I bet, honestly, I bet I could.

I don't know, I just I don't understand people that have a little, like, imagine getting a bag of biscuits and you have one biscuit out of it.

Me and Martin always said, So you know when I used to make the brownies, right? And people would be like, Oh yeah, I can only eat half. Me and Martin are like, What? What? Ha ha ha!

I feel like

I, what's wrong?

Like

Literally.

and it says it serves eight people, but it doesn't. It'd be lucky if it serves two.

Oh, I hate that, and like meals, you know when it's like a,

a

you know you get like the M& S ones, where you get like a main side and a

Pfft. Thanks. I just don't get who these people are that are actually halving a lasagna. You know what I mean? Come

now I know what you mean. Yeah, we

al forno meant that it was lasagna for one. I didn't re

bought the massive tray. The big one.

didn't it just mean it's cooked I don't know

I don't know.

is, but it doesn't

I'm not sure.

for one. And

No, probably not.

thinking

No.

forno just means it's

a big lasagna al forno.

Oh my god.

Oh dear, bad times.

wants to email in and tell us what El Fordo means.

Yeah, you, we need to Google that. They're doing the new Tom Kerridge collab, aren't they, M& S?

yeah, I've

And, I'm not really want to try it, but that's not going to be big enough.

Was it Waitrose that did the, Was it Waitrose that did the Heston Blumenthal stuff? Like all the weird,

I don't know, I can't, I don't know.

year he did some weird Christmas bomb thing, and it was like, tangerine, white chocolate thingy. I don't know.

banging to me.

does. I think it was. I think I must have eaten it because I remember it well. I'm like, oh, does anyone know? I only ate three of them.

Fair play, fair play.

no, my week was, my week other than the windows being clean was pretty good. I've

Good.

I've been trying to do a load of admin.

Yeah.

redid my CV

Yeah.

spoke about before we come on. I just

Yeah, we did.

for doing that, to be honest

She's

I'm not

getting the old

I've

I was like CV,

I

don't even know what that is.

it was asking me,

Do you

had to

need a CV to freelance?

I just thought it looked really good because then they can see all my like, experience because

I suppose.

really I've done some cool stuff, you know, I was in I mean, I don't know if I've mentioned it before but I did the Chelsea florist, young florist of the year back in

You did, yeah. Love that.

finalist, and just want to drop that in

I saw that, I, I don't know, right, so Hayley's proper on the market and hype at the moment and you can tell because I, as an ex bride, received a very professional email from Hayley the other day to ask me to leave her a Google review. Honestly, it was the most professional email I've ever received.

better leave me five stars, bitch!

And then, yeah, she's obviously like copying, but she's obviously doing this template out to all her couples, 100%, which she should be doing. And then she's put at the end to me, yeah, leave me five stars, bitch. Which obviously I would.

it to someone else

Oh my god, yeah, imagine if you forwarded mine on to someone else. Exactly. I would, I tell you what, even if I didn't know the supplier, right, that would get my attention more.

Yeah,

Then the professional email, I'd be like, okay, fair play.

funny.

I I need to do what you've done. Because I always ask my couples after the wedding to leave me a review. And they're always like, yeah, yeah, yeah. And so often they don't. Because obviously people are busy and got lives. So I need to get on the, the, the review hype. So I feel like maybe we should set up a little competition here.

Who can get the most reviews?

Yeah, because I think you're sitting at 24 and I think I'm at 30.

Oh.

maybe we need to like, I don't know, either say that we've got to get 10 or I don't know, like set an amount. We'll have to have a chat about it offline because this is probably a bit boring for the listeners. But I'm feeling like that will get us really, that will get us going.

that

You know,

me

because I need to.

that does.

Get a competitive sign out because I need to do that too. I need to chase up all the people that haven't left me one,

Yeah,

one. Yeah.

it.

Reviews, reviews, reviews, hey. Yeah,

really, we're

I can tell.

we're kind of out of season now for like, Weddings really a little bit. I mean, I'm about to get

Oh yeah, I'm done. Yeah.

doesn't kick off for another couple of weeks But when it does I just like dread it. Well, I mean, I love it, but

Yeah.

a lot of work So it's a lot of late night. So

Yeah.

kind of try and navigate that with having a baby and stuff. It's gonna be a bit weird, but

Yeah, fun stuff. You'll be fine. You'll be fine. Yeah, mine's done for the year. I've got a couple of freelance jobs But they're like evening Christmas parties, which I've got my first one on Friday, which I feels quite early.

yeah,

Christmas party vibe And then I've not got one then until the end of the month So I think this one's a private party and then the one at the end of the month's like a proper Christmas party Like, you know and all different people come together. So Yeah, I'll be looking forward to that. So, yeah, I'm similar to you though. I actually took on a new couple this week and they are American.

That's cool.

but he's Indian American, she's American. So, I thought it was quite interesting actually how they've decided to do their day. So, they Have split it across two days And they're doing the indian wedding on the first day and the american wedding on the second day Which i'm really looking forward to I think it'd be really good because a lot of my couples would try and merge the two Whereas they're like no we're gonna keep us separate. We'll have two days.

can do that, I think that's quite cool. And I think then you're getting the best of both but you're able to completely fully like immerse yourself

Exactly

wedding and then having an American style

Yeah

separately I

Yeah, so it's not like, quite, quite often I'll do like, a fusion wedding and it'll be like, you know, the bride wears an Indian dress to the Indian ceremony, and then she'll get changed, whereas this, just completely splits it yeah, I, I thought, I thought, and food wise, I've done ones where you bring in like, two different foods in, so you'll have one type of food for the day, one type of food for the evening, so you can bring both of those cultures in, but actually this way, it's just, you

that's

you know?

I like that actually

Yeah, I thought that was a really good idea.

is that are you feeling like that's gonna be Is it more work for

Yeah.

yeah, okay.

it was a higher cost. Yeah, definitely. Well, it will be in some respects. There's going to be, obviously, two caterers. There's two different venues. They've even booked two different venues for it. So, completely separate.

The venues, or?

Yes, they are. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I feel like the only thing, the things that you probably keep similar is like the photographer, videographer would stay the same. Things like that. So yeah, there's some things you could florist, you'd keep the same. So yeah, looking forward to that.

That's, that's good that you got that

Oh, and another exciting note from me.

Pro tail.

So I'll keep you up to date on this. We'll, we'll, we'll, I'll keep you updated on the journey. But I have officially sent off my passport for my new name.

Oh,

dismay, but

it now for a new password?

88. 50, Hayley.

the same around this. I think I thought I paid 90 quid. So to me, it's gone down by a couple of

Well, there you go. This is why this is my dismay. I had six years left on that. Six years left on that bad boy I had.

see, this is why I've not changed mine because I'll just book it in my maiden name.

Oh, do ya? Oh, I thought you'd officially changed it.

so I had it, I literally renewed, I had to renew my passport before, to go on my honeymoon. But I wasn't married, but I had to renew it. So I had to do it in my maiden name, and I thought, well I've got to avoid you get ten years on them.

Yeah.

I thought, well I'm not gonna, I mean, within the next ten, eight years I might decide, because I need to get one for Lily anyway, but,

Yeah, you're gonna change it then? Yeah.

will, so.

I did read, though, on the government website that you can change it before you go away. Before you get married, sorry. So your wedding is in your honeymoon name. So

that when I was doing it, I had to do it in my I don't know what happened. When, when I renewed it, it must have been too

there was that bit on the

or

Oh, maybe. I think it does say, I'll check that and I'll put that in for next week. So, I'll double check when you have to change it. But, I thought it would be quite an interesting journey to follow of me name, changing my name. Because I know we discussed it before and it was a very difficult and complicated process. So, let's see. Basically, I've gone on the DirectGov website. We'll put the link in the show description, actually. So you just click on the link.

not?

And I had to send off a copy of my marriage certificate, which is why we'd always advise get two marriage certificates. Don't just get one.

what happened with my driver's license when I changed my name on that.

Yeah.

send it off and it

Send it off

send it back to you.

Okay, cool, yeah, so I've sent off my My old passport and my marriage certificate. So that's sent that's gone. I've got an email to say it's all fine My new one's being printed. So yeah, I will update you on when it comes on what I do next because I haven't done anything else I haven't done like you the driving license and stuff because I thought well I get my passport done first So I'll keep you updated on

only costs

What you do Oh, that's alright then.

I did that. Ha

done that. But honestly, even like your phone bill, I, what I will say as well, what I did, that's a good idea for anyone getting married soon, I set up, literally the week after we got married, might have even set it up before, I set up a new Gmail email account with my new name, and I actually then used that Google Drive because it was Gmail, to put all our wedding photos in.

Oh, okay, yeah. Yeah.

Yeah, so I could then share them with all the family and whatever. Yeah, and you've got them stored then, haven't you? And obviously because it's a new email, you've got loads of, like, space to use. So I put all the wedding photos in there. And then I started changing things like, for example, I've got a subscription for our pet food. So I changed my email on that and my name. Yeah, all the little things that you can change, get done before you do your passport is what I would say.

think the

Yeah.

found the most difficult, I think it was doing it at the bank, you know, changing it on my bank account.

Well, I'll let you know. I'll, I'll, what, that's going to be my next, that's next on my list.

I

I'm going to do passport, then I'm going to do bank.

I

I'll let you know how I get on. But yeah, but the business is not changing. That's staying Hannah Rose, so, yeah, so that was the excitement of my week anyway. I actually have something to say, right, so, FYI to anyone listening, I have not told Hayley this before we've come on.

my

So, I want to get her, I want to get her actual serious reaction.

god.

We've had a message in from someone you obviously know,

Me?

yeah, So you obviously know them, I'm assuming from the message saying, Hailey, tell your story about the gold spoons

About the gold

This is where she doesn't know what it's I knew this would happen. I thought this is, I thought I was gonna get like a shock reaction where it was like, oh,

my gosh, is it

the gold spoons.

Oh no, someone's going to find out I've got a gold spoon fetish.

That's exactly what it is, Hayley. You have a gold spoon.

about.

it's from Trish

Oh,

and it says, Hayley, talk about the gold spoons with a laughing face. She doesn't,

Does she mean, I think she means all

she doesn't know.

missing.

Is that what it is? The gold spoons?

Yeah, so obviously you know about this as well. You had to deal with it, didn't you?

Oh my god, I forgot!

calm about

Oh my god, I cannot believe we've never told this story.

Yeah.

This is bad, this is a pretty bad story. I don't know if, can we tell it? Cosmic it!

and I say it's okay.

Oh my god, I can't believe that I didn't click, that that's what she was talking about. But it wasn't just,

spoons. But it

it wasn't just spoons, it was the whole cutlery.

like, sets of cutlery.

Do you want me to tell the story? Well, Hayley didn't actually know about the story. I had to come round her house and tell her very seriously about this situation.

knew something had gone wrong because you put something on your stories at some point asking a question about, saying something about

I basically said

and I

like, this is why you should have a planner because I'm still dealing with ag.

I thought,

I just said, I'm still dealing with ag from a wedding while the couple are on their honeymoon and don't know anything about it, which the supplier did not like. Basically, this was obviously a couple of years ago now. I've actually never, not really spoken since. Oh,

I don't blame you.

Basically, we hired this cutlery, we're not gonna name any names, for Hayley's wedding. I had a

the way, I just want to say, you know, really

stunning, this is what really peed me off. Because the cutlery, and all of her stuff was incredible. Like, she had really good range. When it came, it was in immaculate condition. I had worked with her once before on a shoot. but I hadn't worked with them on an actual wedding. So when it came, I was like, really happy, the venue was really happy, they were like, this is great, like, really nice stuff, please send us her details. Like, yeah, great, great, great, great.

up and collect

Yeah,

you've told

they couldn't give two shits what they're picking up Basically i'd gone down on hailey's wedding and checked with a caterer that they had boxed it all up They're like, yeah, it's fine. It's here. It was all boxed up. I could see I started counting through it But it was everything was there basically You Anyway, long and story short, the courier didn't come back with the cutlery, and this supplier went off. The rails. She rang the venue. I didn't know anything about it at the time.

Oh,

an error.

odd.

That's odd, because it was there, because I saw it. Also, like you say, who's gonna lose six, this is six hundred pieces of cutlery. You have six, actually seven, because you have six No you didn't, you had six pieces.

Oh,

have six pieces per person. If you're gonna have a butter knife though guys, remember to order seven pieces per person. But you didn't need it. It was fine. Six hundred pieces of cutlery, like I cannot tell you how many boxes that comes in. Like it's a lot. It's not

it's not a small

a small

is it?

No she rang the venue. She basically went off at the venue.

Oh

She really fell out. So when I, I then rang her and she was in tears and was very angry and I was like, what the hell's going on? I was like, let me speak to the venue. So I rang the venue and they were like, we're not, you need to get involved in this because we're not speaking to her ever again. Like she's blacklisted from our venue. And it was all, it was literally 24 hours of like, Oh my god, because nobody knew where the cutlery, the venue were like, we don't have this cutlery.

so it

Maybe their caterer has taken the cutlery by accident. I was like, okay, fine. Got in touch with them, they were like, look, it's, it's a Monday, we're not in the warehouse, which is very normal for caterers. We'll have to have a look tomorrow. Basically, after much 24 hours of high intensity messages, calls, a lot of crying,

what's This is is that I was on my honeymoon in Cape Verde and their motto in Cape Verde Verde is literally no stress

Lovely.

No stress

I needed that. By the way, the stress and the crime wasn't coming from me or the venue. That's all I'm going to say. It did turn up but I think the panic was that they had another wedding the following week. So, they needed to get it clean and I get it. I get it. It's really, really stressful because you think stuff's going missing but I kept saying it's not going to have gone. It will turn up because it's a lot of cutlery.

Oh

Sent another courier, then, to the caterer to pick up this cutlery, so it's extra money. So they were basically sending me invoices to say, you've got to pay this extra money. So that's why I had to then tell Hayley when she came back from her honeymoon, like, FYI. This is what's being said. I've basically pushed back and said we're not paying it. But then didn't you then get involved? I can't remember what happened then.

feel like I wonder if they did. I know. I never paid anything.

No, you didn't.

ignored it. I think. I wonder if I messaged them or emailed them. I can't remember. Isn't that

I think you got a snotty email and I think you sent one back.

like I did.

it basically went on, I feel like it went on for like weeks afterwards where a lot of emails, a lot of chasing over gold cutlery.

Yeah,

you that's the gold cutlery story.

when you're organised, sometimes you just can't please everybody and something,

Yeah,

it

and it's kind of not always on you, is it? Like,

to say. It's not, it's not your fault. It's not my fault.

But we pushed back on that because we were like, we are not paying for this courier because it's not our fault that the delivery driver hasn't picked everything. Because actually if he would have come on, actually no, I remember he did come on the Sunday. He did come on the Sunday and collect because he had to because of the other wedding. He didn't pick everything up and I remember that was my argument. I was like, he didn't collect everything, that's not our problem.

wasn't it? Yeah.

Yep, another wedding then came in, even though you were told you had to collect everything Sunday morning. Yep, She then didn't check her stock until Monday. So I was like, that's not my problem. Like

the

should have been picked it all up. You should have made, and also my big argument was when it was all delivered, there was no likes, like another company I worked with all the time. Give you a list of everything that you've got that for the delivery guy. And it's all boxed up in like branded boxes. So they're like, this is our stuff. And it gives you a proper list of what you need to do with it, what it needs to be packed into. And yeah, I remember that.

was stressful.

That was very stressed, fucking stressful.

I, I, sure I sent

No, you can't feel bad. I feel like you did, because I feel like I kept getting chased. Yeah,

I'll have

you go. That's that story of the gold spoons. Anyway,

Anyway!

Speaking of, oh yeah, speaking of horror stories. Spooky. Yeah.

kind of Game bit of fun spooky and it's basically it's a haunted house But and then you'd put in it's not a haunted house, but it's this instead It's like something you're scared or something that you don't want to happen. So we've done like wedding versions so we've

We've done a wedding page. Obviously we understand Halloween is done now, but we are behind with the times.

good to

We're in our thirties, okay? We can't keep up with trends all the time.

Yeah, exactly.

Cole.

So, so, I've got one here, so, It's a haunted house, but the groom hasn't turned round in time when you're walking down the aisle.

Oh yeah. I I actually give the little best man the little I actually give the best man at the start a little, a little chat and and I say to, to give the groom a nudge when the bride gets to the

Yeah.

because, oh, oh yeah, that would really annoy, like, I always think it's really awkward as well when the bride gets to the top of the aisle and then the groom's like, Oh, you're here. Ha ha ha! There you are.

Oh, hi! Yeah, I always find that, like, there's definitely a really good moment where they turn around, like, you've got to time it well, and I do feel like I know that, obviously, you spoke with Richard's best man, and he did that for him, and it's really funny because they had little mics on because Dan, the videographer, was recording sound, and you've got him going, Should I turn around? Should I turn around yet?

I

Oh,

that.

got her hair down? Has she got her hair ruffled down?

cute.

It's real cute. Yeah.

was, It's a haunted house, but it's being grilled about your wedding planning by a family member.

Ah, the worst.

The

That's the pits, that.

just like, how many times, I feel like it's one of those, if you gave me a pound for every time someone said to me, How's the wedding planning going?

Yeah, it's just annoying, isn't it?

Like, so what's happening this time? Who's doing that? What? Why? Why are they doing that? What are you doing it like that for?

Oh, that's not what we did in my day. Oh, that's not how it used to be. Oh, don't you think you should do it like this? Go away. Go away. It's a haunted house, but it's people throwing confetti in your hair and down your cleavage.

Do it

know when they just full pelt at you? I think it's mean. It's mean.

do the confetti shot like throw it up not at them It

Up.

always have

Yeah.

it makes a better photo because everyone's then like i'm gonna throw it at them You're like no because

Yeah.

photos. I'm

Don't.

Getting confetti in

Also, some confetti, I don't know, but like, if you've got blue flowers or red flowers, you have to be careful because if it gets wet and it gets in the dress or like in your cleavage, like, it does die. The dye will come out

posted saying that they Had like how to clean their wedding dress because it was stained from the dye from their confetti

from the confetti. Yeah. Yeah.

I've got it's a haunted house but it's guests who turn up who haven't RSVP'd. Ughhhhhhhh Ooooooooh Ewwww, that makes me cringe

Cringe! Toe curler!

it's the worst, if you're working it, it's the worst if you're the

Oh no.

I actually

Oh.

was actually one of my nightmares before the wedding and

Anxiety dream.

was like, Oh, one of my friends is, I can't remember what he asked now, but something about The daytime and I was like, but they're only invited to the evening. He was like, yeah, I know. Have you worded it? Right. And I was like, panic. So I'm like searching for

Oh, yeah.

and even

That worried me.

the evening, like, because also with the wedding websites, you have to be really careful that you're only showing the information of the daytime to certain select people. So I suddenly

Yeah.

my God, can all my evening guests see the daytime stuff? But it wasn't, I

Yeah, then turn up.

but Yeah, real

Bye. Yeah, no, I I also had that worry, because I thought, oh no, if I, you know, so I did like my invites, I think they said like, you're invited to the evening, but which is what you do, but then you just worry like, has someone

have they

not got their hint?

I've and you put the time as well like I put like you're invited to the

yeah, exactly, from seven, yeah, yeah.

You never know

That is awful though, it's got to have happened to somebody.

I've

Oh dear, okay.

happen numerous times Where

Oh. Oh,

the neighbours who didn't RSVP or something or, Yeah, they've

you're joking.

Like, and we just have to

Oh.

Yeah, I've had it happen.

Oh my god. People probably do it on purpose in the hope they'll get a free bloody meal or something. Desperate times cost a living.

had once, oh my god, I just remembered, it was the most vile thing. This was quite a few, this

Oh god.

venue, and the bride said to me, there's someone here that shouldn't be here, can you tell them to leave? And I had to go and tell, yeah,

No, oh, did you? Oh god, Hannah, that's so awful.

they were like, and I remember

No, oh, how did that go?

were really embarrassed as well. They were like, oh my god, I'm so sorry, I didn't realise. And I was like, I'm so, I'm so sorry

Oh, that actually makes me feel sick.

was like, I'm sorry,

That makes me feel sick.

It was very British.

physically sick. I

to me now.

mean

freelancing once for another planner when I just started my business and she had to do it. Oh my God, I just remembered. And it was like a partner of an aunt or something that they really didn't like. And she had to go and tell

Oh my god.

And I

Oh.

and it was really awkward.

Oh the ick, that's giving me the ick, big time.

Oh,

but it's the DJ playing the wrong first dance song. Or possibly the wrong version. You have to make sure you send them the exact version like link on YouTube.

I've had this happen to me

Imagine.

is why I always ask the couple now what their first answer is.

Imagine if you like the song and you really love it and then instead it's a Michael Bublé cover.

Bad times.

No.

It's a haunted house, but it's nobody clapping and cheering when you enter the wedding breakfast.

Make the hairs on my arms stand

awkward moments where it's silent and you're

Imagine just silence.

face.

Yeah, but you'd be there like, Woo!

I do do

Yeah! Woo! Hyping everyone up. Come on! I'll be your hype man! Oh dear. It's a haunted house, but it's someone asking if they can bring a plus one when you've made it clear they can't.

a couple of times.

had that. Yeah, I did.

really awkward.

I was just like, no.

like I would feel more awkward being the person that asks. Like, how do people not feel a little awkward asking that? I feel like, I just feel like I couldn't, I'd feel too awkward to message someone and be like, can we have a half gum if they're not invited?

Yeah, I just wouldn't. Yeah, I I had it a couple of times and it was Okay. I just felt so uncomfortable and it was like, it was almost, it was like from family members that were like, oh can, like, like, because we'd invited them to the day but then they're like boyfriend to the evening because we're, like, they're our family but their boyfriend or whoever isn't, like, well I don't want to pay 150 for them to have a come, like, no offence, like, love you, you can come but,

ours was But it was like we only, we could only have 50 people to our wedding.

I would never message and ask, honestly, I'd just be like, no, you're coming to the evening, like, I'm enjoying my day without you, thanks.

it's a haunted house, but it's a ridiculously long speech. I've had this so

Oh, happens so often though, doesn't it?

so more common than you think it is. I feel like nearly every wedding we have it, where the

Yeah.

No, it's definitely only going to be 5 minutes per speech, and then it's not. And all I can

And then it's not. Oh. Ha ha ha! Oh.

One of my couples this year, I just got their wedding video back this morning and I was watching it and her dad is like, and I'm really sorry, Radhika, you're gonna tell me off because my speech has gone over the three minutes. it really made me laugh because I know that was me going, make sure you tell him he's got three

Yeah, three minutes. Thing is, they start going on and on and then it just becomes stuff that's not even relevant and I mean everyone's guilty of it but I've been to a few weddings last year and it was just cringe.

I've had in speeches 45 to an hour. For one

What?

I'm not even

No, you're joking. What were they talking about? Their life story?

when they've had a

Oh my god. That is not okay. That is not okay. Okay, so next up. It's a haunted house. But it's someone who's brought their baby to your wedding, even though it says no children.

know my feelings on that.

Imagine, imagine just turning up and they just thought,

down the

just gonna kick them out. Oh, I bet it's happened though,

yeah,

but it's happened to somebody. It's got,

Yeah.

on, like, but I mean, that's, that's well out of order. If you brought your kids and it says no kids, like

they have to

they would have to go out the door. See you later.

It's a haunted house, but it's six months after the wedding and you're in your out of wedding diet phase. This is me, where you're like, the wedding's done, I can eat what I

Yeah.

then six months later you're like, Oh no, I've really gained some weight,

Nooooo. Oh god, don't talk to me about gaining weight mate, honestly, it's,

you had a baby

no, that was like 9 months ago now, I can't use it as an excuse anymore.

she's one, she's not a baby anymore, so you can't use it anymore. You've got three

can't use it. Oh no. Oh dear, I've got one more. It's a haunted house but it's your mother in law making your wedding cake and it's shit.

of them as well.

I've been to a wedding where this happened and it was like covered in marzipan and the marzipan had gone like yellow. And it looked

It's

was horrendous. I can't get the finish right. Shit.

I've even had ones where the icing has then like cracked and there's like holes in the icing Like really bad. I've

Oh my god. Horrors.

over the years

Horror story.

you get you have a family member that makes it for you

Yeah, yep, yep.

they make wedding cakes, but it's when it's like, oh

Yeah.

cakes.

My mum makes a nice cake. It's not the same, Margaret. It's not the same. Bloody Jane and Margaret and their bloody cakes.

that!

That was good, that was good. Should we go on to listeners questions? So someone asks, will I regret only having an elopement? Well, I feel like you can answer this. Well, you didn't only have an elopement, but

because they messaged it to us the other day, so they obviously haven't heard. So, we actually had this again recently. Absolutely not. I had an elopement.

no. Yeah. Yeah,

go back and listen. It was in May, it would have been our episode on my elopement, and we spoke all about it. So yeah, that's what I thought I'll put it in to answer it because it might be that you've only just started listening but yeah, go back have a listen. We also touched on it again recently

we did. Yeah, I think because we did we did an elopement special, didn't we, for your elopement. And then,

recently

did, somebody else asked,

like they

About it as well, like should I do a wedding and like an elopement and then have a celebration, but you said like you were happy

happy with

You were so happy you would have been

we

yeah

when somebody last asked this or when we last spoke about it is you could then have something else. So having a party or something, some sort of celebration day. That's what we did. We did still have our wedding day, but the point

Yeah

I would not have felt done out of not having a wedding because the

Not having it Yeah, that's fair enough

a little listen to that episode. I think that would

Yeah Yeah,

know, the kind of people or the kind of way that you, you feel and all those kinds of bits and bobs. So yeah, have a listen. And next up we've got, we aren't having speeches. What could we do instead to fill the time? So my answer as a logistical planner is you don't need to fill the time.

I was just thinking that this there's not really time to fill is there Yeah

what will happen is, is what traditional cut that out. So what will happen is, is normally at the end of the meal, you have your dessert. This is if you doing your speeches after the meal, which I always suggest to do because it caterers have your speeches after the meal. Everybody naturally gets up after their dessert. Because everyone has had enough. They go into the toilet, they go into the bar, they go in to have a chat.

Yeah, yeah,

of the time.

they're mingling, yeah.

have to then encourage people to sit back down to go into the speeches. So it just means that that won't need to happen. It will just flow nicely. What I would suggest is maybe least do a welcome speech at the start to say thanks for coming or you could

Yeah.

or even like a, like a dad or somebody. It doesn't have to be anybody like specific, just somebody that you know is confident to get up and say, just want us to, we want, just want to say thank you so much for coming. The bar's now open or whatever. So it

Yeah.

then it could even be your coordinator. Just say, you know, the couple want to pass on their thanks for coming. And,

Yeah, I think it's nice to say just to thank everyone for coming, isn't it, and just, just something small like that. Yeah.

kind of thing. Or what you could do is at the end of your dessert, depending on your time, is, depending on what time of day it is, obviously you don't wanna do this. If your speech is sorry if your dessert finishes at six o'clock, but you could just get the DJ to then announce you straight up to do your cake, cut in, and then go into your first dance, then kick off the music. But if you do want a lull hour is what we call it, where people are just like.

No.

haven't we, about evenings being too long and whatever.

Yeah, and then they end up being, yeah,

But

dragged out of it.

need to fill the space. At time.

No,

anything, I'm always trying to fit in speeches. I'm like, oh god, we're going to have to move this, or postpone this,

that's it. And then like we've just said about, they go on and on. No

fill it, but you need to make it flow, because people will expect that time to be speeches, so either have like a closing speech, or go into your cake cutting. And that's my answer to that one, sorry, I just took over that, but if you want to add anything Hayley?

that's fine. I, no, no, I completely agree with you. I, I would just agree with you. No, I'm I, I'm in the same opinion as you. I think they are, like, you don't need to feel space, basically, because there's a lot going on anyway. I just don't.

want to fill the space, is a good old quiz. I love a

Oh, that's a good idea. I do love a quiz as well.

master up and like put people at like each table as a team And you could do it

That's a good idea.

whatever really Quite like that idea

That's a good idea, I like that. I love that.

it. But if you if you do want to there you go I

you go, we've given you all our advice.

think that's us for this week, isn't it?

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