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What a week!

tell us, tell us, I want to hear about, so first of all you had, A proposal, which you organized, didn't you, on Thursday?

Did I talk about that

I don't, I don't think so. I feel bad if you did and I forgot, but So much has happened in a week.

No, I think I did. I think I

I think you said you

yeah, I think I'd literally taken the book in that

Yeah.

we'd done the recording. And I think the day that we did the recording I'd been venue

That's it.

it.

Yeah, so I think you mentioned the sort of, you'd gone and had a look for venues and stuff like that, so First of all, did she say yes?

She

Oh, thank God. Ha ha ha! Good.

nice. We found a really good venue, so he'd basically given me a brief and was like, she likes museums, she likes galleries. I was like, okay, cool. She likes flowers. I was like, okay, cool.

Great. Great.

all these different venues or he said somewhere with a view, like a good

Yeah.

Found all these different venues, places with views, galleries, that kind of thing. Anyway, found this gallery, which. It's like, it's a museum slash gallery all about gardening and like

Oh, okay.

of

Yeah. That's really cool.

in a when I sent it to him, he went, Oh, and she loves churches. I was like, well,

I've ticked every box here.

Yeah,

I'm worth the money.

yeah, literally has like a tower. So part of the old church, which has got 131 steps. And at the top, it's got the incredible

Wow,

So it literally ticked every box.

so cool.

Yeah, we chose that venue and they charged a higher fee. So they, it was private hire. So they got to go around the museum, just them climb the tower. And he proposed, but yeah, she, I think she had any, well, she turned up in a white dress.

come on.

Yeah.

You knew it was coming. You know, you don't go to a place like that in a white dress. Unless you know you're getting proposed to.

and he was like in a full on nice suit. And then said, Oh, when they got engaged, Oh, did you know? And she was like, well, no, I didn't. But I originally had like a, like a, like trousers and a blazer on. And he said, Oh, you should really be wearing a dress. And then she

Oh, okay.

So then she got changed into that dress. I think she knew.

Yeah. Liar.

Yeah. And he said to me on the day, I think she knows. And

you know that Martin was going to propose to you?

No, didn't have a

No. Aw.

you know?

No.

No. He did. Look at you,

No, Brennan.

Yeah,

because I'd hinted for so I mean, I mean, we were together for ten years before he asked me, so I was like Well, yeah, but I was like But I just kept hinting and hinting. I thought it must be coming soon. But I was surprised he did it. Like, not the way he did, but

Yeah. You

it was, he got everybody there, like, that was a surprise. That was really nice. So, yeah, it was different to how I'd,

of got, I'd kind of moved past it cause I was at a point like 2018, 2019 where I really wanted to get

yeah.

and we went to New York in 2019 and I, and

This is it.

to

Of this. Yeah, New York, come on. Yeah,

Literally, then didn't get engaged. And then I thought, I think 20, was it 2018, 2017, we went to Bermuda and I thought maybe he would have done it then, but didn't. And then, so I think I'd kind of got past it. And then, so yeah, it was 20, 2022 we got

yeah.

I was like, this

I was over it by then. I was so over it wasn't going to happen.

like as well, I was so in the wedding industry at that point, because back like 2018, 2019, I was doing corporate

Yeah,

I was more thinking about weddings, whereas because I was so in the wedding industry doing people's weddings all the time, I maybe didn't, which is weird, because you think you think about it more, but yeah, no, I was very shocked. So yeah, no, it's a really nice evening. And then, so we had a photographer at the top, so we got him at the top of the tower, and he basically looks like a tourist, like he had his little raincoat on

aw, that's so

away.

cute.

funniest thing, he got to the top of the tower and we just thought, because I texted him and was like, I sat at the bottom. Oh yeah, they're on the way up. I like sat behind the reception desk at the reception. It's like, hi I help you?

That's hilarious.

I know, went to the top and so I texted him and then when he came out the top, I, in that time, poured two glasses of champagne, took them up 131 steps, which are Which really killed the legs. I climbed up twice in a

Leg's not okay.

Yeah. And and then I hovered there for ages, like looking through a crack in the door and I could see the photographer and I'm like, and he, they were just looking out at the fuse for ages. It took him ages to propose. And then

Oh,

he kind of got her in the corner and they were taking a photo. And I thought he's going to do it now. He's going to do it now. And I was going, do it now, do it now, do it now in my head. And then he comes, he was like, Oh, just give me a second to her. And then he comes. Out the door and she was like, Oh, are you going back down? And he was like, Oh no, just give me a minute. And he was like, get the ring box out. He

oh no.

out of his jacket. So he managed to pull it out. And then

my god.

back in, then he proposed. It

Finally, after many hours.

like, God, this is really awkward. Cause

he's just up there floating around like

literally it was so funny. And she then, then obviously he then goes to propose and I'm like, He's on one knee, so

He's all fuzzy Hehehehe Aww

says yes, she's like, and gets all teary, and then he's then taking pictures, and then she was like, oh my god, I honestly did think you were just a tourist taking photos, so that worked well.

Imagine if you did think it was a tourist taking photos and then this guy just starts taking photos of you But you still think he's a tourist and not a, you know what I mean, and you'd be like, sorry, do you mind? Hehehehe

moment. But it's, yeah

do you mind mate? Yeah,

like, you know, like how men are, that he, like, thought that, he basically, his plan was to take her for dinner, then take her somewhere else and propose. And I was like, No, because you want to, she's taken, he was taking her to my favorite restaurant.

Oh, okay

that

Yeah, of course. Celebrate. Yeah. Yeah.

he was saying to her afterwards, I'll let Hannah really help me. That wouldn't have happened without Hannah.

Oh,

told her, I was like, yeah, he was going to take you to your restaurant before, and she was like, that's a stupid idea.

yeah.

like, I know

Typical man.

so glad he's talked to

Yeah. Oh.

know, I was like. What, so you're going to take her

That's the best dinner you'll have.

stuffed?

Yeah.

stuffed with food, like, and then you're going to propose? And they went off with the photographer. She was loving the photographer. She was right. Getting all doing all the poses and stuff. She was loving life.

She'd been practicing in the mirror before she came, before she knew she knew she wasn't gonna, you know, she didn't know, but she did know.

But the location of this garden museum is on embankment. So like, you've got all like the views of the

Oh, that sounds amazing.

really, really good

Yeah,

So

oh, I love that.

proposal or they actually do events there as well, I think she said that he dropped to like one 40, but yeah, it was a really, really cool place. Really nice place. So. Yeah, you should go there, actually, if you're ever in London. Go

I do love a flower. It's been, it's been said, I do love a flower. I'd probably enjoy myself. Who's this weirdo trying to take photos of me? I'm already married.

I do love

Yeah.

Quote of the day from a florist. that was great. And then I mean, I don't want to bang on too much, but Kensington Palace.

to slip it into conversation.

slip it in.

With Kenny P.

I haven't posted anything from it yet,

Yeah, I'm surprised, you know. I'd be like, hello, it's me, I'm at Kensington Palace.

well, I kept, I posted quite a few

I saw your stories.

Yeah, but I just haven't, yeah, I meant to do some today. I just haven't had a

It's been so busy though, hasn't it?

Yeah, so we did the wedding Saturday, which was full

Yeah,

from start to finish. Then yesterday, I don't know why, but I, no, I had a really good time, but I booked to go to this fitness event, which was four hours

make me sick. Physically repulsed.

And also, I didn't get any footage myself, so Alex, who was assisting me, she did loads on her phone, so I

Yeah,

to send me bits. And also, when I got back from the church, my phone had died, so I had to put it on charge, so I was using one of the photographer's camera phones. Phone, camera phones,

phone. My cabri purple camera phone. It's a Motorola.

Flip phone. So I was using her phone, so I need her to send me the stuff. So I haven't got all my usual bits and bobs I'd normally have. So I like to do like a full day. This is what, and I also don't like to post straight away on the day because I always think it's a bit rude to the couple. Like, do you know what I

Yeah, yeah, yeah, they want, yeah, like, they don't want all the, yeah. Oh

I'll post some bits, but yeah, it was really, really great. I mean, fricking nightmare. We're not a political podcast, but I found

no. I

were doing a march So they, we spoke to the Met office. So Kensington Palace weren't really close to the Met office, obviously,

Yeah,

Royalty and they had said there's going to be this march, we're expecting 45, 000 people. It's, there's not, we're not planning any road closures, but it could

yeah, like a last minute thing.

Then we've got a map, literally like three days before, this is where the march is happening. This is the times and I found the website that where the march was planned and they were planning on starting in central London at 12 o'clock. So we worked out that by approximately two o'clock, they were going to be in the Kensington area and the church service was at four

Right,

due to finish at half past four. But obviously from like three o'clock ish is when the guests are going to be

I arrive in and yeah,

cars for the bride, all those kind of bits and bobs. So I pre warned all the guests. A couple of days before and again on the morning of the wedding, just reminding them to make sure that they left it in plenty of time. Like taxis aren't going to be about in the area because as soon as you know, something like that is happening, like everybody just

yeah, I was gonna say everyone's like, bye.

yeah. So on the day I turn up at the hotel, the whole road is closed

Oh, surprise, surprise.

There are, the road is just full either side of gazebos

Oh my god.

propaganda or whatever you

I literally, I'm like, having an internal meltdown for you.

yeah, you imagine me,

imagine,

and there's literally in the middle of the road massive speakers being set up, a stage like,

oh my god,

right? It was like that, that point was the end of

it was the centre

Literally,

the march.

I spoke to concierge and he was like, yeah, like there's no, you need to walk five minutes before you can get any form of vehicle, no vehicles going to be able to get closer than X point. I'm like, great. So I'd already spoke to the car company that morning and was like, look, this is happening yet. Yet we know it was almost a little bit like he was like. saying, yeah, I know, I know what I'm doing.

Yeah,

Feeling a bit confident. Spoke to him again and he was like, yeah, Hannah, I've already spoke to concierge. I know where we're going. I'm going to meet her at this point. Concierge, you're going to walk her there, which I'd already discussed with him as well. Try to persuade a police officer to put her in a car, but he was, he was really nice, but he was like, time? And he was like, I don't, I don't think I'm going to make that happen. He 000 people walking

oh my god,

that she leaves the hotel. I was like, okay.

right, I'm sorry, I'm, I'm like,

I know, and I just, and you know what I was having? Like, I mean, I don't know enough about marches and protests to the common. We're not a political podcast, but spoke to the concierge. He was raging.

yeah, oh

cause I was like, when did you find out this? I was a little bit like. Could you not have pre warned us you knew a bride was staying at the hotel? And he was like, honestly, we found out eight o'clock last night that the road was being closed. He said, this has been

wow,

And he said, and the issue is, is the whole reason that they're protesting or marching is to make, to, to raise

yeah,

He said, no, the only people in the area are the people that are protesting and marching. Cause everybody's avoiding the area because of it. So we

yeah.

I mean, I don't know enough about it, but I don't really understand. Like, the benefit, but

I know what you mean, they're trying to make the most, They're trying to make it really awkward for everybody. They're trying to make the most what's the word, impact on people's days and whatever so that everyone knows it's going on so that it inconveniences everyone so everyone listens to what they've got to say.

but they're not because

But actually they've,

and

yeah.

aren't reporting on it

Well I didn't even know there was one there. Normally you hear about it on the news. I mean I haven't really watched the news over this weekend to be fair but I can't say I'm an avid news listener but I mean. Bloody hell. Oh my god, this is giving me anxiety.

reported on it and I was, and she reckoned there was 125, 000 people there that day, but it felt like it.

Oh my god.

sorts of bits and bobs go to get

Yeah.

And then left and the photographer's ringing me and she's like, we've walked to the point, the taxi, so they'd ordered a nice car, bridal car, 10 minutes,

Oh my Jesus.

it

Did it even get that far? Oh.

and they'd also ordered a taxi for like her mom and her sister to take, to take them. The taxi was there. She'd arrived an hour before to make sure she could get to the point and pick them

Yeah. What? Oh,

We were on the phone to him, trying to direct him. He was like, I'm literally driving around in circles. I can't get close. I don't know how to get there. Even though they'd literally like, basically told me to pee off in the morning. So I said to the

that's so bad.

in the taxi so she can get here. the photographer's like, yeah, I've said this to her, but her dad's saying this to her, but she doesn't, she doesn't want

Oh my god. Yeah. Oh dear. Yeah,

five minutes went past and she was like, okay, we've persuaded her to get in the taxi. So she got in the taxi, this lovely taxi lady took her to the church and sat outside. Then it ended up being that. Guests were late, so she probably could have waited for the car, because guests were then late. So we were waiting, the groom was really keen, it was his family, so he was keen to wait around for them to

sure.

So the taxi driver sat with her in the car for 20 minutes outside. I was like, oh my god, is this ruining your day? She was like, no, like, it's fine, don't worry about it.

Oh no.

good.

what happened to the Mercedes boy?

God knows.

Will they get my money back for that?

I hope

Jesus.

book it, the

Yeah.

Yeah, I don't really know

What a nightmare. That's the right nightmare to start your wedding day, isn't it?

absolute mare, but she had, she said, so when I left the hotel to walk, do that 30 minute walk to the church, I kid you not, the road was closed. They're all marching, singing, banners in the air, shouting and all this, playing the drums. I had to run through it. To get to the other side of the road. No word of a lie. I was like, Oh! Oh! With my order of services in my hand.

Excuse me.

And then

Oh no.

walk through it to get to the location to take her car. Which she, she's quite an introvert. She was like, it was really scary. But

Oh. Yeah. Yeah.

Free Palestine! Bless her.

Oh.

She made it. This is the thing with London though, I've had this before. We had a wedding last October and there was protests

say it's quite unpredictable. Just of oil.

she was loving life. She thought it was great. She was like pretending to be in the march, like walking in her dress. But yeah, again, we, we physically couldn't, the taxis couldn't get there. Like it's very normal for London. Yeah. If you get married in London, you're going to need

Yeah, so this is all the things that you might not think about and actually it's worth having a planner because you've got the experience of working in London so you'll have that foresight. Whereas I think maybe if you're an inexperienced Perhaps even an inexperienced planner or you haven't worked in London before like

in

I've done I've done weddings in London and you just have to allow for so much more time and Just don't even think you're gonna be able to park you might as well fly in and levitate to the door like literally

Or, book your accommodation right near to the

Yeah,

Is your best

so close

married where your reception is, that's even

Yeah,

had, this is the thing that frustrated me, is the taxi driver made it there fine, and two route master buses made it fine outside the church. They were there plenty of time

yeah

that this car, I don't know, hadn't

that is bizarre,

yeah.

but it was worried that his car was gonna get damaged.

yeah, maybe, maybe. But it seemed pretty peaceful, to be fair to

Yeah.

seemed like it went well. There was police everywhere, literally

Yeah, I bet

there's no way. But the frustrating thing was, right, I was chatting again, we're not a political podcast, but I was chatting to the concierge and I was like, So, okay, so the council's closed the road. I was like, what would happen if the council hadn't made the decision to close the road? And he was like, there's been numerous times this year where they kept the roads not closed, but they just pull up and set up their

Yeah,

And the gazebos, and there's, he said this that morning he'd had a big argument with the parking attendant because there was cars all down the road where they're like pulled up, set up their gazebo, left their car

just whatever

And he said that none of them got ticketed and he was like, if I pulled my car up and parked outside, I would get ticketed. And they were like, there's too many people to ticket.

I was gonna say. It's a pure it's a sheer volume of people, isn't it?

I said, imagine if I just pitched up outside and done a wedding.

Yeah

Set up a stage, set up some speakers, set up some tables, well, you'd get moved on, wouldn't you?

Well, yeah, but I guess that's Like, with the amount of people, they just don't want the hassle, they won't approach it. They won't

No.

It's

they start being

Yeah.

which I suppose is that

Power in numbers, or whatever the saying is.

are taken over, maybe? I don't know. But this, at that point, there was no people there. It was

Just people setting up.

they could

Maybe they do have permits, I don't really know. Heh heh. Heh heh.

know is that it caused me ag on Saturday.

It was annoying for me.

I said to that lady at the train, she was going on about it the next day. And I was like, it caused me a lot of ag. I'm

Yeah. You were just like I had to run through a crowd of people with all my order of service and it was really inconvenient for me, actually.

It's really

My day was ruined. Thanks. Thanks.

And just the whole weekend, the trains were a fiasco. Saturday morning, all cancelled. Come

Oh god.

took me four hours to get back from Houston. It's normally an hour.

Oh mate, I'm sorry to hear that. That sounds so shit.

And it's Saturday there was people walking on the lines. I

What?

happened yesterday. Yeah, just.

god.

Absolute

I hate getting the train.

of, anything to do with transport cause me

Yeah, so.

whole day, other than that was

Otherwise it was amazing.

we were 20 minutes behind and I, and the only frustrating thing is I just couldn't, I couldn't claw it back for the rest of the day because we got there, the drinks reception wasn't massively long anywhere and there was a lot. That we needed to get done

Yeah,

like family photos, couple shots, because at the time of day, you couldn't be like, Oh, well, this fine when we're doing seven main courses, we'll pull them out and do a couple shots because it was

I'm getting dark. Yeah, it's that time of year now, isn't it? It's getting dark early and stuff, earlier. Oh,

All the suppliers were incredible. They had the best day.

that's so Oh, how far back did it make, like, how out of time was it?

in the end it was at half, so they were supposed to do their first dance at half nine. I think they did their first dance just before ten o'clock.

okay.

the only, that's the only thing is, like, I always feel a bit bad when you can't claw it back by the end. To be fair, a lot of it was also their, we could, we started clawing, we sat them down only ten minutes late,

Oh, okay.

overran.

so, yeah.

kind of them as well. We

Wasn't all me.

back, but it's when the first dance is late. I always, especially at that time of night. So they had to be upside a half 11. So you only had like an hour and a half a party time. And I felt really bad. I always feel like I feel bad

Yeah.

job to make sure that you get, that's, you know, once the first. Dance is done. Your formalities are done and you can let your hair

Yeah.

bad when that gets cut short. But then like the venue coordinators said to me, who are absolutely incredible, the team there are incredible.

good.

on

That's so good. Love to hear that.

people to work

Yeah.

and said, but don't forget Hannah, they're going to an after party and that's where they can

Oh! That's cool! That's What sort of dresses do you have? Because I imagine it's quite a formal venue, isn't it? Like

yeah, it was

Yeah.

big dress.

Oh.

put

Oh. Amazing.

but yeah, so they, yeah, so they all left at half 11 went to an after party. Again, taxis, absolute nightmare. So I pre booked with a local taxi firm, 16 taxis. He basically was sitting there at half past 11 ordering Ubers.

What? Why?

Which he was denying to me. I was literally messaging

That's so

and he was

bad.

And he was so on it with the communication. I thought this seems good. It seems

Too good to be true.

yeah,

That's awful.

the day, which by the way, so this is one of my highlights of the day. We had the Routemaster buses. We had the caterers on the bus serving champagne

That's cool.

band on the buses.

Wow.

come out mariachi band started, walked all the guests down the road to the bus stop to get on the bus, which Everybody loved and everyone in London was stopping and videoing it and

really cool.

you see me on TikTok and

viral again. Yeah.

That was so fun and it was a really good trip back. So yeah, so I booked two taxis to take the mariachi band and the caterers to the buses and. They struggle to find the pick up location of your injury, even though Alex was there, like, sending them, like, this is where I'm standing, this is where you go. So anyway, we were like, for tonight, can you make sure everybody is briefed? Yeah, yeah, yeah, of course, of course, of course, sorted it, all good.

Oh god.

literally it got to half left, got to 20 to 12, no taxis. Then they started coming in drips and drabs. And I'm saying to these taxis, you're late. Like, why are you late? And they're like, what are you talking about? I've literally just got booked.

Oh, that's so bad.

Oh, I've got an Uber here for Hannah.

Whoa.

there booking

That's awful.

So I well and truly kicked off. So they're getting a refund for them.

Yeah.

that's good. So, cause in the end, people was like just ordering their own taxis.

Yeah, I'm not surprised. You would, wouldn't you?

into the top of the

Yeah.

just get in a black cab and stuff. So, we only ended up getting five of the sixteen

terrible. No. Oh no.

Which I think they didn't realize. They thought that they just had, didn't have attack. They're like, oh, yeah, yeah, we've booked a taxi. I was like, oh, fair.

Okay.

yeah, that, that was an absolute anything to do with transport

just really annoying you.

always gives me anxiety, transport, always, always having

Well, you can't have complete control over that, can you? Because you're completely reliant on somebody else.

literally. And

yeah, like the general public.

taxis are always a nightmare. It doesn't matter where you get married. London or the back end of nowhere, back end of nowhere is actually

Yeah, they will never find you.

an Uber. Yeah, literally they don't find you and you, and you're only reliant on like one taxi firm. So.

I find it mental when taxis can't find you because I just think like surely you should know

I know, you're the

you're literally your your job is to drive and find people and it's difficult. What the hell?

But yeah, so that was my

Well,

other to mention. I was, so literally last, quite last minute, it was the last minute wedding anyway, but we've been talking about things they could do during the drinks reception and we did do some lawn games for them, but they did like the idea of having a live painter, which is a suggestion from me because I love it. And in the end we didn't go with it just because it is, it is a high

yeah,

It was quite last minute. I think if we'd have booked it like months before then, then fine. But we were more focused on getting the key suppliers months before. So I was putting in inquiries to some people. So you have to, at Kensington Palace, go through their recommended suppliers. We have to use an entertainment agency,

right.

couldn't, she was struggling to find someone. So I was like, I'll, I'll get some, I'll go through my contacts as well. Anyway, found this person on Instagram, all my contacts were fully booked, all her contacts were fully booked. Found this person who had been following me for a while and had actually messaged me before and their work looked really good. Messaged them and was like, hey, just want to check if you're available. Honestly,

Oh

got a, a message back from them. So they replied and said, Maybe, what time and venue, babes?

Oh, cringe.

So I just didn't

Yeah. Babes.

Right, and I know how that sounds, and you're probably sitting there, listeners, like, what? If you

You snob!

You snob. and this is coming from experience, and from talking to brides, and seeing on Facebook groups, and grooms, and talking, seeing on Facebook groups when people are screenshotting you messages, and their supplier has ended up pulling out, not turning up, being a nightmare. Anybody that puts you on a personal level, calling you babes, hun, or putting kisses in their message when they do not know you, avoid.

Avoid, avoid.

one of my rule number ones, avoid them at all costs, because if they can't be professional enough to not call someone that they don't know, and my message was very, like,

Yeah, like, hi.

if you're available, kind regards, Hannah. It's not like I'd call them babes or put kisses on my

Kind regard, babes.

know them. Like, if you know, like, I would message Hayley, obviously, and be like, hey

Yeah.

I call people babes all the time. Hey, lovely. Like, when I know them, but I've never spoke to this person in

No. Someone you don't know.

to work with

Yeah.

But they, they don't know me.

Also, I would never expect a live painter to message that. I always think of them as being quite posh people.

Quite serious.

A serious painter. I don't know.

But yeah, I just so please just take that as a tip and as soon as you saw it, I thought I'm writing that in my notes to mention it because you see this a lot with unreliable suppliers because if they can't get that right, no offence if you're a supplier and you're calling people hunbabes using kisses, please stop doing it though if you are

Don't do it. Stop that.

if you can't get those basics right, things like your contracts and things like that probably, like your processes probably aren't right. You're very good at what you do. You probably, you're probably good at painting, but you're not good at managing a business. It's like, that's what it

God,

to me.

it screams,

don't

screams unprofessionalism.

like, imagine if you now

Yeah.

if you

I would never call a customer babes or hun. That's not me. I don't talk like that anyway, but I wouldn't. I wouldn't, I wouldn't send a kiss either, because that

if somebody, you contacted someone to, I don't know, like a cleaner, or like someone to fit you new windows or something and they called you babe, you'd be like, that's

But no, I'm not gonna go with you. Yeah, yeah, they said babes. I,

unprofessional.

a bit, yeah.

Yeah, so I avoid at all costs, so, there you go.

Ha ha ha ha ha.

But after that long

Oh,

my week been?

mean, I'm not gonna top that. I'm not gonna lie, but

That was a busy

God, I don't even know what I did this week. Oh, sorry, carry on, please.

yet. So, you know, that was my last plan of the year.

Yeah,

So, I think I did touch on this last week, but I basically had, maybe it was either on here or on my Instagram, but I had an inquiry from a couple who live in America. They get married in six weeks time and they've booked a venue, caterer, photographer, but they need everything else booked in. Well, they've gone ahead today. So there's no more quiet

yeah.

I'm,

again. I mean,

busy. I had half a day where it was chilled. Literally, I was chilling on my sofa doing a few emails, like, oh, lovely. I'm going to do some social media and stuff today. And then she emailed me at lunchtime, like, yeah, we'd like to go ahead. And I was like,

Oh my God. Let's do it.

well, I had half a day off.

Let's do it. Let's do it. Oh, well, I've had inquiries as well, actually, over this weekend, over the week. So I will be next week, we'll be doing like consultations over zoom with those couples. So they're weddings for next year. So that's good. So normally around now, between now and sort of January time, I tend to get inquiries for like next summer.

Yeah. At weddings. They're like, Oh, we

Yeah, which tends to be like the like the emails like I've been at my friend's wedding and you did the flowers and Something like things like that. So

Yeah. All they got engaged on their

Yeah, yeah. Yeah a lot of that actually lately. I've noticed people getting engaged when they've been on the holiday So yeah, you know my Instagram at Bloomfields

You know, my gram, my gramming that she never posts on.

I Do actually I do post I have posted recently look my busy person

No, to be fair, I'm posting in a week,

Do you know what they sometimes you end up like just Life, you don't realize how long it's been and then you're like, Oh my God, I posted like a month or two months ago. Like what the hell? But

that. Jesus. If it's a week, I

Oh yeah, no, it's so, but hey, look.

it's a month. Jesus! I've never got I don't think I've ever left it longer than like 10 days

You need to go on a social media break then.

Yeah, I felt like I still am toying with I did try and get someone to do it for me. I feel like I'm too much of a control freak doing

Yeah, so this is the thing I always wanted to like, hand the control over to someone else, but they'll never do it how I want So then in the end, I know I'm never gonna be pleased. So it's best I just do it myself

yeah, I am tempted to try it again though, because that would

I'd say I'll do it for you, but I don't even post on my own Instagram

Yeah,

You'll never get anything posted Ha ha ha

Yeah, so, so lots of inquiries. Anything else going on this week?

so I mean, it was my anniversary since we last spoke, so Yeah, I've been married. Married for two years. Yeah.

Do you know what? We, we mentioned this on the last podcast

did. She

message in to say we are sick of hearing about Hannah's wedding.

just does not stop.

Well, she's just nonstop. So we want to hear about Hayley. So, I hope you don't mind, but I've put some questions together

go for it.

about your wedding

Any excuse

the podcast was not even a pipe

there wasn't. Wasn't twinkling my eye then?

how much things have changed. I was thinking about this earlier, like. Obviously we, like, knew each other and we got on, but we weren't, like, friends friends, were we, when you got married?

I suppose not.

we was,

I'm like, oh, I thought we were.

of

Embarrassing. Oh god.

ask you to be a, I was gonna ask you to be a bridesmaid.

I thought you would have been my prize mate. Weren't really that close. You bitch. You bitch.

that wrong, I said that wrong. No, we were friends, but we were, like, supplier friends.

Now we're like proper friends. We're like besties.

out for dinner, like, yeah. Like, you didn't invite me to your hen do.

we saying it? Yeah, I did!

Last minute.

I was just gonna say, we did share a hotel room way, way back as well.

we

Way before I got married. We shared a bed, Hannah. I thought we were close.

Did we? Did

We shared a bed when we did that.

We had a twin room.

it wasn't. It wasn't.

Was it? I love how you've kept this in your memories. That must have meant a lot to you. That was still a work thing though.

That's what they all say.

we were friends. We did get on, but it,

I know what you mean. It's ok.

and now,

I don't take it personally. Yeah.

and talk all the time, and like, because on your wedding, I worked, and then I went home, like,

Yeah.

not do

I know.

I'd be there

Yeah. You'd be a guest.

Yeah, isn't that

I know. It's crazy.

And you've

yeah. Little lily bean. Yeah.

by the way, I've seen some stunning stuff this week. I've seen a proposal, I've seen a wedding at Kensington Palace, but that picture of your daughter was the most beautiful thing I've seen

my god,

week.

so cute. In her little dress. Oh, so I often dress Lily in dungarees and stuff. I love it. I dress her in a lot of boys clothes and stuff. Not like, just because they're unisex more than anything. But, I put a dress on her for this family event. get together and she looks so cute

cute.

this dress. I was like, oh my beautiful girl.

she looks stunning, but I do think she's not a dress gal.

No, she's a dungaree girl.

her, but she's definitely more of a trouser

She's, she's gonna be dungarees, trackies, comfy, cozy, cozy wear.

Bless her, but she looked so

Oh, she's so cute. I love her. Yeah. Oh, bless her.

So yeah, so, anyway, back to,

Anyway.

my day. Not changed in two

No, we

thought of her as a friend now. I'm joking, I'm joking. We've always gone. We clicked from the minute we

did.

We

We did.

love at first

Yes.

So anyway, first up, I want you to tell us about all about your day, like how it ran, just, you know, a general synopsis of what your day was like.

Oh, well, I mean, so we got married at a place called Stowe House, Stowe School. If you don't know, that's where Henry Cavill went. So I basically shared a toilet seat.

Cavill?

don't know who Henry Cavill is? Where have you been? He was Superman and he was the Witcher.

Oh, I

He's like, so fit. And he's an actor. Yeah.

we'll have a look afterwards.

I think,

went

he went to Stowe. Yeah.

Oh,

Yeah.

famous I might

I should know this, quite a few people, Richard Branson went to Stowe.

Oh. He's done

yeah. That's what was it? And and

it.

Henry Cavill.

That's all

And I got married there and I

She

do a

got

podcast that's doing quite well.

Well, there you go. Yeah. You could be the fame that

well in years to come when I'm interviewed, I mean I didn't go there but I got married there. But yeah, so it's I guess it's quite like a, like a formal, it was kind of a formal wedding I would say. It wasn't like, it was. Yeah. Yeah. And it was, so we got married on the 3rd of September, so I always wanted to get married in September because I always think the weather's not too hot, not too cold, tends to be quite mild.

That song.

do you remember,

Remember? The

21st of September,

You should have got married on the 21st of September, really. You

actually did a wedding for someone who did get married on the 21st of September and they did have that song.

Oh, jeez.

cringe.

think you actually spoke about this before,

Yeah. Yeah, so and I wanted it to be like, I was going for like Bridgerton vibes with everything. And yeah, like I invited all of my family that we had a free course meal and kind of all that stuff, speeches, like round tables and we got married outside on, so they've got like a it's called a So it, it looks, it's like a balcony of, and then there's some steps that go down to like the main lawns and it looks out over the view and it's really lovely and we got married out there.

Yep.

quite a, I guess like a formal day. It was really like, it wasn't like as laid back as like your wedding. Like we had like

had the formal

had like a free, yeah. Speeches, cutting of the cake, first dance and everything like that. So

You had a DJ in

yeah. Yeah. DJ. Yeah.

DJ ever. Yeah. It was a lovely day. Color scheme. Tell us about the color

So color scheme. So I had really pale blush pinks and whites. And then all my bridesmaids were in like a really pale pink. And my dress had like a, it was white on top of the underneath. It had like pink, like a very pale pink chiffon. So it was really pretty. Sorry, not super. Yeah. And it had glitter on it. Oh my God.

like in your face

No, it was like a subtle sparkle, like in the chiffon.

it was

Yeah, it was really nice and then it had loads of little like embroidered flowers all over it are they called a plique where they're like little little bits of like, I don't even know what you'd call Yeah, like tiny little flowers all like bodice.

nice.

nice and really pretty and I had like a big long Veil with pearls on it And stuff like that. And sorry if it's all about me, but all the men

It is.

wore like little bow ties and

It's black

black tie.

had on, wasn't

yeah, they had like a really dark navy blazer or suit jacket. Well, it looks black in the photos, but it was actually really dark navy with like a very,

right.

faint pattern in it. But yeah, and they wore like little bow, like black bow ties. And,

You had big wedding parties as well, didn't you?

Yeah, so I had five bridesmaids and Richard had five groomsmen. Yeah, so

that picture you've got of you all in the front

Yeah, there's quite a lot of us. Yeah, yeah, we did have quite a big, quite a big wedding party. And I've got a massive family as well, so this was the other thing. I needed like a venue that was going to kind of like accommodate for like, my fam. But I mean, there was like 90 of us all together, so I suppose it was quite a few, but

Yeah. For the day. Yeah. Kind of. Yeah.

But, but you know, it was lovely. It was a really nice day.

day. One of my favorite parts was that the, in the video and Richard wrote a co, a card

yeah.

and he, the videographer got him to read it out and he's put it over

the Yeah, it's really cute. It's so sweet.

that he did

Yeah, I love that. They met up in a car, in a pub car park,

Yeah, they

and did that.

To read it out. Love that.

Dodgy. Love it.

love that Dan just thinks these ideas afterwards, and it's

it's so good.

just,

you just meet me in a car park in the middle of nowhere?

Question I've got for you here. Did you supply your own flowers?

So technically, yes, I didn't do them though. So I did all of the planning for them. So I, I sort of, When I do an arrangement or anything like I think I've said before like I do like a stem count and everything so basically like I sort out the ingredients to that item so I did all my stem counts I did all the ordering and I ordered all the flowers so I knew exactly what varieties that would come in and then my friend who has her own company she does artificial flowers.

prepping. The

all the prep. Yeah. So I just ordered them and like did all the background stuff and then got them sent to her and she put them all together. But yeah, we had these huge arrangements on top of like, they were like gold stands on the tables and it was all So gypsum, like that tiny little white flower.

They look like

Yeah, so they're like gyp clouds and then they had like the stems of like these pale pink and white roses all in them, but they were like what we call the stems. So it's really popular now on like Instagram and Pinterest where the roses are flexed. So all of the petals are like folded out and then you get like a little pointy. bit of the rose in the middle and it's called flexed. So it's become really popular. So we, she flexed all the roses. That's how we had them sticking in like the clouds.

Yeah.

calm. It was so beautiful.

Yeah, it

So we had these like aisles of What do you call meadows of like all the flowers down the aisle and then also you had these two columns at the end

yeah, the two

So and it looked out over and it was just so calm like the weather was it was dry. It wasn't humid It was just I was just perfect. It was it really was

was

it was so nice.

Yeah. Oh,

Yeah

Where did you get the idea from to do all the chip? Where did that come

So I to be honest had always Really wanted something that was more flower than foliage. And I just seen like, I've been on Pinterest and stuff. And I'd also just like followed a lot of like London florists

Yeah.

wanted to do it for someone else's wedding. So then when I was getting married, I was like, Oh my God, I literally love this idea. I just wanted something that was like, cause I love roses

Yeah.

like gypsy. It was quite simple and I just felt like it makes quite a big impact and you can go quite big with it.

Yeah.

just wanted things that were like, wow, like statement pieces. And I just, and I'd done a Jip cloud before for someone like a suspended one. And I thought it looked really like impressive. So that was kind of where I got the idea for that.

Nice.

Yeah.

Next up we've got, Did you set a budget and if so, did you overspend?

So we did have a budget. We actually sat down, do you know what? We did overspend, but not really by that much, to be honest. But we did. We did sit down and actually do like a spreadsheet budget and everything like that. So I think things that put us over the, like over our budget were like last minute things. So like last minute I decided I really wanted to have like a a string trio and stuff like that, you know, like they were like extras and like we had to get a gazebo for them to go under.

things you

what we'd gone over with was sort of things. That we needed to add on at the end, I suppose.

Panics.

yeah, that's it. And I think you always forget about that because you don't, you don't actually allow for them in, in your budget.

That's where a lot of people go

Yeah, so. But, I mean, yeah. We didn't majorly go over and it was worth it. The string trio was so worth it. It was so good.

amazing.

We had all like, covers of well

It

Yeah,

covers

covers of modern songs. Like, we had Sweet Child O Mine as we went back out when we, when we exited.

Yeah, because you had them during the ceremony

Yeah, yeah, so I walked down the aisle to to Elvis Can't Help Falling In Love, so it's like one of my favourite songs and

I

but the, but the string cover is like, oh, it's like, oh my god.

Yeah

but yeah, so I just love that. Thought it was 80s songs and they were doing for the drinks reception.

Yeah, it was fun. Love it. What suppliers did you find most difficult to find?

Hmm, that's a good question. I don't know really.

that you thought, oh, just like, really went back and forth, or couldn't find someone you really liked? Like, photographer, did you take a while to choose a photographer? Or

To be

dress, or

Not really. I think the main thing I found difficult was actually it was finding someone to do hair and makeup

Yeah.

and also bridesmaids dresses. Yeah, that took a

Yeah.

to find some that we liked. They were probably the biggest pain in the bum. And then when we got them, they all had to be like altered and stuff, so because of the, they were sat in, so that's quite like difficult to fit someone in like, Well, so I had to get them all loaded. So yeah, that was a pain in the bum, but otherwise it was I think everyone was pretty good, good to work with and I couldn't,

work in the industry,

is it.

as

I had access to everybody. So, and I'd already sort of. Like, even like with our transport, so we got like campervan, we got a campervan to the wedding. That was my transport.

did the

yeah, so we got Morris, who's a white campervan, all white, really cool and then I know the guys that from Silk and Satin who do that, so they're, so they did that. Did our transport for us. So it was really good, but like, I suppose things like that you might be back and forth with.

Yeah, if you're not sure who to, like, if you don't work in the industry, you

yeah, yeah. I think it's purely the fact that I had, like they say, the access to like, just jump on. And also I've got Instagram accounts of like people that do style shoots and stuff. So then I found our photographer by going through like a, like a model couple that we'd worked with and I really liked the style of the photo. So then I found out who had done that picture by the tag and then that's how I found people.

Nice.

yeah.

Lovely. what were your, yours and Richard's drinks of choice on the night?

Oh, okay. So we did each, we did a personalized we did a his and hers cocktail.

Oh, yeah.

So mine was a cosmopolitan cause I love a cosmopolitan and they were so strong. I had like one and then we went on our golf buggy to go for our photos and I was tiddled. I was like, I'm having the best time. And Richard's was a Mai Tai. Yeah. So they were really good.

company that does that venue are

They're so good. Their cocktails were incredible.

But yeah They are they did the wedding because I did a wedding there in April and they have their bar menu with like all the

Yeah.

is so

Yeah, their shots were good as well. People kept buying us shots and cocktails and whatnot. It was so good. Yeah. Yeah, it was really nice.

What was your favorite part of the day

Oh, that's a good question. I don't know. I think one of my, Oh, that's really hard to answer. Like one favorite part. I really, I really liked me. Me and Richard went off and had photos together on the golf buggy.

great

That was really good. So I, I really enjoyed that. And actually I, I really loved I really, really liked walking down the aisle to him actually, like that moment and getting married. That was, and we did our own vows as well. We did like, wrote our own vows. So that was really special too. So yeah.

love.

Yeah.

is one or any regrets that you have? Anything you'd change, anything you'd do different?

I think if I was gonna change anything, I probably, do you know what? I probably would change my attitude on the week leading up to the I got myself well stressed and I didn't need to,

I think that's

but I think, yeah.

Everybody does. Even I did that.

I think that would be, like, if I could, I probably maybe wouldn't have got myself in such like a tizz about things, but

because you do really worry about, like, and I find this a lot with my couples, and I knew this, but I still got myself like that. But you I find that couples asking me questions about things that I'm like, honestly, you're not going to

Yeah,

on the day, if I didn't do that little thing that they've mentioned, they honestly wouldn't notice.

yeah,

we do do it. But yeah, there's little things that they really think into, they think into, and you're having a massive discussion about this one little thing. And then actually on the day, it doesn't

no, I

they're not

you're worrying about what everyone else thinks or what everyone else, how everyone else feels on the day. You just want to put yourself first.

that's like with the garden games that this weekend just gone. They really wanted garden games and we are having a bit of an issue with the, with the, not an issue with the venue, but like there's certain stipulations and things you have to do and insurances you need and all these bits and bobs. And anyway, In the end, you know, we went through rigmarole because she was really like I really want garden games I

Yeah.

them. Our friends are really competitive. We'll get involved I don't think I think like two people play with the

Oh, yeah. See? Yeah.

like you really because she was that old people are gonna get bored They don't grab anything to do they need something to do and then everyone just was chatting

I was going to say when you get people together, like families, especially that you normally only get together family. I hate to say it was like weddings and funerals and tends to be that everyone just stands and catches up and chat like the,

definitely

like our drinks reception, everyone was just like chatting and it was really nice that we were.

at that point of the day,

Yeah,

you've got quite a big break after the meal going into the evening, maybe, but like, in that drink reception, it's just been your ceremony, so no one's really chatted during the ceremony. So yeah, that is the time that people have to catch

yeah, yeah, exactly. So I wouldn't even worry about it. Yeah, I always, I always wonder why people do garden games like personally, but sometimes they,

you a lot.

if it's gonna cost you, yeah, I don't get it. But yeah,

No. Okay, cool. No, that's a good, I like that one. Yeah. And you're a bit more like, think as well. the morning you were quite worked up, because you're quite, are a bit more of an introverted person,

yeah.

more, you know, things worry you, I think even in the morning you're, you're one of those people that was a little bit worried about walking down the aisle and everybody looking at

Yeah.

you? Yeah, so

So I'd got myself like, and then, then

probably all sorts of that as well

yeah. And I must've gone through, I kept having like my hair and makeup trial done again. Cause I didn't like how I looked and stuff like that. Like if I could just like me now to look back and be like, you looked absolutely fine. Like I had a real, like, I dunno, what's the word? Like confidence inside a bit of a, I didn't feel confidence. And

Yeah.

feel like. If I, if I could give myself some advice, it'd be like, you look to make, like, don't worry about it. And I think I just was getting, oh, you know, you know how it is. You think, oh, my hair doesn't look nice, or my makeup looks weird. And I think it's because you can put so much pressure on yourself, especially as a woman, like, you do, like, you want to look amazing and incredible for this one day, but it's like, literally, like, you can't change your face, you know?

No, literally. You're so

not like

There is like so much, because you want it, you want that to be the best you've ever

Yeah.

can't control things like, you know, where you can control your weight, but you, you might not have been able to, or if you get a spot, or

Yeah!

got dark circles, right? Like, there's, there's not a lot you can

No, and also, because of like Pinterest and that, you see like things, for example, a Hollywood wave. Now, not everyone's hair is gonna do that. You have to have a certain type of hair for it to work. Like, so like, things like that, and, I don't know.

that are posted are when it's like really

Yeah.

does drop, things

Yeah, it does. And like, I look awful. I don't like my hair up, like I don't like my hair up. But I was, I was trying hair up and I just looked like an egg and like it was things like that. I was just trying, I was trying to be a little bit, trying to like be who I wasn't,

be

and then, and in the end I was like, do you know what, I have my hair down but, and I have it in my normal length and my normal color 'cause that's what I look like

Exactly.

yeah, I think taking the pressure off if you can is

Also, sorry, just to throw in a little tip there, if you do have hair down, please make sure you take a tangle teaser with you.

oh. Yeah. Good point.

sat there, had her hair down, and I always take a tangle teaser. I must have brushed her hair three times. She had like a big mat in the back of her hair.

Yeah, that's, yeah, that's a good point,

Because when you

if you've got a veil, because it becomes like a big nest in the back, because they backcomb it, don't they, to get it to stay in.

It's the veil. It's like being outside. It's your photos. It's like, just, yeah.

Yeah, that's a good point you make.

Next up, you might've just already given it, but what is your one top tip for anybody on here that's engaged that you would take, that you would give from your wedding planning or your

Oh. I think my biggest top tip would be to really enjoy the planning process together if you can. I think it's really important. It's time that you'll never get back together. It's something, I mean, you know, you like to think you're only going to do it once. So actually like enjoy it together. And like. Especially if you've not got kids, like, enjoy that time together.

Planning sessions at the pub?

like we went, we used to go to the pub or go out for dinner, go out for breakfast on a Sunday and we'd like, have a little monthly catch up and, and Richard was quite involved as well with everything, like, and I think sometimes as well, like, stereotype is like, people say like, typical man or whatever doesn't want to be involved, but actually, I think they do, they just don't know how they can be involved sometimes. So.

that's a very good

Yeah, so I, so I think if you actually get together and make it like a date, as cringe as that sounds, like actually it can be fun and I got all my like mum and dad involved and stuff, like we like looked through their wedding album before, so I was just like getting, like

Yeah,

if you can make it like a, a thing, I think just enjoy that process before because when, when it's over, you don't realise how quickly it does go

so, yeah,

in a flash, so yeah, yeah.

That's such a good point, isn't it? It's like, just, you might think that your other half doesn't want to be involved, but actually they might just not know how to be involved. Love that. That's so going

I think definitely have,

ha! Tip of the

tip of the week, you heard it here first, and also I think it's really, if you can afford it, I think, to have a video.

Yeah, hundred percent.

I'm so glad that we paid to have a video.

that quite

Yeah, we weren't gonna, and actually we, I'm honestly so glad. Yeah, definitely.

haven't got mine I'm very

Oh, it's such a nice thing.

a long time

It does, but then it's a nice little surprise because it comes a bit like six months later, maybe you might get it. I'm talking like it could take six months, but it's actually a nice thing to then have and look back on. So you're like reliving it all again. And I just feel like with that, it's like obviously pictures, like, but you can like hear people's voices and just their reactions and their facial expressions. It's just really nice. So yeah.

Yeah, I'm so excited to listen back to the

Yeah, you don't remember. Yeah.

No, I remember bits but

Oh, yeah.

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