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the week feels long when the weekend's been busy. as

Yes, maybe. Maybe. Yeah, so should we get into it?

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you wet! Woo! So yeah, it's been a busy week.

Yeah, it

Basically.

Yeah,

How's your week been? Your busy, busy week?

my week's been good. It's been busy as well. So I had a really nice weekend Actually, we, me and Richard went down to the coast or up to the coast.

Nice.

up? It was your

I think it's across my end of the woods,

saying

know. Where, yeah, where, where am I from? Yeah, Norfolk, good old Norfolk. Yeah, I think it's across.

Across. Yeah,

How long did it take you to get there? Oh. Oh

we had to stop twice to feed Lily.

yeah, that's long. Yeah. Yeah.

Like, when I'm doing weddings, I go to venues all over the UK, so

Yeah. Don't

or three hours is nothing like I don't

bother, yeah.

doesn't bother me and like we won't we left early We have to like seven and then we got home about eight o'clock in the evening. So it was a

Nice.

out

Yeah.

we did that that was my little social social weekend

Nice. Lovely.

Yeah, and then just work wise been planning in some final meetings. So i've got I've got some weddings in August. So I'm just organizing final meetings with my couples for those weddings.

Exciting.

yeah, so, and I think as well, like, it's really good to have a final meeting with your, like, couples. I don't, I mean, I suppose really, to be honest, if your supplier's not offering you a final meeting to go over everything, it's a bit of a,

Do you know what? A lot don't. Yeah. It's quite normal where they'll literally just send you I don't know if it's maybe because I'm a planner and they're like, Well, she just knows what, you know, whatever, but yeah, I, I'm always like do you want to do a final meeting? And yeah, some will be like, yeah, yeah, and others just will be like, well, I don't have to, like, this is their order form.

Yeah,

they've got. Like, if there's any changes, let me know. Yeah,

for example like thinking back If there was anything we had for our wedding like the chairs like We confirmed the number of chairs, like you wouldn't

you don't need to do that.

meeting with someone

No.

delivering an amount of chairs, I suppose? Things that, the questions that they may need to ask about like access times and things like that, they would either come to like, the wedding planner or the venue and they wouldn't really, sort of,

Yeah, so I'm, yeah, I'm wondering, and because I sent out that plan, I'm wondering if a lot of suppliers maybe would bother if there wasn't a planner, but because I've sent all that to them. But I do think you're right, like, with florists, I think from the time that you book, say you book your florists, like, even if you book them six to twelve months in advance, things change, like, right up until

they do, yeah.

before, and they might not have thought to tell you, like, they've got an extra bridesmaid, or, you know.

one is a bridesmaids. Often they've like dropped one one's

Oh, nice.

Happens

always asks for the juice.

it's like my main question. I'm like, so still five bridesmaid?

And they're like Actually, I've got four now.

happened?

Do you ask? Do you ask? I love that. Do they? Nice.

I mean, yeah, it's a final meeting, so I'm, I'm meeting up with a couple next week at a coffee shop. So it's always nice, nice to sort of

Oh, nice.

just

Yeah.

So, like logistics and all sorts of, you know. Bits and bobs like that, the

Yeah, cool.

But then

Yeah, same.

they're still wanting the same colours because I've had that before where

Yeah.

have changed the colour scheme last

yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. That with the wedding last year, didn't we? That

yeah.

one, she changed it from like burgundy to plums or something. Yeah.

So, so that's all the sort of things that we talk about. But but yeah, it's

I also think, like, final meetings just put, like, the, the person's mind at rest. Like, I am, I'm doing a wedding next month and I went and met them the other day and she was like, oh, I'm just feeling like I've missed stuff and I'm just feeling a bit nervous at the minute. And then I was like, honestly, by the end of this meeting, you'll feel a thousand times better. And then at the end she was like, oh yeah, I feel so much better. Thank you so much. So yeah.

Yeah, it is good for that. I think, I mean, even not just for the couple, but for me as like a florist as well, like, it's

Yeah.

for me, like, to just know that we're all on the same page.

Yeah. A hundred percent.

I normally do them sort of like four to six weeks out from the wedding.

Yeah

just, just so, you know, Like yeah, we all know what's going on, but I think

Because it is hard with flowers, isn't it? You've got really be able to use like your You know because you don't know what it's gonna look like. You've got be able to use your imagination.

so we can do our best to kind of make sure that Like I can get the couple a really good vision life by using like mood boards and things like that And I

Yeah

of my own work and I can even do like samples like if they want me to put together like I Don't know half a meter's worth of, say, if they were having garland and they want to see what

Yeah

how they work together or do things like that, but really, you wouldn't see the whole thing come together

No until the day

a lot of trust in you, really.

Yeah, have you ever had it where you've had a wedding on the day and then they've gone Oh, that's not what I imagined. It was gonna look like No, they've always loved it

God, that's never happened to me.

Yeah, it's probably more the opposite. I am so good.

they're like, Wow, it's better than I

Better than I thought. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

Wow, this is

yeah.

than I ever could imagine. Like, I get I get

I love that. I love that. I love that.

Why not? I like

That's what I said to you.

now and again.

Every time I look at the pictures, I'm like, of my wedding, I'm like, Oh my God, like, they just,

Aww.

like I didn't take in enough, like how good it looked. And now I'm like, the pictures, I'm like, wow.

Yeah, you

So beautiful.

back.

Yeah,

Like obviously flowers a big thing for me and I had this vision and I

you did.

like I walked down the aisle and I had all of the I had the aisle runners of flowers like literally

Yeah.

aisle and then I had like these big flowers pillars behind like the ceremony.

Yeah.

But when I was walking down the aisle, I literally was like, Oh my God, these look incredible. I was like, Oh, this, these are going to make some amazing

She also had a white carpet laid on the floor which we had to hoover and then we had to like make sure that nobody Honestly, I had a coordinator stood there just to make sure nobody walked on the carpet

mum came in late and walked down the middle of the carpet.

Yeah, and then we got the old dustpan and brush out I

then, see that's why he's so

know.

Attention to

It is, it is indeed. I'm like that with a marquee though. We hoover all the carpet, then I make everyone put those little shoe things on their feet, on their shoes. Same. And, yes! Oh my god, it drives me

doesn't it?

It's like the first thing you see is old dirty carpet. It's infuriating.

There's a venue in

Oh! Oh, bad times, they need to get their hoover out if you're a venue. Milton Keynes with a carpet that's always got dirt on it. Get your hoover out.

a

Get the old Dyson. Get, get one of them cordless out.

You can afford it, you're charging way too much for your packages. Yeah, yeah,

for every wedding you book. Nah, no. No need for it, no need for it, you know? It's just not needed.

No.

Oh, I'm glad you had to

your week been?

Yeah, it's been pretty manic. So I've got a three day Asian wedding coming up this week. So they actually got married today. Bless them. I know, like, legally. Yeah, so they're off in London doing that. I said to them last night, I really wanted to just pop down tomorrow and see you, but it's all the way in London. I've got so much to do. And they were like, Oh yeah, come. And I was like, Oh, I wish I could, but I can't.

okay,

my supplier. I was like, thanks. I rang you yesterday and you said you didn't have any questions, but there we go. So I said, well, Because the thing is, I was like, look, if there's anything that I don't know the answer to, like, the couple are getting married today, so that's it. They're out now for the rest of the week.

They're, they're out of office. They're,

Yeah. They're, they're done. And as of tomorrow, I'm on site. So I'm busy.

Yeah,

So yeah, so always the way, always the way. So, you know, busy things like that. I had a really busy weekend. So we did a really nice intimate wedding on Friday, which was beautiful. So they got they basically had their ceremony at Kalmarsh Hall, which is where I freelance when I can over the summer. And they had a really beautiful intimate ceremony at Kalmarsh Hall. the venue in the Orangery, which is like a little outside area, which is beautiful.

so nice though. That

It was so nice. They had the ceremony then we turned it round for them. They only had 15 guests which was really nice and we turned it round for them into a wedding breakfast and then and then they were there till 6 p. m And then they went home. So I was chatting to them and I said, oh like what are you up to afterwards? They were like, oh You know what? We're gonna go home, we've invited some friends round we've got a really nice garden, the weather was stunning.

having those photos as well, like you say, they got those special photos in a really nice, Grand

In a nice setting. Yeah. Yeah.

setting that

Exactly.

to your, like, no offense, but you wouldn't get them going to your local registry office or whatever.

No, exactly.

but yeah, like, then, like you say, they've spent their evening doing that. That's actually, that's lovely, really.

I sometimes think with the evening, it kind of doesn't matter where it is. It's all about like the people and how good it is. And you know like sometimes people hire these really grand places and actually, like, once you're inside, you're inside,

Yeah.

really matter where you are, it's dark, you've got to just,

That's

you know what I mean? Like, you know like the room where you were, where you got married, stunning, really beautiful breakfast, like wedding breakfast room, but then for the evening, wouldn't have mattered if you were there, or at a village hall, you wouldn't have, do you know what I mean, like the walls were dark, do you know? No.

see what you're saying.

Yeah, so I thought it was quite a good idea actually,

I like that.

yeah. So yeah we had that and then we had a wedding on Saturday as well. So we did a marquee wedding at home marquee, very much what I do. It was in Northamptonshire, so that was nice. Not too far. It's only about. No, normally I'm further, I know, I mean it was still about a 45 minute drive but not too bad considering

Yeah.

we do. So, and it was actually, again, it was quite an early wedding so I got to finish early because they got married at the church at so they got, they had guests, which I'm still not sure about, right? I mean, they had a wonderful day. They emailed me today to say they had a great time, but they invited their guests to their house at 10 30 a. m for champagne and canapes, which I was like, no one's going to come that early. Who wants champagne at 10 30 a. m?

It

lacking on the old glasses quite early on. Yeah, and then everybody went off to the church, so they then got married at the church at 12. Then they all came straight back, so they were back at the house by like 1. And then, I think they sat down for dinner, I think it was like half past two off the top of my head? Three o'clock, something like that. Anyway, so by the time they'd had their food, done speeches and stuff,

Yeah.

then fin were finished by like half past five, five o'clock, half five, and they then Had their first dance booked in, no it must have been earlier though, it must have been like half four, five o'clock that they were done by. And then they had a good hour and a half, two hours, where they decided to just have a break. So at the end of the speeches they just said,

Sorry. What do you mean a

yeah, like, you can go So they basically, because they had it on their own land, loads of people were camping, so they were like, go off, have a nap. Like, yeah, or you can stay if, you can stay if you want, like the bar's still open, you could, they did like a welly wanging contest, you know, like where you throw the welly.

then.

That sounded odd too. And they had like a piñata and stuff, so a few people stayed, but I would say, I'm still not sure, because. Although it was a great idea, it gave people a bit of time to go off and chill. So we re we then did the first dance at half six, which is why I then got so Chloe then stayed into the evening and I cleared off because I'd been there since the morning.

Oh,

Do you know what I mean? I felt, yeah, I felt like there wasn't a full crowd. Whether it changed later on once the party got going, maybe people stumbled back at like eight o'clock from their naps, I don't know, but yeah, I felt like they lost quite a few guests from doing that. I didn't feel like the first dance was busy.

Yeah.

I know, yeah, I think it was because it was an early wedding and, and she kind of said like, Oh, I'm going to want to go off for a nap, but obviously she didn't.

Yeah.

The groom got, the groom, they, they, she wanted to do like twilight photos, right? So couple photos, like, into the evening. And she, I was about to, I had to go to the shop, we had to do a booze run, because they were running low. So,

God.

I know, and hence why people needed a nap, but

okay.

was about to go, about to go to the shop and the groom had got changed and I was like you need to do your couple photos still, by the way, and he was like, oh no. So we had to go back and get changed, bless him, so.

really, really pissed and that's why they had to have a

No, they weren't, to be fair.

Oh okay.

they weren't that, no, I didn't really think it was, but yeah, so I'm still not sure about having a break, I still, I'm still pro having it later,

Yeah.

keeping it,

all the

keeping it all flowing, yeah, have, have it later on, don't have a wedding at lunchtime, all that, that's still, that's still, it hasn't, it hasn't convinced me to change my mind.

No.

change my mind on things

Not

Not convinced, but it was a lovely day. It was a really really nice wedding. It was a really fun wedding It was a real like chilled wedding. And yeah, it was they had their built like their own like whiskey wagon, which was cool And yeah, yeah Yeah, it was really cool. I think they probably got through a lot of booze in the evening. I reckon, I reckon it was an, yeah, I reckon once we'd, once I'd headed off it then all kind of got going. But you know, the usual, there was a lot of issues.

no.

so for anyone that doesn't know, when you hire a generator from your marquee company, they generally only have 24 to 36 hours fuel in them. A lot of people don't So the caterer would come in the day before, turn the generator on because he wanted to chill the load of food down, which you always need to say no, they cannot bring food until the morning of the wedding.

yeah,

the morning of the wedding, the generator had run out of diesel. So

Oh, God, of

Yeah, they had to obviously in the morning, it was like 7 a. m. So the, the grooms that we, we don't arrive till about eight, half eight. So they'd already gone out to get more fuel. But in the meantime, they'd have to like run a load of power to the house. And it was all just a bit of a nightmare. Then what happened was because they'd run the power. To the house, it tripped the toilets, and the toilet company hadn't left the key to reset the, to reset the toilets.

God.

yeah. you can just only imagine. Then guests were arriving from 10. 30 in the morning, so I had to then power it all to the house so we actually had toilets. And it's always the talk of the wedding that actually really infuriates me. Like there's this one, like, the drinks reception's happening and you can see these people talking like, oh they've hired these lovely toilets but they're not working. And you're like, yes, I'm fixing it. Like don't go spreading the word.

Kinda they

they,

No.

I messaged them a couple of days before and I said, where have you got a copy of your table plan? Because the caterers had asked me for it as well. And I said, oh, no, I haven't got it yet. Have you got a table plan? We normally ask for it like 10 to 14 days before. Oh no, we haven't finished it yet, but we're going to do it tonight. Got to the day before. Have you done your table plan? No, we're gonna do it tonight.

god.

It was one of those weddings, they had a great day. They were just very chilled. There was a lot of things popping up. I'm like,

Too

what, what is this? Like, they haven't told me about this. I don't know what it is, but you know what? We'll rock with it. We'll go with it. So, but they meant that they had an amazing day. So very chilled. Yeah, so fun.

really. That's all

and she did say, she said in my review, she said you, there was, I, I know a lot of things happened, but you're like, I didn't, I didn't know until afterwards, basically, like, cause you hid it well from me. We had like bar staff not turn up and all sorts. And she was, I emailed her to say like, FYI, cause they, you're going to need to ask the company for some money back. She was like, Oh, did they? I didn't, I didn't even know.

That's

She was like, how did you cope? I was like, we just did.

We just did. I mean it was hard but we did. We, we got through it.

Exactly. So yeah, it was all fun and games. Fun and games weekend ready for a craziness this weekend because I'm literally going to be doing like 8am till midnight every day for three days.

my gosh. You're gonna do it though. You'll get

I'm gonna do it, I'm gonna smash it.

smash it out of the park and it'll be amazing. I can't wait to hear all about it next week to be fair.

Yeah, I can't wait. We've got a really, really good team on board. So it's, yeah, it's gonna be long days, but I'm hoping like we've, we've, we've got, we've got this kind of thing. We've got it under control, but yeah, I'm gonna be a very tired Hannah on Sunday, Monday. So, I'm gonna be back in the office on Tuesday next week. Maybe Wednesday!

Maybe I just won't come back at all.

Yeah, maybe I'll have the week off. I was like, no, I'm having a couple of days off because I worked it out today and I'm gonna be hit in nearly 70 hours this week. Which, if you did a normal job, that's like 30 hours over a

Over your

contract, isn't it? You know, so if you worked in a normal job, you'd either get paid 30 hours overtime, which is a lot of money, or you'd get like a couple of days annual leave. So, there, there we go. That's what I'll do.

days off. At least.

Exactly.

But,

So yeah.

speaking of three day events and three day weddings,

Yeah.

have you heard about the Ambani wedding?

Oh, I mean.

wedding

If you haven't, where have you been? Right? In sane. Insane.

seen anything like it, to be honest. The sheer scale of this wedding is,

Mental. So anyone, for anyone that has been under or living under a rock. So, this is the youngest son of, I don't really know, is it Mukesh Ambani?

Yeah. That's it.

So he is Asia's richest man. So his son was getting married. So you can only begin to imagine the world that they live in. That's like, I am the fucking richest man. I am gonna have the be My son's gonna have the best wedding ever. Yeah. Literally.

think as well, the bride is it Radhika? I think her name is, is that

Yeah. Ika who have my, my bride this week is Rodika.

so. Yeah. I was like, what are the chances? But yeah, she's, I think she's, her parents are worth like, you know, just a small 90 million,

I mean, oh, just not as, not a lot then, yeah, no,

I mean, it's not

no.

billion like the, like the

Cause imagine him marrying into that kind of money if you were just like,

but the

standard, normal, working class people.

yeah, oh my god. Yeah, it would be amazing.

Imagine going to that wedding if like, your cousin got married or something and then it was like

But I better not get my dress off Sheen.

Yeah, literally. So this wedding, it was set in Mumbai. There's no actual amount that's put onto this wedding. Some people are saying it was 600 million dollars.

Yeah

it was reported it was 250 billion million pounds. But I think regardless, like,

you never know.

it, yeah.

it was ridiculous how

Either way, it was like, Well, back, see, back in March they had their like pre wedding party, so that's quite normal in like Asian cultural weddings. They had Rihanna and Acom performing, and they had a hu 1, 200 guests. That's just at their pre wedding party, which was worth 126 million.

Oh

126 million, just on the pre party. So I would say that probably half the mill mark for the actual wedding is probably not pushing it,

Yeah.

That's insane. I, sorry, half a, half a bill, not half a mil.

I was like, what? Oh wait, hang on. Yeah.

I can't even get these like figures into my head, honestly.

And like, I'm assuming he deals in like, oil or something, does he, the dad?

Something like that, but you know he owns Stoke Park in Slough?

Oh, really?

So they're now, so apparently they've got a two month after party. By two month after party, what they mean is they're all staying at Stoke, Stoke Park, which the dad owns, which is stunning. If anyone doesn't know about Stoke Park, go and have a look at it. Beautiful property. Very expensive. And well, when he bought it, he bought it a few years ago, I think, and a lot of the locals were very much up in arms because they were like, he's just going to turn it into basically an Airbnb.

sought after kind of.

Yeah,

Yeah,

and I think people could go and look at it and, you know, like you would with like a National Trust property kind of vibe. But yeah, they've basically taken over it for the next two months and they've got like royalty, like Harry and Meghan are gonna be going and visiting them at Stoke Park and there's all these different royalty that are going there for all these different events over the next two months.

that's

Yeah,

it's so like, I want to know how many guests they actually had at their wedding. They must have

Yeah.

thousands.

Yeah, I think they did.

Like, you actually know all of these people?

I know.

You know,

And a lot of them are just for, I mean like, so Boris Johnson was there with his wife Carrie. Yeah. The old Kardashians.

they come out for any

Oh, they will, won't they? They just wanted to be in the press, didn't they? Nuts.

yeah.

nuts. So I've just had a look and it looks like they had about 2, 000 guests. That's insane. But they had, like, you know, Justin Bieber flew in and flew out of Mumbai in the same night, and apparently, it's been estimated that he earned, just for an evening performance before he flew back out in his private chair,

A little

ten, ten million. Ten

that's so

That is horrific. I mean, come on! What is he doing to the environment? You're earning ten million, mate. At least spend a couple of days there, flying in and out on your PJ. You think he'd get hooked up with the Kardashians? They'd probably live near each other, don't they? Look, come on. Sharing's caring. Save the planet and all that. Like, Jesus, come on. Flying in and out in your private So bad. I bet Boris Johnson went in a private jet as well. I bet everybody did. Yeah. Yeah.

She's meant to be like a role model for like the younger generation and there

Well,

and didn't they just a

in their private jets.

her private jet with orange paint? I heard, I think

I don't know. I'm not much of a swifty. I don't really know. I've kind of heard a bit about it.

Swifty. That's no,

I'm no

her. But

swifty,

into that music. But as you know, as I invited you to a emo and

Yeah, for a 30th birthday I was like,

not I was like,

not my vibe babes. We'll do something else another day. I'm such a good friend.

tea.

Yeah, literally, literally. But yeah, no, this wedding, it looks insane though. I mean, the whole, the dress code for the guests was nine pages long.

I see this. And wasn't it like animal themed or something?

I don't know.

I

I haven't seen any animal outfits in the old pictures.

well I presume they had like different dress code for each day, did they?

Well, yeah, I suppose. But what, what can it say? Like, what kind of dress code would, like, what can it even say to be nine pages?

so, apparently it's for the various events that are going on for the

Yeah.

It was, the guidance was Jungle Fever,

Right.

event involved, involving animal rescue, which

How cute. Right.

had done their finest animal prints. I hope everyone was wearing faux fur. That would have

Yeah, and also, oh, the poor animals who are dying because of the planet.

And

And we're just gonna fly!

2, 000 people. Each of us gonna take our private jets. So, yeah,

Literally, oh, dear oh dear oh dear. But yeah, some of the outfits and stuff looked insane. I really wanna know how many times she got dressed as well. I don't know.

changes?

outfit changes did you have? My bride for this weekend has got like five or six different outfits. Like,

amazing.

yeah, she's got so many outfits to get into. I'm like, and they weigh a ton as well. So yeah, I could imagine.

like embellished aren't they?

Yeah.

and things. They're

Stunning.

The colours, the materials, like I find, I think it's so amazing. I can't wait to see the pictures from this one you're doing

I know, it's gonna be so good. But I'm hoping these Ambani people pay, really pay through the roof for their outfits. Because you can get them so cheap in India. But I'm really hoping, like, all handmade and everything, like, fitted to you.

I

I'm hoping that they

would have thought so,

Yeah, surely, surely, surely.

before guests arrived, the family, this Ambani family, they gave out meals to their community, feeding 51, 000 people.

that's nice,

their

okay. Well, okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, we won't be zooming there. Bye.

it, they had 500 different dishes

What?

100 chefs.

Imagine being a, imagine being a supplier at that wedding. I feel like that's like, that's gonna be a hard one to beat.

Yeah, I think so.

I feel like Mumbai as well is becoming like, like,

Like,

like,

to be.

yes. Like if you're gonna have a big wedding.

wedding, yeah.

You wanna be in Mumbai, like it used to be like New York or you know LA Now it's like Mumbai, even Dubai at one point. Mumbai is the place to be now. Literally even Rihanna was there. Rihanna was at she,

the last time she performed was like 8 years ago or something.

like that.

So Richard told me as well, that apparently the bride, she really liked this particular palm house,

Right.

is meant to be, well, it was in Brooklyn called the Botanic Gardens, a palm house. And they recreated it in one of the venues so that she could have it there.

What.

they even had a train,

cool.

that guests could ride. And then

What, because the venue was that big?

Must have been. Taken them from

that's insane. That's so

wedding to, to resemble the, the one that she liked in Brooklyn.

cool. Yeah, Rihanna apparently was rumoured to have only got a mere 5. 5 million though. So not as much as Justin Bieber. No. I wonder if she made a weekend of it. Hahaha.

I like to think so.

Jesus.

That is crazy.

Wow, Yeah, so the pre wedding party itself was held on a cruise around the Mediterranean. Like, what the hell? And see, they had like, the Backstreet Boys, Katy Perry.

I just

The

these

Boys! I know, but

we'll book them. We'll pay you

But the Backstreet Boys, like, aren't they just like, performing anywhere now? Like, you know, like the Town

Ha ha

like, switch on. I don't know.

ha ha.

But what were they doing there with Justin Bieber?

Boys,

I was never a boy band fan, I was more about the girls, me.

yeah. Well, you know,

The girl bands. Yeah, you know. Even then I was a feminist.

Ha

At ten years old.

Yeah,

yeah,

I

I mean Yeah, I mean, three day wedding, amazing. I mean, you know, going back to a bit of reality here, you know, being you know, the

paupers that we are.

No, what's

here

the word? We're being relatable, the relatable people that we are, right? So,

Yeah.

talking of, you know, Parties next day celebrations. We actually had a message in and this isn't us moving on to listeners questions yet But we did have a message from a listener basically saying that she had a load of family coming. Coming over for her wedding. They're traveling I don't know where from but they're traveling and she was a little bit feeling a little bit bad because Her and her partner had basically decided that they'd see them on the wedding day and then that's it You

Yeah.

she was a bit like, you know, people are coming for a full weekend, they're travelling, is that a little bit mean? Now, obviously me being me, I'm very much like, do with the hell what you want. But

Yeah.

I had a little bit of a different thought on this, and this is kind of merging into the fact, you know, these guys did a three day I mean, they've done like a friggin year long event by the sounds of it.

I was gonna say, will it ever end this wedding? It'll be going

Literally. But, it got me Yeah, literally, it'll still be going on. And, I mean, God knows what the baby's like, you know, when they announce the birth of their baby or whatever it's gonna be like, God knows. If they, if they have children, that is. Yeah, literally.

all sober And you can kind of reminisce about the night, but also yeah, it

Literally

chance to authentically be like, you know Thanks for coming and take your

You don't want to do that on the wedding When you're like enjoying it because not everybody even stays to the end of the night, you know, like when you're trying to dance Yeah

and like say Oh, thank you. Goodbye. Goodbye,

Literally.

which you

I would highly recommend it. And I said to her, because she was a bit like, Oh, but, you know, we can't go back to our venue, we're not staying at a hotel or anything. And I was like, just hire, like, a table in a restaurant for breakfast the next day, or, I don't know, like, just go and meet, like, I don't know, in a local pub, I don't, I don't know, like, just Yeah, like There's something, there's plenty out there that you can do, or places that hire private dining rooms and things like that.

Yeah,

I would honestly highly recommend doing something the next day. Whether it's a brunch, a breakfast, a barbecue in the afternoon, like, do something because I do feel like, yeah, you, you just don't want to take that. And the next morning it stops you, I think, having that anxiety of, oh, did I speak to that person enough?

Did you say goodbye?

Yeah. Yeah.

and like you say if you've got family that are traveling and they're making

Yeah.

of being there, you can extend that time with them and then again, not feel guilty. And

Exactly. And you can decide, you know, do a breakfast and then have a chilled afternoon evening together. That's what we did by the time we got home and sorted ourselves out and then had a nice chilled afternoon evening. Or you can have like something more in the afternoon, have a really chilled morning and like chill, open all your cards together and then go and meet everybody in the afternoon. Like, decide what works, what works best for you.

I feel like, yeah, it kind of elongates that celebration a bit, but it's

Yeah.

kind of thing,

Exactly.

meet, Meet you for breakfast or whatever. It's just a bit

Yeah, I'd highly advise it. I think it's a very low cost. I think there's so many options that you can do and I just think it takes off, yeah, that pressure of So I'm all for the year long weddings now.

it! Yeah! Ten year long wedding, still going.

No, I'm all for the weekend wedding. Maybe not the two months after party. It's probably a little bit too much.

mean, not if you're worth like,

I mean, yeah.

it is.

This is the thing, it's the press are describing it as the after party, but it's not really an after party, is it? They've just basically come to England for a two month, like, chill. Why not?

Yeah,

need to go back to work, do they? So Lovely. Yeah, they're all good. Well, they've probably got to pay back for the wedding, though.

Well, true.

It's probably just change in their pocket. They're fine. They're alright.

nothing.

I'll be alright, I'll be alright.

a mark.

What are you saying though? Like, Justin Bieber earned 10 million. Like, that's just life done.

like, why? Did he, like, literally be like, Do you know what? I'm gonna charge 10 million for this.

Apparently this is going right.

decides that's how much they're gonna charge just to do a performance? I'm sorry, but he's not worth 10 million.

Ooh!

not for one

Big chat.

Ten

Well, they say you're only worth what you charge, aren't they?

God, I would have been like, here's

You need to put your prices up, love.

Here's five grand, Justin. Will you come and perform at my 30th birthday?

What's your budget? Five grand? Oh, well, you need at least ten times that. Sorry, love.

No wonder he's never been asked to do Glastonbury.

I know, well, yeah, well, it makes you realise, doesn't it? Like,

well, I don't

yeah.

of Glastonbury, do they? The artists that perform on the pyramid,

No, surely not. And like,

take a lesser amount of money. It's like they, they charge, charge less or they are given less and it's basically the fact that you're playing Glastonbury is kind of

Well, yeah, that's, yeah, and also, you normally, like, when they do, like, Shania Twain did Glastonbury and then she was doing other gigs around it as well, so,

Kind of

like you get other stuff. Yeah, but also, when you do your own tour, surely you're not making ten million a night. Surely they have just looked at that and gone, this is the Ambani wedding, we are gonna, like, rinse the hell out of this.

you?

Surely, and I suppose it is classed as a private event, isn't it? It's not like an open people like Justin Bieber don't just do private one off events and shows, do they? I suppose. should we go into the listeners questions and messages?

Yes! So we've got someone's written in, how long does it take to feasibly plan a wedding? Also good because apparently, and I've just remembered, this massive

Yeah.

only took three months to plan! Yeah.

must have had a serious team of planners in. Because the thing is, I've planned I'm working with a couple in September, we'll have planned their wedding in four months from the start. We did a wedding last year that we did in four months, and that was like a big marquee wedding. We did everything in four months.

That's

But this is like another level. But then I suppose if you've got that much money, you're hiring planners who have like huge teams. So maybe it is possible.

Yeah, it's not like gonna be

And also, when you've got that much money, I feel like it's probably not going to be hard to find suppliers, because anybody that's like, This is like probably one of the biggest weddings of the decade, surely. Like,

Yeah. Yeah huge

Huge. It's being talked about constantly. Although, I'm struggling to find, I'm wondering if like, Vogue or anything, I did see Vogue did an article on it, but I'm struggling to find who all the suppliers were.

Yeah, I

need to look into it a bit more. Yeah, surely, because But you, yeah, but like this is the thing is you do find with these big weddings sometimes is that you know you think as a supplier, oh great this is going to do me really well and actually they don't, you don't get any credit for it. So hopefully, hopefully they will. I'm sure, to be fair, I'm sure that the kind of suppliers, like Justin Bieber does not need credit and does it, like come on.

imagine at

sure the photographers don't need credit and they're the kind of people that do not need credit. And so, but yeah yeah, so sorry. Yeah. Going back to the question, I think it depends. Yeah. How many hands you've got, how many brains you've got working on it. I honestly think it's like, how long is a piece of string on that one?

yeah, I think so. Like you say, it depends, depends on the wedding doesn't it? Depends on the

Yeah,

everything.

be going tiny little celebration and all you've got is to get is your, you might already have your venue And then all you've got to get is a photographer, a dress, hair and make up artist. You might be going really basic but also the only thing I will say is that you have to have a good couple of months in terms of your ceremony Because if you're legally getting married, you've got to give your notes of marriage Yeah, so if you're legally getting married

of average time that you would get couples to come? Is it about, is it like six months?

Yeah, I'd say, I would say like 8 to 12 months

Okay,

is like normal, but we always get a 4, 4, 3, 4, 5 month one.

okay

year at least one or two will get like last minute, and I'm always a bit like oh How come you've decided to get married so last minute, and they're like oh are we?

Are we? Yes, you

you tend to get is you get the people that get engaged at Christmas They want to get married the following year, and then they leave it a couple of months later And then in like March, April, they go, Oh bugger, we need to plan this wedding. They start looking at venues, they realise it's really time consuming. So then they go, we need a planner. So by the time they've found a planner, it's like end of April, May time. They want to get married in like September.

Yeah.

We just, we just gotta dig around for them.

Is anybody free?

Yeah, literally going through all the no's. Oh, I would love to help you on this one, Hannah, but unfortunately I'm unavailable. Okay, thank you very much. But yeah, sometimes people do longer, you know, sometimes people do longer than 12 months, but It is, it does feel really long when it's, when you've been planning for longer than 12 months. This wedding I'm doing this week, I've been working with them for over a year and it does feel like I've been working on this wedding forever.

it did drags

I mean, unless you're, unless you're so set on the venue, for example, then you want to get it booked. If you've got a date that you're like, really like, got your heart set on.

Yeah

But I was already booked for a wedding, so I couldn't do that, so I had to wait until the following year. And now I'm like, so glad, because that time went so quick.

time does fly. You know, it's crazy. Like you

What was yours? A year? Yeah, so, yeah,

We got engaged in September. We got married the following September Yeah, I've always wanted

you

in September. So

I would say that's quite normal, that yeah, you get engaged, by the time you probably actually sat down and started thinking about it, by the time you've got, you know, told everyone you're engaged and started looking at venues, you probably had about ten months, didn't you?

yeah,

Yeah,

I think the

you probably started thinking about it at christmas

yeah, I would say so. I

Yeah, like when did you book your venue around christmas time january time

Yeah, it would have been I think it was it was even like December. sure it was just after Christmas

Yeah,

I

that's i'd say that's that's norm

yeah.

in for the couples. I work with anyway, it might be different but These people that are like I see someone posting the other day about their wedding like 2027. I'm like good god It's too long

I didn't want to

Honestly

I don't know what's, you know what I

And I'll be

you gonna know

No. Literally. Pfft. Cheerio, cheerio. Happy, happy, happy Tug. Yeah, I would just say you're actually wasting your money if you're booking it three years in advance because you can't budget properly because things will go up and I think, I feel like florists and caterers will have in their contracts that

I'm

very TBC.

I'm

Yeah.

yeah,

How can you even quote for that?

in 2027.

so you can book them and give them a deposit, but they wouldn't give you the exact cost.

I suppose, if that's what you really, I mean this is kind of going on to the second, we've got a, our second question from the listeners, how do you set a date? Do you start with the church or the hotel reception? So I feel like this is kind of going into

Yeah

like when

Merchant, don't sell it for 2020. Yeah, so I would say even if you're booking your venue like two years I'd say that's the absolute max because I just think, yeah, you're wasting money because A, you're gonna change your mind on things, you're gonna book things and you're gonna change your mind. B, you're gonna see new trends coming up and then be like, oh actually I want that, I want that.

honestly like but I got married within a year

Yeah.

even then there were trends that changed but I feel like because of what we do, we keep our finger on the pulse of what the

Yeah.

so you're always kind of working ahead so you kind of know what's coming but I

Yeah.

you're not but I mean you don't always have to go with what's Popular or whatever, obviously do what you want

No.

you

Yeah.

But I do feel like with these, this day and age, with Pinterest and things like that, and Instagram especially, the visuals

Yeah.

the time, like TikTok,

You're gonna change your mind.

your mind.

Yeah. And you're just wasting money.

within nine months, so,

Yeah, exactly. Yeah.

the

And your guest list is gonna change, like you're gonna have people that, think of life in three years time, like you're gonna have different friends, people are gonna have had babies, like, there's just a lot and I just think even if you've got a budget, like, spend a year or two saving and then book your wedding, like, don't be booking it three, oh yeah. Yeah, don't be picking at three years in advance, but yeah on that question, how do you set a date?

I mean, surely you find your venue, or however you're I would say, like, surely you'd think about where you want it first, and then see what

Yeah

that they've got. So if it's a church, you need to see what their availability is, and then you choose a

Yeah

you, and then you would

Marry up with your venue. Some people do have a set day, like we want to get married on this date Because it's a meaningful date But some people, yeah, it is literally like, I, I knew I wanted the month of May. So it was looking at, yeah, venue availability. We like the idea of having a bank holiday cause we wanted to do like a bit of a weekend thing where people came up one day, went in the next day, breakfast the following day, cause we had people traveling.

like

Yeah, and you've got to marry it up with the church and the reception venue, and also all your registrar. Because getting a date with a registrar ain't always easy. You also, these people that are planning their weddings in 2027 don't understand, because you cannot book your registrar until 12 months before.

Yeah.

They physically won't book a date. So if you book your venue and all your supplies for 19th of August, 2027, you can't book your ceremony date a time until the 19th of August, 2026. So you could have booked all your suppliers and the registrar goes, no, not, not available. Soz.

not available that date. See

Well, that's a bit silly, isn't it, only wasting money.

Yeah.

yeah, I would say setting a date is, yeah, have a little think about when you want, start putting the feelers out, get some availability, see what works for your family, don't have it on any big, like, birthdays. Oh, we were talking about this last week as well, weren't we? Special, like like football and stuff. Yeah,

Yeah

yeah, have a little, yeah,

how

avoid the World Cup.

like that's not going to be going on in three years time?

Yeah.

do you know what I mean? I suppose it

Yeah. Yeah.

what I

I mean, no one cared about that, did they? But if you want, my friend said if you want to avoid football, Yeah, it's basically if you want to avoid football, It's on an even, avoid an even year in June or July.

Yeah.

Because every two years is the Euros and every four is the World Cup. So, yeah.

Avoid.

There you go. Yeah, I think that answers those questions, doesn't it?

that's helped you out there.

Yeah, fab.

plan a wedding for three years time. Ha ha ha

Come on people. Yeah, just don't. No, no, no, no. Okey dokes guys. Well, thanks so much for joining us.

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