Dodgy wedding cakes and how to deal with potential rain on your wedding day!

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the time of recording, it's not even 7pm, it's nearly dark outside and it's raining.

are already getting shorter and we haven't even had a summer, so,

Literally,

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wet! Woo! We're here. Another week. How's your week been?

Week's been alright, it's not been too bad. I've actually had a bit of an influx of inquiries this week, which is really good for next year. So that's uh, so we've

Yeah, I've actually had a couple. Yeah, it's like, I feel like it's like, and a couple of the venues that I work with are saying that, that it's really picking up enough for next year.

yeah. because it's been quite, I don't know about you, but it's been quite slow. I mean, I don't get loads of bookings in advance. It usually sort of comes tail end of this year. So I would be sort of, like, expecting some around now. Um,

but no, you are right. I am. Do you know what? I was thinking about this the other day. So I only take on 10 full plans, sorry, 10 on the day managements, 10 full plans. Jeez, I'll be dead. 10 on the day managements a year. And we've took, we've already got six in for next

That's so

We, yeah, which is crazy. Cause I'm the same as you is full plan. We normally take those. In the year for the year. So like, December, January time I'll start getting for like, the following summer. But on the day management's normally only like, a few months before. Normally some people book in advance, but yeah. So, yeah. Hopefully we'll have a lovely busy year.

that's good. That's really good. It's reassuring, isn't it? And I because I know I'd spoke to a few venues and they sort of said it was really like, slow for next year. And I was like, Oh, that's not, that's not it's not good for me to hear. You know, then you're thinking, Oh dear. But yeah, no, now it's like. It's picking up again, so that's, that's nice. I've been, yeah, dealing with some inquiries and then it's prom season at the moment.

little bit of local, helping the village.

I don't know if you can see, but, um, the time is now, I can finally fit my engagement ring back on. Not the wedding band yet, but the engagement ring, finally after a year,

Woohoo!

fits back. So, basically, basically, if you follow us on TikTok, you'll see that I slowly ballooned and then slowly deflated when I was pregnant. Um, but basically I couldn't fit my rings on my fingers. Ha

or late 80s or 80s, to be fair, will know what I'm talking about. Is all it reminds me of is Theme Hospital, when you have the Doctor requiring inflation! When they

And I'm there like, help! Help me! I'm so small!

when you kept saying about it and I said to you, it reminds me of that. She was like, what are you talking about? I was like, you know, on Theme Hospital when the people used to come in with the heads that were really big. And then they used to pump him on a pump. That was

Well, I have finally deflated enough to fit. Well, my engagement ring's back on, but my wedding band's still a bit That was always tight anyway though, so I don't Might have to get that one resized. But

They're still a little bit loose, but I'm a little bit like, You know, you don't I mean, obviously it's been really cold here, so I'm like, if it was actually a normal summer, would they be alright? But then when we go into winter, they're gonna be a bit tight, and then, you know,

It's hard, isn't it?

weight fluctuates and stuff, yeah, so it's like, oh, I don't I don't want them to then be too tight and I can't wear them.

Because I don't like the thought of a ring being, like, tight and then you can't You know when you can't pull it off? Because some people wear rings and they never take them off, so they don't care that they're, like, there and they're stuck. Like, I feel

but I don't like that feeling of being constricted

so I like to be able to take it off. That was the worst thing about being pregnant. I literally couldn't get one of my rings off. I had to, I had to like, I did all sorts of trying to get it off. But I eventually did. It was quite funny. But yeah, so so

Anything so with all your enquiries and stuff, anything that you're seeing coming through, anything interesting, are people going, asking for flowers for long tables or

yeah. So a lot of, I

trends you're

the vibe, the vibe at the moment, it tends to be sort of like banquet in style tables, lots of bud vases, um, sort of like, and A lot of people want sort of like a single, um, variety of flower. So like bridesmaids, like all the one bridesmaid will have this variety. Another bridesmaid is going to have this variety and we all want white and or ivory sort of thing.

What, so every buyer's made out of a different flower?

flower but the whole bouquet is made up of that one variety yeah Yeah, and then they want to kind of bring that through to their like table so like one table would be all of that variety and then which is quite nice actually it's a bit

I've got a wedding in September and she just wants pure dahlias.

Oh my god that would be stressful for any florist beautiful they they tend they like to wilt sometimes they can be a bit can be a bit

he's Mexican, so it's the flower of Mexico,

that's nice, yeah.

know. But she literally wants like, yeah, you know like the bouquets where it's just flour and they're all a

Yeah, like, all over the

and then like the bud vases with just flowers

I feel like people are getting, so it used to be really, we want loads of foliage with flower, now it's more paired back on the foliage, yeah, more flower, which is nice actually. I like,

And are you still seeing a lot of white, then, colour scheme wise? Because I'm seeing the opposite. A lot of people don't want white, they want colour. Yeah, and they want, like, the bridesmaids all in different I'm seeing a lot of bridesmaids in all different, like, mix of colours.

Yeah, I've seen a lot of like bridesmaids that are wearing floral prints and things like that at the moment. That's really nice. But yeah, no, a lot of my inquiries coming through are still very white, white and green. I mean,

You're the white and

mean, you can't, if you want white and green, my logo is white and green. Maybe it's the hat.

you go! Maybe that's why!

I did a one year. I think it was like year three of running my business and literally I did nothing but color it was like everyone wanted color like pop of color and I was doing like like yeah, so like pinks and Blues and yellows and all sorts of stuff oranges. It was like real bold colors Which I loved actually because I'm a big fan of color. Like my house is very colorful. My bathroom's pink. So

Well, I'm the same and I think maybe you do attract like, your, your website, you know, your, what you put out there is quite like, foliage and white and your, like you say, your logo. Whereas a lot of what I put out there is quite colourful, so maybe that's

yeah, I do think you attract what you, Yeah. what you put out definitely. So a lot of my Instagram tends to be sharing those. Do you know what, it also photographs quite well and I feel like a lot of the photos I get back from, um, photographers tend to be, Sort of white and green weddings, I don't know why, just the flowers tend to be picked up quite well. So sometimes with, with coloured weddings, they don't pick out the true colour and I think that's quite difficult.

white, she can do

Shameless plug. Bloomfields for Alex.

I'm glad you had a good week.

you. How was your week?

Yeah, it was good. I I'm just recovered from, you're gonna kill me, a double wedding weekend.

my god. Oh my gosh. You're like,

Not that it

here's my excuses.

Here's my example. Both weddings were freelance. But not that it makes any difference because it's still equally as hard work. And I literally said to the venue, I'm gonna tell Hayley on Monday on the podcast that I'm on a double wedding weekend and she's literally gonna be like, Hannah!

when I saw on the show notes that you were going to talk about double wedding weekend, I was like, sorry. Excuse me?

Sorry, what? But to be

you were done with this.

I think, it's my only one of the year. No,

You're so full of shit.

That, that, that's it. But to be fair to me, this weekend coming, Friday I'm freelancing, and it's just a, it's just a meal for 13 people. It's 13 people, and I'm literally going, I'll, I'll be there. At like, 12 and I'll be finished by 7. Like, they're literally there for a couple of hours and I'm just freelancing

nice actually, that's quite a nice

I know, right? I'm quite intrigued. I'll, I'll tell you all

Please do,

So yeah, and then other than that, and then I've got an on the day management on Saturday, but other than that, that is it for the year. And to be honest, like I'm, like I say every time I do them, I just can't do it. It kills me. I actually

Too old for this

I got up Saturday morning, my legs were aching, but I did a workout and I felt really good. And actually like, I really enjoyed both weddings, both very different vibe. I'm not going to lie. Friday. Mental. Really busy bar. Everyone was drunk. I mean, they did have a, they did have a tab behind the bar, so, pfft, maybe that's why. And they, a lot of them were Aussies.

They do love their drink. Oh,

it's like, and I had this, I've had this at a couple of weddings this they're not just there for the wedding, it's like their holiday as

Yeah, that's true. I want to make the most of it.

yeah, then Saturday was very quiet. I mean, no it wasn't. They all had a great time. They were dancing on the dance floor, but not drinking at all. Like, not drinkers. And they were, it was pure cheese, I'm talking like. He played, the DJ played, S Club 7 at like

Oh. No.

life.

That's

Cha cha slide. Yeah.

Those songs are reserved for when you're like, really drunk. Like, we're talking like 11 o'clock,

Yeah, and even then, I mean, not for

No!

normally, yeah, they're like the very drunk songs. But, yeah, so, but the one on Friday, the set up was beautiful. That was on banqueting tables, actually. I do love a banqueting table. And, yeah, for anyone that's not sure what that means, it's basically long tables.

that's really

every single one was like, was made. Like, they, they hadn't like, done one and then photocopied

did them themselves? Oh, wow, that's really

I don't know if they physically did them or their friend, but yeah, it wasn't like a professional stationer that they DIYed a

see, I don't mind it when couples do, so when you're gonna DIY things, right, something like that is nice, it's like, quite personalising things. Classy or whatever. I feel like sometimes when people DIY things, it just doesn't work out the same. But that is tasteful. that is that's nice.

Well, moving on to my next

Oh.

If you're going to have a wedding cake, please just use a professional.

I've got so many stories about wedding cakes but some of them I can't go into. I

now I know, well, I'm not going to

to, yeah, yeah, I don't want to lie.

I think it was the mother of the groom made it, and to be fair, it, it looked All right until you got close to it but that's part of my job is I always cut the wedding cake and I was cutting it up and honestly The chef was like, I don't know what is what has happened to this cake because it wasn't like sponge You know, like spongy sponge with you can see like the air in it or whatever and it's like bits, you know You know what cake

yeah, don't worry. Yeah, I'll do

It was like, the only way I can, it was like, it was almost like rubbery, but the texture when

Oh

wasn't, but it was like dense.

yeah,

It was really

do you think they've frozen it and defrosted it then? Because I know a lot of people do that with wedding cake

the chef think no, because that more dries it out, that goes the opposite. The chef thinks maybe too much butter. It tasted, it tasted really

Really buttery. buttery biscuit base

really like, dense.

dense. Oh dear so I, um,

just use a professional. If you're going to have a cake, use a

please do. I've seen so many because I have to put the flowers in the wedding cake a lot of the

Oh yeah, because that's quite a common thing if they've made it, isn't it? It's like, oh, well we'll ask the florist to make it look pretty, and you're like, there's not enough flowers to cover this

possibly cover the whole thing, can I? I will if you want me to, trust me. Oh dear, I know I've seen some, but actually we went to a family wedding and their, I think step mum had made the cake and it was literally yellow, but it wasn't yellow, like, meant to be yellow. Basically it was like covered in marzipan or something, I don't really know. Or some sort of icing, but it had gone like, it was just like yellow and it was hard. And it literally was like, it was so, It was so bad.

It's quite strict as well, isn't it, with the flowers? Because I've seen this quite a few times, where florists or people DIY'd it themselves, you have literally just stuck the stem into the cake.

so you have to be really careful. No, they have to be taped. There are some flowers and foliages that are edible. But even then you don't know what people are allergic to or if there's any allergies or whatever. So you have to, oh sorry, oh

this, that we were given a list with this cake from the mum

no,

that it stuck all these flowers onto it and basically was like please make sure the purple, like it would say like the purple flowers and the pink flowers are removed because they're not edible and I'm thinking well why are they on the cake in the first

Yeah, so there's there's a

Surely that's not good, it's already impressed into the

already gone in there, yeah. So they have to be wired and taped, or taped at the very least. So we use this stuff called stemtex, it's basically like a thin green rubbery tape. And when you pull it, it goes thin, covers the, stem and then you can pop it in so that it's not, or you can get little cake picks which often cake makers have and you can pop them in there. Um, but there's lots of flowers that people don't realize you can't put on cakes and the most popular one is gypsophila.

It also smells like piss, so don't put it on your cake. It does! I'm sorry,

it smells like sweaty socks. it does.

not

Yeah. So it's that's one, but yeah, it should always be covered. But I've seen some cakes in my time though, honestly, I'd love to, I'd love to go back through the archives and get a few, get a

I just think! If you're gonna be that like, oh, not that arsed about the cake that you're just gonna let anyone make it, just don't have a cake, like, honestly, nobody misses the cake.

Oh, I love it when people do, like, cheese cutters in, like, cheeses. Like, wheels of cheese. Like, love a

I agree, because I'm a big

Yeah, me too.

so much of it does go to waste. I think if you're gonna If you're gonna cut it up and then add like your crackers to it and your chutney and have it as your evening food, it's all right. But you need to arrange with your caterer to get it to cut into

Yeah,

people won't come over and like, we've had this discussion before. People are lazy. You've gotta spoon feed them like you have to get your ca cut caterer to cut it into like chunks that they can shove on a

literally just go for it, yeah, so they haven't got to work for that cheese.

No, yeah. But I see a lot of people that have evening food plus that, and honestly, like, they have so much cheese left over.

Yeah. Yeah, that's the thing, isn't it? I hate it when there's waste as well, like that sucks, doesn't it?

Yeah. I saw this terrible story on Facebook, by the way, just jump in stories here, while I remember. On Facebook, in a Facebook group, this bride's,

groups.

I don't, honestly, I think now my feed is purely just full of brides.

I had to leave them.

saying brides, but it is.

no, no. Totally agree. I had to leave a couple when I, obviously, once I got married, I was like I've got to. come out of it because this is giving me like, so much stress and I don't even

I know. But at the same time, it's quite good content, some of the

Sometimes I get well invested in someone's story when they're like, slagging off family and I'm like, argh.

Well, this one, I need to go back and see if there's an update, and if there is, I'll give you one next week. But basically, the synopsis of the stories, and I did comment on this, actually, is She'd pay, had an email from her venue to pay her final balance, paid the final balance. And I dunno what happened, whether she rang the venue to check they got it or, or whatever, but or the e the venue had emailed to say you need to pay your final balance.

Oh my god. Yeah.

say you need to pay your final payment. Yeah, they'd been

That's awful.

there. And she was really stressed about it. And I said, Look, from a point of view of somebody that worked I worked in venues for ten years.

Yeah.

It's kind of on the venue, because she was really panicked. She was like, look, I've paid like 5, 000, I can't afford to pay that again. But I kind of don't think that's on

I don't think that she would though surely like either the venues like their bank account or someone's bank account there should be covering that I'm pretty sure But that would be investigated with hackers

I said, the only thing you can do is ring your venue ring your bank and see if they can recall the payment, which I don't, I don't think you really can nowadays. I don't know, or the police would have to investigate on, or someone, I don't even know if it's the police, like, where, who's the bank account is that it's

As well, I think it's wise with big outgoings and payments like that in your wedding if you use a credit card because you have so much more back in from the

The only issue is, a lot of bank credit cards don't let you transfer money. You have to do it on a credit, on a, over the phone, and a lot of venues and suppliers don't have, like, a card machine.

that's so that seems so old and outdated though because everybody takes bank transfer these days.

Yeah, you do think, you think credit cards, well, you can, like I have it, quite a lot of people request it, you know, say to me, oh, can we pay our suppliers by credit card? And the suppliers will always say, yes, that's fine, but it's an extra, it's a surcharge cost. And it's normally like 5%, and obviously if you're paying like thousands of pounds, that is Yeah, it's quite a lot of money.

Yes, they've probably been hacked.

Yeah,

really bad. That would be stressing me out as well. I wonder if I would like to know what she did in the end. How that outcome

yeah, I'll see if I can get a little update. Yeah. Awful. We also, listeners wanted to mention something. We wanted to bring a little something up. And we've been meaning to talk about it for a few weeks now, but we've been busy talking about my wedding, let's face it, right?

There's been nothing else that we've spoke about.

Literally, the wedding, the honeymoon. So we were

taken over our lives. No, I'm joking.

Literally, no,

I've loved

uh Now we're back to a bit of a normal normality, right? All we want to say is we did an episode. I don't even know if it was recently I don't know. I've lost track of time. Well, i'm

I think it was about six episodes ago or something like that. Yeah.

of backlash Backlash, is that the word? We basically had a few we we had a discussion about content creators We've had a few message us who are like You I'll, you know, listen to the episode, appreciate what you're saying, but maybe you need to be a bit more educated on it. And then we've had a few people that are literally mad at us, like so mad that they're like, how dare you say this

Hot Dale!

Hello! And I think we just really want to flag that, A, we're not going to do that. This is our frickin

Um, be your shit. No, I'm joking. no, not at all. Not at

what we, what maybe, and I will take back a little bit about what I said. I'll eat my words a little bit. I, we shouldn't have, you know. I think what we want to say is like, it's our podcast, this is our opinions. And I do, when we've spoken, me and Hayley have spoken about it, and we've thought about it, maybe it is an age thing. If we're honest, you know, we are that little bit say

Whoa.

older I was about to say

for yourself, mate. I'm not

in our 30s, but she's not even 30 Yeah, but you're basically 30

I'm in a few weeks. Yeah. Yep.

from my opinion is, I'm sure Hayley will give her opinion next, but my opinion is, I think it's really sad that we live in a world where we need con people are so desperate to have content turned so quickly that they're hiring people because they want TikTok

Yeah, I think.

and that's just my opinion.

I think the point is that people don't feel validated these days in anything they do unless it's been on social media So like even when you like have a wedding and it's incredible and amazing unless they've caught that on like an Instagram reel or something Like that it's not gone online then like the same day the next day.

And I think that was our opinion and also you've got to realize that we're doing this podcast from a point of view that we're trying to help people who are maybe like planning their own weddings and stuff. And we're trying to help with like where you can cut back on cost. Yeah. And I think what's sad is that what I'm seeing out there is that a lot of people are going, well, we can't afford a photographer and a content creator. So.

That's what we're gonna do.

to be the cheaper option. So we'll go with that. And I just personally, again, don't think that a content creator can even touch what a professional photographer and videographer

No, no.

just. My opinion, the way that I probably went wrong was I did say don't book them, like, I'm not Look, I

I put my hands up here. Yeah, but that's fine. that's your personal opinion. But that is what this podcast literally says. We bring you like honest opinions and the real juice on the wedding day. Well, that is our honest opinion. And the real juice is that we just wouldn't. That's our opinion. So, you know, if you don't like it, then

and look, I don't feel like we need to be educated on it because we do know what

Yeah, we know what we do. we know what they

we, just us, Hannah and Hayley, wouldn't go and search for and pay. But what I will say is, fair play to you, because all I'm seeing at the minute on Facebook groups,

It's content creators.

looking for content creators. So great, you're

work, they're business, yeah, they've got business. Also, we have said before that we really highly recommend it for use of like, for like, businesses. Like advertising a business, like, if I had a content creator come in and make some content for my business, amazing, they do some great things. And I've seen like, one of the people that messaged us, I think does like a, like, For wedding dresses and things like that amazing.

and that's Hayley's opinion. And, you know what, maybe I've changed my opinion on it slightly because I did. I didn't have one on my wedding day, but basically the catering company have a content creator that works for them to go and do exactly what Haley's saying. Now I know her really well. So she came and done a little bit more for me. You know, she came to my room, she videoed me getting ready and it was brilliant. And her video was so good.

done a video that's just gonna get absolutely diluted by all the other spam that you get on Instagram and everybody else like this is that's not like Instagram isn't gonna last forever I mean Facebook's been going for years but I won't be eating my words but it won't.

Yeah, no, you're right.

the skills that I've got and they're, like, claiming they're, like, wedding florists or whatever. And it must be the same for photographers and videographers, obviously they spend a lot of money on their equipment. It costs thousands of pounds, and their hours and time of putting it on. I'm not saying that these content creators don't, because perhaps they do.

Yeah, which

Yeah, well that's a bit different isn't it because then they're offering that but then they've added that on as part of their service So you're not going to be taking work away from them. And I just feel like it's such a competitive market. Anyway, it is a

Yeah, it's basically we meet as Jenny down the road with her iPhone that is like, Oh my God, I'm really good at Tik Tok. I have like a thousand followers, so I'm going to come in. Oh, if one, someone messaged us saying that, and they're called Jenny, by the way, that was, that's no shade to you. I, that was just a name that I

Oh dear that's funny

I didn't even see them. Hayley got all the messages, not

Oh yeah,

but that's basically we're saying chill out guys. Come on. We're not being mean and we're not telling people not to book you. Well, maybe we was, but now we're

No, we're

you know, if you want to book a content creator, book a content creator. Lovely. But yeah, chill out guys. It's just a bit of fun. It's just a bit of opinions. There you go.

That's it. Cleared that up.

we kind of touched earlier, by the way, on the weather. I'm literally looking out the window right now, and it's raining.

Oh wow.

I am seeing at the minute, as long, as alongside the content creators moaning at us, and alongside all the other things that we've seen lately, I am seeing so many people not only stressing about the football, which thank God is now done,

Oh, don't, I can't talk about it yet. It's too soon.

can't, it's too soon, it's too soon. By the way, at time of recording, we've lost. It was. The next day. Um, all I'm seeing is people stressing about the weather because it's so up and down at the minute.

It's such a shame, especially if you've booked a summer wedding. Like this isn't summer.

Yeah, but it is the UK. But, right, do you know what? And I can't say, and I always say that, I'm like, look, you can't stress, it's the UK, it is what it is. But I was really stressed

exactly. It's hard not to take It

won't, I won't lie. But what I will say is the reason I stressed about it was because I was so Wanted my my ceremony outside that was and I had this vision

one part of your wedding. Yeah.

Yeah, but i'll be really honest on the day Couldn't care less,

honestly.

you know?

Oh,

and actually, we had, we had, everyone jokes about it actually, we had everything you could possibly throw at us other than snow. We literally had thunderstorms, rainbows, a bit, a, a, a really hard shower, a really light shower, bright sunshine, literally, at some points of our day, it was like bright sunshine,

I was getting burnt.

Yeah, so you go from being sunburnt to getting wet. Like, and honestly you do just, I think if you've got a really good team behind you on your wedding day, like good caterers and stuff, they will just rock with it and carry on. But it's the weirdest thing, because I did a wedding a couple of weeks ago and I said to the photographer, I've been looking at all my weather apps, and then I said she said, Oh, I I don't know if I'm going to go put my jacket in the car.

Gonna need it.

today. All my weather app said it was going to hit 1920 max. I kid you not. She come to me halfway through the day and was like, what was that, Hannah? It was.

Oh,

sweltering, and I actually got sunburnt because I didn't bother bringing my sun cream because I was going to be 19, 20. It was so hot. So it's like one extreme to the other. It's like, on days where it says it's not going to rain, like today, I looked at the weather this morning, it said it was going to be a bit cloudy. It's literally not stopped raining all day. And then, it's gonna be a bit cloudy and it's not. It's bright sunshine. What's going on?

Can't rely on any of them. I swear by my office weather but I

I think it's the most accurate.

I think, but I mean that's when I was like constantly refreshing when I was getting married.

Yeah, I did, I, I was looking at Apple weather only because Apple weather was being a little bit kinder to me. But I think on, on the day itself, the most accurate was Met Office because it did tell us that

I found

a thunderstorm and we did.

and yeah, you did.

I There's also one called AccuWeather, which you can actually see a map and you can see where the clouds are going. Which I always think is quite good and makes sense. I'm sure it's called that. Because I looked at it, let me just check, because I used that one as well, because you could physically see. Oh, weather radar

Oh, okay.

I think there is AccuWeather as well though. But actually, It told me for our wedding day that the clouds were gonna, like, go around our wedding venue by then. But to be fair, they did, because the

To be fair, yeah,

And it was kind of in the distance, the storm. But then, during the drink reception, it

It was like, hello, we've arrived.

But I don't think I was too Thinking back, I don't think I was too conscious of the, the, I think it was just the ceremony I was really looking at, because I didn't really care about the rest of the day, because I was like, drinks, receptions, undercover.

Doesn't matter, Yeah, Yeah, so where we got married, it was like on a sort of half covered, kind of like a, I don't want to

it's called a portico, isn't

Yeah. So you kind of covered, but it's outside. It's like, it's basically like the entrance to the venue. It's up some steps. And, but it was like, if it would have rained hard, it would have like blown in on us, but it was, we had to have a wet weather plan just in case if it was really bad rain that we probably would have had to have inside, but the venue inside was beautiful.

Yeah, exactly. You've gotta have wet weather. You've Yeah, and you've got to have, and I don't think to be honest, many venues would allow you to do that, but I mean, like, in my case, it was, I did have a wet weather option, but I just really didn't want to

yeah. Yeah.

I think a lot of people are maybe in that kind of boat, I think when you've got an outdoor venue ceremony in mind, that, that is kind of what you want to do, but, yeah, and what I keep saying to people as well is, is it's, You know, because I think people say, you know, they worry, well, we've got beautiful gardens and we want to get photos in the gardens, but it's very rare that it absolutely hammers it down for the whole day. Like doesn't stop.

yeah. Just liaise with your photographer and make those plans so that they know that that's like a, an important thing to you, so then they can kind of

exactly.

there telling you like, especially like so Dan, the videographer of our friend, he's like very much like if he, if he thinks something's going to be a good shot or he gets a good vibe off of something, he'll be like, Oh, quick, come and let's do this. And, and a lot of the time they tend to be like that.

Yeah. And I think other than that, people just don't really care, like, it'd be absolutely fine. But I was thinking about, you know, what you can do is, You know, if, if you're in that, because we really toyed with it, you know, I really wanted the ceremony outside, what can you do? So, we've already said, wet weather covers, you need to have a wet weather option. And I think if you can really, I don't think that I'd got it in my head enough what it would look like.

Yeah, you hadn't like envisioned it or, yeah. That

So I think if you can really envisage it envisage envisage

Do a dream board.

Then the other thing that we kind of like last minute thought was well We could just get all the guests to share clear umbrellas, but the only thing I would say is with that I mean we didn't we I left that to last minute and actually in the end we we were fine anyway, but if you you need one between two and If you're having like a hundred guests then things ain't cheap.

They're like at least 7. 99 each.

Yeah I think the cheapest you can get my Amazon is a fiver.

so that's a lot of money.

guests, you need 50. That's like You 250 if I'm quite, well I might be wrong. No, yeah, 250. You might be lucky, then you might have some. Yeah, if you're spending 250 and then you don't need them,

That's a lot of money.

it is a lot of money. And you could do the whole where you can resell them afterwards, but I don't know if you're going to shift them

who's gonna buy 50 umbrellas? Oh, someone else is getting married in this unpredictable weather, I guess. but yeah.

a lot of places have that option of, like we were just saying, a

could put it on your invite, though. Just be like, bring an umbrella,

Well, we spoke about this because we were like, Martyn was like, let's just message everyone and tell them to bring an umbrella. But, then we were like, you're going to have photos of all, like, absolute random umbrellas.

Yeah.

And it's a bit much to be like you need to buy a clear umbrella.

Yeah. Here's a link to the clear umbrella I'd like you to

a link to it. Yeah, because otherwise you're just literally going to have, yeah, a sea of different. Umbrellas. Now what about if someone brings that one with a big brand on it that they've like stolen from a hotel or something?

Oh no. That sounds like me.

literally. So yeah, it's an option, but I think you Yeah, you just gotta go with you whatever the plan have I don't think really have it mapped out I literally drew a plan for like

if you're specific about it, then yeah, like, like we said, like envision it, imagine what it's going to be like, and then really run through that with your venue, your coordinator, your planner, so that everyone's on the same page. So that if it comes to that, at least it's still what you want. So you're not feeling disappointed. But I do feel as well factoring on the day that you probably won't care as much as you think.

Yeah, and I think that's so true. And I was, I don't think I was worked up the day before about the weather. I just think there was like numerous things and it was just a lot

a lot going on.

a lot of overwhelm. And then actually, like I say on the day, I was just like, because I remember my photographer come to the, to where I was getting ready. And She was like, obviously they had to set up all the sound equipment for the ceremony. And she said to me, and she said, Oh, Dan's just behind me, he's just setting up the sound equipment. And I was like, oh yeah, where's he setting it up? And she was like, I don't want to tell you. And I was like, no one is, genuinely, I don't care.

Yeah.

Because, yeah, the sun came

it did.

shone with his hat on. Hip, hip, hip, hip,

hooray.

Right until our confetti shot.

Yeah.

Ah! When everybody got soaked.

Worth it

good. Cool, should we go on to the listeners messages then?

Yes. So, someone has asked, What essentials do you need for a wedding day emergency kit? Hmm,

Okay, so I think the only thing I can go by now is here with this question is my own emergency

Yeah, yeah.

a kit that but mine's like over the top

I was gonna say,

setups

you like, repair someone's hole in their trousers once?

yeah, that was my Yeah, but

but that's actually a good one, yes,

Yeah, sewing kit. Paracetamol. Right, I need to clarify this and I hope a lot of people are listening to this because I get, I get a lot of aggy people with me, like, when I'm doing like catering management. As a venue and as a supplier we cannot, by law, give you paracetamol. So I had somebody come up to me at the weekend, I need a paracetamol, I'm really sorry I can't, I can't give

Yeah, yeah.

but it's for the bride. I'm really sorry, but I cannot give out medication. We're physically not allowed to do it. If you have a reaction to that, we

be liable, yeah.

Yes. So please, yes,

Pack that Paracetamol in your bag.

Yeah, medication. Tit tape

Yes, good one.

could be a good one. Plasters,

I was gonna say blister plasters. They're actually a godsend. All those little cushion things you can put in your shoes.

yeah. Safety pins.

Yeah.

I always a sewing kit because you just never know as a button falls off or something on the morning when You're putting your dress on like you don't want to you can just be like, oh my sewing kit

Oh, my sewing

super glue

Oh, what's super glue for?

definitely super glue is a good one like I had my trainers with like little pearls stuck on them and a couple had come

Oh, okay,

Stick them back on. I use super glue quite a lot actually things like if your button comes off and you're terrible So a

Just stick it back, super glue it on Your finger's falling off, no worries, super glue it on.

a bridesmaid come up to me and her shoe is full on, like the bottom is like, come away from the shoe. And she was like, have you got superglue? And I was like, actually, yes, I do.

Absolutely, let me just get out my Mary Poppins bag of stuff.

Literally. Mints.

Oh my god, yes,

and my friend went and got me mints. Hair grips. But, but I do think as well, like, like, if you've got good suppliers, like your coordinator will have a

Yeah, I was gonna say, like, you'll be carrying something around. Yeah, everyone's got like

so don't panic too much. But Yeah. like, have a little, a little lipstick top.

I was gonna say,

artist gave me the

I had the lipstick

spare, yeah. Which is nice, because I still wear it after

too, me too.

Yeah, so I'd say, yeah, medication, any kind of, anything that's gonna stick stuff. Glue, safety pins.

glue,

tip tape, yeah, put some little bits like that together, but yeah, don't panic too much. Take a steamer to steam your dress, is a good one but again you might have a coordinator that has one, like I always offer mine out, so you don't have to buy one yeah. That's what I'd say. You could and then an emergency makeup top up kit. I actually had one of my brides the other week, bless her, where she'd cried at the end of the ceremony. She had a big black blotch below

no!

And I was like, oh, let me just get that blotch for you. So I had to but to get it off, I had to wet the tissue and then wear like her makeup, I said, literally baked. under the eye and she was like, oh, but it's all baked.

Just top up. Yeah, leave it in that, like, little side room. Normally they have like a little side room, don't they? Or something where you can keep all your bits and bobs. Like, your personal

in the toilets or whatever. And then, yeah, we literally like then redid it for her and it was fine. But yeah, it, it was a little, you know, we had to go and find some makeup and yeah, definitely. Cool. Next up, we've got, I'm four weeks out from the wedding day and I can't stop stressing. I'm so paranoid that something will go wrong on the day. I hate handing over control. I know it's not a question, but just after some reassurance.

Oh, so I can really help with this one actually because

She was a frickin mess for the

Anxious girl!

shakin

so anxious about everything so I'm, I'm a real like, control freak. I'm not a control freak, that's not a nice word to call myself. I just like to micromanage. And I especially found it difficult on the run up to the wedding, especially the last two weeks before, because I felt like everything was getting like, a control. And there were little things questions here and there that kind of like threw me a bit but I think the biggest thing you can do Is lean on?

No, yeah.

Especially when

I do

sort of

Yeah. I do, and I think you're right, I think you have to sometimes pick up the phone and say that, but it, sometimes I'm like, depending on your situation, like when people hire me, I'm almost like, why, like, why are you worrying about something going wrong? Like, we do this. Every weekend. Like, we will make sure everything is fine, and if it's not fine, you still have an amazing day and you won't care about it. Do you know what I mean? I think it goes back to that, on the day you aren't that

and I think, yeah, that's so true, but it is like human nature, isn't it? To like, worry about, I think when it's, when you're not, say if you like, you're waiting to see it all come together on the day. I think it's like, natural to just be like, concerned, like, or like, thinking about it. But I do think, like we said, like, you're like a, like, you are like the best in your prof at your profession. Do you know what I mean? You're like very, like, I like to think, like, don't worry.

I won't even Yeah.

do you know what I mean? Like, I wouldn't even, like, same with, like, with you. Like, if I asked you to do something, I'd know. But that's, like, obviously I know you, I suppose. So, whereas,

Yeah, but maybe

on your rapport

why, because I was stressed the last couple of days before the wedding, but I wasn't stressed about how it was going to be handed over, because people said to me, Oh, how was it

Uh, of course, yeah. Yeah. didn't care. I was glad for the

I knew everyone there would literally make it, every single person there working on my wedding day, and like you doing the flowers. Not concerned one little bit because I know and maybe you're right Maybe it's because I have confidence because I know in myself. I will do

That I would do it for them. Yeah, like you

Yeah, and you know, there might be stuff that I think it's quite rare, touch wood, that, you know, something's going to happen that we can't physically fit. And do you know what? We did have a situation like that last summer, and it was awful. But we still made, we still, we had to completely change the way the day ran. And it was weather related, it was completely out of our control. And actually we turned it, and they still had an incredible day, so it didn't matter.

Yeah, yeah.

comes and starts fighting with each other, that's out of your control. So to me saying I hate hand and over control that just says you need to have faith in your suppliers. And sometimes. I have to be a little bit, I don't, I don't, I don't do like the mamby pamby stuff with my clients. I'm like, you know what? It's, it's fine. Like,

Yeah,

It's gonna be fine. You're gonna have a great time. And on the day, I feel like if I'm a little bit more like that, they're like, yeah, no, you got it. Whereas if I'm like, oh no,

yeah. don't worry oh

I, I, sometimes it's like a bit cruel to be kind, like no, like we do this all the time.

think people feed off your confidence as well like if you're confident in your work and your job like I just It's not even arrogance or anything like that, it's just having that confidence.

Yeah, you're

team together and I feel, yeah, but yeah, have confidence in the fact that you've picked supplies that you want and definitely lean on your family and friends for reassurance. If you need, you know, anyone, people will say, Oh, let me know if you need a hand, let me know if you need a hand. And often like we will say, Oh no, I don't, don't worry about it. But actually say, yeah, can you do this? Take the load off yourself a bit if you can.

Yeah. And at the end of the day, you're paying your suppliers, so.

you are, yeah, so use them

and I again I say that to my couples all the time like utilize me like you've paid me Use me, you know And yeah, I think that's the only thing that I would flag in that because like I say again, I was quite stressed the last couple of days, but that was I was stressing about stuff out of my control i. e weather was a big stress that was out of my

that is out of, yeah.

with you I think yours was more anxieties in general that, you know, you may struggle with. Like, just, you know, I just think it was a lot for you. There was a lot going

There was loads going on, and I'm gonna mention it because it was irritating, but If you're a wedding supplier or any kind of business, right? If you have an issue within your business that could potentially affect your couple, I feel like probably the best thing to do is to not go on social media on your

Yeah, don't put it on social

that that person can see, because that's just going to worry them like two days before the wedding and you

that was your, that was your biggest

Yeah,

That, I think the fact that there was, you were feeling quite overwhelmed.

Yeah.

yeah, it was those two

There's loads going on, isn't there, the few days before your wedding and I feel like something like that can just throw you off, but I feel like, obviously, thank god

the overwhelm.

had you to talk to, but like,

Yeah.

you know, it is what it is, but at the end of the day, it'll all come together, you'll have an amazing day, and I know we say that all the time, but it's so true, like, you will.

great. And like I say, like, I've been doing this for 15 years. You've been doing it, how long?

Too long. About the same, to be

know. Between us, we have a lot of years of experience. And like I say, it's very rare that I've had a day go completely

yeah. People will come together to sort it for you. They'll problem solve. Like, like, the whole point of like, hiring someone that's a professional in their line of work or whatever. Like, if hiring you for example, you're problem solving. It's part of your, like, job, isn't it? Yeah, So, that's it's almost like you expect that a problem to happen. That obviously a couple don't know about, for example. But like, you'll be fixing it behind the scenes.

100%. But on the flip side as well, I've actually had couples in the past. Again, I'm not gonna lie, brides, the

Yeah.

I've had couples in the past that it doesn't matter what happens on the day, they are just not happy. Like as in they cannot get. And I think it's more when I pull, 'cause I, that always really upsets me. 'cause I always think if I can't see a bride be really happy and, and, and a groom, you know, be really happy on the day. I feel like I haven't fulfilled my job. And I've had situations in the past where I've had to physically say to myself, Hannah, there's nothing you could have done.

you need that, you need that. voice, you do, you really

chill the hell out and enjoy the day. And I was so determined. Do you know what? For me though, as soon as I saw my bridesmaids, just chilled. I was, it was like a complete, because you saw me before I went to meet my bridesmaids. I was stressing about the weather. And I literally, it was just a complete U turn. And I was like, I'm chilling now. I felt like I, you know when you put your out of office on and you go on holiday, that's how I felt when I saw my bridesmaids. I'm switched

That's so good, that's so

And that's what you've gotta do. You've gotta switch off. Because I think, yeah, like I say, if, even if nothing's gone wrong, if you're looking for something to go wrong, if you're looking around, has that been put out? Has that been put out? Has this been done? What time is it? You, you're not gonna enjoy your day.

no,

And that's not, and that's out of our control.

that is, yeah. You can't fix that. No.

That's in your head, and I'm worried that this is going to happen to this person, and you need to, you're, my reassurance to you is you just got to chill the hell out and just let it roll now. Because the stuff that's in control, that can be in control, you, you need to hand over control. You're handing over to professionals that know what the hell they're doing, and for stuff that's out of your control, it's out of your

And you'll probably surprise yourself. You'll probably actually really enjoy not having to worry about something for once if you're that

Yeah, do you know what, actually? I'll half take that back because in my experience, the people that are like this and are stressing, are completely, and I'm thinking, oh my god, she's going to be a nightmare on the day, are so chilled, and then the people that are so chilled, and you're constantly like have you done this? Have you done that? And like, yeah, we'll get to it. Oh yeah, don't worry about it. Oh no, we don't need that. And then you're, and that's what happened.

Oh,

She, it was the opposite way around. She was the most chilled out bride. And then on the day was like,

yeah, Aw.

suddenly realized. I don't know. I bet there are people like that. I don't know if it's just again, overwhelmed.

it's a very overwhelming thing, isn't it?

the way they deal with the overwhelming the planning processes is they just cut it all out their head and then on the day They're

Need like a happy medium. Somewhere in between me and you.

a big wedding They had like 150 people at their wedding if that's the kind of person you are don't have a big

Sometimes I feel like people do it for others as well. You have a big wedding because you feel like other people want that. And you're doing it for other people. And I think that, in time and you realize that actually that's not how you should be. You should just be doing what's nice and what sits well with you.

I think that's a good point to finish on

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