Let's be TRANSparent

RNZ•www.rnz.co.nz

Joseph Stockhausen hosts this podcast about navigating the triumphs and trials of gender transition, with the help of experts, others with lived experience... and his mum.

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Your Questions Answered

We have answered the questions we wish we had known to ask, now we are answering yours. Transitioning and exploring one's gender identity is a journey for not only your young person but the whole whanau. You are not going to wake up one day and have all the answers, there is always going to be more questions. What do you do when your extended family are struggling to be supportive of your young person's transition? When Chris and Jo's pre-school child, Jet, came out as transgender her grandparen...

Nov 29, 2021•32 min•Season 1Ep. 8

Living Trans? Sweet As!

What is day-to-day life like when you're Trans? In this episode, we address one of the biggest fears of parents and whanau - what will the future hold for my transgender loved one? It's the question that most exercises the minds of parents and whanau of transgender loved ones - What does the future look like for them now that they have come out? In reality, no one knows what the future holds. But Aych McArdle, a Rainbow and disability advocate, dreams of a time when being trans is just boring an...

Nov 22, 2021•28 min•Season 1Ep. 7

It’s Never Too Late

No matter the age, no matter the space, it is never too late to be the person you are inside. Joe meets a couple of people with very different journeys about what it's like to come out trans later in life. When we hear from trans and gender diverse individuals they are normally young people who are figuring out their gender identity as they navigate their teenage years and early adulthood. But social change in New Zealand has allowed older people to explore their gender identity too. Luca Bree h...

Nov 15, 2021•32 min•Season 1Ep. 6

It's All About Perspective

While gender is finally no longer seen as a binary choice in western societies, Pacific cultures have understood this for hundreds of years. Joe finds out what it means to be Takatāpui and fakafifine. New Zealand is a diverse country with our communities made up from people of all cultural backgrounds. Sometimes we just assume certain things translate perfectly across cultural boundaries, but often things get lost in translation. While gender is finally no longer seen as a binary choice in weste...

Nov 08, 2021•28 min•Season 1Ep. 5

Adventures in Trans Parenting

So far we have learned the kids are going to be alright. But what about the parents? The podcast is called Let's Be TRANSparent after all. It's probably fair to say parenthood is a wild ride, full of twists and turns and ups and downs. But every now and then something comes up that completely throws you. Your child coming out as trans may be one of those things. Jo and Chris experienced this first hand. Chris and Jo's story begins with a household of 3 young sons, however everything changed when...

Nov 01, 2021•33 min•Season 1Ep. 4

Some Professional Advice

One of the very first places you are going with your child on their transition is the Doctor's office. Joe talks to a couple of experts about what to expect. We're ripping the bandaid off and jumping straight into the process of the medical transition in Aotearoa. Dr Rachel Johnson, an adolescent physician at Auckland's Centre for Youth Health, works on the front lines of medical transition, helping young people and their families navigate the process and making informed decisions. Medical trans...

Oct 27, 2021•29 min•Season 1Ep. 3

Life in Transition

Coming out is just the beginning. Now it's time to look at some of the practicalities and some of the first, early stages of transitioning. Joe speaks with Ary Jansen from Rainbow Youth and youth worker Cooper Sides. So your child has come out, you have managed to get through those first few awkward conversations. Now what? When confronted with an unknown the first place most of us go is Google and it is easy to get lost in all the information. But some of the first steps are small and kind of s...

Oct 26, 2021•33 min•Season 1Ep. 2

Hey Mum, I think I’m Trans

Joe talks to the iconic Mary Haddock-Staniland about what to do when someone you love comes out as trans and Joe and Pauline revisit the rocky ride that was his own coming out. What happens when you're driving along to a lovely holiday spot and suddenly your child says, "So, I think I'm transgender..."? Joseph Stockhausen was 15 years old when he came out as trans to his mother Pauline. Now 22, they both remember that moment a little differently. "I was screaming in my head going, 'OK, this is t...

Oct 25, 2021•30 min•Season 1Ep. 1

Introducing: Let's Be TRANSparent

Gender transition is a challenging process for both the person undergoing transition and their whanau. RNZ's new podcast Let's Be TRANSparent demystifies the process and offers practical advice. The series is hosted by 21-year-old Joseph Stockhausen with special guest appearances from his Mum, Pauline. The pair discuss Joe's recent transition and bring in experts to talk about the different stages of transitioning. Whether you are on a gender identity journey or you have a loved one who is on th...

Oct 11, 2021•2 min

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