¶ Introduction to the Monk's Wisdom
Welcome to Let it Be Easy with Susie Moore . I'm sharing with you a quote today that I can't remember . I can't remember the source of this quote , I can't remember what book I read it in . I'm reading so many books right now . If you do know , dm me , let me know .
But I loved hearing this , I wrote it down and I thought I've got to share this on the pod . So , from my memory , someone was about to do something publicly . They were , yeah , I think they were going to speak . Yes , the person was going to . Maybe this is from the book Inner Excellence .
I could be wrong , but the person was about to go and speak on stage and they were really nervous , right , the author of this book , or the author of this story , was really nervous before going on stage to address a group and someone else backstage so a fellow speaker that day was a monk , and the monk could sense this person's nerves and so they had a
little chit chat , a little session together . You know the nervous system . I've heard this the best thing for our nervous system is another person , and sometimes the worst thing for our nervous system is another person . But in this case it was perfect , right , they could co-regulate .
So this monk said to this speaker who was nervous here it is they don't need you to perform so they know how good you are . They need you to love them so they know how good they are . Isn't that beautiful ? Let me reread it and I'll also explain it . Okay , they don't need you to perform for them so they know how good you are .
They need you to love them so they know how good they are .
¶ Love Them So They Know Their Worth
My friends , on the podcast a couple days ago , we spoke about the difference from operating out of ego versus operating out of love . The ego is the part of us that feels self-conscious . Even the word self is in there . Right , it's about me . If I'm self-conscious and nervous , I'm making it about me . Are you going to like me ? Am I a good speaker ?
Are people going to clap ? That's about me . That's me performing and having people go oh , you're so good and look , I'll admit it's really nice to hear that , especially if we're nervous . We want approval , we want people to like it , we want them to get value , we want them to like us .
But when we operate out of this way , when we live our lives this way , when we perform this way , we're really missing the point , and we're missing so much of the joy . Right , they don't need you to perform so they know how good you are . They need you to love them so they know how good they are .
I've got to tell you , when I even observe different speakers , I think of course the quality and style differs a lot , but I can tell when a speaker is speaking because they have an important message and they care . It's not about them , it's about the message . And then I know people who speak and it does feel like they want you to tell them .
You're such a great speaker . A friend of mine who's a professional speaker . Who's wonderful . Her name's Amy Amy Birdie , who's been on the podcast . Check that out . She's incredible . Who's wonderful . Her name's Amy Amy Birdie , who's been on the podcast Check that out . She's incredible .
She said that she realized over many years of this incredibly , incredibly busy speaking career
¶ Ego vs. Love in Public Speaking
. She was one of Oprah's top 100 super soul experts . She said this the worst thing you can hear after a speech is you're a great speaker . She's like that makes it about the act . That makes it about the speech versus the message . She's like I want it about the act . That makes it about the speech versus the message . She's like .
I want people to be moved . I want them to be the author of their own story . Amy , very famously , she lost her legs when she had meningitis below the knee both legs and she is an Olympian . I mean , this girl is incredible , this woman is incredible , but I've got to tell you she cares about the audience , right .
They need you to love them so they know how good they are . I think this about being a school teacher , about being a parent , about being a coach , about being a manager on a team . It's not look at me , I'm so great . It's wow , look at you . Look at at you , you're the fantastic one . This is how we come back
¶ Amy Birdie's Perspective on Speaking
to our oneness . This is how we take the ego out of it . This is when we come back to our collective , shared humanity . We take the self out of it . We lose our self-consciousness . We even lose the fear of sharing our messages publicly , which is a big fear for lots of people . I hope this is a powerful and soothing , loving message for you today .
To me , it certainly takes the pressure off . Until tomorrow . My friends , so much love and ease . My friends , so much love and ease . Hey , friend , I've got something really cool for
¶ Call to Action and Free Course Offer
you . I want to give you free access to my signature course called Slay your Year , which typically sells for $997 . You can check it out all the details at slayyouryearcom . All you have to do to get access is leave me a review . Leave a review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts , take a snapshot of it and send it to info at suzy-morecom .
That's info at suzy-morecom and we'll get you set up with access .