When You Are Dreading Something...

Think about it this way If you've got that negative friend or maybe that negative colleague and you're going to spend time with that person , you kind of brace yourself a bit , right . You're like , okay , this is going to suck , but maybe I can just limit it to a couple of hours .

You know , I've got to like , really just pull it together for this Pre-paving , you're already setting the intention for how it's going to go , you're imagining it and you're stepping

right into it . It's the same thing with a situation If you're like , oh , I've got to go to this doctor's appointment and it's going to suck . Or I've got to complete this project and it's going to be really , really hard and arduous , or I'm taking this on and it's just a huge endeavor . It's going to take so much out of me . This is pre-paving .

And I would like to ask you a different question today , because , look , we do this in life , we tend to expect that past experiences are going to be repeated . If we're going into similar situations with people , with circumstances , with events , we use past data to dictate future experiences . It's just sorting our minds and our memories .

What if , instead , we opened our curiosity valve and we thought to ourselves I'm going to allow myself to be surprised . What if this person , what if this event , this gathering , this thing that I would typically dread , what if it could surprise me ? Because this is what happens .

My friends , for example okay , let me put this in context for you Just say that I'm going to an event that really isn't my kind of thing , but I'm doing it for a friend , because it's important to them . Maybe they're a sponsor of the event , or maybe it's even a charity gathering , and I go okay , well , I kind of know how these go .

They're a bit stuffy , but you go . Okay , well , I kind of know how these go . They're a bit stuffy , but you go , you make an appearance , you do the right thing and then you leave . You are pre-paving something kind of unpleasant to get through until you're free , at whatever 9 pm , you'll be free , you'll be free to go .

What if , instead and this is the truth , think about it . You come back to reality , come back to your body , come back to the present moment , not the past , not looking at past experiences , but being grounded in the now and saying I'm going to allow myself to be surprised today . I'm going to allow surprise here .

I am not going to come in with my fixed ideas , my rigidity on what to expect now . I'm going to allow myself to be open , to be curious ,

to open my eyes . What's really interesting when this happens is that an event that I went to recently that I thought would be a bit dull and stodgy and boring turned out to be kind of fun . Look , it wasn't the most thrilling experience of my life , but I felt like I even looked at the room differently .

I engaged in conversations with a bit more curiosity , not just my kind of cut pleasant behavior to get through the hour or so . I asked people questions , I was looking around the room , I paid attention to the music .

There is an aliveness and a connectivity that happens when we don't already anticipate exactly how things are going to go , especially when we're not anticipating things going too well or too happily for us . Most importantly , I think we do this with people . We have a version of them in our minds , of who they are .

It's fixed , it's one dimensional and , as a result , that's all we see . We actually don't see their sweet side , their funny side , their intelligent side , the side of that person that's actually maybe far more beautiful and loving . Because you're like , no , that you know four years ago that person X , y , z , and so now fill in the blank about that person .

What if we don't have a complete picture ? What if we're not just selling ourselves short from our beautiful daily experiences but we're robbing ourselves of connection to others because of judgments that we formed , however long ago , that maybe aren't necessarily not so true anymore , but were never completely true in the first place .

Allowing yourself to be surprised , bringing an open heart , an open mind and open eyes . There is so much possibility in

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