What You Think People Think Matters More Than What They Think!

I assume that people's opinions of me are positive . Think about

this . What if what you think about what people think of you is more important than what they actually think ? Because , realize this , you'll never actually know , no matter what someone tells you . Haven't you told someone they're great ever in your life ?

And you're like , maybe they're not so great , or maybe you've showed up somewhere and , yeah , you know , you've gone along with something , and you're like , actually , this sucks . This happens with people all the time . We never know what they think , we never know what they're , what they're feeling towards us . We can guess , and we , you know , certainly .

Yes , there are signs , and I'm not talking about people close to you , because the people close to you , hopefully you feel safe and solid in their love of you and the reality , the closeness , the beauty of your relationships . I'm talking everybody else , those , everybody else's , that seems to get a lot of our attention . The people who we want to impress .

We want them to like us , we want them to think that we're cool , that we're smart , that we're cute . Fill in the blank whatever matters to you . What if what you think about what they think is more important than what they actually think ? Here are a couple of reasons why that's wise and , to me , why this is utterly true . Number one you never know

. You never , ever know , Even no matter what someone says , what they comment , et cetera , et cetera . You still never really know what they comment , et cetera , et cetera . You still never really know . And then , secondly , unless you've given somebody a reason , most people I'm not even going to say like you .

They just feel neutral , they don't care , they're not thinking about you at all . And yet so much of our emotional energy goes into impressing others looking right , sounding right , saying the right thing in a text message , making sure that when we show up somewhere we've got interesting stories , not acting weird , hiding our quirks .

I've trained myself to assume that people's opinions of me are positive . People like my podcast , they like my content , they enjoy it when I show up in an event because I made that decision . That's just a decision and I'm not wrestling with it . I'm not going back and forth with it because it would be to no avail . There would be no benefit in doing that .

It doesn't mean that I'm not conscious . If I hurt somebody's feelings or if I do something that I want to correct , I can easily apologize swiftly . But I'm not going through life ever thinking does she like me ? Does he like me ? Does he think I'm cool If I'm invited or not invited ?

Maybe there's even a situation where there was something uncomfortable , maybe there was an argument , maybe there was some form of confrontation , maybe someone disagrees with you . Even if someone disagrees with you , they can still

like you . In fact , when we're really showing up as ourselves , the authentic , real us , we're bound to not vibe and be in perfect cohesion with everybody else's thoughts , ideas , feelings , desires . We're going to be us , uniquely us . So what if you just adopted that ?

What if you just made that decision to assume that other people's opinions are positive and that's it ? And if that's anything you need to correct or want to reflect on , you'll know . Someone will tell you or you will feel it . But any of this time , focus , worry , concern , anxiety around how am I being perceived ? Is this cool ? Do people think I'm a loser ?

I'm not joking . I've had so many people . When my book Stop Checking your Likes came out , I had so many people tell me that they post something and it doesn't get a certain amount of likes or comments within a certain period . They delete it because they feel like they're a loser . And they posted something silly . And I was like did you think it was silly ?

You clearly thought it was cool , and isn't . I mean , my social media is for me . I do it so I can look back and have these snapshots of my life . I assume other people think it's cool . That's why they follow me , and if they don't , then they probably don't and that's cool .

But why would I ever even spend a single second worrying about that or thinking about that ? Assume people like you , assume it's all good . Why wouldn't you ? Why wouldn't you just give yourself this gift ? Anyone can do it , because the reality is people aren't thinking about you .

They're thinking about themselves and unless somebody already has a strong emotion towards you , it's going to be neutral . Think about all the people who you may follow or have in your life to some degree who , yeah , you think they're cool , but you haven't really thought about them in a long time . You're not judging their decisions , you're not .

They're not filling up your time , they're not taking up mental space , they're just neutral . To me , even neutral is pretty great . It goes to show that the ratio , the stuff that we worry about , compared to the reality , it's way off . Give yourself the assumption that all is well and you're loved because at the deepest level ,

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