¶ Are You Seeking Something Too Perfect?
Welcome to Let it Be Easy with Susie Moore . What if the only upgrade or change you need is your thinking ? Let me put this question to you this way Are you seeking something too perfect ? You know , I just got back from a trip and I was looking at a lot of the photos that I was taking and I was like , oh , my hair doesn't look good in that one .
Or oh , you can see that weird sign in the background in that one . Or oh , this one's like slightly fuzzy in this area and I thought this is ridiculous . These photos are gorgeous , they're fun , they captured a moment and I want to relive them and enjoy them as I look , as I share , as I even post a couple of them .
It's so easy to zero in on the little bits that we don't like , and this doesn't just apply to photos , although I know some people take their photos very seriously . It could apply to a
¶ The Snack Complaint Syndrome
lot . Think about your partner . If you have one , maybe he or she is wonderful and ambitious and hardworking , but they are late a lot , or they're messy , or they don't always ask you the deep questions that you care about , that you wish they would ask you .
Or what about , if your job is pretty great , your salary's decent , you feel like it's stable , especially now and there's a lot of uncertainty , but your co-worker is really annoying . Or even the snacks are bad . I'm not joking .
In my last job we had a few people who were complaining about the snacks and I was like , hey , free snacks the way I grew up we don't complain about anything that's free . But I remember thinking , gosh , really that's a point of contention . The Oreos , they wanted healthier snacks .
I mean , look , I like Oreos , but I'm like , gosh , really that's a point of contention . The Oreos , they wanted healthier snacks . I mean , look , I like Oreos , but I'm like we're missing the point here . This is a great company . They give us a lot of stuff . We're really supported here and you're complaining about the snacks .
Whether it's a photo , whether it's a person , whether it's a situation at work , are you seeking something too perfect ? You know , I work with a lady ,
¶ Presentations and Perfectionism
very successful , who gave a lot of presentations and she said that she could never even look at a recording . And it was suggested if you want to be a great presenter , it's advisable you look at your videos . You can see how you look , you can see your body language and you can kind of correct yourself or improve yourself . The same way an athlete does .
They watch themselves during the game again and again . Their coach shows them oh , did you see this ? And oh , you missed that , and maybe next time it can be very helpful . But she said to me Susie , if I see a single mistake in a presentation , she's like I'll freak out , I'll go into a tailspin and it will completely ruin my day .
And I said to her you know what feedback have you been getting on your presentations , because you seem pretty booked up . And she was like , look , it's always good . The surveys I send , the satisfaction reports are , like , you know , five stars , good , repeat , repeat . We would like her back . And I said but what , like ? What would freak you out ?
Like , give me an example of something that would freak you out . Like , give me an example of something that would freak you out . And she's like a typo . She's like if I use the wrong words , sometimes you know when she's getting started , she can maybe accidentally use the wrong word . We all do this , we're human beings . Oh my gosh .
And she said if I , though , look back at a recording and I see a single mistake , she's like I will cringe so hard , I'll berate myself to the point of I suck , I should give up , I should go do something else . And it's so extreme . I said to her what if it were me ? What if I were telling you this ?
What if it were me looking back at my Zooms , looking back at my presentations , thinking I can't even see a single error , because I will feel like a total loser ? And she was like that is so harsh . What if we can just lay down being perfect ? What if 80% is good enough ? Right , 80 , 85% , let it be good enough . What if
¶ Finding Freedom in Good Enough
good enough is ?
When I started doing this more and more in recent years , it made me a way better friend , definitely a way better wife , letting a lot of small things go , not thinking I had to control every single thing , making it perfect how we spent our weekend , what we did with our money , what we should be talking about , where we should be going on vacation , all these
things that just added stress to my life , removed all of the joy , removed the presence , removed really the whole point of it all . Are you seeking something too perfect and , as a result , robbing yourself of something that's pretty damn great ? Until tomorrow , my friends , so much love and ease
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