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72 - Q&A With Manager Liv

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On this episode of the Lesbian Supper Club, Freya & Liv answer your questions you sent in, some useful or useless bits of advice and insight into the recent lives of us.


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Hello lesbians, I'm sat here with a very hot live manager. Live not physically temperature that's. Not very nice. Hello everyone, it's been a while. It is really fucking hot today. It is 34°. I don't even, I don't even know at this point, but I'm, I'm, I'm melting. I've had enough. I've had enough, I feel. Like we're doing a rap battle. I feel like we are doing a rap battle with we're currently like Shadling 1 mic right now because my interface has just stopped working.

So that's great. I've had enough of this weather. It's not for me. Yeah, but you? See, I want to tell everyone. I want to tell everyone I fucking hate. Yeah, but you say that then you complain about the winter and you get depressed in the winter, so you can't. Yeah, no. Picky battles, you know? No, but yeah, but I like summer, but I don't like a heat wave. Well, yeah, there's like an uncomfortable heat wave that's very fucking hot.

Satan's crotch. I. Mean yeah, it's it's 31. Degrees and it's so hot in my flat like. Yeah, this is the problem. Your flat is like. Yeah. But also there's no, there's just no air con anywhere. So we're not equipped for this weather. No, like if we were, if we were in like Brazil right now, this would be fine. It's like everywhere we went, we'd have air con in it. That's what Jess. Said we were in Zara the other day and she was like why do your

shops don't have any air con? Because we're not used to it. We have like 5 days of this a year. They're like, why would we spend money on air con, you know? So I mean, I kind of get it, but also I get it. But my hands are sweating. Yeah, no, your paws, my paws are sweating bad. What have we been doing? We've had or we had the wine night last week. We had wine night and pub night. Last week and pub night, yeah, that was a busy week. Busy week?

Yeah, that's what even I don't think anything crazy happened. No, they were two quite tame events. Which was? Why? I think it's because it's hot. It's hot, it's Glastonbury, it's summer, everyone's going away. It was just like everyone just seemed to just be like lower energy, not in like a bad way, but just they just can't be asked to cause a fight out. Of you like, why go out for dinner in a few hours and I'm going to be sat there like. Yeah, it's too much.

Do you reckon that we should? We didn't get the paddling pool today. But that's your. Fault. We should have gotten the paddling pool. I know. Yeah, but you, you know, you're the driving. Pool I've been working. When I went upstairs, you were scrolling on TikTok, lying in front of the fan, Yeah. Because I was having my 5 minutes of break. You're having your 5 minutes of break when you're sunbathing

too. Were you having your 5 minutes of break when I was lying on that hammock and I could see you again on the sofa? I've got to do it in little little chunks, you know, otherwise with that. Time you could have been getting a paddling pool it's. Your heart. It's your paddling pool you were speaking. Hammock. Yeah, I love my God, guys. My mum bought me a hammock. It is like the best thing I've ever had. The guys about your new place. Have I told anyone about my new place? Have I?

I don't know. I mean, if I have, I'm sorry, but yes I do. I do have a new house. I'm living alone, which is really fucking weird and scary. I have. I don't think I've. I think the last time I lived alone I was 17 and weirdly enough handled it better than me being 31. But yeah, it's. New. It's new change. It's new. Change. I'm, as you guys know, I'm very bad with change, terrible with change. I should actually do a whole episode on just like change.

Yeah, that's a good idea. I'll bookmark that one. But I am bad at change. And so living alone is like a very, very, very different experience. But the place that I'm in is lovely. It is very, very nice. And it is still in the same area because I couldn't change too much. So I'm still close to everyone and everything. I. Don't think you'll ever leave, not in here unless you move. Abroad, no. 100 percent, 100%. I would never live anywhere else in London.

Never. Unless it was like Maidabel. Yeah, which I may be moving to. Yeah, which is fun. So that's also having her change that's. Having a change too and lives. What else is going on? Holiday on Sunday it's your birthday, next week it's. My birthday, that's very exciting. You love your birthday, don't you? But then I've not organized anything with the girls. No, I know, but. It's because there's pride this weekend and then I leave so pride we could just see.

Pride is my birthday. I think pride is birthday because also I'm sick to fucking death of all of these brands pulling out left, right and centre for pride. There's been like, talk about. We should talk about. This We should definitely talk about this. So Calvin Klein usually does a campaign every single year. Nothing these brands that usually I would see brands left,

right and centre. And I actually, I interviewed Max Balegde on the red carpet and he was saying that usually June and July are like his busiest months because obviously he's, he's a huge creator and he said this year nothing. What 1 brand? Yeah, loads of worked with loads of like queer creators. Have been saying this has been their like most financially damaging month.

Yeah, which is so about let's not obviously we're very clear as to why, because on the global homophobia is on the three to one Trump. That's why. That is literally why and all of you mother fuckers who were like I'm a lesbian and I support Trump and I said you're like a Turkey voting for Christmas and you were all coming back being like fuck you. Trump is great with LGBTQ rights. He loves them.

Who's laughing now? None of us actually, because you ruined it for all of us. And even though we are in the UK, they're. Still having a knock on effect. Of course it's having a knock on effect. It's a global effect. We are like the little bitch sister of the US and so anything that the US does trickles into our economy, our political statements.

And I was saying this earlier, I was like, I hate it how they will cast a genocide race or sexuality as a quote UN quote political statement or a political movement. Those things are not political. It is human rights. Have some fucking like human decency about you. Like the world is going to absolute shit. Absolute shit. But yeah, so brands are pulling out left, right and centre. We have had nothing. No, nothing, no matter how much. And we've reached out as well.

There's been a lot of outreach to many, many brands. And honestly, at this point, I'm going to call them out because I actually don't care. Like, there's been a lot of like. I'll check. In with the team and come back to you. But like when you get a response like that, it's very obvious what the outcome is going to be. No, and the only people that have really seen, I've seen The Odd Couple of lesbians, but it really is like gay men as per usual, that will get the jobs if

there are any. Yeah, so I am sick to death of it. No, I'm not a happy girl because this goes against everything. Like, it was so ironic because the amount of interviews that I had last year where people were like, it's the lesbian renaissance this summer. What do you think is in it for, like, 2025? And I was like, it's only going to get bigger and fucking better, bitch. And now I'm like, oh, we've all been shoved back into the fucking closet.

Yeah, because I feel like when I Kissed a Girl came out last year, everyone was like, Oh my fucking God, lesbians. I kind of almost forgot about them. And then we had that bit of like resurgence, and now it's just kind of gone. No, it's. Gone. Completely gone. Yeah. We had like the rise of Chapel, Rhone. We had I kissed a girl, Renee Rapp, like all of these things. Obviously Renee Rapp. And Chapel is still going and a bit it's not getting those that attention that it was getting before.

And if anything, I feel like more hatred is being headlined than anything positive. And it's just so, so, so obvious what's going on. And in the schools as well, they're like banning books, LGBTQ rights and. Oh yeah, I saw that. Yeah, I mean, classic. Yeah, but are we surprised? But no, but it's just fucking ridiculous. Like, when is it? When is it going to end? We're in 2025 and obviously trans rights is this is what they always do. They will go for the minority within the minority.

So they're stripping away trans rights, which is inhumane. It's disgusting. It is something that we as a collective need to stand against because yes, OK, might not be transgender. It still effects you. Still effects you Joe. What? Even if you are a straight person, this still effects you. Like the removal of trans rights will have a knock on effect to everything. But they will always go for trans 1st and then it'll be the next. Guess I feel like lesbian lesbians are next.

Like after trans, I feel like it goes like transgender lesbians do, you know what I mean? Like in terms of like scale, in terms of the minority scale within the community. The community. Yeah, yeah. But yeah, I've had enough. Sorry. I just can't. I cannot stop staring at my bruises. So Liv drunkenly rode into a tree the other night on a line bike and she's literally covered in bruises. I think I've got like 1234. Yeah, right. You're absolutely riddled with

bruises, babe. I don't know what to tell you, but you're an idiot. You're an actual idiot. No one got in a line bag after about 10 double tequilas. Is that all I'm going to say? How did you even drink that much? It's me. It's just, it's just me. It's just me. It's what? Happens when you drink 10 tequilas and only have one prep baguette for the whole day. How did you not feel disgusting like I also in the time that like the day? Or the day after the day I didn't. Classic me.

I didn't think I was that drunk. And then I got on the bike. Yeah, you annoy me so much when you do that. Oh my God. I'm like, you're so drunk. And then you look at it. No, no. And I'm like, well, you are you. Do no, I'm not. And you're like, you're literally swaying, you're stumbling and you heel boots and you're going, no, I'm not. And I'm like, babe, look at you. I think where was I? You weren't there. I was out. Oh, it was after about to see. Oh, when I fell over.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. I was with Jess. Blame Jess. I'll blame Jess. Fuck it, it's Jess's fault. But a few it was after Rhiannon's baby shower. Me, Scarlett, Leo and Jess went to the cock and bottle but it was close so we went to electric. But I was so drunk at this point. Apparently Leo and Scarlett were like crying with laughter because I was wearing Birkenstocks as well, but my feet were just going like. Flip. Flopping flip.

Flopping, yeah. I was like trying to really prove a point and like trying to walk in a straight line. I just couldn't. Yeah you really have like 0 control over your balance and everything whenever you've had a drink like super wobbly. That's why I'm not surprised that you literally drove into a tree. I know. I would do anything to see this. I wish that lime bites had dash cams. Well, they should. They should. Shouldn't let people on them when they're drunk.

Or you are responsible for yourself and you say I'm too drunk to do this. Did it not come up with our because it was too early for the thing to come up? It wasn't. Like past 12:00 or anything, it was still like 10. So I think you know, when it like does the sober test like past 11 or something, I feel like it should do that just every time you get on a lime bite because you could be drunk at any hour. Yeah. Who's this day drinking? Yeah. To be drunk at like 4:00 PM

easy. And you're more likely to get on a line bike at 4:00 PM than you would like 2:00 AM, you know. Again, I'm just going to blame Josh. You shouldn't have told. Got me on the. Line. Well, no, yeah, I do agree. Actually. Everything's Jess's fault. What else have we been up to? Anything good? Before I get on to the questions. What? Have we been doing? What have we been doing? Oh, you've been painting a lot.

Not a lot. I've you've been painting canvases and ceramic plates for like a month. Yeah, well, I just recently did my mackerel drawing, which I actually quite like. I put it in the frame and much to my surprise, Scarlett said. It was really good, but. A win's a win. Because she said she was like, you didn't do that, fuck off. And I said I did. That was my mackerel. So you know, whoever wants to buy one, they're going for like 10 grand.

Is there any more gay news? Oh yeah, Charlize Theron as well who I love to pieces. She put out a statement that says immigration policy is destroying families, women's rights are less and less everyday, queer and trans lives are being erased, and gender based violence is on the rise. This isn't policy, it's personal. Fuck them. Wow, couldn't agree more. What? She's always been a legend whenever it's come to anything like this. And I think that you need to use your platform for good.

Like if you've got a kind of platform like Charlize Theron does or even a tiny platform, like we try and do anything that we can to speak out about what's right and what's wrong. I feel like we could definitely do more and we are going to do more. But yeah, I mean, that's it is it is personal. It's not it's not policy. And one other thing I'm going to be putting a studio in this place too. So I've been looking at

different things. So I feel like you guys are going to get a very new crisp look with the Lesbian Supper Club coming very, very soon I'd. Say it's a bit of a a rebranding going on. There's definitely a rebranding. Yeah, big rebrand, very exciting it is. And everything is going to be very visual and it's going to make life so much easier to have a studio here that me and Scarlett can both use. Don't worry, just because it's in my house doesn't mean that Scarlett isn't going to use it.

They'll. They'll be, we know you guys have been wanting visuals, so they are coming, I promise, because I will. Hold them to that. So I wrote in. I put on the Lesbian supper Club story earlier. I was like, give us your questions and so I'm going to ask them to you, Liv and some you can ask to me. OK, period sex, yay or? Nay, day one and two, nay. Why? Because, well, it, it also it just depends on the person

you're with. Like so Jess and I for example, both in excruciating pain and also like I actually don't care saying this. Like I get really heavy periods. Yeah, it helps the pain. Yes I understand but also when like I'm in excruciating pain within my back, legs, tummy like. I like touch me. No, I'm also like overheating and stuff.

I'm like, Nah. So I think towards the end I'm like, yeah, like also whenever I'm on period I get more horny so. Yeah, but I feel like when they're saying periods, it's like we're not really defining what we mean by that, because you can also just like, have a tampon in. Like it doesn't have to be bloody sex. Yeah, yeah, I get that. But I'm I'm taking it as like full on. Oh, you're taking it as full on blood sex?

Oh, right. OK yeah, no, I wouldn't want anyone touching me when I'm like full on heavy bleeding. No way it would like it would feel way too uncomfortable for me. I feel like I wouldn't feel sexy enough for me. In too much pain. Like no, I just need to be lying in bed. But if I have a tamp on it and you want to touch me, click, go for it. I don't give a fuck. Yeah, well, you know what? I have. What other way is there to fucking put it?

I can't put it politely. I've just got to say it, haven't I? Just someone's got to say it and it's me, Right. OK. OK, here's your one Are you and Scarlett still friends as you still hang in the same friendship circle? Yeah, we are love the girl can't get rid of me. I. Think it's good for you to say

this. Obviously I know because I I'm at the friendship group, but maybe for the audience who see you guys in videos together may be getting a bit confused what's going on, like, you know, so maybe we can address some shit. Yeah, so last week we got married. I'm joking. No, we. The thing is, me and Scarlett, we were together for so long and we have so much care and love for one another. She's like family to me. And so to get rid of her out of

my life, I don't know. I mean, I can't speak on Scarlett's side. She's probably just thinking, get this fucking bitch away from me. But never mind. I I'd find that very difficult to have her out of my life. We also do the business together. We've got a dog together and shared friends. So, you know, there's a lot of crossover, but yeah, it is what it is. And we're both just like, still on our healing journey. So yeah, I think that probably is quite confusing if people see

it, but it's all good. It's all fine. It's all. Friends having nice drinks together. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. Oh yeah, Someone that she said. Have you successfully been friends with an ex? Not current, like long lasting. Yeah, I'm friends with my first ex, actually. Natalia, what about you? No absolutely not. I couldn't think of any. To be fair, my first girlfriend I'd say her and I are on like civil terms now. Like if I saw her like at a pub I'd go and say hi but that took a while.

But most recent ex. Hell no. Yeah, fair enough. You don't have to be friends with them. I think it like depends. I think it honestly I think it depends on the person like. Yeah, it is person to person. I said, like there are some people that I would just yeah, I thought that why did you break up and go away? Someone said sorry maybe boring but do you have any recommendations for lesbian tourists in London? Recommendations for lesbian

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OK someone said how to make her feral in brackets want to kiss me so bad? Like literally seduce her for real. First of all, smell really good. I feel like honestly, like if you smell good, it is so enticing. It's so enticing. I would always say there is always a right. If you're meeting up on a date, you have to shower before you

get ready. If you're not doing that, they could be like dating in like OK, it might be different if you're going straight from work, but like a lot of the time like they'll shower in the morning when they would normally shower and then just kind of not shower again. I feel like the shower again is necessary before I date. I'm sorry, I hate to break it to you guys, but fucking shower. Destroy the earth. I don't care. And then moisturize. Always moisturize.

That's like a big thing. It will hold your scent and then use a fragrance. Nothing that is really sweet, nothing that is really floral and nothing that is really powdery. And always, yeah. Because it's like if you're wearing more of like an I feel like for me, like a more UDI fragrance allows me more. I wear UDI fragrances. Sexy fragrance.

It's got to be something sexy. Deep woody but not too overpowering with like a hint of citrus to it so it like cuts in a little bit and still smells fresh whilst also smelling sexy also. I think as well to like if you're trying, I think eye contact. Well, that was going to be my next thing. So the triangle method, have you ever heard of it? Yeah, we. Look at eyes and. Lips, Yeah. So it's like left eye, right eye, lips. But it's the eyes again, right.

So it's stop. I'm still answering the question and you're flicking through SO the triangle method. If you haven't heard of it, it does tend to. It's quite funny because it works. I've not done it in a long time. I'll do it to Jess on Saturday. Just just see if it works on it. But basically the triangle method is where you will like look from the left eye to the right eye to the lips and then back up to the eyes again. Obviously don't make it really fucking obvious.

Be cool when you do. Be cool with. It but it's like when they're talking just kind of do that and then like look at their eyes and then look at their lips again like when they're talking and that makes a big difference. It's like that will make her feral because it makes me feral so. I also think as well, like if you're on a date as well, like there's if say if you're like facing each other, like maybe like just like touch the top of the leg or like do you know what I mean?

Just like little like don't go full in like physical contact. I think just little droplets every now and then, just little like little teasers. A breadcrumb. A breadcrumb of sorts. Breadcrumb, of course. Fryer's just given her tips on how to seduce Fryer, so you're welcome everyone. Give it a go, see if it works on me. I feel like to like make them feral though as well as not. That's not just like normal basic tips. Like I feel like to make them

feral. I feel like when like if we're talking in the bedroom, then like taking things very slowly, like extremely like excruciatingly slowly at first. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 100. Percent. Make them want to die. Like make them actually be like, I can't believe that you haven't touched me yet. Yeah, you've got to tease. You've got to tease. Like really tease. Room for them to be like, oh, what else is that like to do? You know what I mean? No, I I still think that you can fuck them.

No, I'm not. I'm saying to not have sex, but I'm like, if you go full in with like all your moves. Oh yeah, no, you don't want to do. That what else are you going to do? Yeah. Go really slow, don't let them touch you like hands behind your fucking back bitch. You're not touching me. You're not touching this. Had two dream dates with maybe the love of my life but we're not free for another month. Any advice by the way? She said two, potentially the love of her life.

Interesting, had two dream dates with maybe the love of my life but we're not free until another month. Any advice? OK First off, I can somewhat relate to this because I find distance at the start quite hard because I remember when Jess and I went on our first date and then I saw her on the weekend and then I think after that I

didn't see her for like 2 weeks. But I think I think it's I think it depends Like if you're an anxious attachment, it is going to be hard because you are like left in the lurch of like do they like me? And you're like constantly wondering? But I feel like if you just have like open communication and like you guys are still talking in that month period, then like it'll be fine.

Like I know I get it's hard but like if you still have plans to meet up in a month and also a month goes by so quickly. It does also make sure that you are busy and that you're not looking too clingy because I you've already said with maybe the love of my life and it's been 2 days. So I also have a fear that maybe you have the potential to fall in love with the idea of someone because you can't possibly know

someone within two days. So within this space of like a month, my advice would also be to like not build her up in your head too much. And then also whatever is meant for you, no matter what happens, we'll never pass you by. I would also like updates on this. So please, after your date, after a month's time, please can you write in and tell us how it's going? Because I'm quite invested in this now, if there's a spark.

There and there's like a mutual connection she's not just going to have that like busy month and you having that busy month and it's just going to go away like ever yeah if the. Connection is there, the connection is there. It doesn't go away like no matter what time happens like you could literally be apart for a whole fucking year is what it? Is like we've said, just keep yourself busy. Go see your friends, go on nice walks. The month will be over before you know it.

You get stuck in a lift for five days. You can choose five people to be stuck with, plus one food and one drink. So I would like to be stuck in the lift with Renee Rapp, Charlize Theron, Aubrey Plaza. Yes 100% fuck who would be an orgy. Yeah, but yeah, you're just picking people that you want to. Have sex. No, no, it's not like people that are genuinely find like quite fun and funny. They're like Billie Eilish. I find like should be hilarious in the left. No, I think she'd get over it

and get freaked out. I felt like she'd write a really good song on the left. Maybe who would be really funny to have in the left? Drew Afualo. I'd have her in there as well because she's so fucking funny. I just want like good humoured women in the left. And did you say 1 food and one drink? Yeah, fuck water. Water. That's boring. Yeah. But then you can't not get dehydrated. How long are you there for? That's my question.

That's the thing. Because if we're there for like the night, my drink of choice would be beer because it'd be so funny for us all to have beers. No, let's say 3 days, three days, three days. Oh my God, would. Have to be water. Let's get water in and ready. Soy crisps. It's going to have to be like a hula hoop of sorts just to really keep my my, like my salt levels up and stuff. I feel like it can't be anything too sweet. Avocado I'd love. That's a very logistically difficult thing.

Like what is 1 item of food? Like, it's not even like a meal. It's one item of food, you know? What would yours be if it was a meal? It'd be different, but it's one. But my food? Yeah, a baguette. That's what I'm saying, this is very much giving like bread and water famine style but I'd be in an elevator with the hottest funniest women so wouldn't really bother me. To be fair, someone said opinions on being friends of the next Amy Spaldings TikTok has sparked controversy but it's

like the same thing. I don't think that there's anything. With Katie and Izzy, why did that spec? Why? Why is? It because people are like, Oh my God, you shouldn't what the fuck? You're friends with your ex and then also your ex is meeting your now new girlfriend. That happened when I was a Scarlet. She met my ex. She met two of my exes. Scarlet. It's not a problem. Like I honestly think that like some people deep it too much. Yeah, agreed.

You know, and obviously I think like between them, they've been years and years and they've been friends for ages. They're like best friends. Yeah, exactly. So whatever. Have you ever had drunk sex with a friend? What happened after? No comment. No comment. Yeah, I have slept with a friend before I was drunk. It was fine afterwards. I still have good friends to this day. Oh. Are you coming to Australia? We really, really, really are trying very hard to plan something for later on this

year. I think it will be the best move that we can do. I really want to go to Australia so badly. I don't think I'll come home, but that's fine. I really want to go and I think you lesbians need it. I think you do. I think Melbourne, Sydney, let's fucking make this happen. I think both Melbourne and Sydney.

But if any of you know of any good, like event spaces like bars, etcetera, where we could take over for the night, like how we do the lesbian pub nights and the lesbian wine nights, let us know. Because obviously I don't live there and I've never even been there.

So I've got a couple of people on the ground out there who, you know, I've been talking to and I think it would just be great to get this lined up. There's also a potential incredible lesbian wine night that will be happening in September in Ibiza. But that's another thing that we need to put on the story and say, OK, when are you guys out here? How many of you are there? How many of you are in Spain? How many of you want to go there? And then we can get a bit of a

better idea for that. Basically the plan is we are going international this year. So just keep your eyes peeled. There's a lot of planning going on in the background. And yeah, more, more to hear soon. What's your current red flag that you've rebranded as a quirky personality trait? OK, actually maybe this. Maybe this could be 1. I could be wrong. I'm quite clingy. I'd say I'm quite clingy. So but then like I'm like, no, I'm just like, so cute, you know? But it's also just because I

love being with my person. So I'm just like, I want to hang out with you. But then I'm like, that could be as a red flag. So I'm like, you know, But then I'm like, no, I'm just, I'm just sweet and cute and dainty and just a girl. Well, yeah, and I think my current red flag, I've got many, I think. I think mine would be my, like, total inability to do something sometimes and getting really like, overwhelmed and me just being like, well, it's just me being fucking me, you know?

I feel like that's more of a kind of recent thing though. Oh yeah, because you you'd say it's your ADHD. I know, but it's also like, it's like your new Housewives tagline. Yeah, no, literally that would be me. Yeah, I think that that's me re rebranding. It is like quirky being like oh, I'm so quirky. I just can't do anything. No, I can that's a lie. I get a lot done, but put your. Mind to it, don't you? Yeah, it I think more so in just the kind of like day-to-day life stuff.

Like the other day I wanted to buy some dinner plates. I ordered side plates by accident. And so I'm just like, it's just me. Yeah, I think a day-to-day task you find very hard. Very hard, Very hard. If anyone wants to be my carer, be my fucking guest. OK it's the hairstyle question. Hairstyle journey? Can't seem to find the 1-2 masks slash 2 firm and I feel uncomfortable. Any advice? You've been through many a hair journey, so take it away. I've been through so many, so

many. I also don't really feel like hair always has to come into play when it comes to like, mask and firm. I feel like you can be like so firm and have short hair. I see it all the time. It's more so about like how you style the rest of yourself and like what your attitude is like. But I would say probably, I mean, if you just search up what like a wolf cut is, I feel like a wolf cut is the in between a feminist hairstyle. That's what I would say to that. Getting your partner to agree on

a threesome. I hate that. Yeah. Because if they don't want to do it, then that's that's it. Like you can't force them to do it if they don't want to do it. But like, I think if maybe that's something that you are looking to explore and your partner isn't, then perhaps there are some other questions that need to be discussed. Yeah, I think getting your partner to agree on a threesome is like a pretty, I think. The wording of that? The wording is not great, babe.

I don't know. I think that, yeah, I, I don't ever really, it should never. That's not even, I think it should never be an action of I'm going to make. I'm going to convince them that this is going to be good for them. It has to be. You have to both be on the same level at the same time. Do it. Together like you decide together that you want to do it. You can't ever be like, oh, but then here are my points as to why we should do it. And then and then. It's going to be fun, no?

And also. If your partner says no, there should be no more like further questions asked. Like don't be like, but why? You're like, No, please. Like or don't be like you're boring or like, Oh my God, literally get a grip. Get a grip. And if that is, if you feel like you're really missing out and you would rather like do something like that, then maybe don't be in that relationship. I don't know.

Somebody said, would you rather relive your first heartbreak or wake up straight tomorrow morning? Wake up straight. No, because I wouldn't. Because then I'm straight forever, yeah. I know. Do you know what? I could do it again? Do the heartbreak again for the bit. So we all say that in the cold light of day when we're over the heartbreak. No, I get it. I get what you're saying, but I don't want to wake up straight. I'd wake up dead. No, I wouldn't want to wake up straight.

God, yeah, no, no, I couldn't do that. But fuck, I don't know. I mean, I'm going through my heartbreak anyway, so what's the fucking difference? Bring it on. How the hell does femme and femmes flirt stroke dates work? Like how do you flirt with one? How do you get on a date with one? Well, I feel like what would you say you were at night, you and Scarlett first met and like will you say you were quite firm? So Scarlett? But then it's like the same with

Jess and I were both firm. Even if you tried to say I was mask the other day, which is just like that's no offence to any mask, but I'm just like if you see me, I'm just not a mask. What do they mean though like that? I found the date super flirty though. I think that's what it is like it's just I don't, I don't think it's any different from like any other date just because you're both fam Like I don't understand. I think what they're trying to say is like how do they even get

to that stage? Like how do they even flirt with them in the first place? How do they even get them on the date when it's another femme? Like femme on femme but. People are attracted to femme. Yeah, but that's what I'm that's what that was going to be my next point. There are femme for femmes, I think. Are you more so like worried that there's going to be a confusion that maybe they're straight or something and also the date is not going to be any different?

Like I always feel like people feel like they have to take on roles whenever they're on a date. This. Was this was going to be my point? I don't know if it's like maybe because it's like you're both femme and it's like going back to that thing like, well, who pays? And it's like when Jess and I went on our first date, we just went for drinks and we literally just took turns paying for each

round. Like there's no, it's like if we go out for dinner now, it's like I'll pay for one dinner next time she pays the next dinner. It's no like one person has to pay for like every fucking thing, you know? No. And also, I think I've said this before, but like if you have invited your day out to like a bougie restaurant for the first day and that was your choice,

you pay 100%. Like, I don't think that you should ever be like, oh, I've just found this, like, petite French restaurant in Malibon, and it is minimum 500 pounds. Pounds. Yeah. And then she's like, oh, do you want to split? And then, like, they're like, brilliant. I can't pay my bills this month. I think this actually happened

with Leo last year. She went on a date with a girl and this girl picked a bar in Central and obviously this girl picked the place like Leo obviously naturally would want to come somewhere around here. And I remember she joined us for a drink afterwards and this girl made Leo foot the bill and it was like over £150. And I hate that because like she didn't decide on that rest that bar. Sorry, you know. No, no fucking chance.

Like if you're going to be like as I also think that that kind of proves to me the type of person that you are. If you choose a really bougie fucking place to go to and then you're expecting your date to pay for you after you've chosen that spot, it gives me major red flag energy. It looks like you're you're actually just wanting to go out to a nice place and get somebody to pay for you. It's giving. That's a red. Flag. That's a red flag. A red flag. Actually, sometimes it's the

richest girls that do that. No, it is because they just assume that everyone just has loads of money. Yeah. And like, rich, when I say rich girls, I mean like born into money kind of rich. Like probably doesn't really have a high paying job, but just has loads of money because of their parents. Yeah. So they just assume that everyone just naturally has this influx of cash that just sits within their bank account. Fuckers. Absolutely. If you're like that, get a grip.

But yeah, I think definitely don't assume. Yeah, definitely pay if you are, if you're making the reservation. But if it is like a drinks on drinks situation, don't also foot the bill every single time that you got to the bar. Yeah, just say tons. Yeah. And then the flirting. Fuck, yeah. I mean, flirt like how you would just flirt with anyone. Like if you fancy them, just flirt with them. I don't really, yeah, I think there's all the good questions. I mean, those are some good

questions. They made me think I, I mean, before I know that I mentioned it a couple of episodes ago, but the L chat is still popping off on some pretty gnarly shit. And I want to say it coming from me too. There's like a couple of like nasty comments about Scarlet, like being cold and stuff like this. And fucking hell, there is just like assumption central on this place. But I can also say first hand

that Scarlett isn't cold. She has a very brash sense of humour, which is. And also guys, I'm her fucking ex. You think if I wanted to rinse on here right now, I could, you know, like I'm not trying to defend something. And that's a big thing that people think I'm in there trying to but like defend you guys also, I only we only see this because people send it to us.

We're not actively sat having a look at it, but one, sorry, I don't really have the time to be making comments like that about my clients and like trying to stick up for them in that sense. But I just think the assumptions are getting a bit silly. It just doesn't need to happen. I feel like it's just a bit unnecessary. Like also like this isn't like me, like doing like a poker face thing. Like this literally is not me. Like I'm sorry. Yeah, if it is, I'll sign off manager live.

But it's not me. Actually, no, I shouldn't have said that because then if someone does that, they will think it's me. Yeah, I think I get the, I get the purpose of the forum in general if it's like lesbian discussions. But I think when it comes into the nitty gritty of like some, like if someone's like starting a rumour or like having an assumption about something, I think I can get out of hand and taken too far.

And you know, I think you have to remember when, you know, you're saying someone's like cold or mean, like these people still have feelings and it's like it's not nice to read. And we're all very sensitive girlies over here, so if one of these listeners are people making comments, please please please kindly stop and just use the forum to talk about all things podcasts and events and whatnot. Bitch about someone else? No Bitch about someone, Bitch.

Bitch about someone else. No, that's just, there's no, there's no need for bitching. Let's just, let's just. Chat, I'm completely joking. No, don't bitch about people. It's it's not becoming. It's not becoming of you. Yeah, it's just not. It's just not nice. It can't make you feel good. Does it make people feel good? I think it does. I think it gives people like. A Is that like an adrenaline high maybe like I like? People troll on the Internet because it gives them like a

thrill. Like fuck yeah. Yeah, well, I don't know, maybe try and like do rock climbing or something, boxes, maybe put on a Zumba YouTube and do some Zumba in your room or just air all your grievances to chat to BT Just message chat to BT and be like, I think that Scarlett and Frey are fucking bitches. I'll be like fair. Go for it. Absolutely, go for it. We've got on, we've got, we've got pride this weekend. Oh, we have a pre pride wine night this Thursday.

We do. Yeah. Sorry, I'm not very talkative at this end of the podcast, but I'm so hot that I've lost all of my energy. I don't know how the fuck we're going to do this dinner later. I am shattered. I'm so tired. I need to have a nap. And no, a nap needs to happen. It's you don't. Oh for God's sake, whenever Jess has 1000 naps in the day, I. Can't stand the napping, it's

annoying. Yeah, naps are really fucking they they can be annoying, but I do love an app, but like it can be annoying, but I'm sorry, I'm too hot, like I need to just close my eyes and just have a bit of a moment. But yes, we've got our yeah, we have our pre pride why night this Thursday, so I really hope that you can come and celebrate with us. I think because like a lot of people just I don't think that a lot of people can be bothered for pride this year. Comfortable.

No. I I can actively say I feel a lot less safe in Soho than I do anywhere else in London. I will opt to not even go to Soho because of how dangerous it is. The amount of times that I've had men grope or say things. I literally the other night had two cars full of men on separate occasions shouting out of the window Me. Is there anything else? All right, lesbians, I love you so much. And I will. I've actually got a very exciting guest on this week. I absolutely love her.

I think it's going to be a hysterical episode, but yeah, I will be speaking to you lesbians soon. And I love you. Happy pride. Bye.

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