How do we define "mindset"? Why does it matter, and how do we model a positive, growth mindset for our kids? Personal growth & life coach, Mary Beth Henry, breaks it down for us with host Carmelita Tiu. Mary Beth Henry touches on: The basics - what growth mindset and fixed mindset are Why modeling a growth mindset is so important The downsides of a negative, fixed mindset How to provide perspective to help offset your kids' negativity Plus, you can hear one of Cat's funny podcast missteps. S...
Apr 05, 2022•23 min•Season 1Ep. 31
How did your parents treat you, and how does this impact how you treat your kids? If you saw the Pixar movie “Turning Red”, you couldn’t help but consider these questions. In this week’s episode, licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Stephanie J. Wong chats with host Carmelita Tiu, and breaks down the concept of generational patterns. Stephanie shares: What generational patterns are How we can better identify them What a cultural genogram is – I found this website to be helpful: https://www.therapi...
Mar 29, 2022•21 min•Season 1Ep. 30
How often do you stop to question the expectations you have for yourself? How do we figure out what's a healthy expectation, and what's not? Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with author and therapist, Julia Marie Hogan-Werner, as she discusses challenging expectations and talks about her new book, “A Work in Progress: Embracing the Life God Gave You.” Julia shares: What inspired her to write the book Why we need to challenge expectations How to spot faulty expectations How she’s redefining “...
Mar 22, 2022•22 min•Season 1Ep. 29
What is positive psychology? Personal growth & life coach, Mary Beth Henry, breaks it down for us with host Carmelita Tiu. Mary Beth Henry shares: What positive psychology is How it differs from toxic positivity Tools to incorporate into our and our kids’ lives The one thought she wants listeners to know! For more info and to follow Mary Beth Henry www.mary-beth-henry.com Instagram: @if.she.can.you.can LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mary-beth-henry Find Mary Beth’s podcast, If She Can, You Ca...
Mar 15, 2022•22 min•Season 1Ep. 28
Every year, International Women's Day chooses a theme -- a specific call to action in an effort to further gender parity. This year's theme is #breakthebias -- calling attention to the ways that explicit and implicit biases negatively impact women. And while we celebrate International Women's Day on March 8, we're challenged to use the rest of the year to make progress on ending gender bias. While we know what bias is on some visceral level, I wanted to do a quick episode that spells it all out ...
Mar 08, 2022•16 min•Season 1Ep. 27
As moms, we are powerful creatures. We know we have an impact on our children’s lives, and our families. But have you ever wondered, “How can I be a part of even bigger changes, bigger movements?” In today’s episode, Cynthia Changyit Levin, author of From Changing Diapers to Changing the World: Why Moms Make Great Advocates & How to Get Started - discusses advocacy, motherhood, and points us in the direction to make even broader societal changes. Cynthia: Gives us a simple definition of advo...
Mar 01, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 26
In this episode, author Jessica Speer returns to chat with host Carmelita Tiu, to share more pointed and practical advice on navigating specific friendship scenarios. Jessica discusses: Understanding friendship breakups Navigating toxic people handling things when friends grow apart And more! Other references: Episode 18: Grappling with Girl Friendships To learn more about Jessica Speer and her work: Visit www.jessicaspeer.com Instagram: @jessica_speer_author Facebook: @ https://www.facebook.com...
Feb 22, 2022•21 min•Season 1Ep. 25
What does representation have to do with body image? What's body positivity, and what's body neutrality? Are you fat-phobic? Do your words and use of the word "fat" inadvertently feed into fat culture? In this week’s episode, body positivity expert Emily Lauren Dick delves into all of these questions and more. Emily explains: The origin of body image issues The difference between body positivity and body neutrality What parents can do to help their daughters love their bodies Fat phobia and fat ...
Feb 15, 2022•30 min•Season 1Ep. 24
Host Carmelita Tiu tells the story of the worst/best valentine she ever received, and shares the truths she wants to share with her daughters, especially around this time of year. Comments? Email her at knowthembethemraisethempodcast@gmail.com -- and follow @knowberaisethem on Instagram. Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: Apple , Spotify , Google . For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram sign up fo...
Feb 08, 2022•13 min•Season 1Ep. 23
In this episode, writer, cultural producer, storyteller and empowerment speaker, Lacey C. Clark!, shares her story, why empowering girls is important to her, and how we can help our daughters feel empowered through their teen years and beyond. Lacey discusses: How to ignite the spark of self-love Focusing and celebrating strengths How to shift from comparison thinking Her biggest piece of advice for parents And more! To learn more about Lacey C. Clark! and her work, visit www.phenomenally-u.com ...
Feb 01, 2022•20 min•Season 1Ep. 22
Ashley Carpentier shares her insights and advice for parents when it comes to eating disorders, body image, healthy relationships with food, self talk, and role modeling. Ashley covers: Myths about eating disorders Signs of a possible eating disorder Why to avoid the word "diet" Healthier approaches to food What parents can do to support their daughters To learn more about Ashley Carpentier and her work: Visit www.ashleycarpentier.com Instagram: @ashleyranaecarpentier FB: www. facebook.com/group...
Jan 25, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 21
What's a cognitive distortion? How do I manage my or my daughter's negative thought spirals? Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with her guest, author and therapist Julia Hogan. Julia explains: What cognitive distortions are, and dives deeper into Catastrophizing All or nothing thinking Magical thinking or mind reading Personalizing "Should" Statements Others not mentioned but that are widely recognized include: Mental Filter Disqualifying the Positive Overgeneralizing Emotional Reasoning Here...
Jan 18, 2022•24 min•Season 1Ep. 20
Have you ever thought about how the art in museums, our monuments, and public art – are mostly made by and for men? And did you know that underrepresentation can foster feelings of inferiority and perpetuate implicit biases? How do we teach our girls to recognize and understand why this is, so they aren't subconsciously limiting themselves by what they see? In Episode 19 of “Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them,” Neysa Page-Lieberman, Monuments to Movement co-founder and co-artistic director, and a cu...
Jan 11, 2022•23 min•Season 1Ep. 19
Mean girls. Queen bees. Wannabes. We've all felt or witnessed the ups and downs of female friendship, especially during those tween and teen years. In this episode, author Jessica Speer chats with host Carmelita Tiu, and explains why tween & teen girls have friendship struggles, sheds light on friendship truths, and shares tips and advice on how moms can help their daughters navigate these challenging times. Jessica discusses: The basis of friendship evolves as kids grow up How friendship st...
Jan 04, 2022•21 min•Season 1Ep. 18
The end of the year always triggers look-backs and goal-setting for the future. If you're like most moms and high achievers, the new year comes with excitement, some trepidation, and some guilt that your previous year's goals didn't play out the way you thought they would (or guilt because not everything on your to-do list has been checked off). In this episode, host Carmelita Tiu shares some thoughts on how to shift our mindsets around failure (in big or small ways): Celebrate the big no’s, an ...
Dec 28, 2021•9 min•Season 1Ep. 17
What does it mean to be creative? How do we raise good kids? What does a mom of 3 grown daughters wish she knew back then, or know for sure now? My guest this week, and the second featured “mom who’s been there”, is Melissa Ohlman-Roberge. Melissa is the mom of 3 daughters, ages 29, 26 and 24 as well as their dog, Zoe, and is partner to husband Kevin, who dabbles on the stage when not running his staffing business. She calls herself a “creative instigator” who thrives on the energy of the creati...
Dec 21, 2021•21 min•Season 1Ep. 16
Feeling overwhelmed feels awful. The to-do lists pile up, healthy habits are put on the backburner, and exhaustion and burnout start to creep in. It feels stressful and out of control - but how can we reign in the overwhelm and start thriving again? In this episode, therapist and life coach Liz Pessaran tackles this and more with host Carmelita Tiu. Liz shares: Why moms often feel overwhelmed The importance of self-trust and how it differs from self-abandonment Why you should practice “Hell Yes”...
Dec 14, 2021•24 min•Season 1Ep. 15
Bullying can take many forms -- and we’re all too aware of the damage it can cause. In this episode, hot Carmelita Tiu chats with coach, mentor, Youth Diversity Advisor, writer and speaker, Aime Hutton about how she survived being bullied, her current work, and more. Aime shares: Her experience of being bullied Her source of solace during that time What she wishes went differently Tips for parents to support their kids Her work to help empower girls A favorite quote - "Be bold, be brave, be your...
Dec 07, 2021•20 min•Season 1Ep. 14
Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with Nicole Nepa, a certified life coach with a B.A. in psychology and an M.S. in mental health & school counseling, who specializes in coaching for teens. Nicole describes her coaching journey, and shares: The upside of not fitting in How she helps teens cope The importance of quietude and stillness for our kids Why your kids should see you napping and taking breaks For more information about Nicole, including her coaching programs for teens: Visit risin...
Nov 30, 2021•18 min•Season 1Ep. 13
Gratitude Journaling is touted as a good thing. But why? And how does it work? Kate Brenton's short and thoughtful article sheds some light on the matter. Especially at busy and potentially stressful times (like the holidays!), small life hacks that are sure to have a positive impact can be lifesavers. To learn more about Kate and her work, visit: Website: katebrenton.com - where you can sign up for her newsletter and learn more about Root to Rise: a six week coaching alignment to clear confusio...
Nov 23, 2021•8 min•Season 1Ep. 12
What is gender equity? In this episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them , Annie Warshaw, co-founder of Mission Propelle and a gender justice professor at Roosevelt University, unpacks gender equity in her chat with host Carmelita Tiu. In this episode, Annie: Answers the question, "What is gender equity?" Explains how we can be aware of gender equity and encourage it Tells us the 3 things that will make her feel like she’s raised her sons successfully Helps us reframe our beliefs about old-schoo...
Nov 16, 2021•20 min•Season 1Ep. 11
Charlsey Childers, self-worth and confidence coach, is back with more actionable advice and wise words to help moms bolster their self-worth and raise confident daughters. Check out Charlsey's previous episode here: Women, Self-Worth, and Raising Authentic Daughters Charlsey and host Carmelita Tiu discuss: 3 ways to start boosting your self worth right away, including doing something every day that brings you joy! Dealing with the specter of social media and helping your daughter navigate that l...
Nov 09, 2021•27 min•Season 1Ep. 10
Can you relate to this? You have so much to be grateful for - good relationships, a good job, good friends, good health. But still, you don’t feel happy -- you don't feel like you’re enough. In this episode, Charlsey Childers, a self-worth and confidence coach, explains why she became a coach, why women and girls struggle with self-worth, and how moms can help themselves and their daughters feel confident, worthy, loved, and show up authentically in life. Charlsey shares: We are all born fully a...
Nov 02, 2021•26 min•Season 1Ep. 9
What if your daughter decided to move out at 16? Our first “mom who’s been there” guest is Cheryl Spalding, a midlife empowerment coach. Now a mom to two daughters in their 20’s, Cheryl and host Carmelita Tiu talk about raising girls through tough times, what worked for her, and more. Cheryl shares: What her parenting approach was like, and her relationship with her daughters now How she handled her daughter moving out in her teens The importance of trust and reasonable boundaries The one though...
Oct 26, 2021•21 min•Season 1Ep. 8
Ever wish you had a magic spell that would guarantee your daughter turns into a brave and confident woman? An “abracadabra” to ensure she grows up to be bold and powerful, in the best way? While sadly there’s no such thing, Wendy Snyder, Positive Parenting Teacher, Family Coach and founder of A Fresh Start Family, offers us some guidance in her article, " 10 Important Phrases Parents Can Use to Empower Their Daughters .” The episode dives into how we can rephrase our words - how we can say thing...
Oct 19, 2021•17 min•Season 1Ep. 7
Do you say no, then feel guilty? Or maybe you say yes, then feel resentful? These feelings are part of the important but difficult task of setting and managing boundaries. Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with author and therapist, Julia Hogan. Julia explains: The importance of boundaries Ways to understand and define your boundaries How a “No” can be a “Yes” How asserting boundaries relates to fairness Listen to Julia on Episode 003, "Rethinking Self Care & Authentic Rest" Find Julia Ho...
Oct 12, 2021•14 min•Season 1Ep. 6
“I’m Speaking.” We all remember that simple-yet-powerful Kamala Harris statement, right? We encourage our daughters to be assertive, share their stories, and speak up. But when we teach them that interrupting is impolite and rude, are we inadvertently undermining their ability to rightfully claim airtime -- even if they’re interrupted by someone else? Will they choose politeness over being heard? Will they be afraid to assert themselves in a lively discussion, afraid that they’ll offend? Listen ...
Oct 05, 2021•11 min•Season 1Ep. 5
Have you noticed a confidence dip in your tween or teen girl? You aren’t dreaming...it’s a real thing. Today's article, " 5 Steps to Helping Our Daughters Grow Up With More Confidence ," comes from Briana Beazley. Briana is founder of NadiaGirl, a tween girls clothing brand focused on empowering young girls by creating comfortable clothing that fits well, to help them feel more confident. When Briana’s daughter was entering her tween years, shopping for her was discouraging and frustrating. Ther...
Sep 28, 2021•10 min•Season 1Ep. 4
Are "self-care" and "authentic rest" just buzzwords? Is there a right way to do self-care? What does authentic rest or leisure look like? Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with her guest, author and therapist Julia Hogan. Julia describes her road to becoming a therapist and writer, and she explains: The importance of nurturing yourself and “filling your cup” Rethinking your self-care, making sure it works for you Authentic rest & leisure -- what these are The importance of modeling self-c...
Sep 21, 2021•20 min•Season 1Ep. 3
Getting your tween or teen to talk to you can be notoriously difficult. We’re all used to one-word answers and hearing “fine” when we ask how they’re doing. In this episode, host Carmelita Tiu reads "How to Get Kids to Open Up," by Ezza Mustaffa, a licensed professional counselor who works with individuals of all ages. She tells us about: The importance of a safe emotional environment The reptilian brain! 5 tips on how to create a safe space Ezza Mustaffa received her Masters of Education in Com...
Sep 21, 2021•10 min•Season 1Ep. 2
