Welcome to yet another fucking fantastic episode. Bye Carrie.
Come on. No, go ahead. No, I'm, I'm enjoying it. Come on. You remember last time you, you did this? This is, is this two or three episodes in a row? I have
no idea. No, because you've been to those like, you're like a viper,
non introing. Little bites. He was trying like,
tell me alone. Cause just the point like you already know what I'm gonna say. Hi, I'm Carrie. And like you already know. They already know. So they'll just get to it. Hi again. I'm Carrie, your co-ho. You are to my
other co-hosts, other co-host. We're are we doing this again? Like there's literally an episode like two episodes ago that you did this. Oh, liars. Yes. It was like, I am, we are, uh,
And that's what I sound like. Yes.
That's unfortunate. I know, right? It's kinda like the husband
voice. Uh, what were you telling me about the other day? That someone was stand comedian? The stand comedian
that was said that, you know, after you're married for a certain amount of time, everyone develops the husband voice. Yes. Every, so this was particular in a, in a, like a CS mono monogamous relationship. Yeah. The wife always develops the husband voice. You
hate the husband. It's been giving me shit about the husband voice for like a decade. Yes. Yeah. I still
do it though. You still, you still do it. Still do
it. Everyone has a husband. Okay. Are y'all ready to hear Casey's husband voice? Are y'all ready?
Who are you asking? The, the audience? They're, I'm the only one in the
room. Well, because anyone that's listening right now, they're like, fuck yeah. I wanna hear a case's voice. Yeah. And it's like, oh,
whatever, Carrie. Yeah. Is it? That one's it. I'm glad I sound so intelligent in your hands.
I, when you are with yours and you were talking about me, it's only good things you don't give me. Oh, shut the fuck up. You don.
It's a five star rating every time. Oh,
shut up. You don't gimme a voice though. No. Your five star rating can still be like, move Casey. Nope.
It's not. No,
no. So anytime that you're imitating me something to your friends, yeah. You just do it in your own voice. Yeah, that's
weird because I don't do it as if I'm you. I do it from the third person.
So is that like a girl thing? Like we always try to like imitate our husband. Are you asking me? I don't know. I'm just having thought now is that what we do if a comedian is like bringing it up that we all have a man voice
in? Yeah, I would imagine it probably is.
All right, so let's get into the episode.
Let's talk about where we've been and where we're going. Yeah. Things that we're trying to do right now mm-hmm. Is we're, we're making a plan, right? Yep. We are making a plan. We make a lot of plans. We want to have an episode that we do on relationship styles. Oh, yes, yes. But we wanna have this to be something huge. We wanna have this to be like a round table. Yeah. We have people from different relationship styles, so we want, like the gender stages, monogamous relationship.
We want the unicorn, the single mm-hmm. Polyamorous female. We.
Couple that started out in e and m, like they didn't even set boundaries for We went the fully open couple. Exactly. And, and not only the o the, the open couple, but like we've been open for two years. I trans
years. I want like a, a sexual
couple. We just, we had this in like this vision of setting one else, uh, around, like you said, like this like round table discussion. They were like hidden. Exactly in different stages of their type of relationships. Yes. And the purpose behind this is to show you or our viewers, this concept of monogamy is not actually as, I mean as you think. I think so. I think that our vanilla guests need to hear that there are different spices.
Aside from vanilla and let's give you all the different flavors so you can determine if Hey, nope, vanilla's for me, or actually I wanna try that spice over there. That's unique, that's different.
That's a great perspective. I wanna offer a different one. Let's hear it. It's, I think it's, and and it's an attempt to, to show people that not everyone is, They are, and they're not as different as everyone thinks. Yeah. Different relationship styles are very different from each other. They are for a reason. Mm-hmm. And at the same time, the people that engage in these relationships are not so different.
Yeah, exactly. And, and we're also gonna kind of like, well you don't know that I'm doing this, but we're gonna plug a little bit. Field is an app that we to communicate. Individuals that are in the same lifestyle as we are, and I love field because we were able to put our destination, mm-hmm. Or our location. Mm-hmm. Not destination. To Austin and that's when we decided, hey, let's record this episode in Austin. Let's meet up with all these different people. Yeah. We
haven't even revealed
that part yet. I know. Oh, I didn't. Oh, we didn't. You're Austin. Woo Austin.
We're gonna
try to do this in Austin. Yes. But we were able to like plug field, utilize. And, and it has brought us to all individuals that we have met. That, and, and let's face it, sometimes when you are looking for that are in the la same lifestyle as you, you can't necessarily always just look in your community. Yeah. So because
not all communities are the same as we Yeah. As we grow and, and for them, what of our biggest reasons for choosing Austin is because it is a melting pot. And it's drivable. Yes. To be honest, it's like Right. It's within driving distance than us. Yeah. Uh, but for one of the big reasons being that we've talked to a ton of people that are in so many different relationship styles in the area mm-hmm. That are actually willing to sit down and talk.
Yeah. A lot of places that we go and we talk about this, they're so far to one side or they're that they don't want to even. Attempt to To anything else. Yeah, they're close-minded. We weren't open-minded.
Yes. And we do. And not even that. There are people on field that like hide their faces. That's not what we're looking for. We're looking for people that are like very open and wanting to talk about it. Thank you. Very joyful. This is what we do and this is who we are and this is what for And through our searches, we found that Austin was a great place for us to find people. And like I said, you know, being drivable. It wasn't, uh, a deterrence. It's not a con. It's definitely,
it's definitely a pro to the entire thing.
But yeah, so, so we're planning an episode coming up very soon. We're gonna travel to it. We cannot wait. And we're looking end of like next month. So, uh, be on the lookout for this. It is probably gonna be, I
don't know. I, I think it's gonna, oh, why not? What, what are we, what are we trying to say here? No, I
just, I think it's going to to be a very insightful episode. Like, right, like we are able to go back through and see these episodes that people really connect with. Mm-hmm. I think this is gonna be one that, that
our audience really enjoys. Oh yeah. It certainly will. People are gonna wanna sit down and listen to these various relationship styles and their experiences, so
that is what we're. So we
have, let's talk about what we did, which we recently celebrated, uh, recently National Anal Day. Yep. Yep. Wanna talk about that a little bit?
Uh, I do. Well, I, I do. I do. Yeah. No, actually let's do that now. Let's do that now. We had planned to talk about someone. Oh, I like this. I let's do that. So, uh, I, we have notes that we share and we're on the different segment of each note. One
of us is correct is where that. And it's not
Carrie. It's not me guys. I will admit that. Uh, yeah. So we just made a post recently about National Anal Day. Yes. And we've talked about anal in the past. We have an entire, but there's just so much. When it comes to this?
Well, the whole, what's interesting to me is I see these days and it's like National Horny Day National. Mm-hmm. Anal Day, national Blowjob Day steak, blowjob cake and kinda lingus and all these, and we're go, we just sit back and we go, who the fuck makes up these days?
And who determined that that is the day.
It's just someone puts it out there. Yeah. So I looked a little bit international anal day and it was, it was first established in 2019 through Urban Diction. Like someone just made a post entry. Oh geez. That said, national anal day and it catches on. Yeah. But that's the cool thing about it is it's not about it and what day they made it on, it's about what's the public's reaction to it. Mm-hmm. And do they adopt it and say, fuck yeah. And what's the purpose of it?
Do they adopt it and say, yeah, let's do this. Or do they go, ah, that's stupid. And apparently with the national anal day, they, everyone hopped on board and said, yeah, let's do this. So what we wanna talk about for a little bit is national anal day, what it means to us and how we wanna celebrate that kind of thing.
And, and really this is the importance of the steps that you need to take. So if you did see our post prep Exactly. That was amazing. Say, love you so much for just being right on fucking reading my head. But no preparation. Preparation is, is insanely important for any type of anal play. Yes. So from personal experiences, if we know that this is something that we want to engage in later on I will around now, uh, maybe put a butt plug. I don't necessarily start with like my biggest ones.
I could start with something like really, really small, but it is really good to, uh, kind of like set the tone. Well, there's
a question that I, if you will, came across Yeah. Uh, maybe about a week ago. That was how long should you plug in and, and is there a point where Hey, you should not have it in for a certain amount of time, and general consensus is three hours. Is probably your around the maximum, so not
lunchtime,
so I'm doing it wrong. Yeah, yeah. Probably not noon to, you know, midnight. To
midnight. I mean, we go to bed at eight, so no, but no. Okay, that's fair. Yeah, I'm sure there is like a specific timeline that you wanna be able to do that, but the importance of is like knowing. How much it
helps. Yeah. Well, people have worries, right? Mm-hmm. Am I going to fuck up the elasticity of my anus? Am I going to hurt myself by doing this? The general answer is that no, you, the muscles that are there, um, are. They do a pretty good job and they have your entire life of doing things like holding what's in your intestines and your intestines. So is what it's designed for. That's a constantly constricted muscle, right? Yeah. And it only time that it relies so you can release things from it.
Mm-hmm. So you putting something inside there and keeping it there, especially if it's like a small base that's flared, of course. Mm-hmm. You're likely not going to hurt yourself or damage the elasticity from over usage. Um, yeah. Because even when
I've done that, We have different reasons for keeping in longer from our own play, but uh, really had issues from it even like the next day. It's always been. Very helpful in the preparation for whatever it is that we intend to do that night.
Yeah. So that's a good point for preparation for something like anal is to put a plug in Yeah. Start to work on it because it helps to stretch things out a little bit, to loosen them up, relax them. Mm-hmm. So whenever you are playing, you're not having to go so fucking slow and extremely slow and pressing various Yeah. Because various things of pain. Mm-hmm. And, and dealing with all that, you're able to go, okay, I've kind of moved past that part.
Yeah. And I'm more accepting to what you have to.
And then the most important thing ever when it comes to an. What's that? Casey
Lube? Lube. Like, that's, that's just a no-brainer right there. Ugh.
Lube spit. We've said it again. Spit is not lube, especially for anal. Sometimes you can get away with spit being lube for your vagina, but yeah, especially if you're into that kind of thing. Yes. But, um, for, for, uh, anal play, no,
no, no, no, no, no. You need, you need a good lube, solid lubricant. And whenever we say like, use lube, it doesn't mean. A drop of lube, it means that you, and only
once, we mean like you keep it.
Yes. Lubed up. So the biggest reason for this is because the vagina is, is naturally lubricating. Yes. You have systems in place that allow for lubrication of the vagina. The anus does not lubricate itself. No. It's not designed that way. So you need to add in a lubricant in order to help access it. Mm-hmm. So get something that's good. I mean, of course they make like silicone based versus water based and you can go and into a hole if you like the point there. That works for you. Mm-hmm.
And works well. And then stick with it and use use a good amount.
So I am throwing a critical question. Let's do it at you. I am getting better. You are. So why anal if you can have vaginal sex, why would a girl be drawn to
anal? Why would, you're asking me why I drawn
to anal? Yeah. Like what physical attributes would make a female want? Like yes. Let's have
anal. I can't answer that question. I own a penis. I'm a male. Like you're asking me a why a girl would,
yeah. What pleasure zones do we have? Because like I have come from anal. Why? Just from the stimulation, like, well, so at the a, I wanna know
like why is anal pleasurable,
like the anatomy of it for women? Because people think that oh, I'm not gonna come from anal. Why would I? But you, you will and you can like, and you can,
not everybody will, but I do that. That's great. You are one person. So we call that a case study,
but like it, for someone that has never had an anal before, what can you say to them right now that would make them be like, oh, I didn't know that. I actually maybe do wanna try that?
Um, so the reality is, is that you can come from aal, not everyone, but if you are experiencing heavy. Like there's been reports from all over genders, all over sexualities of how good anal can feel for women. The typical reason that you do feel the pleasure that you feel is because of the proximity to nerve innings in the area. Mm-hmm. So we all have nerves that run like right runs down of our spine and then it branches out into hundreds of different branches.
And some of those go to the vagina, to the anus, but some of them are, Nerves. Okay. And if you stimulate those nerves, it creates sensation. Mm-hmm. So by penetrating the anus, you actually gain access to some nerves that you might not gain access to otherwise. So it all become, it all comes down to, if you start to stimulate them, do you feel pleasure or do you feel something else that's maybe a negative associated feeling, like pain? So what you can start to do is experiment on yourself.
That's always step one before you start diving in with a partner and being like, fuck my ass, or like, finger my ass, or whatever it's gonna. Test it on yourself. Do that with fingers, with a toy, with anything that you might want to use, but start to kind of around and see if it's a good sensation.
So is it the, is it true that like women have a Jesus in their like rectum or is that not a Oh, that's the debat thing.
Like that's, at the end of the day, a lot of that is debatable. Isn't the same for guys though. Um, so the can tend to, It's because of the, the heavy amount of nerve endings, prostate. Okay. So that's where guys feel pleasure.
Shows rough. So it's kinda the same thing, like you're saying the nerve endings, it's not necessarily that there's like button, like a T button inside
your, but more along the lines of like, men do more, have a, have more of a button. And it is, it is the prostate. So we, we have one.
Let's hear more
please. So if you look at any anatomical model and you start to like go through, you can see where the prostate mm-hmm. This little like small. I mean, depending on who you are, it's gonna be differently sized. Yeah. But this small little circular piece that, uh, surrounds the urethra as you, as you go up the urethral canal, if you, the best way to get to it or the easiest way to access it through the anus.
Okay. Um, roughly a couple inches inside and on the anterior forward facing wall of the anus, you can push and you can feel it. Mm-hmm. Uh, for, for a lot. Men, not most men, but for a lot of men. Mm-hmm. Whenever that is stimulated, it stimulates some of the nerves in the area and it can create pleasure. Okay. So for a man whenever, or a penis owner mm-hmm. That does have a prostate, it's stimulated. It can feel very, very good
in the very fastest way. How can you explain her? Yes. How can you explain why a woman or why women don't have prostates and men do.
No, we're not. No. Now you're saying, okay, we're not, we're not going into how females form versus male form. That's not the purpose of this episode.
Ah, fine. I'm just saying, I was like, I know that women, obviously women don't have prostates. I, I understand that. They don't have the,
because Oh my God, you're asking me to go into an anatomy lesson and a physiology lesson that we're not gonna dive into right now. Bye. What we are gonna do is say males have penis owners, males, natural born males. Stays. Yeah. Natural born females do not have a prostate. They don't have the prostate.
Okay. Technically makes sense for a male to feel more, uh, pleasure from anal than maybe a woman could. What, what Technically, repeat that again. That a male could more pleasure from anal than a woman could. Pleasure is
subjective. That's true. There's lots of different things, but you
have a button pleasure in your butt hole that's like ready for it, and we don't have that button. That's not its purpose.
Well, but you're trying. I like, I get it. What you want to hear is that all men should have something in their ass, Casey.
Just do it. Jesus Christ, Casey.
Here's the thing, is that full disclosure, we've tried,
we haven't, you are not
for it. I I'm like anal massage. Yeah. Outside around the rim. That's fine. Yeah. You want to explore orally. That's fine. The second that we start going into penetration is not a good feeling. It is not for you, man. For me, I'm like, this is, this is not something I'm into. Did I not use enough lube? Right. Maybe. I dunno. Maybe.
Maybe I was just spitting on it too
much. But what it does bring up, um, for the, for that is that there's a question that we do tend to get and that we wanna clarify really quick, and this comes from a lot of males mm-hmm. Who have this stigma in their head that if they are to participate in any sort of anal play on themselves, it somehow makes them a homosexual. And that's flat out false. It's bullshit. No, there's.
Outdated. Dumb. Not dumb, but don't think
like that. That's a, that's that's a very backwards way of thinking. Yeah. Now, if you were somebody that enjoys anal penetration from someone of the same sex as you, then yes, you are gay. That's, could be fine, could be queer. That's fine. That's entirely okay. Yeah. But if you are a straight male, who is, I have a, a girlfriend, a wife, and I enjoy it whenever she penetrates me. Whether that be with fingers or tongue mm-hmm. Or through pegging or something like that. No, that does not make.
Yeah, and if you the fear like rest, easiness, you're a normal fucking human being
and you just like pleasure and that's okay. Just, you're just exploring. Pleasure. Pleasure. Okay. Yeah. Pleasure doesn't mean sexual identity. Orientation. It's just pleasure. Oh,
so let's see what other, what other prep things can we say for, for anal? Um, let's talk diet real quick. Yeah, yeah. We've had that question before. Mm-hmm. Hey, um, if we were looking to engage in anal this evening, how should I do? Maybe don't have a gigantic lunch.
Maybe don't have Mexican food for lunch. Yeah. Don't go
out and eat a
burrito. Have a salad, like a little Caesar salad with some water. You know, you just, you just want to kind of prep for it, um, because yeah, overeat. So bring up a little, the even like mental anxiety Yeah. On what could happen
and what mind most can actually generate more pain whenever you're trying Yeah. Because
you're not, you're not. Um, so, uh, diet is, is huge. Uh, there was one thing I was actually gonna write in our notes, and it was kind of saying uh, make sure that you're prepped. In the sense of this is what we want to do tonight, so we're gonna take precautions accordingly. Yeah. We're, we are not going to do something that's gonna make us too tired. We're not going to, or whatever the case you just wanna make sure that, in that like mental, um, state to receive. Mm-hmm.
And then also as a partner that's giving, you need to be in that mental state to give, but giving it in a way that's, Because you know when you're gonna have sex and then appointing to Casey that like, oh, I can go in there. I'm just gonna fuck the shit out of her. You're not having anal with me in that mindset, you're going the mindset. There's
more of a, like cautionary tale whenever it comes to anal, because you can't just go in and shove it in her as like, that's that's not how that works. Please don't. Yeah. If you've ever considered doing that, avoid that at all costs. The constant communication is key to successfully.
Yeah, and I just mean from the person that would be, uh, giving. Also be in the mindset of that I'm gonna be more gentler today. I'm gonna be softer. I'm not gonna ram it home. Yeah. I'm gonna, unless she's asking that have lube next to the bed, I'm gonna do these different things just to kind of set the
tone. Unless she's asking for it. Yeah. If she says, fuck it, then do it. Then do it. That's what it, she says, like, listen to your partner. If your partner is saying, no, go full force. Let's do this, then by all means, you now have a green light. But you do wanna be weary, and this is coming from a penis under perspective mm-hmm. Of being like, if we've tried anal, you do get that mindset of I don't want to hurt you.
Um, I'm trying to do this, like slow enough that you can relax and feel good. Mm-hmm. With like trying to restrain of being like, no, I'd like to go faster, a little deeper, but we don't really know how deep we can go. Yeah. Unless that communication is present of being like, no, you're okay. Mm-hmm. So having that kind of, even if it's just periodic of Light system. Mm-hmm. Like, where am I at? Go green light. Fucking go for it. Yeah. Oh, I mean, oh, yellow light and slow down.
I'm gonna be curious is, is it, would it be better as the penetrator to, to have that constant that's okay. That's okay. That's okay. Yeah, absolutely. That, would that
be like a turn off? That feels good. You can go, yes. Yeah. To be like working into your dirty
talk. Yeah, exactly. No, I love that idea. And I think the last time that we really did it in a point that I, like, I actually came from, it was when we were communicating. Time. See, because it, because I just feel like, like vaginal sex is almost, it's, it's understood, but like anal sex, like there, there's a lot of, um, layers that can happen to it. And there's a lot of areas. I just wanna make sure that communication is, is set and
ready. Yeah. We wanna make sure that we can all have successful anal sex. You don't wanna have something unsuccessful, so another one to pay attention to is, Penis owners, if you're very well endowed, it may not be does, you don't get to have anal. Yeah. It may not be a great idea to try it unless you're partner not on the card for you. Yeah. Your, unless your partner is just really ready for that kind of thing. We actually had a story Yeah. From that.
So we had, if you, if you heard a last episode with, with the Sylvia Sage, she talked a little bit about, uh, about anal sex on set and. Somebody that's very well endowed and how that can affect you for days after the actual event itself, for real. So that was a fun episode. That
was a really good episode, and if you have not listened to it, go back after you listened to this episode. And listen to it. It was one of my favorites that we've done so far. Yeah. Um, it was so cool to have her on and, and just her being a bigger name, um, that was intimidating, I'll be honest. And she's so fucking hot. So that was intimidating. And then she was also just very real, you know?
Yeah. Um, I loved, uh, going through and kind of doing like my research and being like, this is who we're talking to, and going through Graham and her TikTok and just seeing like, How hilarious and, and real she was like, it, it was refreshing.
But yeah. You made that a point in the episode of being like, you're, I
did. It's, yeah, and I hope that that wasn't like taken as like everyone says, but it was just, I've seen a lot of porn stars that when you look at it, you're like, that's a fucking porn star. God had understood her. I, I don't necessarily get that when I go through her stuff. It's just, it's just so relatable. Yeah. And, and so it was a really cool episode. It was really nice to talk with her. Um, and we're just gonna throw it out there.
Uh, if you're a porn star, Or a, a true adult film actress. That's true. So
that's something we actually are wanting to explore more of. Yes. Uh, adult film stars. Mm-hmm. And then even on to like only fann content creators for sure. Um, people that do this kind of thing as, as a source of income, as a career. Mm-hmm. We wanna have more conversations with you Please, because we are, one of the things we are doing is working more to normalize the conversation around sex work. Yes. Hundred. We wanna, we wanna show people. Times have changed.
Uh, but one of the things, one of the downsides to some of the older generations, or even the generation we're a part of mm-hmm. Is that things like sex work. Sex work are seen as. Um, ob, like highly objectified as there's no power in it. Mm-hmm. As you're being basically trafficked. And while that is true on some level, because that does exist in the world, there's a whole nother higher echelon Yeah. Of the industry in which people are allowed to take their power back.
Yes, and, and I think she even almost said something very similar and, and it is empowering, like we are fucking women and we are sexy. And for that power to give to, for that power to be given back the. Part of that back given back. Thank you. Thank you. Actually, yes. And, and that was my favorite part of the episode. I mean, she literally said that like when she started to, to where she is now, it is night and day and you said it perfectly.
We are really trying to separate that out from the concept of sex workers to just being, this is what I do and, and to be proud. And to not view them in such a negative light because times have changed. Yes. And, and video work now is huge and as popular couples are doing video work. Mm-hmm. I mean, look at people that are posting their stuff on PornHub now and getting like popular, are gaining popularity. Like Yeah. You
have a lot, lot of of amateur couples that are on there. Yes. That are like. As we just, we film ourselves. Mm-hmm. And we make it look great and we post it and we monetize it in some way, shape, or form. We have an only fans and we make six figures a month just from, because from this we're doing this. And then now, you know, they're learning how the business side of things work, how taxes work. I've heard so many horse. I earned $2 million. Uh, what do I do? Yeah, so that's been interesting.
So goals that should, should, that should be like a, a financial advisor's commercial.
We should have a financial advisor on here just for only fans. So you are financial advisor.
We're gonna tell you how to manage your money if you're a content creator.
Come find us, man. We'll help you out. Which actually, that's a,
that's a good, I mean, to me that's like a G That would be a great thing to do is be like, listen, you know who I help? All you motherfuckers out here who are making millions of dollars, oh you bitch. You're not only fans that are sitting here not realizing you're about to pay out the ass at the end of the year for taxes that you claim on. I know. I'm gonna show you how to monetize that in the best way as possible, how to. How to do all
of this is a business, right? All of that, I was advertisement all those outfits, just put all of that money into advertisement. I would be in heaven if all of my outfits could then be in tax deduction. New
shoes, tax deduction. Tax
deductible wore, depending on how big the heel was, I wore them on that one video. If the heel is not six inches or higher, it is not Tax's
deductibles. You wore it just one time on camera where you were like masturbating on camera Uhhuh, you can. That's,
but you're not able to wear it in normal settings. Huh? I can't wear eight inch heels in normal settings. I, this is
working. I can't wear that Caesar like
exactly like that wouldn't work
so bound to be, there's bound to be something to that. There has to be. Here's a G. You're gonna film yourself with a very nice car behind you in one scene. That car is now my work car. Yep. I'm gonna write that
off. We can help you out. Your sex room, the purchase your sex room, could be your home office. That's
where you're gonna be creating the content. It's
your home office, right? See, we're
here to help you. We're here to help learn how to create the content, which is actually what we're gonna talk about. I'm about to say. Why
don't we just fucking
dive in, in now. All right, so we've got another topic we're gonna discuss. It is the topic. This is the big topic. Yeah. So this one is how to make a porn.
Yeah, you are very fucking good at knowing how to make a porno. We have content for years, from years.
We have years we have currently private, uh, currently private stretching back to like about a decade. Sure. So, yeah, I keep it all safe. So
ask you, um, why were you drawn to then video between you and I like sexual video between you.
I think that was more of like, I hadn't done this before, really dove in mm-hmm. To like how to do it. So it was like, you know what, um, I enjoy receiving. Um, I enjoy having sex. How great would it be to go back and watch it later? Yeah, it's like a fucking highlight reel
from someone. Like, I'll be honest, all of the stuff that we have made over the years, I don't think I've actually gone back and viewed them. Well, I have
plenty, plenty of time. I
mean, I have seen some and, and there you've shared some with me and, and whatever, but. The importance of making these videos or with your partner? Like what was, I guess, I mean, I didn't say like, what was your to, but it was to, to then go back. It's
cause fucking hot. Yeah. In my head and like in my head I'm like, this, this is hot in the moment. This is sexy. This is amazing. I watch it later. I'm like, you know what? That's actually amazing. And then it became like, well, this is okay. Like in the moment I remember it being like, mm-hmm the visuals were great and the sounds were great. How can I recreate that? Like what can we do together to recreate that? So then it became, well, Do I shoot it on, like by my phone camera?
Or do I use a different camera? Do we need like
a, a, a stand, you know, like a Yeah.
Do I need a tripod Yeah. To do that, or should, so I, I started exploring. Mm-hmm. And what's interesting is that as I explored it, there was nothing out there. There's even now, like there's guides on how to, you know, film. Mm-hmm. But it's all centered towards other things. I have not found a good guide that's like how to make a porno. Yeah. And I wanna make one. Yeah. I wanna make like a concise. Precise guide that's that's a really good idea.
Here's how you film you and your partner, and here's how you make it look good. Mm-hmm. So it's still the same principles for filming and editing and all that, but it's geared towards people specifically looking to like how to make a sex tape. Oh yeah. Because like, what are some of the most popular sex tapes people have ever seen? Pam and Tommy Lee, or fucking uh, Kim Kardashian, which I've never
seen either of those, but
yeah, they're terrible. I've seen both of them. Fucking terrible. Really? That's shaky. Cameras and like, people just like it because there was a celebrity involved with it, right? Yeah. It's, they're not like amazing things that are put out there that are highly holy shit. Our videos are way better than theirs. Exactly. So that's what we wanna do, is we wanna help you. So let's talk about kind of how we do mm-hmm. Our process. The first thing is probably the mindset. That mental mindset.
Yeah. One of my biggest pieces of advice, uh, pieces of advice to someone that wants to film mm-hmm. Themselves and their partner having sex is to understand that. You usually with sex, you're in the moment, you're, you're connected, you're, you're doing all this awesome stuff whenever you're filming. If you're gonna do it from a place where you're like holding the phone or the camera, you kind of have to be in two places at once.
Yeah. Connected with your partner and also understanding that like, oh, I'm filming something. I need to make sure that. The shot is what I want it to be. Mm-hmm. I need to be where I'm at. Um, I can move back and forth between looking at the camera and looking at my partner and that can kind of take away from it. It can, and that's important to note, maybe this time that you have sex because you do have sex and you have all these times to be connected.
Maybe it's okay to be a little less connected in this moment. Mm-hmm. Understanding that you're doing something because you're gonna. Later and, and use it for, to turn yourself on or you and your partner on. Mm-hmm.
I mean, or you could pass it to your partner at that point. Be like, yeah. Hey, um, I said I'm a little too disconnected right now because I'm so focused on making sure that this is right. Why don't you take the camera and like's like point pass the camera. Yeah. And, but don't do that in the. Let them know pre Hey, if I hand you the camera or I hand you the phone, or whatever, that just means you take over for a second so I can get reconnected to the scene,
which would be super fun and playful in a threesome. Uh, yeah, I would, I could share that a little bit. Just passing the camera back. All right. Just
passing around everyone. No, you holding, now you holding, now y'all two do this.
That would also keep everybody kind of involved to make Yeah. Everyone feel as if they're all, you know, having a part in it. Cuz that's one of the common things we hear, right? Is that all, you don't take people six flags. Yeah. Yeah. You don't take three people to six flags and then Exactly. You know, it's. Tea cuts love
a rollercoaster. No, I love, right. No, I love that. Um, but, but even, yeah, just passing the baton, like passing it over, allowing yourself to get back into it. Because like you said, this isn't necessarily for the moment right now. Right.
It's, it's, it's more along the lines. It's later on. Enjoy it. Yeah. Have fun with it while you're there. Uh, but it's more for the viewing later to, for that arousal. So, speaking of
which ladies, When they're recording, don't make eye contact with them. You make eye contact with the camera. Let's make very clear. So if you're going down on him, you don't look into his eyes. Save that shit for another time. Look into the camera. Look into the camera, and just give it like one really big, long, like lick a little bit of a slap on the tongue because slap on the tongue, huh? Yeah, just a little because later. When they view that they're gonna laugh. Right, exactly. Oh, shit.
It, it just like brings it back full circle because then it almost like puts them in the memory of when it happened. Yeah. And, and then seeing it later, back in
video. There are things that you can take, we've already said this before, pornography is an act. It is performance art. Yeah. So if you can create a little bit of performance art in the bedroom while you guys are trying to make it, like pull yourself out of the, out of the sex for a second and be like, you know what? For who? This is a future me thing. Yeah. This is a future him thing. Let him see this in the future, and I'm gonna stare right at that fucking camera and start sucking. Mm-hmm.
Or, I mean, he's gonna be inside me. I'm gonna stare right at the camera and make it like look good. Yeah.
Because again, we know that you, it's being viewed again later on. So play with that.
Let that be your, your ideation of arousal. Yeah. I do that shit all the time. You understand that it's a future thing. So there there is, you can do whole handheld camera passing around all that. Mm-hmm. You can also choose to use a tripod. Mm-hmm. Um, which is fine. You just need to make sure that the positions that you get into are kind of camera in that. Yeah. So, and that's something we talked about with Sylvia Wright mm-hmm.
Is that she was talking about performance art and she was like, you know, sex outside of our, not behind in front of the camera, like you're. Doing the same thing. Yeah. You know, if I'm fucking you from behind, I'm not like putting you at a 45 degree angle. Right. Yeah. Is correct Dawn. Exactly. Yeah. But if there is a camera there, maybe choose some positions mm-hmm. That you can get into that are more camera facing, where you can see things like penetration. Mm-hmm. Or your partner's face.
Or even having it lower to say like, um, from behind, right? Like, you're fucking me from behind. You have a downward view. You don't have this upward scope. Right. You know, I couldn't
put the camera underneath
you, but in your legs and giving you as a penetrator a different visual perspective than you normally get to
have. Yes. Or we can put the camera in front of your face facing backwards. Mm-hmm.
So I see, so you get and TAs bounce the whole time. Exactly. Yeah. Cause you don't get to see my tatties bounce. Not
unless we're in a mirror. True.
What you lo uh, there, people ask me why there are so many mirrors in my bedroom. And I'm like, if you don't know then don't ask. If you
don't know, then podcast. Podcast don't know.
Yeah,
exactly. Leave us that nice review. Right?
Yeah. And, and so the other point that we're always also gonna bring up is like, set the tone again. We, we kind of said it earlier, but, but you're still setting the tone. Yeah. There's no difference. But ladies like, pick out what it is you want to wear. I always come
up with this. It's a fucking opportunity to like, I'm gonna put some outfits together.
Yeah. I'm gonna plan this. Maybe I'm gonna put my hair in space buns, maybe I'm gonna have my hair down, but I'm gonna put on glasses. Maybe I'm gonna have my hair right, but I'm gonna do red lipstick. It can be something as minimal as like just changing up what you would normally do in the, like the day to day. Yeah. Um, and it makes it a lot more playful and a lot more fun. And it also really, really helped you get into that like character because Oh, sure. When you're being filmed, ladies.
I mean, I guess maybe guys, this would be advice for you too, but like come up with a character who is that character that you're being when you're being recorded. Yeah, it should be someone different. If you enjoy like playing and being fun and flirtatious, have a person that this is who I am when I'm now going to be recorded. And they can have specific outfits and they can have a spec, a specific vocabulary. Um, and if
you need more information on that, go check out our episode on role. As, let's talk about more how to create your character and how to create, like, how to create your avatar and, and, and dive into a little bit more of their characteristics, how to embody that a and,
and then just keep in mind that it's just for fun guys. It's fun, it's playful. It's, that's,
that's like our rule number one, whenever comes to fun outside of our three Cs, Uhhuh is, don't take it too seriously. It's for fun. You can laugh. In fact, I will tell you this right now. Some of the sexiest thing that you can do as a. Is be playful, is I not. Laugh at your part, laugh about the situation, and have fun with it, and smile, giggle, and do these things that create comfort in the shit by being, creating comfort in this scenario. Mm-hmm.
It opens them up to being more vulnerable about their pleasures, what they want.
Well, I mean, to be honest, I remember us earlier on and me being like a little bit more playful. Yeah. And. And I remember you made this comment like years ago, and we record a lot of head videos. I'm pretty sure Casey has more head videos than any other in his phone. Um, don't
hack my phone. Like,
don't, don't literally all you're gonna see is me giving Casey head. Um, but I remember there was a point that y. Your favorite parts in the videos. Were looking back later on and I have to do like dumb commentary between or do Sure. Something playful between, but I do remember beginning it wasn't necessarily like that. It was kind of like, okay, not all. Yeah. And adapting this like more playfulness and, and then we just recorded all of it instead of like, I remember you used to pause it.
You know, if I we start talking, you're starting to do some
of like, let's stop it and make another one. Exactly. We'll splice those together now. It's like, no, fucking leave the camera rolling and have fun.
And it's just so funny to me because that was something that evolved over time was for you to be like, it's, it's really funny. Going through and looking at these videos and some of the like jokes that we make in between, we're, we're just as a part of it as it was like, you actually giving me head because it's a part of not taking yourself so. I don't care that I'm on camera.
I may pause for a second and make some jokes and like smack his dick around and play or whatever, you know, but I'm not taking it so serious. And that's the, the. Trying to make is that this is just for fun. This is just for you and him, and if you are actually making only cool fucking lighting, multiple, multiple cameras, what going back and forth, like there's a way to make it to where you can like have this in-home sex tape created and you can
have versions of that. We're backing up a second because. Most important things to me whenever we're doing this, that creates like the atmosphere is the lighting. Mm-hmm. For sure. Like that for me is I, I have to have that right. Yeah. Because if you ha when once you are exposed to like having good lighting versus not having lighting and you see the difference, you're like, holy shit, this is like night and fucking day. Mm-hmm.
So, That's gonna be, I'm gonna take a second to explain what good lighting looks like. Yes. Whenever you're setting this up, um, a understand that whenever you're in a room and you set up your camera, For me, this is personal preference. Wherever my camera's at, I want to have some like soft lighting in the background, like a visible soft lighting. And I don't remember the fucking name for it right now, but it's like whenever it's natural back lighting? No. Oh no, not at all.
Oh, like it's like a natural lighting that exists and like, it's like practical lighting. Okay. Is what it is. So you can take a lamp or you can take whatever you want and put it back behind the person still in view and turn that on. There is, you can buy for 15, 20 bucks at a hardware store, um, a smart light that connects to your phone to where you can change the temperature of it, you can change the color of it. Mm-hmm.
And it's a super, super cheap and effective way to create that like practical light in the back. Yeah. To where it's just visible in the shot. Do that, and I promise you, you're already gonna see a bit of a difference. Mm-hmm. The next thing that you have to do is you need to have a light that shine kind of brightens up the person's face. So where you can actually see detail. One of the worst things that I've seen whenever we have tried to film mm-hmm.
Is that if we have like super, like consistent lighting across a per across you. Oh, okay. Yeah. It's, it becomes all muddled. Yeah. So now to me, I'm like, I wanna be able to see things like, Lubricant saliva. Oh, okay. I see what you're saying. Like grl, all this kind of stuff. Mm-hmm. I wanna be able to see that kind of thing. So we'll usually take, um, a light from behind where the camera is at and kind of put it like 45. Like focus it on, yeah. We'll put it like 45 degrees mm-hmm.
To where the camera is actually at. Yeah. And then focus it on the per. Kind of make a little bit of a wider light. Mm-hmm. To where you can actually start to see contrast and see d different shades of things and you can actually see more of the person. And then the back of the background all still remains that kind of like dimmer. Mm-hmm. Like natural, sexy lighting that you
might be checking. So what about like natural light? Because we have that like circle chair. Yeah. And in our bedroom we have those like big, uh, wicker style circle chairs that I blow you in pretty often. And then we have natural light that comes in from behind. Yes. What is your opinion on natural light?
Then do that. Okay. Like if you can get that esp, so on. We have an unfair advantage there. I know we have. Three windows. It's so perfect that come right in from behind that chair. They knew what they
were doing when they built that master bedroom.
If it's, if it's the middle of the day Yeah. And there's natural lighting coming in from outside, just use that. Yeah, that works
perfectly fine. Well, because it actually works perfect like you're saying, because then the back room is actually a little bit dimmer. Yep. And then the four, like the focal point, the is is
lit. Yeah. Yes. So we try to create that. Able to see the person that we're en engaging with. Mm-hmm. And that helps a lot. And then of course, try to, you can always edit like the size of your shot afterwards. Yeah. But this a personal thing. Mm-hmm. It's not very sexy for me to like, watch a video of us having sex. Are you going down on me? Mm-hmm. And all I see is like my chest and stomach. Yeah. Sitting there. Mm-hmm. Or like such a far away shot that I'm like, Like me. Yeah, that's fair.
I want to, if you don't wanna masturbate to just
you. Exactly. So try to play around with the angles a little bit. Find something that is a good angle. Mm-hmm. You'll mess with it being, you know, higher above your head and further back so you can get a good view of your partner versus from the side or from the back. If it's gonna be like, you know, say that I'm on top of you and we have the camera behind us, not fit up front. Like from our backside to where you can see like penetrations, stuff like that.
Just make sure it's a, it's an angle that's gonna play well with you both. And play around and find it. Yeah. And then after the fact you can always crop things. Oh my God.
Or just make notes like, Hey, this didn't work this next time we're gonna try this. You're gonna find what works for you. And also understand like, Outside lighting plays a huge factor. Yes. So this time of day works really well for this lighting and this time of day works really well for this lighting. Like just keep track of it. Yeah. And you're really able to go through and like make your own pornos, edit them together. Uh, my favorite video editing app is just, uh, Cape Cut.
I don't know, it's, it's on my, my phone, but it's a C A P C U T. Yeah. And I use that for all editing. Um, and honestly it works great and you can even go through and clip out. A bunch of different videos and then put them together like your own little, what do they call it? Uh uh, what's it called?
No, go ahead, please
figure it out. It doesn't fucking matter anyway. Shoot some porn with your spouse and send it to us. You know, like it's, it's fun guys. Don't take it so serious. That's really the biggest point. Find your lighting, find your timing. Yeah. Ladies, find your
outfits. It's the easiest thing that you can do. Find some lighting and then you can just use, you can use your phone if
you want to. Where, where did you keep all of these
videos of us? Um, I keep these at a, like a private album. So depending on the software that you're using mm-hmm. If you want to keep them on own, either download and pay for like a password, one of those protected
Yeah, that's what I was gonna say.
Like, or remove them from your phone and put 'em on like a separate hard drive on your computer. Yeah.
Just be careful when. These videos. Um, but, you know, there would be no different to me than us sitting down and at night watching porn together and, and playing with each other, or instead sitting down and watching our own videos. Yeah. Playing together.
Yeah. There's lots of ways that you can do it. Yep. But there's, there'll be plenty more. We have, we have people kind of. In line that are wanna talk with us about this kind of stuff. Mm-hmm. I would love to sit down with a videographer who could be like, Hey, listen, here's keeping this through those. Yeah. And here's things that you can do, because one of the hardest things about doing all this is that you are the participant as well as the person behind the camera.
Yeah. So you can't exactly be directing yourself. Mm-hmm. As it's happening. You kind of have to get things set up pre Yeah. Before you start even filming. Test it around a little bit, and that's one of the reasons why we say be playful is because if you look over and it's like a forward facing camera and you're like, well, this looks fucking weird. Oh, there I am. Y y'all can laugh about it and be like, Hey wait, stop for a second. We need to change the camera around.
Yeah. So go out, make your own pornos and send them to us. I feel like we got that message across and send them.
I'm sorry, I'm just
being an ass. You have so far asked for titty pictures. Yeah. You've asked for plenty of news, Uhhuh, and you've, you're now asking for people to send amateur videos to you. Correct. How many of you received from any listeners? None. Exactly. This is bullshit. You keep asking.
Ask and one day you shall receive.
Uh, you know what? Honestly, it's always a no until you ask. We know that. Exactly. And
I am an asker. I'll one
of one these days in our email, like I know. And you're, we're gonna be like, Godammit, Carrie, wait. I'm gonna open up, come with casey gmail.com. I'm gonna open that up.
Yeah. Again, it's cum. No,
it's just gonna be like clips and be like, oh shit. Okay. People are, Exactly. So we'll rate 'em for you. We'll let you know. We'll give you tips, advice,
we'll send you a gift. We're making mugs soon.
We have things done. Mugs, t-shirts, coozies. Anyway, so in the works. Anyway, yes. For another episode of Come With Casey. This has been fun. I've actually, I've enjoyed this topic. We've had some fun today. Yeah, go celebrate National Anal Day today. Yes. And uh, we're gonna see you next time here at, come with Casey.