Don't be afraid to fail big. But who gets to fail without real consequences? And how do we recover from life's most disappointing moments? Today we discuss some of our failures, our feelings about them, and how we've learned to cultivate resilience through building our internal "toolbox" of skills and practices.http://kindredspodcast.com/2018/07/18/episode-22-resilience-and-overcoming-fear-of-failure/What We're Reading and Listening ToAshley has been watching the Queer Eye reboot on Netflix. Jon...
Jul 18, 2018•48 min
Pain is personal. But what happens when our pain isn’t taken seriously? We dive into the dynamics of pain, gender, and the medical community, and we address how this impacts women of color particularly. We talk specifically about childbirth and pain more generally–and the messages we got as kids about “making a fuss” over our ailments.Read the full show notes at:http://kindredspodcast.com/2018/07/03/episode-21-women-and-pain/**Have you pledged to support Kindreds on our Patreon page? You can sig...
Jul 03, 2018•52 min
Ashley and Katey are back together again! To celebrate our 20th episode Ashley is busy creating a custom Kindreds playlist on Spotify and Amazon Prime to share with our listeners. As a special treat for our Patreon supporters, we'll make the playlist available two weeks early. Not a patron yet? It's so easy to sign up. Head over to our Patreon page and sign up. http://patreon.com/kindreds We're really grateful for our friends over at the Pulpit Fiction podcast who are having accessible conversat...
Jun 24, 2018•46 min
Katey speaks with filmmaker and journalist Asha Dahya about her upcoming documentary series Life At All Costs: Going Beyond Pro Choice vs. Pro Life. We talk about her faith journey from evangelicalism to spiritual searching and how that shapes her work around changing the conversation around reproductive health and rights.Asha Dahya is a journalist, a filmmaker, and the Content Creator and Editor-in-Chief of GirlTalkHQ, a daily women’s news media site with a mission to inspire and empower, and t...
Jun 04, 2018•51 min
After a brief life update from Ashley (she's coming back to the podcast soon!) Katey talks with Cari Jackson about what to do when we long for spiritual community but have trouble finding a place where we fit in. Cari offers some ideas for how to begin creating community on our own, and we even touch on the Beyoncé Mass briefly.Rev. Dr. Cari Jackson is the author of five books, a speaker, a social healer, and a leadership coach. Cari is ordained minister, holds PhD in social ethics, and also has...
May 14, 2018•54 min
Katey joins author Rachel Marie Stone to discuss her latest book Birthing Hope: Giving Fear to the Light. We examine the simultaneous discomfort and the awe we feel about how in the act of giving birth, we touch death as we bring new life into the world. We discuss the ways that the medicalization of birth has changed the ways that we think about birth, the importance of affirming women's self-knowledge of their own bodies, and the ways that birth can teach us about the nature of God.Rachel is t...
Apr 23, 2018•1 hr 5 min
On this episode Katey sits down with author Erin Lane about her decision to take a year-long sabbatical, what responsibility she feels for the time, and what lessons--like celebrating small victories--she has learned that we all can incorporate into our lives, whether or not we can take a year off from paid work.Erin is the author of Lessons in Belonging from a Church-Going Commitment Phobe and the co-editor of Talking Taboo: American Christian Women Get Frank About Faith (Katey has a chapter in...
Apr 03, 2018•1 hr 1 min
We interview advocate Ashley Easter about her upbringing in the stay-at-home daughter movement, how reading scripture on her own paved the way for her to leave fundamentalism, and how she works to end abuse in all forms, both within the walls of the church and beyond.Ashley is a writer, speaker, and a powerful advocate for survivors of abuse, especially those who have been abused by leaders within their faith communities. She is the author of The Courage Coach: A Practical, Friendly Guide on How...
Mar 15, 2018•39 min
We talk with writer Cindy Brandt about her shifting faith journey, identifying as a feminist, and approaching parenting in an unfundamentalist way. Cindy is the author of an upcoming book on parenting from a progressive Christian perspective. Her website is cindywords.com where she blogs about faith, culture, and parenting. She’s the founder of the Raising Children Unfundamentalist Facebook Group which has over 11K members. She describes herself as “a social justice Christian and a feminist more...
Mar 01, 2018•43 min
In honor of Valentine’s Day–and all of its baggage–Katey and her special co-host Matt (Katey’s husband of nearly five years) discuss what it means to be married. We talk about our failures in past relationships and how they inform our partnership today. We discuss how parenting has changed our relationship and how Matt’s background in psychology has helped us work through some of our toughest moments.If any relationship–romantic, professional, familial, and friendly–is going to be healthy and su...
Feb 15, 2018•36 min
We take a brief hiatus from our month off from recording to talk about what has been going on behind the scenes with the podcast! We talk about why we decided to make a podcast, the ins-and-outs of how we put each episode together, and how our listeners can help us out by supporting our brand-new Patreon page at patreon.com/kindreds. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Feb 05, 2018•13 min
In this longer, year-end episode, we continue our conversation about bodies--but this time we're talking about pregnancy. And one of us makes a big announcement!Pregnancy can be a complicated experience, even when it's planned and even when there are no major physical complications. We talk about the weird ways that pregnancy changes not only our bodies, but also our mental and emotional lives. If that wasn't enough to deal with, pregnancy and childbirth can be very costly depending on where you...
Dec 19, 2017•57 min
We discuss the complicated and often toxic diet, fitness, and "wellness" culture that feeds us the myth that in order to be our best selves, we have to lose weight, get into shape, and achieve our dream bodies.In our pursuits to be "healthy" (meaning thin), we end up doing a lot of unhealthy (and expensive) things! Plus we don't even have a shared understanding of what healthy means--not even among medical professionals. We attach all kinds of character attributes to the way our bodies look and ...
Dec 07, 2017•48 min
In a follow-up to Episode 2 "Self-Care as Self-Preservation," we take on the topic of mental health. It’s something most of know we need to pay attention to in our own lives, and yet there are a lot of barriers to accessing quality care, especially when we need it most. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Nov 27, 2017•39 min
What does it mean to live in the world as white Christian women? We resist the urge to turn away from the discomfort of talking about whiteness and dive into the very real privileges of living as white people. We discuss white culture, the problem of "colorblindness," the system of white supremacy, and what our white faith communities have to say about race. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Nov 01, 2017•44 min
What does it mean to bear the burden of emotional labor? This unpaid, unending work falls disproportionately to women, and it can be hard to define because it depends on the context. At work emotional labor includes adjusting the expressions of your emotions to benefit a colleague or client in a positive way (i.e. “service with a smile"). In relationships it can mean engaging in intensive conversations with friends and loved ones, listening to their problems, being in charge of hosting people wh...
Oct 16, 2017•33 min
What are the dating dos and don'ts that single people are expected to follow if they're part of a church community? We discuss the experience of dating while Christian, specifically in the more conservative and evangelical world that we grew up in. We pay particular attention to the troubling double standards for men and women that we were taught as young people. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Sep 26, 2017•37 min
Can women get along with each other? Whether it’s in the workplace, in friendship, or in church, we’re often told that women are incapable of working well with each other. Is there something to this generalization or is it more of a self-fulfilling prophecy? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Sep 06, 2017•31 min
Do you identify as a feminist? If so, what does that mean? We challenge the idea of “choice feminism” while discussing our personal struggles with decisions we’ve made that might not be perceived as “feminist.” Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jul 19, 2017•34 min
What’s behind the “modesty rules” for dress in schools and faith communities? How do these explicit and implicit rules impact boys and girls? What about for people of color and those who identify as genderqueer? We explore our curiosities around the gender of clothing and its broader cultural implications. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jul 19, 2017•29 min
Should I have a kid? Can I have a kid? We dive into the complex questions surrounding the decision-making process of how we create our families. We also lift up the many barriers and injustices that prevent people from being able to make these decisions freely. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jul 19, 2017•30 min
Does self-care have to cost a lot of money? Does it have to be practiced in solitude? We discuss the guilt and insecurities we feel when we don’t know how to meet our own needs--and offer up some practices that have helped us learn to do just that. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jul 19, 2017•30 min
When we call a girl “bossy” or a woman “intimidating” what are we really communicating to and about her? We talk about the importance of raising girls up as leaders, both within their faith communities and outside of them. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jul 19, 2017•29 min
