5 Ways To Help Your Teen Keep teaching. Keep protecting. Raise expectations; don't lower them. A teen who can't work, can't clean, is not polite, won't speak when spoken too — is crippled for life
How can we develop a grateful home? 1) Model gratitude by being heart thankful. (It’s a heart matter and a choice.) 2) Model gratitude in our gratefulness to God. (Site verses from previous episode) What has Christ done for you? Count your many blessings! Psalm 68:19, “Blessed be the Lord, Who daily loadeth us with benefits, even the God of our salvation. Selah.” 3) Model gratitude in our gratefulness for our spouse, family, and others. Some “Instigators of Ingratitude,” according to Choosing Gr...
GRATITUDE STARTS AT HOME Colossians 3:14-15 “And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful.” Right before Paul speaks to the family in Col. 3:18-21, he calls on them to Love each other Let peace rule Learn to be Thankful This passage in Colossians is a reflection of what Paul wrote to the Ephesians in Ephesians 5:20, “Giving Thanks always for all things unt...
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Part 2 4. Insist on happy compliance If your child is not happy when you correct them, discipline is needed If your child will not comply when you speak to them, discipline is needed If you cannot take them to an event because they won’t behave, discipline is needed If this is an exception, then you are on the right path If this is the norm, then you are not 5. Speak softly, directly, specifically, and only once When you have to reason with a toddler, you are teaching them to comply only if they...
Suggestions for Training Toddlers (Part 1) Prepare for the long haul, but get started. This is a beginning and it will take adulthood before you are officially done It is always easier to correct a child while they are younger Correct every selfish and willful act Do it every time - even if it is awkward and difficult In a church auditorium In a store Refuse the temptation to let it go Never assume a child will be better when they are older They won’t unless they are taught and corrected Discipl...
Five Ways to Damage Your Marriage Review from Episode 233 Neglect it - again Treat each other disrespectfully - again Separate from each other as much as possible This week... 4. Resist our God given responsibilities Husbands have to perfect love Wives have to master submission 5. Fail to kiss and make-out This can be a challenge because life is so busy Don't stop working at it Kiss goodbye Kiss hello Kiss goodnight Kiss for no reason Making out takes some time Slow down and focus on each other ...
Five Ways to Damage Your Marriage (Part 1) 1. Neglect it - again Neglect occurs over a process of time Neglect always diminishes value Failure to invest over a process of time erodes our marriages 2. Treat each other disrespectfully - again When we aren’t kind When we are rude When we never express love 3. Separate from each other as much as possible Think me and not we If you are always heading in different directions, your marriage will suffer If you never take the time to talk, your marriage ...
Christian Womanhood It involves cultivating selflessness She is warm Safe and trustworthy v. 11-12 Good - agreeable, pleasant, better (root is joyful and delightful) Illustration “You’re better than that” Don’t allow issues to turn you into a hard, cold, sarcastic, eye-rolling wife) Financially - no need of spoil Personally - does good and not evil Be careful that the familiar does not become an irritation Deeply - “good and not evil” Can He share? When and how he wants to share? Romantically - ...
What does Biblical Womanhood Look Like? Consider the word virtuous It involves cultivating strength Virtuous is Strong in purity, chastity, and righteousness Modern dictionaries get it all wrong One strives to be virtuous to appear to be better than others Bible- it doesn’t make you better but priceless Dictionaries: Collins - to do what is expected and feeling pleased with themselves, perhaps too pleased Cambridge - Thinks oneself morally better than others, only does good so he can feel virtuo...
Dave and Bethlie's youngest child, Charity Young, joins them for this episode. As 15 year old young lady, how did God speak to Charity recently when she read through Proverbs 31? Listen, and enjoy!
Proverbs 31:1-9 Verse 1 Taught = to chasten, discipline, instruct, admonish Verse 3 Stay away from women because they destroy kings This is counsel which Solomon in later years chose to ignore Verse 4-9 Stay away from alcohol Kings shouldn’t drink the stuff They can cause you to forget the law they can cause you to pervert judgment Alcohol use should be reserved only for those who need it Someone who is dying Someone who is bitterly ill Keep away from it so you can be a wise leader...
Part 3 We want our children to have good appetites. Appetites for eternal things over earthly things God's Word God' Love Diligence Faithfulness Character Integrity Family We want our children to be successful adults Prepared All ready going that way before they get there Parenting is intended to teach our teens to parent themselves Know where you are taking your kids Give them opportunities to prove they are getting there...
Part 2 The goals we should have according to the verse We want our children to have good behavior. This idea shows up especially in the early chapters Listen to our commands Heed our laws Do right and pursue wisdom Teach them to obey Expectation Communication Follow-through Correction (Proverbs 13:24, 19:18, 22:15, 23:13-14, 29:15,17)
We Must Emphasize Training Proverbs 22:6 Recap of our study through Proverbs: Chapters 1-9 are about his training of his own son. Chapters 10-31 contain truth about areas we should emphasize. 5 Reasons It Is Right To Emphasize Training It is a word from Solomon, - known for His God-given wisdom. It is the Word of God by the Holy Spirit and it is therefore profitable for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness. It is based on the truth of sowing and reaping. It is simply a summa...
We must emphasize the dangers of alcohol We understand this is a debated matter All of us agree that drunkenness is wrong Drunkenness is when alcohol is altering our God given faculties It controls our emotions It controls our reactions 2. We understand that this is a problem area 3. We believe it is an easy matter All of us agree that we are wrong when alcohol is damaging our life and the lives of those around us Solomon’s main point over and over again is that alcohol is dangerous and should b...
The Dangers of Anger We just emphasize the dangers of anger Here are the main verses in Proverbs dealing with anger: 12:16 A fool's wrath is presently known; but a prudent man coverth shame 14:29 He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly 14:17 He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: and a man of wicked devices is hated. 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger 16:23 He that is slow to anger is better than the...
1) Counsel Is Important Proverbs 11:14 Lack of counsel = a fall Lots of counsel = protection Proverbs 12:15 It is foolish to act on your own It is wise to heed counsel Proverbs 15:22 Lack of counsel damages plans Lots of counsel established them Provers 20:5 Counsel is available It has to be found "on purpose" Proverbs 20:15 Greater undertakings demand greater counsel Greater undertakings are successful by counsel 2) Counsel Requires Teachability I should be willing to learn It is a heart matter...
We must continually protect our children from foolish influences. 1) Internet Only when supervised Not just for fun Not just because they're bored Use Gryphon Use Covenant Eyes Frequently check phones and computer history Keept it random Make it a surprise 2) Social Media None is always best How to do it? Get other parents to join you Get your school on board Teach your children to stand alone What to do if you do it? Make it a rite of passage Sign an agreement Write a paper Read a book My Tech-...
Dave and Bethlie continue their study in Proverbs. This week, they'll continue their focus on Influences That Kill with a special focus on friendships . We must protect our children from lousy friends. The Simple (they lack wisdom) The Fool (makes fun of sin; ridicules righteousness) Lousy friends can quickly undo everything we teach our children Better to have no friends than to have lousy ones Amnon (Old Testament) had a friend and it eventually cost him his life A good friend does right and h...
In this episode, Dave and Bethlie discuss the importance of godly and positive influences in the family. They emphasize the need to shield children and ourselves from negative, harmful influences. Proverbs 13:20 We must emphasize the blessings and dangers of influence. Proverbs 1:11-19 Proverbs 9:6 The best influences are those that impart righteousness and wisdom.
Dave and Bethlie discuss words that destroy marriage from Proverbs 12. Our words can do massive damage: When we speak in "never" and "always" When we are mean. When we make broad assumptions. Beware of the "norms" in our society Sarcasm Belittling Negativity Unkindness Rudeness Determine to be different by: Gratitude is healthy Kindness is healthy Sincerity is healthy Gentleness is healthy Respect is healthy...
Proverbs 11 Teaching our children to have Integrity What it is? It is honesty v. 1 The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles that one refuses to change (Cambridge Online Dictionary) Think of Joseph and Potiphar’s wife Think of Daniel and his three friends in Daniel 1 And again in Daniel 3 when they wouldn’t bow to the false god And again in Daniel 6 when Daniel prayed even though it meant death This was an old command reiterated by Solomon Deuteronomy 25:12-14 Proverbs 16:11...
Part 4 Solomon is writing about how to pursue happiness and success- especially in our families How do we get there? We must emphasize God’s blessings v. 22 We should believe in God’s blessings v. 25 HE gives an everlasting foundation v. 27 He prolongs days v. 28. He gives gladness V. 29 His way gives strength 28:20 a faithful man shall abound with blessings Psalm 107:38 Genesis 12:2; 13:2; 24:35 We should desire God’s blessings Sometimes they are material/physical Deuteronomy 8:17-18 We work fo...
In part 3 of this series we see that Solomon is writing about how to pursue happiness and success specifically in our families. Question: How do we get there? We must emphasize diligence (Proverbs 10:4-5; 16) The word Sharp pointed Trench - in the sense of dug A massive amount of difficult work Time consuming Physically exhausting Gold - int he sense of mined Figuratively - determination, eagerness Gain requires forethought - diligently A harvest is an involved process Preparing the soil Prepari...
Happy Family Life: Christian Parenting Tips and Bible Insights! Proverbs 10 continued... Practically, what does it take to have a happy life and a happy family? 1) It takes righteousness v2-3; 6-7; 11; 16;19-21; 24-25; 28; 30-32 Righteousness in our treasures v.2 Righteousness in our dealing with people v. 11-12 Righteousness in our work v. 16 Righteousness in our words v. 19-22 How do you incorporate righteousness in your life? What is right? What does the Bible say? What would be the right res...
We're really excited to dive into Proverbs 10! The US Constitution says that everyone has the right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. life is a right liberty is a right happiness is not, it is the pursuit of it and that is a right It seems that Solomon is writing about how to pursue happiness. vs 1 Having a wise son brings gladness and avoids heaviness Get ready for an exciting series!
Join Dave and Bethlie as they close this 3 part series on Teaching Your Children To Embrace Wisdom out of Proverbs 8 and 9. Proverbs 8:32 What is the value of wisdom? (Find point 1-3 in Episode 212) 4. It brings blessings to our lives Proverbs 8:32-36 5. Reminds us that God and wisdom are ETERNALLY connected (vs. 22-31) You don't have one without the other Folly damages and destroys Wisdom builds and strengthens and lasts Proverbs 9 Wisdom is better than folly Wisdom takes time (vs. 1) She has b...
Dave and Bethlie continue in Proverbs 8 as we learn to help our children embrace wisdom. Proverbs 8:7-11 Do a wisdom check Think about and choose things that are excellent Think about and choose things that are right Think about and choose things that are true What is the value of wisdom? It teaches us to hate evil (vs. 12-13) It is not enough to know what evil is We must learn to hate it... It teaches us how to lead (vs. 14-16) It teaches us how to be wealthy (vs. 18-21) Wealth is tricky in our...
Dave and special guest Charity Young (Dave and Bethlie's youngest daughter) share the traditions that the Young family have shared over the years. Enjoy!
