We all want to feel special, but many of us try to feel special using tactics that isolate us from people. It doesn't have to be that way. There are many ways of feeling special that make it hard for us to have deep relationships with people. In this episode, Kate introduces a model of bad behaviours that we can use to see where we are going wrong. And she teaches the one thing you need to do to feel special without being a jerk.
How to create or amplify your charisma. Most people spend a lot of time thinking about how to be influential. And we know part of that is charisma. But we may not know how to create our own charisma. In this episode, Kate talks about what lies at the heart of charisma and leadership presence.
We find it easier to love ourselves and other people when we cultivate two surprising attitudes: Unconditional Positive Regard and Unconditional Compassionate Disregard. What are these attitudes and how do they help? Kate explains. Carl Rogers and Alfred Adler, two giants in the field of modern psychotherapy offer two different tools that when combined create a powerful recipe for healthy and loving relationships: unconditional positive regard and allocation of tasks. In this episode, Kate discu...
Self-care is about taking care of yourself, but what does that really mean? How do you distinguish self-care from self-indulgence, selfishness, or self-soothing? What do you think of when you think of self-care? In this episode, Kate presents an approach to self-care that takes will help you take care of yourself in this moment in ways that nurture and support your future.
What is it about mindfulness that makes it so popular and what can it really help with? What is mindfulness and why do so many people talk about mindfulness for leaders? What is the difference between mindfulness and meditation? Why might someone want to become more mindful? In this episode, Kate discusses the practice and theory of mindfulness and talks about what becomes possible once you have started practicing.
Most of us have voices in our head that tell us we shouldn't do things. When this voice prevents us from doing the things that will make us happy, we need tools to work with or around it. We all have thoughts, habits, and fears that hold us back. The ones that show up when we want to try something new often say we aren't good enough, can't handle it, will lose friends if we do, or might fail. Some of them sound so sensible and rational that it is hard to believe that they aren't telly us the tru...
These 5 things are all necessary in order for you to feel like you are thriving. If you are missing any one, you will have a feeling that something is missing even if you can't identify it. In this episode, Kate discusses the 5 elements of thriving, aka GAMER. With this framework, you can examine your life and identify what it is that is missing. That knowledge will give you the power to do something about it. As always, Kate includes some tips about practical things you can do to increase your ...
When we have big ambitions, the gap between where we are and where we want to be can feel overwhelming. Here are some tips on how to manage that gap. When we have been ambitions and are frustrated by how far away they feel, well-meaning friends or counsellors may suggest that we lower our standards or set smaller goals. But that never works. Our dreams and ambitions are what keep us going. They are what get us up in the morning. We have to take them seriously and honour them if we want to feel a...
Cultivating curiosity about ourselves enables us to interact more authentically in all situations. It isn't always easy to be curious about ourselves. Maybe we don't want to see the places we fall short of our intentions or goals and maybe we resist claiming how we excel. In either case, learning to gently and compassionately become aware of ourselves is a journey. In this episode, Kate Arms explores how we can ease into greater self-awareness and cultivate curiosity.
Learning to handle fear, shame, and resistance is crucial for effective self-leadership. Every time we start something new, we experience fear and resistance, and sometimes we feel shame as well. Learning to handle fear, shame, and resistance is crucial for effective self-leadership. In this episode, Kate Arms discusses why fear and shame arise and offers several tools for dealing with them.
Many people believe that asking for help is a form of weakness, when in fact, the opposite is true. Effective people know how to ask for help. In this episode, Kate Arms discusses why asking for help is a crucial skill, why it can be hard to master, how to do it well, and how to practice.
Making the shift from being highly reactive to being the leader of your life AS a highly-sensitive or intense person creates a greater sense of ease and competence. Highly-sensitive people often get the message from the world that there is something wrong with them or that they are out of control. Developing self-leadership skills combats those messages and gives you the ability to use your sensitivity as a superpower.
How do you know which changes to make in your life if you don’t know what you want? What can you do to start the process of forming a vision? Kate Arms talks about why some people have difficulty finding a vision and provides a few options for how to proceed. It can be extremely frustrating to know that you aren’t happy with your life without knowing what needs to change. Coaches often ask clients “What do you want?” or “How will you know that we’ve accomplished your goals for coaching?” This vi...
High-stakes conversations take more preparation and greater skill than low-stakes conversations. How do you recognize a high-stakes conversation? It is easier to practice self-leadership in low-stakes situations than in high-stakes conversations. High-stakes conversations take more preparation and greater skill. In this episode, Kate Arms addresses how to tell the difference.
Cultivating the mindset of self-leadership is the starting point for developing all the other self-leadership skills. In this episode, Kate Arms describes the mindset of conscious self-leadership, explains what happens when people develop a self-leadership mindset, discusses how to develop it, and teaches one tool you can start using immediately.
Kate Arms, CEO and Lead Coach at Signal Fire Coaching introduces herself and talks about the ways Kate's Nuggets can help you develop your self-leadership skills. Self-leadership is at the heart of being effective in challenging situations. Without self-control, self-command, self-awareness, and the courage to be who you are, it is difficult to achieve any of the goals that make life worthwhile. Listen to Kate's Nuggets regularly for tips and tools and encouragement as you learn to apply the too...
