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Just Say This! How to talk with ALL kids about sex!

Are you dragging your feet about having the sex talks? Do you wish someone would just tell you what to say to your kid about this important part of life? You are in the right place. Whether your kid is neurotypical or neurodivergent, I've got ya. I’m Amy Lang, a sex and parent educator, and in my frank (really frank), opinionated, and full-of-swears-advice-column style parenting podcast, I answer real questions from real parents about the talks. I also provide topic-specific scripts so you can sound like a pro. Most episodes are a potluck of questions that run the gamut from abortion to porn and everything in between. They need to know about all of these things by the time they start middle school.* When you have no idea about the best age to start the birds and bees talks; what’s age appropriate; and what to actually SAY to them about sex, it makes the sex talks daunting (to say the least)! When it comes to the sex talks, keeping it sex-positive, light, and fact-based is key to getting them to listen to you and see you as their go-to birds and bees source. Just Say This can help you make this happen. To record a question for me to answer in a later show (even if you think it’s a stupid one) call 206-926-1522.* I love funny sex talk stories, too. So feel free to call those in, too. + IG @BirdsBeesKids + FB @BirdsBeesKids + BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com *In middle school they talk about everything so it’s better (and safer) for your kid to be super-well informed so that they feel confident and smart as things get so real. Do you remember middle school? Wouldn’t it have been so much better if you had known everything? Or anything? **Not a thing.

Episodes

So long and thanks for all the calls! Plus 20 tips for the sex talks from Sex Talks with Tweens -- Episode 200

Hiya! Here are a bunch of ways you can stay in touch with me! Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Resources Birds & Bees & Kids Bookstore is here . My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention, and even some videos you can watch with your kids. Sign up for my newsletter and get 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks – Birds & Bees & Kids . You’ll be the first ...

May 01, 20247 minSeason 1Ep. 200

Librarian needs script for teachers who are complaining about sex ed books and lesbian moms need to buy condoms for their kid and need some pointers -- Episode 199

This episode's notes! Amaze video: How to Use Condoms Effectively A Brief Guide to Choosing the Right Size Condom Unite Against Banned Books How to Talk About Book Bans with Friends, Library Patrons, and More: Book Censorship News BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch ...

Apr 24, 20249 minSeason 1Ep. 199

How to make all your convos with your kids short and sweet! With Mary Willcox Smith -- Episode 198

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode's notes! My guest star Mary Willcox Smith ! Her book, The MicroStep Method for the Overwhelmed Parent is terrific! Get a free chapter here . BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and ...

Apr 10, 20241 hrSeason 1Ep. 198

Explaining STIs to kids under 10 -- Episode 197

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode's notes! Health officials recommend more syphilis testing after U.S. newborn cases skyrocketed in 2022 What are STDs? BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can ...

Apr 03, 20245 minSeason 1Ep. 197

Boy masturbating in mom's bedroom; should you buy condoms in front of your kids; and is a body pillow OK for my teen? -- Episode 196

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode's notes! Good old Amaze has great videos on masturbation (and more)! Show your kids ages 9+. Masturbation Females and Masturbation Birth Control Basics: Condoms, The Pill and The Patch Anime Body Pillows! Check some out here . BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of v...

Mar 20, 202414 minSeason 1Ep. 196

What does sex positive mean? -- Episode 195

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode's notes! The Meaning of Sex Positivity, Explained - My pal and colleague Nadine Thornhill is interviewed for this article! She's fab. Check her out here . Peggy Orenstein BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks...

Feb 28, 20248 minSeason 1Ep. 195

The Valentines Edition: Telling a 6 year-old they can have a "girlfriend" as long as they get good grades; helping tweens navigate crushes; and are trans kiddo romantic sleepovers damaging? -- Episode 194

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids. Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks – Birds & Bees &am...

Feb 14, 202417 minSeason 1Ep. 194

Sugar dating with Casey O'Roarty and Christy Keating -- Episode 193

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! Joyful Courage with Casey O'Roarty The Heartful Parent with Christy Keating BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids. Sign up for...

Jan 17, 202442 minSeason 1Ep. 193

Neurodivergent kid struggles with impulse control and gal can't keep her hands out of her pants -- Episode 192

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! Helping Women Period - provides FREE period products for homeless and low-income bleeders. BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your ki...

Jan 03, 202421 minSeason 1Ep. 192

How to tell adults to respect your kids' body-boundaries -- Episode 191

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! Feather Berkhower is a terrific sexual abuse preventionist. She's been at this for a very long time and knows her stuff! Check out her article here . BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abu...

Dec 20, 202311 minSeason 1Ep. 191

Funny sex talk stories from Huff Post part 2 -- Episode 190

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! 31 Too Real Tweets about Parents Having 'The Talk' with Their Kids - Huffington Post BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids. Si...

Dec 13, 20236 minSeason 1Ep. 190

How to talk about C-Sections -- Episode 185

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids. Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks – Birds & Bees &am...

Dec 06, 20235 minSeason 1Ep. 185

My two superpowers, Thanksgiving, and talking about Two-Spirit people -- Episode 187

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! These folks do a great job of explaining the two-spirit identity. A terrifc list of books for kids and teens! Two-Spirit and Indigiqueer Children’s and YA Book Lists BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex t...

Dec 06, 20236 minSeason 1Ep. 187

Funny sex talk stories from Huff Post part 1 -- Episode 189

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! 31 Too Real Tweets about Parents Having 'The Talk' with Their Kids - Huffington Post Sugar Dating podcast BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can wat...

Dec 06, 20237 minSeason 1Ep. 189

4-year-old obsessed with private parts and a funny story about getting caught in the act -- Episode 188

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! RAINN.org - To find a child advocacy center in your area Consent Parenting for support for surviors. Consent Parenting for support for surviors. Savvy Parents Safe Kids for general info to keep kids safe. BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you...

Nov 29, 202314 minSeason 1Ep. 188

A fetus isn't a baby and gay marriage doesn't mean people will marry their pets, idiot! -- Episode 186

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! Fetal Development Stages of Fetal Development Illustration Other resources BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids. Sign up for my news letter a...

Nov 15, 20239 minSeason 1Ep. 186

Kiddo thinks he isn't horny enough and the connection between sex talk freak out and porn exposure -- Episode 184

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! What's wrong with a lack of interest in or desire for sex? Nothing . Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks – Birds & Bees & Kids BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the ...

Nov 01, 202315 minSeason 1Ep. 184

How to talk about kink -- Episode 183

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! Working the kinks out BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids. Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great B...

Oct 25, 20235 minSeason 1Ep. 183

Talking with neurodiverse kids about masturbation and what to do if your kiddo REALLY doesn't want to talk about sex -- Episode 182

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! If your kid is neurodiverse and you’d like to be part of my focus group and get on my special newsletter list, send me an email. [email protected] Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks – Birds & Bees & Kids BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and so...

Oct 18, 202315 minSeason 1Ep. 182

The top 3 STIs and how to talk about them -- Episode 181

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! What Are the 3 Most Common STIs? STDs and HIV (from Amaze.org for kids age 10+) BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abuse prevention and even some vids you can watch with your kids. Sign up...

Oct 11, 202311 minSeason 1Ep. 181

9-year-old is pushing boundaries with clothes and makeup, how to handle anime with a teen, and a funny sex talk story --Episode 180

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 This episode’s notes! Check out my Instagram How to Talk to Your Daughter About Her Clothes Celebrate Your Body book Common Sense Media Assasination Classroom - watch here BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel is full of videos for you to watch! Get the details on the sex talks, sexual abu...

Oct 04, 202321 minSeason 1Ep. 180

Chirp: When is it okay for someone to have sex? -- Episode 179

In this episode, Amy assigns a bit of homework. When is it okay for someone to have sex? You have to be able to answer this question for yourself before you can help your kids find the answer. Resources: My book: Birds & Bees & Your Kids: A Guide to Sharing Your Beliefs about Sexuality, Love, & Relationships GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Sa...

Sep 27, 20235 minSeason 1Ep. 179

Should younger teens be put on birth control and kid majorly breaks down (and shuts down the talks) after sex ed at school -- Episode 178

In this episode, Amy answers a question about when to start birth control and offers help for a parent whose kid has shut down after sex ed at school. Resources: Learn more about Christy Keating and her amazing work at The Heartful Parent Collective . Safety of oral contraceptives for teenagers Amaze.org Every Body Curious GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to...

Sep 20, 202325 minSeason 1Ep. 178

Chirp: How to find your child a therapist if they have been porn exposed -- Episode 177

In this episode, you'll learn how to find a therapist for your child if they have been porn exposed. Resources Join the postcarding movement! Safer Society Press to find a provider in your area if you have concerns about sexual abuse or porn exposure. GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 BBK Bookstore is here Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Other resources My YouTube channel ...

Sep 13, 20235 minSeason 1Ep. 177

Sex is on the table for 15-year-old kid with first girlfriend and kid watching "breast spanking" videos -- Episode 176

In this episode, Amy answers a question from a mom about her 15 year-old and his interest in sex. Also, Amy offers advice to a parent who is concerned about her 12 year-old who is watching porn. Resources Join the postcarding movement! My dated (2014) book for teens Dating Smarts: What Teens Need to Know to Date, Relate or Wait! Helps with values clarifcation and making sure they know what they are getting into (like that's a thing). Safer Society Press to find a provider in your area if you hav...

Sep 06, 202317 minSeason 1Ep. 176

Chirp: What a healthy vagina smells like (usually) -- Episode 175

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 BBK Bookstore is here In this episode, Amy talks about how to explain how a vagina should smell. Great article on vaginal smells The Body Drama Book has great info about female bodies and more - including a bunch of photographs of different vulvas! Resources My new book! Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Sign up for my news letter and get he...

Aug 30, 20236 minSeason 1Ep. 175

Porn exposed kiddo acting out and mom's abuse triggering her. Daughter cries when mom tries to talk to her. -- Episode 174

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 In this episode, Amy answers questions from the mail bag about porn exposure and how to talk with a kiddo who is distraught by the talks. Resources: Book: Good Pictures, Bad Pictures Amaze.org Other resources: BBK Bookstore is here My new book! Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great ...

Aug 23, 202313 minSeason 1Ep. 174

Chirp: Emergency Contraception -- Episode 173

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 BBK Bookstore is here In this episode, Amy talks about how to explain emergency contraception. Effect of levonorgestrel emergency contraception on implantation What is EC and How Does it Work? Info from the World Health Organization Resources My new book! Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to ...

Aug 16, 20235 minSeason 1Ep. 173

Kid buys tubular masturbation assistant and how to explain teen sister's pregnancy to her 8-year-old sibling -- Episode 172

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 In this episode, Amy answers questions about how a mom should handle a kid who bought a tubular masturbation assistant. Also, how to explain teen sister's pregnancy to her 8-year-old sibling Resources: Babeland has great sex toys! Feminist and birthed in Seattle Catamenial epilepsy Other resources: BBK Bookstore is here My new book! Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is a...

Aug 09, 202315 minSeason 1Ep. 172

Chirp: Midwife -- Episode 171

GOT A QUESTION? Anything goes! Just leave a quick voice mail and I’ll answer it on the show! 206-926-1522 BBK Bookstore is here In this episode, Amy talks about how to explain what a midwife is. Resources My new book! Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It is all scripts and some tips! Sign up for my news letter and get helpful 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks – Birds & Bees & Kids The podcast can only get you so far… The Birds & Bees Solutions Center can h...

Aug 02, 20236 minSeason 1Ep. 171
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