I saw this movie Moxie the other day. It's based on a book I believe, and Amy Poehler produced it, and it's about teenagers in high school and these girls start this women's empowerment group and it's really a good movie. Paul, my fiance, has produced a bunch of independent films and Want of Peabody, and he was really just saying, I mean, this is not one of these sort of Netflix chop
shop movies. It's actually a great movie. And in the movie, one of the threads was girls wearing tank tops that then the teacher or the headmaster, we're telling to, you know, cover up and not wear the tank tops. And the girl who had the really large breasts was saying, well,
she's wearing a tank top to it. Why is it different for me and um and And to be honest, I understand from a female empowerment, women's liberation perspective what the girls saying, Yeah, we're both wearing the same tank top. I just happen to have larger breast From just a gut instinct seeing a girl's breasts so prominent, I also
understand the the reaction and the visual. So it's funny because um My daughter yesterday was saying, would you let me wear this particular tank top like crop top to school? And my instinct was no, And and what's the reason. Should shouldn't girls be just proud of their bodies and where whatever they want and show their bodies and um, And then other people would say, right, but it's provocative, but it shouldn't be provocative because it should be that
you should be able to just show your body. But then why can't you just walk out fully naked? Like where is the line? And so maybe I'm just traditional in old school, but I do think that, uh, I would say to my daughter, No, I don't. I say less is more, and you know you can you know she she just happens to be somewhat conservative and Earthian doesn't wear a lot of makeup. And I'm not fully out there wearing everything low cut and short and um.
And but I noticed, and I talked on here in another time about the fact that in the movie Pretty Woman, everybody in this hotel was appalled in Beverly Hills to see what Julia Roberts was wearing. That's what people would wear now to go to a NIXT game, Like everybody just I mean everybody's wearing crop tops and really short skirts, and and you know, at the award shows, forget it, people are literally wearing something I don't think I would wear it to the beach. People are half naked and
wearing fishnet stockings as pants. And it's self expression, it's creative, it's evolved. But um would you be okay with your teenage daughter wearing fishnet stockings to school? And if not, why not? So? I think it's an interesting conversation because, um, I understand both sides of it. You know, it's your body, and no one should be ashamed of their body. Uh. This comes up when people are breastfeeding. Oh their breasts, Get over it. I'm just feeding my child, you know. Um. So,
but breasts are a provocative topic for people. So and it's just anatomy. Why is a leg not provocative? Although it can be, and a breast is. So I just think it's interesting that conversation. Um. And I also my first you know, my daughter will show me something and just like, can you believe this girl's only this age? Look at the dress she's wearing. Look how short this stress is, Look at the it's got no stomach. And
I think it too. I think that there is age appropriate clothing and I don't think that young young girls should be wearing very prorocative clothing. Um. And why so we talked about the negatives of the pandemic, and of course some people have succeeded and their businesses have thrives because they happen to be on the right side of the coin during the pandemic, if you were in e commerce or home learning or um cars luxury goods. I mean, there's just so many random things that you wouldn't have
thought ever anything food or cooking was successful. And then obviously other people's businesses really took a hit. And if you weren't able to flip the script and shake the snow globe and adjust, you know, you got pulled under. But I do think the pandemic brought many things to light. It brought many relationship issues to light. There were many I think there were a lot of divorces it um.
It brought dating app and connecting and connecting online for love in a in a way that became beyond successful like the norm, like the way to meet someone. Because I do believe in the beginning, certain people were going on apps and they would meet people and they would hook up. And older people, maybe divorces or people in my age group had dabble, but they weren't fully immersed
in it. And I do think in the pandemic just it became you could talk to anybody you wanted, which is why TikTok became so huge, because you're just connecting and communicating about food and slow cooking and relationships and dancing and everything. So that was a big shift in the pandemic. It brought things to light what people wanted to do with their lives, what they didn't want to do. For me, I really shaved off a lot of business opportunities that I that weren't making me happy, that I
didn't want to work on. And it sounds obvious if you don't want to do what you shouldn't do it money and notwithstanding, meaning people have to pay their rent and their insurance and for their kids school and for food on the table. So I'm not saying everyone has a luxury of not doing something they don't want to.
But you could have five sort of shitty jobs and maybe one is at least closer to what you like doing and closer to your passion and I did take a lot of things off the board, as I describe it, meaning I just really created a discipline to say, is this making me happy? Does this give me an r O? I return on my investment? Meaning of my time? Am I feeling stressed out and miserable, mine in a bad mood when I do it? Um? Do I feel happy? Um? Not financially, but do I feel happy emotionally? I mean,
am I doing more relief work and helping people? So that's got to return on my investment? Or um? Is it something where there's a smash and grab money job? So I it's a grind, but I I cash a check and I don't love doing it, But that's that's the r O. I. So I feel like a lot of those questions became very prominent, and for myself, I decided that more is not more, and that I wanted
to do less than quality of life. And even though I always have spent all the time I'm not working with my daughter, it made the time that I was working such a grind that it was either that I was with my daughter or the second that I wasn't. I was so crammed in with work that there became no time for me whatsoever. And I talked about and think about balance for women, and it's such a question that everyone asks. They always ask it in a way
like how do you find balance? And then someone has to give some like a drink, water and sleep, And I don't find that like it's always some basic answer. But if you truly think about it, like how do you find balance? You have to also have some time
for you. Women are scrambling and trying to fit fifty pounds of ship in a five pound bag, and so if you are doing stacking, which I do, and it's a great practice because then you get quality time with your kids and then you really are a president at work. Where's the U time? I realized I was spending time in my relationship. I was spending time traveling to go places. I was spending time with my daughter, I was spending time with work, but spending no I was spending no
time with myself. And that was one thing I do miss about the pandemic. Spending time just with Brin and the dogs, my dog. Spending quality time with your dogs is like spending quality time with your kids. And sometimes they're just around the house and you can see them after a day and be like, I haven't seen you all day, and you feel guilty, just like with your kids. So the pandemic I miss in the pandemic that time
alone for nothing all day. You could just think about a recipe, recipe to make just a cocktail, to make it five o'clock with fresh mint, or something you order online or some gadget you bought. And I do miss that because I was built for that pandemic, and truthfully, bringing things to light, the pandemic saved my life. The
pandemic saved my life. I my girlfriend pointed it out, And the pandemic is when I got primary custody of my daughter after a ten year torturous divorce because the pandemic ought things to light, brought the truth to light with my daughter. And as they get older, when they're younger, and if you're going through a divorce, when you get when you have younger kids, they process information differently. But
later the movie all comes into play. All the cards shuffle in the deck and they kind of realized flashbacks of things that happened when they were younger, and they put the pieces together because they're now functioning opinionated people and all of this happened because the world slowed down for the pandemic and my daughter realized a lot of things, and UM, it was a very challenging time. It was
a very stressful time. I cannot explain how challenging the pandemic was because I had a tortures situation that I will go into detail on um at a later date. But during the pandemic it put a pin and finalized something that had gone on for years, and we I did as many custody legal court dates as I did for the past ten years in person. Now I was doing these court dates and lawyers and she had a
lawyer and all of this at home. So so so trust me when I say the pandemic was a ship storm and a nightmare, but it resolved something that was just seemed like it was going to go on for the rest of my life. It seemed endless, and I just was shackled and suffocated and couldn't breathe and just felt trapped and like it was in an endless journey. And I stayed the course and I checked every box, and I it's what I talked about with Kanye making all the wrong moves. I did everything the way that
you're supposed to do what. I wasn't rash, I wasn't half cocked. I didn't think I knew everything. I respected the process. I respected the legal system like I do the ocean. You cannot funk around with it. It will come and it will pull you under. But by the end of the pandemic, the situation, well the pandemic is not over. But by the end of the hardcore quarantined pandemic, okay, there was a resolution. And sometimes maybe maybe is what
is it? It's no is the second best answer, meaning they know, is this Like maybe is the worst answer. I'm getting it wrong, But it's like, yes, it is a good answer. Maybe no is not great that's what. Yes it's a good answer. No is not such a great answer. Often but maybe he's the worst answer. So all these years of maybe and I don't know and will this ever end? And just this being resolved, it just was finite. And so the pandemic saved my life.
And what's funny is people talk about situations that they're in. It could be a bad toxic work situation, a toxic relationship, um, a work complication, a lawsuit, just a conflict, a kid that's got problems at school or emotional issues at home, like any kind of thing that's sort of just lingering. I know people who are in bad relationships and they break up and then they get rid of a knot
that's been living in their back. They didn't know why I wouldn't go away, Like things live in your body, and any time that there's something so weighing on you and toxic, when it's gone, you just and it takes a while, but you feel differently. So it's been a while since the resolution, but it's like it's just like exiting my body. I feel like a different person. I feel more relaxed. Even on the nights that I don't sleep,
I don't feel afraid like I used to. I just feel like, okay, I didn't sleep, but my whole being. I noticed it when I'm on a plane when I'm waiting for something, and usually I would be edgy or I noticed because i went to do Ellen recently for the final episode, and I've been there twenty five times before this, and I usually like we're doing that, someone are we doing next? And I was like, hey, dudes, chill, Like it's just when something toxic leaves your life and
your body. You really just feel different. So, um, the pandemic eliminated a lot of things for people, good and bad, but at least it resolved things for people. So that's what I think about that