Elatia. So I've been on a journey with Elatia Baldwin, Alec Baldwin's wife. I like Alec Baldwin. I find him to be entertaining and funny as an actor. He's been around forever. That family has seemed to be in the line light forever. I remember Billy Baldwin was huge years ago, and Stephen Baldwin not really so much. But his daughter is Hayley Baldwin, so she's the most famous of all the Baldwin's now, I guess. And Alec Baldwin is entertaining. And he was amazing on Thirty Rock and in so
many movies. And he married Kim Basinger, who is agoraphobic, and they have a child together. And he got in a bunch of trouble for a message years ago calling his daughter a pig, and that sounds horrible. And he fell in love with this woman who I met once
in the Hamptons, and her name is a Latia. And now that I've seen all the videos, she said she didn't know anything about pop culture and she never read Page six and they were calling her, and you know, she definitely her family they don't know anything about pop culture, and there was this indication that she was of Spanish descent and it met her once at a barbecue and I was half a nobody, and I was trying to connect with her on just saying like, oh, I do
vinyasa yoga for years and I do it here at this place in the Hampton's and she was, oh, like she was very better than in judgmental, not in a very overt way, in a very subtle way, and just let me know that kind of like she does a different type of yoga and it's a very specialized type of yoga. And I felt like a loser saying that I just did this type of normal go to vinyasa yoga hour and fifteen minute class. I remember feeling like
an idiot. And somebody on social media, because I posted about this on TikTok, said, well, that's a more about you how I felt, and that's true, but you know, no one can make you feel something great. She definitely definitely had an air about her, so much so that the people whose house it was that we knew in common. When I left, I said, she really thought she was hot shit and um Balick was gracious and what has happened with his family, and that gun going off by
accident because it was an accident is so horrible. Um, I don't know if I believe that an actor is supposed to know the rules of the gun. It's about the production company and I it's not. That's not the debate here. He was at fault, but I don't believe it was intentional, and it was an accident, and it's very sad, so um that I have tremendous compassion. And his wife, Hilaria, had a sweatshirt that's an empathy and giant letters, which I do have empathy for him. But
let's get into this now. So a couple of years ago, when it first came out that she had been doing interviews and letting everyone believe that she was from Spain. I don't know how it actually came out. That was like before cancelation started, but she let everybody believe that she was from Spain. I thought she was of Latin ascent. I did not know it was about Spain. I just knew that she had an accent. And so this one
didn't understand how to pronounce cucumber. She didn't know anything about pop culture and page six so it sounds like she's allowing everybody to believe that she really is of Spanish descent. It's like it's you're you're just you're not being accountable. You're not saying I was born and bred in Spain, but you're kind of the language she chose in her interviews about my family is from Spain, and I guess she's from Boston and she just lived there.
And her husband even imitated her accent, saying, and I believe he probably believed it too. I don't know, but he's imitating her accent and an interview how making it like she's like this like hot headed Spanish woman. And so I wanted to give the benefit of the doubt and say, can't somebody have a different accent if they spent some time in a different place. Madonna had a different accent. One of the housewives some of that. Some of the housewives have different accents, So I thought, can
someone just have a different accent? And her name being Elatia, I was called Bethan high school and college. I always was embarrassed in my name Bethany because it was different. And I was trying to be Devil's advocate and can't she just cop and say I went too far? It was like Brian Williams talking about Afghanistan. I think it was Afghanistan in the helicopter, and can't I just say that I went too far? And and we know people in common, many people, but I know from first hand Horse.
I know from firsthand that she will not cop. It's not her character to cop because she doesn't think that anything has gone on. And also, some people are addicted to paparazzi. It's not that they're just addicted to fame. They love to say the paparazzi is going to be there, and we have to hide from the paparazzi. And one of those other young girls that we grew up with that were teens on the cover of all those magazines.
I knew also when we used to go to restaurant and they'd be like, oh my god, I just we can go by. I just hope the paparazzi is not there. They love feeding into it, and it's usually someone who's not that famous, because this makes them feel like they're telling other people how famous they are, like someone bragging
about being rich. So it's my understanding that Hilaria has this specific nuanced condition where she loves the paparazzi, talking about it, the plight of it, and like reveling in it. And so that means that any kind of press will
get you that. So if she and Alec are going through this terrible situation with this gun accident, and they have houses in remote places like I think Vermont and the Hampton's and New York City in the West Village where the paparazzi camp out all the time because there are only ten people in all of Manhattan they're trying to get. Most of them are down in the West Village. Why is she going in giants, sweatshirts, two coffee houses, in a blowout and weird outfits. Make a cough, get
an espresso, Get a fucking espresso. Mr Coffee, You'll get you there too, Like going to get coffees and one of the paparazzi was like, why are you getting a latte? Like go home, you're here, you know we're gonna be here. So it feels like she really has addicted that. And then other people say that having that many kids each time, it's like a press cycle and it's a lot of attention and it's more people to love you and adore you, and I feel badly for those kids. You always have
to feel badly for the kids. They probably didn't want any of the circus. And I actually feel badly for him. I really really feel badly for him. Somehow, thankfully she has trumped his story with the latiousness of this and the a liar that she seems to be. But what does it mean? Because you know it's disgussip if we don't talk about what it means. What does it mean? Why would why do people allow the lie to be true?
Why can't people to be accountable and just say I like, I hate when I when I say something that I know someone else has said. I've said this before, Like here comes with with the Paltrow and her bag of bullshit is aligned from Kathy Griffin. Bag of bullshit came from Kathy Griffin. Hot masking from Christian Siriano. I've said this before, Paris Hilton is that's hot. I don't know who said I don't know who said Bye Felicia first.
But when I know I'm saying something someone else has said, I'd just like to say that they said it first. Um So why is she allowing? What? Why are people someone secure? They just want attention for something it's not even true, and it's just sad, it's just crazy. So I gave her the benefit of the doubt, thinking why would you just not cop just be like, look, I went too far, because I think that would be very admirable. And everybody deserves a second chance, and everybody makes mistakes.
But what about the people in the world that do not think they made a mistake and that just like want to live in the lie and live in the attention that the lie begets and the fifteen minutes of fame. People love that fifteen minutes of fame. It's really important that you touch based and communicate with your employees the
way that you do a relationship. I want to explain why many times you're guessing you're maybe you're not happy with the way something's going with someone who's working for you or with you, and you're having these ideas in your head, and you might talk to other people about it. You might talk to other colleagues about it, you might talk to your spouse about it, or your friends, and you have your own thing going on in your head, and they have their own thing going on their head.
They might think you're an asshole. They're not getting what they need, You're not getting what you need, just like in a relationship, you have to go to them because nine times out of ten, you're wrong about what you think is going on, and you may be right about the essence of it. But I recently and touched base with employee just to say, listen, I just want to make sure you're getting what you need, and I'm getting what I need because this is what I think you want,
but I'm not sure. And they said what they thought I wanted, but they weren't sure, and both of us were completely off base, and we ended up meeting in the middle. And it was amazing because it changed the entire dynamic of the work relationship and gave them a deep breath and gave me a deep breath. Effectively, I couldn't fill enough hours for this person, and this person didn't want all of those hours, So I was trying
to find mundane tasks of this person to do. Because if I've made a commitment to someone that i've hired them and I'm gonna give them a certain number of hours, I want to fill them. But if I'm paying them. I want them to do enough. And this person didn't want to be really working full time. They and they felt that they had to justify what they were doing because they thought that's what I wanted, just to fill
hours of the day. And it was a complete disconnect And it was the best thing that ever happened was me just being transparent and saying can we sit down and talk? Because no one's gonna come tell you that they want to sit down and talk. And I think it's a two ways to the employee and the employer should both just say can we sit down and talk? Just touching base, taking the temperature, just like in a relationship.
Often you speak to someone in a relationship when things are going wrong, and even just getting it out on the table makes you feel better than just like holding in these talks. And so it's very important to communicate with your staff