People on social media really have an obsession with digging if people came from money, like celebrities, like it could be like oh, Blake Lively, but she came from money or NEPO baby or things like that, like that is literally something someone can't control. People want to punish people for having come from money. I understand punishing someone for having come from money if they are utilizing that or cost playing, you know, being super poor or things like
that. That could that I would imagine is irritated. But I don't know why people feel like they have to criticize people because they came from money, like it almost makes people mad, and it almost and it does make people mad. I've seen on social media there are these influencers that have now been able to afford expensive cars and houses in the Hamptons, and there's so much jealousy on social media that other influencers are annoyed. It's it's a due.
It's looking in the mirror, like why not me? Why have I been on this same social media platform and I can't buy myself a house in the Hampton's and a car. And they'll just like a bully and abuse these people for just making money and being successful, as if it's not like any other space in capitalism, you know, it's like it's a different thing. People do want to
keep you where you were. People at work want you to be in the same position, like you're gets shot and freud like I'm only happy if you're down there, you know, like it's wild. Most people really aren't happy for other people. And you got to stay away from anyone with any tinge of that sort of negativity, because you know, you hear the comments, you hear the energy, you get, the vibe. You got to steer very, very clear of that. It's extremely common people want to keep
you exactly where you are. Sometimes parents too. Sometimes people want to keep you exactly where you are from the way you look. Someone on social media commented on my physical appearance literally was twenty years ago and comparing it now, they want that Bethany, and my jaw was completely different because I hadn't found botox in the jaw. My jaw
was much bigger. But like people commenting on someone else's physical appearance like being mad that I look better, like I literally look better, and they're annoyed, and you could tell and again that's a hater. And I like that. I like, literally know that you are acting really like jealous and bitter and it's annoying you that I look good.
Where's the old bethany Where? It doesn't fucking matter because this is the new bethany bitch Like, You're so annoyed, and I love it because the more you get annoyed, the more I know it's working the better. The more you get annoyed, the better I know. I look, I'm bothering you. Keep it coming. People want people to stay. They get mad ozembic, you're doing ozempic. I gotta catch you. I gotta be mad at you. But it's just because
you're lying. And I understand the lying part, and I understand the leading people to believe it it's about eating healthy and working out, because then it's not presenting an accurate message. But I think it goes deeper. I think people are just mad that other people are allowed to like now look good. They don't like it. There's this woman on social media that just like curses into the phone, being like, I'll do whatever the fuck I want. If I want to get plastic surgery, if I want to
look better, Why can't I look better? Why? Why are you fucking telling me that I'm supposed to not get it, and who cares at my age, I'll do whatever I want. I'll do what I want, to wear what I want. I'll get done what I want. None of your fucking business. I'll look how I want. That's back to that walk in Paris. People are so mad. Bethanye's not a too she Why did you want? Why did I walk like that?
Because I fucking wanted to, because it was iconic, because you're talking about it because it landed, because I win, because I win because I did that giraffe walk, and Laurie, I'll just invite me to something in la I don't see them inviting you. Why because their campaign was worth it. You're worth it? About what you think your self worth? My self worth is I'm a fucking giraffe and you're still talking about it. The media is still talking about it,
that you really you really made a statement. Yes I did, We're still talking about it. We can talk about it for the rest of my life. I'm gonna literally tattoo myself in a giraffe pattern because I fucking win, because I did it the way I want it, and it's driving you crazy. And that maybe something I should talk about it in therapy. But it makes me happy, so that may maybe I have problems. But if I got issues, that's okay. And you know I will say this to
you guys. You have to really have said this before, but I have to say it again. Haters must be motivators. Haters stay much longer. Haters are more invested. Haters are listening more closely. Haters are addicted. Haters and trolls can't walk or look away. It's like they need the drug. Haters are better for business. You have to have a strong constitution. But when I tell you, if they're taking the time to hate, debate, argue, you're striking a nerve.
Nothing's worse than dispassionate, don't care. You ever liked somebody and they're just fine back. They don't hate you, they don't love you, they don't give a shit. What is worse than that? You want to take a cattle prod and burn them to like make them have a reaction. That's what people are looking for in life. They're looking
for proof of life, some version of a reaction. So when you're in your community or you're part of the gossip circle or people are hating, like you have to be strong, but you have to even teach your kids as it's impossible. Like they're talking about you, they're worried about you, they're thinking about you, they're concerned about you. Must have said something to provoke them. Now if it's hate speech or you said something terrible or you know,
racist or something, then that's a completely different story. That's like they're they're infuriated. But I'm talking about like just guard and variety, you having a different opinion than other people, or them just wanting to hate let them. But we don't take the bait. We don't take the bait. You don't go in someone comments on something and you take the bait. You don't do it when someone's talking about you're in your neighborhood, you are aloof You don't know,
you don't care. Said this to my daughter about something something happened, is bothering her? I go, you don't even notice it. People pray on weakness, honey, People pray on weakness. You don't go being a pick me. You don't go being thirsty. You don't go subtly begging for someone's attention. You don't need to be invited. You don't even know there is a party. You don't even know there is something going on. You don't know this. You are just you,
rise above. You live your own life, because being happy is contagious, and being happy drives people crazy or makes them want to be near it. Either way, you win. I said to her the thing that one of the matchmakers on the podcast said, the rotten apple will rot the right apple. The ripe apple will not ripen the rotten apple. So if you're the right apple, stay the fuck away from the rotten apple in every scenario. I
don't care if it's your own family. I had a situation where someone that I as a child was in my life reaching out. You know when someone reaches out and it's constant guilt trip everything they did for you, They believe they did everything for you, and like just just badgering you, and I exploded. I exploded. It was my entire life crystallized in one explosion where I basically
said I was raised by fucking animals. Everyone, all the people, all the people I was supposed to trust that were as parents, as parental figures, as a father, a stepfather, a mother, All the people had me around drugs and eating disorders and physical abuse and substance abuse, and being at nightclubs when I was thirteen, and taking the train by myself into New York City when I was thirteen, and teaching me how to get into the nightclub and being around walking in on people having sex and then
watching them get the ship beat out of them ten minutes later, like people going to the hospital, arrests, molestation, sexual abuse, all of it, and what happens if you're in a dysfunctional family or you have a dysfunctional childhood. Those people want to be the kings and queens of the dipshits. They want to tell you how they were better than the others. Well, at least I wasn't your father beating the shit out of me with a phone.
It's like, right, you were the one who gave me the keys to go to the car to go to the night club. Like, it's literally fifty shades of shit. And someone from my past was trying to like guilt trip me. Well, you did go to a private school, I did take you away to Europe. I'm like right, But also a couple of your friends molested me, So I feel like it's still not I don't. I feel like going to the South of France makes up for
your business partner trying to fuck me. So I recently and I was talking to my therapists about this morning, about this this morning, unleashed and just mentioned it all.
I've never once set out loud how many things were wrong and that it's unacceptable, and that it's affected my relationships now as an adult, and that I don't want my daughter near any of this, So that I've disconnected many relationships that you could feel guilty about, like what if someone's gonna die, someone gets sick and die of you can feel guilty. I have to say, you have to choose your mental and emotional sanity and your kids
and your people around you. Like I could feel guilt about fleeting moments in my childhood that were good and not wanting to leave someone alone who's older. But I could also say I got out, I broke the chain, I created a lo life for my child, and I don't want to go back ever. So blood is not necessarily thicker than water because my blood well this wasn't actually a blood relative, but it's to me, it's not. I don't care how connected by blood I am to someone.
I'm not being around anything dysfunctional ever. I'm never allowing it for my daughter and the criminally insane house that I grew up in, as one of my childhood friends described it when my mother passed away, I'm never going fucking back there. I don't want to talk to anyone from it. I don't want to be part of it. I left. So don't let your mind play tricks on you. All that's toxic, and anything that smells like that at all, you stay away from. I don't give a shit who
someone's related to, but they're your family. I don't necessarily always know what that means when it pertains to dysfunction and abuse. So have the power to know what's good for you. You don't do heroin because you know it's bad for you. You don't if you have diabetes. You're not mainlining sugar if you know it'll kill you. So if you're emotionally well and you've gotten out of a
toxic situation, you don't go near that at all. That's a drug that's that's not that's bad for you, And I don't care in what form it takes, whether it's family or not. Family, friends, old friends, childhood friends, obligations. You be as selfish as possible in those situations. And
in those situations, here's the thing. If someone is pulling you down at work or in your relationship, or in your friendships, or in your life or on your sports team, like I know, we're only as good as our weakest link, and you have we have to do that. But if someone is hanging onto you and it's pulling you down, you're both gonna drown. So you're gonna have to let go so you don't drown with them. To walk back to the back to the after, walk back to the aster,