So I met a ninety six year old man through someone that I've been spending some time with. And longevity is a really interesting topic, like health and longevity. And the truth is many people talk about healthy living. He or she lives a healthy lifestyle. You know, I know more and more people living ninety three ninety six. Like I hear about this a lot. It's shocking to me. It's just like it's a number. And then you hear like, oh, this person lived to one hundred and something and they
smoke cigarettes living, you know, and drank beer. Like what there are There is a massive space in longevity and studies in it, but like it is a bit of a horoscope, it's not that easy to figure out what it is. And I gotta believe it works for everyone differently. I have a cured coffee maker that's brand new, and every time I put the pot in, the pot explodes and liquids coming out the sides, like it's brand new. Then people have a thirty dollars coffee maker they got,
you know, years ago. It's Sears and Roebuck, and it still works. So while there is something to longevity, some people are just built differently, right, Some people some people never stress about anything. Some people probably eat shit food their whole life and never stress about a single thing. Like did people have pets? Were they married for most of their lives? Like was life easier in a certain way? Did they work harder? Did they have more purpose? Like?
You know what is it? It's crazy if you think about it, cause you know that the people that are now ninety six certainly didn't have their own personal water supply like I do in my hand right now, didn't weren't eating organic foods and macha and asie and gojieberries. Right, So it's an interesting, just discussion. I have to believe that being happy seems like a good way to live
a long time. It feels like it. This friend of mine's father who's ninety six, is really happy, like really place of yes, really glass half full, really like alive and loves the stories, like loves to talk about the stories and the nostalgia. Likes the action. So this this ninety six year old man took to me because I
mean action to him like he ran. He was the head of BBDO, the marketing advertising agency for years, and I think he was like he was a big he owned stock there and I think he was really smart about the way he took stock options, and so he's been very successful and loves that. Like I'm a marketer
because I guess his whole life was in marketing. And then he was a batboy Yankees bat boy and a thousand years ago and he created the Major League Baseball logo and worked at the head of marketing for Major League Baseball. And I say this all because he's fascinated by me as a marketer, Like that's what he he he wanted to know, like what I do? What do
I do on the podcast? His name is Tom. His name is really Carmelo, but he goes by Tom, And he wanted to know, like explain to me what goes on with the tiktoks, Like he doesn't understand my business, like why I have like a business and how I market and the difference between traditional television and social media because like you know, obviously, growing up, we had two four, five seven with the channels. I don't think you had five.
You had like two four and seven. Later came five and eleven and nine and thirteen, and then you know, obviously cable and then streamers and like so he doesn't now we have that streamers are almost archaic. Cable is like a dinosaur. Network television is a complete prehistoric creature, and like social media is how kids are watching their content. So he was fascinated by me explaining it to him, and he wrote a book. This guy wrote a book. I mean, it's so inspiring. He wrote a book and
he wrote he sends a newsletter every day. So anyway, last night I had dinner with him. I had gone to lunch with him one time. He asked me out to lunch, so I went to his country cover lunch. He had great stories. He's totally looseid totally together, like totally on it. And then we went to dinner and he asked me to promote his book. And how did he ask me to promote his book. He gave me a folded up piece of paper that he had printed out the highlights of it, like he gave me his bio.
I was laughing, and I was like, good, I threw it. I just did a throwaway like post on Instagram stories, like saying his name that he should buy it. But it was like not inspired. I mean it was, I meant it. It was just like and then I was like screw it, you know what, let me do it with him. So I saw him for dinner and you know, people from his family, and I just said, I have a man in my life. He's ninety six years old. I met him through someone I know. He's definitely a flirt.
We know that he's with it. And he wrote a book and he's sitting next to me and he's like, it's on Amazon and I like linked it and I was crying and he's so handsome. And then I was like, did on my story like all the single ladies, question Mark, you know, And I'm shocked by how many people have slipped into my dms to get to go out with this man. He's handsome, and like the stories are performing
like almost double what a normal story would like. People are interested in somebody who's of a certain age enjoying and living their life, not just like waiting for it to end, like place of yes, like living in the moment, being present, like living like you're gonna live forever. And
maybe that is the secret to longevity. I'm telling you, I've never heard have you ever heard of someone at ninety six who writes a book who then gives you a printed out like instructions about how to promote it, and who like really well, you know, said to me like four times, like listen, maybe you can help me. I want to be a best seller. I'm like, oh my god, like it's almost like joking. I'm like, this guy's not he like wants it, and and he sends
a newsletter every day. I get an email from him on like stories of his past that are like excerpts from the book. It's actually a very modern way to promote it. Like and his publishers must be crying because like they did it as like a nice deed, Like he's ninety six, so like of course they're gonna give this, like guy's wish they let him write a book, and they're p and now like me, I've got five stories up on Instagram about this man, and women are reaching
out to me. Like a woman this morning. My mother will kill me. But she's eighty six years old and she's stunning, and she lives on the Upper East Side and I look at a picture of it and she's like put together, she's gorgeous, Like and I asked them today he's like, okay, likes to going out a date. He's ninety old. It's insane, Like I am so like, it's so fun and his family's so grateful and happy, because like, what do you want to do for your parents?
I mean, listen, I don't have parents, and I didn't have parents, But what do you want to do more for your parents than like give them more happiness? Like what's more boring than being old? Like it could be
really boring. I mean, I guess a lot of people do have a busy life and they have a social life and they have friends, but like a lot of people, it's very lonely and it's very depressing, and a lot of people don't have family visiting them, and so like what's nicer than just like giving somebody a glimmer of hope and giving them something, some purpose and some sizzle. So if you know anybody old, you know who's like got something going on. I just feel like it made me.
It was happy, Like I it made me happy. It's like, okay, you know what I mean. He's got more energy than I do on many days. Yeah, I'm looking at my Instagram. He's so adorable. People love him. This is insane, so cute, Like I can't you don't understand the message that I'm getting. This is so fun. You know why too, because and people are talking at baseball now. Someone just sent me about their father who's friends with Lasorda. Tammy Lesorda for
those of you too young, is famous baseball player. The thing is, how relatable is the elderly, Like you're either elderly or you are a granddaughter or grandson, or you have an elderly parent, and like you feel you want them to have happiness, you want them to live forever. You're like looking into like it's so relatable. It's like everybody can relate to an elderly person that and also people like are thrilled to see somebody look so good
because it's inspired. No, it also is inspiring to us right right, Like you look at someone and you're like, holy shit, this guy looks good. Like what is he doing? I mean I want to bring him on here and tell everybody, like his skincare routine and like what he's eating, Like we need like what is he eating? He does memory exercises. I think people should know that everybody can relate to that, Like the moms will be like doing it for their parents. I think this man's an inspiration
That's what I actually think. So we get to learn something, we get something, and we're gonna make this guy so happy. So I'm gonna invite him on. And I told him, like, we got to be brief. We can't like get dragged out in the stories because you know, these people have an attention deficit and we gotta get to the sizzle. He's gonna tell you stories about Merrilyn Monroe and Jackie Kennedy and like create and major League Baseball. But then
I think people want to hear about this guy. Where do you see go all my stories and see, oh, they will be down by them. But I'm gonna put it on a TikTok too, because I mean, we think this might play on TikTok too. I mean, I this is the goal. This is the ultra Golden Bachelor. So anyway, I don't know why, I'm just on a high because that was just so cute and it made his family so happy. Most importantly, I don't know, let's give us
an overall message, like I'm a big tipper. Okay, sometimes it's hard if I'm around men because I just always want to have cash in my purse because like I worry they're not gonna tip to the level that I will. So even my daughter goes out to dinner with their friends, I'm like always worried she's not gonna tip to the level that I will because she won't. And I'm I'm a big tipper, but I'm also like the big gift giver and I'm always gifts. Yesterday seven gifts went out.
Every day, those gifts coming out of my house. I love to give gifts and I'm a big tipper. And my philosophy and reason for it is they appreciate they it mean so much more to them than it does to me. Like it's so much more so what you're gonna be at the coffee place, and like it's ridiculous that you buy it four dollars water and it's a two dollars or three dollars time. Who gives a shit if you can afford If you can't afford it, I'm not speaking to that. I'll don't give anything if you
can't afford it. And usually people can't afford it tip more because they know how much it means to them. So that's the upside down. Rich people tip less because there's so fucking delusional and clue is they don't realize the difference set of good and a bad tip makes. But I, you know, it means so much. And so I am a tipper everywhere I go. Every person everything I like and I freak out. And I like to
have the smallest amount of money the biggest amount. And I say that because I think in life it means so much more to them than it does to us. Why wouldn't you do it? Like the piscodie that I ate at my friend's house, I then called the person. I asked my friend who brought this over? Where this come from? She said Sharry. I called Sharry and I was like, I need to know where this postigoda came from.
And then she said, you know this this bakery and Queen's Like, now, of course, I can't remember their name. And I posted about it and like it changed their life. Gigi's chicken salad and Hoboken, What the hell does it matter I'm eating the chicken salad, shout them out. It could change their entire business. So I now I feel like I have the I have a gift that I
get that I have influence. I've been given this, No, I've created this influence where if I say something's good, people believe me because I have no reason or motivation to lie, Nor would I burn everything to the ground that I've built on something stupid, So I why wouldn't I. So I now have this influence and people want my approval or want to know what it is so great so I get to help all these like small businesses and help a ninety six year old man who's so
excited to get his family. You know, takes a burden off of them, not a burden a response, It takes an aspect off of them because you know, when you have elderly parents, you have to be there all the time and someone kind of has to be visiting them or you know, on the clock in some way. And so I just feel like it's kind of like random acts of hindhness. It's kind of like if you can, you should. So I guess the whole message is if you can, you should, It's kind of why you want.
I'm exhausted after doing fashion week or something. I get on the plane to go down and show that warehouse because I know we're going to raise more money if people can see where it's actually going. And like why wouldn't I. So I think that's the message to pay it forward. So let's talk about breaking up and how men grieve versus women. So are you going through a breakup? Did you break up a several months ago and you're thinking about a breakup. Let me just tell you something
that is a fact. Men and women break up very differently and handle it very differently. Let's get a baseline. If two people were madly in love, it was a really good relationship. They were in love, and at some point they break up. But they really were in love. It was hard to break up. They care about each other. They thought they were gonna end up together, they were doing it. I think here's what happens men and women
break up. Men go immediately out with their guy friends, get wasted, get laid, get depressed, repeat, get wasted, get laid, get depressed, repeat Sunday scaries, eating gross food, rest work, a couple of days, regret like now, regret like Sunday scaries,
and then repeat. And then after a while, after a good old while, they usually miss their X because the X was the one that was, you know, sitting around in sweatpants in pajamas while these new, younger women presumably are out making them feel great and they're getting laid. And then for every hot girl, there's a guy sick
and tired of fucking her. So now the guy, all of a sudden, you know, it's the new car smell, and it comes off of this experience and it feels like it's shallow and empty, and they're just going out drinking, feeling like shit, and now their ex is long gone, and they go low. They go low. They keep doing it because it's like eating junk food is anything to do.
They keep like having sex with different women and they love it and they want to prove that they can do it, like they want to prove that they can have game. And they think they have game, and some of their friends, their married friends, think they have game in the beginning, in the beginning, and then their friends all think they're tragic. And then their friends are all
like rolling their eyes like it's enough, okay. And here's what the women do while the men are out getting late and some women are doing it too, and women are trying to get themselves out there, but they're really crying in their soup, like unless they're a sociopath or they really weren't in love or like they're really good at this, and an amazing denial. Women in the beginning, it's the crying, it's the girlfriends, it's the emoting, it's
the sharing, it's the drinking during the day. It's it's the losing weight that I can't eat, the kind of commiserating about it. And then slowly but surely, they have a glow up. They cut their hair, they dye their hair, they start working out, they start dressing differently, they start having a personality, start going out. They then creep into to the exact same period. When that man hits that low, that man will hit that break up low. If you ever want to see this in a movie about Last
Night is the best breakup movie in history. The man hits that low, and at that exact moment is when the woman is hitting her high. And here we have a problem because that's when the men often can break the women down, but the smart women are gonna stick it out. So men and women mourn a relationship very differently, and men don't fall as easily. They don't fall as easily a woman can fall immediately like a face to the pavement. A man is a little more tentative and
less expressive. But then if the man falls to me, he falls harder to me. If the man falls, he is gone. That ball is in the stands. And that's why there's like a different reaction. And every time you think you're never gonna get over him, it's never gonna happen. And somehow we are so freakin resilient. So just think about that your time, if you're breaking up your time for a glow up, and happiness will come.