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don't know. I just like that, like she's a woman of a certain age and she's like got a new gig. Unless she did this every year and I never saw it, but like she was talking to the most major celebrities like go for yours, and of course she knows the Kardashians, so she's talking to them like she was talking to Blake Lively. She was talking to everybody. That's a great gig, Blake Lively. People are destroyed her, like what a fall from grace. Like this woman could do no wrong and

her style was what everybody talked about. And the mech Gala was her gala, and she was the princess and the bell of the ball and like I didn't mention the other day that she did choose something to wear that like had five handlers, like putting it down the stairs, and I knew that wouldn't land. I did like her Judith Lieber clutched with her kid's art on it, but

of course she can do no wrong. And she said she was shy, and people went fucking bananas like that was the thing that made them crazy, like, yes, I'm shy. I don't know if she's shy. I don't know if she's not shy. I know that she shouldn't have said it, mind you. I had a moment where there was like

a kid. Okay, So somentdays you'll be outside a place and all these people will come and want your picture and your autograph, and then publicists say, don't because they sell them, which I can't imagine where your autograph in twenty twenty six could be worth. But they're like, don't because they sell them. And a lot of times people don't even know who you are, they just see you coming out of somewhere, and the publicists all say, like they don't even know who you are, or they might

not know who you are. They just want to sell them. They're just like standing there. There's like a thing to it. So I was at an event this past weekend and someone came up to me and they were like, who are you talking to? Who am I with right now? And I literally didn't know what the person was talking about. I thought they meant like what designer? Or who am I with? I didn't understand, and I thought they meant

like themselves, like who am I with? And I was thinking, I have no idea who you are, who you're with, And I said like, if you don't know, you better act somebody, because I thought, like how would I know who you're with? It just seemed like someone who had no idea, And then I realized did they mean me? Later? Like who am I with right now? Meaning who am I talking to? It was just a strange way to say it, and it made me realize either way, I don't think the kid knew who I was, and it

was like a younger kid. And I said, if you don't know who you better act somebody. And I saw somebody posted it and it did like look like I was being rudbea. I literally didn't understand who the person was, and I also thought, I don't know, it's strange for someone to come up to you. I've had people say to me before, I don't know who you are, but my friend says you're famous. I don't like that. I'm

not interested in that. Like I'm not inter just in signing something for someone to taking a picture of someone because like someone else said, I was some currency. I don't mean anything to them. So this kid like confused me, and I said something that I later was like, that was kind of a little harsh, but like in the moment, it felt annoying. If I'm being honest, that's the truth.

But it also made me think about people who say one thing and like it can ruin their whole lives, and how not tolerant, how everyone just wants to like crush somebody. So like Blake Lively said, she's shy. I don't know, maybe she is shy, but she goes to

these things. I don't know. It's hard to be shy and go on the mech galic carp but I could tell you that like Nick Jonas, who was like having a fucking panic attack, I'm gonna like choose to believe that he has difficulty with crowds and moments like that. But I don't know, Blake Lively can do no right. And people think she just like announced that that thing was settled and so she like went out to the car butt like a new woman out. We have no idea when she knew that, But I will say this,

that was a fall from grace. And whatever the lawsuit was, it wasn't like a criminal lawsuit. It wasn't like he would go to jail what she wanted. I don't think it was criminals. So it was a fuck around to find out lawsuit. There's no way that she doesn't regret filing it because then they've just settled. I don't know. I'm not looking at going to cancel myself today on someone else's bullshit, but like, there's no way that she

doesn't regret filowing that lawsuit. Okay, when you are jammed up in a deal and you can't get what you need, you call the power person directly. Lawyers and agents and managers and in between people will fuck something up. If you know where the rub is, you figure out how to talk to the hbiic calmly and nicely compliment them, say you want to do it. If two people want to do a deal, they can do it. And I have found that you got to go live and direct.

I have had multimillion dollar deals that were going to blow up, tens of millions of dollar deals that were going to blow up until I just picked up the phone and rationally discussed what I liked, what I didn't like, what I would go for, what I wouldn't go for. I have a good reputation in negotiating. I don't play games. I don't pretend it's going to be five dollars and it's really ten. I am a very honest negotiator. I am straight up one hundred and I will go directly

to the person. And it is a wonder the difference in the way you can negotiate for yourself talking to someone. And yes, we need lawyers, we need all these other people to paper things, to make sure you're protected, etc. But if you are jammed up and you want to do something and you're almost not going to do it because of the negotiating process, you better get on the

damn phone. You better get on that damn phone. Interesting that on Instagram people are losing bought followers and bought followers, so many people created their big following on purchased followers, And the thing about it is it's great that they're being cleansed and that it becomes more authentic, like your

engagement is more authentic. Meaning I never bought followers, and I know that it was frustrating knowing people who had a really disproportionate amount of engagement to their follower account because it means that a lot of those are just it's just a number. It's not actually engagement. They're not followers that convert, they're not actually watching, listening, buying, engaging, and that's what people really want now in twenty twenty six,

people want engaged followings. Meaning someone could have fewer followers, but they could have more views on certain posts, or it's a quality versus quantity model. The thing of it is, though that is not totally fair, is that some people got deals and a greater fame and actually more followers

because of the original fake followers. That makes any sense, Like if you are someone who has like the street cred of having millions of followers despite them being purchased, you know, success breed success, So you have so many followers, you're going to get more followers because you might get media because you had all these followers. So it's great that it's being corrected, but it sucks that it happened in the first place. But there are people that have

lost millions and millions of followers. It also happens to be likely a small percentage of their overall follower base. But like I've had bad things happen, or have not known about things, or have said things and lost a lot of followers, Like, it does sort of suck. To be honest, it does suck. But there should be nobody with any bot followers bought followers like followers should be true. And by the way, it's better for the It's better for the creator or the influencer or the person. So

I went roller skating this weekend. I kind of talked about my launch, and I forgot to mention roller skating that that's what I was doing. I have been seeing someone who seemingly like myself, is very youthful, like fun and alive and playful. And I've talked before about the pendulum theory. It's not really a theory, it's a fact. People get into relationships and whatever is wrong with those relationships,

often the next relationship is a reaction to that. So you could have a man with a nagging wife who never listens, and then he gets separated, and then he's with the doting young woman who like hangs on his every word. But he could get sick of that because that's not the baseline. That's not the person who he would intrinsically be attracted to. He's just reacting to what

his situation has been. So I've been in situations where I was in a very abusive dynamic and I was afraid and I was a wreck, and I was like beat down and just like not at my best, and I was attracted to safe situations, like someone just loves you so much it is he wants to take care of you. But I might not have been with a person who is intrinsically right for me. The pendulum has swung too far. You have over corrected. And I've heard this from other people that I've discussed this with. Maybe

someone's with someone super controlling and jealous. Next they're going to be with a total free spirit, you know, type of person who wants to bring another person into the bedroom. I don't know, and I the reason I took a year off from dating is because I wanted to get to the baseline of what I really wanted versus just it being a reaction of the last thing I had. And many of these relationships train you for the real relationship.

So anyway, I've been dating and in a way that's more true to myself, like from the baseline, meaning there's a youthfulness and a live A lot of people are noticing that I seem happier than I have. Some of that's Florida, some of that is because of who I'm spending time with. And I believe that I'm happier because like, I just feel like I'm more It's not that I've forced things, It's that I just think that I don't give myself enough credit for how sort of a live

and youthful and adventurous I am. The younger me was always like taking dares and jumping off of like bridges into water and just like doing you know, fun, wild, crazy things. And I've never really lost that and I don't really get that much of an opportunity to explore that.

And so I've been dating and in this era, which was my adventure era, or so I said it was, now it's really feeling like my adventure era because I'm seeing someone who will come up with like surprise me with horseback riding on the beach for the day or a concert, you know, because I love the Begi's and I was listening to the Begi's like an outdoor like symphony and cover band of the Begi's, like the most fun night, like more fun than most nights I've had

in the last several years. I mean, I had the best time ever f one Carbone weekend and Snoop performed, which I missed that night because I was just tired and y cleff and fat shoe and ludicrous, like that's all amazing, but for me, like being at a cover band with the Beg's and a symphony outside like and this person I was with was just like, wait a second, I'm going to get your roller skates, like you need

to be skating through this concert. Like I've never had someone just like be like that with me and also like to show me a pop up roller rink that has like a disco ball that we went to in the middle of the day. Just like being alive, being fun like that is something that I have been missing in my life. It didn't even realize it, Like you kind of don't realize it until a part of you is awakened. And it also makes me think about you know, I've been very very I've done very well in my life.

I have everything I want. I don't need somebody for money or stuff. Now Listen, I don't know that I would be aligned with someone who didn't have a career and didn't make money, you know, and wasn't smart. I mean, that's something that I need. But I've thought to myself, I really need to be an entrepreneur. I really need to be with someone who has more money than I do. Like I have all these different things that I've thought in my life, you know, And I've been in different

types of relationships. I've been mostly with younger men. I've realized, like a couple of years younger not crazy. Whenever I've gone out with older men, it hasn't really gelled. And it's sort of I don't know if it's hypocritical, but if I've been with a man like eight years older, I've really felt like they're just like old old, which obviously I'll be there in eight years. But I look at some people who are of a certain age and

they just seem youthful, and other people just don't. It's luck of the draw, it's their essence, it's a number of things. But people around me do say that I have a young spirit and a young essence, and I think that I'm best aligned and matched with someone who has a young essence and a young spirit. I'm not really looking for a figure to take care of me. I've had that it's a little boring for me, and

I've sort of just accepted that security meant boring. But I don't really need I definitely don't need financial security, although I do date people who are successful because I'm attracted to that and smart. But I also don't need only to be with someone who's like solid. I didn't know I thought you had to like give up most of what you wanted. I thought, like to be with someone solid, you might be a little bored. Like I really don't want to be bored. I really want to

live and have fun. My daughter's going to be in college in two years, and like it's my time and listen. I guess it would have been better if I was forty five able to travel the world, But you know what, not really like being your fifties is great I mean, I'm in Sports Illustrated, I walk in the Loreal Paris fashion show. I'm more successful than I've ever been. I'm at the peak of my career when I'm doing exactly

what I want. So anyway, I went roller skating this weekend and to a Beg's concert, and that was the part that I didn't tell you, and it was like so fun. It awakened my childhood. I spent my entire childhood, I'm not exaggerating, like from like sixth grade, maybe earlier, maybe it was at third grade, had to be. I spent every day at the roller rink, every every weekend. I spent every Saturday and Sunday at the roller rank all day long, nine in the morning till nine thirty

at night. It was nine till eleven thirty, twelve to two thirty three to five thirty five to seven thirty. And I don't know if I was allowed to go nine to the one at night. I don't remember if it went later. I think it did. But I would have to like skate and win in these races to get to go to all the sessions because the sessions you had to pay again, or you'd like sneak in and try to stay hope they wouldn't notice because they'd clear the rink all that. So anyway, the point is

I'm loving awakening my youthful spirit. That's how I'm spending my time. Okay, Hayden Panetier, who I haven't heard about for a while, and peripherally I had heard that she lost custody of her kids, she had substance abuse issues. I think she was on the show Nashville with Connie Britton, and like it was peripheral, and she's a child actress.

I remember that, but like I didn't know much. You know when you hear these stories that are just headlines and you wonder what the other side of the story is. I remember the woman from gossip Girl, the blonde woman from gossip Girl losing custody of her kids, and I'm like, how in the hell does that happen? It's got to be more to the story. Anything can happen in a courtroom, anything can go sideways. Brittany lost custody of her kids. Like, stuff does happen. Doesn't mean that people have to be

bad people. Well, Hayden Panetiers on Jay Shetty and she's just talking about some abusive relationship or several abusive relationships that she's been attracted to, presumably because of her generational trauma and the way she was raised. And again this is all just on social media, but I'm seeing that, like it's allegedly at eighteen, her someone in her life.

She's very cagy, which I get, like, I've told stories about my terrible divorce and about being abused in situations, and I've told them in a way where you're not really mentioning the person's name, and you're trying to pick your spots and you're trying to like dance around landmines, which she's doing. And she's saying that a trusted caregiver told her to have sex with a man at eighteen, and basically she's been in this series of abusive relationships.

It sounds like one which is worse than others. And she's reading a letter that she wrote the night before, which is articular her experience, and it's really chilling, Like the way she wrote it and the dry way in which she's discussing it reminds me of Charlie's Throne discussing the murder in her house, Like you're just like, wait, I'm really believing this because it's so subtle and so just matter of fact and so articulate and not performative

that I just it's chilling listening to it. Hayden Panitiera is talking about and about her getting out of the abuse and about her feeling like people have forgiven her, so she had to forgive them. And I lived in an abusive household. I understand the cycle. There's also there are also different things for different people. Maybe you don't have anywhere else to go, you'll be homeless. It's financial, it's emotional. It's what you were used to as a kid.

It's what you saw your parents do. It's breaking the chain. It's all these things. And just because you're a powerful, strong woman, which she was saying that she is, which I am, it's hard to believe you could be in an abusive situation, but someone can do a lot of damage. And when one person is more successful than the other, it's the female. The gender roles change and a man wants to exert a power struggle. Very often when the woman is the moneyed spouse, the breadwinner, the power person,

the man has to exert power in other ways. It can be physical. It could be verbal. It could be digging in on things that don't matter. It could be resentment, it could be a number of things. But it's actually very, very common, and everybody thinks that in that situation. Many times, the guy's super charming and tries to carry everyone's favor, and people think the woman's like the power bitch. And in this case, she lost custody of her kids, and I just feel badly for her, and I'm glad you're

speaking up, and I just that letter. Just listened to her talk about the letter that she not letter she wrote, I guess in a journal the night before. She wrote herself it wasn't a letter. It was like a passage. She wrote because she wanted to be able to articulate this on the show. And I really appreciated it as walk back to back to ans, walk back to the after