Let's talk about energy match in a relationship. Now, one would say opposites a tract. So why does someone have to be a good energy match. You can be the opposite to someone, but there's an energy match and there is some crossover. Being an exact polar opposite might not work. I know a friend who met a guy in the club scene and they used to go out to clubs
a lot, and it's not really who he was. It was kind of only who he wanted to be when he got laid and she thought she was marrying someone fun, and she was marrying a dud and a stick in the mud and a drag on the ticket. And it's been a challenge and you end up going to other places and with your own friends to do things. But it's nice to do something with your own partner. And I've experienced this where it's not been an energy match, and it's something not discussed as much as other things.
Hey wait, where do they live? Where are they from? The Italian? What you know? All these things? Are they kind? Are they funny? All these things are important and they're discussed, but energy match is not discussed enough. And it's critical. It's literally critical. There was a person I saw on social media talking about attraction, talking about desire, talking about commitment, do you want to commit? But ultimately talking about compatibility.
It was a dating expert, like, that's an energy match. Are you compatible with the person? Do you feel like you want to go out at night and this person falls asleep at nine o'clock and you're dragging them? Then you feel it feels boring, Like nothing feels worse than when someone gets to a restaurant and you know that they immediately want to leave. It's like a drag. It's just an energy you think. Nothing feels worse than when you're always creating the fun. You're the life, you're the light,
and they extinguish the light. It wears on you. It makes you depressed and it's not a good match. Or someone doesn't like the cold, they don't like skiing. You love skiing, it's part of your life. Mountains, someone only you know, someone only wants to sit their ass on a They're kind of lazy, they're not adventurous. Like these things they add up energetically. You need a good energy match,
and it's undeniable. It doesn't mean you don't you don't have fun with the other person or connect with the other person, or you could have great sexual chemistry, but it might not be a good energy match. And if you're not a good energy match, it could affect the sexual chemistry. Because nothing's worse than being a person who has the light and the darkness extinguishes your light. Okay, alive. Now that doesn't mean I'm in a good mood all the time. It doesn't mean I'm cheery. I have the light.
I am alive. Okay, you know it. If you're alive, I am alive. And when I am in really, I have ended relationships because my light is being extinguished. And I've tried so hard I want to be in the relationship,
and I have a hard time getting out. But when you really realize your light, the very inner you, the light bulb inside of you, is being extinguished, it starts to kill you slowly and you are just sort of a little bit dead, and negativity will pull you down way more strongly than your positivity will pull a negative person up. A positive person can't make a depressed or
negative person positive. And it's extremely debilitating and it's been really challenging in certain relationships, and it's a really big girl decision, big boy decision that you have to make. So do not let anyone put out your light. Another thing I want to discuss is money and relationships and young girls who want to marry someone rich. I hear it all the time, and mothers who say it's just as easy to marry a rich man as a poor man. Okay, it is. It is to just get down the aisle,
you know, it's not easy. My life coach said to me that you said, you need to be with someone who is something or is going to be something. So you could meet a poor person that is going to be something. You can just tell they have that hunger,
et cetera. But he said this to me because he felt that if I was in a relationship with someone who lacked the light, meaning they lack passion, they lack drive, they lack determination, it will never work because I need to be with someone who is something because they've done it or they're going to be something, because they're going to do it, and that's critical, and that's not really
Someone could have money who lacks drive and determination. Maybe it's been handed to them, you know, maybe they got lucky. There are a million ways, but if they lack drive and determination, and you're a person who's alive and you have drive and determination, it could be a bad energy match. So when mothers tell their daughters you want, it's just as easy to marry someone rich as poor. Let me discuss that dynamic. You marry for money, you pay the
rest of your life. You marry someone because they're wealthy, or even as a big part, because they're wealthy without the rest. That's just the frosting. Well, it's going to happen to a woman. It's going to reduce your ambition, reduce your motivation because you know you're taken care of, you're on the program, you have a sponsor, so you don't need to work as hard. And when you're young, and it's like a good gimmick and everyone thinks it's so great. Oh my god, you're so cute. You always
look perfect, you have the bag. Your lunching is a verb, your shopping is a verb. And everybody wants your life. And you have a big ring and you had a great wedding, and everybody's jealous and they all want your life because that's what you're portraying. That's what The Housewives was made of. And built on fronting and stunting. It's more important for other people to think I have money or a good life than for me to actually have it. People could be in foreclosure and broke, and websites are
writing there worth thirty five to fifty million dollars. It is absolutely untrue. These shows are about fronting and stunting, and girls who marry for money want a front and stunt, or they have to front and stunt because it's going to make them feel better. And what happens is you end up medicating and the men end up with the power. Sooner or later, no matter how it goes. Men know every dollar, and if he or she makes the gold, they make the rules. And it comes in many different forms.
One form is that you marry someone with money and it's kind of their program. Ultimately, where you're gonna live, what you're gonna do, where you're gonna go on vacation, the life you guys are going to live will ultimately be he or she who makes the gold makes the rules. And it could be subtle, but it builds up. It's gonna be you don't have your own money, you don't know where the finances are, and you're medicating with stuff too.
If you really don't have your own purpose and your own job, and then your kids grow up, leave school and you're an empty nester, there's no fucking way that just being married to someone rich is gonna fulfill you. There's no way you could. I've heard talked to too many people. Okay, you're medicating with stuff. Then what happens is you medicate with bags, you medicate with watches, you medicate with jeely and I've done it. I've done it because when we're young, we want the easy way out.
In a way, it's like you just want to meet someone. They're gonna save you, They're gonna take care of you. The mom is right. It's just as easy to marry a rich man or a poor man. But do it. Once you have your own thing. You can marry someone rich, you can marry someone poor, you can marry someone old, you can marry someone young. Do it when you have your own skill, set, your own money, your own nesting. Then you can make clear decisions. You have the cake,
then you can get the frosting. You cannot frost nothing. You have to have the cake. You cannot make a life out of a lifestyle you can make a lifestyle out of a life. You can marry someone that you love and you have your own life and your own freedom. But you could trust and believe if you marry someone for money, you're gonna pay the rest of your life. You're gonna be medicating with stuff, and the medication is
to mask the real symptoms, which are boredom. You're not sexually stimulated, you're not intellectually stimulated, you're not emotionally stimulated. You don't respect the partner, you're turned off, whatever it is. You're gonna feel trapped. If you are in a situation and you don't have any money and no access to making money, you're gonna feel trapped, and slowly but surely,
it's gonna be death by a thousand paper cuts. You're gonna be doing what the other person wants to do, whether subtly or outwardly, and they make the fucking rules. One day, they're gonna be having sex, cheating on you. You feel like a bigger loser. You're gonna be complaining you were there when they made it. All these things are not cliches. They're true. All these things are true. All these things are why sixty percent end up in divorce. So just remember he or she who makes the gold
makes the rules. And if you marry for money, you will pay for the rest of your life. And listen to this. I made money, I have money. I can buy myself flowers, I can buy myself bags. I have been in relationships and had so many luxury items bought for me with me, and it was medicating. I was medicating because I wasn't happy and it was something to do to fill avoid And it's a quick hit, that's the honest truth. And then I've wanted to purge it
all because I don't need it. It's medicating. Just trust me, and you know what I'm talking about. Stuff. It's more stuff because it makes you avoid what's really going on. True happy people probably don't need any stuff. They don't want any stuff. They're not flexing, they're not trying to make everybody else think they have such a great life.
They're just living. And I don't think the moms are right who say because it may be easy in the short term, maybe easy in the short term, but it won't be easy in the long term.