You're listening to the Journal Party podcast where every week we get together for the ultimate journal jam session as we journal through life together as a community. My name's Alex Gallner, and I'll be your host. So, Here's how it works. I'll give you a journal prompt and a groove, and you just start writing. After a few minutes, you'll hear a little bell that sounds like this, and we'll move on to the next prompt.
After a couple minutes, you'll hear that bell again, and we'll move on to the next prompt, and we'll just keep going on like that. Until we're finished, feel free to write on whatever you like or even just follow along in your car. If you finished before the bell, you can try to dig deeper and elaborate or just chill out and enjoy the tunes. Don't overthink it. There's no wrong way to do this, so welcome to the party. Journal, party, party, party. What's up?
Party people have, uh, have you ever found yourself doing something outta character because you want people to like you? We all have, and because we all have experience with this, we all know that it usually leaves you feeling a little off. That's because the approval that you're seeking actually comes from within this week's episode is all about exploring the concept of people pleasing.
We'll be diving into how it affects our lives, how it can be a way to seek external acceptance and validation. And how we can free ourselves from this behavior. People pleasing is often a way to seek external validation, which can be a sign of underlying feelings of insecurity or unworthiness. Instead, we wanna replace people pleasing with an internal sense of validation.
When that comes from within ourselves, that means trusting in yourself, in your decisions, and allowing them to come from a place of self-love instead of what other people may think. When we take the time to reflect inwardly on our own self-worth, we can start to identify situations where our actions are based on others' approval or expectations instead of our own needs. So let's get started Here come five journal prompts to help you explore the issue of people pleasing and seeking approval.
Here comes your first prompt. When do I tend to act according to what I think someone else would prefer? When do I tend to act according to what I think someone else would prefer? Just start writing. Here comes your next prompt. What are some patterns in my life that have been motivated by seeking approval from others? What are some patterns in my life? That have been motivated by seeking approval from others. Here comes number three.
When have I put my own desires aside for someone else's opinion? When have I put my own desires aside for someone else's opinion? Almost there. Here comes prompt number four. What happens when I make decisions in my life based on what I think will please others? What happens when I make decisions in my life based on what I think will please others? Here we go with. Prop number five last one of the day.
How can I practice making decisions that honor my values and needs instead of trying to gain validation from others? How can I practice making decisions that honor my values and needs instead of trying to gain validation from others? And those are our prompts. I'd tell you a good job, but by now you should be able to give yourself the validation you need from within. You see what I did there?
Seriously though, thank you for taking this journey with us and remember, keep checking in with yourself as you navigate your life so that people pleasing doesn't become a default behavior for seeking validation or worthiness. You see, we all have unique. And valuable perspectives, and it's important to recognize that our individual experiences matter. There's no need to seek external approval or validation because your worth comes from within. No one else can give it to you.
Only you can provide this for yourself. Seriously. You see each of us is special and we all add value in our own ways, and I don't mean special in the kind of way where you get to yell at the waitress. I'm talking about how you're special because of billions of years of events that happened exactly as they did for you to be here. Now, just think about that for a second. Billions of years of cause and effect.
For you to be right where you are right now listening to this journal jam session, that's quite the domino rally, and you should honor that instead of wondering what all the other dominoes think. Allow yourself the freedom of being true to who you are without worrying about what others expect from you. Remember that you matter. And that's it. That's all I got for you. That's our show for today, folks. So thank you so much for journaling with us.
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There are people in the journal party, and I'm super excited and super grateful and I, I hope that you will join us. So, Once again, please go ahead and download the brand new journal Party app. Let me know what you think. And if you enjoyed today's show, please leave a review and spread the word so that we can make this an even bigger party next week. And I hope you have a wonderful week this week. Party on.