Jesus Christ Show | Hour 1 [12/10]

You're listening to KFI AM six forty on demand. The holidays are here and everything's changing with this season, right see music changing goodness. Many radio stations started playing Christmas music the moment Thanksgiving stopped, so music started to change. Decorations changing coming out, people putting up lights, doing all kinds of things on their home. The stores, whether it be a grocery store, department

store, decorations are changing, and even people's attitudes tend to change. Have you noticed that interactions with each other tend to be a little more pleasant, little more seasonally happy? And this is what seems to happen around this time of the year, every single year. And just like that famous Christmas song, and we all know it, there's beauty in these these small moments of comfort and joy. But what is the true meaning of joy and where does

it come from? It seems that because it tends to be a part of this season, that the assumption is that comfort and joy or joy itself lies in material things. Because this time is associated with gift giving and those types of things, that it seems that the overall attitude is that joy is somehow attached to that. Does it really come from material gifts. That would be sad if that was the case. It must come from the things of God. See. To the believer, joy is much more than a feeling.

You can't just wrap it up in a box, put a bow on it, and hand it to someone. It's not just wow, I'm in a really good mood today, or I really feel happy today. Joy is much bigger than that. Joy is much grander and much more pure than something that can be stuffed in a box or a bag or handed out to everyone. Joy has to be bigger than that. It has to be It has to be from God for it to be real. People confuse joy with happiness,

which is really not a good thing. We've said this over and over on the show, because really happiness is kind of this this flash feeling of joy due to a happening, something that happened. So you have this happiness. Somebody gives you a gift, somebody says something nice, whatever it is, you have this happiness because of that happening. But joy is altogether different. It's pure, and it's in an intense concentration. It doesn't have the ebb

and flow of happiness. It certainly can't be given to you because of a pill you're taking, or because of a gift you've been given, or because of a movie you just saw. If anything, these things that you call happiness are just a little bit of that curtain that keeps you from that joy, the joy that's there all the time. It's just a little bit of that curtain being pulled back and in just glimpsing that joy that's always with you.

Believe it or not. They say that if you're looking and looking and looking for something and can't find it, chances are you already have it. And so so many people search for joy thinking they're going to lift up a rock, or they're going to open a door or come around a corner, and there joy is seeking that going, well, where is this joy?

I keep hearing about? But it's with you always. It comes from God, and it can only be realized, It only be seen and appreciated and really understood when you're in God's presence here on earth, not the same way you'll be in God's presence in heaven, but in a state of having a relationship with God, in a state of a prayer and connection with God, that's when you'll know joy, real joy, that concentrated joy, and not just the glance or the glimpse or the little peace or the taste of joy

that you get during happenings, things that just make you happy. And during this time of year, it seems that there's this shift, this shift where even the non believer starts experience experiencing just a little bit of what the Christian does all year round. Because joy is not attached to a day, whether it's the celebration of my birth or not. Joy is always there. Joy is inside. It lasts and lasts and lasts. It's not moved or changed

by circumstance, and it's incredibly powerful. It's what keeps you stable in times of great chaos and turmoil. Having joy doesn't mean you understand everything going on around you, or that your circumstances are always pleasant or funfilled. That's a misrepresentation of joy. Joy comes from understanding your life is in God's hand, and that's where your comfort lies as well. The song comfort and joy.

There is a wonderful marriage there, but it's not because of circumstances. It's not because well, things seem to be going my way, and therefore I have joy and I have comfort. The comfort is knowing that God has you. You've heard it before, right, It's not what the future holds, but it's who holds your future that matters. Well, if God is holding your future, if God is holding you, your heart, your faith, then you won't be swayed and caught up in the things of every day.

Doesn't mean that you won't it down from time to time, but being up or down due to circumstances is normal. But joy can exist simultaneously even when you're not in the best of moods, because it's not just that feeling. The joy is there in the simplicity of life itself, enjoying mere existence. This is the day that the Lord has made. Let us rejoice in it, rejoice feeling that joy just in the simplicity of this is a day that

God made. And once you find that, once you understand that it's not something you're searching for, it's not something you're looking for, you look to know God. And with knowing God comes that joy comes, that that altogether concentrate of the things of God, not some swaying, ever changing, always in this state of flux kind of feeling. Thing. The world wants to wants you to think that that's what joy is. Their comfort is in knowing

what's going to happen to you. Comfort is knowing every step that's ahead of you. That's not comfort, that's not joy. The real comfort and joy that's talked about in scripture deals with being comforted knowing that God is with you, that God has a plan for your life, that you have a purpose, and that God loves you. Therein lies the comfort. Therein lies the

joy. God is that source of joy. And during the holidays, as you see people going throughout shopping and buying gifts and receiving gifts and eating fun snacks and fun foods and everything that comes with the holidays, the automatic place you go is that that's what brings joy. And I want to reset that

for you. I want you to see it differently, that, yes, you may be in a circumstance where you might not be with family this year, you may be in a circumstance where you've lost some family and whatever it might be, that if you have God with you throughout the any circumstance, including sometimes the sadness that comes with the holidays as well, that that is where your joy lies. That is where your comfort lies. The holidays are

here, of course, and with Christmas, it's every movie cliche. Every movie that you see dealing with Christmas always surrounds about the magic spirit of Christmas, the attitude of people, and as everything goes and changes during this time of the year, this season, you start thinking about things like joy. You hear songs that talk about comfort and joy, but to the Christian that means something altogether different. It's not just something because someone's giving you a gift,

just some wonderful feeling. Comfort and joy is very real. It's very constant, and it's pure. When you're a person of faith, it's inside. It lasts forever and good and bad circumstances, and it keeps you stable and a float during times of chaos. So don't get caught up thinking that joy is this thing that just comes once a year, or comes when gifts are present or people tend to just be in a better mood. That's not

what it is, because things will fade away. True joy must be sturdier, much more solid than material things or ever changing situations that come and go. Joy is not attached to you getting something, and it's not attached to this world at all. God is the only true source of joy and the comfort that comes with it. That's it. Tewod Corinthians one three said, blessed be the God and Father of our Lord, Jesus Christ, the father

of mercies and of God and of all comfort. God brings the fullness of joy, not part pieces, a little bit here, a little bit there. Psalm sixteen eleven says, in Thy presence is fullness of joy. The fullness of joy being in the presence of the Maker. That is joy. That is where I want you to be, not cut up in gifts or this or that, but being in the relationship with God, your joy filled by God's purpose. That's joy, not just by what life brings you.

It's okay to enjoy things. It's okay to enjoy life. It's okay to be happy the things that you have in life. But the fullness of life and true joy can only come from God. Rebecca, welcome to the Jesus Christia. Hi, Rebecca, and I know you love me, and I

truly love myself. But how can I feel joy, comfort and joy during the holiday season when everything around around me reminds me that I'm single, I'm alone, and I feel like I have no one to love me and maybe no one will ever love me. Well, that doesn't really seem plausible. There's no evidence that God makes people thirsty and then doesn't create water. Just doesn't happen. People don't run around looking for something to quench their thirst unless

there is something to quench their thirst. I will question a couple of your statements. If you are with someone and they love you, you seem to think that that then you'll be fulfilled in that you won't go looking for another mate, right, true? Okay, so the hope is that there will be a hole there of some kind and that you'll be fulfilled. Yet you tell me you love me, done, check, I love you too,

yes. And you say that you love yourself. Yes, But yet you feel the need to look for someone else in a way that is looking for fulfillment. And I will tell you this, when you truly love attracts love. It's just the way it works when And I don't mean in that like the secret and the law of attraction everything. I mean that it is it is bound together. It's materially bound together. And when you are comfortable with who you are and you are in a nice, healthy, wonderful place,

is when you will attract those that are in the same place. You don't need anybody, you know, there's not a need in that sense. There is a want and a desire and you're built for it. But if you have those desires, there's no reason for you to feel that you wouldn't have it. Now, what is in your mind? In total honesty, because if you're not honest, it's not going to do us any good. But Rebecca, in total honesty, what do you think is the reason that you

haven't found that right person? Because I'm assuming you've dated before, you've met people. Yes, okay, so what is what is the what's the reason? I've been in relationships and I've been engaged a couple of times in the past, you know, six years, and I was married before, and you know, I really don't know. I feel that the men that I am initially attracted to, and they're very attracted to me, I feel that it's just it's purely physical. There's like there's nothing there, there's no substance

there. Well, everything's going to be physical at first, I mean, that's how you see people. That's the the very first thing you're going to connect with with somebody. Is going to be physical. I like the way you look, or you're pleasing to me, or something that's it's superficial for a reason, because that's what you're going to experience first. But you say

it never goes past that. It really doesn't seem to. It's just you know, and maybe you know I've been told, but I'm I'm too picky about certain things, like for example, you know, maybe a data man who smokes cigarette. I don't smoke. And then in the beginning, okay, well, I can handle it, and then after the relationships goes on, it's like, I'm a cigarette smoke is just I can't stand it anymore. Well, smoke casually smoked marijuana, Okay, well I'm fine with it.

I'm you know, but after you know, six months of you know him, you know, sitting standing there, you know, at a bond you know, bigger than he is, you know, I just can't. It's like a deal breaker. I can't do it anymore. And then I find myself again just I'm back in the same place. I'm by myself, and I'm I'm alone. And so maybe there's something in me that is attracting dysfunctional men in some capacity. Because maybe there's something that's functional in myself and

I'm you know, I don't know. Maybe it's work. I mean I pour when I go to when I work, I pour myself into it. So maybe, you know, maybe that's what it is. It could be many things. First of all, you're choosing, choosing horribly. One of the best things to do is to find people in places that you share experiences. You don't want a carbon copy of yourself. Trust me that that's not what you're looking for. But if you don't like smoking, there's no reason

to spend the time with somebody who smokes at all. There's no reason to invest in that at all. And the same with marijuana. There's just it's not worth it if you if it doesn't work out like that, or these are not things that you want in your life, then don't even start going

down that path. But each time you do, you're wasting time in one sense by not having the experience of meeting someone else because you're now in this relationship with someone that you knew at the very beginning does things that you're not that great with. But everyone's going to have something and I'm wondering if they're is either a your your sense of what you're looking for is too great.

And this happens. The longer that you're single, more people tend to create and even more kind of exclusive and perfect image in their head as to what their partner is going to be, and it ends up becoming more difficult to find someone. So the real that could be happening too. I believe that could be happening. And work and everything like that that plays a part with everybody's life. But you can manage all that. First and foremost, do

you have any hobbies or anything that you like doing? Well? I, you know, I like cycling, I love traveling, I'm into sight seeing. You know that there's really guilty pleasures that I'm wonderful. Then that's where that's that's a good place for you to meet people now because you're you're going to connect with things that you like. However, you don't want to be going on those You don't want to be doing those things to meet someone.

You want to go and do those things to better yourself and be you know, become a continue to become a full person as you explore and learn and be curious and all of those things. But once when you're spending time, more time with yourself, and you really get to a place where you enjoy your own company. Only then can you have a relationship that's worth anything, because now it's always about adding something to your life and you're not going to

that way. And I agree, I enjoy my own company. I mean I can spend hours and hours, you know, just finding things for myself to do, even taking you know, road trips by myself, which people find really pretty scary, you know, for a single woman to go out there and take a road trip, which I've done before and it had a wonderful time. You've met wonderful people. What I what I'm seeking in my

life is a companion, you know, a true friend. And it just I feel that the guides that I date, as I explained before, they were smokers, that they were addicted to alcohol or drugs or you know, it's just they want sex and it's like there's no substance, there's just nothing, you know, there's nothing for them to stay with it. I don't know, I just I really don't know how to explain it. It's a specific I see, well, people don't. People don't. It's the best

way to say this. I will say it this way. People don't redecorate motels they go. They may be unpacked when they stay at them, because there's something about that structure that says, this is not your home. It's

just where you stay for a little while. And you don't ever want to give out that energy to anybody, and you want to make sure that everything that you're doing points to a long term relationship, that that's what you're looking for for one for Secondly, when it comes to relationships, if if you're fulfilled, if you are totally happy with who you are, then there's no

they don't have any any cachet. They're not coming saying, oh, well, she's obviously she'd needs somebody or she needs companionship or whatever, and I'm bringing that. So then therefore I'm going to take something from her. When I say I want you to be comfortable with yourself, I really mean it. I want you to get to a place where you are so comfortable with yourself that you that if somebody was hitting on you, you wouldn't even recognize

it because you're just so comfortable with where you are. And maybe that sounds like an annoyance. Oh, they're going to interrupt my day or where I'm at, and your happiness and look towards really fulfilling yourself and being in that mode. And I think once you get to that place, once you get to a place where you feel super comfortable with who you are and you're enjoying yourself and you're exploring and you're going out and you're traveling and you're doing whatever,

it'll come. So to break it down, it's have legitimate expectation. Manage your expectation as to what you want, what you're looking for. Don't go down a path that begins with something you're not looking for. You don't want to date a smoker, and I would suggest not dating a smoker,

then don't start with that. Don't even bother having that. If somebody see someone smoke, then move on. If there are things that show themselves early on, there's no reason to dig deeper for you if that's going to be a deal breaker down the line, because then it's just going to be a deal breaker with someone that you've sort of connected with. And chemistry is a wonderful thing and should be a part of it both physically. There should be

some initial chemistry, but there should also be some intellectual chemistry. And if guys constantly want to take you to bed, it's because they're not seeing that there's something else there. And that's partly on them, but it's partly on

you too. You have to show them that there's something more to the picture and that there's something more to the package of who you are, and they'll want to explore talking with you and going to other places and hearing what's on your mind and learning about the way you think and what you think and why you think it, and all those things come together, But really it starts with you. You have to be in a place. The assumption is that

when you're single, you're available, and that's not the truth. That's never the truth. Single is a state of physicality, whether you've met somebody or have somebody in your life. But being available is really a state of mental and emotional state. It's about being healthy. It's about being ready and primed and comfortable with who you are. And it's almost like when you're comfortable being alone and not needing anybody is when somebody will come along. Relationships, Really,

the entirety of the Bible is set upon the foundation of relationships. Even the Ten Commandments are really about roughly half deal with your relationship with God and half deal with your relationship with Man, Adam and Eve. From the beginning, really dealing with relationship not only between each other, but also between the animals, the earth, the natural resources, and they're very important. But everything goes back to that peak relationship on this planet, and that is going

to be interpersonal relations with each other. Of course, God is always above all of that. God is your first and your foremost love. But as you look for a partner, a good partner in life, you have to be prepared mentally and emotionally as to where you're going to be, and above all, really enjoying who you are and having your life right with God.

I know that it's a cliche to go through a breakup or go through something rough in life and then go running to the church, but I will tell you that that's no different than going through a car wash after mudwomping in your truck. It's just a matter of getting all of that off of your person emotionally and physically, and taking the time to reconnect with your God and prepare yourself for another relationship, just another another, another another, but really being

in that mindset of no, I want to be prepared for this. The assumption is just because you're single or you don't have somebody in your life that makes you prepared. That's not being prepared for anything. The absence of something is not the preparation for something else. Ever, that's just the beginning. It's like saying, well, I don't have a car, therefore I'm prepared to get one. No, have you saved up money for the car? No, so you don't have the dawn payment? No? Okay, do

you have any money in the bank. No? Do you have a home where you could park the car? No, don't have a home. Don't have money. Then, just because you don't have a car doesn't mean you're prepared for one. Likewise, prepare yourself for a relationship. Put away experiences in your emotional bank, things that you've enjoyed doing, have hobbies and interests, and things that aren't going to make you just a barnacle on someone else's

life. You don't want somebody like that in your life either. You don't want somebody to come in and go eh and latch on. You want somebody who has depth and interest, and you need to prepare yourself for that as well. So being single doesn't mean you're available and you're ready. Prepare yourself, and the way you prepare yourself is to really enjoy your own company, the things around you. Explore life, Enjoy life, have hobbies, love

yourself, love your God, and love will come. KFI AM six on demand