Being pregnant when you have a toddler can be challenging for anyone but it’s a short period in your life so don’t feel guilty about lapsed good habits or asking for help. it should simply be about getting through it the best way you can. Pregnant life when you have a toddler is hard work and Kay shares some great practical tips that will make a difference and help you get through. KEY TAKEAWAYS Sleep when your toddler sleeps, napping will become your favourite part of the day You may need to pu...
Jan 18, 2021•7 min•Ep. 54
Kay wants what many parents want for their children something extraordinary. She reflects why it is that many think an acceptable response whatever the question is ‘it’ll be fine. Is fine what you want for your children or are you willing to put in the time to put them on the path to extraordinary through taking the time to ask the right questions and do the research? KEY TAKEAWAYS I don’t want my kids to have an OK life I want them to have an extraordinary life. The most important task we under...
Jan 04, 2021•6 min•Ep. 53
Kay is on a rant today following a scene she witnessed whilst out and about. A distressed child was sent on the last part of the journey to the school gate alone by the adult who was with them. Kay looks at why children deserve to always feel special and safe and why parents and adults need to have compassion and understanding. KEY TAKEAWAYS It was a rainy day and everyone was going about their business. As adults and parents, it’s important to have compassion. That child was walking up to schoo...
Dec 21, 2020•11 min•Ep. 52
Every parent wants their children to be happy but what is the best way to achieve this? Kay looks at the importance of teaching your children how to create their own happiness so that they can achieve happiness throughout their lives. When you are with your children they are looking to you to learn and those children who practice positivity grow up to be adults who can create their own happiness so how you interact, communicate and teach behaviours through your interaction is key in developing t...
Dec 07, 2020•13 min•Ep. 51
In this fascinating episode, Kay shares great advice and information about sleep apnoea in children. She highlights a range of indicators that mean sleep apnoea should be considered and explains what to do if you think your child is struggling with sleep apnoea. It’s important to understand how sleep apnoea can potentially impact on a child in the long term and in knowing what the indicators are you are in a much better position to take the action you need to for your child and their well-being....
Nov 23, 2020•24 min•Ep. 50
Kay shares a reflective and entertaining account of the summer of 2020 in this episode. For everyone, the world has been different and if you have children it has been not only different but exhausting as parents moved to fulfil the role of teachers when we all had to stay at home. When your children are all grown up with little ones of their own and they reflect on the challenges of the long summer holiday from school your reply will undoubtedly be along the lines of…..you don’t know how lucky ...
Nov 09, 2020•7 min•Ep. 49
Kay reflects on working at home with her little ones back at nursery. After such a long time with everyone together, it’s very different and she explains how even though you know you are doing the best for your little ones the Mummy guilt is quick to appear. This episode and the feelings of Mummy guilt will resonante with many Mums who are sending their little ones back to nursery and school after being with them at home for many months. KEY TAKEAWAYS When you have small children their presence ...
Oct 26, 2020•18 min•Ep. 48
Kay is in the middle of a very special day because it’s the first day back at nursery. She is going back to work and her twins are returning to the nurturing environment of nursery. As she tries to juggle many different things over the day she reflects on the changes to nursery and the importance of being with others to further nurture and happiness when you are little. KEY TAKEAWAYS I was apprehensive but it all seems to be going ok Nurseries are in a really difficult position post lockdown Bef...
Oct 11, 2020•12 min•Ep. 47
Kay has a rant about the differences between men and women, why they need to have explicit instructions to achieve anything at home and how they don’t listen to anything you are saying. She asks, ‘how should we plan to tell our other halves how not to be arses and do something that would help?’ KEY TAKEAWAYS With men, you have to slow it down for them and put everything in order. You have to be explicit about what you want, spelling it out clearly. Men don’t listen to what you are saying unless ...
Sep 27, 2020•14 min•Ep. 46
Kay continues sharing her day to day experiences of being a Mum of twins and in this episode discusses how it’s can be so important to find so time away from being a Mummy, a time where you are able to just be you. When you have children, every day is an emotional rollercoaster and some can bring more complex emotions to deal with and get through. KEY TAKEAWAYS When you have more than one child the time you have with them individually is very precious. The emotions you experience when your child...
Sep 13, 2020•18 min•Ep. 45
Kay shares the ups and downs of ‘Day 4’ with the excitement of visitors and playing outside through to the reality all parents have to face – that someone else’s food always tastes better to children than the food they have at home. This is an insight into a routine day that every parent will be able to identify with -it comes with both highs and lows which is a reflection of what it’s like being a parent every day. KEY TAKEAWAYS Being up early can make a positive difference to the day. Sometime...
Aug 30, 2020•9 min•Ep. 44
In this episode, Kay gives an honest insight into the challenges she is facing as a Mum at the moment. It’s easy for people to always give the impression that everything is going well but life with little ones is continually changing as they grow. What works one day may not work the next so being a Mum is always a balancing act. Kay shares how you can go from a day of desperation to a brighter one and the importance of accepting help even if it’s not the way you would have done it. KEY TAKEAWAYS...
Aug 16, 2020•12 min•Ep. 43
Kay has been looking at ‘Pregnancy Miracle’ a publication that brings together the perspectives of western and eastern medicines and identifies practical steps that can be taken by anyone to improve the strength and function of those organs and functions involved in both conception and pregnancy. Kay shares a balanced view of the book and its step by step program to getting pregnant naturally that will support individuals who are looking at the possibilities of this approach. KEY TAKEAWAYS The b...
Aug 02, 2020•10 min•Ep. 42
In this episode, Kay looks at the benefits of acupuncture. As someone who had this treatment during her own fertility treatment, Kay offers both a personal view and great information about acupuncture and the role it can play in supporting good egg quality through increased blood flow. Kay also discusses the importance of believing in the acupuncture treatment if you want to optimise it and the possible outcomes as part of your fertility treatment. KEY TAKEAWAYS There are benefits using acupunct...
Jul 19, 2020•13 min•Ep. 41
Kay contemplates, as every parent does, the answer to the question ‘Have I not given them enough? or have I given them too much?’ Parenting can be hard and Kay shares how in even a very short time small people can be both hugely challenging and hugely loving as they try to find themselves in the world. There are days when every parent can feel broken by the experience and wonder what they can do to make things better and why they don’t seem to be able to meet the needs of their children but a fa...
Jul 05, 2020•20 min•Ep. 40
In this episode Kay reflects on how lockdown is affecting lots of people in different ways and asks the question: ‘Has the pandemic and the lockdown just highlighted the loneliness for some?’ For many, it has been about coming together and community but if you are someone without family and friends it can be challenging watching the rest of the world getting together even if they are doing it whilst socially distancing. KEY TAKEAWAYS Hearing about others looking after each other can be challengi...
Jun 21, 2020•8 min•Ep. 39
Kay explains the huge significance and exactly why she knows what she was doing 4 years ago. She shares her experience of IVF conception and what its truly like in this great episode that shares with honesty both the experience and what IVF actually means for those who struggle to conceive. If you want it enough anything is possible and dreams do come true. KEY TAKEAWAYS The new protocol for IVF was very daunting but with it was the possibility of making life. That was life in that small dish ju...
Jun 07, 2020•20 min•Ep. 38
Kay asked the community to let her know about their questions and in this ‘preview episode’ she is giving a sneak peek about what’s up and coming in the next weeks. The questions about IVF are wide-ranging and in upcoming episodes, Kay will be investigating both the big questions and the small, but still vitally important ones. Listen in and find out what you can look forward to hearing about. KEY TAKEAWAYS Anyone contemplating or undertaking IVF will have many wide-ranging questions such as; Ho...
May 24, 2020•8 min•Ep. 37
In this episode of IVF Before and After, Kay shares a story from an anonymous source about the experience of being an NICU parent, having the joy of bringing a new baby into this world being immediately transformed into a world of anxiety and pain. Having a baby in intensive care is a horror that no parent wants to go through and is an experience that can cause PTSD symptoms for many years. By sharing this story, Kay hopes that those going through this experience can find comfort and hope in thi...
May 10, 2020•6 min•Ep. 36
In this episode of IVF Before & After, Kay shares a blog from the Twins Trust Forum, celebrating parents of twins and triplets and the quirks associated with it, the instant communication that twins and triplets have from birth and the secret language that they hold. Double the effort reaps double the reward, with double the hugs and double the love! Twins and triplets will always have each other, and whilst they may be at each other’s throats sometimes, they have a lifetime bond that can ne...
Apr 26, 2020•8 min•Ep. 35
Kay is discussing the importance of having a routine when you have a precious baby in your life. Establishing a routine can be challenging and everyone’s routines will be different, tailored to the lives they lead but it is invaluable. As your baby grows and changes your routines must also change and Kay shares the key elements of change and the best ways to achieve the changes in routine you will need, listen in and find out how. KEY TAKEAWAYS A routine is invaluable but you have to be prepared...
Apr 12, 2020•9 min•Ep. 34
‘Lie down with them and listen to what they tell you about their day and sing them their favourite song as they go to sleep’ In this episode, Kay reflects on the importance and long-term positive impact of a night time routine. Children grow through their lives with great speed and a night time routine is when you can give them what they want and need. If you put everything else aside and give them your attention and time you will be providing them with a foundation of security and confidence th...
Mar 23, 2020•8 min•Ep. 33
‘Help your child grow on the journey they are on towards being an adult’ Kay explores the ways people react to toddlers who are unable to manage their anger and emotions. The reactions of others can often be harsh and lack compassion but as a parent, you have a key role in helping your child learn how to manage their emotions as part of their journey through childhood and onwards towards being an adult. Listen in and find out how to manage anger in the right way. KEY TAKEAWAYS Children must have...
Mar 09, 2020•12 min•Ep. 32
‘Having something to hold on to can help them to navigate through their lives creating amazing human relationships Kay looks at the importance of security blankets and why they are so important to young children as they make their first connections and relationships. Listen in and find out how ‘the security blanket’ whether it’s a small toy or a complete duvet plays a crucial role for young children as they make their first steps out into the wider world. KEY TAKEAWAYS As parents, we don’t reall...
Feb 24, 2020•7 min•Ep. 31
This is when it’s all down to nature, God and fate, we are all in the hands of that little dish’ In this informative episode, Kay shares an overview and concise guide to the IVF process. She also explains how every clinic and every cycle is different. IVF isn’t straight forward, there are always a multitude of questions which need answers. Every IVF cycle is an incredible opportunity but also a gamble as there are no guarantees. Listen in to find out what going through the process is really like...
Oct 20, 2019•14 min•Ep. 30
‘You need to learn what your toddler is trying to communicate through a tantrum’ It may feel completely overwhelming when your toddler is having a meltdown but remember to always be there for that child and not think about what others think. Kay talks candidly about her recent challenges with her toddler whilst on holiday and explores the reasons why toddlers have tantrums and the importance of listening to what they are trying to say. When your child is having that meltdown put your arms out an...
Sep 08, 2019•15 min•Ep. 29
When did you last invite your friends over for a dinner party or did a shopping spree? How did it go? When you become a mum, it’s difficult to allot your free time to other activities. Out of nowhere, your leisure for yourself became a luxury—which you don’t mind. In this episode of the IVF Before & After Podcast, Kay opens up about the unacceptable judgment that’s being received by moms. Do people really have to go that far and classify each whether they’re a good mum or a bad mum? A mum’s ...
Aug 25, 2019•10 min•Ep. 28
This episode brings us the ‘After’ in the IVFBAA podcast series as Kay shares a candid account of what it is really like getting twins ready to go out. A family day out involves many things coming together so that everyone can leave the house at the same time, Kay reflects on the dynamics of her family and questions her routine in an episode that will resonant with anyone who has young children and provides an insightful view of what is to come for those on the path to parenthood. KEY TAKEAWAYS ...
Aug 11, 2019•16 min•Ep. 27
‘Eating fertility foods in preparation for your pregnancy and to boost fertility is one of the most powerful health changes you can make for yourself’ Kay looks at the research studies on how the food we eat can make a positive impact on fertility. She takes us through the different food groups and the role they play in preparing the body for reproduction. Listen in now for practical advice and tips on how to positively prepare to be a parent. KEY TAKEAWAYS Numerous studies have shown that speci...
Jun 16, 2019•13 min•Ep. 26
‘Your body needs vitamin D so finding out what your levels are could be life changing for you’ Not all clinics test for vitamin D and in this episode Kay investigates the importance of this vitamin in fertility and a healthy pregnancy. Not everybody is aware of the role vitamin D plays and Kay explains how our bodies process Vitamin D and its importance for those trying to conceive, listen in now to find out more. KEY TAKEAWAYS From late March to September most individuals are able to get the vi...
Jun 02, 2019•19 min•Ep. 25
