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It Takes A Village

Nine to Noon's Kathryn Ryan interviews parenting experts to help you navigate the trends, trials & tough calls of modern family life.
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With so many education apps - how can parents know which ones are good?

The phrase "there's an app for that" certainly applies in the education space - one estimate puts numbers available on the Apple and Google Play stores at nearly 400,000. But are they any good? The phrase "there's an app for that" certainly applies in the education space - one estimate puts numbers available on the Apple and Google Play stores at nearly 400,000. But are they any good? If you're a parent looking for an EduApp to help your child learn, or an educator, looking for something useful ...

Sep 05, 202418 minEp. 316

Do sticker charts help or harm?

The big question for many parents of young children is - how can I get my kids to do what I'm asking them to do? The big question for many parents of young children is - how can I get my kids to do what I'm asking them to do? Some parents swear by sticker charts or reward charts and the idea that you can encourage your child to do certain things with the promise of a material reward. But can this do harm if a child decides they'll only be helpful when something they want is given in return? Mich...

Aug 28, 202417 minEp. 315

Parenting: the impact of traditional masculinity on boys

New York Times contributor Andrew Reiner writes about traditional roles previously assigned to men and boys affects their lives. no caption New York Times contributor Andrew Reiner writes about traditional roles previously assigned to men and boys affects their lives. He's a published author of the book - Better Boys, Better Men, and also an educator. At Towson University in Maryland he's taught a range of courses, including Leading Lives That Matter, and The Changing Face of Masculinity. Andrew...

Aug 22, 202420 minEp. 314

Maggie Dent: Queen of Commonsense Parenting

Maggie Dent is known as the Queen of Commonsense Parenting. She's a former high school teacher, counsellor, mother of four sons, grandmother of seven, author of numerous books and the host of the ABC podcast Parental as Anything. Her latest book is called Help Me, Help My Teen. And Maggie's coming to Auckland next month for two public sessions: Mothering our Boys and Calming Today's Anxious Kids. Send questions for Maggie to 2101 on text or email ninetonoon@rnz.co.nz Go to this episode on rnz.co...

Aug 15, 202427 minEp. 313

I'm a helpful dad, so why do the kids only want mum?

Parenting commentator Nathan Wallis joins Paddy Gower to talk about what to do when child only wants the other parent. Parenting commentator Nathan Wallis joins Paddy Gower to talk about what to do when child only wants the other parent. It is painful, but he says it is normal, and shares strategies on how to rebalance the dynamic. Go to this episode on rnz.co.nz for more details

Aug 07, 202414 minEp. 312

Lucy Foulkes: Why teens behave the way they do

Dr Lucy Foulkes is an academic psychologist at the University of Oxford, and her new book draws on decades of research to reveal why teens behave they way they do. Adolescence is a time many of us might want to forget: full of self doubt, peer pressure, bullying, and self consciousness. It's also a time of intense friendships, first love, risk taking and self discovery. Dr Lucy Foulkes is an academic psychologist at the University of Oxford, where she leads research into adolescent mental health...

Aug 06, 202429 minEp. 311

Parenting: How to talk to your children about setbacks

A University of Auckland led study has investigated how parents discuss setbacks with their children - and the correlation with a child's fear of making mistakes. A University of Auckland led study has investigated how parents discuss setbacks with their children - and the correlation with a child's fear of making mistakes. Associate Professor of Psychology Elizabeth Peterson is with us to discuss the findings and explore ways to talk to your children about disappointment and making mistakes. Is...

Aug 01, 202416 minEp. 310

How not to lose your cool with your kids

Tips and tricks for keeping your cool with your children. Tips and tricks for keeping your cool with your children. Many parents will have had moments with their kids they're not proud of, and they've yelled at their children in the moment. Jackie Riach is a psychologist and manager of parenting organisation Triple P New Zealand. She shares strategies for not "losing it". Go to this episode on rnz.co.nz for more details...

Jul 25, 202418 minEp. 309

Helping teens make peace with anxiety

Clinical and health psychologist Dr Toni Lindsay says anxiety is a bit like chocolate: a little bit is ok, but too much can make you spin out. "Anxiety is going to show up anyway and us fighting with it or trying to get rid of it actually just makes us really exhausted." While it can be "really, really uncomfortable" anxiety is a natural experience we can learn to work with, says clinical psychologist Dr Toni Lindsay. Her new book Everything Anxiety Told You Is a Lie is a therapeutic guide for 1...

Jul 18, 202424 minEp. 308

Parenting: when preschoolers struggle with speaking skills

Wellington speech and language therapist Christian Wright discusses the different spoken language stages preschoolers go through as they learn to talk. Wellington speech and language therapist Christian Wright discusses the different spoken language stages preschoolers go through as they learn to talk. He shares language stimulation strategies for parents to help children's language development. Go to this episode on rnz.co.nz for more details...

Jul 11, 202421 minEp. 307

Parenting: How to carry the mental load

Psychologist Jacqui Maguire discusses tips and advice for parents struggling to carry the mental load of parenting, family life and work. Psychologist Jacqui Maguire discusses tips and advice for parents struggling to carry the mental load of parenting, family life and work. Go to this episode on rnz.co.nz for more details

Jun 27, 202423 minEp. 306

Is my kid old enough to watch this show?

How young is too young to watch Stranger Things (M with a content warning)? What do you tell a 16-year-old who wants to watch Euphoria (R18 so actually illegal for those 17 and under)? To make informed decisions about safe family viewing, parents should take into account not only ratings and content warnings but also their child's individual sensitivities, says Kate Whitaker from New Zealand's Classification Office. How young is too young to watch Stranger Things (M with a content warning)? What...

Jun 19, 202415 minEp. 305

Parenting: navigating kids and devices

When Rob and Zareen Cope's four children began wanting phones and screens, the pair decided to dive into the research. They travelled overseas talking with experts and made a documentary. Today, the Cope's company - Our Kids Online - educates parents about the dangers of handheld devices and the internet-age, and how best to mitigate them. They spoke to around 500 parents in Wellington last night. Parents need to take more control over their children's online activity, a Kiwi couple who run an o...

Jun 13, 202422 minEp. 304

Baby Food Bible: Parents' go-to guide for the start of baby's food journey

Starting baby on solids can be a daunting prospect, no matter how many kids you have - since every child's food journey is different. Baby led weaning or spoon feeding? How to introduce potential allergens into their diet? How much is enough? Australian-based duo Julia Tellidis and Lauren Skora are a clinical nutritionist and baby nutrition consultant who have have teamed up to create what they've called 'Baby Food Bible'. In addition to extensive information about the whens and hows of introduc...

Jun 06, 202417 minEp. 303

Parenting: How to help children make their own decisions

How do you encourage children to start making their own decisions? And at what age should they be able to do this with confidence? First off, it's all about helping them build "decision-making scaffolding", education specialist Mark Osborne tells Nine to Noon. How do you encourage children to start making their own decisions? And at what age should they be able to do this with confidence? First off, it's all about helping them build "decision-making scaffolding", education specialist Mark Osborn...

May 30, 202418 minEp. 302

Tamariki wellbeing and ways to document it

Gratitude journals have been embraced by some adults in recent years - but what about children? An electrician turned writer, and an Auckland teacher have now created a wellbeing journal for tamariki - Piki te Ora. Hira Nathan trained as an electrician, it is still his day job, but has always had a passion for writing. He has already written a bilingual gratitude journal for adults- Whakawhetai. And now Hira has teamed with Pike te Ora co author, Jessie Eyre who is a teacher at Western Heights S...

May 23, 202416 minEp. 301

Parenting: Tips for when adult children move back home

One in every three people between the ages of 18 and 34 still live at home with their parents, according to Stats NZ. How do you navigate sharing household costs with adult children who've either returned home or never left? One in every three people between the ages of 18 and 34 still live at home with their parents, according to Stats NZ. How do you navigate sharing household costs with adult children who've either returned home or never left? Financial planner Vinessa Orsbourn gives tips on h...

May 15, 202416 minEp. 300

Parenting: Helping kids with a healthy competition mindset

Melbourne-based provisional psychologist Darren Godwin says tween and teens athletes and their parents can benefit from the same sort of assistance pros get to deal with ups and downs. Melbourne-based provisional psychologist Darren Godwin works with Australia's largest sport and performance psychology practice, Condor Performance. Professional sports teams have the services or psychologists to help players navigate the ups and downs of competition and their own doubts and motivation. He says tw...

May 08, 202419 minEp. 299

Dial M for mobile: Helping kids navigate their first phone

As a cellphone ban comes into force this term for school kids, Nine to Noon looks at the issue of when to get a phone for your child. While many - if not most - of us had a phone-free childhood, the pressure for children to get their own phones is creeping lower and lower. Many parents will opt for Year 7 and 8 - the intermediate school years - as a time when a phone can help kids navigate a little independence with the peace of mind being able to contact them can bring. Joining Kathryn to talk ...

May 01, 202416 minEp. 298

How mums can support their daughters' healthy body image

Negative body image is a lifelong issue for many women which social media only serves to fuel. Yet the habits and self-talk of mothers can also have a profound effect on young girls becoming overly critical of their bodies. Psychologists Janet Boseovski and Ashleigh Gallagher offer advice on what to do and what not to do in their new book Beyond Body Positive: A Mother's Evidence-Based Guide for Helping Girls Build a Healthy Body Image. Negative body image is a lifelong issue for many women whic...

Apr 18, 202419 minEp. 297

Using music therapy to build confidence in children

We intuitively know music is powerful. Songs have the ability to shape the way that we feel about and interact with the world. Music therapists harness that power to help people overcome metal and physical challenges. It can be particularly useful for children who need a little extra push to meet their development goals. Sessions involve celebrating music in all its forms, singing songs and playing instruments. To celebrate World Music Therapy Week, which runs from the 10th to the 15th of April,...

Apr 11, 202420 minEp. 296

Play wild: Rachel Clare on activities to get the kids outdoors

Many parents will know the struggle of getting children off devices. But Rachel Clare has some great ideas. Many parents will know the struggle of getting children off devices. But Rachel Clare has some great ideas. She's the author of Play Wild: Nature Craft Projects for Tamariki. It's a how-to guide for getting kids into nature and encouraging their creativity. As Rachel points out in the book, you don't have to have your own garden to be able to do them - nature is everywhere, and so are the ...

Apr 03, 202418 minEp. 295

Helping pre schoolers build language across the day

Speech and language therapist Christian Wright on some of the most effective evidence based-strategies to build preschoolers language across the day. Speech and language therapist Christian Wright talks about some of the most effective evidence-based strategies to build preschoolers language across the day Go to this episode on rnz.co.nz for more details

Mar 27, 202417 minEp. 294

How to help your child make friends

The social aspect of school can be a minefield for some kids. Parents and caregivers can help them navigate the fickle world of friendship by asking questions that aren't the "nervous" kind, says Life Education Trust educator Ingrid Kemp. The social aspect of school can be a minefield for some kids. Parents and caregivers can help them navigate the fickle world of friendship by asking questions that aren't the "nervous" kind, says Life Education Trust educator Ingrid Kemp. "Be really careful tha...

Mar 20, 202415 minEp. 293

Parenting: What to do when your child refuses to go to school

School refusal is a different kettle of fish than a child simply wanting to stay home for a day. It's a situation where they become so anxious or fearful - and it can be for a variety of reasons - that they refuse to go, repeatedly. While it's difficult to measure how many kids experience this, Dr Rosina McAlpine, founder of the Win Win Parenting program in Australia, says it could be up to five percent. Dr Rosina founded the parenting wellness workshop, which has been run across Australia and N...

Mar 13, 202420 minEp. 292

Parenting: Why social media friendships are crucial for young adolescents

It is a vexed issue for many parents, how to navigate the social media tightrope with their children and be aware of the dangers. It is a vexed issue for many parents, how to navigate the social media tightrope with their children and be aware of the dangers. Dr Mandy Truong is a public health researcher from the Australian Institute of Family Studies who is across the positive aspects of online activity. She says having friends is critical for early adolescents but so too is social media. She h...

Mar 06, 202414 minEp. 291

Parenting: What to do if your children just can't get along

Boston-based psychologist Laurie Kramer has built a career out of helping children to get along. Her work focuses on the experiences of kids aged three to five - an age where many become siblings for the first time, and are also making friends at preschool and kindergarten. Her work began in the '90s, when as a fresh graduate she became interested in what childrens' interactions were actually like, when no adult was around. Kramer, a professor of applied psychology at Northeastern University, wa...

Feb 28, 202415 minEp. 290

Healthy brain development and how to promote it

Neuroscience educator and parenting coach Nathan Wallis discusses the incredible development of the human brain - particularly in the early months and years. He talks about research which identifies critical or sensitive periods in early childhood which can impact brain development. What are these "windows"? And once closed, can they ever be re-opened? Neuroscience educator and parenting coach Nathan Wallis discusses the incredible development of the human brain - particularly in the early month...

Feb 21, 202417 minEp. 289

How to help with back-to-school anxiety

Kathryn speaks with parenting coach Dayna Galloway about strategies for parents and caregivers. It's early on in the school year, but some children will still be feeling anxiety about returning to the classroom. Kathryn speaks with parenting coach Dayna Galloway about strategies for parents and caregivers. Go to this episode on rnz.co.nz for more details

Feb 14, 202416 minEp. 288

Technology advances helping children with disabilities in class

The start of the school year can be an expensive time, not just for uniforms and stationery, but for devices too. And if you are the parent of a child with disabilities the costs are amplified. Workbridge Chief Executive and Assistive Technology consultant Jonathan Mosen says there's a complexity of choice for aids to help pupils with visual and hearing impairment - and with that can come high price tags. The start of the school year can be an expensive time, not just for uniforms and stationery...

Feb 06, 202415 minEp. 287
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