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It's Not You, It's Them...But It Might Be You with LalalaLetMeExplain

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Lalalaletmeexplain is here to answer all YOUR questions around love, dating, sex, and relationships. Her unfiltered advice is not only candid and insightful, but she delivers you tough love when needed. Having swam the depths of the dating pool herself, Lala’s advice comes from a place of experience and expertise. On Mondays Lala will be addressing a hot topic of the week, whether it’s a discussion around female misogyny blowing up your timeline or the arguments around Sex Education in schools that’s splashed across the headlines. Wednesdays she’s tackling your issues and conundrums around love, sex and relationships and on Fridays Lala will be diving into your dating dilemmas, red flag alerts, instant ick reactions and sharing her weekend reminders. And twice a month she’ll be joined by a guest to deliberate your questions. Lala is the author of the best-selling dating guide Block, Delete, Move On, OK Mag’s resident agony aunt, a sexual health and relationship educator and she’s a social worker with over a decade of experience in child safeguarding and child protection. It's Not You, It's Them...But it Might Be You is the trustworthy, down to earth advice that you've been waiting for! A Sony Music Entertainment production. Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts and follow us at @sonypodcasts To bring your brand to life in this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com To get in touch please DM Lala in instagram @asklalalaletmeexplain. And if you would like to read more from Lala follow the link for her weekly OK Mag column. https://www.ok.co.uk/authors/Lalalaletmeexplain/
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Episodes

How The Russell Brand Allegations Have Revealed Social Media Misogyny

Lala delivers a special episode discussing the mainstream narrative around sexual assault and celebrity. She looks at the harmful reactions to rape allegations, particularly within online platforms, dissecting the disturbing trend of blaming victims and the culture that enables abusers, whilst also shedding light on the painful reality for those victims. TRIGGER WARNING - This episode discusses rape and sexual abuse. DM Lala on Instagram @asklalalaletmeexplain with your questions. A Sony Music E...

Sep 20, 202337 minSeason 1Ep. 29

Track Your Cycle to Change Your Life

Lala is talking all about periods, looking at her personal experiences along with the historical and societal stigmas surrounding menstruation. She’s exploring the emotional, physical and mental effects of the menstrual cycle along with the spiritual power periods can hold. Got a question, for Lala? She’s all ears! Get in touch @asklalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape together! A Sony Music Entertainment production Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Ente...

Sep 18, 202323 minSeason 1Ep. 28

Polyamory Red Flag and The Power Of Forest Gump

Ever been in a relationship where you noticed something slightly off? That your gut is trying to tell you something? Luckily for you Lala is here, the aunt to your agony. In this episode she’s exploring potential red flags that occur through the nuances of physical intimacy, chatting with other people whilst in a relationship, and the mysterious case of deleted messages. Plus, Icks return featuring armpit hair and crying whilst watching Forest Gump! Got a question, an ick story or a red flag you...

Sep 15, 202322 minSeason 1Ep. 27

Lost in Translation, Love Bombing and Navigating Infidelity

How do you differentiate between someone that’s really into you or someone that’s love bombing you? Have you ever had a flirty joke not land and result in a communication break down? Is it possible to forgive infidelity whilst managing the challenges of dating someone in the military? Lala gives her insights and advice on navigating these complex situations. Got a question, an ick story or a red flag you need help with? We're all ears! Get in touch @asklalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's nav...

Sep 13, 202319 minSeason 1Ep. 26

'Slut Shaming' Her To Get To Him – Logan Paul vs Dillon Danis

Lala looks at the toxic culture and conversations around slut shaming women, in the wake of the recent internet feud between Logan Paul and Dillon Danis. In the lead up to their boxing match Dillon Danis has been posting photos of Logan Paul’s fiancée, Nina Agdal with other men, in an attempt to shame and humiliate Logan Paul, whilst perpetuating the harmful narratives of women's sexuality. This isn't just about a celebrity boxing match; it's a glaring reflection of the double standards and dama...

Sep 11, 202316 minSeason 1Ep. 25

Untamed Bush and Bringing Lube To a First Date

The amazing Grace Campbell is back for round two!! Grace joins Lala to dissect some juicy dating dilemma’s. Does penis size matter? Is turning up to a first date with lube a red flag and when should you have 'the relationship label' conversation? Plus Grace tells us her Icks and delivers her Friday night reminder to set you on the right path this weekend. Got a question, an ick story or a red flag you need help with? We're all ears! Get in touch @asklalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's naviga...

Sep 08, 202323 minSeason 1Ep. 24

Feeld, Female Misogynist and an Overly Familiar Ex

How do you play the ‘Feeld’? Feeld is a non-monogamous dating app. Is it possible to have fun on there and stay safe? Ever found yourself at odds with a friend whose views have drastically diverged from yours? Would you let your partner carry on a friendship with his ex? Lala gives her insights and advice on navigating these complex situations. Got a question, an ick story or a red flag you need help with? We're all ears! Get in touch @asklalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this rom...

Sep 06, 202323 minSeason 1Ep. 23

Two Banana’s, A Blood Bath And a Trip to A&E

La La recalls a hilarious and unnerving encounter from her twenties. Hear how a simple festival meetup and a seemingly innocent picnic date took a shocking turn, taking in drugs, sex and more than a little bit of blood. Enjoy this ‘eye’ opening tale that almost ended in an emergency visit to the hospital and a potential man(hood) slaughter charge! If you’ve got any dating horror stories you’d like to share please get in touch @asklalaletmeexplain on Instagram. Let's use our experiences to educat...

Sep 04, 202318 minSeason 1Ep. 22

The Lighthouse Family Ick, Misogynist Red Flags and The Lasagne Virgin

The Icks are back and this week La La has ‘Lifted’ the hopes of a Lighthouse Family super fan and tackles a new love interest who has never tried lasagne!!?? Plus, the body count discussion is back in this week’s listener Red Flag. Got a question, an ick story or a red flag you need help with? We're all ears! Get in touch @asklalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape together! A Sony Music Entertainment production Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainm...

Sep 01, 202322 minSeason 1Ep. 21

Is Porn Making Men Bad in Bed?

Your cousin’s older partner makes a move on you, how do you deal with it!? How would you help a friend in an abusive relationship and how do you recognise the red flags? What affect does porn have on sexual computability and can you change a partner’s sexual habits? Lala answers all these question in this episode! DM Lala on Instagram @asklalalaletmeexplain with your questions and dating dilemmas. No topic is off limits or too embarrassing. Lala is here to shed light on those areas of life we’re...

Aug 30, 202322 minSeason 1Ep. 20

Navigating Life with ADHD

Lala discusses the challenges of living with ADHD and the profound effects it has on relationships and everyday tasks. This episode explores ADHD's many layers, the addiction, compulsive behaviour, and even the inadequacies of our education system in accommodating people with ADHD. Glossary of terms used in this episode ADHD - Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a condition that affects people's behaviour. People with ADHD can seem restless, may have trouble concentrating and may ...

Aug 28, 202325 minSeason 1Ep. 19

Water Sports and Dating Your Friends’ Old Flames With Grace Campbell

Lala is joined by the phenomenal Grace Campbell to help navigate the turbulent waters of love and dating. How would you feel if your bestie hooked up with your ex? Would you be alarmed if your date was into water sports? Lala and Grace answer these questions in today’s episode. Got a question, an ick story or a red flag you need help with? We're all ears! Get in touch @asklalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape together! A Sony Music Entertainment production Find...

Aug 25, 202320 minSeason 1Ep. 18

Girl Code and the Disappearing Willy Washer

How do you spot the 'f**kboys' fresh out of relationships looking for casual encounters? How would you react if you discovered your partner had been hiding a new-born child and baby mum? Is disappearing after sex to wash your penis something to be worried about? Lala gives you her take as she tackles your dilemmas! DM Lala on Instagram @asklalalaletmeexplain with your questions and dating dilemmas. No topic is off limits or too embarrassing. Lala is here to shed light on those areas of life we’r...

Aug 23, 202320 minSeason 1Ep. 17

Body Counts - Why People Who Use Them Against Women Are Idiots

What's your body count? Why does it matter? No... Really. Why does it matter? Is it a weapon to shame women who like casual sex? Or a way for men to make a smart judgement about their partners? This week Lala runs the numbers and the figures don't look good for body count obsessed men... DM Lala on Instagram @asklalalaletmeexplain with your questions and dating dilemmas. No topic is off limits or too embarrassing. Lala is here to dive into those areas of life we’re questioning. And to keep acros...

Aug 21, 202326 minSeason 1Ep. 16

Lord Coldimort Icks, Naked Panic and a Failed Housewarming

Lala unravels the hilarious layers of this week’s Icks stories sent in by the listeners and she’ll be replying to your red flag queries ranging from love bombing to extreme jealously. Plus, she sets you up for a fabulous weekend with her Friday Night reminder to make sure you have an enjoyable weekend centered around self-care, ensuring a weekend devoid of negative encounters. Got a question, an ick story or a red flag you need help with? We're all ears! Get in touch @asklalaletmeexplain on Inst...

Aug 18, 202318 minSeason 1Ep. 15

Bisexual Boyfriends and X Rated Over Sharing

Would you give your boyfriend a free pass to be with another man? How would you tell your friend that is sharing too much of their sex life? Would you share your annoyance when a date gets rearranged? In this week's episode, Lala takes on these questions and shares her thoughts. DM Lala on Instagram @asklalalaletmeexplain with your questions and dating dilemmas. No topic is off limits or too embarrassing. Lala is here to shed light on those areas of life we’re questioning. And to keep across the...

Aug 16, 202317 minSeason 1Ep. 14

Not Guilty Doesn't Mean Innocent: A Discussion About the Justice System and Rape with Grace Campbell

Lala is speaking with Grace Campbell about the harsh truths surrounding rape, sexual assault, and the justice system. They look at the daunting task of reporting rape, the seemingly insurmountable challenges that survivors encounter in proving their cases in court and the stigma victims face after a verdict is not guilty. DM Lala on Instagram @asklalalaletmeexplain with your questions and dating dilemmas. No topic is off limits or too embarrassing. Lala is here to dive into those areas of life w...

Aug 14, 202321 minSeason 1Ep. 13

Narcissism, Stag Woes and Finding Out He's Married

How would you approach a covert narcissist? What are your stag do’s and don’ts? How do you get back into the dating scene after a huge betrayal? Lala tackles it all in this week’s episode, answering your questions. DM Lala on Instagram @asklalalaletmeexplain with your questions and dating dilemmas. No topic is off limits or too embarrassing. Lala is here to shed light on those areas of life we’re questioning. And to keep across the conversation head to @lalalaletmeexplain on Instagram. A Somethi...

Aug 09, 202323 minSeason 1Ep. 11

Understanding Limerence: From Infatuation to Obsession

Have you ever found yourself completely infatuated, to the point where it feels like a rollercoaster ride of emotions? Well, you're not alone. Lala unravels the often overlooked yet relatable topic of limerence - an obsessive infatuation that blurs the line between normal crushes and disturbing obsession. Lala delves deep into its addictive nature, its impact on our daily lives, and why it's more common than you might think. DM Lala on Instagram @asklalalaletmeexplain with your questions and dat...

Aug 07, 202320 minSeason 1Ep. 10

F**kboy Replies, Welcome Breeze Icks, and a Big Update

It’s time for the podcast premiere of f**kboy replies!! Lala’s f**kboy alter ego responds to text messages from someone sick of being the “other women”, a double ghosting and getting turned down to chill. Hilarious ick stories are back and this week with hhhhonions, enjoying a cool breeze, and flexing muscles on Facetime. And there is BIG news…We have an update from one of our listeners from our Negging Trolls, Needing Space and Mail Order Bride (July 26th) episode. Plus don’t forget your Friday...

Aug 04, 202325 minSeason 1Ep. 9

One Night Stands, Fancying Colleagues and Dating as a Mum

Have you fallen for a one night stand? When would you tell someone you’d like to date, that you have a 19 month child? Is it ok to text a colleagues’ work phone to ask him on a date? Lala is here every Wednesday to take on all your questions around sex, love, relationships and dating. Listen to what Lala has to say in response to the questions above, from one night stands, approaching a colleague for a date and working out the best time to tell a man you’d like to date about your child. DM Lala ...

Aug 02, 202320 minSeason 1Ep. 8

What About Men?

Lala is shedding light on the gender debates and looking closely at feminist writer, Caitlin Moran's new book ‘What About Men’ and exploring the recent comments that are circulating on social media. In this episode, Lala is delving into Caitlin’s comments and exploring the realities behind them. DM Lala on Instagram @asklalalaletmeexplain with your questions and dating dilemmas. No topic is off limits or too embarrassing. Lala is here to dive into those areas of life we’re questioning. And to ke...

Jul 31, 202326 minSeason 1Ep. 7

Negging Trolls, Needing Space and a Mail Order Bride?

Would you wait for someone that has asked for space? Are you triggered when a couple can't speak each others language? What would you say to someone that is negging you on a dating app? Lala is here every Wednesday to take on all your questions around sex, love, relationships and dating. This week Lala is taking on all of the above, from a man pulling back after a strong start, inner triggers about a potential mail order bride and dealing with body dysmorphia whilst getting torn down online. DM ...

Jul 26, 202323 minSeason 1Ep. 5

The Problem With Female Misogynist Grifters

It’s hot take Monday where Lala discusses a topic that is currently being hotly debated. And this week Lala is discussing female misogynist grifters. Have you seen the clips on social media or YouTube or heard these women on podcasts that are saying things like ‘I don’t think women should vote’ or ‘I am blessed to know feminism is a scam’. These are female misogynist grifters that live amongst the online manosphere. They are women who actively promote or support misogyny and perpetuate harmful a...

Jul 24, 202322 minSeason 1Ep. 4

The OG of Ick Stories

Lala brings her Instagram (@lalalaletmeexplain) to life with hilarious reactions to your ick stories and sharing her advice to your Red Flag alerts. Plus she’s dropping her Friday Reminder for you to have a f*ck person free weekend. Ever felt an instant repulsion for a seemingly decent person and wondered why? Lala is diving down the rabbit hole of 'The Ick,' that strange sensation that's as hilarious as it is cruel and she’s replying to your funny ick stories. Observing body language to decodin...

Jul 21, 202322 minSeason 1Ep. 3

Squirting, Sleeping With Brothers and Labia Woes

Would you tell a potential boyfriend if you had previously slept with his two brothers? What does it mean to squirt in the bedroom? And how would you feel if your partner called your labia Flappy and Dumbo? Lala is here every Wednesday to take on all your questions around sex, love, relationships and dating. This week Lala is diving into all of the above from squirting, labia woes and sleeping with multiple brothers. DM Lala on Instagram @asklalalaletmeexplain with your questions and dating dile...

Jul 19, 202320 minSeason 1Ep. 2

Is sex education controversial?

Welcome to our first episode of It’s Not You, It’s Them…But It Might Be You. Every Monday Lala brings you her hot take on a hot topic that is currently being hotly debated. And this week Lala is discussing the controversial conversation around sex education. In response to recent comments made by the MP Miriam Cates, Lala delves into the importance, purpose, and role sex education plays in shaping young minds. As a social worker and sexual health educator Lala is a qualified voice amongst these ...

Jul 17, 202319 minSeason 1Ep. 1

Introducing: It's Not You, It's Them...But It Might Be You with LalalaLetMeExplain

In her brand-new podcast, Lalalaletmeexplain is here to answer all YOUR questions around love, dating, sex, and relationships. Her unfiltered advice is not only candid and insightful, but she delivers you tough love when needed. Having swam the depths of the dating pool herself, Lala’s advice comes from a place of experience and expertise. It's Not You, It's Them...But it Might Be You is the trustworthy, down to earth advice that you've been waiting for! Listen every Monday, Wednesday and Friday...

Jul 10, 20232 min
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