Looking for love or navigating the modern dating world? We've got just the thing! How to Date is your ultimate guide to the highs, lows, and everything in between of modern romance. Hosted by broadcaster and author Elizabeth Day and relationship expert Mel Schilling , this podcast masterclass dives deep into the complexities of finding connection in today’s world. Whether you're decoding dating apps, breaking old patterns, or building confidence, Elizabeth and Mel are here to help—with humour, h...
Feb 03, 2025•10 min
The last hurrah! Thank you SO much for supporting the podcast and sending in all your dilemmas, icks, confessions and red flags over the past year. This podcast couldn't have happened without you! This final episode not only looks at the usual icks and confessions but also at the great things you've achieved over the last year. Thank you and keep following @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram for more content. A Sony Music Entertainment production. Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Enterta...
Jun 21, 2024•22 min•Season 1Ep. 147
It's the final agony aunt episode!! Lala takes a look at your latest dilemmas like what to do when a man is masturbating in public and how best to approach the topic of an absent father when you share a child. Plus Lala looks at where we should really be looking to meet life partners. If you've been a victim of assualt you can find help and support at https://www.victimsupport.org.uk/ A Sony Music Entertainment production. Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/p...
Jun 19, 2024•22 min•Season 1Ep. 146
Voting registration closes tomorrow and your vote counts! If you're confused about who to vote for you're not alone but that doesn't mean you shouldn't vote. And what about dating someone who has different political views to you or doesn't think voting is important? Lala faced this in a past romantic relationship and took matters in to her own hands. Plus look out for the wokefish and brosialists. Register to vote here: www.gov.ukregister-to-vote If you'd like to ask Lala a question, get in touc...
Jun 17, 2024•30 min•Season 1Ep. 145
It's Friday confessions and you guys have been up to all sorts...like being fingered by a co-worker when you're pregnant with your boyfriends baby (!), preventing your cheating exes friend from getting a job AND having sex with people in front of your husband. Plus one of you asked this week if you are a red flag and Lala ends the episode with a confession of her own. If you'd like to ask Lala a question, get in touch @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape...
Jun 14, 2024•22 min•Season 1Ep. 144
Being made to feel disgusting because of pubic hair, worrying about cutting off contact with someone who is suicidal and your long term partner is texting another woman. Lala gives her two cents on your love and relationship dilemmas. If you'd like to ask Lala a question, get in touch @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape together! If you're a victim of abuse you can find support at helpline@womensaid.org.uk If you or anyone you know is feeling suicidal y...
Jun 12, 2024•20 min•Season 1Ep. 143
Following on from the conversation with Ashley and Lauren from the Nip, Tuck, Not Giving A... podcast, Lala delves deeper into the problematic side to cosmetic surgery and the conflicting feelings it can bring up. She opens up about her own insecurities when it comes to looking good and her body image and asks should we be embracing this industry or rebelling against it? If you'd like to ask Lala a question, get in touch @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landsc...
Jun 10, 2024•25 min•Season 1Ep. 142
It's confessions Friday and you lot haven't been holding back... From identifying with Martha from Baby Reindeer to getting ghosted and putting their photos on Grindr, to sleeping with all your flatmates AND the landlord... Lala shares her thoughts on your sectrets. Plus he won't post you on his main feed, he comments on his daughters body and all five ex girlfriends have cheated on him - is it a red flag?? If you'd like to ask Lala a question, get in touch @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram an...
Jun 07, 2024•24 min•Season 1Ep. 141
Do groomers understand the control they have over their victims? Is smashing plates normal behaviour if I have PMDD? How would you cope co-living with an ex? Lala tackles your questions this week. Lucy Faithfull Foundation: https://www.lucyfaithfull.org.uk/ ACTS Fast: https://www.actsfast.org.uk/ Rights Of Women: https://www.rightsofwomen.org.uk/ If you'd like to ask Lala a question, get in touch @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape together! A Sony Musi...
Jun 05, 2024•21 min•Season 1Ep. 140
Sofie Hagen is a Danish comedian, podcaster, fat acceptance campaigner, and author of the new book, Will I Ever Have Sex Again?. In this conversation, Lala speaks with Sofie about the challenges many people face in having the sex they desire, the complexities of dating for fat people, and the importance of honesty in body image discussions. They also delve into Sofie's thoughts on the term "involuntarily celibate" and explore their theory on the four stages of saying no. If you'd like to ask Lal...
Jun 03, 2024•24 min•Season 1Ep. 139
Father Lala is here to absolve you of all your recent confessions and sins. From wiping your nether regions with a sock, to rubbing chilli in your ex's yoga pants. Lala digs into your confessions. Plus your red flag questions are answered, such as, is it a red flag if he's a drug dealer? Or Is it a red flag that he's asked me not to speak to other men? Lala calls out your relationship red flags. If you'd like to ask Lala a question, get in touch @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navi...
May 31, 2024•19 min•Season 1Ep. 138
Lala breaks down your latest dating dilemmas. From an ex boyfriend who enjoyed swinging and sex parties, to educating men on their cat calling behaviour and a mum that is contacting an ex against your will. Get involved in the conversation over on Lala's socials. If you'd like to ask Lala a question, get in touch @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape together! A Sony Music Entertainment production Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at ...
May 29, 2024•14 min•Season 1Ep. 137
Lala puts more of your 'Ask a Bloke' questions to Kae Kurd and Marcus Bronzy from the Haven't Got a Clue podcast. You asked, do guys show thier friends nudes you've sent them? Where are the single, emotionally available men hanging out these days? And do you care what a vulva looks like? And listen, it doesn't matter what the opposite sex thinks, but sometimes it's nice to know. If you'd like to ask Lala a question, get in touch @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romanti...
May 27, 2024•21 min•Season 1Ep. 136
Lala chats to Kae Kurd and Marcus Bronzy, hosts of Ain't Got A Clue podcast. She gives them the 'bear or man' in a forest scenario and puts your 'ask a bloke' questions to them. From 'what is it about sex that makes men cheat and lie for it ?' to 'when your naked are you thinking about her body or yours?'. Join us on Monday for part 2! If you'd like to ask Lala a question, get in touch @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape together! A Sony Music Entertain...
May 24, 2024•25 min•Season 1Ep. 135
Turning 30 and suddenly being seen as wife material, your partner paying for someone to rate his d**k on Only Fans. Plus, dumped by your boyfriend ,via text, after unprotected sex, when trying for a baby AND given no explanation! Wow! Lala tries to make sense of your latest sex and relationship dilemmas. If you'd like to ask Lala a question, get in touch @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape together! A Sony Music Entertainment production Find more great ...
May 22, 2024•19 min•Season 1Ep. 134
After Danny Dyer's documentary 'Where Toxic Masculinity Comes From', Lala received masses of dm's from you wanting to know her opinion on it. So here it is. Lala breaks down the documentary, she discusses why it was important that it was made but also where it totally missed out on challenging problematic issues and opinions. Unlike Danny's conclusion that there is a war on men and that everyone sees masculinity as a bad thing, Lala observes that toxic masculinity is alive and kicking and a resu...
May 20, 2024•26 min•Season 1Ep. 133
It's Friday and that means it's time to get all your secrets and sins off your chest. From sleeping with two brothers at the same time to sleeping with someone you just don't fancy. Lala gets into all your latest confessions. Plus, he loves a strip club and he wants to reconnect with a female friend - is it a red flag? And head into your weekend right with your Friday night reminder. If you'd like to ask Lala a question, get in touch @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this ro...
May 17, 2024•22 min•Season 1Ep. 132
Lala has got all your sex, relationship, dating and life dilemmas and she's ready to answer them. From anxiety about letting go and trusting in a new relationship to feeling insecure about his erectile dysfunction and worrying about being a failure when turning 40. This agony aunt tells it to you straight. If you'd like to ask Lala a question get in touch @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape together! A Sony Music Entertainment production Find more great...
May 15, 2024•18 min•Season 1Ep. 131
Lala speaks to Africa Brooke the globally recognised consultant, mentor and speaker and who has a new book out 'The Third Persepctive'. She went viral for her letter 'While I'm Leaving The Cult of Wokeness' where she rebuked the notion that because she is a black woman she is opressed. She encourages Lala to challenge some of her own beliefs and thoughts and feels without Africa's input on important topics such as trolling and cancel culture it would be a space less understood and debated. Their...
May 13, 2024•27 min•Season 1Ep. 130
Lala talks to actor and podcaster, Sarah Jayne Dunn. Sarah was controversially let go from her long running role as Mandy in Hollyoaks after revealing she had set up an Only Fans page. They discuss Sarah's experience of using an often misunderstood platform and how having such a public life from a young age affected her dating experiences. Plus, always arguing in the early stages of a relationship and not being introduced to your partners child, Lala and Sarah answer some of your dating dilemmas...
May 10, 2024•23 min•Season 1Ep. 129
Lala is here to give you advice for all your agonising dating dilemmas... including a guy who's got a breeding kink, someone questioning their f**k girl behaviour and navigating a new relationship while transitioning. If you'd like to ask Lala a question get in touch @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape together! A Sony Music Entertainment production Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts and follow us at @sonypo...
May 08, 2024•21 min•Season 1Ep. 128
*TRIGGER WARNING - THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES THEMES OF ABUSE* In this Monday's hot topic Lala breaks down Netflix's hit show, Baby Reindeer. She looks at the backgorund of the main character 'Donny' (played by Richard Gadd in an autiobiographical role) and the abuse that he suffered prior to meeting his stalker, Martha. Lala looks at the behaviour 'Donny' displays as a victim of sexual abuse first and then of stalking, and at how common and understandable it is that victims keep going back to their...
May 06, 2024•21 min•Season 1Ep. 127
Lala steps into her pink confession booth and gets into all your deepest, darkest secrets. Weeing in the bath, having sex where your mum can hear and waiting for a break up so you can have sex with your ex - are they a sinner or a saint? Plus is there dodgy behaviour going on in your love life? Lala calls out your relationship red flags. If you'd like to ask Lala a question or get something off your chest get in touch @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape...
May 03, 2024•22 min•Season 1Ep. 126
Lala gets into your latest sex and relationship dilemmas. This week she is applauding one mums approach to not having all the answers when it comes to the sex education with her kid. She gives advice on a s**tty marriage where it might just be time to pull the plug and identifies with a woman who feels objectified over her tattoos. Do you ever feel like that yourself? Join in on the conversation over on instagram @lalalaletmeexplain. If you'd like to ask Lala a question yourself, get in touch @a...
May 01, 2024•24 min•Season 1Ep. 125
For your hot topic this Monday Lala talks to Ashley and Lauren from the Nip, Tuck, Not Giving A... podcast. Both girls are from the cosmetic world having been former patient coordinators and both have had multiple procedures themselves. They discuss what and who we are having cosmetic surgery for. The judgement that surrounds beauty procedures as a whole and the best way to approach surgery if you are thinking of having it yourself. If you'd like to ask Lala a question yourself, get in touch @as...
Apr 29, 2024•25 min•Season 1Ep. 124
It's Friday and Lala is here with your regrets, admissions and confessions like regretting motherhood, going down on your best friends sister and w**king on work time. Plus is it a red flag if siblings are slapping each others asses?? Lala needs your help with this one! Fess up to Father Lala for your sins @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape together! A Sony Music Entertainment production Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymus...
Apr 26, 2024•21 min•Season 1Ep. 123
Lala gives her advice on your latest questions, from a therapist mansplaining a reason for cheating (red flag anyone?) to oniony odours and *TRIGGER WARNING* what to do if you think you might have been date raped? If you'd like to ask Lala a question yourself, get in touch @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape together! If you are a victim of rape you can find help at rapecrisis.org.uk and thesurvivorstrust.org and for men survivorsuk.org A Sony Music Ent...
Apr 24, 2024•17 min•Season 1Ep. 122
As a previous sexual health educator for the NHS, Lala knows her chlamydia from her crabs. And we should all be paying attention because we're all at risk, even people in relationships. Plus in her online poll she found that 75% of you have had unprotected sex to please someone else, but the unprotected sex is never worth the stress... If you'd like to ask Lala a question yourself, get in touch @asklalalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape together! A Sony Music ...
Apr 22, 2024•25 min•Season 1Ep. 121
Lala's cofession booth is open, from feeling like being a step mum sucks to sexting your boss, you've been coming forward with all of your admissions. Plus 'my boyfriend gave me a gift that was owned by his ex girlfriend' is it a red flag?? And, do your weekend right with your Friday night reminder. If you'd like to ask Lala a question yourself, get in touch @asklalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape together! A Sony Music Entertainment production Find more grea...
Apr 19, 2024•21 min•Season 1Ep. 120
In this week's agony aunt episode Lala advises on trauma and an emtionally unintelligent partner, the intrusion of being asked how many sexual partners you've been with. And large hips... could that prevent you from being able to do certain sex positions?! Tune in on Friday for more high jinx and shenanigans. If you'd like to ask Lala a question yourself, get in touch @asklalaletmeexplain on Instagram and let's navigate this romantic landscape together! A Sony Music Entertainment production Find...
Apr 17, 2024•20 min•Season 1Ep. 119
