It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic: Rid Your Life of Toxic People

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Listener question: My former has turning himself into the victim & it seems to be getting worse as negotiations move forward.

#246 No More "What's Next?"

As I share more & more of my personal journey of healing, I see how even the everyday events, the ups and downs of just normal life have been affected by my past. Today, I am telling you a story & discussing the importance of understanding one's reactions and the impact of past experiences on current behaviors. Through an upsetting but non emergency life event, a flood in my basement, I reflect on the lessons I have learned about loss, change, and personal empowerment. The self growth is...

#245-Why is it so difficult to know if they are toxic?

In episode #243 I reminded you that YOU are the one that decides who in your life is healthy for your wellbeing and who may not be so healthy for you. In this episode I take it one more step, let's explore why it is confusing and why your mind becomes clouded when looking at your relationships. Toxic relationships are complex and because of that you seek validation as you begin recognizing unhealthy behaviors. Part of the reason you are seeking such validation is because the traits of toxic pers...

#244 So I Actually Took A Vacation...

In this episode, I reflect on my personal journey towards peace and self-acceptance after years of navigating the long term effects of my toxic relationships. I share my experiences of anxiety and stress related to vacations and how my perspective has shifted over time. Through self-awareness and understanding of my past, I now know the importance of prioritizing myself and recognizing the value of my personal growth. My overall mission has always been to educate others on the inner workings of ...

#243 - The Number One Thing We Miss

Do Not Skip Over this Short Episode! As you find yourself listening to my podcasts, knowing I've been where you are, be reminded of the one thing we miss in seeking validation of our situations. This is the most important thing I will teach. It is the most important thing for you to learn, grasp, accept, and act upon if you are seeking inner peace.

#242 Why can't they just act normal?

In this conversation, I explore the complexities of emotional wiring and how it affects relationships, particularly with toxic personalities. The importance of understanding different personality types to navigate your future decisions effectively is imperative. Your relationship will remain confusing causing self doubt until you know them as well as you know yourself. Announcing the "You've Got To Be Kidding Me - Validation Session is now open to all who are seeking to find answers to why "they...

#241 How do YOU Feel?

As I celebrate yet another year of life & reflect on my growth journey, I particularly want to celebrate the understanding and managing my own emotions. In the context of toxic relationships having and owning your own feelings is very difficult to do. The impact of emotional control by others was very significant in my life, even long after the toxic relationship had ended. The full understanding of emotional abuse, and the importance of taking control of one's feelings is true freedom. I ca...

#240 To Respond or Not Respond

You have been there, you probably still are. When you get a message you "feel" the need to respond no matter what the message says. You have learned that by responding quickly, in a way they will get what they want you have been able to keep the peace better than if you delay your response or do not respond. Here are a few tips on knowing if a message even needs a response, & how to respond if it does. For more information about becoming an exclusive client with guidance through the process ...

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A great explanation from one of my exclusive clients.

#239 SERIOUSLY!! I have to do this for another year?

Welcome to yet another “New Year” I remember when I was in an unhealthy marriage each time the "New Year" came around and 'Old Year" passed my world became smaller & my outlook became more and more hopeless All I could see was my life. Ug! It was nothing to reflect on. All the wasted years just scrolling by and me not having a say or remembering any of it. Now I knew I should have been grateful, I should have been able to embrace my "all my blessings". I was just way too deep in it to really...

#238 One days hurdles at a time.

No one wakes up one morning and thinks... "That's it, I need a coach!" Rather you wake up and immediately start solving the problems that are already surfacing and its not even 8:00am. I needed someone to understand and meet me for daily discussions on the problems of the day so I could come away with a solution and a skill that I could use the next time it happened. I would have NEVER thought about hiring a coach, mentor, or guide. Well even though I am a coach, I give you just what I mentioned...

#237 Is It Gratitude or Is It Something Else?

In my search to find a gratitude practice that fit me and my personality I ran across something I did not realize had been happening. In the years I spent in a toxic relationship I was always positive, people told me so, but was I? Turns out I was using "toxic positivity" to trick myself into being grateful for very very negative things. The article that was most helpful to me in my research was written by Ashley Laderer. HOW TO MAKE A GRATITUDE PRACTICE THAT DOES NOT FEEL LIKE TOXIC POSITIVITY ...

#177: Replay: This is why Thanksgiving is so hard with a toxic partner

Thanksgiving brings out the worst in our toxic partners. Here's a helpful explanation of why they act this way, and how you can handle it better. 🙋‍♀️ Want to ask Dr. Heidi a question about your toxic relationship? Join our members only group at: itsnotnormalitstoxic.com And for this week only, use code THANKSGIVING22 to get 33% off of membership (only $10 per month)

#236 The Holidays & What You Can Expect

The Holidays are not always something to look forward to. Let's discuss the complexities of dealing with toxic personalities during the holiday season. These individuals often seek control, power over others as well as attention, and admiration from others, particularly during a time when the focus is on joy and connection. Here are a few insights into the behaviors you can more than likely expect to see from toxic individuals this holiday season. It is important to understand these dynamics in ...

#235 Embracing my own story, transparency & vulnerability....

A big WELCOME BACK, Dr. Heidi reflects on her personal journey both past and present of growth and transformation. Finding she was still at times feeling the long term effects of her past relationship, she plans on moving her business forward emphasizing the importance of authenticity and vulnerability. She shares her surprize realization concerning emotional abuse and the long-term effects it has had on her life. It has opened her eyes and enhanced her commitment to helping others navigate simi...

Toxic Tidbit Time - Announcement

In this tidbit Dr Heidi shares briefly her personal journey of healing through her training in Neurosomatic Intelligence, which has transformed her understanding of how the long term effects of emotional and psychological abuse has impacted her personal life. Dr. Heidi also announces the closure of her Facebook support group, 'Strength Within,' explaining the reasons behind this decision and emphasizing her commitment to guiding individuals towards healing and freedom.

#234-Threats within a Toxic Relationship

Dr. Heidi explains how each toxic person is not the same in the level of severity. In the more extreme toxic relationships threats will be different than with a less extreme personality. Focusing on the nature of threats used by toxic individuals to manipulate and control others you must take into account that some will indeed turn into action. She shares personal experiences and insights on how fear and guilt can trap individuals in unhealthy dynamics, emphasizing the importance of recognizing ...

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A single puzzle piece does not make any sense if it is all by itself. But when you put that puzzle piece with other pieces things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense it is not until you have all the pieces connected that the bigger picture finally emerges. One behavior by a toxic person may not make sense to you, but when you put that behavior with others, things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense. It is my hope to help you connect all of these piec...

Toxic Tidbit Time

A single puzzle piece does not make any sense if it is all by itself. But when you put that puzzle piece with other pieces things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense it is not until you have all the pieces connected that the bigger picture finally emerges. One behavior by a toxic person may not make sense to you, but when you put that behavior with others, things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense. It is my hope to help you connect all of these piec...

Toxic Tidbit Time

A single puzzle piece does not make any sense if it is all by itself. But when you put that puzzle piece with other pieces things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense it is not until you have all the pieces connected that the bigger picture finally emerges. One behavior by a toxic person may not make sense to you, but when you put that behavior with others, things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense. It is my hope to help you connect all of these piec...

#234 Feeling Stuck?

In this episode, Dr. Heidi discusses the feeling of being stuck and why we get stuck in various areas of our lives. She explores different examples of being stuck, such as in relationships, fitness, career, and parenting. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of self-motivation and being the force that gets us unstuck. She shares personal experiences of feeling stuck and how she overcame it. Dr. Heidi encourages listeners to recognize that they have the power to change their situations and to prio...

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A single puzzle piece does not make any sense if it is all by itself. But when you put that puzzle piece with other pieces things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense it is not until you have all the pieces connected that the bigger picture finally emerges. One behavior by a toxic person may not make sense to you, but when you put that behavior with others, things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense. It is my hope to help you connect all of these piec...

Toxic Tidbit Time

A single puzzle piece does not make any sense if it is all by itself. But when you put that puzzle piece with other pieces things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense it is not until you have all the pieces connected that the bigger picture finally emerges. One behavior by a toxic person may not make sense to you, but when you put that behavior with others, things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense. It is my hope to help you connect all of these piec...

#233- Making Emotional Decisions vs Logical Decisions

Are you one, like myself that makes or has made decisions in your life based on how you were "feeling" at the time? Those who have been blessed with the emotionally wired personality will struggle with this because our emotions are so strong. The thing with emotions is that they change, and they change often depending on how the dynamics around us change. Learning to see logic through your feelings can make the difference when making decisions that affect your future. I had to learn the hard way...

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A single puzzle piece does not make any sense if it is all by itself. But when you put that puzzle piece with other pieces things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense it is not until you have all the pieces connected that the bigger picture finally emerges. One behavior by a toxic person may not make sense to you, but when you put that behavior with others, things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense. It is my hope to help you connect all of these piec...

#232 - I Was Blindsided -with guest

In this conversation, Dr. Heidi interviews John about his toxic marriage. They discuss the beginning of the relationship, the red flags he missed, and the progression of the relationship. John shares how his ex-wife's bipolar disorder and jealousy affected their relationship and let to it becoming unhealthy for him to stay in. He also talks about feeling isolated and the impact it had on him and his identity. The conversation highlights the importance of recognizing unhealthy relationships and s...

#231 Loving Yourself Through Acceptance - with Bela Gandhi

Hope, Healing, & Freedom for those whose lives have been affected by toxic relationships is the mission of my work. Our guest today understands my work, maybe better than most. She has also worked with many who have some out of toxic relationships. She see too that oftentimes they were drawn to the same type of relationship over and over again. Bela helped them change that and find wonderful partners that made them happy. Bela Gandhi is a nationally acclaimed dating & relationship expert...

#230 I Wanted a Grey Couch.... so how did I get here?

How did I end up here? Good question because when I was where you are, I was asking the exact same thing. I knew the decision to be in that relationship was not a good one. I knew it from the very beginning. How did I know? I could feel it. I knew something felt off but I could not put my finger on it. Listen to todays episode and follow the pattern described. Does this sound like you and your situation. If you are looking to take the TPA that was mentioned in the episode you can do that here on...

#229 -10 Reasons Toxic Relationships Are So Confusing

Why are these relationships so confusing? Why is it so hard to make a decision? Why do I find myself questioning if I have tried hard enough? Do you find that you are asking yourself these same questions? Well, in truth there are a number of reasons as to why these relationships are so confusing, why we leave and go back, and why we question our decisions. In this episode I cover 10 reason why toxic relationships are so confusing. Take a listen and see if you can relate to the same thing within ...