Beyond Trauma-Informed: Finding Balance Between Compassion and Consequences Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore the complex relationship between trauma-informed approaches and setting appropriate boundaries when dealing with high conflict situations. This timely discussion examines how professionals and individuals can balance empathy with necessary limits. Understanding Trauma and Entitlement The episode delves into how trauma experiences and entitled behavior can sometimes overlap, yet require ...
Jul 03, 2025•35 min•Season 7Ep. 4
Female Teachers Who Sexually Assault Male Students: Understanding a Complex Issue Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore the concerning pattern of sexual misconduct between female teachers and male students. This episode examines the psychological, interpersonal, and cultural factors that contribute to these situations, while providing insights for prevention and awareness. Understanding the Dynamics Research indicates these cases often involve teachers targeting older adolescents (15-16 years old),...
Jun 26, 2025•35 min•Season 7Ep. 3
When High Conflict Takes You By Surprise Life can change dramatically when you unexpectedly encounter a person who demonstrates high conflict behavior. Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter from the High Conflict Institute in Scottsdale, Arizona, explore the unsettling experience of being blindsided by high conflict situations—whether in a new job, relationship, or family dynamic. Understanding the Impact of Unexpected High Conflict When high conflict behavior emerges unexpectedly, it often creates a desta...
Jun 19, 2025•34 min•Season 7Ep. 2
Understanding Why People Stay in Abusive Relationships Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter return for their seventh season of It's All Your Fault to tackle a challenging but critical topic: why people stay in abusive relationships. Drawing from their extensive experience at the High Conflict Institute, they explore the complex psychological, financial, and social factors that make leaving difficult—even for those with resources and support networks. The Power of Coercive Control The episode delves into h...
Jun 12, 2025•46 min•Season 7Ep. 1
While we’re on our hiatus, we’re playing some of our popular episodes again from our ‘5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life’ series. Enjoy! REBROADCAST The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life Series: Histrionic High Conflict Personalities In this installment of "The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life" series, Megan and Bill explore the world of histrionic high conflict personalities. They discuss the key characteristics of histrionics, including exaggerated emotions, a constant nee...
Jun 05, 2025•36 min•Season 6Ep. 18
While we’re on our hiatus, we’re playing some of our popular episodes again from our ‘5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life’ series. Enjoy! REBROADCAST Navigating Narcissistic High Conflict Personalities In this revealing episode of "It's All Your Fault," part of the Five Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life series, Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy explore the world of narcissistic high conflict personalities. They delve into the key traits of narcissists, the distinction between grandiose and vu...
May 29, 2025•48 min•Season 6Ep. 17
While we’re on our hiatus, we’re playing some of our popular episodes again from our ‘5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life’ series. Enjoy! REBROADCAST Introducing the 5 Types of High Conflict Personalities: Who Can Ruin Your Life? (Part 1) In this thought-provoking first episode of a new series on It's All Your Fault, Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, embark on an exploration of the five types of high conflict personalities who can wreak havoc in your li...
May 22, 2025•31 min•Season 6Ep. 16
Royal Family Drama: Understanding High Conflict Family Dynamics In this compelling episode, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter dive into the high-profile family conflict within the British Royal Family, specifically examining the situation with Prince Harry, Meghan Markle, and their relationship with the rest of the monarchy. Through this lens, they explore broader lessons about family conflict, institutional traditions, and the impact of public scrutiny on family dynamics. The Role of Media and Public ...
May 15, 2025•38 min•Season 6Ep. 15
Understanding BPD: Recovery, Relationships, and Legal Challenges In this powerful episode, High Conflict Institute co-founders Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter welcome Shehrina Rooney, author and BPD recovery advocate, for an enlightening discussion about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Through personal experience and professional insight, they explore how BPD impacts relationships, parenting, and legal proceedings, while challenging common misconceptions about the disorder. Shehrina shares her...
May 08, 2025•45 min•Season 6Ep. 14
Inside the Lori Vallow Daybell Case: A Deep Dive into Criminal Psychology Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, dive deep into one of the most disturbing true crime cases in recent history—the Lori Vallow Daybell murders. The hosts explore the psychological aspects behind what led to multiple murders, including those of Vallow's own children, and examine potential personality patterns that may help explain such extreme behavior. The Complex Web of Personality an...
May 01, 2025•40 min•Season 6Ep. 13
Listener Questions: Managing Self-Awareness and High Conflict Relationships In this episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, tackle pressing listener questions about managing difficult relationships and developing self-awareness. The episode focuses particularly on handling interactions with individuals who display challenging personality traits and navigating complex relationship dynamics. Understanding Self-Awareness and Conflict M...
Apr 24, 2025•24 min•Season 6Ep. 12
Navigating Complex Family Dynamics: Your Questions Answered In this listener-focused episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter address pressing questions about dealing with high conflict personalities in family relationships. The episode dives deep into managing challenging family dynamics, setting healthy boundaries, and understanding different conflict management styles. Family Relationships and High Conflict Personalities Bill and Megan explore a complex situation involving a...
Apr 17, 2025•39 min•Season 6Ep. 11
DNA Surprises: Navigating Complex Family Discoveries and High Conflict Situations In this compelling episode, Bill and Megan welcome Kara Rubenstein Deyerin, founder of Right to Know, to explore how DNA testing revelations can trigger high conflict situations within families. After discovering her own misattributed parentage through a DNA test, Kara became an advocate for genetic identity rights and established resources for helping families navigate these potentially volatile situations. The co...
Apr 10, 2025•47 min•Season 6Ep. 10
Negotiating with High Conflict Personalities: A Transformative Approach In this enlightening episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy from the High Conflict Institute welcome Michèle Huff, author of "The Transformative Negotiator: Changing the Way We Come to Agreement." Through her experience as a transactional lawyer and current executive director at UC Berkeley's Office of Business Contracts and Brand Protection, Huff shares insights that align perfectly with managing h...
Apr 03, 2025•56 min•Season 6Ep. 9
Assertiveness vs. Aggressiveness in Family Court: A Judge's Perspective In this enlightening episode, High Conflict Institute co-founders Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter welcome back retired Judge Bruce Cohen to discuss the critical differences between assertiveness and aggressiveness in family court proceedings. With decades of combined experience in family law, social work, and conflict resolution, the trio explores how presentation style can significantly impact case outcomes, especially in custod...
Mar 27, 2025•47 min•Season 6Ep. 8
Understanding Anger and High Conflict Personalities Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, dive deep into the complex relationship between anger and high conflict personalities. This illuminating episode explores why some people experience instant rage while others maintain better emotional control, particularly in challenging interpersonal situations. The Science Behind Anger Management Recent research from Ohio State University challenges common beliefs about a...
Mar 20, 2025•40 min•Season 6Ep. 7
Understanding Emotion Dysregulation and BPD In this enlightening episode, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore emotion dysregulation, particularly focusing on its connection to borderline personality disorder (BPD). Fresh from his New Zealand trip, Bill joins Megan to share expert insights into why some individuals experience intense emotional reactions and how this impacts relationships. The Brain-Emotion Connection Bill and Megan delve into the neurological aspects of emotion dysregulation, disc...
Mar 13, 2025•34 min•Season 6Ep. 6
Managing Workplace Emotions: From Reactivity to Resilience In this episode of It's All Your Fault, Megan Hunter is joined by Cherolyn Knapp, a workplace conflict expert from the High Conflict Institute. Together, they explore the crucial topic of emotional management in professional settings, offering practical strategies for leaders and employees to handle heightened emotions effectively. Cherolyn brings her extensive experience as a lawyer, mediator, and workplace investigator to provide valua...
Mar 06, 2025•32 min•Season 6Ep. 5
When High Conflict at Home Impacts the Workplace In this powerful episode, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore how personal conflicts and challenging situations at home can significantly affect workplace performance and mental wellbeing. The hosts dive deep into understanding the impact of home-based stress on professional life, while offering practical solutions for both employees and employers dealing with these situations. The episode examines how criticism, verbal abuse, and high conflict sit...
Feb 27, 2025•38 min•Season 6Ep. 4
Understanding Psychopathy: Nature, Nurture, and Warning Signs In this enlightening continuation of their discussion on psychopathy, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter delve deeper into understanding how personality patterns develop and why some individuals with psychopathic traits go undetected. Following up on their previous episode exploring the $460 billion annual cost to the US criminal justice system, Bill and Megan examine whether someone can suddenly "become" psychopathic and discuss the crucial ...
Feb 20, 2025•34 min•Season 6Ep. 3
Understanding Psychopathy: Costs, Characteristics, and Social Impact (Part 1) In this first episode of a two-part series, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explore psychopathy, its relationship to antisocial personality disorder, and its staggering $460 billion annual cost to the US criminal justice system. Drawing from recent research and their extensive experience at the High Conflict Institute, Bill and Megan break down complex psychological concepts into practical, understandable terms. The Spectru...
Feb 13, 2025•38 min•Season 6Ep. 2
Welcome Judge Cohen: A Fresh Perspective on Family Court Join Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter as they welcome retired Judge Bruce R. Cohen to the High Conflict Institute team. This episode explores the human side of family court proceedings through Judge Cohen's unique lens, developed over 24 years as a family law attorney and nearly 20 years on the bench in Arizona's Superior Court. Understanding Best Interests and Judicial Perspective Judge Cohen shares invaluable insights about the concept of "bes...
Feb 06, 2025•46 min•Season 6Ep. 1
Rebroadcast Alert: Our Most Popular Episode! Dive into the world of High Conflict Personalities (HCPs) and the five personality disorders that often fuel their behavior. In this groundbreaking episode from Season 1, Bill and Megan explore the common traits of HCPs, including blaming others, all-or-nothing thinking, unmanaged emotions, and extreme behaviors. Discover why traditional methods of interaction often fail with HCPs and gain valuable insights into managing these challenging relationship...
Jan 02, 2025•44 min•Season 5Ep. 20
With the recent release of "Co-Parenting by Design: The Definitive Guide for Divorced or Separated Parents," we're excited to revisit our enlightening conversation with authors Annette Burns and Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner. In this episode, Megan sits down with these experienced family law attorneys and parenting coordinators to discuss the challenges of co-parenting and share practical advice for navigating high-conflict situations. From understanding the role of parenting coordinators to adaptin...
Dec 19, 2024•49 min•Season 5Ep. 19
As we approach the holiday season, we thought it would be the perfect time to revisit one of our most popular episodes from last year. In the spirit of the season, we're rebroadcasting our timely discussion on maintaining harmony and peace during holiday gatherings. Whether you're hosting or attending a get-together with family and friends, the tips and insights shared by Bill and Megan from the High Conflict Institute are as relevant as ever. So, sit back, relax, and join us as we explore effec...
Dec 12, 2024•18 min•Season 5Ep. 18
Protecting the Elderly from High Conflict Personalities In this episode, Bill and Megan explore the challenges faced by the elderly population in dealing with high conflict personalities. As the global population ages and birth rates decline, it's crucial to understand how to identify and manage individuals who may pose a threat to the well-being of our elderly loved ones. The hosts discuss how high conflict personalities, such as those with antisocial, narcissistic, or borderline traits, can ta...
Dec 05, 2024•40 min•Season 5Ep. 17
Navigating High Conflict Relationships: Your Questions Answered In this ask-and-answer episode of It's All Your Fault, hosts Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter from the High Conflict Institute tackle three key listener questions about managing challenging relationships and dealing with high conflict personalities. First Question: "What do you suggest for someone who realizes they have a high conflict personality?" Bill and Megan explore self-awareness as the crucial first step toward positive change, of...
Nov 28, 2024•33 min•Season 5Ep. 16
Tackling Listener Questions on High Conflict Personalities in Family Law In this episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter address questions from two listeners about high conflict personalities in family law. They dive into the complexities of parental alienation, domestic violence allegations, and when to stop fighting in court. Listener Question 1: Understanding Parental Alienation and Estrangement The first listener asks about the confusion surrounding parental alienation. Bi...
Nov 21, 2024•33 min•Season 5Ep. 15
Paranoid High Conflict Personalities: Navigating Mistrust and Suspicion In the final episode of their "Five Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life" series, Bill and Megan explore the world of paranoid high conflict personalities. They offer insights on identifying and managing these challenging relationships, explaining that individuals with paranoid traits exhibit pervasive mistrust and suspicion, often believing others are conspiring against them. Bill and Megan provide strategies for dealing ...
Nov 14, 2024•38 min•Season 5Ep. 14
The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life Series: Histrionic High Conflict Personalities In this installment of "The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life" series, Megan and Bill explore the world of histrionic high conflict personalities. They discuss the key characteristics of histrionics, including exaggerated emotions, a constant need for attention, and a tendency to misjudge relationships. Surprisingly, despite cultural stereotypes, research shows histrionic personality disorder is eq...
Nov 07, 2024•36 min•Season 5Ep. 13
