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Well , hey , hey , hey , my single peeps , and welcome back to another episode of it's a Single Mom Thing , where I like to keep it real , raw and refreshingly honest . I'm your host , sherri , and today we are diving into something very timely , albeit brief , devotional thought on dating during the holidays .
Oh yes , we're talking about how to keep your boundaries in check and avoid those mistletoe mishaps . You know the ones that can turn your holiday cheer into some holiday chaos , whether you're newly single or have been rocking the solo mom life for years . This season can come with its own romantic pressure .
But let me tell you , girl , just because it's a spirit-filled season doesn't mean you have to accept every you-up text wrapped in some holiday charm . So if you're ready for some bold truth , practical tips and maybe a little tough love , grab that peppermint mocha and let's get into it .
The Holiday Dating Pressure Cooker All right , let's talk about the pressure cooker that is dating during the holidays Social media , hallmark movies and even well-meaning friends and families . Well , they will have you thinking that you need a special someone by your side Christmas Eve , or that you've somehow failed the holiday happiness checklist .
Well , here's a spoiler alert you haven't , and they are so wrong . You see , the world will try to sell you on the idea that the holidays are incomplete without mistletoe moments and matching holiday PJs . But listen up .
You don't need a ring under that tree or someone to kiss at midnight on New Year's Eve to have a meaningful holiday season , or , as I like to call it , the holy day seasons . You see , the only relationship status that matters is this one Are you honoring yourself this holiday season ?
If the answer is yes , then you are already winning Dating with intention , not just holiday distraction . Now , I'm not saying you should avoid dating altogether . If you're ready and want to date , girl , go for it , but do it with intention , not out of holiday loneliness or because everyone around you seems to be coupled up .
I get it , the holidays , they can be lonely , but it's not a time for a hookup while your kiddos are away . Here's how to date with intention during the holiday season . Number one set clear expectations . Are you dating for fun or something serious ? You need to get real with yourself , girl .
Make sure you're clear on what you want before stepping under any mistletoe . You want no mixed signals here . Number two be honest about your holiday reality . You've got kids , schedules and traditions to juggle . Be upfront about your availability and your priorities .
If someone can't respect that , they can take their holiday spirit elsewhere , because you know , girl , if he can't respect that , he ain't going to respect the . You know that you picking up what I'm laying down under the Christmas tree here . Number two keep the kids out of it for now .
Well , the holidays , you know they can feel magical and miraculous , but that does not mean you need to introduce someone new to your kids unless it's serious . Protect your family's peace and emotional space first . You want your kids to have silent nights this holiday season . Boundaries , boundaries and boundaries . All right , sis , let's talk . You guessed it .
Boundaries Because without them . You guessed it . Boundaries Because without them , holiday dating can go from holly jolly to hot mess express real fast . Here's how to keep the boundaries bright and clear . Number one no last minute plans . If he's only texting you after 9 pm with you up , want to hang out . You already know what's up .
Boundaries mean respecting your time and your worth because you are a woman of worth . Don't forget that If he can't plan ahead , he can stay home with some eggnog . Two watch out for holiday love bombing . Sometimes people turn up the charm during the holidays Gifts , grand gestures . You know the whole shebang .
Don't mistake that for real connection , because my guess is it's just a shebang . If it feels too much too fast , you need to trust the nut in your gut , girl . Number three stay true to your standards . You don't have to settle just because it's the season of giving .
Remember we have discussed in an earlier podcast that the only thing that settles is dust , not you . Don't lower your standards for the sake of holiday romance . I mean , you know at least Santa checks his list twice , shouldn't you ? Avoiding mistletoe mishaps We've all heard the phrase . Don't let the holiday spirit fool you .
Just because it's a festive time doesn't mean you should throw caution and common sense out the window . Here's how to avoid those classic holiday dating mishaps Mistake-free holiday dating tips . Number one don't make it official just for the holidays . Avoid rushing into a relationship because of the holiday feelings .
It feels good , january will come and you don't want a situationship you regret . Number two no social media show-offs , unless it's serious and long-term . Skip the couple's holidays photos on the gram . Protect your heavenly peace and keep your private life private . Number three skip the family introductions . The holidays , yeah .
They can make you feel like it's time for a big picture public declaration . But unless you're confident in the relationship , hold off on those family meet and greets , the faith-filled reality , check the relationship that matters most . And here's the truth , friend you already have the most important relationship in your life your relationship with Jesus .
He knows your heart , girl , your desires and your future . You don't need a holiday romance to feel whole , loved or even seen . You are already his beloved . So this holiday season , focus on honoring your values and loving yourself and trusting that the right person , if it's God's plan , will come at the right time and if not , you're still a queen .
No ring or mistletoe required . All right , ladies , as I close , that's a wrap on no Ring , no Mistletoe . So remember you're worthy , valuable and already loved beyond measure . Set your standards high , keep your boundaries firm and know that you don't need a mistletoe magic to have a meaningful holiday season . It's a new year and it's time for a new you .
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