Strongest Form of Self Love

A little while ago , I came across a very strong concept around self-love . It says discipline is the highest form of self-love , and it stuck with me so much that my brain's been churning on it ever since my wheels are turning . So then I finally decided to make a podcast out of it , because it is such a helpful concept .

If you started measuring self-love based on the level of commitment to yourself that you keep , as in if you want a business , a new life , stability , purpose and you do what you said you would , that's you prioritizing yourself , and through this level of self-love you create peace and you wake up one day knowing that you've built something real , something meaningful .

Loving yourself so far has been a little bit about relaxation me time it's a little bit about comfort , and it's also a little bit about feeling inspired and motivated , but it is much more about your commitment to yourself if you keep the word that you give to yourself Every time you wake up and you recommit to a dream .

Every time you sit down and take even a smallest step forward , you're proving to yourself that you're someone that follows through . Just because you committed to that to yourself Someone who values herself enough to keep going , even when it's uncomfortable . Discipline is self-trust in action .

It's proof that you believe in your own potential enough to nurture it every single day , even if you don't feel like it . And if you want others to respect you , if you want to be seen as capable , strong , worthy , even an object of admiration , then don't worry about how they are showing up for you .

Focus on if you are showing up in the highest form of self-respect for yourself . Focus on if you are showing up in the highest form of self-respect for yourself , and all of these things will come into place . No one else will respect you and none of their respect will ever matter if you don't respect yourself first .

We make other people's respect towards us so much about them following our boundaries when we are the first one who are breaking our boundaries with us . It's only about how you treat yourself . Every time you make a promise to yourself and you keep it , you reinforce your own worth .

Every time you say I'll start that tomorrow and you actually do it , there's trust building happening . But every time you push your needs aside , your brain gets a little better at ignoring you . Every time you break your commitment aside , your brain gets a little better at ignoring you .

Every time you break your commitment to yourself , you send a different message , which is my goals don't matter , my dreams can wait . I am not a priority . Imagine if a friend treated you like that Constantly canceling plans , making big promises but never following through , ignoring what's important to you and always putting you last .

How long would it be before you stopped believing her ? How long you'd be before you'd know in your heart that you're not important to her ? And now just ask how often do you do that to yourself ? Showing up for yourself is an act of self-loyalty . It's standing by your side even when it's hard , even when you don't feel like it , even when no one's watching .

It means choosing your own growth , not because it's easy , but because you've decided you deserve it . It's doing the things you said you'll do , not just for the results , but because keeping the promise to yourself is that important to you . Self-respect is that important to you .

If you don't show up for yourself , then it's not reasonable for you to expect that others will . Choosing progress over perfection . Choosing showing up for yourself is how you make self-love a daily practice . You have big goals , ambitious goals , the kind that stretch you and challenge you . If you're being honest , they scare you a little .

You want to build something meaningful , create a life of freedom , impact , fulfillment , but perfection creeps in , it stops you . You think to yourself it has to be flawless , it has to be the best . If I can't do it right , I shouldn't do it at all . And that's where dreams go to die . Perfectionism is very lucrative .

It makes you feel like you're holding yourself in a highest standard , when really it's just fear wearing a fancy disguise . It convinces you that waiting until you have everything figured out is the wise thing , when really it's just an excuse to stay stuck .

Progress , not perfection , is how you build self-trust , is how you build the life you want , because nobody's success ever came with giant , flawless leaps . It comes in small , messy , imperfect steps .

Every time you move forward , you teach yourself that you are someone who takes action , someone that trusts herself , that you'll figure things out as you go , that your worth is not tied to an idealized version of success , but the fact that you show up for yourself daily . That's self-love in action .

Not waiting for a perfect moment , not waiting until you feel confident , not waiting until everything is just right , but just choosing to move , to grow , to build , even when things look messy , because , at the end of the day , it's not perfection that ever got anybody their goals , it's momentum .

If you're trying to build wealth , it doesn't just happen , and it's not luck or magic , something that's reserved for those people who just get the money .

If you want to build wealth , it's built step by step , decision by decision , and the moments that matter the most are the ones where no one's watching and you use your money in a way that you said you would . It's very easy to get excited about financial goals when you're feeling inspired , when you're talking about investments , business strategies .

But what about when you're not riding that high , when no one's cheering you on , when you're not learning new information ? That makes you feel excited about this prospect ? When that excitement fades , when you're alone with your thoughts , that's when you get to choose do you follow through or do you let this slip ?

That's when self-worth shows up , because honoring your long-term financial goals if that happens to be your value is never , ever , just about numbers . It's about the kind of person you're becoming . It's about seeing yourself as someone who's worthy of this wealth , worthy of financial independence .

As someone who's worthy of this wealth , worthy of financial independence , making smart money moves even when instant gratification calls your name . It's choosing to invest in yourself with your own attention and your commitment , instead of waiting for someone else to give you permission .

Whether it looks like setting aside money for the future investments , financial planning , whether it looks like meeting up with a financial advisor saying no to impulse spending , all of those decisions are deposits in your self-love bank , not because you're depriving yourself , but because you respect yourself enough to build long-term security .

When you make these disciplined financial choices in private , you build a foundation of self-trust . You prove to yourself that you're not just sitting hoping for wealth . You're creating it . Your higher brain , the part of you that wants to be disciplined , intentional and connected to Allah , sets goals with the best intentions .

It says I will wake up for tahajjud , I will read Quran every day . I will make dhikr with presence , I will prioritize my prayer to be on the perfect time and when the moment comes your toddler brain , which is wired for comfort , distraction , instant gratification , it will throw a tantrum . It will say I'm tired , I'll pray in a little bit .

It will throw a tantrum . It will say I'm tired , I'll play in a little bit . One skipped day won't hurt , I'll start fresh tomorrow . This is where true confidence is built , true self-respect , strongest form of self-love . Not in the planning , not in the imagining the best outcome , but following through when the toddler brain is screaming comfort .

But following through when the toddler brain is screaming comfort . When you consistently break your own promises , your subconscious learns that your word does not mean much .

But when you follow through , every time you keep your promise , especially when it's hard , you prove to yourself I can trust myself , my word to myself holds weight , I do what I say I will do , and then your whole identity shifts for the better . Discipline in Islam is a part of your spiritual strength . Following through to your worship goals .

That's true sincerity . It's the waking up for fajr when your bed feels like a cloud . It's resisting the urge to rush through the prayer even when you're busy . It's keeping up with your daily Quran learning habit .

This is how you forge your real , true spiritual confidence , because you are trusting yourself , you're honoring your commitments to worship , and you build an inner certainty that then extends to every part of your life , inner certainty that then extends to every part of your life your finances , your relationships , your ambitions .

Your self-love is about showing up again and again , even when your toddler brain protests . It's about choosing your honor with yourself , and the more you do it , the stronger your self-trust becomes , until one day that discipline isn't something that you're struggling to find or creating . It just becomes a part of who you are .

Just like you label somebody as disappointing and unreliable when they promise something but they never follow through , your subconscious mind is labeling yourself as such when you say something and you never follow through . Your subconscious mind is labeling yourself as such when you say something and you never follow through .

The way you show up for yourself is what teaches others how to treat you . When you respect your own time , your own energy , your commitments , you carry yourself entirely differently , and that's how other people learn to treat you with respect as well . And you don't treat yourself this way just by accident .

This level of self-prioritization takes intention , because perfectionism , procrastination and self-doubt is what comes naturally . That's what comes by default . So spend some energy and decide for the next few days that you're going to prioritize your word to yourself , because people aren't you just don't treat you that way by accident .

They take cues from you , they watch how you carry yourself , how you speak about yourself and , most importantly , how you honor yourself . If you constantly put yourself last when you say yes , when you actually mean no , or you allow your own needs to be an afterthought , don't be surprised when others do the same .

If you cancel on yourself , skipping personal goals , procrastinating on dreams , letting your boundaries slip , you are silently teaching others that your time , energy , priorities are flexible , optional or , even worse , just plain , outright unimportant .

When you respect your own self , you walk differently , you set the tone and you radiate a present that says since I take myself seriously , you should too . When you honor your boundaries , when your highest self set for you , then people stop assuming that they can push them . When you prioritize yourself with respect , people respect you .

And if they don't , you start to recognize it immediately , because you're so used to treating yourself well that any sort of mistreatment will stand out like a red flag . And this self-respect is not about arrogance . You don't demand respect from you because you're judging them to be inferior .

You model it , you lead with it and people see that you hold yourself to a higher standard and they will rise to meet it . So give them that chance or let them fall away because they can't keep up . So , before you start asking this question , why don't people respect my time , my energy , my worth , my effort ?

Ask yourself this where am I not respecting my time , my energy , my worth , and am I showing up for me ? Because the answer will become very clear . The way you treat yourself is the blueprint of how the world will respond to you . It's a set of instructions that you're putting out into the universe , instructions

that everyone else will follow . At the end of it all , discipline is not about restriction , as otherwise believed . It is all about freedom the freedom to build wealth , create success , deepen your faith and live a life that reflects your true worth . So start asking yourself what would change in my life if I treated my goals as non-negotiable .

What would my life look like if discipline was the highest form of self-love I give myself ? With that , I pray to Allah SWT . Ya Allah , make us the people who keep our promises to you , to others and especially to ourselves . Give us the strength to do what we said we would do , especially when it's hard , especially when no one's watching .

Ya Allah , remove the hesitation , remove the fear and take the doubt away that holds us back . Ya Allah , replace it with trust , action and commitment . Ya Rabb , let our discipline be the reflection of our self-love and the reflection of our highest faith in you . Ameen , ya Rabbul Aalameen , please keep me in your du'as . I will talk to you guys next time .