High Value Female

In today's episode , I am thrilled to talk about a concept of high value female and if being a high value female is the same as having high intrinsic worth for a woman . There was a time when a lot of videos were circling my social media pages and a term that kept sticking out to me that was common in those videos was that of a high value female .

So I decided to make it into a podcast because I want you guys , as my listeners , to know what these men were talking about in these videos when they were referring to the term high value female . Is there such a thing as a high value female ?

Yes , I do think so , but as long as you are not confusing your value as your worth , because your worth is always 100% . It can't be high or low . It's always intact . It's not dependent on anything you achieve or anything you receive or anything you contribute to the world .

Your worth was always 100% , starting from the day you were born and it will remain 100% until the day you die , and it will continue to be 100% because , as Muslims , we believe that the soul leaves the earthly body and journeys to another world . So it remains at 100% worth even after you die .

The questioning and the punishment of the afterlife is not based on your inherent worth . It's based on the actions you took in the world . A woman's worth is not based on her measurements , her size , her earnings , her fertility status , the size of her hips or the length of her legs .

A woman's worth is not increased by meeting current acceptable standards of beauty and it's not diminished if she doesn't meet them . One objection I get at this point is how do some people enter paradise and others don't ? If everyone has equal worth , then why are some people punished and others rewarded ?

I think this question stems from a misunderstanding , when worth and value is used interchangeably , when they're actually not interchangeable . In the Quran , allah SWT says O mankind , verily , we have created you from a single pair of a male and female and have made you into nations and tribes that you may know each other .

Verily , the most honored of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous . A pious human has more value in Allah's sight than a non-pious human , and piety is not for us to judge another people based on their behavior . Piety is only to be judged by Allah , because he alone knows the condition of someone's heart . So let's keep the value and worth separate .

Worth is intact . Value goes up and down , and one value that we all pursue is that of taqwa , more and more belief in Allah SWT , righteousness , piety none of which are visible or remotely known to us . About another human being , we can only know what is the level of piety within us .

We can only know what our belief level is , and most of the time we don't even know that because we don't pay attention to our internal dialogue .

That's one of the first coaching skills I teach in the Empower Muslim Women program to pay attention to your inwardly generated thoughts , because these thoughts over time turn into beliefs and over a longer period of time they sound factual .

So what we do in the program is to purify our intentions after becoming aware of them , and we elevate our intentions to the highest standard so they align with our actions . You can only use worth and value interchangeably if you are applying it inwardly towards yourself , as soon as you start to measure how much you are worth based on your righteous acts .

You have actually started talking about your value . Value , in other words , is your quality as a good human being that is based on your actions , contribution , service , self-actualization and backed by your internal state of alignment , meaning your actions are aligned with a high level of belief . Worth is different from value .

Your worth is inherent and intact 100% of the time . Your value , your quality , fluctuates based on your actions and intentions behind those actions . A woman's worth is 100% . While she might be valued for her character , her intellect , her spirituality , her ability to contribute meaningfully to the world around her , a human being's worth is unalterable .

It is an unassailable truth set at a perpetual 100% . It is a constant , unaffected by the fluctuating measures of success , achievement , dress code or social approval . A woman's worth is not a prize to be earned through accomplishments or material acquisitions . It is a divine gift , inherent and eternal , given to her and every human being in a form of a soul .

The notion that a woman's worth remains intact from birth until death and even beyond into the afterlife , is deeply rooted in Islamic teachings , which affirm that every human being is honored and dignified by their Creator when Allah swt gave each human a soul pure on its fitrah , a soul that is closest to Allah swt in its purest form .

So since we have kind of set the record straight about how to interpret value and worth differently , we can move on to help you understand how to become a high value woman and I always say this about the language we agree on a set of language so that we can move on to create more advanced understanding of our life , creating a better quality , and so that we

can have more nuanced conversations about it . Worth is inherent because Allah created you . Value is from the quality of your contributions . Worth is intact for every human being . Value is what gets you into paradise . Inshallah .

Now , your perceived value by others will go up if your self-perceived value goes up , and you do that by completing your belief in your inherent worth as a human being . First you must have that foundation in place , otherwise you're not going to be able to create a highly valuable you .

Your value goes up by building on your worth and working to increase your value by having more and more taqwa , higher and higher forms of God consciousness . If you believe that your value is defined by how you dress or how you look , then other people will believe that a value .

If you believe it's by your expertise and contributions , then that will become their standard as well . But the key is that you have to believe your value first . If you believe that your value comes from your measurements , porcelain , skin , then that will become the standard .

If you believe that it comes from unshakable faith in the teachings of Islam , then that will become other people's standard for you In your understanding of how you want people to value you , all you have to do is decide what you want to value for yourself . That's it .

Nothing wrong with you extracting value from your dress , size , the contours of your body , the symmetry of your features , but that's the level of value you're choosing to hold yourself to . Then that's what the world will measure you against . And most women are doing that .

But most women are doing it because long-term , subliminal cultural programming , media , movies all of that chooses that for them . You can choose your value to be physical features . I just want you to be aware of that choice you're making , if you're making it .

But I also do believe that that's the shallowest form of value that a woman can add to herself , especially if it's a way of feeling belonging in a form of a man's gaze . It is a very subtle belief that many women carry , including myself .

This is a result of rather innocuous form of misogyny discrimination against women as being inferior just because they don't meet the standard beauty that a man dictates . Do looks add value to a woman ? In a bigger scheme of things ? Absolutely .

That's how the society is designed , because most women believe it adds value to them if they're appealing to a man's eye Again , rather shallow form of adding value , but it's still there , stripped down to physical features . And I'm not saying don't take care of yourself . I'm not saying let your facial hair grow , stop caring about body odor .

I'm not saying any of that . I'm saying do it with an elevated thought behind it , which might just be that my looks have nothing to do with how a man approves of me , and you get to believe it . A lot of people these days throw the world value around . What does that even mean ? What do they even mean ? It doesn't matter .

What matters is what you are making it mean . You have a choice to making your value be anchored in hard work , conscious parenting , creating successful business , or just your looks . What determines the difference of what kind of value you're choosing yourself , if you're allowing physical features , your service your level of faith to determine your value .

The only difference among all of them is your thoughts . If you lead a workshop on advanced coding techniques but your brain is primed to believe that your suit has to be tight in just the right spots , then , and only then , your mind will be able to drive your value from your appearance , then that's what everyone else will focus on as well .

If you think your value is from your presentation , quality of your ideas , drawing admiration and respect for your dedication to your job , that's what everyone else will focus on as well . All you have to do is choose to believe that your contribution , your effort , your learning and your skills bring you value , and that's what will come true .

What you consider to be high value makes you a high value female . Whatever you choose , your brain will follow suit , because the subconscious mind loves to create evidence for what the brain believes . Again , worth is inherent . It's always beyond the value you give to the world . Every human being is a masterpiece of divine creation .

Just this perspective alone is a powerful antidote to the relentless judgment imposed by the contemporary beauty standards . Quranic verse lakad khallaqna linsana fee ahsanita qawim Indeed we created the human being in the best design . Surah At-Teen , ayah 4 .

This design transcends physical form because , in the very next verse , allah SWT says that , despite this design , there is a possibility of human beings to descend into the lowest of the low . How is it that , with the best physical attributes , you can be regarded of the lowest of the low form ? That's when you choose low values for yourself .

The word taqweem used in this ayah , based on Qaf , waw , meem , the three Arabic alphabets , signifies an upright character and spirit . You're one true nature , that is , your soul , crafted in the highest form .

But your stature in the universe is ultimately determined by your actions and choices , by your adherents to the path of righteousness in the face of challenges .

This narrative of being created in the best of design but having the potential to be low is the testament to your inherent potential as a human being , because making the choice and aligning your life with the spiritual and the high moral blueprint is what defines you , and these values is what I'm trying to emphasize here .

Given that the worth of a human being is always 100% , your inherent worth is intact . You have the option of creating the value you want to contribute towards the world , and that fluctuates . That could be your contributions , sincerity behind your actions , and actions are always merited based on their intentions , and that's the race here .

I believe what makes a high value female is the standard of our intentions behind her actions . A high value female is the one who has the highest form of thoughts about herself , about the people around her , about her abilities , about Allah swt . Worth doesn't determine your standing in the afterlife .

Value does , and the value you contribute to the world can go up and down based on the righteousness of your actions . Consider the full inherent worth to be a factual statement , something that Allah swt has already declared in your favor , and he has said that he has made human beings in the best design .

You don't get to argue with that with your self-limiting internal dialogue . If you were considering your inherent worth to be more or less than 100% , it's because of your thoughts . It does not change the fact of the statement . This sanctuary of a belief that your self-worth is always intact is liberating and empowering .

This Islamic perspective on a woman's worth transcends the temporal boundaries of this world , especially in a culture where men are believed to have worth just for existing , but women have to earn it , either by giving birth , or by being beautiful to look at or by caretaking in all the right ways or contributing something somewhere in the world .

Bahquran lays this argument to rest when Allah swt says that we have created every human being in the best design . So in this era where the image of a successful woman is defined very narrowly by either her assertiveness that resembles masculine traits or her adherence to conventional beauty standards , the Islamic perspective , as usual , offers an empowering alternative .

A high value female in Islam defies stereotypes not by being the authoritarian or ultra-glamorous archetype even though you can choose that for yourself if you want that is all-encompassing and wholesome her intellect , her spirituality , compassion , leadership . Then there are challenges against internalized racism and sexism . All of that impact your self-perception .

Living in the world where prejudice exists , it's common to absorb negative stereotypes and biases . But you , as a high value female , have the tools to recognize these false hoods and their imposed beliefs . You understand that your value and the identity are not defined by the color of your skin or your ethnic background , but rather your character , actions , faith .

It's about reprogramming your mind to celebrate your heritage , to be proud of your culture and to see diversity as a strength , not a liability . That's a high value . Beliefs based on financial scarcity also create a low sense of value , a world where it's very easy to equate success with wealth .

It's easy to feel less valuable when you're facing financial challenges , but what you need to understand as a high value female is that your worth is only tied to your net worth if you choose to believe so .

You know that money is easy to earn when you hold yourself in high regard and when you can choose to believe that richness comes in many forms Knowledge , spirituality , relationships , character . If you're struggling with financial scarcity , work on developing a mindset of abundance and trust in Allah's provision .

Focus on being resourceful , on gratitude for what you have and on the belief that your financial situation does not define your value as a person , that you can have more money and you can choose your net worth to define your value . All of those are options .

Modesty in Islam is not just a dress code . It's a state of mind . It's about carrying yourself with dignity and respect , both in attire and in behavior . Your modesty can totally be your value . It can be your strength . It's a deliberate choice that reflects your self-respect and your respect for others .

The modest approach extends beyond your clothing all the way to demeanor behavior . With modesty , you can be assertive and ambitious when needed , and you can be kind and humble . If you choose modesty as a value , it shifts the focus from superficial judgments to your skills , ideas , contributions .

If you consider your modesty as a high value , then other people around you will also consider you as a high value female because of it . Leadership qualities can make you a high value female . Leadership from service as an opportunity to serve and uplift others .

Leadership in Islam is really synonymous with service , not the same as the toxic assertiveness of current culture . You as a high value leader who sees herself as a role model , not as someone who occupies the pedestal , choose any or all of these qualities to make yourself a high value female .

Choose the best quality clothes , cars , self-care , a high net worth , but also remember that none of it will increase your inherent worth . It will only increase your value if you do it from high quality thoughts , and the highest quality thoughts are that of taqwa , closeness to Allah and gratitude .

When all is said and done , I do believe there is such a thing as a high value female , but if the term high value female stirs in you a desire to be seen by others , acknowledged and respected , this will leave you burned out and consumed because you have based your high value on others' opinion of you .

A high value of a woman does not come from societal validation , but rather from self-validation . You could be a leader in your community , a nurturing presence in your family or a trail blazer in your professional field , but if you delegate your validation on others because of these qualities , you have lost your value .

Whether you choose a hijab or a miniskirt , business suit or PJs , your worth remains constant and your value comes from your belief in yourself . I personally have decided to consider my value in my practicing of Islam , my practicing minimalism , not just in material possessions but in my thoughts and actions . Value in having financial independence . I have decided .

My hard work , my dedication to my family , my constant striving to improve my prayers makes me a high value female . I also choose to dress nicely where makeup and jewelry were needed . I laugh silly and I cry ugly when the situation calls for it , and the unapologetic nature of my choices makes me a high value female .

I encourage each and every one of you to ponder what being a high value female means to you . It might be in your relentless pursuit of knowledge , your dedication , your commitment to the family or the community . It could be your wardrobe , your makeup collection , your social media following you , the authoritative boss , lady or a parent that you are .

Whatever it is , let it be chosen with awareness , reach in continuous self-reflection and grow from your mistakes . After Istaghfar , if you have chosen values from low quality thoughts , it's never too late , because you will make mistakes . It's not a matter of if . It's a matter of when .

When you do make a mistake , consider yourself a high value female for asking for forgiveness . Value is the unwavering belief that you are capable and deserving , a hundred percent worthy , regardless of external validation and regardless of your mistakes .

This confidence is rooted in faith , in the understanding that you are the creation of Allah , each with your unique purpose and potential . Allah's mercy is always with us , even if we make mistakes . A high value female knows that her value is not contingent on perfection , but rather on her effort , and she also knows that the worth is never contingent on anything .

She knows that her effort involves recognizing her strength and embracing her flaws , not as failures but at opportunities for improvement .

Being a high value female is about setting boundaries that respect your values and walking away from situations that unsuccessfully try to diminish your worth . With that , I pray to Allah swt . O Allah , the Creator and the Sustainer , you have endowed us with the pure soul , with inherent worth , unchanging and divine . Help us choose our values consciously as well .

Help us , ya Allah , to enhance our value through actions that reflect taqwa and sincere intentions . Let us not be swayed by appearances or fleeting validations , but rather let us find strength in your divine guidance through our faith .

Protect us from any force that seeks to diminish our worth and still in us the wisdom to value ourselves with the only things that align with your pleasure alone . Amen , yadabu la'a'amin , please keep me in your lauras . I will talk to you guys next time .