Entitled To Feel Inspired

Among many topics that I coach women on , one of the most frequently visited topics is about time management and how to actually get things done . I can't count how many times I put something on my calendar with the hope to get it done , something that truly matters to me , only to wake up and not feel like doing it in the moment .

It used to be about swimming lessons , or it could be about recording a podcast or launching a new part of my business . That moment that I planned on ahead of time , that I know will move the needle in my business , in my spiritual life or in my personal life .

That moment always comes , but it also very frequently comes with the slump , the resistance , the ugh . Okay , I'm going to maybe do it tomorrow . Instead of waiting for a magical surge of motivation , though , I borrow gratitude from my future self .

I picture her saying thank you for doing this when it was hard , thank you for not flaking , thank you for showing up , and just like that , I start moving . Consistency does not always have to be fueled by inspiration . It can be fueled by discipline , self-respect or acting when you don't feel like it .

You're not entitled to feel inspiration all the time , and that is the topic of my podcast today , words and phrases that come up during coaching all the time is my motivation is lacking . I don't feel inspired to do the work . I don't feel aligned . I'm going to talk

about all three of these one at a time . Inspiration is a gift . It's not a guarantee . Your brain is not designed to generate a constant stream of motivational and inspirational high . It's designed to conserve energy . That is its basic premise . Waiting to feel inspired before action is like waiting for the perfect weather before planting a seed .

You will miss the entire season . The growth happens when you act without the emotional high . Motivation in itself is an emotion . It's not a plan . It rises and falls like any other emotion affected by sleep , hormones , environment , thousands of other things , but mostly motivation comes from your thought , because we know it's an emotion .

When you rely on motivation to guide your behavior , it's going to be as flaky as your thoughts , unless you're masterful at controlling your mind and can generate motivation on cue . If that doesn't happen , you're handing your destiny to a chemical cocktail which you haven't mastered control over . And if you haven't , you don't need motivation .

You need structure , discipline , trust in your why . And then , lastly , alignment has been mostly misunderstood . It's not supposed to feel like floating on a spiritual cloud all the time . Real alignment is like resistance , repetition , doing the hard things because that's the right thing . And sometimes that's what alignment is .

It's acting in congruence with your values , not through your comfort . You may feel uncertain , bored or even afraid , and still be deeply aligned . You are not entitled to constantly feel inspired , motivated or aligned before you take action . True alignment with your values , your goals , your purpose very frequently feels uncomfortable .

It's that kind of discomfort that comes with doing something new , something repetitive , something that looks like mundane but you know is going to make a difference . And it's still alignment . So if you've been waiting to feel inspired before you start doing something meaningful , let this podcast be your wake-up call .

In many cases , you're not waiting for alignment , you're avoiding discomfort . And that is natural , because your brain is not wired for greatness , it's not wired for mastery , it's not even wired for consistency . It's wired only for survival and comfort . It's wired for energy conservation .

When you're waiting to feel inspired and only use that very addicting emotion as a fuel of your meaningful action , the discomfort becomes a giant roadblock to those actions

. In that case the brain doesn't have a target to move towards because it's still waiting for inspiration . And unfortunately , the brain does not work with voids very well . It cannot just not think . If you don't give your brain a clear mission , it will make one up .

It doesn't matter if it's a constructive or a destructive mission , it will just make something up while you're waiting to feel inspired . A brain without a target to work towards is like a toddler with a crayon and no paper . It colors walls and writes on everything it gets his hand on , creating chaos just to feel busy . It cannot sit idly .

When you're waiting for positive emotions like inspiration , motivation and alignment , you're making room for the brain to create its own distraction . You think you're being gentle to yourself , waiting for the right time and the resistance to lift , but really you're deep cleaning your pantry instead of writing the first page of your book .

You're planning another family vacation instead of launching your business . You're researching more instead of making the call you already know you need to make . You're worrying about your child's entire future . Instead of addressing the task that's actually urgent and important today , you're doing everything but that one thing that moves the needle in your life .

This is the misfiring of your survival mode . While it waits for you to find motivation , your brain will always choose the easiest dopamine hit Scrolling , snacking , fantasizing , venting , researching , overcleaning all of this over the long-term reward of deep , focused work .

And the most cruel part is , the more you delay your goal , the more you start to believe that the delay is who you are . You start thinking I'm just not that disciplined . Delay is who you are . You start thinking I'm just not that disciplined . I'm someone who always needs external accountability . I can't finish things on time .

But none of that is actually true . Not being able to accomplish your vision is not written in your DNA or in your personality . When you don't give your brain a target , it starts shooting at everything . It judges people to feel superior . It gets angry just to feel powerful . It obsesses over what's missing to avoid what's possible .

It will start targeting judgment because tearing others down is easier than building yourself up . It will feel anger because it feels justified Rage . Feels powerful even when it's wasted energy . It starts targeting dissatisfaction because it's easier to complain about life than to change it .

If you don't put your brain to work , it will make work for itself , creating problems where none exist , inventing reasons to procrastinate , manufacture self-doubt just to keep itself busy . And all of that feels productive , worry feels like planning , research feels like action , comparison feels like strategy . But none of that is true . Your

brain is just trying to survive boredom , trying to hit targets that don't exist , boredom that's being generated from you , waiting to feel inspired . But all of this time you're designed to grow through challenge , the same challenge that you are so desperately subconsciously avoiding . Brain thrives under that pressure .

Your brain doesn't break under pressure , it builds under pressure . Your brain is not fragile . It does not break like glass . Your brain is anti-fragile , meaning it doesn't just survive stress , it grows stronger from it . It adapts , it rewires , it expands under pressure . It is designed for challenge , for problem solving , for pushing limits .

Not only can it handle discomfort , it needs discomfort to stay alive . Without it , it starts to decay . Without discomfort , it starts to create the meaningless discomfort that I mentioned . It turns against you , building an internal war of excuses , self-sabotage , instead of a fortress of discipline and resilience .

All of this means that the more you challenge it , the stronger it becomes . The more resistance it faces , the more resilience it builds , the more discomfort it feels the one that comes from you , taking action without inspiration . That means the more disciplined your brain will be . And yet many of us have been trained to treat discomfort like danger .

We treat struggle like it's a sign of us doing something wrong . Anti-fragility means your mind adapts when things get hard and gets better . It converts stress into strength . When you choose action over avoidance , you're making progress and you're making neurons . You're building new wiring . But you avoid pressure long enough , waiting to feel inspired .

Your brain will decay in its own comfort . It gets soft , it forgets how to work , it turns against you and turns to shame , overthinking self-sabotage . And when that happens , you don't just lose time , you lose trust in yourself , and that is a precious commodity . So when a client tells me I don't know if I can handle this , I feel scared , I feel blocked .

There's no time to coddle fear . I celebrate it and I teach her how to celebrate it , because it's not a weakness , it's a signal that your brain is ready to wake up . It's anti-fragility , ready to kick in . I've seen women walk into job interviews that they thought they'd never be ready for life situations that they thought they could never face .

Launch businesses , write books , set clean boundaries All of that means something's working In the meanwhile . I also want to make you aware of the other

side of the coin , which is there's nothing wrong with comfort . You need rest , recovery , joy , naps , trips to the beach , bubble baths , stillness , playfulness all of that is required . But then I want to also introduce you to this character . Her name is auntie cozy .

She's the version of you that sounds like she's protecting your peace while waiting for comfort and inspiration , but she's actually robbing you blind . She's the auntie that's got all of the luggage for self-care but none of the self-respect To excuse your behavior .

She'll say maybe you're just tired today , maybe you need a little snack now , maybe it's not the aligned time , maybe you're just not the get things done kind of person , and that's okay . She is the main character in your procrastination and your entitlement to feel inspiration . She's smooth , convincing and a professional gaslighter In her presence .

You've rested for three hours , but you still feel anxious . You've scrolled through 37 videos on productivity while actually doing nothing productive . You rushed through your pair mindlessly in the name of needing to unwind . Later you told yourself that Netflix is the new therapy .

Auntie Cozy will not let your rest time be restful , while you need rest , and Auntie Cozy isn't offering you rest . She's offering you avoidance dressed as leisure . She wants you to feel good now and feel like a failure later .

Because what's happening is when this quote-unquote comfort time ends , your brain returns with a report card and it says that you failed at every task . This is what I call rotting in comfort . When it doesn't smell like rot , it smells like delicious cinnamon rolls , but afterwards you feel like you've constantly betrayed yourself .

So the next time you hear Auntie Cozy or something similar , whispering sweet nothings in your ear , try to tell her this Thank you for your concern , auntie , but my future self is waiting for me , and right now is not the time to eat popcorn or any other snack . Your comfort zone is not your enemy , but staying trapped in it is .

You don't need inspiration , you need integrity . Real alignment that puts you on the path of mastery , of greatness , of accomplishment , doesn't always feel comfortable .

Sometimes it feels like pushing through friction , stepping into the unknown , wrestling with your own doubt and moving forward despite of all of these things , when every fiber of your body is screaming for comfort . Your body doesn't grow stronger without resistance .

Your mind does not grow sharper without challenge , and your success arrives dragging the weight of every moment . You chose to show up when you didn't feel like it . If everything you just heard landed , if you now realize that you're not entitled to feel inspiration before you move , here's what I want you to start doing from today

. Not tomorrow , not when it feels flowy , but today . Your realignment checklist is going to look something like this Pause and name the task . The thing I'm avoiding right now is fill in the blanks . Next , identify the false comfort . Instead of doing the thing I need , I'm reaching for . Fill in the blanks .

Is it snacks , youtube research , more playtime with the kids ? Number three ask yourself would my future self be grateful ? I did this now ? If the answer is yes , move forward . If the answer is no , check . If you're being hijacked by Auntie Cozy . Number four do this for the first 30 to 60 seconds only .

That's it , just a small amount of awareness , and going through these questions is going to bring enough light to the matter that you will break the cycle . And the fifth and the last step is end with identity reinforcement .

I am the kind of woman who moves without inspiration , I am becoming the woman who trusts herself to show up , because highest form of integrity isn't just about being honest with others , but about doing what you told yourself you would do , especially when no one's watching and no one's holding you accountable . That level of self-integrity builds empires .

It raises leaders . It raises the consciousness of dharma . The mantras that I've tattooed on myself , and you can borrow too , are discipline is the new dopamine . Comfort is a nice place to visit , but not a place to build a house . Inspiration is a guest and action is ongoing . My future self is watching and she's going to be proud .

So I'm going to summarize all of these in the next few lines

. Which is ? Motivation is not a prerequisite for action . Your brain is wired for survival , not success . If left untrained , it will always choose short-term comfort over long-term growth . Waiting to feel aligned disguises avoidance as wisdom , but real alignment feels uncomfortable , repetitive and unfamiliar . Your brain needs resistance to grow .

It's anti-fragile , it thrives under pressure , and that is when you act despite fear . Just for the sake of inertia and movement , the comfort-seeking part of you , like this comical auntie cozy , will offer false rest to keep you from doing true work .

While you're welcome to rest , integrity means what you promised yourself you will do when you assigned yourself to do it . Use a simple realignment checklist and remember that inspiration , while present , is welcomed , it is a guest . It is not a constant guide . Inspiration is incredible when it's there and when you can use it to fuel your action .

But when it's not present , it's not going to hurt you to take action in its absence . If anything , taking action will help you because when you're busy with action , your toddler brain will not be creating distracting work for you , your brain will be getting stronger and you will be getting a life that you want to live .

While you're not entitled to constant inspiration , use that to stop feeling like a victim . When you don't feel like doing things , inspiration alignment are exceptions to the rule . The rule is that the primal brain will be afraid to be seen , to fail , to be judged , and all of those things don't feel like abundance and inspiration .

They feel like resistance in your body . When you do feel inspired , cherish it , soak in it , really anchor it in your body , memorize it , but don't always expect for it to be there . With that , I pray to Allah SWT . Ya Allah , grant me the strength to act when I feel nothing , the discipline to move forward when I crave comfort .

Allow my rest to be peaceful and rejuvenating when the time is right . Allow me the clarity to know that Barakah lives in effort , not in ease . Make me consistent in my striving , sincere in my intention , and let my future self be grateful to the person who I'm becoming today while I use courage .

Ya Allah , allow me courage and discipline and allow me inspiration when the time is right . Ameen , ya Rabbul , ameen , please keep me in your da'as . I will talk to you guys next time .