Emotions Create Strength!

So if you don't already know , just know that I love being here . Today we are going to talk about a concept I created called the emotional mass . What that means is , just like men are generally biologically created with more muscle mass , they have more muscles on their body on average . Similarly , women have a higher emotional mass .

They have more muscles on their body on average . Similarly , women have a higher emotional mass , which I know , depending if a woman is a professional athlete , can beat an average man in this regard . There are always exceptions and also I'm not saying that because of this lower muscle mass state , women are any less than men .

I'm just saying it is a biological , genetic difference and I also don't mean it in a way that emotional mass is an emotional burden . It will become very clear why , like a man , will never go around saying , dude , I have too many muscles on my body . It is such a pain . Emotional mass is just like muscle mass it is a blessing .

Let's find out how and when . I'm saying this , keep in mind that I am a feminist to the core , but the type of feminist that protects the right of women that Allah , subhanahu wa ta'ala , granted them , not the norms that men created for women . So my definition of feminism is different from the most commonly understood western definition .

It is a very complicated science if you really delve into feminism , but that's not the topic today . So , okay , I digress . The point I want to make is I'm a feminist protecting the rights of women that were given to her by Allah and the Prophet . Peace be upon him .

Now , coming back to the topic , emotions being the source of your strength that's the title of this podcast . So men have a higher muscle mass on average and women , on the other hand , have a higher emotional mass on average , and women , on the other hand , have a higher emotional mass on average .

So what I mean by that is women are more in tune with their emotions , they can access them more easily and they have a broader and wider spectrum of emotions available to them at any given time . This , again , is on average .

Of course , there are men out there that are the exception to this generalization , but on average that seems to be the case where women are more in tune with their emotions . Muscle mass in men is easier to see . It's a physical , tangible thing . But emotional mass is more abstract because it is not a measurable entity .

That is one of the reasons it goes underappreciated in life Book . Measure what Matters by John Doerr describes a concept where humankind progressed exponentially when they could measure things . For example , gravity was always there . But when we came up with numbers , formulas and measurements , we could do something to overcome the force of gravity and fly .

And when we started measuring time with hours , minutes and seconds , mankind could then standardize it and use it to communicate across languages , to carry on trades . Minutes and seconds . Mankind could then standardize it and use it to communicate across languages , to carry on trades , transactions , and exponential progress was made .

When humans are able to measure something , it gives them solid grounds to make progress . So how do you measure abstract concepts like emotional mass ? How do we measure it so that we can use it for our success ? Formula C-T-F-A-R is the closest I've seen to a scientific method in a social science .

So if we use CTFAR to measure an emotional mass of a human being , it becomes clear that the measurement is through results . If you're getting results that are measurable , you can then backtrack and find out how much and what kind of emotions or feelings you would need to come to that result . Emotion drive , actions that create results .

Simple Following this human design . If you have a result , you don't want pick a different emotion and create actions from there . So the measurement comes from the results . If you want massive , impossible results , create massive emotions to get there . Emotions and results are directly correlated , so it only works to our advantage to have a higher emotional mass .

So once during a conversation , someone told me that I was being emotional and that comment stopped my thought process dead in its tracks . Yes , I was being emotional , but I was also having a conversation based on these emotions , like it wasn't a fight or a shouting match , but it got me thinking is being emotional a good thing or a bad thing ?

And to answer those questions , I want to address any negative connotations about being emotional . We grew up in a society where being emotional is thought of as being weak . That is not at all how I'm using the word emotional . When I say women have a higher emotional mass . Am I also saying that women are more emotional ?

Yes , absolutely I am , but I am not using the term emotional woman as a picture of a crying , upset bundle of nerves woman , because that is the first thing that comes to mind when we describe someone as being emotional . Actually , I want to change the definition of being emotional altogether , because access to emotions is a woman's strength .

In a man's society , emotions are thought to be less than desirable . A woman who is always anxious , easily upset and a bundle of nerves labeled emotional . But that is not a woman using her emotional mass with emotional intelligence . That is the big difference here .

So , men with higher muscle mass , women with higher emotional mass what does this look like in real life ? We have to use this emotional mass with emotional intelligence . That is the secret sauce here . Women that have tapped into this secret can become , and are , very successful .

There is no reason that the rest of us cannot tap into this success as well , and there is no reason that this success has to be limited to this world . Once we can gain control over this emotional mass through our emotional intelligence , we can create success in our akhira as well , inshallah .

So first thing , get out of your head that being emotional is a weakness . It is actually a strength . A human being either takes actions to create certain feelings or emotions , or they take actions to avoid certain emotions .

The strength of emotions is so much that all of our lives we work to either feel happy , and we do that by chasing money , romance , pleasure , and similarly we would give an arm and a leg to avoid feeling sad , anxious or upset . This is the human condition . This is universal .

All of humans' actions are driven by emotions , and we have established that women have higher emotional mass . Doesn't that mean that women can achieve more ? Hmm , now , if that doesn't pique your interest , I don't know what will Now bear with me , because I'll go back to addressing misconceptions again before I can fully explain this concept .

This quality does not mean that women are better than men . It means that we are different . Islam assigns roles to women based on this strength . Women in general are more nurturing , more sympathetic and more expressive with their emotions . So , design of Allah , of biology , of nature , is that we are usually the primary caregivers to children and we bear children .

And how perfectly fitting that job is for a woman who is responsible for shaping the emotions of the next generation . Again , I'm not saying that men cannot take this responsibility . This definitely is not a green light for men to be completely hands-off in child-rearing .

But what I am saying is that Allah designed women to bear children and then he granted us emotional strength to fulfill that responsibility . What a beautiful design . This is alhamdulillah . So is this emotional mass to be used in only child rearing and homemaking ? Absolutely not . Khadija radiyallahu anhu was one of the richest business women in Mecca .

Once the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married her , he didn't say please give up your job , stay at home , be a homemaker and bear children . If that's what Islam had said , don't you think the Prophet peace be upon him would have told his wife ? Instead , he was working for her . I mean , my god , let's learn from the sunnah here ,

people . Emotional mass is a woman's strength and she is allowed to use it in any way that is allowed in this deen , and there is a lot that is allowed in this deen . In fact , there are more things that are halal than haram .

We only hear about things that are haram because people love to give others advice , to mold them for their own agenda , and unfortunately , they use Islam for this gain . May Allah , subhanahu wa ta'ala . Give me guidance , first of all , and all of us guidance , so we don't mistreat his religion for our own gain .

So if you want to use this emotional mass to cultivate a beautiful home , kitchen , garden , children and romance with your husband , you have the freedom to do so . If you want to use this emotional mass to make a million dollars a year , you are welcome to do so . Remember , the prophet didn't stop his wife .

And if you want to use this emotional mass to make a beautiful family and make a million dollar home , you go , do exactly that . There are infinite possibilities . Now let me give you an example of this emotional mass at play .

In my profession as a medical doctor , we get to read plenty of scientific journals , and one of those very well-respected journals is the Journal of American Medical Association , or JAMA , of American Medical Association , or JAMA .

In an article published in JAMA in 2017 , researchers studied 1.58 million hospitalizations and found quote patients treated by female physicians had significantly lower mortality rates and readmission rates compared to those cared by male physicians .

End quote Hmm , you had a higher chance of coming out of the hospitalization alive if you had a female physician involved in your care . Is your mind blown ? Yet Mine is . Does it mean that it only happens in professions where empathy is needed ? Caring for patients is an empathic profession .

Like physicians , nurses , can women do well in other industries , let's say finance , real estate , computer science ? And the answer is yes . In a survey of 27 million employees across the globe , they concluded that women bosses tend to outperform their male counterparts . So what is the missing link here ?

Why are women suffering because of these emotions rather than succeeding ? And the answer is that , again , because in a male-dominated society , it leads a woman to ignore her emotions and attempt to perform like a man in the workplace . That is a constant recipe for failure .

So , in other words , women are trying to fit into a role of what a man wants her to be , not emotional , and , as a result , underperforming . Only the women that embraced their true femininity and emotional strength are successful in their professional life , and that is evident by the survey example and the medical journal example I just gave you .

And as a Muslimah feminist , I can tell you that this concept of ignoring your emotions has no basis in Islam . When the Prophet peace be upon him lost his wife Khadija and his uncle Abu Talib about nine years after his first revelation , that whole year is named after his sadness . In fact , it is called the year of .