Episode 60: The torment when you and your partner have a vastly different work ethic
Episode description
Are you married to “Lazy bones, “Good-for-nothing Gladys” or “Layabout Larry”?
These are just a few of the terms (I’ve omitted the worse ones) often to describe spouses in the counselling room.
On one hand, it is so great to have that friend who is so laid back, you need a spot fire to to rouse them into action. They are just so chilled out, so mellow, it is enviable.
On the other hand, being married to that person can be a different thing. This person could be termed as “enough oriented”. That’s right. They are living in the moment doing just enough to get by and often, less than enough.
Compare this with your frenzied lover who is frantically hurtling themselves through every day, planning this, over-achieving that and find it abhorrent to sit down. These people could be termed “more-oriented”. They don’t just live in the moment but continually planning for the future - and beyond!
How about some in between? Tune in as I discuss Jill and John's challenge on this topic and how they went from diverse orientations to thriving and connection!
Join me in my next Relationship 10 Day Challenge to commence re-engineering your approach to communication and conflict. It doesn’t require two people - so watch this space!
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Joanne Wilson is the Relationship Rejuvenator and author of Renovate Your Relationship – All The DIY Tools For Your Most Important Project ($29.99). She is a neuropsychotherapist inspiring the community for thriving and dynamic relationships that impact generations for mental well-being. Find out more at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com