episode 25 Conscious Intuitive Relationships

episode 25. And we are discussing intuitive relationships, conscious relationships, February being the month of love of no matter if this is your work, your professional life, your personal life, your dating life, your marital life, we're going to open to questions on all of these topics this month, to be able to just play explore, and hopefully get more insight and expansion to greater flow happiness, you know, and powered relationships that are

supporting us in life. And so but I want to start with the question. I've got a wonderful Instagram question today from Shannon in Oregon, who asked what she wanted to know how intuitive coaching would help her business? And so great question, Shannon, thank you so much for asking. And this is really, you know, there's obviously, tons of coaches out there, and they're so different.

You can have mindset coaches, business, personal, you name it, and we're intuitive coaching, intuitive business coaching specifically is more in my opinion has more value to it is that instead of really going from theory coaching, which a lot of coaching is based on theory of you know how to work, how to improve self improvement, traditional business procedures, intuitive business goes into really specifically, where you really are number one, and what's really going on with your

energy in regards to you know, your beliefs, your whether that's success, money management, people, relational, because all of those aspects, which there's so many and a business, especially if you're entrepreneurial, and you have you are wearing so many hats, you are, you have your hands on the fire of so many aspects of your business that it really is important to be aware of where your confidence truly lies, and where you are just needing more support, where it's really,

really vital to be investing in support. So everybody being so completely unique in this, you know, being able to get insight and that's where having an intuitive business coach can help you have super specific insight with wow, you know, the issue is really in the staff and that really not working well or not contributing to healthy time management for you or the products needs to be work, it's not quite ready to go to market, or you're, you're really needing support and to feel better.

Because a lot of times, something I see so often in my business coaching clients is they are looking so much at ethic external factors instead of where they are realizing they are the center of the cog of the machine of the business. And so when you're off, it does, so many other things can begin to not be as productive or functional as they need to be.

So that's how, you know this can give you just more insight, more clarity, especially when you're investing hard earned money on things, hoping to be way more efficient in your time, and then managing your energetic priorities to be able to do well. So I hope that insight is helpful for you, Shannon. And if you'd like more information, you can definitely get that on my site at intuitive lifestyle success comm or reach out to me to have a no obligation call for

sure. And so, yes, so today, you know, we are, as I said before, we're focusing on conscious

relationship. And I'm really excited about this topic I love working with, you know, no matter where someone is whether they are single or married forever, or, you know, no matter where you are, relationship is just the most fascinating and complex, you know, challenge in my view of sort of human existence because it's we're so diverse, we have such different beliefs, such different desires, sometimes such different experiences of what is important, what's significant,

what's relevant. And so sometimes when we are sharing with someone, even if it's a friendship or a lover, this can just create these interesting, you know, intricacies that can make relationship incredibly challenging and sometimes it helps it to be more productive. And so I wanted to just go through a few tips to you know, really help for no matter as I said, Where are you are in relationship and what you're aspiring to, and please get

those questions out. You can you can directly You know, add questions to my Instagram or you can email me at vibe at intuitive lifestyle success calm and send me your question, I'd love to know your first name and the state that you're in, because it's fun to just share that to see where these questions are coming from. And, you know, I will just go through

and really feel out. But if you want to keep the relationship, the questions on relationship for this month, you're much more likely to get chosen for the next couple, the next couple of

weeks. So. So, you know, tip one is really one of the most important pieces of being increasingly conscious in your relationship is really releasing expectations that, you know, that can be so tricky, when so much of relationship is being able to feel that support and know that person's there know that, you know, whether it's your partner having your back, or someone agreeing with you, and being supportive. And yet, it's it seems kind of counter intuitive to say not to have

expectations of that. And yet, that's so much where we get into trouble and where we can really, really have people or dynamics and circumstances that we have committed to

really fall short. So becoming increasingly conscious, you know, begins to, you know, bring that ball back in our own court of being increasing ever increasingly accountable for what our energy is doing, where our focus is, what we're contributing to the relationship and being able to stay balanced when our partners might be off or friends or co workers. And I'm definitely preferring the cooperation, preferring the wind when you know, where everyone's contributing, and it when it

works really well. But being able to ask and be in that open space of I'm you know, you're resonating in an energy of that really cooperative harmonic. And then whether they show up or not, you're there in that highly

productive space. And now, it's much easier said than done, this is definitely a bit more advanced, of being able to do this, because it's so easy to notice, when our partners in a bad mood, or we have a friend that's really not getting their bearings, or, you know, taking responsibility for something and so it's not easy. And then we have history with people and things we've gone through our times, maybe we were off, and

they were there for us. So that's where it can get into that, you know, pretty slippery slope of where is it your you know, where is that line of boundary, when it's your turn to, you know, really contribute, and it's a healthy, appropriate contribution, and where is it where it becomes enablement or codependency and, and some of those other dysfunctional dynamics that that really don't

help either side. And so it's, you know, dysfunction is so common, and to me, even in the best of families, there's just areas where it wasn't as healthy as it could be. And a lot of times people don't know better, you know, we have limitations that have knowledge, we have limitations of experience, sometimes we have limitations of, you know, what we're exposed

to. And so those are wrong, it's just, again, part of why that diverse experience is so incredibly unusual at times of maybe one thing you believe, and then meeting someone and they're doing the exact opposite. And you just can't wrap your head around the way they do something, or believe in something or don't believe in something. And, and so being able to begin with just softening those expectations, being more observant, but being really clear at what's true for

you. Because when you're honoring what's true for you, and you're living from that space of what's true for you, it helps to really identify, you know, where those boundary lines are and what what can be appropriate there. So that's definitely one. And then two is, you know, really prioritizing the healthy aspects of caring for yourself being happy in life, like really thriving. And, and really, this is another

super tricky one. You know, 2020 is such an incredible example of this where I heard it so often that somebody's doing well, but then they feel bad because they have friends who've lost their businesses or families going through all kinds of personal

and professional challenges. And so of course, we all want each other to thrive, we all want each other to be happy and and you know, achieve across the board, by all means, and yet being able to, you know, and it's not jumping on a soapbox screaming that you're happy and thriving. When you know others are not by any means. It's definitely being relaxed and and grounded and steady and your own success and in your own.

Happiness and in allowance of people who may be challenged or you know, really in chaos, and and yet being able to really be aware of how much in that environment with them or in those circumstances, really, that you can keep feeling good. And you can truly keep your own balance with that. And again, that can be pretty circumstantial. there's times where maybe you're really filled up, and you're really in a good space, that that's comfortable

for you. And then there's other times where you might just, you know, have no tolerance for it, or it's highly irritating. So, letting your body really show you where those lines are, and where you know, the appropriate time to, you know, stay in a relationship be able to maybe cool off, take a break a little bit, be clear on commitments around that. And those, of course, can go way more in depth

than explanation. But basically, if you're feeling good, even when somebody is off, you can still be there and contributing and encouraging and, you know, sharing enthusiasm that's that feels appropriate for them. That is they may or may not be open to but you can stay in a high frequency while someone is off. But then also being aware of how long is that appropriate to be with? Where Where is it truly a contribution, and where is it? Now, your energies beginning to

kind of drain in that too. So that's one thing to be aware of, not the easiest, for sure. And yet, especially now, when you know, we're all like really doing our best to reinforce our core to stay resilient to really rebuild and stabilize the economy stabilizing small business so that we can continue to thrive and sustain here, that it's it is part of that necessity, because those core foundational pieces, if they're not there, it just is so much, it's it's slow going without

that. So super important energetically. And then number three, is really staying in your own experience. I know this sounds like the opposite relationship, it's like no, you're supposed to be experienced with them and, and with them and definitely for you know, definitely doing that. And yeah, aware of your experience with them. And what I mean by that is, you know, let's, let's take a love relationship, for

example. And, and without doubt on any subject, you might have points you don't agree on, you might have a bit of, you know, something that kind of throws you a little bit. And, and yet, sometimes what can happen is that awareness of, you know, feeling offended or feeling misunderstood or feeling, you know, maybe sad that they believe something that you don't feel is very positive or very healthy for them. So now you're pulling out of your center with

that awareness. And then that can all of a sudden really take you out so far that without realizing it, you're beginning to resonate and broadcast from a much lower frequency. So what I mean by saying in your experience is that, again, when you're feeling off, when you're noticing whether it's the conversation, your physical experience, maybe someone suddenly behaving differently, and now you're really feeling

that in your experience. That's when being able to assess and be aware of Okay, what can I choose here to either get on track or to stabilize, so that I can be feeling good, because it is possible, even with the most challenging dynamics, it's not the easiest, it definitely takes

practice. But it is possible. So for you know, those of you with challenging families challenging, you know, work dynamics, challenging community issues that you're dealing with, you know, this definitely takes practice, some people will be easier than others. And yet, it's by all means, doable and impossible. So, you know, really watching your experience and the closest relationships, noticing, you know, which ones are effortless and feel good, that's a good sign that that has a nice

flow to it. And then which ones kind of catch your tail or get you maybe you notice you have less energy after an exchange or even a call phone call. So those are ones to begin to just ask Hmm, what can I be a little more aware of so that I can do better with us. So that would really be

fun to play with. See how you do and you know, I hope this has inspired you and if you are wanting to learn more, definitely check my website out for I have free resources, a wonderful class and all kinds of blog podcasts, other resources for Are you to help support your intuitive lifestyle and all that can be found on intuitive lifestyle success, calm and please follow me on Instagram and all the different social media. It's always instant intuitive lifestyle success is

my handle there. And then otherwise, I want to thank you all so much for tuning in today and I'd love to hear from you how you're doing and definitely take care