episode 15 Intuitive Holiday Survival Tips with Cathleen Miller

holiday Survival Guide. And this is something now in my private coaching calls is really beginning to roll in with just about everybody to some degree of either they're going to family or they got family coming in, or they have family there now. And that it's just an fascinating minefield of boundaries and being able to stay in their own center and all the different things. So then when you add in the lovely holiday is wow, can that get

complex. So my focus today is to give you a couple great tips for you to be able to be a little bit more aware to be able to balance yourself, no matter what your holiday plans are, while also, you know, just keeping your center which is wow, is that the name of the game for 2020 for us all. So let's dive into it. So step one, definitely. This self care tends to go out the window for most people around the holidays. And I know this is so yeah,

yeah, we know self care. And yet, oftentimes, and even myself, you know, preaching this all day long, like day in day out, I too, can all of a sudden go oh my gosh, you know, I haven't taken a break or I've been I've literally been working six hours at the computer and being able to have those balance outlets, to be able to be nurturing yourself and aware of when you know there's a little bit of overextension because you have a deadline or something to

do. And then there's another level of, you know, that really just really costing you energetically for your health and your focus. And so especially if you are going to be traveling, you have extra family coming in, or you have maybe a holiday schedule, although that'll be super interesting this year, that's probably going to be pretty minimize for others. And yet still, that really being aware of where your energy is, is really step one, because self care can be more general of

eating well. Taking time to rest taking time to exercise we all know the basics of that. What I'm really discussing here is intuitive self care as another level of what you know, really fine tuning your intuitive awareness of your own body mind

connection. So you're really clear, when all of a sudden you're kind of beginning to veer off whether that's like your sleep is going out the window or you're flying off the handle when normally you have way more reserved, those are kind of your cues that you need to immediately prioritize self care

to get back into balance. And so we've all been there especially if you're a mom if you have you know your own business that's the majority of what I work with are tend to be entrepreneurial women who are just juggling so much and then they've got kids schooling at home and everything else so it can become increasingly complex to be able to carve out time for you that's actually working because sometimes you can have a day off I was laughing saying I have a day off and then I came home and

I had run so many errands and taking care of so many things I thought you know I was busier than some of the other workdays so I went you know what I'm gonna do a redo on my self care day because that I just had so many other personal things to catch up. And at the end of the day I went you know, I don't feel nurtured I didn't feel like I played I felt like I got other

things done. So I'm going to really take more of an effort to carve out you know, a window of time an hour here or there to be able to go do something that just feels fun or feels really nurturing and and so this can be very simple. You know, it can be as simple as an Epsom salt bath a little chromotherapy oil going in or a nice candle. It can be you know, two hours to lock the kids out and you just can read and be able to or get help with

the kids. And just you know or just sort of going in and being able to just browse I sometimes for me to just have my mind be focused and a great store and I can just walk around and not have to be anywhere for an hour or so. is so and it just can be such a nice unwind. So whatever that is for you. It can be very simple. It can be very low budget if that's you know, a factor for you to be able to get that rest I know now, you know

I'm a big outdoors person. I know right now for you know once we're going into college cooler weather, especially for those of you that live further north, it can become more excuses not to exercise not to be getting out, we get a little more homebody ish, then we already are being quarantined. Oh my goodness. So, you know, again, it's getting creative being able to carve out like how can I if and if I'm not really getting that where my home is? Or what's

going on in my community? What can I, you know, find or create that will generate that. And so that's, of course, everybody adapting everybody getting

creative with that. But the name of the game to know if this is working, is it Do you feel the that you're coming back into balance, you know, if I have a great Epsom salt bath with rose petals, and I can sit in it, which I did last night, and I was after 15 minutes, a different person, it just unwound me at Epsom salts great to get energetic residue off, if you have, you know, a lot going on, or especially in the work that I do clearing entities and, you know, adjusting energy

fields that are imbalanced all day long. It's something that can be extremely sort of a fast track to move into balance. So if you work with a lot of people, or you're in environments that are stressful, constantly, that's a really great one, that's a no brainer. To do. So that's step one. Step two is clarifying your boundaries before you get there.

So that can either be you, maybe you're going home, and they're already scheduling, which, you know, I can speak from experience, like, I have a huge family, and they all you know, sometimes have multiple schedules of what they're wanting to be doing, or what they're wanting to all have

everybody involved in. And so part of my clarity is, Hey, you know, if I can just have this window of time, preferably, as soon as I can, in the morning, this sets me up that I'm then much better to go do more of what you guys are wanting to do. And what happens, especially if somebody's staying as a guest in somebody's home, or they're, you know, maybe you've got multiple people that all are like, so excited about doing certain

aspects. Again, it's that feeling if you're, if you're feeling increased resistance, or you know, from past experience, that by the end of the trip, you're either completely exhausted, or you're completely aggravated with everybody that wasn't set up properly. So you want to back up or set yourself now before going or them coming to you saying, Hey, guys, you know, here's what works for me with schedule. Here's what works

for me with you getting here. I don't want you at my doorstep at 630 in the morning, I want you to my doorstep when I'm done with work and then I'm like in the space to be able to host you not when it's just coming at me, here's how it works for me, or really works better for you guys to stay in an Airbnb, or I'm gonna stay in an Airbnb, because that just works better. And it's not about hurting feelings and doing that. It's just, Oh, you know what, this really feels so

much better. Is that okay? This really like, you know, the your it's been, this really supports me is this, this is good, that can really be a help, you know, an easier softer way to, you know, be able to get them to agree, which I know some people will have interesting personalities that they really wanted a certain way. But that's where that clear boundaries. If you don't have that clear before you go, it will be challenged across the board, I guarantee

you. So making sure that you have that in place with what you're anticipating they're going to want from you what you're going to, you know be dealing with and the social schedule, and that you can perhaps love yourself enough to go Hey, guys, this isn't working for me. I'm gonna check out which I have personally done and it's not that I don't I'm trying

to be mean or do that. I'm just aware that being so hypersensitive myself that if I'm not feeling honored, or I'm not feeling balanced, or worse, I'm feeling like something's draining me. I will remove myself and say, You know what, I'm just gonna excuse myself for a little bit or I know we're gonna go to lunch, but I'm needing to be in this other place. And I'll see you guys for dinner. Or I'll see you guys later this afternoon. And does it ruffle feathers? Yes. Does it kind of irk certain

people? Sure. Am I willing to do that to have my core balance? Yep. And that's the name of the game you've got to be willing to be very clear on what your energy needs and then honor that because that's going to keep you above the kind of being wiped out from the experience. So that's to number three is aiming

for balance. Guys, I know a lot of us have high goals with what you know with workouts and diet and healthy lifestyle and all of those and I definitely do too, but there is an aspect of between the social schedule Families, you know, being in places where they just may eat very differently than you. I am super specific. And you know how my lifestyle and my food and what I do is, so I usually travel with a lot of my own food, to just help it be easier.

But also to, to be able to just have that balance of Hey, let's just relax with the whole the whole, really letting go of perfection guys altogether, but also being able to say, you know, we want to enjoy it is about a little bit of indulgence, having fun, and then keeping it in check. So what I mean by that is if you do go to a party, you overindulge. And then you feel horrible about it either physically or emotionally, to be able to say,

Okay, cool. Tomorrow, how can I really embrace that will counterbalance this, which is I'm going to get up and go make or go get green juice, and I'm going to, you know, have a much healthier, you know, entire day or at least the morning because those offsets to help find balance, it's really a bigger deal than people realize. Because when you can get off set off track with maybe overindulging and then feeling

bad about it. But then, really, a lot of times on the holidays, there's another cookie tray and other there's another that and and that can be served kind of the the kind of overindulgence spiral that some people get into where they think, Oh, well, let's just let it all kind of go by the wayside and all start over in January. So if you can just have some balancing effects, just make those smaller

choices. You know, let me just have wine instead of drinking everything, or let me just have, you know, let me do a salad instead of you know, the two heavy things and, and just looking for those offsets where I'm still enjoying, I'm still having dessert, I'm still having fun. But I'm making sure I go for a walk or I'm, you know, resting and just pacing myself so that with everything that's transpiring in the world right now and this season, that you're

able to enjoy it. But also keep that balance so that when 2021 comes around, you are hitting the ground running, you have great energy. This will also help with you know, staying well to a lot of illness and flu and all that is from the overindulgence and wearing the body down. So when you really are making healthier choices, it can help to keep your and it will absolutely help to keep

your immunity higher as well. So those are really, you know, three tips of just really keep that self care going, doing your best to prioritize that. And I know it's like I always joke that, you know, once the holidays come it's like an extra part time job just to do the lights and the decorating and the shopping and like all the other things that are you know, that everybody aspires to create and do it during the holidays. But keeping that self care as a priority in your schedule is is

really honoring you first. And when you honor yourself first, and you keep that reinforced core, you are going to be making better choices, you're going to be clear about those kind of boundary lines blurring with when to say no, and when not. And that's going to serve you really, really well. And then, of course the shooting for balance. So it's not about perfection, having fun, but

keeping it in check. So that you are able to stay really healthy, really finely tuned, and then get into 2021 with just awesome gusto to see what is possible there. So I hope this has been helpful. And if this podcast has inspired you, you know or you or you're listening to this and you think oh my gosh, you know I'm completely anxious about going to family or what are the holidays to come. You know, I do work privately with clients. This is going to begin shifting and 2021 as well and going to

shift to group programming. So guys, if you're wanting a single session, not do I wouldn't wait much longer because that is going to come off of my offerings. But you know, check out upcoming events. I also have a soul spiral intuitive healing certification that is coming out right that first week in January though sign up is now there's tons of information and an intro audio that is on the webpage on my site at intuitive lifestyle success calm as well as a free

activate your intuition. ecourse if you're just finding me and you're new to my information, I've got a cool, really great free robust ecourse to help you understand more about your own intuitive awareness and how to develop that how a why that is so priceless for you. So check out all the wonderful free resources and otherwise that is it for today. But I want to see you know, thank you so much. Happy Holidays, guys. It's exciting time I've got I'm getting my lights. I'm one of

those holiday nerds. And I also want to share too because I did have a Clark Griswold moment on the ladder where I was like tree has gotten so big in the front that I was literally hanging by one one arm and one thing and then the ladder went sideways and I had the adjusting admit air moment, which really kind of isn't funny, but it is it is now that I'm down and everything's okay. So be you know, again, keep that balance. Have fun and enjoy the holidays. And I hope

to connect with you soon. Thanks so much, everyone and be well