Many of us are so responsible in our lives, but have never really learned how to be emotionally responsible. We continue to blame other people for our feelings, giving others the credit for us being angry or frustrated or annoyed. We also abdicate our emotional responsibility when we expect other people to make us feel happy or loved or empowered. Part of the joy in growing up is realizing that all of our emotions are our responsibility.
Nov 23, 2020•26 min•Ep. 126
It seems so easy to think that if we change our circumstance that things will get better, and they might, for a very short time. Eventually we will catch up with circumstance and find ourselves in the same place. When we learn to change ourselves first and our circumstance second, then we can walk away feeling complete and satisfied. Let's chat today about loving your circumstance before you leave it.
Nov 16, 2020•26 min•Ep. 125
We have been taught our whole lives to "fake it till you make it," "just do it," "embrace the suck," and "do the thing you don't want to do." Great phrases for a short-term fix. But if we want to really create lasting change in our lives, we have to stop "white-knuckling" our behaviors and create change from our thoughts rather than from sheer will-power. Let's chat today about how to do that.
Nov 09, 2020•32 min•Ep. 124
The thoughts we think about ourselves are incredibly powerful, because they create everything that we are and everything that we will be. What thoughts about yourself are going on in your head? Are those thoughts setting you up for a healthier life? For better relationships? If not, it's time to switch out those thoughts for ones that will create a better version of yourself. Today, we're talking about how to do just that.
Nov 02, 2020•27 min•Ep. 123
The story that we choose to tell ourselves and believe is one of the most powerful choices we can make. Because every story can be told from many different perspectives, and that makes all the difference in whether we approach our lives from a place of power and learning or a place a victimization and stagnation. Join me today and I'll show you how this works.
Oct 26, 2020•20 min•Ep. 122
The world we live in is a very uncertain place -- and it always has been. In this very uncertain world, what can we do to be self-certain? And just where do I get me some of that self-certainty? We can never be sure of what tomorrow will bring, but we can be certain that when the struggle is over that we will come out on top, a stronger and healthier version of ourselves. Let's chat about it.
Oct 19, 2020•18 min•Ep. 121
One of the best ways to start digging deep into ourselves and seeing what's holding us back is to start looking at our motivation for what we do. And ultimately, always, it comes back to love or fear. When we're motivated by fear, we destroy. When we're motivated by love, we create. Understanding and choosing love as our motivation can help us start creating the life and the relationships that we ultimately crave.
Oct 12, 2020•29 min•Ep. 120
So many people have a lot of questions about divorce, the whys and the hows -- and I'm never afraid to answer them even though they are usually hesitant to ask. So today, I'll share with you some of the most frequently asked questions about how I knew it was the right decision, to my regrets, what I'm grateful for, and also some advice.
Oct 05, 2020•38 min•Ep. 119
Taking 100% responsibility for our lives is one of the most important things we can do to grow and progress. And yet, it can be so difficult to do when we have behaviors that hold us back that we're not aware of, or when we know we are right in a situation. What is there to take responsibility for when I'm not to blame? More than you would think. Let's chat about it!
Sep 28, 2020•28 min•Ep. 118
What are the behaviors that would be classified as anti-responsibility? Chances are, if you are like me, most (if not all) of these 19 behaviors are ones that you have engaged in at some point. Stepping away from responsibility is a sure-fire way to step away from our growth and progression. Let's talk today about what anti-responsibility looks like.
Sep 21, 2020•29 min•Ep. 117
So many of us struggle with ideals of perfection, and it wreaks a lot of havoc in our lives. When we can see imperfection for the gift it is, we can start finding peace in all of our flaws, mistakes, sins, and imperfections. Let's chat about it today!
Sep 14, 2020•29 min•Ep. 116
The questions we ask ourselves in our brains make such a difference. When the questions focus on reasons, we tend to spiral into negativity and it drains our energy. When the questions focus on solutions, we create energy and start moving forward and progressing in the ways we want to. Learning to manage these questions will help you learn to manage your life. Let's talk about it!
Sep 07, 2020•24 min•Ep. 115
Is it possible to build our own confidence or is it just something we were born with? It is possible to create confidence! So many of us struggle with feeling confident, and yet, it is entirely within our grasp when we learn to manage our thoughts in order to create the feeling of confidence. Let's talk about it!
Aug 31, 2020•25 min•Ep. 114
Recognizing and embracing the truth that we are human and will make mistakes is such an important piece of the self-acceptance puzzle. Learning to accept what we can change, what we can't, and then having the courage to change what we can, will bring us to a place of self-acceptance that creates space for positive change. Let's chat about it. . .
Aug 24, 2020•22 min•Ep. 113
Beth Hillman is an amazing coach who works with parents of struggling teens. Join me today as Beth talks about her own personal journey with her struggling teen and how learning to take responsibility for her part in their relationship changed everything. You can find Beth at bethhillmancoaching.com.
Aug 17, 2020•41 min•Ep. 112
We are hard-wired as humans for connections with other humans. And yet, our primitive brain is hard-wired to take the easiest path possible and get all habitual and superficial with our relationships. So how do we move out of the primitive brain "checklist" and into a space where we emotionally engage with the people we love? That's what we're talking about today. You won't want to miss this one!
Aug 10, 2020•29 min•Ep. 111
If you want to be right, you are not alone! Being right is a primal desire for humans, and sometimes we will work to be right at any cost. But the thing is, the cost can be huge, and the biggest casualty is our relationships with the people we value the most. Today let's look at our reasons behind being right and how we can let go of it.
Aug 03, 2020•27 min•Ep. 110
One of the most amazing things we can be aware of with ourselves is our reasons for why we make the decisions we make. Our reasons will make all the difference on our end results, as well as give us valuable insight into our minds and what motivates us. Once we clue into the thinking of our minds, we have a distinct advantage!
Jul 27, 2020•42 min•Ep. 109
What is the connection between submission and self-worth? More than you'd think! Learning to truly be submissive to God, to create a relationship of trust is so valuable to our spiritual growth. And so is embracing our God-given self-worth. Today we're talking about how these two ideas are intertwined. Good stuff!
Jul 20, 2020•31 min•Ep. 108
Most self-help books out there make it seem like it's so easy to change your life. If you will just follow these easy steps you can make your life better. But until we get to the cause of those behaviors, our thoughts, long-lasting change is not possible. Are you ready to up-level your life? Let's start with your thoughts.
Jul 13, 2020•29 min•Ep. 107
Really learning to love ourselves deeply, and unconditionally, is the path to truly being able to love others deeply and unconditionally. When we can let go of needing other people to love us in order for us to feel love, and whole or complete, then we are free to love and serve others with openness and honesty. Loving ourselves fiercely is an empowering, energy-producing creation in our own lives that allows us to bring forth our greatest contribution in this world. Let’s talk about it!...
Jul 06, 2020•32 min•Ep. 106
Self-love is so important in our lives. When we extend this love to our past and future selves, rather than just loving our present self, we can develop a much deeper, more inclusive love that will impact our sense of self and our personal growth as well. This is a discussion you won't want to miss!
Jun 29, 2020•28 min•Ep. 105
Sometimes the concept of self-love can get a bad rap because people will associate it with being arrogant, or conceited, or vain. But real self-love will lead you into a place of honor and respect for yourself and your worth, and will allow you to tap into the best parts of you. Today we are going pretty in-depth about how to begin cultivating your own self-love. You won't want to miss this one!
Jun 22, 2020•34 min•Ep. 104
With all of the racial tension going on in our country right now, many of us are feeling a little helpless and disempowered. I've been spending so much time seeking to educate myself and become more aware of the racial issues within the United States. This week I'm chatting with my friend Anita Miller. She is a fellow life coach and a black woman who focuses on finding solutions. I hope you enjoy what she has to share.
Jun 15, 2020•54 min
Curiosity is the beginning of everything great that will happen in your life! Curiosity is the first step to growth and progression because it creates awareness, and awareness means we finally see what we need to see. Today we'll talk about how curiosity will move you into the next best version of yourself.
Jun 15, 2020•24 min•Ep. 103
As the Covid-19 Pandemic is slowing down, I keep hearing about the dreaded "new normal." And yet, when we can learn to start looking for the opportunities in this new normal, rather than expecting disaster, we can create a very different experience for ourselves. Because it all starts with a thought. . .
Jun 08, 2020•25 min•Ep. 102
Our brain is always so busy thinking all kinds of thoughts, the VAST majority of those which are unconscious. And a lot of these unconscious thoughts are not serving us, in fact, they can often be very detrimental for our progress and growth. Learning how to identify and un-believe those thoughts is vital. Let's talk about how.
Jun 01, 2020•30 min•Ep. 101
It's amazing what a person can learn about themselves in the process of creating 99 podcasts! Today I get a little personal, and sometimes a little emotional, as I share the lessons I've learned in the past 15 months of podcasting.
May 25, 2020•28 min•Ep. 100
Making the transition from parenting young children, over whom we have a lot of say, to parenting adult children, over whom we have no say, can be a really difficult challenge for many of us. But the only way we can have the connected relationships we desire with our adult children is to learn to step back, let go, and love unconditionally.
May 18, 2020•26 min•Ep. 99
If you're a mom, you've most likely felt this at some point in your parenting career, and it doesn't just go away when our children become adults. But let's take a closer look at what it is, and why it is, and how to create something different -- like a closer, connected relationship with our children.
May 11, 2020•27 min•Ep. 98
