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Kevin Lowe: What if the same helicopter that came to rescue you that was lifting your shattered
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Kevin Lowe: body off the side of the mountain was indeed the same helicopter that was lifting
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Kevin Lowe: you into what would become your best self, the best version of you?
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Kevin Lowe: Today is a total women's empowerment episode talking about rebuilding your life,
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Kevin Lowe: taking the brokenness and creating something even better.
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Kevin Lowe: If you, my friend, need a little inspiration, some motivation,
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Kevin Lowe: some empowerment, well then, my friend, you are exactly where you're meant to be.
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Kevin Lowe: I welcome you to episode 373.
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Kevin Lowe: Hey, I'm your host, Kevin Lowe, and you are listening to Grit,
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Kevin Lowe: Grace, and Inspiration.
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Kevin Lowe: What's happening? And welcome back to another amazing episode here on Grit,
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Kevin Lowe: Grace, and Inspiration.
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Kevin Lowe: Today, I have the pleasure of being in the studio with none other than the amazing Wendy Feldman.
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Kevin Lowe: Wendy, welcome to the podcast.
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Wendy Feldman: Oh, my gosh. Thank you. Thank you so much. So super excited to be here. Thank you for having me.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah, well, Wendy, I'm excited to have you here. I'm excited to get to share your story.
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Kevin Lowe: And I want to kick off our conversation today with a question of,
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Kevin Lowe: we're going to obviously unpack all the different elements of your story the
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Kevin Lowe: stuff you've gone through but given all that you've gone through in life where
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Kevin Lowe: you sit today how would you describe the person you are today
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Wendy Feldman: So we have an hour when 20 minutes what do we have like three hours because i don't know,
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Wendy Feldman: you know today i am a very i think i'm a very different human than i was 20 years ago 30 years ago.
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Wendy Feldman: And in the sense, I feel actually more, I'm 61 and I feel more myself,
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Wendy Feldman: better in my own skin, just happier with who I am as a human,
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Wendy Feldman: as a person, as a mom than I really have ever felt.
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Wendy Feldman: And I actually look so forward to the future.
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Wendy Feldman: And I know that sounds, could sound so, I don't want it to sound like looking
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Wendy Feldman: through rose colored glasses because clearly there's so much in the world going
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Wendy Feldman: on, but I really feel like I got 40 years ahead of me and I look at it in a,
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Wendy Feldman: with a very different lens that I have in my life before.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah. I love that very much. Well, I guess my next question is,
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Kevin Lowe: is something that I'm going to say is, is a chapter of your life and that is cycling.
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Kevin Lowe: How did you get started in, in, in cycling? Yeah.
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Wendy Feldman: Thanks for asking that question. That was a very huge, as you know,
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Wendy Feldman: that was a really big part of my life.
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Wendy Feldman: So I started cycling, gosh, in probably 2003.
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Wendy Feldman: And it was, you know, I always loved riding a bike.
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Wendy Feldman: And so, but I got really into the, you know, I always loved riding.
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Wendy Feldman: When I was in college at UC Santa Barbara, everyone rode their bikes around.
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Wendy Feldman: So you had this cruiser bike, you know, your two wheel with no gears or anything.
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Wendy Feldman: And that's how you got around town.
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Wendy Feldman: You know, you just kind of went at night, middle of the night,
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Wendy Feldman: whatever you're riding your bike around. And that was the mode of transport.
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Wendy Feldman: So I always loved it then. And I kept going. When I lived in the city,
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Wendy Feldman: I would ride over the Golden Gate Bridge on my mountain bike and do some mountain
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Wendy Feldman: biking. I just loved this sport.
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Wendy Feldman: But it was really like in 2003 when I wanted to get into road cycling.
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Wendy Feldman: Very different, right? You're on a very lightweight bike with little tiny,
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Wendy Feldman: skinny little tires, you know, and there's not much between the rubber of the
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Wendy Feldman: tire and the road underneath you.
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Wendy Feldman: It just became a passion of mine and
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Wendy Feldman: I started riding and one of
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Wendy Feldman: my really dear girlfriends that she used to race and
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Wendy Feldman: so she and I would ride together and so
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Wendy Feldman: one time we did this we did a hundred mile ride
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Wendy Feldman: and you know it was a coordinated ride and I
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Wendy Feldman: was on my still on my same mountain bike that was heavy heavy
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Wendy Feldman: and she was on a racing bike and you know
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Wendy Feldman: we're we did the whole ride and she I'll
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Wendy Feldman: never forget she said to me I am so afraid free when
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Wendy Feldman: you get a get a get a real road bike because I can't believe you
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Wendy Feldman: did this on this on this tank it was it was the mountain bike I had since I
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Wendy Feldman: was 20 you know so it was just like this jalopy it was a jalopy and I I remember
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Wendy Feldman: we ended up you know you started at this high school where the race started
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Wendy Feldman: where the ride started and Kevin we got back to the high school,
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Wendy Feldman: I was so sick of that bike. I left it there. I said, I'm done with this bike.
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Wendy Feldman: I just left it. I thought, I don't care who takes it. It was like,
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Wendy Feldman: it's not an habit because it had taken me through so many rides.
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Wendy Feldman: And I'm like, that's what I'm getting. So that's when I bought my first road
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Wendy Feldman: bike. And then I just had the bug.
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Wendy Feldman: I had the bug and I just, it was challenging.
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Wendy Feldman: It was freeing. it was fun
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Wendy Feldman: it was community i met so
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Wendy Feldman: many neat people sometimes you'd go out you'd ride up beyond you
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Wendy Feldman: know on the road on your own i'd go out for three or four hours during the day
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Wendy Feldman: kids were at school and i'd go out in the day and i'd ride and i'd go out on
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Wendy Feldman: my own a lot sometimes i'd ride with people but you always meet someone on the
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Wendy Feldman: road you meet someone cycling on the back hills or back roads and i live in
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Wendy Feldman: a place where you could just from my house jump on and ride for 75 miles You know,
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Wendy Feldman: just go and a beautiful territory.
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Wendy Feldman: But you meet people, you know, you just meet them, you sit and chit chat,
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Wendy Feldman: you ride for a while together.
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Wendy Feldman: They peel off, you peel off or you and you continue writing.
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Wendy Feldman: And sometimes you become friends and you write again or you don't. You say goodbye.
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Wendy Feldman: You never see them again. You know, it's just kind of a cool little world.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah, absolutely. And I mean, I guess I can't help but hearing you just this
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Kevin Lowe: idea of freedom in the cycling.
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Wendy Feldman: Freedom.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah. Yeah. Amazing.
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Wendy Feldman: Think total freedom yeah yeah yeah
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Wendy Feldman: it was it was freedom in a sense of um i think
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Wendy Feldman: just i it also you know connected me so much with nature and because in nature
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Wendy Feldman: and out in the universe there is freedom it's open it's open territory right
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Wendy Feldman: the sky's the limit i mean that's just the term you use but it's true i mean
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Wendy Feldman: it's just vast it's open so you can get on the bike,
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Wendy Feldman: the sky's the limit. You can go as fast as you want. You can go as slow as you
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Wendy Feldman: want. You could ride with people. You could ride on your own.
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Wendy Feldman: And when you're out there, you're just, you're literally right in touch with
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Wendy Feldman: nature because you're, you're, you're riding right alongside the terrain.
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Wendy Feldman: You're riding right alongside the beauty of the plants and whatever it is and the smells.
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Wendy Feldman: And, and I just saw so many things that I might not ever even notice in a car,
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Wendy Feldman: you know, just really cool.
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Wendy Feldman: Very, very cool. A sport. Very cool.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah, absolutely. Now, did you ever get into racing or always just more enjoyment?
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Wendy Feldman: Yeah, no, great question. No, I never got into racing. I rode with a lot of
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Wendy Feldman: people that raced. And so I learned from them.
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Wendy Feldman: And I would ride in big Peloton groups once a week.
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Wendy Feldman: Usually I'd go on this coordinated ride. It's like usually 30 or 40 people.
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Wendy Feldman: And these people were great.
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Wendy Feldman: They were really good cyclists. So it was challenging for me because,
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Wendy Feldman: you know, you're riding, your wheels are right on there.
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Wendy Feldman: You know, and so it was, I learned a lot on how to cycle.
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Wendy Feldman: I learned how to be a very strong, good cyclist, you know, how to climb and
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Wendy Feldman: how to do all that. And, but yeah, no, it was purely enjoyment.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah, I love it. I love it so much. Now, during this time of cycling,
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Kevin Lowe: before we ever even get to your own incidents, did you ever witness any crashes
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Kevin Lowe: of while you were out with others?
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Wendy Feldman: I really didn't. And I mean, I see people, never anything bad, let's put it this way.
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Wendy Feldman: I mean, you might see people fall or, but never anything tragic that would have
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Wendy Feldman: ever made me go, oh gosh, I mean, I was fearless and that's the weird, that's the crazy thing.
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Wendy Feldman: There was a point where we would ride, we'd leave, you know,
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Wendy Feldman: a group of us would go and we'd ride, like I said, 70, 80, sometimes a hundred miles in a day.
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Wendy Feldman: And we would ride through traffic. We'd ride along trucks.
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Wendy Feldman: I mean, you just, you know, you're, cause you had to cut through certain towns,
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Wendy Feldman: you know, you'd be cut through down, you know, you're obviously, you're going that far.
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Wendy Feldman: You're clearly, I don't live in a rural area. so you
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Wendy Feldman: are with cars and you're at stop signs and your
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Wendy Feldman: stop lights and you got to keep up with traffic and I just
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Wendy Feldman: you kind of weave in between I never I just was fearless it didn't I don't know
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Wendy Feldman: it didn't phase me I guess I just I felt so one with it and um so no I did not
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Wendy Feldman: to answer a question on that didn't even witness my own first because I was
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Wendy Feldman: unconscious so so I didn't see that yeah I I even missed that one.
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Wendy Feldman: I even missed my own classic, you know, classic me. Funny.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah. Yeah. Well, would you mind talking through that?
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Kevin Lowe: Because I know that, correct me if I'm wrong, that we're going to be talking about today.
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Kevin Lowe: You had three different kind of near-death experiences in the span of eight years, correct?
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Wendy Feldman: Two was road cycling. One was not. But yes.
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Kevin Lowe: Okay. So talk to me about this first one.
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Wendy Feldman: So the first one was on may
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Wendy Feldman: 21st 2013 so you know
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Wendy Feldman: i know you've talked in in a previous podcast about you
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Wendy Feldman: know traumatic anniversaries and so i always know the dates of all of them i
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Wendy Feldman: will never forget the dates so yeah it was a tuesday morning and oddly enough
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Wendy Feldman: the night before so i was going through a difficult time in my in my marriage
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Wendy Feldman: and we were married 20 years and the night before we My ex-husband and I had,
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Wendy Feldman: at the time we were married,
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Wendy Feldman: we had broken up and separated and we kind of had gotten back together.
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Wendy Feldman: And the night before, the day I crashed, we had a pretty big disagreement and
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Wendy Feldman: realized this is just, it's not going to work anymore.
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Wendy Feldman: And so next morning I woke up and I used to, you know, never question getting
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Wendy Feldman: on the bike. It's like, yeah, just get on the bike and go.
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Wendy Feldman: And that morning I really questioned. I thought, I don't know if I should ride today.
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Wendy Feldman: It's like, I was really upset, really emotionally, not in a good state.
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Wendy Feldman: And but I thought on the other side I thought well maybe
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Wendy Feldman: it'll clear your head you know it's maybe a good and I
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Wendy Feldman: really grappled I stood there in the garage next to my
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Wendy Feldman: bike going should I really ride today or should I just take a pass and I opted
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Wendy Feldman: to ride and so I got up you know I went up on the hills behind her I live you
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Wendy Feldman: know we always riding up in the Berkeley hills right above the Berkeley campus
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Wendy Feldman: it's gorgeous up there beautiful and I'm riding along and actually passed a
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Wendy Feldman: couple of riders I knew kind of waved to them.
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Wendy Feldman: And shortly after I saw them, I went down this hill that I'd never gone down.
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Wendy Feldman: It was very, very steep descent. I had climbed up it. So I knew how hard it
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Wendy Feldman: was, but I'd never gone down it.
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Wendy Feldman: And I turned to go down it. And again, at the top, I was kind of thinking,
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Wendy Feldman: should I go that way or should it take the longer way home?
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Wendy Feldman: And I thought, no, I kind of want to get home. I'll just take this shortcut.
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Wendy Feldman: And I went down this road. And as I was going down the road.
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Wendy Feldman: I started to pick up speed. And this cyclist came up behind me.
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Wendy Feldman: And when you're cycling, someone will let you know they're coming up and they
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Wendy Feldman: yell out on your left to let you know there's someone coming up.
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Wendy Feldman: And he must have said it twice because I didn't hear it the first time.
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Wendy Feldman: So I must have been really in
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Wendy Feldman: my own world. And he screamed it and jostled me. And I thought, oh gosh.
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Wendy Feldman: And he went by very fast. And so I kept riding.
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Wendy Feldman: And I realized at that point that I was just kind of in my own world.
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Wendy Feldman: I wasn't really focused on the road.
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Wendy Feldman: So as I kept going down the descent, I started picking up a lot of speed and
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Wendy Feldman: had a Garmin, you know, you had this little monitor on my bike.
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Wendy Feldman: And I remember it saying about 40 miles per hour.
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Wendy Feldman: And that was about the last time I remember much because all of a sudden I looked
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Wendy Feldman: up and I went down a very, there was a very steep part of the hill that I didn't even know was there.
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Wendy Feldman: It took a deep drop and he had stopped, this other cyclist had stopped at the
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Wendy Feldman: bottom of that little hill where there was a stop sign.
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Wendy Feldman: I had no idea there was a stop sign there. And there was a bunch of pine needles.
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Wendy Feldman: And I, which you're not supposed to do, I slammed on the brakes,
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Wendy Feldman: but it was such instinct.
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Wendy Feldman: Jammed on the brakes. Bike like went, you know, in my head, the bike fishtailed
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Wendy Feldman: because it started to swerve on the pine needles.
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Wendy Feldman: And all I remember is literally everything went into this very,
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Wendy Feldman: very odd, like a slow motion in a movie.
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Wendy Feldman: And I literally screamed out, I'm going to die. This is it.
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Wendy Feldman: And I swore and I said, I'm dying. And that was the last thing I remember.
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Wendy Feldman: And thank goodness he was there because he heard me fall.
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Wendy Feldman: I just went flat over. I didn't fall off the bike. I just, cause I had stopped,
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Wendy Feldman: you know, I don't know about the slow motion. That must've been, maybe that was my brain.
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Wendy Feldman: I have no idea, but I just went flat over to my left and slid on the road.
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Wendy Feldman: And he, fortunately for him, he stopped, he looked back and he was like,
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Wendy Feldman: oh my God. So he screamed.
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Wendy Feldman: He didn't even have cell phone at the time. So he yelled, call 911.
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Wendy Feldman: We were up in the hills and there's botanical gardens up there.
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Wendy Feldman: And he heard the landscapers because he heard the blower.
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Wendy Feldman: So he knew there were people there. So he started screaming, call 911.
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Wendy Feldman: I was unconscious. And he took his bike and he literally threw his bike about
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Wendy Feldman: 15 feet behind me because the road, because cars come down the road.
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Wendy Feldman: So where I was lying in the middle of the road was around
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Wendy Feldman: a corners if a car was coming down they wouldn't even had time to stop they
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Wendy Feldman: so he put his bike back there it was kind of like a flare to say stop
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Wendy Feldman: you know then he was able
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Wendy Feldman: to call they were called for help and it turned
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Wendy Feldman: out i was they put me in an ambulance and because i was in we were in kind of
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Wendy Feldman: a dreary tree covered area and the helicopter could not land there so they had
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Wendy Feldman: to put me in an ambulance to take me to to take me around the bend where there
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Wendy Feldman: was a more of an open clearing where the helicopter could land.
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Wendy Feldman: I don't even remember that.
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Wendy Feldman: I had no recollection of the ambulance. Then when I did wake up,
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Wendy Feldman: though, the first sound I heard was the blades of the helicopter going around.
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Wendy Feldman: I couldn't open my eyes. They were stuck shut. I was in pain. I was cold.
00:14:03.908 --> 00:14:07.648
Wendy Feldman: I found out I was cold because they had to literally cut all my clothes off of me because...
00:14:08.412 --> 00:14:14.872
Wendy Feldman: My eyes were puffing up so black and blue and my ears, I was bleeding out of my ear and down my neck.
00:14:15.032 --> 00:14:17.632
Wendy Feldman: They thought that I was totally hemorrhaging out of my brain.
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Wendy Feldman: So that's why they were like rushing to the hospital, right?
00:14:20.472 --> 00:14:25.632
Wendy Feldman: So that's when I woke up and I remember waking up and hearing these sounds and
00:14:25.632 --> 00:14:28.252
Wendy Feldman: hearing people talking and saying, get this, do this, do this.
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Wendy Feldman: And the first words out of my mouth, the first words out of my mouth were I
00:14:32.632 --> 00:14:34.972
Wendy Feldman: said, I need to go. I need to pick up my kids at school.
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Wendy Feldman: Someone's got to get my kids. It was the first thought in my head was,
00:14:38.872 --> 00:14:40.032
Wendy Feldman: who's going to get my kids to school?
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Wendy Feldman: And then the next thing I knew, I was being strapped onto a plank.
00:14:44.972 --> 00:14:48.132
Wendy Feldman: So we're putting you onto a plank. We're going to load you into a helicopter.
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Wendy Feldman: You're on your way to the nearest trauma center.
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Wendy Feldman: And then from there, I was in and out of consciousness. It was,
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Wendy Feldman: you know, so that was the first one.
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Wendy Feldman: That was the first one. It was rough.
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Kevin Lowe: Wow. That is really traumatic.
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Kevin Lowe: Did you ever get in contact with that cyclist who had been there that day
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Wendy Feldman: Yes i did i did
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Wendy Feldman: that's such a good question i did because i
00:15:15.852 --> 00:15:20.752
Wendy Feldman: wanted to know what happened and i'm trying to think oh i think because i had
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Wendy Feldman: no idea what happened right imagine i get to the hospital i'm there for seven
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Wendy Feldman: days no idea what had happened and nobody did you know and so i was like basically
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Wendy Feldman: a jane doe when i I got to the hospital because what happened is,
00:15:32.652 --> 00:15:33.712
Wendy Feldman: you know, when you're cycling,
00:15:33.872 --> 00:15:37.052
Wendy Feldman: you have a jersey and your cycling jersey has little pockets in the back.
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Wendy Feldman: And that's where you put kind of your stuff.
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Wendy Feldman: You don't have anything else on your bike. You don't have a back.
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Wendy Feldman: You don't have anything.
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Wendy Feldman: And they had cut my clothes off. And so the police, the police that show up
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Wendy Feldman: to the scene, they take all your belongings with you.
00:15:50.500 --> 00:15:52.980
Wendy Feldman: So they had taken all that with me. So they put me in the hospital.
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Wendy Feldman: I mean, into the helicopter. It was like literally the blanket over me,
00:15:57.180 --> 00:15:58.960
Wendy Feldman: the sports bra that they left on.
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Wendy Feldman: And me, that's it. There was nothing. So they didn't know who I was.
00:16:02.960 --> 00:16:05.780
Wendy Feldman: So they literally had no clue why I was coming in as a Jane Doe.
00:16:06.320 --> 00:16:09.520
Wendy Feldman: And because I always rode with my license and everything.
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Wendy Feldman: But that was now at the police station. So I was able to then,
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Wendy Feldman: through the police report, and contact the police, find out who was the person
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Wendy Feldman: that gave the report. From there, I was able to reach him.
00:16:20.200 --> 00:16:22.820
Wendy Feldman: And then I also did reach out to the first responders.
00:16:23.380 --> 00:16:26.780
Wendy Feldman: And of course, I ended up bringing them a big thing of brownies and cookies
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Wendy Feldman: in it because they saved my life later when I could move.
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Wendy Feldman: But when I did call the first responders, like three weeks later,
00:16:34.160 --> 00:16:38.320
Wendy Feldman: and when I got the name of the guy, and I got his name through a cyclist because
00:16:38.320 --> 00:16:40.140
Wendy Feldman: he actually, one of my friends is a cyclist.
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Wendy Feldman: He was a first responder, not on site, but he works at that same station.
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Wendy Feldman: He heard all about it. That's actually, they found out who I was because he
00:16:47.080 --> 00:16:50.900
Wendy Feldman: had said, and someone, that guy reckoned, I said, oh, that's when he felt me.
00:16:51.140 --> 00:16:54.240
Wendy Feldman: And that's how they were to realize who I was.
00:16:54.940 --> 00:16:57.980
Wendy Feldman: So but when I called and they told that first
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Wendy Feldman: responder when he heard my voice he said wait who is this and I
00:17:00.720 --> 00:17:03.780
Wendy Feldman: told him I said I was the one up on by the botanical garden
00:17:03.780 --> 00:17:09.640
Wendy Feldman: he was like oh my gosh he's like oh my god he goes I he goes I can't wait to
00:17:09.640 --> 00:17:13.260
Wendy Feldman: tell the guys about this he said we literally he said I have to tell you he
00:17:13.260 --> 00:17:16.780
Wendy Feldman: said we put you in that helicopter and he said we all loved each other said
00:17:16.780 --> 00:17:21.360
Wendy Feldman: she's not she's not making it to the hospital so she's not making it and he
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Wendy Feldman: He was so, and I said, really?
00:17:22.800 --> 00:17:27.060
Wendy Feldman: He's like, oh God, you were in, and he said, do you want to know? And I said, I do.
00:17:27.260 --> 00:17:30.220
Wendy Feldman: And he told me the details and it was like, whoa. But, you know,
00:17:30.360 --> 00:17:31.860
Wendy Feldman: so when I reached out to the guy.
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Wendy Feldman: Poor guy. I mean, he said he couldn't even get on his bike for weeks.
00:17:35.384 --> 00:17:37.664
Wendy Feldman: He said he had to call a friend to come pick him up.
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Wendy Feldman: He said he was so traumatized that he said he sat there. He thought it was his fault.
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Wendy Feldman: He said it was my fault, his fault, because he stopped at that stop sign,
00:17:44.724 --> 00:17:48.124
Wendy Feldman: and he didn't need to. He had this whole thing. And I said, no.
00:17:48.344 --> 00:17:51.144
Wendy Feldman: And he's like, no, it's my fault. I said, look, if you weren't there,
00:17:51.404 --> 00:17:56.084
Wendy Feldman: I wouldn't be dead. So we actually kept in contact for a while. He was a good guy.
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Wendy Feldman: He came out, and I just wanted to assure him he saved my life. He saved my life.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah. Wow. Now, what kind of injuries did you end up sustaining from that accident?
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Wendy Feldman: So it broke my skull in three places on the left temporal lobe.
00:18:11.544 --> 00:18:16.224
Wendy Feldman: Oh, wow. And so I suffered very, yeah, very severe traumatic brain injuries.
00:18:17.084 --> 00:18:20.764
Wendy Feldman: Really, really horrific. So that was tough to come back from.
00:18:20.864 --> 00:18:24.104
Wendy Feldman: That was tough to recover from really bad headaches for a very long time.
00:18:24.564 --> 00:18:28.364
Wendy Feldman: I tore a hole in my left eardrum, so I couldn't hear out of that ear for a while.
00:18:29.044 --> 00:18:32.064
Wendy Feldman: I fractured the bones around my eye, fractured my jaw.
00:18:32.564 --> 00:18:36.044
Wendy Feldman: I broke my collarbone. The only bone I broke was my collarbone.
00:18:36.204 --> 00:18:40.744
Wendy Feldman: So I do have a plate and screws in that now, permanent fractured ribs,
00:18:41.264 --> 00:18:42.944
Wendy Feldman: fractured my pelvis in five spots.
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Wendy Feldman: So yeah, it was a lot of fractures, but I was very fortunate that I only broke the collarbone.
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Wendy Feldman: So that was very, very lucky. But at rehab was tough. You know,
00:18:54.804 --> 00:19:02.144
Wendy Feldman: it was a lot of learning to walk in and my eyes were swollen shut for days. They were so swollen.
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Wendy Feldman: Kevin, I got a scratch on my face. Thank God for the helmet.
00:19:07.244 --> 00:19:09.084
Wendy Feldman: You know, thank God for the helmet.
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Kevin Lowe: Wow. How long would it take you, Wendy, to really recover from that?
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Kevin Lowe: I mean, to the point of getting back to, you know, quote unquote, like normal life.
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Wendy Feldman: Yeah. Yeah. It took a good, gosh, eight to 10 months of really feeling where
00:19:26.544 --> 00:19:28.884
Wendy Feldman: I didn't have the headaches and I didn't get dizzy and I didn't get nausea.
00:19:28.904 --> 00:19:35.624
Wendy Feldman: I had nausea for a lot of time, just really severe, just waking up because of
00:19:35.624 --> 00:19:38.084
Wendy Feldman: the head trauma. So it's just dizzy.
00:19:38.464 --> 00:19:44.824
Wendy Feldman: And the first week I was home, we had to close off any light in the bedroom.
00:19:46.044 --> 00:19:50.464
Wendy Feldman: And we had to have the dog stay next door because I couldn't have any sound.
00:19:50.664 --> 00:19:52.264
Wendy Feldman: Because any type of sound is,
00:19:52.830 --> 00:19:56.430
Wendy Feldman: so hard for the brain. So even in the hospital the first week,
00:19:56.610 --> 00:20:01.450
Wendy Feldman: they put me in like literally a soundproof, double-doored, dark room because
00:20:01.450 --> 00:20:04.190
Wendy Feldman: sound, light, anything was too much for me.
00:20:04.330 --> 00:20:07.290
Wendy Feldman: It was brutal to see anything or hear anything.
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Wendy Feldman: So it took a while. So I couldn't hear music, couldn't hear.
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Wendy Feldman: I mean, I remember my son was so sweet.
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Wendy Feldman: When I was able to, I walked with a little walker and I was able to go outside one day.
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Wendy Feldman: He said, come on, mom, let's go in the backyard and was able
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Wendy Feldman: to get outside and he had his music
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Wendy Feldman: with him and he put on a james taylor song
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Wendy Feldman: and he played it really quiet really
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Wendy Feldman: like so quiet and i remember
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Wendy Feldman: how you know over time we'd stay sit outside he'd walk with me and we'd sit
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Wendy Feldman: outside and he was able to turn the music up you know he's able to turn the
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Wendy Feldman: music and he's getting better mom you know you can you can listen a little louder
00:20:44.110 --> 00:20:48.210
Wendy Feldman: now you know it's like i had to protect my eardrum and and everything so It
00:20:48.210 --> 00:20:49.990
Wendy Feldman: took time, but I got here.
00:20:50.290 --> 00:20:54.870
Wendy Feldman: You know that. It takes time. But the body is an amazing thing.
00:20:55.070 --> 00:20:58.330
Wendy Feldman: The body is amazing. The power of your mind, too.
00:20:58.670 --> 00:21:01.790
Wendy Feldman: The power of your brain. Tell yourself.
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Wendy Feldman: Kevin, when being strong is the only choice you have, you get through stuff.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah. I love that so much. When being strong.
00:21:12.930 --> 00:21:17.830
Wendy Feldman: You know that. You know that. when being strong is the only choice you have,
00:21:18.650 --> 00:21:23.130
Wendy Feldman: and then you know that you've been in hospital beds you know that when you're
00:21:23.130 --> 00:21:27.870
Wendy Feldman: lying there you don't have another choice but strength and,
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Wendy Feldman: man, did that make me strong? I mean, and has it kept me to just go back to that?
00:21:34.718 --> 00:21:37.478
Wendy Feldman: And yeah, I know you get that. I understand that.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah, absolutely. Now at this point, where were you at in your personal life with your marriage?
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Kevin Lowe: Were you separated at this point?
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Wendy Feldman: Well, yeah, that was a great question. It was tough, you know,
00:21:52.118 --> 00:21:55.638
Wendy Feldman: and, and, and now I look back and I go, gosh, you know, I mean,
00:21:55.738 --> 00:21:58.518
Wendy Feldman: if I were in my ex's shoes and it was literally, I mean, Clearly,
00:21:58.658 --> 00:22:02.778
Wendy Feldman: the morning that I crashed, we were both probably figuring, let's find our attorneys
00:22:02.778 --> 00:22:03.858
Wendy Feldman: and let's get this going.
00:22:04.358 --> 00:22:08.158
Wendy Feldman: So then he finds out that I crashed. And I was like, and you know,
00:22:08.238 --> 00:22:11.258
Wendy Feldman: so he, I was at home. No, we were still living in our same home.
00:22:11.898 --> 00:22:14.718
Wendy Feldman: And, you know, he took care of me and we had, thank goodness.
00:22:14.898 --> 00:22:19.618
Wendy Feldman: I had a community of people that people I didn't even know. I mean, that's the crazy thing.
00:22:19.958 --> 00:22:22.778
Wendy Feldman: And I think you probably can relate. People you don't even know.
00:22:23.258 --> 00:22:27.938
Wendy Feldman: That are like distant, like parents of my kids, friends that maybe had only met once or twice.
00:22:28.158 --> 00:22:32.778
Wendy Feldman: Oh my God, do they come out and help like support and do meals and are there.
00:22:32.918 --> 00:22:35.838
Wendy Feldman: And I had to have full-time people watch, you know, my husband would go to work
00:22:35.838 --> 00:22:38.118
Wendy Feldman: and the day and the kids were at school, but I needed to have someone with me
00:22:38.118 --> 00:22:40.858
Wendy Feldman: all the time. I couldn't be left alone because of the head trauma.
00:22:41.458 --> 00:22:44.858
Wendy Feldman: And so I always had, you know, I'd be sleeping a lot, but there'd be people
00:22:44.858 --> 00:22:48.198
Wendy Feldman: in the other room just wait, you know, speak nearby if I needed them.
00:22:48.498 --> 00:22:51.638
Wendy Feldman: So that was for a couple of because I had that. So, but, you know,
00:22:51.718 --> 00:22:54.598
Wendy Feldman: once I pretty much healed, I did. I ended up, I did move out.
00:22:54.778 --> 00:22:58.218
Wendy Feldman: I said, you know, we separated and it was rough and it was tough.
00:22:58.438 --> 00:23:03.238
Wendy Feldman: But yeah, yeah. So that was, that was kind of going on through all that.
00:23:03.338 --> 00:23:05.018
Wendy Feldman: So it was not easy. It was not easy.
00:23:05.158 --> 00:23:07.798
Wendy Feldman: There were a lot of different factors going on in that recovery.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah. Yeah. Talk to me a little bit about the mental game, the mindset here
00:23:14.318 --> 00:23:19.418
Kevin Lowe: in terms of here you are, you're a mother, you have children.
00:23:20.618 --> 00:23:23.358
Kevin Lowe: You're cycling, you're doing the thing you love and yet
00:23:24.275 --> 00:23:27.775
Kevin Lowe: While doing that thing you love, you literally almost die.
00:23:28.295 --> 00:23:33.955
Kevin Lowe: What does that do for you and your maybe just perspective on life?
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Kevin Lowe: I assume it had to have some type of impact.
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Wendy Feldman: Absolutely. Huge. And I look back now and there's times, I mean, a lot.
00:23:44.915 --> 00:23:49.035
Wendy Feldman: And I really say, and thank you for asking that question, because that I think
00:23:49.035 --> 00:23:53.775
Wendy Feldman: hopefully many of your listeners can understand or relate to.
00:23:53.775 --> 00:23:57.355
Wendy Feldman: I'm sure many can relate to because people have traumas in all different fashions.
00:23:57.495 --> 00:23:59.575
Wendy Feldman: They come in all different shapes and sizes, colors and whatever.
00:24:00.475 --> 00:24:05.515
Wendy Feldman: And it put so much perspective. It made me never want it made me realize that
00:24:05.515 --> 00:24:10.015
Wendy Feldman: yes, I, what I'm doing, unfortunately having to break up our family,
00:24:10.015 --> 00:24:15.175
Wendy Feldman: that was the healthiest thing to do for my children and for myself.
00:24:15.355 --> 00:24:18.415
Wendy Feldman: And I think ultimately for my, for my husband as well, you know,
00:24:18.575 --> 00:24:20.055
Wendy Feldman: it was not a healthy relationship.
00:24:20.135 --> 00:24:26.055
Wendy Feldman: And so We weren't doing any good to show the kids what an unhealthy relationship is like.
00:24:26.155 --> 00:24:28.875
Wendy Feldman: That's not going to do any good in a toxic household.
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Wendy Feldman: It definitely solidified that. It also put in perspective what I learned about people.
00:24:36.295 --> 00:24:40.435
Wendy Feldman: I learned about who you count on and what's important.
00:24:40.695 --> 00:24:44.315
Wendy Feldman: What really matters? The stuff, I didn't care about the stuff anymore.
00:24:44.515 --> 00:24:49.475
Wendy Feldman: Stuff that I thought was important, oh my gosh, it is not important.
00:24:49.475 --> 00:24:56.135
Wendy Feldman: I was like, no, because I realized how your health and the ability to be able
00:24:56.135 --> 00:25:02.215
Wendy Feldman: to just move your body and breathe, I mean, it changes your perspective.
00:25:02.955 --> 00:25:07.855
Wendy Feldman: And so that day, literally, you know, May 21st, 2013.
00:25:09.107 --> 00:25:12.807
Wendy Feldman: Really marked a day in my life that only it
00:25:12.807 --> 00:25:15.587
Wendy Feldman: was one of the greater gifts in my life the three greatest gifts in
00:25:15.587 --> 00:25:18.587
Wendy Feldman: my life is my three children but one of the greatest gifts to
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Wendy Feldman: me as a human of growth was on may 21st 2013 and you know it was funny i was
00:25:26.207 --> 00:25:29.587
Wendy Feldman: running at a very fast pace i was going going going always going always busy
00:25:29.587 --> 00:25:34.127
Wendy Feldman: always busy and always on the bike and i'll never forget But at the time,
00:25:34.287 --> 00:25:35.927
Wendy Feldman: my husband at the time said to me, you know,
00:25:36.367 --> 00:25:39.967
Wendy Feldman: you are going so fast. You're moving at such a fast pace.
00:25:40.247 --> 00:25:42.627
Wendy Feldman: And you keep up with this pace, you're going to crash and burn.
00:25:42.807 --> 00:25:44.067
Wendy Feldman: And I'll never forget that.
00:25:44.267 --> 00:25:48.447
Wendy Feldman: And he was right because I did crash. I didn't burn, but I crashed.
00:25:48.887 --> 00:25:50.927
Wendy Feldman: And that is the universe's way,
00:25:51.367 --> 00:25:55.527
Wendy Feldman: has a very interesting way of sometimes saying, stop you in your tracks.
00:25:55.987 --> 00:25:58.827
Wendy Feldman: You're not ready to die. I'm not going to let you die because there's a reason
00:25:58.827 --> 00:26:00.287
Wendy Feldman: that you're meant to be here, Wendy.
00:26:00.287 --> 00:26:03.267
Wendy Feldman: But it stopped me in my tracks to say look at
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Wendy Feldman: what's going on here yeah what's going on what
00:26:06.247 --> 00:26:09.507
Wendy Feldman: are you doing and that did it that did
00:26:09.507 --> 00:26:16.567
Wendy Feldman: it yeah and i needed that and man did i slow down and did did i start new things
00:26:16.567 --> 00:26:19.987
Wendy Feldman: and learn new things and start to do things i wouldn't have taken the time to
00:26:19.987 --> 00:26:26.887
Wendy Feldman: do before and it was really healthy for me it's really good it's really good for me yeah yeah Yeah.
00:26:27.187 --> 00:26:33.527
Kevin Lowe: It's crazy how sometimes it takes something to happen to give us that kind of
00:26:33.527 --> 00:26:39.347
Kevin Lowe: needed perspective change, you know, to get to see life differently. And that's powerful.
00:26:40.067 --> 00:26:43.727
Wendy Feldman: Yeah. And, you know, yeah, no, no, we don't wish that. We don't want people
00:26:43.727 --> 00:26:46.367
Wendy Feldman: to go through that. We don't want people to go through that. Right.
00:26:47.141 --> 00:26:52.341
Wendy Feldman: But if that happens to you, if for whatever reason, it's to kind of remember
00:26:52.341 --> 00:26:56.601
Wendy Feldman: that, look at it for what it is, take it for what it is, get through it,
00:26:56.801 --> 00:27:01.561
Wendy Feldman: be strong, get through the pain of it, heal, and move on.
00:27:01.761 --> 00:27:04.341
Wendy Feldman: And then learn what came out of that.
00:27:04.641 --> 00:27:08.001
Wendy Feldman: What can we take out of the negatives in life? Because there's going to be a
00:27:08.001 --> 00:27:10.121
Wendy Feldman: lot of them. What can we take from that?
00:27:10.421 --> 00:27:13.541
Wendy Feldman: And how can we turn that? You know, it's the adage, you know,
00:27:13.601 --> 00:27:14.561
Wendy Feldman: turn lemons into lemonade.
00:27:14.981 --> 00:27:17.961
Wendy Feldman: But it's true. how can we take things
00:27:17.961 --> 00:27:20.781
Wendy Feldman: that are negative because they're good you're gonna get you're gonna be faced with them every
00:27:20.781 --> 00:27:23.541
Wendy Feldman: day all the time and how do you flip it
00:27:23.541 --> 00:27:27.301
Wendy Feldman: it's like you sit all the time flip the script and
00:27:27.301 --> 00:27:31.261
Wendy Feldman: it's flipping the narrative change it change up your change talk get your change
00:27:31.261 --> 00:27:35.501
Wendy Feldman: talk up you know how are you talking how are you seeing things how are you saying
00:27:35.501 --> 00:27:42.881
Wendy Feldman: things how are you listening how are you perceiving it that's what is going
00:27:42.881 --> 00:27:46.461
Wendy Feldman: to make the difference in this world is better understanding,
00:27:47.121 --> 00:27:51.381
Wendy Feldman: being more patient with people, not passing judgment, all those things.
00:27:51.901 --> 00:27:56.401
Wendy Feldman: That is how we learn to grow. And that's how we become a healthier,
00:27:56.921 --> 00:27:59.121
Wendy Feldman: happier, more well planet as a whole.
00:27:59.721 --> 00:28:06.541
Kevin Lowe: Yeah. Yeah. I agree. 110%. So, Wendy, here's the thing.
00:28:07.021 --> 00:28:10.461
Kevin Lowe: Everybody so far, they're like, oh, my gosh, I love Wendy.
00:28:10.741 --> 00:28:16.921
Kevin Lowe: Oh, I feel so bad for her. but then I'm going to ask the next question and I
00:28:16.921 --> 00:28:21.501
Kevin Lowe: think they're going to be like this woman is crazy she's stupid what is she thinking
00:28:26.481 --> 00:28:33.101
Kevin Lowe: because you you you took the age-old thing of if you fall off the horse you
00:28:33.101 --> 00:28:35.961
Kevin Lowe: got to get back on it so you did the same with the bicycle
00:28:37.995 --> 00:28:45.435
Wendy Feldman: Yes yes oh my god yes and i kind of did it secretly too you know it's kind of
00:28:45.435 --> 00:28:49.175
Wendy Feldman: like oh my god i have to do this and not let any of my family do this because
00:28:49.175 --> 00:28:50.535
Wendy Feldman: yeah they're all like you're,
00:28:51.595 --> 00:28:57.755
Wendy Feldman: flipping nuts yeah you're flipping nuts but and maybe it was but you know you're
00:28:57.755 --> 00:29:02.355
Wendy Feldman: right you're right you're right it was kind of the get back up and do it to
00:29:02.355 --> 00:29:05.055
Wendy Feldman: get off that fear and i kind of as a matter of fact i did kind of start it just
00:29:05.055 --> 00:29:09.515
Wendy Feldman: for that just like okay i'm gonna get on We rode like a mile from my house, like,
00:29:09.755 --> 00:29:14.015
Wendy Feldman: you know, just up to the school, nearby school and then back home and really careful.
00:29:14.135 --> 00:29:17.395
Wendy Feldman: And someone went with me, you know, and they're like, okay, you can do it, you know.
00:29:17.495 --> 00:29:20.015
Wendy Feldman: And then it was like, I can do this. And then I would do it every day.
00:29:20.115 --> 00:29:22.635
Wendy Feldman: And I was like, oh, God, now I'm going to do two miles.
00:29:24.875 --> 00:29:27.295
Wendy Feldman: And then I was like, yeah, I'm back, you know. And then I actually did it.
00:29:27.395 --> 00:29:28.595
Wendy Feldman: I did it on a Mother's Day.
00:29:28.755 --> 00:29:31.655
Wendy Feldman: I did this really cool ride with this beautiful mountain, Montaibola,
00:29:31.735 --> 00:29:34.775
Wendy Feldman: which is one of the taller peaks in the state of California.
00:29:35.455 --> 00:29:38.135
Wendy Feldman: And i used to write it you know a couple times a week i would love
00:29:38.135 --> 00:29:41.315
Wendy Feldman: it it's about 4 000 foot climb it's one of my favorite mountains and
00:29:41.315 --> 00:29:44.415
Wendy Feldman: they have this on mother's day they have this challenge it's called the diablo challenge
00:29:44.415 --> 00:29:47.035
Wendy Feldman: where you start everyone starts it's the way you start everyone starts at the
00:29:47.035 --> 00:29:52.235
Wendy Feldman: bottom and you get to the top as fast as you can and i did it and i ended up
00:29:52.235 --> 00:29:58.655
Wendy Feldman: placing third in my age group so i was um in my early 50s so i ended up placing
00:29:58.655 --> 00:30:01.735
Wendy Feldman: third in my age group which was awesome i was like really excited made a pretty
00:30:01.735 --> 00:30:05.035
Wendy Feldman: good time you know not as good as i wanted But I made it up for the fact I did it, you know.
00:30:06.175 --> 00:30:09.375
Wendy Feldman: So I did get back on. And then I started riding kind of like,
00:30:09.555 --> 00:30:10.495
Wendy Feldman: you know, with my group again.
00:30:10.815 --> 00:30:14.535
Wendy Feldman: And one day I did a group ride, that planned group ride I told you about with
00:30:14.535 --> 00:30:15.875
Wendy Feldman: a lot of very strong racers.
00:30:16.975 --> 00:30:20.575
Wendy Feldman: Silly little dumb crash, actually. I mean, we were all going slow.
00:30:20.775 --> 00:30:23.215
Wendy Feldman: We were just starting out. It was the beginning of a 75-mile ride.
00:30:23.295 --> 00:30:24.855
Wendy Feldman: We're probably five miles into the ride.
00:30:26.215 --> 00:30:32.035
Wendy Feldman: Somehow, my front wheel, just by a hair, caught a back wheel of a rider in front
00:30:32.035 --> 00:30:33.775
Wendy Feldman: of me. and that takes you down.
00:30:34.295 --> 00:30:39.375
Wendy Feldman: And then like five people fell on me from behind me and I fell flat on my chin.
00:30:39.855 --> 00:30:43.235
Wendy Feldman: And I think I must've blacked out for a very short second.
00:30:44.175 --> 00:30:47.895
Wendy Feldman: But unfortunately, and I got up and everyone stopped and they're like,
00:30:47.995 --> 00:30:50.535
Wendy Feldman: okay, you know, Wendy, you got to, we had to get to a hospital.
00:30:50.695 --> 00:30:54.595
Wendy Feldman: And I was like, no, no, no, I'm fine. Like, no, you know, my chin was bleeding
00:30:54.595 --> 00:30:56.035
Wendy Feldman: and my hand was bleeding.
00:30:56.175 --> 00:30:58.835
Wendy Feldman: I'm like, no, no, no. You know, you guys go, it's a beautiful day.
00:30:58.935 --> 00:31:00.135
Wendy Feldman: You guys write, I'm going to write home.
00:31:00.775 --> 00:31:03.455
Wendy Feldman: And they're like, I don't think you should write home. My hand was starting
00:31:03.455 --> 00:31:06.195
Wendy Feldman: to swell up and they're like, I think we should get to a hospital.
00:31:06.455 --> 00:31:08.455
Wendy Feldman: And I really said, you know what? No, really, I'm really good.
00:31:08.595 --> 00:31:12.775
Wendy Feldman: I'm all good. I'm all good. I'm fine and scraped up, but I'm going to write home and be good.
00:31:13.335 --> 00:31:15.675
Wendy Feldman: And one woman said, no, I'm going to take you to the hospital.
00:31:15.815 --> 00:31:20.315
Wendy Feldman: So she put me in her car and we went to the hospital and I get to the hospital
00:31:20.315 --> 00:31:24.695
Wendy Feldman: and the doctor said, weren't you here just like a year and a half ago with another,
00:31:25.135 --> 00:31:27.375
Wendy Feldman: didn't we see you recently? And I said, yes.
00:31:28.156 --> 00:31:30.796
Wendy Feldman: And he said, well, we're going to scan your brain since you had a traumatic
00:31:30.796 --> 00:31:33.796
Wendy Feldman: brain injury. We're going to scan it. Looks like you hit your head again.
00:31:34.436 --> 00:31:37.336
Wendy Feldman: And I said, you know, I don't even know why I'm here. I'm fine.
00:31:37.636 --> 00:31:38.796
Wendy Feldman: Like, please let me go home.
00:31:39.416 --> 00:31:42.576
Wendy Feldman: The scan comes back and he comes in and he looks at me and he says,
00:31:42.796 --> 00:31:45.716
Wendy Feldman: well, I have to tell you, you're not so fine.
00:31:46.076 --> 00:31:50.936
Wendy Feldman: He said, you actually cracked your skull in the same place you cracked it the first time.
00:31:51.456 --> 00:31:54.376
Wendy Feldman: And he said, this crack is actually a little bit worse. He said,
00:31:54.436 --> 00:31:56.516
Wendy Feldman: whereas on the first time there was no blood on your brain.
00:31:56.516 --> 00:31:59.416
Wendy Feldman: He said this time you have to
00:31:59.416 --> 00:32:02.176
Wendy Feldman: actually have a little fracture on a
00:32:02.176 --> 00:32:05.576
Wendy Feldman: part of the skull that is very close to
00:32:05.576 --> 00:32:08.716
Wendy Feldman: nicking one of the largest arteries that goes
00:32:08.716 --> 00:32:12.856
Wendy Feldman: up into your brain i'm not saying this correctly because i don't really remember
00:32:12.856 --> 00:32:16.496
Wendy Feldman: i think i tuned out everything he was saying at this point but all i knew is
00:32:16.496 --> 00:32:21.096
Wendy Feldman: he said if that little nick that little sharp point of the bone were to rupture
00:32:21.096 --> 00:32:26.076
Wendy Feldman: that he said you you're gone so he said we're basically going to put you in ICU you.
00:32:26.256 --> 00:32:28.896
Wendy Feldman: You're going to be completely still for 24 hours.
00:32:29.356 --> 00:32:31.856
Wendy Feldman: And we're going to see, because there is bleeding on your brain now.
00:32:32.076 --> 00:32:33.076
Wendy Feldman: He said, there's bleeding in there.
00:32:33.156 --> 00:32:36.716
Wendy Feldman: And he said, we need to make sure that that little piece, that little shard,
00:32:36.856 --> 00:32:41.416
Wendy Feldman: that little piece of bone can smooth out and not get close to that vein.
00:32:42.156 --> 00:32:46.016
Wendy Feldman: And we also want to make sure that the bleeding stops. And he said, you have 24 hours.
00:32:46.156 --> 00:32:50.336
Wendy Feldman: If in 24 hours, the bleeding stops, then I think you're going to be fine.
00:32:50.596 --> 00:32:53.856
Wendy Feldman: If it does not stop in 24 hours, you're going in tomorrow morning for brain
00:32:53.856 --> 00:32:56.476
Wendy Feldman: surgery. And I looked at him and I said, you've got to make any,
00:32:56.636 --> 00:32:58.516
Wendy Feldman: and he said, you're done with cycling.
00:32:59.076 --> 00:33:03.736
Wendy Feldman: He said, third time's a charm, you are done. And I just remember going, yeah.
00:33:03.936 --> 00:33:08.216
Wendy Feldman: And my kids and everyone's, and that was it. That was the end of my cycling days, for sure.
00:33:08.436 --> 00:33:10.696
Wendy Feldman: Except for, you know, being on a Peloton stationary bike.
00:33:11.076 --> 00:33:14.236
Wendy Feldman: But yeah, the road is done. Road is done.
00:33:14.656 --> 00:33:15.056
Kevin Lowe: Wow.
00:33:15.476 --> 00:33:21.576
Wendy Feldman: So for your listeners, yes, the crazy lady who did get on is now no longer on the road bike.
00:33:26.236 --> 00:33:27.996
Wendy Feldman: Yeah, they're going to say that crazy thing.
00:33:29.075 --> 00:33:35.675
Kevin Lowe: Yeah. So how did it end up going? Did we have good news and the bleeding stopped?
00:33:35.675 --> 00:33:36.955
Kevin Lowe: No, I did not need the brain surgery. Okay, good.
00:33:37.155 --> 00:33:41.275
Wendy Feldman: Yeah. The next morning they said, good for you. The bleeding has stopped.
00:33:41.455 --> 00:33:44.375
Wendy Feldman: You will be here for another four days. We're keeping you for observation.
00:33:44.715 --> 00:33:50.155
Wendy Feldman: And my chin was a mess. My chin was horrible.
00:33:50.435 --> 00:33:55.255
Wendy Feldman: I had this big, like round chin that was, it had been like raspberry,
00:33:55.275 --> 00:34:00.275
Wendy Feldman: you know, When you scrape something and it's like, but it was bleeding,
00:34:00.315 --> 00:34:03.995
Wendy Feldman: but not deep, but it swelled and it was huge.
00:34:04.555 --> 00:34:08.895
Wendy Feldman: And I don't want to jump ahead in the podcast, but I found out years later,
00:34:09.075 --> 00:34:09.955
Wendy Feldman: because I kind of had this little
00:34:09.955 --> 00:34:13.435
Wendy Feldman: pointy chin. I kind of found out years later what was wrong with it.
00:34:13.655 --> 00:34:19.475
Wendy Feldman: And it turned out that that day I crashed, that there's a muscle called the mentalis muscle.
00:34:20.115 --> 00:34:22.935
Wendy Feldman: And the mentalis muscle is if you touch your chin right now,
00:34:23.155 --> 00:34:27.295
Wendy Feldman: you kind of feel that little bit down there, kind of like the bottom of your
00:34:27.295 --> 00:34:28.275
Wendy Feldman: chin. You know, it's kind of squishy.
00:34:28.735 --> 00:34:33.115
Wendy Feldman: That's a muscle right there. And that muscle pulled away from the bone.
00:34:33.235 --> 00:34:35.455
Wendy Feldman: So if you pull yours, you can pull it down.
00:34:36.235 --> 00:34:40.355
Wendy Feldman: My muscle permanently pulled away from the bone. Never knew that that happened in that crash.
00:34:40.475 --> 00:34:43.695
Wendy Feldman: But it permanently pulled away. So I didn't like it.
00:34:43.695 --> 00:34:46.695
Wendy Feldman: So you know three years ago i had
00:34:46.695 --> 00:34:49.395
Wendy Feldman: gone into a plastic surgeon to see if they could do
00:34:49.395 --> 00:34:52.195
Wendy Feldman: anything about that and he that's when he told me that he's like
00:34:52.195 --> 00:34:56.175
Wendy Feldman: yeah you've pulled your muscle away from the bone but he said you know we can
00:34:56.175 --> 00:35:00.875
Wendy Feldman: you know kind of reattach it kind of push it back up a little bit and and i
00:35:00.875 --> 00:35:10.275
Wendy Feldman: was like great let's do that so on april 15th of 2021 so yes remember that, Dave.
00:35:10.895 --> 00:35:16.015
Wendy Feldman: I went in for that surgery to have that done. And when they were prepping me
00:35:16.015 --> 00:35:18.215
Wendy Feldman: for that surgery, I just wanted to have that little thing repaired.
00:35:18.295 --> 00:35:20.895
Wendy Feldman: It's all I wanted to put it back up there where it belongs.
00:35:21.675 --> 00:35:24.695
Wendy Feldman: And I'm supposed to be kind of relatively, you know, outpatient surgery.
00:35:25.295 --> 00:35:26.395
Wendy Feldman: My ex-husband was there.
00:35:26.475 --> 00:35:29.715
Wendy Feldman: He actually took me to the surgery and my daughter was going to pick me up.
00:35:30.407 --> 00:35:36.467
Wendy Feldman: The anesthesiologist put the IV in my hand, and he said, we're just going to
00:35:36.467 --> 00:35:40.207
Wendy Feldman: sedate you a little bit, get you a little calm before the procedure. And I said, okay.
00:35:40.627 --> 00:35:47.147
Wendy Feldman: And that's the last thing I heard or knew until I woke up 36 hours later,
00:35:47.467 --> 00:35:54.947
Wendy Feldman: intubated, so on a ventilator with a tube down my throat, and my hands strapped
00:35:54.947 --> 00:35:57.587
Wendy Feldman: to the table or to my bed, to my hospital bed.
00:35:57.587 --> 00:36:00.727
Wendy Feldman: And I woke up and my ex-husband was right there by my side.
00:36:00.987 --> 00:36:07.427
Wendy Feldman: And the first thing I heard him say into my ear was, you really do have nine
00:36:07.427 --> 00:36:10.707
Wendy Feldman: lives when he said, you really do have nine lives.
00:36:10.947 --> 00:36:13.567
Wendy Feldman: I remember thinking, what is he talking about?
00:36:14.047 --> 00:36:19.707
Wendy Feldman: And I couldn't talk, you know, but it's like, you know, poor guy's got three of these with me.
00:36:19.867 --> 00:36:22.167
Wendy Feldman: But I got to tell you, you know, that was scary.
00:36:22.547 --> 00:36:26.767
Wendy Feldman: So I never had the surgery. By my mind, I never had this. I still have the muscle
00:36:26.767 --> 00:36:28.447
Wendy Feldman: that's hanging off of my chin.
00:36:29.147 --> 00:36:36.867
Wendy Feldman: But yeah, yeah. So they over-sedated me and my lungs collapsed basically and almost died again.
00:36:37.087 --> 00:36:41.787
Wendy Feldman: And I am very, that one, incredibly lucky to be alive from. So they rushed me
00:36:41.787 --> 00:36:45.067
Wendy Feldman: back to the trauma center, which is the same hospital that I've been in.
00:36:45.367 --> 00:36:52.007
Wendy Feldman: It saved my life. I had to have two lung surgeries as a result of all of that. So yeah. Wow.
00:36:53.207 --> 00:37:00.967
Kevin Lowe: Wow, wow, wow. Now, how long after the second crash on the bike was this surgery?
00:37:01.907 --> 00:37:06.047
Wendy Feldman: That was about seven years, I guess, seven years.
00:37:06.267 --> 00:37:06.387
Kevin Lowe: Okay.
00:37:06.627 --> 00:37:09.827
Wendy Feldman: So it was all within about a nine, ten-year span, I'm thinking.
00:37:09.987 --> 00:37:14.367
Wendy Feldman: I mean, I always think it's eight years. I think it's always about, it was 2013 to 2021.
00:37:14.767 --> 00:37:17.947
Wendy Feldman: So I guess that's nine years, so nine-year span.
00:37:18.407 --> 00:37:23.627
Wendy Feldman: So the second crash was 2015, and then this was 2021.
00:37:24.127 --> 00:37:28.427
Wendy Feldman: So you're talking seven years, seven years, roughly seven years after.
00:37:28.887 --> 00:37:35.647
Kevin Lowe: Yeah. Wow. Yeah. So the time in between. Yeah.
00:37:36.412 --> 00:37:44.152
Kevin Lowe: When you basically were told no more cycling, but you found a way to keep cycling,
00:37:44.152 --> 00:37:48.252
Kevin Lowe: but without the fear of crashing on a stationary bike.
00:37:49.312 --> 00:37:51.552
Kevin Lowe: Talk to me a little bit about that.
00:37:51.952 --> 00:37:57.292
Wendy Feldman: Well, that's where the magic, that's where you turn that lemon into lemonade.
00:37:58.592 --> 00:38:04.992
Wendy Feldman: So I loved the road. I mean, it was really hard to get that up because it wasn't
00:38:04.992 --> 00:38:08.212
Wendy Feldman: just the bike. It was the community I'd met, the people I'd met,
00:38:08.292 --> 00:38:10.992
Wendy Feldman: the people it's like, you speak a similar language. You know,
00:38:11.072 --> 00:38:12.592
Wendy Feldman: it's like, it's your tribe, it's your people.
00:38:13.192 --> 00:38:16.512
Wendy Feldman: And so I missed that. I really missed that camaraderie. That was hard.
00:38:16.632 --> 00:38:19.032
Wendy Feldman: That was very challenging. Like I needed to find something new,
00:38:19.152 --> 00:38:20.932
Wendy Feldman: you know, that is going to give me that.
00:38:22.032 --> 00:38:26.072
Wendy Feldman: So my kids, one of my kids said, you know, why don't you ride a stationary bike?
00:38:27.532 --> 00:38:32.092
Wendy Feldman: And that's when I thought, you know, and I was a teacher. I was a bar instructor.
00:38:32.312 --> 00:38:34.972
Wendy Feldman: There's like a Pilates yoga kind of instructor. and I thought,
00:38:35.132 --> 00:38:37.512
Wendy Feldman: why don't I look into becoming a spin instructor?
00:38:38.072 --> 00:38:43.332
Wendy Feldman: So I got spin certified and then there was a studio that opened right around
00:38:43.332 --> 00:38:46.412
Wendy Feldman: the corner of my house and someone told me, hey, they're looking for spin instructors.
00:38:46.572 --> 00:38:51.772
Wendy Feldman: So I reached out to her and I started, I stopped there for six years until COVID
00:38:51.772 --> 00:38:53.552
Wendy Feldman: and then her studio unfortunately had to close.
00:38:53.712 --> 00:38:57.092
Wendy Feldman: But yeah, I became spin instructor and loved it.
00:38:57.232 --> 00:39:01.472
Wendy Feldman: I mean, and I, it was great because what I did in my rides is I would do the
00:39:01.472 --> 00:39:03.712
Wendy Feldman: rides like I was taking people out on the road.
00:39:04.252 --> 00:39:06.952
Wendy Feldman: So, you know, and I still have people that will run into them.
00:39:07.052 --> 00:39:08.292
Wendy Feldman: They're like, I used to love that ride.
00:39:08.392 --> 00:39:11.092
Wendy Feldman: When you take us on the back hill and you would take, and they still remember
00:39:11.092 --> 00:39:13.612
Wendy Feldman: that, you know, I would kind of say, okay, well, we're going to ride.
00:39:13.692 --> 00:39:17.612
Wendy Feldman: Cause I did so many cool rides around the area that I would say,
00:39:17.692 --> 00:39:20.772
Wendy Feldman: well, now we're on this particular ride and I'd kind of mock them through it.
00:39:20.872 --> 00:39:23.772
Wendy Feldman: So it's like, when we had to do a climb, we climbed and we'd sprint and they
00:39:23.772 --> 00:39:24.992
Wendy Feldman: were tough and they were fun.
00:39:25.112 --> 00:39:28.932
Wendy Feldman: And we just, you know, the room was a sweat fest and it was great music and fun.
00:39:28.992 --> 00:39:32.552
Wendy Feldman: And I got such enjoyment out of that because I could really keep that,
00:39:32.752 --> 00:39:37.452
Wendy Feldman: still bring that love of cycling and, you know, keep those memories of my rides
00:39:37.452 --> 00:39:39.952
Wendy Feldman: and bring the little fun anecdotes into it when I was riding.
00:39:40.172 --> 00:39:43.892
Wendy Feldman: And it made it fun for them. You know, it made an hour go by so quick and they
00:39:43.892 --> 00:39:48.452
Wendy Feldman: loved it and they got a great workout and I pushed them and they pushed themselves.
00:39:48.832 --> 00:39:51.852
Wendy Feldman: And so that became, that was actually really great. So I taught,
00:39:52.052 --> 00:39:53.372
Wendy Feldman: you know, spent a few days a week.
00:39:53.572 --> 00:39:57.632
Wendy Feldman: So that, that was really great. And then after the studio closed and then COVID
00:39:57.632 --> 00:40:02.052
Wendy Feldman: hit, you know, COVID, But I ended up getting a Peloton bike and that's become my like, I love that.
00:40:02.292 --> 00:40:04.412
Wendy Feldman: So I, that's why I'm with the cycling.
00:40:04.952 --> 00:40:06.632
Kevin Lowe: Yeah, that's it. Amazing. So
00:40:06.632 --> 00:40:10.692
Kevin Lowe: now you're, you're one of those Peloton people. I hear about you people.
00:40:15.732 --> 00:40:19.252
Wendy Feldman: Come on, join us, join us, join us, join us. You hear about,
00:40:19.292 --> 00:40:23.152
Wendy Feldman: it's true. We're this weird, funky group of people, but it's true. And then you know what?
00:40:23.728 --> 00:40:28.608
Wendy Feldman: It's a brilliant model because you have the same tribe because when you get
00:40:28.608 --> 00:40:30.388
Wendy Feldman: on the bike, it's so different.
00:40:30.548 --> 00:40:33.868
Wendy Feldman: It's not like just riding a regular station. I couldn't just get on a bike and
00:40:33.868 --> 00:40:34.828
Wendy Feldman: ride on my own. I wouldn't do it.
00:40:35.068 --> 00:40:39.948
Wendy Feldman: But you've got, the minute you get on, their instructors are inspiring.
00:40:40.208 --> 00:40:43.428
Wendy Feldman: They're fun. The music's awesome. And you have this little leaderboard,
00:40:43.488 --> 00:40:46.588
Wendy Feldman: you know, where people that are riding with you, you have your own little special
00:40:46.588 --> 00:40:48.988
Wendy Feldman: name and mine is Ladybug on Wheels.
00:40:49.208 --> 00:40:53.768
Wendy Feldman: And you have everyone's little leaderboards name up there. So you're riding alongside with them.
00:40:53.848 --> 00:40:56.008
Wendy Feldman: So you know there's people in there riding at the same time you are,
00:40:56.188 --> 00:40:58.168
Wendy Feldman: and whether it's a live ride or virtual.
00:40:58.588 --> 00:41:02.088
Wendy Feldman: And so you always feel like you're with people. You're not like pushing against
00:41:02.088 --> 00:41:03.668
Wendy Feldman: them, but you're riding with them.
00:41:03.808 --> 00:41:07.908
Wendy Feldman: And so it feels really good. And it's really become that, you know,
00:41:08.008 --> 00:41:13.028
Wendy Feldman: where I have the bike is in my bedroom, and I've got a big, really big window next to it.
00:41:13.208 --> 00:41:16.208
Wendy Feldman: And so, and I look out all into trees in my backyard.
00:41:16.868 --> 00:41:21.968
Wendy Feldman: And because I back up to wild open space, it's like, honestly, I leave the window open.
00:41:22.348 --> 00:41:25.068
Wendy Feldman: And I just feel honestly, it's my own little way of, I feel like,
00:41:25.148 --> 00:41:27.848
Wendy Feldman: you know, I kind of feel like I'm back, I'm back on the road and I ride for
00:41:27.848 --> 00:41:30.248
Wendy Feldman: a long time and short, whatever, it doesn't matter.
00:41:30.488 --> 00:41:34.468
Wendy Feldman: It's like, I get that same, I get a very similar feel. It's really,
00:41:34.568 --> 00:41:35.348
Wendy Feldman: it's really neat, Kevin.
00:41:35.528 --> 00:41:40.108
Wendy Feldman: I have to say, I found this and I am grateful, I'm grateful to Peloton for this
00:41:40.108 --> 00:41:45.028
Wendy Feldman: because it's given me that for sure. And I know it's given a lot of people that.
00:41:45.028 --> 00:41:48.168
Kevin Lowe: Yeah, I mean, I think that's really powerful.
00:41:48.168 --> 00:41:54.808
Kevin Lowe: And what I think is really amazing is, is I can't help but be so grateful that
00:41:54.808 --> 00:41:59.268
Kevin Lowe: you were able to find that because I know for myself,
00:41:59.608 --> 00:42:06.328
Kevin Lowe: you know, when I went blind, I grew up on the back of a dirt bike and I rode
00:42:06.328 --> 00:42:08.408
Kevin Lowe: dirt bikes my entire childhood.
00:42:08.408 --> 00:42:13.848
Kevin Lowe: And I mean every day from I'd get home from school immediately I'd jump on my
00:42:13.848 --> 00:42:16.488
Kevin Lowe: dirt bike or four wheeler and
00:42:17.128 --> 00:42:20.328
Kevin Lowe: it was hard to lose that you
00:42:20.328 --> 00:42:23.908
Kevin Lowe: know and so to hear that you were able to
00:42:23.908 --> 00:42:26.708
Kevin Lowe: find a way to come up with
00:42:26.708 --> 00:42:31.368
Kevin Lowe: something new obviously it's not the same but you found something new you found
00:42:31.368 --> 00:42:37.428
Kevin Lowe: the tribe I just think that's really amazing and I think it speaks a lot about
00:42:37.428 --> 00:42:44.208
Kevin Lowe: just you as a person of your ability and willingness to adapt to new situations
00:42:44.748 --> 00:42:47.288
Kevin Lowe: and to, you know, make the most out of it.
00:42:47.448 --> 00:42:51.868
Wendy Feldman: Yeah. You know, you just said the word you said is adapt. And that,
00:42:52.108 --> 00:42:56.088
Wendy Feldman: I got that word because that's exactly right. As you.
00:42:56.793 --> 00:43:00.973
Wendy Feldman: I admire you. And for anyone who knows you is listening to you and listens to you.
00:43:01.273 --> 00:43:05.873
Wendy Feldman: You're a hero in my eyes, what you have gone through in your life and what you
00:43:05.873 --> 00:43:09.613
Wendy Feldman: have done and what you've created, this little empire you've created.
00:43:09.953 --> 00:43:15.633
Wendy Feldman: You're really an amazing, you are, you are true grit. You are so inspirational.
00:43:16.113 --> 00:43:23.313
Wendy Feldman: And I find you to be fascinating, but it's true because in life it's about adapting.
00:43:23.393 --> 00:43:27.153
Wendy Feldman: And that is what, how I work with my clients. It's things are going to happen,
00:43:27.413 --> 00:43:30.733
Wendy Feldman: but it's you adapt and we can all adapt to change.
00:43:31.153 --> 00:43:34.433
Wendy Feldman: And it's how we look at it because yeah, things are going to happen.
00:43:34.673 --> 00:43:38.993
Wendy Feldman: And initially it might seem scary. It might seem like, how am I going to deal with this?
00:43:39.173 --> 00:43:42.633
Wendy Feldman: It certainly was when I realized that my marriage wasn't going to work.
00:43:42.813 --> 00:43:48.113
Wendy Feldman: I didn't think I'd be here at 61, that I'd be single having to recreate my life and start over.
00:43:48.313 --> 00:43:51.533
Wendy Feldman: And I'm sure you didn't think, you know, when you were 15, you didn't think
00:43:51.533 --> 00:43:53.813
Wendy Feldman: you'd be where you are today. But look what you've created.
00:43:54.133 --> 00:43:56.953
Wendy Feldman: Yeah. And look at the gifts you've brought to so many people.
00:43:57.393 --> 00:44:04.073
Wendy Feldman: And so you've adapted. And I think that if as humans, just as animals do out
00:44:04.073 --> 00:44:05.993
Wendy Feldman: in wilderness, you adapt.
00:44:06.453 --> 00:44:10.533
Wendy Feldman: You camouflage. You adapt yourself to your surroundings.
00:44:10.893 --> 00:44:14.673
Wendy Feldman: And you find the positive in it because there is a positive in it.
00:44:14.753 --> 00:44:17.433
Wendy Feldman: All you do is go outside and breathe the fresh air and look up at the sky.
00:44:17.893 --> 00:44:22.753
Wendy Feldman: Nature has a very incredible way of bringing some power to your mind and your
00:44:22.753 --> 00:44:26.233
Wendy Feldman: body. and it's free, it's free, it doesn't cost anything.
00:44:26.553 --> 00:44:31.933
Wendy Feldman: Go outside, go for a walk, get out in nature, go by yourself, listen to it.
00:44:32.133 --> 00:44:35.833
Wendy Feldman: Here, what are you listening to? What do you hear? Smell, what do you smell?
00:44:36.233 --> 00:44:42.233
Wendy Feldman: What is going on? The sight, the sound and the smell and the feel of it is enough.
00:44:43.733 --> 00:44:49.793
Wendy Feldman: And it's so empowering and it's so healing for our bodies, so healing for our mind.
00:44:50.402 --> 00:44:57.302
Wendy Feldman: And I just, I cannot express enough how important it is to really let yourself
00:44:57.302 --> 00:45:02.822
Wendy Feldman: be outside and, you know, and take nature's there to give mother nature.
00:45:03.142 --> 00:45:04.822
Wendy Feldman: She's amazing, amazing thing.
00:45:05.162 --> 00:45:08.382
Wendy Feldman: Like it's there for us. It's right there for us.
00:45:08.482 --> 00:45:12.542
Wendy Feldman: And it's one thing that I think, you know, I would love more people to take
00:45:12.542 --> 00:45:16.482
Wendy Feldman: advantage of mother nature, take advantage of our earth. It's a beautiful place
00:45:16.482 --> 00:45:20.102
Wendy Feldman: and honor it and take care of it the way we want to honor and take care of our bodies.
00:45:21.042 --> 00:45:26.722
Kevin Lowe: Yeah, absolutely. So that makes me think that you need to get onto Peloton and
00:45:26.722 --> 00:45:31.662
Kevin Lowe: they need to do one of those crazy like 4D experiences where it starts like
00:45:31.662 --> 00:45:36.522
Kevin Lowe: spraying water at your face or shooting wind at you, making you think, you know?
00:45:39.362 --> 00:45:42.662
Wendy Feldman: Oh, I love it. Yes, because I used to ride in the rain too. Yeah.
00:45:42.842 --> 00:45:46.342
Wendy Feldman: Craziness. I mean, I didn't want to, but sometimes I wouldn't get home in time.
00:45:46.462 --> 00:45:47.982
Wendy Feldman: And then rain would come in. It was like, oh, God.
00:45:48.162 --> 00:45:50.142
Wendy Feldman: And I get, you know, but I had a couple of days where I was like,
00:45:50.622 --> 00:45:54.722
Wendy Feldman: you know, that I didn't like because I do not like writing the grounding.
00:45:54.982 --> 00:45:58.482
Wendy Feldman: But yes, you're right. We can totally have the wind, the rain.
00:45:58.622 --> 00:45:59.962
Wendy Feldman: You can have truck sounds and everything.
00:46:02.862 --> 00:46:09.542
Wendy Feldman: Oh, my gosh. Yes, you can really make it really, really virtual.
00:46:09.702 --> 00:46:12.142
Wendy Feldman: You know, people like, you know. yeah well.
00:46:12.142 --> 00:46:15.782
Kevin Lowe: You just you just let me know wendy i'll come over i'll set up a box fan in
00:46:15.782 --> 00:46:19.562
Kevin Lowe: front of you that'll be the win i'll have a little horn behind you
00:46:19.562 --> 00:46:20.062
Wendy Feldman: You know,
00:46:23.502 --> 00:46:26.262
Wendy Feldman: i know i wish you totally you can be
00:46:26.262 --> 00:46:29.162
Wendy Feldman: my you can be my little wingman you can be back there doing
00:46:29.162 --> 00:46:31.862
Wendy Feldman: all that yeah i'm gonna get one i'm gonna
00:46:31.862 --> 00:46:34.722
Wendy Feldman: get another one have you come over i'm gonna have you ride exactly that would
00:46:34.722 --> 00:46:37.462
Wendy Feldman: be because the fact that you were the fact it wouldn't be so
00:46:37.462 --> 00:46:40.262
Wendy Feldman: fun the fact that you were a dirt biker so you
00:46:40.262 --> 00:46:43.662
Wendy Feldman: get it you get that freedom of being on that being
00:46:43.662 --> 00:46:46.582
Wendy Feldman: outside you love that right and you get that you know that
00:46:46.582 --> 00:46:51.282
Wendy Feldman: that kind of i don't want to use the word that that rush but it's it is it's
00:46:51.282 --> 00:46:56.222
Wendy Feldman: a certain it's a feeling of openness you know and i get it now like i hike so
00:46:56.222 --> 00:47:00.482
Wendy Feldman: now hiking's become a big part of my life long walks you know or just hiking
00:47:00.482 --> 00:47:04.102
Wendy Feldman: and just being again where it's challenging i challenge myself it's not easy
00:47:04.102 --> 00:47:05.682
Wendy Feldman: it's hard to do some of these things, you know,
00:47:06.102 --> 00:47:11.702
Wendy Feldman: I can't go as far, I can't go 70 miles, but you know, I can at least get a good chunk in.
00:47:11.942 --> 00:47:16.802
Kevin Lowe: Yeah. I think it comes back to the theme that we've spoken about of freedom,
00:47:17.122 --> 00:47:18.942
Kevin Lowe: you know, freedom. Yeah. Yeah.
00:47:19.273 --> 00:47:26.333
Kevin Lowe: Well, talk to me, Wendy, about what you do today with your career as a,
00:47:26.433 --> 00:47:29.833
Kevin Lowe: you know, I think you do like fitness and wholeness instructor.
00:47:30.093 --> 00:47:31.633
Kevin Lowe: Talk to me a little bit more about that.
00:47:31.913 --> 00:47:36.333
Wendy Feldman: Yes, yes, yes. So I have been a fitness instructor for 15 years,
00:47:36.413 --> 00:47:37.833
Wendy Feldman: so I still teach and I love that.
00:47:38.113 --> 00:47:41.953
Wendy Feldman: And it gives me just, I love, I love educating. I love teaching.
00:47:41.953 --> 00:47:47.653
Wendy Feldman: I love supporting people, love helping people find their true inner self,
00:47:47.833 --> 00:47:49.893
Wendy Feldman: their best self, and to feel the best self.
00:47:50.193 --> 00:47:54.293
Wendy Feldman: And I love to inspire just like you do. And so I became a health and wellness
00:47:54.293 --> 00:47:58.213
Wendy Feldman: coach because I really felt that kind of brought all my things together.
00:47:58.773 --> 00:48:02.213
Wendy Feldman: And that's what I do now. So, you know, building that little,
00:48:02.393 --> 00:48:06.993
Wendy Feldman: that business of health and wellness coaching and it's holistic, right?
00:48:07.153 --> 00:48:10.113
Wendy Feldman: So it's not just about physical nutrition.
00:48:10.253 --> 00:48:13.473
Wendy Feldman: What are you putting in your mouth or how much you, you know,
00:48:13.613 --> 00:48:15.273
Wendy Feldman: what kind of movement are you getting in your day?
00:48:15.493 --> 00:48:18.773
Wendy Feldman: It's, it's so much more. It's about spiritual nutrition.
00:48:19.293 --> 00:48:23.473
Wendy Feldman: It's about intellectual nutrition. You know, what are you feeding your brain?
00:48:24.113 --> 00:48:27.473
Wendy Feldman: What are you feeding your soul? What are you spiritual? How are you spiritually,
00:48:27.833 --> 00:48:30.913
Wendy Feldman: you know, that could be nature could be it, you know, it is for me,
00:48:31.453 --> 00:48:34.433
Wendy Feldman: but all these different, how are you in your career in your,
00:48:34.533 --> 00:48:38.173
Wendy Feldman: in your, your occupational world? You know, how are you feeding yourself?
00:48:38.413 --> 00:48:41.853
Wendy Feldman: You know, where do you rate them on a scale of one to 10, Where are you?
00:48:42.333 --> 00:48:46.473
Wendy Feldman: And so that's how I work with people to really kind of find that balance because
00:48:46.473 --> 00:48:51.853
Wendy Feldman: it's when we find that balance, that's when we're really whole. That's when we're well.
00:48:52.253 --> 00:48:56.973
Wendy Feldman: Because you will learn, you can read and hear wellness experts will say,
00:48:57.153 --> 00:49:01.273
Wendy Feldman: wellness is not the absence of disease.
00:49:01.573 --> 00:49:05.553
Wendy Feldman: Just because we're not sick, just because we don't have diabetes or we don't
00:49:05.553 --> 00:49:10.333
Wendy Feldman: have heart issues or cancer does not mean we're well. Yes, we may be,
00:49:10.493 --> 00:49:12.953
Wendy Feldman: quote, you know, we're free of it. Yes, we're free of disease.
00:49:13.113 --> 00:49:17.033
Wendy Feldman: But how do you just really just get on that continuum, that wellness continuum
00:49:17.033 --> 00:49:19.893
Wendy Feldman: to say what makes you really well and healthy?
00:49:20.133 --> 00:49:23.613
Wendy Feldman: And that's my quest. And that's how I feel.
00:49:23.913 --> 00:49:26.433
Wendy Feldman: That's where I'm going. That's what I'm always going to be working toward.
00:49:26.833 --> 00:49:30.513
Wendy Feldman: And I feel better and better now than I've ever felt. I really feel like,
00:49:30.633 --> 00:49:34.153
Wendy Feldman: but I'm not there yet. I still feel like I've got ways to, you know, room to grow.
00:49:34.373 --> 00:49:39.113
Wendy Feldman: And I want to keep educating myself and I keep learning. I want to keep educating my brain.
00:49:39.413 --> 00:49:42.653
Wendy Feldman: And I want to keep that going. I want to keep my intellectual help going.
00:49:42.973 --> 00:49:46.593
Wendy Feldman: So that's how I work with my, with my clients. And I work with people,
00:49:46.613 --> 00:49:50.253
Wendy Feldman: you know, I've been doing podcasts more, which I really, really love this.
00:49:50.493 --> 00:49:53.933
Wendy Feldman: I am going to be doing some motivational speaking next week at a,
00:49:53.933 --> 00:49:58.233
Wendy Feldman: at a conference on these coasts. We're doing it virtually, which I'm super excited about.
00:49:58.453 --> 00:50:02.773
Wendy Feldman: So yeah, that's kind of my, you know, and I'm a mom and my mom,
00:50:02.853 --> 00:50:05.993
Wendy Feldman: that's my first and foremost love is being a mom and being,
00:50:06.391 --> 00:50:09.811
Wendy Feldman: Yeah, that's what I'm doing in my world, Kevin. That's what I'm doing in my world.
00:50:09.931 --> 00:50:16.511
Kevin Lowe: Well, I love that. Now, do you work with people virtually, like from anywhere,
00:50:16.531 --> 00:50:17.951
Kevin Lowe: or is it just people local?
00:50:18.231 --> 00:50:23.871
Wendy Feldman: Yes, yes, yes, yes. No, virtually. As a matter of fact, I do have local clients, but it's all virtual.
00:50:24.011 --> 00:50:27.451
Wendy Feldman: We do everything via Zoom, which thank goodness for Zoom. We love that,
00:50:27.691 --> 00:50:30.891
Wendy Feldman: which is nice because, you know, the sessions are 30 minutes.
00:50:31.791 --> 00:50:35.311
Wendy Feldman: And it's kind of a nice, although, you know, I do have to say like one client will do,
00:50:35.311 --> 00:50:38.291
Wendy Feldman: she does live nearby and so we walk we'll
00:50:38.291 --> 00:50:41.471
Wendy Feldman: do a 30-minute walk because one of her things is she wants to get more movement so
00:50:41.471 --> 00:50:44.291
Wendy Feldman: instead of us doing a 30-minute sit-down call
00:50:44.291 --> 00:50:47.251
Wendy Feldman: i'm like what let's go on a walk so we walked for a 30-minute session
00:50:47.251 --> 00:50:50.171
Wendy Feldman: and it's been it's been great it's really nice we really really
00:50:50.171 --> 00:50:53.411
Wendy Feldman: enjoy that she really enjoys it and sometimes we'll go for about 45 minutes
00:50:53.411 --> 00:50:56.851
Wendy Feldman: but it's great because it gets it kind of kills two birds with one stone you
00:50:56.851 --> 00:51:00.351
Wendy Feldman: know it takes the time about it takes our time together and it gets it gets
00:51:00.351 --> 00:51:04.531
Wendy Feldman: her outside as well so that's been really really good yeah the majority yeah
00:51:04.531 --> 00:51:09.031
Wendy Feldman: majority is virtual so yes i can work with people anywhere anywhere across the globe well.
00:51:09.031 --> 00:51:12.831
Kevin Lowe: That's amazing well for somebody who might be interested where's the best place
00:51:12.831 --> 00:51:15.131
Kevin Lowe: for us to send them to learn more
00:51:15.131 --> 00:51:21.431
Wendy Feldman: They can go to my web yeah please my website which is wendyfeldmanwellness.com
00:51:21.431 --> 00:51:27.931
Wendy Feldman: just wendyfeldmanwellness.com or social media is wendyfeldman with an underscore and then wellness.
00:51:27.931 --> 00:51:33.571
Kevin Lowe: Yeah amazing well i will be sure that is in the show notes, along with everything
00:51:33.571 --> 00:51:36.011
Kevin Lowe: else on the website, all the places.
00:51:36.391 --> 00:51:42.371
Kevin Lowe: But Wendy, I have one last question is with all that you've gone through,
00:51:42.731 --> 00:51:48.031
Kevin Lowe: you know, these, these near death experiences, the personal struggles of just
00:51:48.031 --> 00:51:52.791
Kevin Lowe: life, of, of marriage, of divorce, of, of being a parent, all this stuff.
00:51:53.011 --> 00:51:59.831
Kevin Lowe: If you could talk to yourself before all of this happened, what would you have
00:51:59.831 --> 00:52:01.711
Kevin Lowe: love that you could have told her
00:52:02.430 --> 00:52:04.050
Kevin Lowe: knowing what you know now?
00:52:05.630 --> 00:52:10.610
Wendy Feldman: There's a lot. And that is such a powerful, such a great question.
00:52:10.870 --> 00:52:16.970
Wendy Feldman: I think I would say, Wendy, don't try to be perfect. Don't try to be someone you're not.
00:52:17.470 --> 00:52:24.110
Wendy Feldman: Resist the temptation to say yes to others when it means saying no to yourself
00:52:24.110 --> 00:52:30.790
Wendy Feldman: and resist that temptation to say no to others for fear of disappointing them.
00:52:30.790 --> 00:52:33.570
Wendy Feldman: Watch the people pleasing aspect.
00:52:34.190 --> 00:52:35.730
Kevin Lowe: Yeah. I love it.
00:52:36.130 --> 00:52:41.630
Wendy Feldman: Just really watch out for that. I think all those things I learned in the last
00:52:41.630 --> 00:52:45.690
Wendy Feldman: 10 years and especially in the last, you know, well, yeah, 10 years,
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Wendy Feldman: I learned all about all those things that if I had told myself that younger, the younger Wendy.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah.
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Wendy Feldman: I wouldn't change my life, Kevin. That's the thing. See, we evolve, right?
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah.
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Wendy Feldman: I wouldn't change it because I love what I have right now. Yes.
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Wendy Feldman: And I've got the three most amazing children, so no, I would not change it.
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Wendy Feldman: Though, it might have changed and put things in different perspective.
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Wendy Feldman: Yes. You know, it might have altered different things. So, I think those things.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah.
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Wendy Feldman: I think that's what I would tell her.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah, I love that. Well, you know what? It goes back to the conversation that
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Kevin Lowe: me and you had before we ever started recording today
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Kevin Lowe: is that we can't control what happens in this life,
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Kevin Lowe: but we can't control how we react to it and you
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Kevin Lowe: mrs wendy have reacted in the most amazing of ways of adapting we talked about
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Kevin Lowe: the importance of that of evolving and continuing to evolve into the person
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Kevin Lowe: that you've become and the person that you will be and i think it's a pretty
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Kevin Lowe: darn beautiful journey that you've been on
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Wendy Feldman: And I am honestly, I wish I could talk to you forever. It's like, I feel so, I have chills.
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Wendy Feldman: The world is blessed to have Kevin Lowe in their presence. And I hope that more
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Wendy Feldman: and more people, certainly I am all cheerleader, go Kevin, because you're a true inspiration to me.
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Wendy Feldman: And today has been, has just solidified all of that.
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Wendy Feldman: And I will do whatever I can to help you in your life,
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Wendy Feldman: and build your own career and your business because I think what you have gone
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Wendy Feldman: through and how you have flipped your narrative and how you have flipped your
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Wendy Feldman: script is so many people can learn from that.
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Wendy Feldman: And if we could all be as strong as the Kevin Lowe, I think we'd,
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Wendy Feldman: gosh, this world would be in a really great place.
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Kevin Lowe: Wendy, you're amazing. Thank you so much. You're amazing. Thank you. Yes.
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Kevin Lowe: Well, for you listening today, I guess at this point I ask you,
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Kevin Lowe: what did you take away? Did you come away inspired?
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Kevin Lowe: Were you left empowered? Or
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Kevin Lowe: maybe were you just left to look at your own life from a different view?
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Kevin Lowe: Starting to view the challenges you go through is not bad things.
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Kevin Lowe: No, they're just things. It all depends on how we react to it, how you react to it.
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Kevin Lowe: I hope today that it left you thinking about you in your life,
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Kevin Lowe: because that's what this is all about.
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Kevin Lowe: My friend, I'm Kevin Lowe, and this is another amazing interview here on Grit,
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Kevin Lowe: Grace, and Inspiration.
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Kevin Lowe: You get out there and enjoy the day. Stay awesome and live inspired.
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