In this episode we will explore the topic of healing and rediscovering your true self after toxic relationships. You’ll finally understand why going No Contact and discovering narcissism and psychopathy, although important steps in the process, don’t equate to healing the damage caused. You’ll find out about the internal obstacles in your self-healing journey that you’ll need to overcome if you want things to change. You’ll also get to hear an interview with Jackson MacKenzie in which we discuss...
Feb 22, 2019•44 min•Ep. 20
In this episode we will explore the Big Picture of the predictable patterns of the narcissistic abuse cycle. You’ll finally understand how you got addicted to the abuser and the abusive relationship. Hint: the addiction wasn’t about either one of those! You’ll find out about the things you can work on in order to prevent yourself from falling into another abuse cycle. You’ll also find out about how codependency patterns are programmed through the narcissistic abuse cycle whether it starts in chi...
Feb 08, 2019•26 min•Ep. 19
In this episode we will explore the common struggles with hoovering when abusers and manipulators try to suck you back in. You’ll finally understand why why it’s so hard to stay out of the pull to read, answer or listen to any contact you receive from the abuser after you leave or are discarded. You’ll find out about the typical hoovering traps and the most common form of hoovering. You’ll also find out about the greatest danger that could cause you to respond to a hoovering attempt and suck you...
Jan 25, 2019•55 min•Ep. 18
In this episode we will explore the Cognitive Dissonance that short-circuits your brain when you’ve been in an abusive relationship. You’ll finally understand why you have disorienting confusion causing you to go back and forth between denial and lucidity. You’ll find out about the 4 most important actions you can take to help yourself resolve the Cognitive Dissonance. You’ll also find out about the kinds of brain damage that the stress of the abuse and the confusion of the Cognitive Dissonance ...
Jan 11, 2019•53 min•Ep. 17
In this episode you’ll hear a special holiday message as we wrap up this year and get ready for the next. I’ll give you a couple exercises to help you maximize the lessons you learned in 2018 so you can take the most valuable parts with you into the New Year. Stay tuned until the end to find out about what’s coming to Inner Integration in 2019! www.InnerIntegration.com The Journey: A Roadmap for Self-healing After Narcissistic Abuse Send Meredith a text Support the show...
Dec 28, 2018•26 min•Ep. 16
In this episode we’ll explore the #1 public health crisis around the world from the societal, familial and interpersonal level. You’ll find out about the characteristics and differences between psychopathy and sociopathy from Dr. Todd Grande, a licensed psychotherapist as he clears up some common misconceptions as well. You’ll learn about the controversy between nature and nature as Dr. Grande tells us about some recent research on the genetic component of psychopathy. Stay tuned until the end t...
Dec 14, 2018•59 min•Ep. 15
In this episode we’ll explore love-bombing AKA idealization and how that fits into the abuse cycle. This is so important for you to be able to break through the Cognitive Dissonance. You’ll finally understand why you felt so addicted to the relationship and had such a hard time accepting that the abuser is an abuser. You’ll also find out about the flipside of idealization and how you might be internalizing the abuse training by idealizing the abuser and others or comparing yourself to others and...
Nov 30, 2018•35 min•Ep. 14
In this episode Debbie Mirza, author of The Passive-Aggressive Covert Narcissist, and I are talking about covert narcissists and what it’s like to be in a relationship with one. You’ll finally understand why the covert narcissist in your life doesn’t seem like the description of the classic narcissist. You’ll find out about the traits of covert narcissists and how these types can be more dangerous than the overt ones. You’ll also learn some tips for recognizing when you’re dealing with a covert ...
Nov 16, 2018•45 min•Ep. 13
In this episode we’ll explore the dynamic of the Scapegoat and the Golden Child in the family, workplace, organizations and social groups in general. You’ll finally understand why narcissists and other manipulators use this Scapegoat and Golden Child tactic in all areas of their life. You’ll get some tips for dealing with this dynamic in your family of origin as well as for helping your kids who are going through this with the other parent and you’ll see how this tactic is used in organizations ...
Nov 02, 2018•38 min•Ep. 12
In this episode we’ll explore the concept of narcissistic supply: what it is, the different forms it takes and what happens when you stop giving them that supply before they’re done with you. You’ll finally understand why narcissists do everything they do and how this affects you. You’ll get some tips for not feeding the narcissist your power. Stay tuned for the last segment to learn about the key to not getting emotionally hijacked when the narcissist provokes you. www.InnerIntegration.com The ...
Oct 19, 2018•47 min•Ep. 11
In this episode we’ll explore what to expect when you’re getting back out there after narcissistic abuse. First, you’ll find out about the social isolation that will naturally happen in Stage One of the recovery process and how that evolves by Stage Three. Then you’ll get some tips for when you feel ready to start meeting new people but you’re terrified of getting hurt again. I will give you some very important tips on why you shouldn’t date or look for new friends when you’re lonely and I'll al...
Oct 05, 2018•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 10
In this episode we’ll explore the importance of reprogramming your reality paradigm after narcissistic abuse. First, you’ll find out about the narcissist’s reality and why this is the most damaging part left behind after the abuse. Then you’ll learn about how can you work on owning your reality in order to create the life you want. I’ll share with you a powerful mental ninja technique to overwrite the reality program that was installed in your mind by the abusers in your life. This is the most i...
Sep 21, 2018•30 min•Ep. 9
In this episode we’ll explore the 4 most important pillars of support to work on in the aftermath of narcissistic abuse. You’ll find out about the behaviors that reveal deficits in each of the 4 pillars. The little quiz at the beginning will help you identify which area or areas you need to heal and strengthen the most. You’ll hear the best clips from my YouTube videos on: how the lack of each pillar might be manifesting in your life and what the antidote is to help you rebuild that area of your...
Sep 07, 2018•46 min•Ep. 8
In this episode we’ll explore where codependency comes from, how to identify these patterns in yourself, and what you can do about it now. You’ll find out what codependency is and you’ll get the opportunity to evaluate yourself on 30 parameters of codependency to see what you need to work on to overcome those patterns. The Codependency Inventory will also help you to compare where you were in the past and where you are now in order to evaluate your progress in rewriting the old codependency patt...
Aug 24, 2018•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 7
In this episode we’ll explore the challenging process of leaving the narcissist or other manipulator. You’ll get some practical steps to take for the extraction process and then tips to keep yourself out of trouble after you leave. You’ll hear the best clips from my YouTube videos on to leave the narcissist or not to leave, divorcing the narcissist and ending the abuse cycle, what happens when you leave the narcissist before the discard, and what to do if you run into the narcissist later. www.I...
Aug 17, 2018•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 6
In this episode we’ll explore No Contact — what it is and what it isn’t, as well as why it’s so important for taking your power back and protecting your peace so you can heal after an abusive relationship. You’ll get to meet Kim Saeed, Author of How to Do No Contact Like A Boss! She’s got some great tips for you on going No Contact with manipulators and how to do that when you share custody of kids with them. Connect with Kim here: www.LetMeReach.com If are planning to leave a narcissist or othe...
Aug 10, 2018•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 5
In this episode we’ll explore personal boundaries around manipulative people. First you’ll get to meet Angelina Caporale, my friend and the person who taught me almost everything I know about boundaries. She’s got some great tips for you on what to expect when setting boundaries with manipulators. Connect with Angelina here ! If you identify as a people-pleaser, you won’t want to miss my tips on saying no, on developing immunity to narcissistic abuse, on mental and emotional boundaries, and when...
Aug 03, 2018•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 4
In this episode we’ll explore Complex PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) caused by narcissistic abuse. By the end of this hour, you’ll understand a lot more about the symptoms you may be dealing with and where they’re coming from. I’ll give you some tips to reduce anxiety and take control of the panic attacks. www.InnerIntegration.com The Journey: A Roadmap for Self-healing After Narcissistic Abuse Send Meredith a text Support the show...
Jul 27, 2018•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 3
In this episode we'll explore some of the wounds that you might have if you were raised by a narcissistic mother. I'll give you some powerful antidotes to that venom so you can turn your life around. I mention the dilemma of going No Contact or minimum contact with narcissistic mothers and I'll give you some tips for both strategies so you can decide what's best for you. www.InnerIntegration.com The Journey: A Roadmap for Self-healing After Narcissistic Abuse Send Meredith a text Support the sho...
Jul 26, 2018•58 min•Ep. 2
In this episode we'll explore the insane loyalty that makes it so hard to let go of an abuser even when you know it's a toxic relationship. You'll find out about the manipulation tactic that creates the strongest bond between people. You'll finally understand why you feel so addicted to the abuser and what you can do about it now. www.InnerIntegration.com The Journey: A Roadmap for Self-healing After Narcissistic Abuse Send Meredith a text Support the show...
Jul 25, 2018•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 1
