Are you love or approval addicted? Many people are. If you frequently feel alone and empty inside, and you often seek to get love, attention, and approval from others, you might be love-addicted. The good news is that you can heal from love and approval addiction.
How do you respond to your own and others' anger, hurt, anxiety, depression, fear, shame, and guilt? Do you believe you are responsible for causing these feelings in others, and others are responsible for causing your feelings? Discover some of the more common ways we dump our feelings onto others, and ways we take responsibility for others’ feelings, and what to do about this.
This year, make two New Year's Resolution lists - one for your external goals and one for who you want to be. And there is one New Year's resolution can change your life, heal your relationships, create health and well-being, and heal our planet.
Is conflict something you do anything to avoid, or do you embrace conflict as a wonderful opportunity to learn? Have you found it hard to stay open in the face of conflict? Do you get into fights that turn ugly as the conflict escalates? Learn how to avoid fighting in conflict situations and what needs to happen to resolve conflict.
Do you sometimes feel unseen and unheard? Do your conversations with others or with your partner sometimes feel like a one-way street? We become invisible to others regarding our feelings and needs and being heard and seen when our feelings and needs are invisible to ourselves.
Are you in a relationship with a partner who is addicted to sex or porn? Is it okay to say no to sex? While the answer to this question might seem simple, discover the subtleties within this question, and learn what would be loving to yourself with a sex addicted partner.
Do you know what triggers you and why? What do you do when a person or situation triggers your stress response? We create conflict and unhealthy communication when we act out in response to our triggers. Discover how to heal your triggers so that you can stay centered and connected rather than reactive.
Discover that opportunities to choose love occur in each moment, and that loving yourself and sharing your love with others is not about nature vs. nurture, but about nature and nurture. Each moment that you choose to make loving your highest priority, you will feel wholeness and joy.
Are you aware of the limiting beliefs that may be controlling your life? Discover some of the false beliefs that you might not be aware of, and how to heal them. Operating from truth rather than from your programmed false beliefs is life-changing!
Were you adequately mothered? Do you still have a little baby within you who did not receive loving holding? Do you feel a deep need for affection and holding that you don’t know how to get met? Are you confusing this need with sex? Learn about the difference between the need for mothering and sexuality, and how to heal the empty place within that may still need loving holding. The good news is that it is never too late to fill that empty place within.
Are you sometimes mystified when you believe you have been loving to your children, to a partner, to friends and family, and they don’t feel loved by you, or they disconnect from you? Discover the underlying reason others might not feel your love and what to do about it.
Who do you trust the most - other people, your wounded self, or your Guidance? Do you believe that your Guidance is controlling - that if you open to your Guidance, you will be told to do things you don't want to do? Or are you afraid to open to your Guidance for fear that is nothing there? Learn how to shift out of being guided by your wounded self and into trusting your guidance.
Discover why you can’t heal without a spiritually connected loving adult, and what to do when you get triggered into your ego wounded self. Becoming a trustworthy loving adult is essential for healing yourself and your relationships, and you become trustworthy as you learn to love yourself and share your love with others.
Most of us want loving relationships, but many people are doing the opposite of what they need to do to create loving relationships. Discover what you might be doing that’s ruining your relationships and what else you can do.
Is a lack of communication one of the complaints you have in your relationship? Does the communication between you and your partner often get confusing? Many couples claim that their problems stem from a lack of communication, and that they can’t resolve their problems. Discover the good reasons for this, what to do about it, and which forms of communication cause problems and which work to resolve issues and create intimacy.
Do you have the courage to love both yourself and others, or is the pseudo-safety of control more important to you? Discover why it takes great courage to learn to love, and why it's so important to make love your highest priority. Loving holds within it the greatest joy and the greatest pain in life, but without it, life is empty. If you feel some inner emptiness, it’s likely because you are allowing fear to stop you from loving yourself and others.
Do you sometimes find yourself angry and blaming in your relationships and you have no idea why you are behaving this way? Find out what is behind the need to blame. Discover the physical and emotional issues that your anger, blame and judgment are causing you, and what you can do to heal an addiction to blame.
Do you believe that if you learn to love yourself and you become happy and whole, will you end up alone? Will a partner want you if you are not needy? Were you brought up to believe that taking care of yourself is selfish, and that to be a good person you need to be self-sacrificing? Discover what might be stopping you from learning to love yourself and take loving actions on your own behalf.
Most of us like to think we are honest people, yet how often do you deny or withhold your truth to get approval or avoid conflict? Wouldn’t you rather know the truth, even if it's very painful, rather than be lied to? Isn't it even more painful to be lied to? Part of authentic love is being willing to tell the truth and receive the truth.
It’s more important than ever to learn how to access our right mind – our right brain spiritually connected loving adult. But once we get triggered into our lower left-brain fear-based programmed wounded self, it can be a challenge to get back in our right mind. It’s vitally important to know the pathway back because personal and planetary healing can happen only when we operate from our right mind.-
Have you lost the wonderful feelings of love and intimacy you had at the beginning of your relationship? It's never too late to reclaim them, but first you need to understand why they are gone. Emotional intimacy is essential for sustaining love in a committed relationship, but do you have trouble giving and receiving love? Discover what fears might be in the way of this for you.
Do you sometimes keep trying to connect with someone who is unavailable? Do you believe that you need to be connected with others in order to feel validated and connected with yourself? Do you have a connection addiction? Connection with others is vital for all of us, but when we disconnect from ourselves to avoid pain, we lose the possibility of connecting with others.
Are you longing for connection? Do you want to experience intimacy and connection with others, and the joy and aliveness that this offers? We all deeply desire connection with others, but what is necessary for us to have this? Discover what you need to do to create loving connection with another.
Have you been trying hard to think positively and visualize what you want, yet manifestation is eluding you and you’re staying stuck in your life? Are you getting frustrated that nothing you try is working to manifest what you want? Discover what might be in the way and learn about the deeper level that is essential for manifesting your dreams.man
When a loved one gets stuck in the state of feeling like a victim, and may be angry or raging, you might be able to be a lifeline for them. It can bring you great joy to learn to be a channel of love for them when they are in the rabbit hole of the darkness, fear and despair of their wounded self.
Are you still doing the things you learned as a child to try to feel safe? Our wounded self is a survival mechanism, designed to keep us safe, but the ways that our wounded self goes about trying to create safety generally have the opposite result. Instead of keeping us safe, it creates fear and anxiety. Which do you believe keeps you safer - your wounded self or your spiritual guidance?
Do you suck the life out of others, trying to get the love you need, or do you allow others to suck the life out of you? Do you often feel empty inside? Do you believe that others should be filling you up with their love and attention? Discover the real cause of inner emptiness and what to do about it, and how to distinguish between legitimate needs and neediness.
Life changes completely when you learn how to love yourself rather than continue to abandon yourself. Today I want to share an example of a young woman who dramatically changed her life in learning to love herself physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually, organizationally and relationally.
Scapegoating goes on in many families. Were you the scapegoat in your family when you were growing up? Are you still being scapegoated as an adult in your family of origin, by your in-laws, or at work? Discover why you might be scapegoated and what to do about this.
Do you wonder why you often have the same conflicts over and over? The wounded self is quite sneaky when it comes to controlling behavior, so it’s important to discover what you do that perpetuates conflict. Our wounded self comes up with endless ways of trying to avoid and control, so we all have many ways of trying to control that you might not be aware of. Discovering and healing these levels of control, especially in relationships, is a major aspect of the healing journey.
