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Subscribe today and learn how to live your best in the cortex life. And now on to today's episode. Welcome back to another episode of the In The Cortex podcast. Today, we're talking all about what is a reconnect. And a reconnect is one of the most important, if not one of my favorite parts of our program. I mean, we love all of it, obviously. But the reconnect is really cool because it's one of the main components of our In The Cortex program. And we're going to break it down. What is it?
What does it do? Why do we do it and how? And then all the questions that you might have about reconnects. So let's start with the very beginning of it all. Let's deep dive into what is a reconnect? A reconnect, Danny. Thank you for sending that up for me. A reconnect is a method that we use here in the cortex to go into the subconscious and reprogram the negative beliefs that we found. So that can sound a little bit like, wait, what does that mean? So let's go back to the very beginning.
95% of human brain activity is subconscious at any given moment, which if you think about that, I know we've talked about it before on the pod, but that's a lot. I mean, we're only conscious of 5% of all of the contents of our brain right now as we're speaking, listening to the podcast, doing whatever you're doing. And that means that a lot of the way that we see the world comes from what's in our subconscious.
So a lot of the way that we perceive people, we perceive experiences, we perceive ourselves, we perceive important different things, the typical, let's go into the health, wealth, and relationships. And we all have a relationship with that in our lives. And so our subconscious is really shaping that. And so it's kind of like when you've had, I'm sure all of us have had this experience where we have the same thing happen to us as somebody else, and we perceive it in completely different ways.
We're like, how did you interpret that that way? I didn't notice that at all. That happened to you and me recently, Danny, when we were at the San Diego Zoo and in the community, and this lady was like, she showed us to where we were going. And you were like, she was so mad and so mean and blah, blah. And I was like, really? I didn't even notice that. I was like, she's power tripping, bro. And you're like, no, I haven't even noticed that authority like that.
And it was also a day where you were feeling kind of like not great. So that always kind of taint things as well. Yes. But we've all been there where you're like, OK, reality is not objective. It's very subjective. And the way that we live things has so much to do with what's going on in our subconscious. And so how does this really come about is through our experiences in our first seven years of life.
So in the first seven years, our brain has been proven, we can drop this in the show notes by Dr. Bruce Lipton and many other researchers, that from zero to seven years of life, the brain is mostly in what's called Theta state or Theta brain waves. So Theta brain waves are the brain waves that are similar to when you're in meditation or kind of like a semi-hypnotic state. So when you're waking up in the morning and you're still kind of asleep and you're kind of like, where am I? Who am I?
What is this? Or when you're right about to fall asleep, right? Same thing where you're just kind of conscious, but not really. That's when we usually have access to Theta brain waves, but kids zero to seven have it all the time. And then Theta, the cool piece about Theta is that we have access to more of our subconscious and we're able to truly look at that, not consciously look at it right.
You're not actively living everything in your subconscious when you're in Theta waves, but you do have access to them and they are able to get activated more.
And so that's why in those first seven years of life, all the things that kids experience and that they learn and they hear from their parents and their caregivers and their teachers and their peers and their family members, whoever's around, all of that stuff is creating kind of the repertoire of beliefs that are going to go into their subconscious. And so you've heard us talk about this before. We can have a really, really positive ones and we can have a really, really negative ones.
So these are beliefs about ourselves, about work, about money, relationships, about love, about every single piece of the world. And so if we grow up with some subconscious beliefs that are not necessarily positive and are not really pushing us forward, then they're going to be holding us back. Then they're going to be limiting us. So that's why we call them limiting beliefs. This is a term that's been used for many, many years about these beliefs and that's really what they're doing.
They're not doing anything other than just limiting the way that we can perceive things and giving us kind of a more emotional trigger kind of situation. We'll talk about that in a second. To certain things that happen in our lives. And so that's where you go into the same experience with somebody else and one person gets triggered by it and the other one doesn't. And one person perceives it as a super great day and a super amazing, fun thing. And the other one is like, that was terrible.
And then that's a great example of how we all just live things so, so differently according to the subconscious. And so coming back to the reconnect, you're like, okay, cool. So I have these negative beliefs. Thanks. What am I going to do about it? And that's where reconnects can come in. So we call reconnect a process that we have implemented in our program through mixing a little bit of brain gym and a little bit of affirmations. We come up with what's called a reconnect.
So it's a five step movement process that's going to help you get it back into Theta state and be able to access that subconscious piece again and reprogram the opposite of what you already quote unquote believe. And remember these beliefs are not logical. They're not real. It's just something that your brain believes to be true. That doesn't mean it is. So for example, we always use the example of money.
Lots of people have this belief like, well, money doesn't grow on trees and I'm never going to make a lot of money. I'm just never going to have it. And so that just starts to show up in their lives. Everywhere they go, every job they have, everything that happens, even if they do make a lot of money, maybe it goes away really fast, right? Maybe all these unexpected, you know, charges come up from life, right?
There's something they have to pay and they just feel like they're always chasing and chasing and chasing money, but they're never making it. That's because that's that subconscious belief that's shaping the way that they're looking at things, right? And so that's where we get stuck in these cycles and these patterns that we're like, oh, I cannot break this. What's going on? And what we're here to say is yes, you can break it. And that's why we do reconnects. Oh, I love all that.
And I love because the way our program is set up is that the first part of the program is designed to get you out of survival mode. So doing the movements to help your brain get into a rational state, right? And then once you've ruled out all the brain related behaviors and you really understand that your reflexes are integrated, the pons midbrainer developed, now we can look at, like Floma just mentioned, all the filters and you will have an endless supply of them.
And for the purpose of this podcast and for the challenge we're about to be launching, we're focusing on three areas and a lot falls under those three care, those three areas of health, wealth and relationships. And I just wanted to highlight too that, yeah, a belief is just a thought you keep thinking over and over. And if you can shift your thoughts, you can shift your reality. And that's what we love talking about here. And that's a Dr. Joe Dispenseth thing. And his main tactic is meditation.
And we're always like, it's really hard for some people to meditate when they have a disorganized brain. So we like to say, hey, if you're that person who's heard this stuff before and you're like, I've tried the affirmations, I've tried all this and that, but it just won't go through. Our technique is designed to do it so you don't have to consciously think about it at the same time.
Like you're going through the movements that are putting your brain into that state so it can download deep into your subconscious and then you start operating from it. And it's so cool when it starts happening. You all of a sudden start to see your money start to flow differently. You start to feel the energy of money shift. Like I used to be somebody who would get so upset if I couldn't get that deal or if I didn't get a promo code or if I just lost money or I was overdrafted.
Like I'd feel like the pit in my stomach of in like the scarcity would just like come through me and I would just start to spiral into such a lack of mindset. And now it's just like a different way of seeing it. It's like, okay, energy, money, it's all connected. And so if you can start to shift the way you see it, then it starts to be a different player in your life. And then you can use it differently. And the same thing for my relationships. I would start shifting.
I would start in like we talked about in the last episode being activated, being triggered, being able to notice those moments and then say, how, how can I shift that feeling that I'm having with this person and that relationship and realizing that that person just mirroring something back to me and taking that and saying, okay, I want to turn that into a reconnect. So if I'm always around the person who's always so negative, all I see is that gosh, they're so negative.
They're just such like a downer about everything. You pause and go, am I always negative? Am I always finding like the, you know, what's not working in a situation? Then my reconnect would then have to be something of like, I see the positive in the world around me. And so that's the process is you would say the affirmation, say the goal statement of what you want to have in your subconscious. And then you do the five steps.
And then it just locks in and we use another process here called muscle checking to help you see if your subconscious is operating from that. And then you can start muscle checking all these different beliefs you have about yourself and about how you see the world. And the same thing with your health, like you can start looking at how do I see food?
Do I see food as something that's like, you know, helping my emotions in the current moment or am I seeing food as a fuel source and helping me become the best version of me? So we're going to be breaking that down in the reconnect challenge, giving you different reconnects that'll fall under those three main categories. And if you're into muscle checking, I don't know if you've ever heard of it before. We love it. It sounds like it's so woo woo.
But honestly, once you start practicing it and you start to see it and you actually, here's where muscle checking really happens is when you are ready to trust it because your body is such an indicator as to how you feel about the world around you. It's like your GPS system. And muscle checking is just your way of being able to see what your subconscious is up to. And there's so many times, Paul and I will be like, I wonder if I have that in me. And then we'll muscle check ourselves.
And most of the time we're shocked. We're like, how have I gone this long without the thought of like, I'm on attached to the outcome. We just, I just did that reconnect today. And I'm like, Oh, well, that makes sense because they've been saying a lot of things that would make it sound like I am attached to an outcome. Like I am trying to still control how things operate. And so we muscle check as the way to tell if I need to go further into a certain area.
And that's a process we teach you in the program. Our most members are eager to get started. It takes a little bit of time to practice it. But once you have it figured out, it's like, Oh my gosh, this is such a cool tool and we can use it. Yeah. And I think there's so many different aspects of life, right? That it's so much that's in your subconscious. So of course there's always something new that you're going to be peeling layers of the onion, peeling, peeling, peeling.
And I think another thing I want to mention is that with something I love about reconnects is that you don't really have to like go back and relive a certain situation that might have put you in a fight or flight mode or that might have been really traumatic for you. But I, because I know, you know, we don't want to do that. And just thinking about it sometimes can put your body back into that fight or flight mode. And we don't want that.
We want our body to be able to be logical and stay in the moment and stay present and be able to zoom out when you need to and take things for what they are rather than be reacting, right? Responding to the world rather than reacting to the world. And that's something that I love because you can just think back to your life. You don't have to think back to specific situations.
And I think the muscle checking really helps there because you're like, hmm, I wonder if this, this goes there, you know, and we were, we were talking about this on our cortex chat this week about epigenetics and how sometimes you're like, I didn't that, that specific belief doesn't make sense. I shouldn't have that from like my lived experience. And then you think back to your mom or your dad or your grandma or your grandpa and you're like, oh wait, but that totally makes sense for them.
And so it's also stuff that we're carrying around that is not ours, but that's who we are, right? That's the way humans evolve. And it's all for survival. It's all for learning. It's all there for a reason. And so now we're like, we learned the lesson. Thank you very much. Now I'm going to shift this belief, right? Get rid of it. Give me positive beliefs. And I would love to talk about how we came to this, Danny, to like starting to really implement the reconnects more actively in the program.
That's a great question. So for the longest time, we would only focus on brain movements. We'd only focus on integrating primitive reflexes, developing the bonds in the midbrain. And we did that for years. And then I met someone who had a very similar training that I did. And I think it was actually before I got pregnant with Axel. And I remember being like, okay, my biological clock is telling me I want to have kids, but I am terrified to bring a child into this world.
And this is actually when we were working together and you are my intern. And I remember sitting and she was like, I learned this really cool process. And she was like, I'd love to do a session with you. And that's what came up for me. And anytime, anytime I found a deep subconscious program in me, I would just cry. I would just like fall apart and just start crying. It was such a visceral reaction to it.
And it was so deeply emotional to me and I remember all of my very beginning reconnects were very much just fear based. Everything was such a fear response. And it came up that I was like wanting to have kids, but I was too scared to bring them into this world because I just was focused on all the negative things that are out there, all the toxins, all the things that could go wrong. And you know, just everything that was like wrong. And so when I learned the process and then after I did it.
And back when I did it with her the first time, it took a really long time. And we were pulling from Brain Gym and Psyche K. After I did it, it took like an hour or two. They took so long and they were called balances at the time. And it took so long to get through. And afterwards I was exhausted. I was just like, oh, I felt like I ran like an energetic marathon and it was just so exhausting. And then it turns out then like a, then I kept working with her.
And then all of a sudden I started working alongside her because you had left, gone to New York and then we were able to like whittle the process down to a quicker situation. So like the turnover got faster. And then we started realizing like, oh, wow, this is happening quicker and we can do more at once. And so that's kind of the evolution of how it came about. And then her and I both went on our separate ways and that was when the pandemic hit. And that's when you and I came together.
And I was like, we have to bring this process in because I was at a survival mode, but then I kept finding myself just hitting the same wall over and over. And I was like, okay, I don't want to be a mom that responds this way anymore. I want to shift how I connect with my kids. I don't want to see money this way anymore. I want to see money as this like abundant flow of energy. And I have endless amounts that can tap into it and then not feel so fearful.
And then I wanted to like start going through all the blocks that we all had. And then we started diving into our health and all the things. And I was like, okay, this is a process that we need to replicate with all of our members. And now as our ITC members go through our process, reconnects are their favorite thing. Like the brain work is an absolute mess. Like you have to keep going with it. It doesn't have to be as hardcore towards like once you finish the 12 weeks.
But reconnects are almost daily. Like I find a reconnect every single day that I need to work on. Well, I think especially what happens a lot with our members. And I think this is something that our listeners probably resonate with is once you start learning about this stuff, you're like, ooh, I want to learn more because at the end of the day, all of us want to be the best version of ourselves. We want to be who we know we can be and really like, you know, live life the way that we want to.
And we know that it's not always going to be easy and that it's always going to be challenges, but we constantly want to learn more. And I think especially once again, our followers and our listeners and our members are people who are looking into this stuff. They're like, what's beneath the surface? What's going on? But why do I do the things that I do? And why do I do the things that I don't like that I do? Right? Because some of them are fine. It's like, oh, I'm this way.
But some of them you're like, oh, I wish I didn't keep doing that because it's holding me back once again, limiting me. And so I think that that's the coolest piece is once you're in this and you know, if you're a member, you've done it for at least 12 weeks. If you've done the full program or if you've just started, then you're about to do it for at least 12 weeks. And I think that when you're in it, you just start to become so much more aware.
That's one of the very first modules in our program is becoming aware, noticing things. What are you focusing on? We've talked about this on the podcast as well, of course. But I think that as you start practicing that more and more and more and becoming just more mindful of your patterns, your thoughts, your behaviors, it just starts to come naturally. Yeah. And so suddenly you're in a situation where you're like, oh, I didn't like the way that made me feel. I'm going to look into it.
I'm going to check in with my subconscious, right? I'm going to check in with my beliefs. Or I don't like the way that I reacted to that person or to that event. I'm going to check in to see where it's coming from because I don't like that way of reacting. It's not about going back and saying, I don't like that person because they did this thing or I'm angry that this thing happened and I'm going to change it. Well, you can't, right? Once again, we talk about this all the time.
I know you can't control what you can't control. Well, you can control as you. And so I love when we learned about our members being like, I realized I was responding this way to something and I noticed it was one of my biggest triggers and it comes from this, from my mom and blah, and then they come up with a reconnect and then they experience something similar and they respond in a completely different way. Like that's one of the coolest things ever.
And I think that's why the reconnects are so fun because it's like you're, you're like your own little detective, you know? And once you're out of survival mode, you're not like shy about it. You're not taking everything like, oh my gosh, this is the end of the world. You know, you're really just taking things at face value. You're like, okay, that's something that's in my subconscious. I want to shift it. And it doesn't mean, oh, I have to beat myself up. Why do I think that way?
Why would I ever do that? No, you're just like, okay, cool, I'm going to shift it. And I think that's why reconnects are the favorite piece for a lot of people because it's just like, it becomes really fun and interesting and you get to know yourself so much better than you, than you probably have before. That's exactly it. You get to know yourself more and then, and then you get to a point of like getting to be your own creator in a sense.
Like, you know, you're like, this is how I want to be in today's world. And then, and then you release the feeling that you have to get it done tomorrow. And that's another reconnect of like just being able to release that there is a timeframe and embracing all the human in you because imagine if we were like able to do it tomorrow and be done, then we'd be robots, right? And there would be no point to living.
And so now all experiences are like every chance they go out into the world instead of them being so fearful. It's like, oh, I have a chance to go learn more. Yeah, like this is a good moment for me. Yeah. So, it's like, you know, when you're really good at learning becomes something you hate it. Well, then that's a reconnect, you know, like dive into like. Where were you traumatized in your education journey?
And I think the coolest, my, my favorite part about reconnects is what I get to do with my kids and like, I get to have a repair process and it's not just a repair of like let's sit down and talk and say, we're sorry. It's let's come up with why I acted like that. And then let me go do a reconnect that will repair it so I don't do it over and down. And over and over. And you know, I mean, I love that you said that because a lot of members will ask us like, can I do reconnects with kids?
Like, are they going to get it? And we always tell them yes, even if they're three months old, right? It's all about the energy. It's not about the actual words. And we've done reconnects with your kids where they can't even pronounce the word that we're saying, you know, like I'm motivated to whatever. I don't know, I'm trying to think of an example, but I remember one big word that Axel used the other day that I was cracking up.
But he, they get it even if they don't understand the actual words. It's all about the energy and the frequency that you're helping them understand and transmitting to them. And how cool is it when you see these little individuals who are operating on such a, like just this high, high level that you are like, wow, I wish I had all that insight when I was five or eight, right? Like it's, it's amazing to see it with your kids.
And with a lot of the kids that are in our program from our members, they have these ways of looking at the world that you're like, wow, that is so amazing. Like imagine growing up that way. And it's just so exciting to see, you know, the minds of the future literally. Yeah, 100%. And it's about, we get, we see so much on Instagram today. That's like, gender, breaking your generational traumas and curses and all the generational everything cycles.
And I feel like I have truly broken the generational cycle of like my Italian side of the family, which is like flip out and have like rage and is like, oh, we're Italian, right? We rage at everything. And then my dad did that, right? And then I was like, I would catch, and that's what's crazy about the subconscious is you literally hear your parents or your hair ever come out of your mouth. And you're like, what was that? You know?
Yeah. And when I started experiencing that, and I would have, I would literally, it's like my chance to reprogram myself too when I was a little girl and I was scared of my dad. So then I, you know, we're very transparent and real here at ITC where we share that like work human. And I had moments when I was with my kids two years ago before I was committed to doing brain work daily. And I felt like I had a lot of things going on in my life.
I just got a net divorce and I had to move back in with my parents and like just rebuild life. And I was so stressed. There was hitting me at once. And I remember when my kids, and one of the things I've learned about myself is I start to get like to a place of needing like a break. Like I need to go have some solitude and just like, just don't, and my kids are really good at just like keep on pushing, right? And my nervous system couldn't handle it.
And I would snap and I would totally just like stop, like everyone just stopped. And it was like, and they would be like that face of fear of like, oh my gosh, mom's losing her mind, right? And when I would see that, I was like, oh my gosh, that's my dad. That's what he did to me. I was terrified of him. And it's such a crazy thing to be so scared of the person you're supposed to feel safe with. Totally. I came through me. I was like, oh, I can't be this parent.
No, no, no, no, no, no, must stop this. Like this is not what I want for my programming. And so instead of being the Italian that carried on the tradition of like just lose your cool, everyone moves on. We don't talk about it. Yes. I am not that parent. And then I would tell my kids like, hey, yeah, I just noticed that I got really overstimulated. I need to do my brain work.
And then I'm going to do a reconnect for and then I would give, tell them what I was doing and then I would do it in front of them. I would literally show them what I was doing. And now I've become like the safe person. I've become the person that they can rely on. They can trust it.
And I just know that at five and eight years old, when they're older, they can come to me and say, hey, mom, this is what just happened because we're prepared for them to have mistakes because they're learning, right? Yeah. They're kids and it's part of life. And they also think, you know, as they become adults, they're going to have these tools for life.
And that's what we always say with our members is you're here, you do the program, you have it lifetime access, like forever, any changes, any iterations of the program, you're going to have them. And that's what we want is for people to be able to take charge of their lives and take charge of their health and their well-being and their lives in general. What am I trying to say?
I want them to be able to take care of their own healing because we know we've gone to a point where there's so much information, there's so many experts out there. And we are the experts. We're part of it. But I don't like when it feels like you have to depend on a practitioner to feel good. And I was just talking about this with my myofascial release guy. He does the same thing. Like, I don't want you to have to come to me for the rest of your life. I mean, that's not the point.
First of all, it's really expensive for you. And second of all, how am I doing my job? Well, if you still rely, you have to depend on me to feel better, right? And that's exactly how you and I think, you know, it's like, that's why it's all online. We offer so much support for people who need that one-on-one. But the point is for you to graduate from the one-on-one. You know, and be like, thank you so much. I've had this many sessions with you. This is great. I'm going to keep going on my own.
Yeah. You just had a client that hit that milestone recently. And it's just like, it's so really great. That's amazing. That's what we want is for you to be able to make these decisions, connect with who you truly are, get out of that survival mode and be able to kind of just follow your intuition in these, in this sense, right? For the rest of your life, right? Continue using the tools and see what else is out there and see what else you can, you can learn about yourself. Totally.
And for someone who is a member right now currently, if you're, because we do get a lot of questions about reconnects, because it's the more of a foreign approach that is, most people have to learn and it's like learning a new language. You have to practice it a bunch and then you come up with a bunch of questions. There's always the set questions that get asked over and over. And the most important thing is everyone always says, do I have to do a reconnect more than once?
And so for example, if, if it's about money and you're in a situation financially in your life where, you know, maybe things aren't great, you start to come out of that, you do a reconnect for money flows to me easily. Let's just say that.
And you know, then life circumstances happen and maybe you get a new lesson in your life and then all of a sudden a new job leaves you, you leave a job and now you feel that insecurity happening again, but at the same time there could be another stressor added on to it. Like maybe now, like your partner or your car needs a repair.
So you have multiple different things hitting you and then one more thing happens and, you know, someone's asking you for money and all of a sudden it really kind of hits you to the core of wait, money is not flowing to me easily anymore and you're in a different space because the circumstances around you is different now. So now it's hitting a different element of what you need to go focus on.
So maybe it money is flowing to you, but maybe you're not trusting like the universe to provide your God to provide you with the things that you need. So that's what we say is that it's never that you have to do the same reconnect again, but sometimes the circumstances have shifted it to now you need to go into a different part of a reconnect and that's like a different, yeah, like a different avenue that's related to that.
Right. And so I think that's going to be one of the cool parts of the challenge is that we're really going to get into the basics and we're going to do a little bit of like the nitty gritty. We're going to be able to like, how do I get there? Right. And it's not flowing to me or it is flowing to me, but I'm not, I don't want it to flow out, right? Right. So it's also, I have abundance and I give freely, right? Because that's part of the whole thing.
Like it can flow to you, but if you're hoarding it, then that's something else. And where does that come from? The hoarding of the money, right? Well, maybe it's a lack of mentality because you grew up with lots of scarcity when you were little. So now that you have it, you're like, I don't want to let it go. And maybe that's something you saw your parents do where they would try to, you know, just not spend money whenever they could.
And I'm not saying go out and spend, you know, every single penny you have, but it's important for you to give in order to receive as well, right? And that's no matter what you believe, again, like you said, is it the universe, is it God, is it whatever it is? This is kind of one of the laws of nature even is that, you know, you need to follow the flow of energy. And so is it coming from there, right? Is it maybe something you grew up with?
Or maybe you had one experience that was terrible when you were younger, not even when you were a kid that doesn't always have to be zero to seven. Usually the seed is planted in zero to seven, but then the tree continues to grow throughout our lives, right? So maybe you hit a moment in your twenties where you lost everything. And so that's where you're like, Oh, if I ever have it again, I'm going to just hold it forever.
And so that's where we help you kind of like really dig into it and find exactly where it's coming from. So it's not about redoing the same reconnect. It's about shifting the, I guess, the focus of it. Yeah, exactly. Because your life is going to constantly evolve. And so you feel like it could be the same signature feeling, but now it's a little bit different because now your subconscious is actually wired differently. And that's where we always tell people it's not going to be over.
Like if anything, it's going to get more and more and more, right? Because you can handle more and more and more, I should say. Because that's life and you're growing more and more and more. And so it's actually a good thing because some people are like, okay, got my reconnects done, level two check done. It's like, no, that's not the way it is. Yeah. And that's it. It's important thing we say you're not done till the day that you die.
And that's obviously is depending on how far you want to go with it all. Exactly. We will say that we've been doing these now for years and they are so much easier. Like before, like I said, they would bring me to tears. They would rock my energy. I would be out. Like I would have to go to sleep and take a nap and just like drink water. It felt so heavy. And now that my container has grown to be able to handle so much more, I can do so many at once. I don't though. I do about one.
Sometimes I'll do two a day. It just depends on what I'm going through. There are people who like to do a lot. I think it also depends on how desperate you are, not desperate or how much you want to work on the specific thing. So if something comes up that I'm like, okay, that really activated me. I want to knock these babies out. So I'll do like five, six, seven, eight, nine, 10, just because I'm like, I really want to deal with this right now.
Sometimes you're like, oh, that's an interesting pattern that I noticed. I can do it later. It's not as urgent, right? And that's a good point. Sometimes you know, like me and my fiance have been talking about like money stuff and like putting our money together and like, you know, moving on to the next step of stuff. And we know he's got such a certain way of looking at money and I'm like, when are you going to do your reconnects online?
Like literally when and he's just like sitting in the space of like, I know I need to do it, but I'm not quite ready. And that's such a space. It's so many that goes for our health and that goes for our relationships. There's times where we're just like, I'm not ready yet and you need to give your nervous system time. And that's when we wrote about talk, we talked about hitting a plateau. Sometimes that plateau space is just like, you're collecting yourself.
It's like, you're just taking a deep breath. It could be for a day, a week, a couple months, hopefully not longer. But sometimes it does. For me, yeah, I have reconnects that I literally avoided for like two or three years, Danny, all this stuff about like my body and all that. I was like, Oh, not now, baby. Because the order is like, I can't go here yet until I have this, right? And so you needed to have like your order figured out of what your nervous system needed.
And that's a part of the process too. There's no from A to B. It's very much like, it's very as it comes into your life, that's when it's time to face it. And then if you're like, I'm feeling resistance to this right now, then you have to sit with it and you're like, okay, am I ready to dive into this again and pull them up for her, for all the stuff that she was going there. She's like, I'm ready yet. I'm not ready yet. And that's okay. And giving that grace of time is it's such a gift.
And it's just like, okay, take the time because when you are ready, it's going to just explode and expand. And that's something where both reconnects and brain organization come into play. Because if your brain is still very disorganized, you're probably not very patient. And you're probably somebody who's like, no, I got to do it right now. I got to do everything right now. Or somebody who's just like, I'm just going to avoid it for the rest of my life. I was more me.
I know that's there, but I'm not going to look at it. And so that's where getting your brain once again, out of that reactive state, out of that fight or flight is really the number one piece in order to truly be able to sit with these. Because like you said, it's not, it's not black and white. It's not a simple process. And being able to see the gray area and the nuance is much easier when you're out of survival mode. Yeah. And there is no exact formula. And so that's where we always share.
There's going to be other things that sometimes you need to look at to solidify reconnect. Sometimes you're like, okay, I just muscle checked. I now know what my reconnect goal is. I do my pace and I do my, my reconnect process. And then I finish it. Why didn't it lock into my subconscious? So I go ask myself in a muscle check. I still am getting a no. Why is this not a yes yet? And so we say, okay, well, there's some other things to go look at. Have you had enough water today?
Are you hydrated because we all know electrical currents need hydration. They need water to flow. Maybe you need more of a specific movement. And sometimes I'll just ask, is there something else my system needs? And whatever the first thing is that pops into your head. That's what you need to go do. Sometimes it's creeping, crawling, some, maybe it's fensers, or maybe you just need to go hold your brain hookup longer. Maybe need to go to the bathroom.
I know that sounds kind of like silly, but like sometimes it's like, well, nothing can flow if there's something blocking it. Yeah. I always find that when I say it out loud and with a demeanor that's like, I take charge of this, then my subconscious is like, okay, girl, I hear you. You got it. Okay. So there's a lot of things you can do to help walk it in.
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